I Don't Need Permission to Live My Life w/Shanique Yates

Summary

In this episode of the Black Rider Therapy podcast, host Ella Shawn engages in a heartfelt conversation with journalist Shanique Yates about her healing journey, the influence of her teachers and family, and the importance of emotional intelligence in creativity. They discuss the power of vulnerability, the significance of sisterhood, and how acknowledgment shapes confidence. Shanique shares her aspirations to write a book and the impact of community on her life. The conversation culminates in rapid-fire questions that reveal Shanique's reflections on friendship, identity, and self-discovery.

Takeaways

• Healing is a process that requires intentionality.
• Putting oneself first is essential for personal growth.
• The influence of teachers can shape one's career path.
• Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in creativity.
• Vulnerability in writing can lead to healing.
• Sisterhood provides a support system for shared experiences.
• Acknowledgment from others fosters confidence and courage.
• Writing can serve as a cathartic outlet for personal stories.
• Community is vital for emotional support and growth.
• Life changes can lead to self-discovery and new opportunities.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Healing Journey

04:46 The Path to Journalism

07:16 Influence of Teachers and Family

09:59 Emotional Intelligence and Creativity

12:57 The Double Life of a Creative

15:51 The Power of Being Seen

18:34 Writing as a Healing Process

21:19 The Impact of Sharing Personal Stories

32:02 Liberating Our Stories

35:50 The Healing Power of Community

40:23 Hearing from God Through Others

42:23 Embracing Mobility and Change

44:12 Rapid Fire Reflections

54:59 What's Next: New Beginnings

59:04 BWT OUTRO.mp3

Bio

I first discovered writing as a child. As someone who is very sensitive and in tune with her emotions, it's been an outlet for me since the 2nd grade. My teacher at the time, Mrs. Simmons, was the first person to acknowledge my gift and way with words and encourage me, ultimately showing me that I could do this for a living. What's led to my most cathartic piece to date is truly just healing. It's actually on my personal blog, and there I dive into some of the childhood traumas that I am still healing from today. Another story that I wrote for xoNecole last year is very important to me as well because it took a lot of vulnerability to write it.

Here are those links:

https://astoldbysly.substack.com/p/this-ones-for-the-lovers https://www.xonecole.com/couch-surfing-and-soul-searching-how-i-found-myself-in-the-summe