October 28, 2025 • 38 mins
A thirty-year-old sweater sparks a surprising truth: when your clothes outlive trends, milestones and possibly lifespan, maybe the smartest style move is to stop buying and start noticing. The Besties celebrate their three-year mark by replaying a fan-favorite conversation that ages well- filled with stories about closets, boundaries, and the everyday choices that quietly define who they are.
Chapter Markers
0:00 Anniversary Replay Setup
2:20 Show Intro And Warmup
4:10 Closet Clutter And No-New-Shopping Pledge
9:15 Two Different Boots At Work
13:30 Donating And Letting Go
13:55 Introducing The Card Game
16:20 Who’s Tripping In Stores
19:05 Tipping On Takeout
20:30 Prime Sharing And Privacy
22:15 Line-Cutting Etiquette Showdown
25:30 Designer Bag Swap And Honesty
28:00 Leftovers From A Friend’s Plate
31:00 Wrap-Up And Tease For Next Time
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SPEAKER_02 (00:03):
So and in honor of our three year anniversary, we
started in 2022.
Okay.
So in honor of our three-yearanniversary, we're doing some
replays of some of the I guessyou could say oldies or some of
(00:23):
the fun episodes from the past.
So in this episode, we startedout talking about.
I'm laughing already, justthinking about it.
About how should we buy newclothes and do we have too many
clothes?
Because I noted that I keep myclothing so long that I might
(00:46):
run out of life before theclothing is over.
SPEAKER_00 (00:50):
Okay, don't tell them too much now, because we
have to we have to um They haveto listen to it.
They have to listen to it.
They have to listen to it.
Okay.
Listen.
SPEAKER_02 (01:02):
Listen.
But it's so funny.
I listened to it again and I'mlike, this is hilarious.
You castigated me and called mea liar.
SPEAKER_00 (01:12):
No, I didn't do it then.
I'm gonna do it now.
Oh it's a damn lie.
You said, Leslie.
Talking about what?
Me?
No, I don't know about.
I don't need an accountability.
Thank you.
But no, no, leave me alone,Biach.
That is that is how you cameoff.
(01:34):
But indeed.
Have you changed your mind,Leslie?
Do you want to do a research onthat?
SPEAKER_02 (01:39):
I need help.
Everything I listened to, it wasa lie.
But you'll you'll you'll hearit.
But wait, here's another thingthat was pretty striking about
this episode.
The episode originally airedabout two years ago.
And a whole lot has has happenedin two years.
(02:00):
The the one of the mostimportant things is that the
person I spoke speak about, myformer spouse, I am no longer
married to.
So I talk about some of our umrelational dynamics.
So it's kind of funny to um tohear it.
And I'm like, no wonder I'm notthere anymore.
(02:21):
Anyway, do you need to say anymore about this upcoming
episode?
SPEAKER_00 (02:27):
No, I just um hope you guys enjoy it.
It's a blast from the past.
SPEAKER_02 (02:32):
And it's kind of funny because we go into asking
each other these questions, andit really just pulls out our
personality.
We really have these kind oftalks.
SPEAKER_00 (02:42):
Yeah, because the way that the way that this one
um kind of halfway through, westarted asking each other
questions from a a game thatLeslie bought and sent it to me,
a card game.
So um the hilarious.
And please put some comments inwith your responses to what you
(03:07):
what you thought about thequestions that were being asked.
They're hilarious.
We hope you enjoy it.
And here is the episode.
Hi Ans.
Hey, Leslie.
What's cooking?
Good looking, all good in theneighborhood.
SPEAKER_02 (03:28):
Welcome to another episode of Black Boomer Besties
from Brooklyn.
Brooklyn.
SPEAKER_00 (03:34):
Glad to have you with us today.
SPEAKER_02 (03:36):
Yeah, thanks for for joining us.
But I'm always gonna be likerushing into welcome to another
episode of Black Boomer Bestiesfrom Brooklyn because I get so
distracted sometime that I'llforget.
And then 20 minutes into thepodcast, people may be like, Who
are we listening to?
SPEAKER_00 (03:54):
Who is this?
Who is this?
SPEAKER_02 (03:57):
I've been trying to catch you, so Ange, your outfit
matches with your background.
Okay, you know, you're into thiscolor wheel and all of this
stuff.
I'm into it.
It's a little similar in thesame family as what I'm wearing.
SPEAKER_00 (04:16):
Yeah, you're we're we're coordinated.
We're coordinated.
SPEAKER_02 (04:20):
I you shouldn't be surprised at this point.
No, no, no.
I'm not surprised, but I putthis on.
You know when I start laughinglike that, there's a story,
right?
SPEAKER_00 (04:34):
There is a meander coming, even though you don't
call it that because it's notme.
Right, right, right.
SPEAKER_02 (04:40):
But I realized, and this is gonna be one of the new
things that I'm gonna stick tofor 2024, but it's not a problem
for me because it's not a newthing, okay, that I'm not going
to do a lot of shopping.
SPEAKER_00 (04:54):
Oh, right.
SPEAKER_02 (04:56):
Ange.
SPEAKER_00 (04:57):
Right.
SPEAKER_02 (04:59):
You know, I keep things, my clothing and things
for a long time, right?
This I put on.
So I got this sweater from KimKohl's.
SPEAKER_00 (05:16):
No, you did not.
SPEAKER_02 (05:18):
What?
Remember when I used to visither in LA, and I think it was
around the time she was stilldoing Living Single.
SPEAKER_00 (05:26):
Right.
SPEAKER_02 (05:27):
I used to raid her closets and come back with like
all these clothes because shewas this shopaholic, right?
SPEAKER_00 (05:36):
Right, right.
SPEAKER_02 (05:37):
Wearing one time and moving on.
Exactly.
All these designer things andwhatever.
Right.
I would come home with themotherlow.
So this is one of the sweatersthat I got.
It's gorgeous.
Right?
SPEAKER_00 (05:53):
Yeah, with the ripping.
SPEAKER_02 (05:56):
And it has pearls and you see.
SPEAKER_00 (06:00):
Oh wow, it's beautiful.
SPEAKER_02 (06:03):
Yeah.
So you couldn't really tell fromfar away good.
But Ange, I must have had thisfor 30 years.
Maybe 28, 30 years.
SPEAKER_00 (06:15):
Nasty.
SPEAKER_02 (06:17):
Okay.
Okay.
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (06:19):
I really don't.
SPEAKER_02 (06:21):
You know me.
I keep shoes.
I keep clothes.
You do.
And they're like, like you wouldnever know that they're the I
keep stuff.
So here's the reason why I won'tbe doing much more shopping in
my life.
Okay.
I'm going to run out of time.
(06:42):
I was just thinking recently,it's like if I keep things for
even 20 more years.
Right, right.
SPEAKER_00 (06:49):
The stuff you bought yesterday, for example.
SPEAKER_02 (06:52):
If I bought things yesterday, I'm gonna run out of
time to wear them.
Yes, you are.
So I gotta stop shopping now sothat I can have it if I live
another 20 years, maybe 25.
SPEAKER_00 (07:05):
Yes.
I've got all the things I need.
Plus, Les, you know that thereare a lot of things in your
closet with the tag still onthem.
SPEAKER_02 (07:13):
Not a lot, but some.
Leslie.
Because um, I give, I give, I, Isome.
Okay.
A lot is relative.
So okay, all right.
Yes, a lot is relative.
But anyway, so I remembered thisthat I'm not gonna be doing a
lot more shopping because thisis 30 years old and it still
(07:35):
looks amazing.
SPEAKER_00 (07:37):
So here's a question.
Um, to what extent do you wantme to hold you accountable?
Zero declaration.
Zero.
So when I come up again, okay.
All right.
SPEAKER_02 (07:52):
And the reason is because I don't need I don't
need your stinking.
I don't need your stink, butokay.
Because I'm not resolving this.
This is not something that I'mstruggling with.
SPEAKER_00 (08:02):
Leslie, what are you talking about?
Shopping.
You must not think I know you.
SPEAKER_02 (08:10):
This is not a struggle for me, and I promise
you, I don't have a problem.
I don't have places to storethings, I don't need any more.
I'm blessed to say I have allthat I need, and I really don't
shop very, very rarely.
But anywho, okay, let's move on.
SPEAKER_00 (08:27):
Can I ask you just one question?
SPEAKER_02 (08:29):
One.
And then we can move on.
SPEAKER_00 (08:31):
Yes.
SPEAKER_02 (08:32):
How do you like my sweater?
SPEAKER_00 (08:33):
How many pairs of listen?
SPEAKER_02 (08:36):
Wait, wait, wait, wait.
You can tell.
I'll just I'll just you can tellthat this is a 30-year-old
sweater because it has shoulderpads.
Oh so if I just eliminate theshoulder pads, and it's a little
too big, but if I eliminate theshoulder pads, you would think
it was brand new.
SPEAKER_00 (08:51):
Yeah, I like shoulder pads.
SPEAKER_02 (08:52):
Wait till Kim he is about this.
SPEAKER_00 (08:54):
That's so hilarious.
We won't even hear my question.
SPEAKER_02 (09:04):
Oh no, go ahead.
What?
SPEAKER_00 (09:05):
How many pairs of black boots do you have?
Just answer it.
Don't don't evaluate.
How many pairs of black boots?
I have a lot.
Maybe so.
Give me a number.
Okay, so I'm talking abouteverything other than shoes, not
just ankle boots versus abovethe knee versus mid-calf.
Everything.
SPEAKER_02 (09:25):
I said about seven.
SPEAKER_00 (09:28):
Okay.
All right.
SPEAKER_02 (09:31):
Oh, you're gonna mention the time.
SPEAKER_00 (09:34):
I I was gonna get your permission.
SPEAKER_02 (09:38):
Oh, we gotta put the picture up.
Oh, we gotta put a link tosomething.
Okay.
We'll do it in Patreon.
We'll put a when I I go to workvery early in the morning.
I'm at work sometime at 6:30 inthe morning or seven.
So very often I am leaving thehouse without too much thinking.
SPEAKER_00 (09:55):
Right.
SPEAKER_02 (09:56):
There was a time when I was really busy.
I was gonna leave work, head toa conference, and then head to
Brooklyn to go to a friend's umfather's wake.
When I got to work, I'm sittingat the nurse's station before I
changed into my scrubs.
(10:16):
And someone, the nurse next tome, said, Why are you wearing
high heels to work?
And I looked down and I'm like,these are not very high.
And I looked down and I had ontwo different boots, two
different black boots, twodifferent black ankle boots, and
(10:43):
we were cracking, and I laughedso hard I cried, but she said to
me, like, didn't you notice thedifference in the heel height?
It had to be like an inch and ahalf difference between the
right and the no, no, no, no,and you know what?
I said, Well, now that youmentioned it, but I was moving
(11:07):
so fast in the morning fromleaving the house to driving in
the car to running into thehospital to walking through the
hospital.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Planting myself at the nurses'station for this conversation.
I looked down and I'm like, Ididn't ever incredible.
Incredible.
One, I have too much.
All right.
(11:27):
I'll I'll say that.
But the other thing is sometimeswe just gotta slow down and
notice in our walk.
SPEAKER_00 (11:35):
Right.
And and you wouldn't even havenoticed if she didn't say
anything.
It's not like you I don't thinkI would have noticed unless uh
until I took them off, probably.
SPEAKER_02 (11:46):
Right.
Oh my goodness.
Yeah, and I had so many stops tomake after, but it happened.
SPEAKER_00 (11:53):
This is not about judgment, it is me supporting
what you want for yourself.
So um, and I wanted you honestlyto admit that two shoes that
match you um you you you get thethings that you like.
SPEAKER_02 (12:10):
I do.
That's why I say I need nothingmore, thank God.
SPEAKER_00 (12:13):
Right, right, right, right.
Um yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (12:17):
Um now that this was about laughing at Leslie so far.
SPEAKER_00 (12:21):
No, can I mention one other thing?
This is really quick.
So it was another pair of bootswhen I visited and I had a photo
shoot, even though um you're youwe don't wear the same size
shoe.
And those boots had never beenworn.
And I know you've had them for along time.
SPEAKER_02 (12:39):
At least three years.
I've never worn them.
SPEAKER_00 (12:41):
Yes, never been fabulous.
Bye.
Hi.
I had to take the stuffing outof them.
Actually, I probably should haveput it back in so it would, but
I didn't have to walk in them, Ijust had to pose in them so they
were fine, but you had neverworn them.
SPEAKER_03 (12:56):
I've got too much.
SPEAKER_00 (12:58):
This is what I'm saying.
Anyway, um, shopping closet overat Leslie's house.
Whoop whoop.
SPEAKER_02 (13:07):
In that regard, Ern, um, I gave him quite a number of
things, and he collected boxesand boxes of things because he
took them to the uh migrantshelters this morning to um give
away.
Not that they would likelyappreciate thigh high boots, but
um they weren't included in thethey were not included, but um
(13:33):
we gave away quite a number ofthings to people who are in
need, so nice, verycompassionate of you.
SPEAKER_00 (13:40):
Let's do something fun today.
Let's, let's, let's, let's.
SPEAKER_02 (13:44):
I sent you.
We did this actually back in Ithink season one or two.
We did something similar tothis.
We started asking each otherquestions.
SPEAKER_00 (13:53):
Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (13:54):
Remember?
And we did it was a lot of fun.
So um I think we we could usesome fun.
SPEAKER_00 (14:00):
Let's go.
I don't know because I saw someof those.
You sent me one of those.
SPEAKER_02 (14:06):
Um yeah, so I sent you this card game.
It's called Am I Trippin'?
SPEAKER_00 (14:12):
You tripping?
Are you tripping?
SPEAKER_02 (14:15):
And Am I Trippin'?
It's how black people talk toeach other, like you tripping
girl.
You tripping.
SPEAKER_00 (14:22):
I can't believe you're explaining it.
SPEAKER_02 (14:26):
What is that?
Like, um, what did they call it?
It's a different language.
It is a different language.
People like, why are you sayingam I tripping without the G?
Without the G.
You tripping.
Why are you tripping?
Why are you tripping?
People gotta know that this isreal because we black Boomer
besties from Brooklyn.
We are besties from Brooklyn,shit.
(14:48):
Like, next one anyway.
Yes, so it's a party, an adultparty game where players make a
case for who's tripping inscenarios ranging from annoying
yet harmless to oh hell no.
All right, so that's the game.
So it's supposed to be like a umum icebreaker or just a way to
(15:14):
laugh or whatever.
So you thought that it might bea nice idea for us to look at
some of these cards and talkabout it.
SPEAKER_00 (15:22):
I think we could fight.
Wait, wait, wait, did youmention that for a reason to
fight me?
Uh yeah.
Yeah, and to record it.
SPEAKER_02 (15:33):
Lucky you over.
SPEAKER_00 (15:34):
I want it recorded.
I want it.
I'll give you a knucklesandwich.
SPEAKER_02 (15:38):
A couple.
SPEAKER_00 (15:38):
A knuckle sandwich.
Did you want to mention who um,well, we'll put it in our um in
the notes.
SPEAKER_02 (15:47):
But um I found out about this card game um from one
of the serious XM radio hosts,Reese Colbert.
She put this game together.
Um and here we go.
SPEAKER_00 (16:06):
Yeah.
She's on Urban View, yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (16:08):
She's on Urban View, yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (16:12):
All right, let's hear it.
Don't look.
Just pull it.
SPEAKER_02 (16:16):
Don't look, just okay.
I hate when I am minding mybusiness while shopping and a
stranger asks me questions likeI work at the store.
Every time it happens, I make ascene and go completely off.
Am I tripping?
(16:43):
Oh wow.
SPEAKER_00 (16:46):
That's nuanced and layered.
Yes.
Okay, that's why it's in there.
It's supposed to createconversation.
Okay.
You want to go first?
Sure.
Sure.
So the way the game is played,and we're not gonna, you know,
do it exactly, but either theanswer is, am I tripping?
(17:08):
So it's either, yeah, you'retripping.
No.
Or what was the other one?
Is there like it's on the thing.
Am I tripping?
You hold it up, you hold it up,and it's like am I tripping up?
I don't know about that.
You see, I don't read that.
You I just opened a box.
I received the gift from Leslie.
I didn't know who it was fromuntil I told you.
(17:31):
She asked me about it.
I read all of the instructions.
I saw what's included.
I put it in a in a a nice bag tokeep it um uh in in good shape
until for the next 20 years.
All the things for the next 20years.
Um I tripping.
SPEAKER_02 (17:54):
Uh-huh.
Going off when somebody asks youor talks to you like you work in
the store.
SPEAKER_00 (18:01):
Okay.
I can see how that could beannoying as heck.
Why?
Because she mentioned it happensoften.
So it may be just that firsttime that person did it to them,
(18:21):
but if it happens to you manytimes or several times more than
you are comfortable, it justit's just a too bad that that
person is gonna is gonna get thethe brunt of it.
But I think that that wouldannoy the crap out of me if that
(18:42):
were the case, if that happenedto me.
I don't know that I would, Idon't know that I would kind of
go off.
Go off, right?
But but I I I might.
It depends if I was hangry, ifsomething else happened, and
this was just kind of the strawthat broke the camel's back.
But I could see a situation, umnot as often now because I've
(19:06):
really found I've really found apeaceful place in my life, but I
could understand that happeningto someone.
I'll say it that way.
What are you saying?
All right.
SPEAKER_02 (19:14):
I think that what's not what we're not what you
haven't mentioned is why thisperson may be upset if people
keep asking.
It's happened to me a few times,and it's uh it's based on uh a
racist.
SPEAKER_00 (19:36):
It could be.
SPEAKER_02 (19:38):
It could be based on a racist idea that the only it
depends also on the type ofstore it is and whatever.
SPEAKER_00 (19:46):
What the person is wearing, if the person is
wearing all black or yes.
SPEAKER_02 (19:49):
It it could be that that the salespeople in this
establishment all look a certainway.
And if you are shopping in thisestablishment, you're not a
shopper, but rather you're theemployed at the store.
All right, that would beannoying if that's the
implication, right?
The other um, the other thingwhere I would say, like, girl,
(20:16):
you tripping.
SPEAKER_01 (20:18):
Because me, I'm this helpful, Jolly Cool, lucky
unicorn.
I don't care what the hell I'mwearing.
SPEAKER_02 (20:26):
Sometimes I go out dressed very casually or dressed
down, and my holy jeans isearned hates, or very dressed
up.
But I'm like, if somebody asks,and if I know, I'm like, oh
yeah, it's over there.
And oh, I just saw a sale, andoh, so they may, they may assume
(20:48):
I'm the help.
Yes, and there I go, acting likethe help.
There you go, making it bad forthe rest of us.
Exactly, exactly.
But you know, it would annoy meif um if I felt that people were
asking me as though I were um, Icould not be a shopper in that
store.
And I've had that experience.
SPEAKER_00 (21:09):
Got it, as if you're the help.
I see.
unknown (21:11):
Okay.
SPEAKER_02 (21:11):
And that's when I just gotta go off and buy some
crazy expensive thing justbecause I can, and then the next
day return it.
SPEAKER_00 (21:27):
Make sure it's not on final sale at the end.
The same thing, right?
SPEAKER_02 (21:31):
The same thing is when you're ignored in the store
by like uh salespeople orwhatever, and it's like, man, I
would have bought this, butsorry, my money's not good here.
Yes, you know, and that becomesa more serious, you know.
Obviously, we've all had thosecircumstances.
SPEAKER_00 (21:49):
Didn't that happen when you and Ern were in um
Europe in some of the stores, orno?
SPEAKER_02 (21:54):
Uh no, no, actually, they're very gracious.
And um, it happened to offeredus, they offered us um champagne
to the point where when we wereshopping here at one of the
designer stores, Ern says,Where's my champagne?
SPEAKER_01 (22:13):
And they literally went and got him.
This was in Greenwich,Connecticut.
They literally went and got himsome champagne.
SPEAKER_00 (22:21):
Very good.
SPEAKER_02 (22:22):
So very good.
Yes.
I'm like, Ern, you know youdon't drink champagne.
SPEAKER_00 (22:26):
Yeah.
He did that night.
SPEAKER_02 (22:29):
But anyway.
SPEAKER_00 (22:30):
It's the principle of the thing.
SPEAKER_02 (22:31):
It's the principle.
SPEAKER_00 (22:32):
All right, so is she tripping?
What did we decide?
SPEAKER_02 (22:36):
No, she well, it depends.
SPEAKER_00 (22:38):
No, it has to be.
It's a game.
It's whatever we want to do.
SPEAKER_02 (22:45):
She's tripping.
She's tripping.
SPEAKER_00 (22:47):
Girl, you tripping.
Okay.
SPEAKER_02 (22:48):
Girl, you tripping.
SPEAKER_00 (22:48):
I would I would go that way.
Girl, you tripping.
SPEAKER_02 (22:52):
Okay.
Next question.
The most I will tip for atakeout order is five dollars,
regardless of the order amount.
SPEAKER_00 (23:02):
Girl.
SPEAKER_02 (23:03):
You tripping.
SPEAKER_00 (23:04):
You tripping?
Five dollars for a takeoutorder?
I tip zero.
Wait a minute.
Wait, Les, hold.
We're going we're reacting,we're reacting the same way in
two different directions.
SPEAKER_02 (23:20):
Wait, wait, wait, wait.
Les, no matter the most I willtip for a takeout order is five
dollars.
And I could pick up a takeoutorder for$200.
I am not tipping anything.
It's takeout, it's not delivery.
(23:41):
Okay.
All right.
I what are you hearing?
SPEAKER_00 (23:46):
No, I um I um I'm just thinking what I what I the
times when I haven't done that,when I um have left a tip, why I
usually don't, honestly.
I usually don't for a takeout,um, for a takeout order.
Um yeah.
(24:10):
So is she tripping or is she nottripping?
SPEAKER_02 (24:12):
She ain't tripping.
She ain't tripping.
Five dollars is the most youneed to leave, if anything.
Right, if any.
SPEAKER_00 (24:17):
Okay.
SPEAKER_02 (24:17):
Girl, you right, you right, you right, you right, you
right, you right.
You right, you right.
Okay.
Okay.
I'm not, you know, pullingthese.
I'm just randomly, okay.
SPEAKER_00 (24:29):
Sure, sure.
Yeah, that's fine.
SPEAKER_02 (24:32):
This might hit home.
SPEAKER_00 (24:34):
Oh no, Leslie, don't embarrass me.
SPEAKER_02 (24:37):
No, no, no, no, no.
It's me.
My spouse and I have been tryingto cut back on subscription
services, so I suggested weshare an Amazon Prime account.
They said no because they do notneed me to question them about
their purchases.
Oh, so this is my life on a cardright now right here.
(25:01):
Since I don't bother them nowabout how they spend their
money, I think they are sayingno because they have something
to hide.
Am I tripping?
SPEAKER_00 (25:12):
Okay, you go first on that one.
SPEAKER_02 (25:16):
This is too triggering for me.
I'm gonna punt it.
SPEAKER_00 (25:19):
You're gonna punt.
Pass.
That's okay.
You can pass.
I won't say nothing.
I will say nothing.
SPEAKER_02 (25:29):
I say nothing about my partner shopping and whether
or not I have a problem with it.
That's right.
SPEAKER_00 (25:36):
Listen, when I last had a husband.
SPEAKER_02 (25:38):
Sneaking purchases in the house.
SPEAKER_00 (25:40):
When I last had a husband, it was prior to the
subscription services being umbeing so prolific.
So I will Okay, yes.
SPEAKER_02 (25:50):
Next, next, you see how we handled that?
SPEAKER_01 (25:52):
That's good, a diplomatic and I stay married.
SPEAKER_02 (25:58):
I patiently waited for 10 minutes before someone
skipped the line to ask aquestion.
When the person had the audacityto try to order, I told them
they needed to go to the back ofthe line and wait like everybody
else.
Instead of instead of thecashier siding with me, he said,
No, it's fine.
Go ahead with your order.
(26:19):
So I cussed them both out.
Am I tripping?
SPEAKER_00 (26:25):
I don't know if I would cuss, but they would hear
about it.
They would definitely hear aboutit.
They would definitely hear aboutit.
SPEAKER_02 (26:34):
Yeah, yeah, I I wouldn't do the cuss thing, but
you ain't tripping.
They need to hear about it.
SPEAKER_00 (26:38):
They need to, that's that's that's rude.
SPEAKER_02 (26:41):
That's rude.
Yeah, I would have to.
Especially if somebody on theline says, come on now, you
gotta go to the back of theline.
And then the cash is like, youknow.
SPEAKER_00 (26:52):
Right, right.
The thing is that it should beyour choice, not their choice.
You should, they should defer toyou and say, Do you mind?
And you can you can decidewhether you're feeling okay
about it or not.
That that I like when when umfolks do that with me.
(27:12):
Like if um sometimes if you'reonline and then they want to
step off to do something.
SPEAKER_02 (27:17):
I don't like when people just do that without
saying like when you hold myspot for a minute, like they
just leave and then they try toslid them back.
It's like you left the line.
SPEAKER_00 (27:27):
Right.
Because I will move their cartover to the side and keep going.
SPEAKER_02 (27:31):
I mean, it's you would move a cart if they no
listen.
The alternative have a cartthere and they run to the line.
You would actually move theircart if they don't say anything
to you?
SPEAKER_00 (27:44):
Listen.
What is the hold on?
What would what is thealternative?
You're pushing their cart forthem?
I've done that.
SPEAKER_02 (27:51):
Or or or I've like moved up, but then when they
came back, I allowed them tomove the cart up.
But I've done both.
But I'm wondering.
SPEAKER_00 (28:04):
I I've never moved a cart over.
But I would, I would, they wouldsee it on my face if they took
advantage of it.
Because if it's quick, ofcourse.
But if it's, you know.
SPEAKER_02 (28:14):
But people don't do that if it's if they have more
shopping to do and they've donehalf and get online.
SPEAKER_00 (28:20):
Do you do you do you recognize this is a common theme
for you?
You had the same people don't dothat when with Ray.
SPEAKER_02 (28:27):
I know.
SPEAKER_00 (28:28):
With Ray's situation, when Ray said, I
remember.
Yeah.
Yeah.
They do.
Same thing.
SPEAKER_02 (28:34):
It's like people don't people aren't well, maybe
that's right.
That's my um leaning.
Let's go to the next one.
SPEAKER_00 (28:42):
Okay.
SPEAKER_02 (28:43):
I want to hear comments on these.
You know what?
This Reese Cobert is atroublemaker because she keeps
talking about the spouse.
And I don't say too much aboutmy spouse.
I want to hear it.
I want to hear what you guyshave noticed.
SPEAKER_00 (28:54):
I want to hear it.
SPEAKER_02 (28:55):
My spouse bought me an expensive designer bag, but I
knew I would rarely carry it.
When I saw an identical fakeversion, I decided to buy it,
sell the real one, and pocketthe difference.
My spouse hasn't even noticed,and I'm not gonna tell them.
Am I tripping?
(29:17):
You doggone liar, you aretripping.
That's crazy.
That's crazy.
SPEAKER_00 (29:22):
Why is it crazy?
SPEAKER_02 (29:24):
Alright, first of all, I don't have that kind of
relationship with my spouse thatI gotta there's so many reasons
why this doesn't apply to me.
SPEAKER_00 (29:34):
One okay Well, give your opinion though.
SPEAKER_02 (29:37):
Not not on what the person did?
Yeah, sure, sure.
Yeah.
Alright, the my opinion is Idon't like dishonesty.
And to me, that's like theftalmost.
It's theft.
Well, it's like if you needmoney, there's so many reasons
why this is crazy.
Why are you tripping, girl?
SPEAKER_00 (29:58):
Are you tripping?
What if what if?
You what if she was gonna usethe money to um to um get him
something for his birthday or tohave a birthday party for him?
So it's not a selfish thing.
SPEAKER_02 (30:11):
No, I don't like the dishonesty of pretending that
it's um the same bag andpocketing the money.
If I needed money to dosomething and I didn't have it,
I would ask Ern for the money,you know, and he'd give it to
me.
That's one thing.
Even if I said I need it forsomething and I can't tell you
(30:31):
what it was, he would give if Ineeded it like that.
That's one thing.
But two, I wouldn't want himevery time I had the bag, I
wouldn't want him thinking thisis the bag that he got me when
it wasn't, you know, that's theother thing.
But it's similar to acircumstance that I had one
either Christmas or my birthday.
Ern bought me this really, I'lluse nice in quotes, Chanel bag,
(30:56):
right?
SPEAKER_00 (30:56):
Uh-huh.
Expensive.
SPEAKER_02 (30:57):
Obviously, it was expensive, right?
And you know, he presented it tome, but you know, Ern is a lot
more um conservative than I am.
I didn't like it.
You know, but I I told him,thank you, but I don't like it.
I don't think I'll carry it.
You know, I didn't want him tospend money on something that I
(31:19):
wasn't gonna use, and I swappedit with you know, him knowing.
I said, can I trade it in forsomething else that I that I
like?
SPEAKER_00 (31:26):
And that wow, you know, yeah, but that should be
on a card.
It's the don't say.
SPEAKER_02 (31:33):
Well, I think the alternative, I could have just
kept the bag and what never usedit.
That's the alternative.
Yeah, that's why waste a man'smoney.
SPEAKER_00 (31:41):
That's not wasting the money.
I think I understand.
SPEAKER_02 (31:48):
It's it's money well spent.
SPEAKER_00 (31:51):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (31:54):
Well, in if I had the bag, then I would use it.
And most likely I would get tolike it.
You know what I mean?
You know how things grow on youor whatever, how people may get
things for you that you don'tthink is for use.
Because in retrospects, now I'dprobably like the bag.
SPEAKER_00 (32:08):
Right.
Right.
Yeah, that should be a separatecard with that on it.
SPEAKER_02 (32:13):
If you if you told your husband, if you tell your
spouse that you don't like thegift, can you trade it for
something else?
SPEAKER_00 (32:20):
Yeah, that should be a are you tripping?
Am I tripping?
SPEAKER_02 (32:23):
Are you tripping?
All right, so what do you thinkabout them?
My spouse hasn't even noticed,and I'm not gonna tell them.
SPEAKER_00 (32:29):
Am I tripping?
No, yeah, you're tripping.
Because honesty, come on now.
Come on now.
You're not gonna triple lie.
SPEAKER_02 (32:37):
Yeah, I don't like that.
SPEAKER_00 (32:40):
I can't live like that.
I cannot one more.
You're keeping track of time.
SPEAKER_02 (32:48):
You wanna do one more?
Yeah.
Yeah.
I'm gonna um can I choose one?
SPEAKER_00 (32:54):
Yes, sure.
SPEAKER_02 (32:55):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (32:56):
Cheater.
Cheater, cheater.
SPEAKER_02 (33:12):
I had dinner with friends when I saw my friend who
barely touched their food wasgonna toss it out.
I did not want to let aperfectly good plate of food go
to waste, so I bought it home.
I gave it to my spouse sincethey said they were hungry, but
did not mention before they werehalfway done eating that the
leftovers were from someoneelse's plate.
(33:33):
Am I tripping?
SPEAKER_00 (33:37):
Oh, snap.
I thought she was gonna say shegave it to her dog.
Oh, snap.
SPEAKER_02 (33:51):
I'll tell you why this is a little, it's it's it's
it's it's a little weird one,but it kind of hits close to
home, right?
Oh Lord.
Um, am I tripping?
Hmm.
I would not um I don't think Iwould mention at all where it
(34:12):
came from.
SPEAKER_00 (34:13):
Okay.
SPEAKER_02 (34:16):
Because I would not share something with my husband
or family member or myself thatI thought was unclean or
whatever, you know.
Very often, the way that I eatand I don't eat, I usually don't
eat all of my food.
I'll separate food on a plate,you know, that I'm gonna eat and
(34:39):
not eat.
So it's not like I'm going backand forth.
You know what I mean?
I do.
So so I wouldn't bring homeanything that I thought was
unclean or unsanitary.
And as a result, I wouldn'tmention that because I think
that would be a littleoff-putting and rude.
SPEAKER_00 (34:58):
Okay, so how does this line up in terms of
honesty, like we just talkedabout?
Withholding information, youknow better.
How does that fit in with that?
SPEAKER_02 (35:09):
I mean, it's like I don't determine, I don't think
that the disclosure is relevant.
SPEAKER_00 (35:17):
But you said you you thought he would he would find
it so.
SPEAKER_02 (35:22):
Oh, I did say that.
Yeah.
I don't know.
I'm not sure.
I don't know.
SPEAKER_00 (35:36):
All right, so are um is she tripping?
SPEAKER_02 (35:42):
What do you think?
SPEAKER_00 (35:45):
Okay, throw me under the bus.
Um I I would say, I would say, Iwould say it.
I would tell them.
So she's tripping.
SPEAKER_02 (35:59):
So sh she didn't mention it until they were
halfway done eating that theleftovers was from someone
else's plate.
SPEAKER_00 (36:06):
I I wouldn't do that.
She's tripping.
She's tripping.
Because for me, you would knowsomething over um you would know
something, a truth, that you'renot disclosing to someone else,
whomever it is.
(36:27):
And that to me is where the iswhere the disconnect happens.
SPEAKER_02 (36:32):
But does intent have anything to do with it?
Like, I might bring a platehome, put it in the fridge, or
leave it on the counter orwhatever, and not remember to
say or not withhold itintentionally.
I think we're like, I'm notgonna tell them that it was
somebody else's.
(36:54):
I don't know.
I don't like the sound of that.
The right, the way that it waswritten though, um was that she
intentionally withheld it,right?
Right.
Until he halfway because shedecided don't do that to your
husband.
Don't do that.
Don't do that.
SPEAKER_00 (37:15):
Girl, you trippin', you trippin'.
That's not cool.
SPEAKER_02 (37:22):
All right.
I think we had some fun withthis, maybe.
SPEAKER_00 (37:26):
Yeah, I like it.
I like it.
We're out of time.
SPEAKER_02 (37:30):
I think we're out of time.
SPEAKER_00 (37:31):
Okay.
I I'd like to revisit this.
We have other um card sets.
I don't know if I have it herethough, but there are other card
sets that are really Oh,speaking of which, I had some
that I left at your house.
Hmm.
I wonder if they'll be therewhen I get back.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (37:56):
I know.
And here I thought that Ithought that if you uh leave
something at my house, it'smine.
SPEAKER_00 (38:04):
Yeah, I see you have a toothbrush.
SPEAKER_02 (38:07):
You leave gifts when you leave sometime, you do.
SPEAKER_00 (38:11):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (38:12):
Why would I assume that it was one of them?
SPEAKER_00 (38:15):
How about because I didn't say here, Les?
Oh, that would have been a clue.
SPEAKER_03 (38:24):
I'm leaving this for you.
You know what?
SPEAKER_02 (38:28):
Little things like I'm done with you.
This has been another episode ofBlack Boom Besties from Good
Bomb.
Oh my gosh, Brooklyn!
So and in honor of our three year anniversary, we
started in 2022.
Okay.
So in honor of our three-yearanniversary, we're doing some
replays of some of the I guessyou could say oldies or some of
(00:23):
the fun episodes from the past.
So in this episode, we startedout talking about.
I'm laughing already, justthinking about it.
About how should we buy newclothes and do we have too many
clothes?
Because I noted that I keep myclothing so long that I might
(00:46):
run out of life before theclothing is over.
SPEAKER_00 (00:50):
Okay, don't tell them too much now, because we
have to we have to um They haveto listen to it.
They have to listen to it.
They have to listen to it.
Okay.
Listen.
SPEAKER_02 (01:02):
Listen.
But it's so funny.
I listened to it again and I'mlike, this is hilarious.
You castigated me and called mea liar.
SPEAKER_00 (01:12):
No, I didn't do it then.
I'm gonna do it now.
Oh it's a damn lie.
You said, Leslie.
Talking about what?
Me?
No, I don't know about.
I don't need an accountability.
Thank you.
But no, no, leave me alone,Biach.
That is that is how you cameoff.
(01:34):
But indeed.
Have you changed your mind,Leslie?
Do you want to do a research onthat?
SPEAKER_02 (01:39):
I need help.
Everything I listened to, it wasa lie.
But you'll you'll you'll hearit.
But wait, here's another thingthat was pretty striking about
this episode.
The episode originally airedabout two years ago.
And a whole lot has has happenedin two years.
(02:00):
The the one of the mostimportant things is that the
person I spoke speak about, myformer spouse, I am no longer
married to.
So I talk about some of our umrelational dynamics.
So it's kind of funny to um tohear it.
And I'm like, no wonder I'm notthere anymore.
(02:21):
Anyway, do you need to say anymore about this upcoming
episode?
SPEAKER_00 (02:27):
No, I just um hope you guys enjoy it.
It's a blast from the past.
SPEAKER_02 (02:32):
And it's kind of funny because we go into asking
each other these questions, andit really just pulls out our
personality.
We really have these kind oftalks.
SPEAKER_00 (02:42):
Yeah, because the way that the way that this one
um kind of halfway through, westarted asking each other
questions from a a game thatLeslie bought and sent it to me,
a card game.
So um the hilarious.
And please put some comments inwith your responses to what you
(03:07):
what you thought about thequestions that were being asked.
They're hilarious.
We hope you enjoy it.
And here is the episode.
Hi Ans.
Hey, Leslie.
What's cooking?
Good looking, all good in theneighborhood.
SPEAKER_02 (03:28):
Welcome to another episode of Black Boomer Besties
from Brooklyn.
Brooklyn.
SPEAKER_00 (03:34):
Glad to have you with us today.
SPEAKER_02 (03:36):
Yeah, thanks for for joining us.
But I'm always gonna be likerushing into welcome to another
episode of Black Boomer Bestiesfrom Brooklyn because I get so
distracted sometime that I'llforget.
And then 20 minutes into thepodcast, people may be like, Who
are we listening to?
SPEAKER_00 (03:54):
Who is this?
Who is this?
SPEAKER_02 (03:57):
I've been trying to catch you, so Ange, your outfit
matches with your background.
Okay, you know, you're into thiscolor wheel and all of this
stuff.
I'm into it.
It's a little similar in thesame family as what I'm wearing.
SPEAKER_00 (04:16):
Yeah, you're we're we're coordinated.
We're coordinated.
SPEAKER_02 (04:20):
I you shouldn't be surprised at this point.
No, no, no.
I'm not surprised, but I putthis on.
You know when I start laughinglike that, there's a story,
right?
SPEAKER_00 (04:34):
There is a meander coming, even though you don't
call it that because it's notme.
Right, right, right.
SPEAKER_02 (04:40):
But I realized, and this is gonna be one of the new
things that I'm gonna stick tofor 2024, but it's not a problem
for me because it's not a newthing, okay, that I'm not going
to do a lot of shopping.
SPEAKER_00 (04:54):
Oh, right.
SPEAKER_02 (04:56):
Ange.
SPEAKER_00 (04:57):
Right.
SPEAKER_02 (04:59):
You know, I keep things, my clothing and things
for a long time, right?
This I put on.
So I got this sweater from KimKohl's.
SPEAKER_00 (05:16):
No, you did not.
SPEAKER_02 (05:18):
What?
Remember when I used to visither in LA, and I think it was
around the time she was stilldoing Living Single.
SPEAKER_00 (05:26):
Right.
SPEAKER_02 (05:27):
I used to raid her closets and come back with like
all these clothes because shewas this shopaholic, right?
SPEAKER_00 (05:36):
Right, right.
SPEAKER_02 (05:37):
Wearing one time and moving on.
Exactly.
All these designer things andwhatever.
Right.
I would come home with themotherlow.
So this is one of the sweatersthat I got.
It's gorgeous.
Right?
SPEAKER_00 (05:53):
Yeah, with the ripping.
SPEAKER_02 (05:56):
And it has pearls and you see.
SPEAKER_00 (06:00):
Oh wow, it's beautiful.
SPEAKER_02 (06:03):
Yeah.
So you couldn't really tell fromfar away good.
But Ange, I must have had thisfor 30 years.
Maybe 28, 30 years.
SPEAKER_00 (06:15):
Nasty.
SPEAKER_02 (06:17):
Okay.
Okay.
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (06:19):
I really don't.
SPEAKER_02 (06:21):
You know me.
I keep shoes.
I keep clothes.
You do.
And they're like, like you wouldnever know that they're the I
keep stuff.
So here's the reason why I won'tbe doing much more shopping in
my life.
Okay.
I'm going to run out of time.
(06:42):
I was just thinking recently,it's like if I keep things for
even 20 more years.
Right, right.
SPEAKER_00 (06:49):
The stuff you bought yesterday, for example.
SPEAKER_02 (06:52):
If I bought things yesterday, I'm gonna run out of
time to wear them.
Yes, you are.
So I gotta stop shopping now sothat I can have it if I live
another 20 years, maybe 25.
SPEAKER_00 (07:05):
Yes.
I've got all the things I need.
Plus, Les, you know that thereare a lot of things in your
closet with the tag still onthem.
SPEAKER_02 (07:13):
Not a lot, but some.
Leslie.
Because um, I give, I give, I, Isome.
Okay.
A lot is relative.
So okay, all right.
Yes, a lot is relative.
But anyway, so I remembered thisthat I'm not gonna be doing a
lot more shopping because thisis 30 years old and it still
(07:35):
looks amazing.
SPEAKER_00 (07:37):
So here's a question.
Um, to what extent do you wantme to hold you accountable?
Zero declaration.
Zero.
So when I come up again, okay.
All right.
SPEAKER_02 (07:52):
And the reason is because I don't need I don't
need your stinking.
I don't need your stink, butokay.
Because I'm not resolving this.
This is not something that I'mstruggling with.
SPEAKER_00 (08:02):
Leslie, what are you talking about?
Shopping.
You must not think I know you.
SPEAKER_02 (08:10):
This is not a struggle for me, and I promise
you, I don't have a problem.
I don't have places to storethings, I don't need any more.
I'm blessed to say I have allthat I need, and I really don't
shop very, very rarely.
But anywho, okay, let's move on.
SPEAKER_00 (08:27):
Can I ask you just one question?
SPEAKER_02 (08:29):
One.
And then we can move on.
SPEAKER_00 (08:31):
Yes.
SPEAKER_02 (08:32):
How do you like my sweater?
SPEAKER_00 (08:33):
How many pairs of listen?
SPEAKER_02 (08:36):
Wait, wait, wait, wait.
You can tell.
I'll just I'll just you can tellthat this is a 30-year-old
sweater because it has shoulderpads.
Oh so if I just eliminate theshoulder pads, and it's a little
too big, but if I eliminate theshoulder pads, you would think
it was brand new.
SPEAKER_00 (08:51):
Yeah, I like shoulder pads.
SPEAKER_02 (08:52):
Wait till Kim he is about this.
SPEAKER_00 (08:54):
That's so hilarious.
We won't even hear my question.
SPEAKER_02 (09:04):
Oh no, go ahead.
What?
SPEAKER_00 (09:05):
How many pairs of black boots do you have?
Just answer it.
Don't don't evaluate.
How many pairs of black boots?
I have a lot.
Maybe so.
Give me a number.
Okay, so I'm talking abouteverything other than shoes, not
just ankle boots versus abovethe knee versus mid-calf.
Everything.
SPEAKER_02 (09:25):
I said about seven.
SPEAKER_00 (09:28):
Okay.
All right.
SPEAKER_02 (09:31):
Oh, you're gonna mention the time.
SPEAKER_00 (09:34):
I I was gonna get your permission.
SPEAKER_02 (09:38):
Oh, we gotta put the picture up.
Oh, we gotta put a link tosomething.
Okay.
We'll do it in Patreon.
We'll put a when I I go to workvery early in the morning.
I'm at work sometime at 6:30 inthe morning or seven.
So very often I am leaving thehouse without too much thinking.
SPEAKER_00 (09:55):
Right.
SPEAKER_02 (09:56):
There was a time when I was really busy.
I was gonna leave work, head toa conference, and then head to
Brooklyn to go to a friend's umfather's wake.
When I got to work, I'm sittingat the nurse's station before I
changed into my scrubs.
(10:16):
And someone, the nurse next tome, said, Why are you wearing
high heels to work?
And I looked down and I'm like,these are not very high.
And I looked down and I had ontwo different boots, two
different black boots, twodifferent black ankle boots, and
(10:43):
we were cracking, and I laughedso hard I cried, but she said to
me, like, didn't you notice thedifference in the heel height?
It had to be like an inch and ahalf difference between the
right and the no, no, no, no,and you know what?
I said, Well, now that youmentioned it, but I was moving
(11:07):
so fast in the morning fromleaving the house to driving in
the car to running into thehospital to walking through the
hospital.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Planting myself at the nurses'station for this conversation.
I looked down and I'm like, Ididn't ever incredible.
Incredible.
One, I have too much.
All right.
(11:27):
I'll I'll say that.
But the other thing is sometimeswe just gotta slow down and
notice in our walk.
SPEAKER_00 (11:35):
Right.
And and you wouldn't even havenoticed if she didn't say
anything.
It's not like you I don't thinkI would have noticed unless uh
until I took them off, probably.
SPEAKER_02 (11:46):
Right.
Oh my goodness.
Yeah, and I had so many stops tomake after, but it happened.
SPEAKER_00 (11:53):
This is not about judgment, it is me supporting
what you want for yourself.
So um, and I wanted you honestlyto admit that two shoes that
match you um you you you get thethings that you like.
SPEAKER_02 (12:10):
I do.
That's why I say I need nothingmore, thank God.
SPEAKER_00 (12:13):
Right, right, right, right.
Um yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (12:17):
Um now that this was about laughing at Leslie so far.
SPEAKER_00 (12:21):
No, can I mention one other thing?
This is really quick.
So it was another pair of bootswhen I visited and I had a photo
shoot, even though um you're youwe don't wear the same size
shoe.
And those boots had never beenworn.
And I know you've had them for along time.
SPEAKER_02 (12:39):
At least three years.
I've never worn them.
SPEAKER_00 (12:41):
Yes, never been fabulous.
Bye.
Hi.
I had to take the stuffing outof them.
Actually, I probably should haveput it back in so it would, but
I didn't have to walk in them, Ijust had to pose in them so they
were fine, but you had neverworn them.
SPEAKER_03 (12:56):
I've got too much.
SPEAKER_00 (12:58):
This is what I'm saying.
Anyway, um, shopping closet overat Leslie's house.
Whoop whoop.
SPEAKER_02 (13:07):
In that regard, Ern, um, I gave him quite a number of
things, and he collected boxesand boxes of things because he
took them to the uh migrantshelters this morning to um give
away.
Not that they would likelyappreciate thigh high boots, but
um they weren't included in thethey were not included, but um
(13:33):
we gave away quite a number ofthings to people who are in
need, so nice, verycompassionate of you.
SPEAKER_00 (13:40):
Let's do something fun today.
Let's, let's, let's, let's.
SPEAKER_02 (13:44):
I sent you.
We did this actually back in Ithink season one or two.
We did something similar tothis.
We started asking each otherquestions.
SPEAKER_00 (13:53):
Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (13:54):
Remember?
And we did it was a lot of fun.
So um I think we we could usesome fun.
SPEAKER_00 (14:00):
Let's go.
I don't know because I saw someof those.
You sent me one of those.
SPEAKER_02 (14:06):
Um yeah, so I sent you this card game.
It's called Am I Trippin'?
SPEAKER_00 (14:12):
You tripping?
Are you tripping?
SPEAKER_02 (14:15):
And Am I Trippin'?
It's how black people talk toeach other, like you tripping
girl.
You tripping.
SPEAKER_00 (14:22):
I can't believe you're explaining it.
SPEAKER_02 (14:26):
What is that?
Like, um, what did they call it?
It's a different language.
It is a different language.
People like, why are you sayingam I tripping without the G?
Without the G.
You tripping.
Why are you tripping?
Why are you tripping?
People gotta know that this isreal because we black Boomer
besties from Brooklyn.
We are besties from Brooklyn,shit.
(14:48):
Like, next one anyway.
Yes, so it's a party, an adultparty game where players make a
case for who's tripping inscenarios ranging from annoying
yet harmless to oh hell no.
All right, so that's the game.
So it's supposed to be like a umum icebreaker or just a way to
(15:14):
laugh or whatever.
So you thought that it might bea nice idea for us to look at
some of these cards and talkabout it.
SPEAKER_00 (15:22):
I think we could fight.
Wait, wait, wait, did youmention that for a reason to
fight me?
Uh yeah.
Yeah, and to record it.
SPEAKER_02 (15:33):
Lucky you over.
SPEAKER_00 (15:34):
I want it recorded.
I want it.
I'll give you a knucklesandwich.
SPEAKER_02 (15:38):
A couple.
SPEAKER_00 (15:38):
A knuckle sandwich.
Did you want to mention who um,well, we'll put it in our um in
the notes.
SPEAKER_02 (15:47):
But um I found out about this card game um from one
of the serious XM radio hosts,Reese Colbert.
She put this game together.
Um and here we go.
SPEAKER_00 (16:06):
Yeah.
She's on Urban View, yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (16:08):
She's on Urban View, yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (16:12):
All right, let's hear it.
Don't look.
Just pull it.
SPEAKER_02 (16:16):
Don't look, just okay.
I hate when I am minding mybusiness while shopping and a
stranger asks me questions likeI work at the store.
Every time it happens, I make ascene and go completely off.
Am I tripping?
(16:43):
Oh wow.
SPEAKER_00 (16:46):
That's nuanced and layered.
Yes.
Okay, that's why it's in there.
It's supposed to createconversation.
Okay.
You want to go first?
Sure.
Sure.
So the way the game is played,and we're not gonna, you know,
do it exactly, but either theanswer is, am I tripping?
(17:08):
So it's either, yeah, you'retripping.
No.
Or what was the other one?
Is there like it's on the thing.
Am I tripping?
You hold it up, you hold it up,and it's like am I tripping up?
I don't know about that.
You see, I don't read that.
You I just opened a box.
I received the gift from Leslie.
I didn't know who it was fromuntil I told you.
(17:31):
She asked me about it.
I read all of the instructions.
I saw what's included.
I put it in a in a a nice bag tokeep it um uh in in good shape
until for the next 20 years.
All the things for the next 20years.
Um I tripping.
SPEAKER_02 (17:54):
Uh-huh.
Going off when somebody asks youor talks to you like you work in
the store.
SPEAKER_00 (18:01):
Okay.
I can see how that could beannoying as heck.
Why?
Because she mentioned it happensoften.
So it may be just that firsttime that person did it to them,
(18:21):
but if it happens to you manytimes or several times more than
you are comfortable, it justit's just a too bad that that
person is gonna is gonna get thethe brunt of it.
But I think that that wouldannoy the crap out of me if that
(18:42):
were the case, if that happenedto me.
I don't know that I would, Idon't know that I would kind of
go off.
Go off, right?
But but I I I might.
It depends if I was hangry, ifsomething else happened, and
this was just kind of the strawthat broke the camel's back.
But I could see a situation, umnot as often now because I've
(19:06):
really found I've really found apeaceful place in my life, but I
could understand that happeningto someone.
I'll say it that way.
What are you saying?
All right.
SPEAKER_02 (19:14):
I think that what's not what we're not what you
haven't mentioned is why thisperson may be upset if people
keep asking.
It's happened to me a few times,and it's uh it's based on uh a
racist.
SPEAKER_00 (19:36):
It could be.
SPEAKER_02 (19:38):
It could be based on a racist idea that the only it
depends also on the type ofstore it is and whatever.
SPEAKER_00 (19:46):
What the person is wearing, if the person is
wearing all black or yes.
SPEAKER_02 (19:49):
It it could be that that the salespeople in this
establishment all look a certainway.
And if you are shopping in thisestablishment, you're not a
shopper, but rather you're theemployed at the store.
All right, that would beannoying if that's the
implication, right?
The other um, the other thingwhere I would say, like, girl,
(20:16):
you tripping.
SPEAKER_01 (20:18):
Because me, I'm this helpful, Jolly Cool, lucky
unicorn.
I don't care what the hell I'mwearing.
SPEAKER_02 (20:26):
Sometimes I go out dressed very casually or dressed
down, and my holy jeans isearned hates, or very dressed
up.
But I'm like, if somebody asks,and if I know, I'm like, oh
yeah, it's over there.
And oh, I just saw a sale, andoh, so they may, they may assume
(20:48):
I'm the help.
Yes, and there I go, acting likethe help.
There you go, making it bad forthe rest of us.
Exactly, exactly.
But you know, it would annoy meif um if I felt that people were
asking me as though I were um, Icould not be a shopper in that
store.
And I've had that experience.
SPEAKER_00 (21:09):
Got it, as if you're the help.
I see.
unknown (21:11):
Okay.
SPEAKER_02 (21:11):
And that's when I just gotta go off and buy some
crazy expensive thing justbecause I can, and then the next
day return it.
SPEAKER_00 (21:27):
Make sure it's not on final sale at the end.
The same thing, right?
SPEAKER_02 (21:31):
The same thing is when you're ignored in the store
by like uh salespeople orwhatever, and it's like, man, I
would have bought this, butsorry, my money's not good here.
Yes, you know, and that becomesa more serious, you know.
Obviously, we've all had thosecircumstances.
SPEAKER_00 (21:49):
Didn't that happen when you and Ern were in um
Europe in some of the stores, orno?
SPEAKER_02 (21:54):
Uh no, no, actually, they're very gracious.
And um, it happened to offeredus, they offered us um champagne
to the point where when we wereshopping here at one of the
designer stores, Ern says,Where's my champagne?
SPEAKER_01 (22:13):
And they literally went and got him.
This was in Greenwich,Connecticut.
They literally went and got himsome champagne.
SPEAKER_00 (22:21):
Very good.
SPEAKER_02 (22:22):
So very good.
Yes.
I'm like, Ern, you know youdon't drink champagne.
SPEAKER_00 (22:26):
Yeah.
He did that night.
SPEAKER_02 (22:29):
But anyway.
SPEAKER_00 (22:30):
It's the principle of the thing.
SPEAKER_02 (22:31):
It's the principle.
SPEAKER_00 (22:32):
All right, so is she tripping?
What did we decide?
SPEAKER_02 (22:36):
No, she well, it depends.
SPEAKER_00 (22:38):
No, it has to be.
It's a game.
It's whatever we want to do.
SPEAKER_02 (22:45):
She's tripping.
She's tripping.
SPEAKER_00 (22:47):
Girl, you tripping.
Okay.
SPEAKER_02 (22:48):
Girl, you tripping.
SPEAKER_00 (22:48):
I would I would go that way.
Girl, you tripping.
SPEAKER_02 (22:52):
Okay.
Next question.
The most I will tip for atakeout order is five dollars,
regardless of the order amount.
SPEAKER_00 (23:02):
Girl.
SPEAKER_02 (23:03):
You tripping.
SPEAKER_00 (23:04):
You tripping?
Five dollars for a takeoutorder?
I tip zero.
Wait a minute.
Wait, Les, hold.
We're going we're reacting,we're reacting the same way in
two different directions.
SPEAKER_02 (23:20):
Wait, wait, wait, wait.
Les, no matter the most I willtip for a takeout order is five
dollars.
And I could pick up a takeoutorder for$200.
I am not tipping anything.
It's takeout, it's not delivery.
(23:41):
Okay.
All right.
I what are you hearing?
SPEAKER_00 (23:46):
No, I um I um I'm just thinking what I what I the
times when I haven't done that,when I um have left a tip, why I
usually don't, honestly.
I usually don't for a takeout,um, for a takeout order.
Um yeah.
(24:10):
So is she tripping or is she nottripping?
SPEAKER_02 (24:12):
She ain't tripping.
She ain't tripping.
Five dollars is the most youneed to leave, if anything.
Right, if any.
SPEAKER_00 (24:17):
Okay.
SPEAKER_02 (24:17):
Girl, you right, you right, you right, you right, you
right, you right.
You right, you right.
Okay.
Okay.
I'm not, you know, pullingthese.
I'm just randomly, okay.
SPEAKER_00 (24:29):
Sure, sure.
Yeah, that's fine.
SPEAKER_02 (24:32):
This might hit home.
SPEAKER_00 (24:34):
Oh no, Leslie, don't embarrass me.
SPEAKER_02 (24:37):
No, no, no, no, no.
It's me.
My spouse and I have been tryingto cut back on subscription
services, so I suggested weshare an Amazon Prime account.
They said no because they do notneed me to question them about
their purchases.
Oh, so this is my life on a cardright now right here.
(25:01):
Since I don't bother them nowabout how they spend their
money, I think they are sayingno because they have something
to hide.
Am I tripping?
SPEAKER_00 (25:12):
Okay, you go first on that one.
SPEAKER_02 (25:16):
This is too triggering for me.
I'm gonna punt it.
SPEAKER_00 (25:19):
You're gonna punt.
Pass.
That's okay.
You can pass.
I won't say nothing.
I will say nothing.
SPEAKER_02 (25:29):
I say nothing about my partner shopping and whether
or not I have a problem with it.
That's right.
SPEAKER_00 (25:36):
Listen, when I last had a husband.
SPEAKER_02 (25:38):
Sneaking purchases in the house.
SPEAKER_00 (25:40):
When I last had a husband, it was prior to the
subscription services being umbeing so prolific.
So I will Okay, yes.
SPEAKER_02 (25:50):
Next, next, you see how we handled that?
SPEAKER_01 (25:52):
That's good, a diplomatic and I stay married.
SPEAKER_02 (25:58):
I patiently waited for 10 minutes before someone
skipped the line to ask aquestion.
When the person had the audacityto try to order, I told them
they needed to go to the back ofthe line and wait like everybody
else.
Instead of instead of thecashier siding with me, he said,
No, it's fine.
Go ahead with your order.
(26:19):
So I cussed them both out.
Am I tripping?
SPEAKER_00 (26:25):
I don't know if I would cuss, but they would hear
about it.
They would definitely hear aboutit.
They would definitely hear aboutit.
SPEAKER_02 (26:34):
Yeah, yeah, I I wouldn't do the cuss thing, but
you ain't tripping.
They need to hear about it.
SPEAKER_00 (26:38):
They need to, that's that's that's rude.
SPEAKER_02 (26:41):
That's rude.
Yeah, I would have to.
Especially if somebody on theline says, come on now, you
gotta go to the back of theline.
And then the cash is like, youknow.
SPEAKER_00 (26:52):
Right, right.
The thing is that it should beyour choice, not their choice.
You should, they should defer toyou and say, Do you mind?
And you can you can decidewhether you're feeling okay
about it or not.
That that I like when when umfolks do that with me.
(27:12):
Like if um sometimes if you'reonline and then they want to
step off to do something.
SPEAKER_02 (27:17):
I don't like when people just do that without
saying like when you hold myspot for a minute, like they
just leave and then they try toslid them back.
It's like you left the line.
SPEAKER_00 (27:27):
Right.
Because I will move their cartover to the side and keep going.
SPEAKER_02 (27:31):
I mean, it's you would move a cart if they no
listen.
The alternative have a cartthere and they run to the line.
You would actually move theircart if they don't say anything
to you?
SPEAKER_00 (27:44):
Listen.
What is the hold on?
What would what is thealternative?
You're pushing their cart forthem?
I've done that.
SPEAKER_02 (27:51):
Or or or I've like moved up, but then when they
came back, I allowed them tomove the cart up.
But I've done both.
But I'm wondering.
SPEAKER_00 (28:04):
I I've never moved a cart over.
But I would, I would, they wouldsee it on my face if they took
advantage of it.
Because if it's quick, ofcourse.
But if it's, you know.
SPEAKER_02 (28:14):
But people don't do that if it's if they have more
shopping to do and they've donehalf and get online.
SPEAKER_00 (28:20):
Do you do you do you recognize this is a common theme
for you?
You had the same people don't dothat when with Ray.
SPEAKER_02 (28:27):
I know.
SPEAKER_00 (28:28):
With Ray's situation, when Ray said, I
remember.
Yeah.
Yeah.
They do.
Same thing.
SPEAKER_02 (28:34):
It's like people don't people aren't well, maybe
that's right.
That's my um leaning.
Let's go to the next one.
SPEAKER_00 (28:42):
Okay.
SPEAKER_02 (28:43):
I want to hear comments on these.
You know what?
This Reese Cobert is atroublemaker because she keeps
talking about the spouse.
And I don't say too much aboutmy spouse.
I want to hear it.
I want to hear what you guyshave noticed.
SPEAKER_00 (28:54):
I want to hear it.
SPEAKER_02 (28:55):
My spouse bought me an expensive designer bag, but I
knew I would rarely carry it.
When I saw an identical fakeversion, I decided to buy it,
sell the real one, and pocketthe difference.
My spouse hasn't even noticed,and I'm not gonna tell them.
Am I tripping?
(29:17):
You doggone liar, you aretripping.
That's crazy.
That's crazy.
SPEAKER_00 (29:22):
Why is it crazy?
SPEAKER_02 (29:24):
Alright, first of all, I don't have that kind of
relationship with my spouse thatI gotta there's so many reasons
why this doesn't apply to me.
SPEAKER_00 (29:34):
One okay Well, give your opinion though.
SPEAKER_02 (29:37):
Not not on what the person did?
Yeah, sure, sure.
Yeah.
Alright, the my opinion is Idon't like dishonesty.
And to me, that's like theftalmost.
It's theft.
Well, it's like if you needmoney, there's so many reasons
why this is crazy.
Why are you tripping, girl?
SPEAKER_00 (29:58):
Are you tripping?
What if what if?
You what if she was gonna usethe money to um to um get him
something for his birthday or tohave a birthday party for him?
So it's not a selfish thing.
SPEAKER_02 (30:11):
No, I don't like the dishonesty of pretending that
it's um the same bag andpocketing the money.
If I needed money to dosomething and I didn't have it,
I would ask Ern for the money,you know, and he'd give it to
me.
That's one thing.
Even if I said I need it forsomething and I can't tell you
(30:31):
what it was, he would give if Ineeded it like that.
That's one thing.
But two, I wouldn't want himevery time I had the bag, I
wouldn't want him thinking thisis the bag that he got me when
it wasn't, you know, that's theother thing.
But it's similar to acircumstance that I had one
either Christmas or my birthday.
Ern bought me this really, I'lluse nice in quotes, Chanel bag,
(30:56):
right?
SPEAKER_00 (30:56):
Uh-huh.
Expensive.
SPEAKER_02 (30:57):
Obviously, it was expensive, right?
And you know, he presented it tome, but you know, Ern is a lot
more um conservative than I am.
I didn't like it.
You know, but I I told him,thank you, but I don't like it.
I don't think I'll carry it.
You know, I didn't want him tospend money on something that I
(31:19):
wasn't gonna use, and I swappedit with you know, him knowing.
I said, can I trade it in forsomething else that I that I
like?
SPEAKER_00 (31:26):
And that wow, you know, yeah, but that should be
on a card.
It's the don't say.
SPEAKER_02 (31:33):
Well, I think the alternative, I could have just
kept the bag and what never usedit.
That's the alternative.
Yeah, that's why waste a man'smoney.
SPEAKER_00 (31:41):
That's not wasting the money.
I think I understand.
SPEAKER_02 (31:48):
It's it's money well spent.
SPEAKER_00 (31:51):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (31:54):
Well, in if I had the bag, then I would use it.
And most likely I would get tolike it.
You know what I mean?
You know how things grow on youor whatever, how people may get
things for you that you don'tthink is for use.
Because in retrospects, now I'dprobably like the bag.
SPEAKER_00 (32:08):
Right.
Right.
Yeah, that should be a separatecard with that on it.
SPEAKER_02 (32:13):
If you if you told your husband, if you tell your
spouse that you don't like thegift, can you trade it for
something else?
SPEAKER_00 (32:20):
Yeah, that should be a are you tripping?
Am I tripping?
SPEAKER_02 (32:23):
Are you tripping?
All right, so what do you thinkabout them?
My spouse hasn't even noticed,and I'm not gonna tell them.
SPEAKER_00 (32:29):
Am I tripping?
No, yeah, you're tripping.
Because honesty, come on now.
Come on now.
You're not gonna triple lie.
SPEAKER_02 (32:37):
Yeah, I don't like that.
SPEAKER_00 (32:40):
I can't live like that.
I cannot one more.
You're keeping track of time.
SPEAKER_02 (32:48):
You wanna do one more?
Yeah.
Yeah.
I'm gonna um can I choose one?
SPEAKER_00 (32:54):
Yes, sure.
SPEAKER_02 (32:55):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (32:56):
Cheater.
Cheater, cheater.
SPEAKER_02 (33:12):
I had dinner with friends when I saw my friend who
barely touched their food wasgonna toss it out.
I did not want to let aperfectly good plate of food go
to waste, so I bought it home.
I gave it to my spouse sincethey said they were hungry, but
did not mention before they werehalfway done eating that the
leftovers were from someoneelse's plate.
(33:33):
Am I tripping?
SPEAKER_00 (33:37):
Oh, snap.
I thought she was gonna say shegave it to her dog.
Oh, snap.
SPEAKER_02 (33:51):
I'll tell you why this is a little, it's it's it's
it's it's a little weird one,but it kind of hits close to
home, right?
Oh Lord.
Um, am I tripping?
Hmm.
I would not um I don't think Iwould mention at all where it
(34:12):
came from.
SPEAKER_00 (34:13):
Okay.
SPEAKER_02 (34:16):
Because I would not share something with my husband
or family member or myself thatI thought was unclean or
whatever, you know.
Very often, the way that I eatand I don't eat, I usually don't
eat all of my food.
I'll separate food on a plate,you know, that I'm gonna eat and
(34:39):
not eat.
So it's not like I'm going backand forth.
You know what I mean?
I do.
So so I wouldn't bring homeanything that I thought was
unclean or unsanitary.
And as a result, I wouldn'tmention that because I think
that would be a littleoff-putting and rude.
SPEAKER_00 (34:58):
Okay, so how does this line up in terms of
honesty, like we just talkedabout?
Withholding information, youknow better.
How does that fit in with that?
SPEAKER_02 (35:09):
I mean, it's like I don't determine, I don't think
that the disclosure is relevant.
SPEAKER_00 (35:17):
But you said you you thought he would he would find
it so.
SPEAKER_02 (35:22):
Oh, I did say that.
Yeah.
I don't know.
I'm not sure.
I don't know.
SPEAKER_00 (35:36):
All right, so are um is she tripping?
SPEAKER_02 (35:42):
What do you think?
SPEAKER_00 (35:45):
Okay, throw me under the bus.
Um I I would say, I would say, Iwould say it.
I would tell them.
So she's tripping.
SPEAKER_02 (35:59):
So sh she didn't mention it until they were
halfway done eating that theleftovers was from someone
else's plate.
SPEAKER_00 (36:06):
I I wouldn't do that.
She's tripping.
She's tripping.
Because for me, you would knowsomething over um you would know
something, a truth, that you'renot disclosing to someone else,
whomever it is.
(36:27):
And that to me is where the iswhere the disconnect happens.
SPEAKER_02 (36:32):
But does intent have anything to do with it?
Like, I might bring a platehome, put it in the fridge, or
leave it on the counter orwhatever, and not remember to
say or not withhold itintentionally.
I think we're like, I'm notgonna tell them that it was
somebody else's.
(36:54):
I don't know.
I don't like the sound of that.
The right, the way that it waswritten though, um was that she
intentionally withheld it,right?
Right.
Until he halfway because shedecided don't do that to your
husband.
Don't do that.
Don't do that.
SPEAKER_00 (37:15):
Girl, you trippin', you trippin'.
That's not cool.
SPEAKER_02 (37:22):
All right.
I think we had some fun withthis, maybe.
SPEAKER_00 (37:26):
Yeah, I like it.
I like it.
We're out of time.
SPEAKER_02 (37:30):
I think we're out of time.
SPEAKER_00 (37:31):
Okay.
I I'd like to revisit this.
We have other um card sets.
I don't know if I have it herethough, but there are other card
sets that are really Oh,speaking of which, I had some
that I left at your house.
Hmm.
I wonder if they'll be therewhen I get back.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (37:56):
I know.
And here I thought that Ithought that if you uh leave
something at my house, it'smine.
SPEAKER_00 (38:04):
Yeah, I see you have a toothbrush.
SPEAKER_02 (38:07):
You leave gifts when you leave sometime, you do.
SPEAKER_00 (38:11):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (38:12):
Why would I assume that it was one of them?
SPEAKER_00 (38:15):
How about because I didn't say here, Les?
Oh, that would have been a clue.
SPEAKER_03 (38:24):
I'm leaving this for you.
You know what?
SPEAKER_02 (38:28):
Little things like I'm done with you.
This has been another episode ofBlack Boom Besties from Good
Bomb.
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