Beyond Your Number

We’re dipping back into the archive with a foundation episode on the Triads—Gut (8-9-1), Heart (2-3-4), and Head (5-6-7). Damon and Kelly break down what each triad prioritizes, the core emotion it wrestles with (anger, shame, fear), and how that shapes decision-making, relationships, and self-care.

You’ll hear practical prompts (like “What was I angry about today?” for Gut types), why Heart types often read your feelings before the...

Today we’re revisiting a deep-dive conversation from our Enneagram U days, all about the Harmony Triads.

Damon and Kelly unpack this advanced Enneagram teaching, showing how each triad (3-6-9, 2-5-8, and 1-4-7) holds a unique way of experiencing the world through head, heart, and gut. You’ll hear the humor, real-life tangents, and even Damon’s skepticism as Kelly explains why the triads matter, what each number has “lost,” and how t...

While we take a short break from our Lost in Translation series, we’re re-releasing one of our most loved episodes: Motivations.

In this conversation, Damon and Kelly lay the foundation for understanding the Enneagram by exploring what truly motivates each type. It’s not just what you do that defines your number...it’s why you do it. From the One’s drive to do what’s right, to the Nine’s longing for peace, this episode helps you see...

We’re kicking off our new Lost in Translation series, all about how what you say isn’t always what the other person hears. 

This week, we focus on Enneagram Type 1: what they hear, why it happens, and how to speak in a way that builds connection instead of frustration. Learn the hooks that trigger them, better ways to phrase your thoughts, and how curiosity can soften their inner critic.

You’ll learn:

• The common “hooks” that trigg...

Ever tried to resolve a conflict only to end up in a verbal boxing match? This week, Damon and Kelly wrap up their 4-part conflict series by exploring the critical roles of speaker and listener, and why most of us play both badly.

You’ll learn how to:

• Take turns (like, really take turns)
• Use “I” statements without sounding cheesy
• Avoid emotional ambushes and “speaker-in-waiting” mode
• Create safety and clarity when emotions are runni...

This episode is the third in our conflict mini-series, if you missed the last two, definitely go back and catch them! Two weeks ago, we walked through six steps for healthy conflict. Last week, we hit the self-sabotage pitfalls that derail it. And this week? We're laying out a step-by-step path for self-regulation, the actual work you can do before the conversation even begins.

Whether it's naming that you're triggere...

Last week, we laid out a six-step process for navigating conflict, but let’s be honest, sometimes the real struggle is what happens before the steps even start. In this follow-up episode, Damon and Kelly unpack the emotional landmines that often sabotage our best intentions in conflict.

From blame to emotional avoidance, they explore five self-sabotage traps and how each Enneagram type might fall into them. Whether you're a Nin...

Conflict doesn’t have to mean shouting matches or broken relationships.

This week on Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly dive into a topic that touches every relationship—conflict. They unpack how different Enneagram numbers experience disagreements, why some avoid it while others charge in, and how even small differences in opinion can feel like big battles for certain types.

Kelly shares a practical six-step roadmap for moving from...

We’ve made it to the end of our Enneagram communication series—and it’s Damon’s turn in the hot seat as we talk all things Type 9!

In this episode, Damon wrestles with “Nine doubt,” shares why he’s skeptical about gentle communication styles, and admits he might be a secret One. Kelly unpacks what truly drives the Peacemaker’s calm exterior, and why the word “sure” doesn’t always mean agreement.

Together, they explore how Nines commu...

Double-booked calendars, fast-talking optimism, and more ideas than minutes in the day…welcome to the world of the Enneagram 7!

In this (slightly turbo) episode of Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly explore how Type 7s approach communication, why they’re magnets for new experiencesand how to keep up without getting lost in the whirlwind.

• Why “yes” is a 7’s favorite word
• The line between healthy optimism and escaping reality
•  How t...

What’s it like to talk with a Type 8? Passionate. Direct. Powerful. And sometimes, intense. In this episode, Kelly shares from her own experience as a Type 8—what works, what doesn't, and what eights most need from you in communication. Damon helps us see how that energy can feel to others, especially when it gets misunderstood. Whether you're an Eight, love one, or work with one, this conversation unpacks the heart behin...

Type Fives are thoughtful, observant, and incredibly insightful—if you give them the space to speak. In this episode, Damon and Kelly unpack how Fives approach communication, why they avoid surface-level conversations, and what it really takes to earn their input and trust. If you’ve ever wondered what’s going on behind a Five’s quiet presence, this one’s for you.

In This Episode:

• Why Type Fives value space, privacy, and logic in...

How do you talk with someone who’s always giving, always helping, and always putting others first? In this episode, Damon and Kelly dive into the warm, people-focused world of the Enneagram Two — and why communication with them can feel like a hug, a therapy session, and a pep talk all in one.

Whether you are a 2 or love one, this conversation unpacks what motivates them, how to respond to their generosity, and why setting boundarie...

How does an Enneagram Six communicate? In this episode, Damon and Kelly explore the loyal, thoughtful, and cautious communication style of Sixes — and how trust, safety, and preparation shape their voice. Whether you’re a Type 6 or trying to connect with one, this episode will help you understand what’s behind their questions and what they need to feel secure.

In This Episode:

• The superpower of Sixes: loyalty and preparedness
• Why ...

How does an Enneagram Type 3 communicate — and what’s really going on beneath the polish? In this episode, Damon and Kelly dive into the world of the driven, adaptable, and image-conscious Three. Discover why communication for a 3 is all about connection, competence, and results… and how to speak their language without assuming they’re just putting on a show.

Whether you are a 3, love a 3, or work with one, this episode will help yo...

How does an Enneagram Four communicate? In this episode, Damon and Kelly explore the creative, emotional, and deeply authentic style of Fours — and what it means to truly be with them in conversation. Whether you are a 4 or love one, this episode helps you understand their inner world, and how to connect with empathy, not just answers.

In This Episode:

• The superpower of Fours: authenticity in emotion and expression
• Why Fours ...

How do you respond to change? In our 100th episode, we explore how each Enneagram type handles change — from resistance to adventure — and why it matters. Plus, a big shift is coming for the podcast (and we finally reveal it).

How do you respond to change? In our 100th episode, we explore how each Enneagram type handles change — from resistance to adventure — and why it matters. Plus, a big shift is coming for the p...

In this episode of EnneagramU, we explore how different Enneagram types communicate, focusing specifically on Type 1. We discuss the strengths and challenges of Type 1 communication, including their tendency to be precise and honest, but also potentially critical. We also provide tips on how to effectively communicate with Type 1 individuals, emphasizing the importance of active listening and gentle feedback.

1. Overview of Enn...

Last time, we used ChatGPT and Marvel characters to guess Blake’s Enneagram type. This time, he took the official WEPSS test — and the result was not what we expected. Why did AI miss it? And what does that reveal about typing, personality, and self-awareness?

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