December 26, 2024 • 23 mins
Ever wondered what it's like to grow up in a blended family with ten members and a golden doodle? Meet Nasir, our enthusiastic and science-loving third eldest child, as he shares his journey through the vibrant and occasionally chaotic world of our household. Nasir brings his unique perspective on being a middle child, revealing both the joys and the sibling rivalries, including his evolving relationship with step-sibling Nehemiah. Through humor and heartwarming stories, Nasir and I recount the memorable family trips, rooftop adventures, and the quirky realization of how age influences our escapades.
In our candid conversation, we explore the essence of family dynamics and the pivotal role of a "boss mom" in steering our large family ship. The episode highlights the experiences of blending families, from the initial adjustments to embracing new members with love and acceptance. Cherished memories, like moving into a new home and meeting our beloved dog Princess, underline the importance of open hearts. Faith remains our anchor, with reflections on keeping Jesus central in our lives, a favorite Bible verse, and a closing prayer of gratitude. Add in a touch of soccer excitement and playful musical moments, and this episode offers a genuine peek into the love and laughter that bind us together.
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Lanette (00:01):
Hey everybody, it's me, lynette, and we are Blending
with the Frenches.
So how are you doing today?
I'm amazing.
How are you?
I'm awesome, can't complain, Ihad a good day today.
Irin (00:15):
It was.
I enjoyed watching you on theroof.
Oh man, Y'all should try tokill me.
How you should try to kill mey'all.
No, not I.
I'm on top of her.
I said, baby, can you come holdthis ladder so I can get down.
Lanette (00:27):
And what'd I do she?
Irin (00:28):
gave me the huffs and puffs and she was tired and she
didn't want to do what I said.
Lanette (00:33):
Oh man, I'm just trying to you know.
Are we talking about the?
Nasir (00:37):
same person.
Lanette (00:39):
Thank you, here I am, y'all trying to work.
I said, babe, come hold thisladder.
Okay, babe, Back to work.
I went holding ladders I had tomake sure I was grounded.
Irin (00:53):
I realized that I'm 35 years old now and me jumping off
the roof angle would be goodfor my knees, but why not?
Lanette (01:02):
You told me when you was a shorty, you used to flip
off houses Back when I waslittle.
Irin (01:06):
When I was little, I did, but these knees ain't the same.
Lanette (01:09):
You know, ain't that what you told the kids?
Just as long as you bend yourknees when you jump, I'm going
to be good for my knees, yes.
So, for everybody who haslistened to our previous podcast
, for everybody who has listenedto our previous podcast, we are
excited to know that we had oneof our children.
(01:30):
We had our oldest son on thepodcast with us, and now we have
another one of our sons herewith us.
He is the third oldest child,the one and the only, nazir.
Help us welcome Nazir, hi guys.
Hey, naz, how's it going Good?
How was your day?
(01:51):
Good?
Awesome.
So he is over here, y'allcheesing from ear to ear.
He's ready.
Yes, he must be super excitedto be on the podcast.
How do you feel about being onthe podcast with us tonight?
Good, very good, very good.
You been waiting on this.
Yes, I love it.
Irin (02:12):
So tell us about yourself, man.
How old are you?
I'm 11.
You're 11?
Okay?
What grade you in 10th?
Lanette (02:19):
Great, Okay, what's your favorite subject?
My favorite subject is science.
Oh wonderful, Okay, then I likethat.
You like dissect animals andstuff like that?
Nasir (02:32):
No, we're doing like projects and today we like
yesterday.
On Monday we painted planetsand then today, today I put
planets on top of the room.
Lanette (02:48):
That's fun.
So I'm like, yeah, that's a lotof fun.
So we know that our podcast isabout blended families.
Right, and you just so happento be a part of a blended family
.
How have you enjoyed or maybeyou haven't enjoyed being a part
(03:11):
of a blended family?
What's that been like for you?
Good, very good.
Okay.
So tell us, tell the world, howhas being a part of a blended
family been good for you?
We went on trips together.
We did a part of a blendedfamily been good for you.
We went on trips together.
We did a lot of stuff together.
So, making good memories, yeah,okay, so you were in our middle
(03:37):
child.
At one point you only had anolder brother and then two
little brothers under you.
How did you feel being thatlittle child?
Good, you didn't mind being themiddle child.
Oh, okay, well, that's good.
I know a lot of times sometimesthose middle kids they feel
(04:00):
like, oh man, I'm left out.
Or they may feel like they'realways in trouble.
They may feel like I don't getthat extra piece of candy, even
though y'all probably sneak it.
Oh, that chuckle tells meprobably so.
So you didn't mind.
Uh, being a middle child andhaving two little siblings under
(04:20):
you, did they always try totake your toys and stuff?
Nasir (04:24):
No, I took their toys when I was younger.
Lanette (04:26):
Sounds about right, sounds about right.
That little child sounds aboutright to everyone, absolutely.
So let's fast forward.
Do you remember the first timeyou met all of the other
siblings?
They weren't your siblings then, but where were you?
We were at the park.
(04:48):
At the park, yep, how'd that go?
It was good.
Did you know who they were?
Nope, I was, I don't know.
You just thought, man, oh oh,some little kids here I got
people to play with.
So what was your first memoryat?
Nasir (05:04):
the tournament and were there certain things specific
Some people were playingbasketball.
Lanette (05:10):
I was beating all y'all I mean blocking shots.
And then some people were onthe swings.
Nasir (05:17):
I'm pretty sure I said it .
Lanette (05:20):
But do you feel like you guys got along?
No, not yet.
So without saying names or youcan, because we're very open who
do you think at that parkdidn't get along?
Me and Nehemiah Huh, and babe,tell the world who are those two
(05:44):
?
Two middle childers, two secondoldest, two second oldest on
both sides.
So I feel like you guys kind ofmay have been like, hey, who
are you, who are you?
You know, trying to figure eachother out, but how's your
relationship with each other now?
Good, very good, yeah, I thinkyou guys can understand each
(06:08):
other.
Huh?
Yes, absolutely Matter of fact,y'all are the same color and
you're wearing that color today.
What's your favorite color?
My favorite color is blue.
Nasir (06:18):
Oh.
Lanette (06:20):
I know your favorite color.
My favorite color is blue.
Oh, I know his favorite color.
What's his favorite color?
Green.
I don't know why.
I thought your favorite colorwas green too.
Uh, you used to be my favorite.
Nasir (06:27):
My first favorite color was red, then I changed to green
, then I changed to blue.
Lanette (06:30):
Man you now listen, it's too many of y'all for us to
be able to keep up with whatcolor y'all want.
And now, now you're switchingup on us.
That's really cool, so whatquestions do we have.
Irin (06:50):
So tell us what's been the most, what's your biggest
memory?
Nasir (06:55):
Make sure you're talking to the mic.
When we first got the house andI remember seeing Princess
first at first, tell me whoPrincess is.
Princess is our dog.
She's a golden doodle.
She's a golden doodle and she'sa boy.
Lanette (07:14):
She gets so happy when she sees everybody.
She starts running around Kids,kids, kids, kids, kids.
That's pretty awesome.
So, as far as first off thehouse, we didn't even tell you
guys Moving into the new house,we didn't share what our house
looked like.
(07:34):
I don't even know what I said.
You said what I said the houseis small.
How are we going to fit inthere?
Exactly Because y'all thought,from the outside, looking in,
that that house was small Untilwhat, until we came inside and
then y'all were like what?
We were explosive, Absolutely,absolutely.
Yes, we is, and we always knowthat sometimes Looks can be
(08:02):
deceiving Because our house isNever worth it at all.
It never is.
We were so happy we were ableto Provide something for you All
, all ten of us Plus our goldendoodle Confidien.
Irin (08:22):
Create new memories.
So, as far as let's see With ablended Family, how does it feel
to have A boss mom?
Nasir (08:35):
Feels good, she helps and all that stuff.
Irin (08:40):
Yeah, what does she help you with?
Nasir (08:43):
Sometimes she helps me with homework.
She helps to make food.
Lanette (08:49):
And let me tell y'all something Beating a family of 10
.
I'll be in that kitchen tiredy'all, but I wouldn't trade it
for the world.
Sorry, keep going.
I'll be in that kitchen tiredy'all, but I wouldn't trade it
for the world.
Nasir (09:04):
Sorry, keep going.
What else she helps me with?
Mostly everything, yeah.
Irin (09:09):
So, as far as the relationship Between you and
your boss, mom, do you feel likeit's good, it's better, did you
?
Feel like it was rocky at onepoint.
Yeah, I don't know is good isbetter.
Yes, did you feel like it wasrocky at one point?
Yeah, why?
Lanette (09:22):
I don't know Sometimes.
You know, we know that being ablended family, it can be
challenging for kids, and that'sone thing you know I have to
just be open and honest with isfor you all coming from a
different family, and then nowit's like who's this woman?
(09:43):
You know, who is this womanwith my dad?
Um, and we know that sometimesthere are people who are trying
to take the place of anotherfamily member, of your mom or of
dad.
But that is one thing that Iwant you all to know.
I am never here trying to takeyour mom's place.
(10:03):
I love you guys the same as Ilove my own children, and so I
think now that you kind of see,like, okay, she's not that bad,
I still have my mom plus, I justhave a bonus mom to help get
you all the things that you wantand need.
So what's your thoughts on that?
(10:24):
It's good, you sure?
Yes, okay, that's awesome, andI thank you for seeing me for
who I am.
Thank you for giving me achance, thank you for not trying
to kick me out of my own house,because there are some kids out
(10:47):
there that may struggle with ablended family or having a bonus
mom or bonus daddy.
They do everything that theycan to try to make that parent
go away.
Irin (10:59):
Do you know anything about that sweetheart?
Try to make that parent go away.
Do you know anything about thatsweetheart?
Oh yeah, definitely, definitely.
Been there, done that.
I love it a little bit.
Well, I mean, I come from aplenty thing myself.
As far as my bonus dad, I gavehim all type of problems and
issues on purpose, but the olderI get, the more I realize that
(11:21):
he's been in my corner.
Shout out to my stepdad forbeing a stand-up man and raising
myself and my brother andmaking sure that my kids are
straight.
Some people don't even knowthat, that my kids are straight.
Some people don't even knowthat that is my son, that's my
(11:44):
dad.
Shout out to Anthony.
Lanette (11:47):
That's wonderful.
I want to give a shout out tohim as well, because all the
things that you have taught himhas saved us a whole lot of
money.
When I tell you he was up onthat roof today Hanging up those
Christmas lights For thesespoiled children and myself, I
(12:09):
guess I think if you know hementioned that.
Oh man, I'm used to this.
I used to be on the roof allthe time with AT.
So shout out to you AT, becauseyour teachings are not in vain.
We appreciate you for that.
Not at all.
Shout out to AT.
Irin (12:26):
So how you feeling?
Lanette (12:29):
Good.
Irin (12:30):
Good.
Lanette (12:31):
Tell us what sports do you play?
I play soccer, Soccer.
What position?
Nasir (12:38):
Defense and offense.
Lanette (12:40):
Are you a goalie?
Nope, what is the?
Do y'all have certain?
See, I'm learning y'all.
I have never had a soccerplayer, except for our daughter.
She played one game and thenCOVID happened, so I wasn't able
to learn the positions, so yougot to teach me.
I'll just be out there yellingfor you.
I don't know what be going on.
(13:01):
But come on now, let's go.
Let's go Get the ball, let's go.
So what's your position?
Called Defense and offense.
Nasir (13:09):
Okay, I mean, like the person that first has the ball,
it's a striker a striker.
Lanette (13:15):
Yes, see, I would have thought about baseball, like
they just straight out.
I guess I have to watch alittle more soccer.
Huh, your season is going to bestarting soon, soon, yeah, I'm
excited.
Your first game is on the 14th,right?
(13:36):
Yeah, the 14th of this month.
Yes, so y'all okay.
If you have not heard ourpodcast, as far as us having to
schedule out everything, youhave to go and listen to it.
This is exactly why we have toschedule things, because I
didn't know, you did not know, Idid not know you had a game on
(13:56):
the 14th, dad why didn't youtell her yeah, dad, I honestly
have not put it in the calendar,just yet.
So that's why it's veryimportant for us to have a
schedule and to put things inthe calendar, because I would
have not missed your game,because I would have figured out
where he was going.
But I'm so glad I didn't plananything because I would have to
(14:17):
cancel, because I have a gameto be at yeah, we're gonna win
100% this year, right?
Irin (14:22):
yes, so last year, yeah, outdoor season, no, I won't.
Nasir (14:30):
I won't.
Yeah, how many goals are yougoing for?
I got three, two and one.
All right, you scored at leastone goal.
Yeah, for the middle of theseason.
Irin (14:46):
What do you mean?
I guess, as far as, like, themiddle of the season, that's my
target.
Yeah, we're going to take thatover into the indoor soccer,
right.
Yeah, so we're going to takethat over into the indoor soccer
, right.
Nasir (14:57):
Yeah.
Irin (14:58):
I'm going to start giving it 100% indoor as well.
Lanette (15:00):
I like that.
It's like, oh, so okay, what isthe difference between indoor
and outdoor for you?
Nasir (15:13):
Indoor is a whole bunch of stuff, a whole bunch of stuff
like what it's a hockey stadiumand then you put fake grass on
it.
Irin (15:27):
Turf.
You don't like turf.
Nasir (15:29):
What is that?
Irin (15:30):
That's what you're talking about the fake grass.
Yes, I don't like that, becausethen if I fall, I'm one of them
.
Nasir (15:34):
That's a no-no.
I'll scratch girls.
Yes, I don't like that, becausethen if I fall, I'm one of them
.
Bitch, no, I'm not.
Irin (15:38):
That's what I said.
It'll be all right.
So when it comes down to it,though, man, if you're too fat,
you're not going to be a goodtalent, you're not going to win,
you're not going to be a goodhusband.
Lanette (16:01):
You've got your husband on the outside, absolutely,
because I would think you knowit's called the same.
I mean, maybe I'm only thinkingthat because I don't know.
But don't worry about the hot,uh, don't worry about the fake
dresses.
Go out there and give it 110every time that wall come your
way.
Put it in your mind it's me,I'm him.
You know what y'all been saying.
Yes, that's right.
(16:21):
You go out there and tellyourself I'm him.
Every time that ball come yourway, grab it, but don't grab it.
Nasir (16:29):
Because then it's called a foul.
No, it's called a handball, ohsee, gosh found.
No, it's called a handball, ohsee.
Lanette (16:35):
I thought I had it.
I thought I had it.
Irin (16:38):
So as far as school, you do like science, right?
Yes so what's the main thingthat you like about science?
Nasir (16:46):
We get to do projects.
Lanette (16:49):
We read about the solar system.
Nasir (16:51):
We're talking about it right now.
Your favorite planet, myfavorite planet, is Earth.
Good answer.
Irin (17:02):
So let's talk about one more thing and we'll let you go
get ready to bed.
So, Woo, yes, as far as you fitthe world.
How do you deal with theconflict?
Like, what do you mean In thefamily?
Like, as far as like with yoursiblings?
Is there any situations thatyou was like you know what?
Let me just talk this out.
(17:22):
Do you feel like you need tofight?
Like, how do you deal withthese issues?
Just ignore them.
Just ignore them, okay.
Do you separate yourselfSometimes, Sometimes, so in the
opposite times, like, do youactually Do you like playing
with your brothers and sistersyeah, Okay, good good.
Lanette (17:44):
Do you like sharing your toys?
Uh-oh.
Irin (17:48):
If there's one thing that you can change, if there's one
thing that you can change aboutyour sister to make her better,
who would it be?
There's one thing that youwould change about yourself to
make you better.
What would it be?
I don't know what.
What, what thing are you?
What is?
What's something that you'reworking on to make yourself
better?
Lanette (18:09):
Um, my tongue lies and and you know, we want to say
thank you for being here, openand honest about that, because
somebody who is listening to you, uh, may be a little boy, the
same age as you, a little girlor even an adult that lies, um,
because we know when you lie,what happens, you're in trouble,
(18:32):
and the truth always what comesback, it comes back.
So there's no reason to eventell that lie.
Just tell the truth, even whenyou don't want to, because it's
always gonna come back.
So thank you for uhacknowledging that that's
something that you want to workon and we're gonna hold you to
it.
Irin (18:52):
We're gonna hold you to it so, as far as, as far as, as
far as your chores, what do youlike doing the most?
Make sure you take notes onthis cause.
Lanette (19:12):
We wanna make sure we write it down right now you love
to do dusting?
Oh, whoa love to do dusting,huh.
So besides dusting, what elsedo you like to do?
Dusting, huh.
So besides dusting, what elsedo you like to do?
Is there anything like wipingthe windows in the bathroom?
(19:33):
Yeah, what's the least favoritething doing the bathroom?
I mean, no, doing the bathroom,toilet and the bath.
Nasir (19:51):
Yeah, nasty isn't it, and ?
Irin (19:52):
the dish dishes, yeah, dishes so we're going to make
sure we put that in one and whatI suggest you do because it's
funny.
Lanette (20:04):
I don't think any of y'all like doing the bathroom
and cleaning the toilet and allthat.
I mean nobody really does.
But tell your siblings to aimyes, and if y'all aim properly
then we'll be good.
Y'all don't have to worry aboutcleaning up all that extra
stuff.
Irin (20:24):
So do you have a favorite Bible verse?
Do you have a favorite Bibleverse?
What's your Bible verse?
Nasir (20:37):
this week Rejoice.
Always break into the way, giveall your sins, for this is
God's will for you and ChristJesus.
First I say all the answers 4,verse 18 wonderful.
Lanette (20:53):
Next one thing we want to make sure that we know who's
always number one in our life.
It's Jesus.
He is always number one in ourlife as long as we yes, right,
he is always number one in ourlife.
As long as we put God first, aslong as Jesus is our source, we
can never go wrong when we'reold and gray and even one day
(21:14):
when we're no longer here.
We want to make sure that youput God number one in your life
and you will succeed in lifeevery time.
Irin (21:24):
The reason why is because one day you'll have your own
life, you'll have your own house50 years from now.
You'll have your own children,and the only way you're going to
survive and thrive is if youhave the foundation of God.
Lanette (21:39):
I definitely want you to make sure you know who God is
and have a good relationshipwith God.
Oh, you know what?
Before we get off, I forgot,there's something special about
him he loves to sing.
No, I don't.
Yes, he does.
(21:59):
Last Sunday, him and hissiblings did an amazing job of
singing to everybody.
They had that microphone andthey were going and they had a
good time.
Do you want to sing to thepeople?
I'm not going to put you on thespot if you don't want to, but
that is something about you.
You come from a family that ismusically inclined, that can
(22:24):
sing, and he likes to sing,definitely.
Do you want to sing?
No, okay, that's not a problem,not at all.
Irin (22:35):
So do you want to end this podcast with a prayer?
Can you lead us in prayer?
Nasir (22:40):
Yeah, Okay go ahead.
God, thank you for this day.
Help us with anything tomorrow.
Thank you for what you gave metoday.
Thank you for putting me on apodcast.
Help me with the soccer gamethat I have on the 14th Amen,
(23:05):
amen.
Irin (23:06):
Amen, amen and amen.
Well, I'm Ira, I'm.
Lanette (23:11):
Lynette, I'm Nazir and we are.
Nasir (23:14):
Blending with the Frenches.
Hey everybody, it's me, lynette, and we are Blending
with the Frenches.
So how are you doing today?
I'm amazing.
How are you?
I'm awesome, can't complain, Ihad a good day today.
Irin (00:15):
It was.
I enjoyed watching you on theroof.
Oh man, Y'all should try tokill me.
How you should try to kill mey'all.
No, not I.
I'm on top of her.
I said, baby, can you come holdthis ladder so I can get down.
Lanette (00:27):
And what'd I do she?
Irin (00:28):
gave me the huffs and puffs and she was tired and she
didn't want to do what I said.
Lanette (00:33):
Oh man, I'm just trying to you know.
Are we talking about the?
Nasir (00:37):
same person.
Lanette (00:39):
Thank you, here I am, y'all trying to work.
I said, babe, come hold thisladder.
Okay, babe, Back to work.
I went holding ladders I had tomake sure I was grounded.
Irin (00:53):
I realized that I'm 35 years old now and me jumping off
the roof angle would be goodfor my knees, but why not?
Lanette (01:02):
You told me when you was a shorty, you used to flip
off houses Back when I waslittle.
Irin (01:06):
When I was little, I did, but these knees ain't the same.
Lanette (01:09):
You know, ain't that what you told the kids?
Just as long as you bend yourknees when you jump, I'm going
to be good for my knees, yes.
So, for everybody who haslistened to our previous podcast
, for everybody who has listenedto our previous podcast, we are
excited to know that we had oneof our children.
(01:30):
We had our oldest son on thepodcast with us, and now we have
another one of our sons herewith us.
He is the third oldest child,the one and the only, nazir.
Help us welcome Nazir, hi guys.
Hey, naz, how's it going Good?
How was your day?
(01:51):
Good?
Awesome.
So he is over here, y'allcheesing from ear to ear.
He's ready.
Yes, he must be super excitedto be on the podcast.
How do you feel about being onthe podcast with us tonight?
Good, very good, very good.
You been waiting on this.
Yes, I love it.
Irin (02:12):
So tell us about yourself, man.
How old are you?
I'm 11.
You're 11?
Okay?
What grade you in 10th?
Lanette (02:19):
Great, Okay, what's your favorite subject?
My favorite subject is science.
Oh wonderful, Okay, then I likethat.
You like dissect animals andstuff like that?
Nasir (02:32):
No, we're doing like projects and today we like
yesterday.
On Monday we painted planetsand then today, today I put
planets on top of the room.
Lanette (02:48):
That's fun.
So I'm like, yeah, that's a lotof fun.
So we know that our podcast isabout blended families.
Right, and you just so happento be a part of a blended family
.
How have you enjoyed or maybeyou haven't enjoyed being a part
(03:11):
of a blended family?
What's that been like for you?
Good, very good.
Okay.
So tell us, tell the world, howhas being a part of a blended
family been good for you?
We went on trips together.
We did a part of a blendedfamily been good for you.
We went on trips together.
We did a lot of stuff together.
So, making good memories, yeah,okay, so you were in our middle
(03:37):
child.
At one point you only had anolder brother and then two
little brothers under you.
How did you feel being thatlittle child?
Good, you didn't mind being themiddle child.
Oh, okay, well, that's good.
I know a lot of times sometimesthose middle kids they feel
(04:00):
like, oh man, I'm left out.
Or they may feel like they'realways in trouble.
They may feel like I don't getthat extra piece of candy, even
though y'all probably sneak it.
Oh, that chuckle tells meprobably so.
So you didn't mind.
Uh, being a middle child andhaving two little siblings under
(04:20):
you, did they always try totake your toys and stuff?
Nasir (04:24):
No, I took their toys when I was younger.
Lanette (04:26):
Sounds about right, sounds about right.
That little child sounds aboutright to everyone, absolutely.
So let's fast forward.
Do you remember the first timeyou met all of the other
siblings?
They weren't your siblings then, but where were you?
We were at the park.
(04:48):
At the park, yep, how'd that go?
It was good.
Did you know who they were?
Nope, I was, I don't know.
You just thought, man, oh oh,some little kids here I got
people to play with.
So what was your first memoryat?
Nasir (05:04):
the tournament and were there certain things specific
Some people were playingbasketball.
Lanette (05:10):
I was beating all y'all I mean blocking shots.
And then some people were onthe swings.
Nasir (05:17):
I'm pretty sure I said it .
Lanette (05:20):
But do you feel like you guys got along?
No, not yet.
So without saying names or youcan, because we're very open who
do you think at that parkdidn't get along?
Me and Nehemiah Huh, and babe,tell the world who are those two
(05:44):
?
Two middle childers, two secondoldest, two second oldest on
both sides.
So I feel like you guys kind ofmay have been like, hey, who
are you, who are you?
You know, trying to figure eachother out, but how's your
relationship with each other now?
Good, very good, yeah, I thinkyou guys can understand each
(06:08):
other.
Huh?
Yes, absolutely Matter of fact,y'all are the same color and
you're wearing that color today.
What's your favorite color?
My favorite color is blue.
Nasir (06:18):
Oh.
Lanette (06:20):
I know your favorite color.
My favorite color is blue.
Oh, I know his favorite color.
What's his favorite color?
Green.
I don't know why.
I thought your favorite colorwas green too.
Uh, you used to be my favorite.
Nasir (06:27):
My first favorite color was red, then I changed to green
, then I changed to blue.
Lanette (06:30):
Man you now listen, it's too many of y'all for us to
be able to keep up with whatcolor y'all want.
And now, now you're switchingup on us.
That's really cool, so whatquestions do we have.
Irin (06:50):
So tell us what's been the most, what's your biggest
memory?
Nasir (06:55):
Make sure you're talking to the mic.
When we first got the house andI remember seeing Princess
first at first, tell me whoPrincess is.
Princess is our dog.
She's a golden doodle.
She's a golden doodle and she'sa boy.
Lanette (07:14):
She gets so happy when she sees everybody.
She starts running around Kids,kids, kids, kids, kids.
That's pretty awesome.
So, as far as first off thehouse, we didn't even tell you
guys Moving into the new house,we didn't share what our house
looked like.
(07:34):
I don't even know what I said.
You said what I said the houseis small.
How are we going to fit inthere?
Exactly Because y'all thought,from the outside, looking in,
that that house was small Untilwhat, until we came inside and
then y'all were like what?
We were explosive, Absolutely,absolutely.
Yes, we is, and we always knowthat sometimes Looks can be
(08:02):
deceiving Because our house isNever worth it at all.
It never is.
We were so happy we were ableto Provide something for you All
, all ten of us Plus our goldendoodle Confidien.
Irin (08:22):
Create new memories.
So, as far as let's see With ablended Family, how does it feel
to have A boss mom?
Nasir (08:35):
Feels good, she helps and all that stuff.
Irin (08:40):
Yeah, what does she help you with?
Nasir (08:43):
Sometimes she helps me with homework.
She helps to make food.
Lanette (08:49):
And let me tell y'all something Beating a family of 10
.
I'll be in that kitchen tiredy'all, but I wouldn't trade it
for the world.
Sorry, keep going.
I'll be in that kitchen tiredy'all, but I wouldn't trade it
for the world.
Nasir (09:04):
Sorry, keep going.
What else she helps me with?
Mostly everything, yeah.
Irin (09:09):
So, as far as the relationship Between you and
your boss, mom, do you feel likeit's good, it's better, did you
?
Feel like it was rocky at onepoint.
Yeah, I don't know is good isbetter.
Yes, did you feel like it wasrocky at one point?
Yeah, why?
Lanette (09:22):
I don't know Sometimes.
You know, we know that being ablended family, it can be
challenging for kids, and that'sone thing you know I have to
just be open and honest with isfor you all coming from a
different family, and then nowit's like who's this woman?
(09:43):
You know, who is this womanwith my dad?
Um, and we know that sometimesthere are people who are trying
to take the place of anotherfamily member, of your mom or of
dad.
But that is one thing that Iwant you all to know.
I am never here trying to takeyour mom's place.
(10:03):
I love you guys the same as Ilove my own children, and so I
think now that you kind of see,like, okay, she's not that bad,
I still have my mom plus, I justhave a bonus mom to help get
you all the things that you wantand need.
So what's your thoughts on that?
(10:24):
It's good, you sure?
Yes, okay, that's awesome, andI thank you for seeing me for
who I am.
Thank you for giving me achance, thank you for not trying
to kick me out of my own house,because there are some kids out
(10:47):
there that may struggle with ablended family or having a bonus
mom or bonus daddy.
They do everything that theycan to try to make that parent
go away.
Irin (10:59):
Do you know anything about that sweetheart?
Try to make that parent go away.
Do you know anything about thatsweetheart?
Oh yeah, definitely, definitely.
Been there, done that.
I love it a little bit.
Well, I mean, I come from aplenty thing myself.
As far as my bonus dad, I gavehim all type of problems and
issues on purpose, but the olderI get, the more I realize that
(11:21):
he's been in my corner.
Shout out to my stepdad forbeing a stand-up man and raising
myself and my brother andmaking sure that my kids are
straight.
Some people don't even knowthat, that my kids are straight.
Some people don't even knowthat that is my son, that's my
(11:44):
dad.
Shout out to Anthony.
Lanette (11:47):
That's wonderful.
I want to give a shout out tohim as well, because all the
things that you have taught himhas saved us a whole lot of
money.
When I tell you he was up onthat roof today Hanging up those
Christmas lights For thesespoiled children and myself, I
(12:09):
guess I think if you know hementioned that.
Oh man, I'm used to this.
I used to be on the roof allthe time with AT.
So shout out to you AT, becauseyour teachings are not in vain.
We appreciate you for that.
Not at all.
Shout out to AT.
Irin (12:26):
So how you feeling?
Lanette (12:29):
Good.
Irin (12:30):
Good.
Lanette (12:31):
Tell us what sports do you play?
I play soccer, Soccer.
What position?
Nasir (12:38):
Defense and offense.
Lanette (12:40):
Are you a goalie?
Nope, what is the?
Do y'all have certain?
See, I'm learning y'all.
I have never had a soccerplayer, except for our daughter.
She played one game and thenCOVID happened, so I wasn't able
to learn the positions, so yougot to teach me.
I'll just be out there yellingfor you.
I don't know what be going on.
(13:01):
But come on now, let's go.
Let's go Get the ball, let's go.
So what's your position?
Called Defense and offense.
Nasir (13:09):
Okay, I mean, like the person that first has the ball,
it's a striker a striker.
Lanette (13:15):
Yes, see, I would have thought about baseball, like
they just straight out.
I guess I have to watch alittle more soccer.
Huh, your season is going to bestarting soon, soon, yeah, I'm
excited.
Your first game is on the 14th,right?
(13:36):
Yeah, the 14th of this month.
Yes, so y'all okay.
If you have not heard ourpodcast, as far as us having to
schedule out everything, youhave to go and listen to it.
This is exactly why we have toschedule things, because I
didn't know, you did not know, Idid not know you had a game on
(13:56):
the 14th, dad why didn't youtell her yeah, dad, I honestly
have not put it in the calendar,just yet.
So that's why it's veryimportant for us to have a
schedule and to put things inthe calendar, because I would
have not missed your game,because I would have figured out
where he was going.
But I'm so glad I didn't plananything because I would have to
(14:17):
cancel, because I have a gameto be at yeah, we're gonna win
100% this year, right?
Irin (14:22):
yes, so last year, yeah, outdoor season, no, I won't.
Nasir (14:30):
I won't.
Yeah, how many goals are yougoing for?
I got three, two and one.
All right, you scored at leastone goal.
Yeah, for the middle of theseason.
Irin (14:46):
What do you mean?
I guess, as far as, like, themiddle of the season, that's my
target.
Yeah, we're going to take thatover into the indoor soccer,
right.
Yeah, so we're going to takethat over into the indoor soccer
, right.
Nasir (14:57):
Yeah.
Irin (14:58):
I'm going to start giving it 100% indoor as well.
Lanette (15:00):
I like that.
It's like, oh, so okay, what isthe difference between indoor
and outdoor for you?
Nasir (15:13):
Indoor is a whole bunch of stuff, a whole bunch of stuff
like what it's a hockey stadiumand then you put fake grass on
it.
Irin (15:27):
Turf.
You don't like turf.
Nasir (15:29):
What is that?
Irin (15:30):
That's what you're talking about the fake grass.
Yes, I don't like that, becausethen if I fall, I'm one of them
.
Nasir (15:34):
That's a no-no.
I'll scratch girls.
Yes, I don't like that, becausethen if I fall, I'm one of them
.
Bitch, no, I'm not.
Irin (15:38):
That's what I said.
It'll be all right.
So when it comes down to it,though, man, if you're too fat,
you're not going to be a goodtalent, you're not going to win,
you're not going to be a goodhusband.
Lanette (16:01):
You've got your husband on the outside, absolutely,
because I would think you knowit's called the same.
I mean, maybe I'm only thinkingthat because I don't know.
But don't worry about the hot,uh, don't worry about the fake
dresses.
Go out there and give it 110every time that wall come your
way.
Put it in your mind it's me,I'm him.
You know what y'all been saying.
Yes, that's right.
(16:21):
You go out there and tellyourself I'm him.
Every time that ball come yourway, grab it, but don't grab it.
Nasir (16:29):
Because then it's called a foul.
No, it's called a handball, ohsee, gosh found.
No, it's called a handball, ohsee.
Lanette (16:35):
I thought I had it.
I thought I had it.
Irin (16:38):
So as far as school, you do like science, right?
Yes so what's the main thingthat you like about science?
Nasir (16:46):
We get to do projects.
Lanette (16:49):
We read about the solar system.
Nasir (16:51):
We're talking about it right now.
Your favorite planet, myfavorite planet, is Earth.
Good answer.
Irin (17:02):
So let's talk about one more thing and we'll let you go
get ready to bed.
So, Woo, yes, as far as you fitthe world.
How do you deal with theconflict?
Like, what do you mean In thefamily?
Like, as far as like with yoursiblings?
Is there any situations thatyou was like you know what?
Let me just talk this out.
(17:22):
Do you feel like you need tofight?
Like, how do you deal withthese issues?
Just ignore them.
Just ignore them, okay.
Do you separate yourselfSometimes, Sometimes, so in the
opposite times, like, do youactually Do you like playing
with your brothers and sistersyeah, Okay, good good.
Lanette (17:44):
Do you like sharing your toys?
Uh-oh.
Irin (17:48):
If there's one thing that you can change, if there's one
thing that you can change aboutyour sister to make her better,
who would it be?
There's one thing that youwould change about yourself to
make you better.
What would it be?
I don't know what.
What, what thing are you?
What is?
What's something that you'reworking on to make yourself
better?
Lanette (18:09):
Um, my tongue lies and and you know, we want to say
thank you for being here, openand honest about that, because
somebody who is listening to you, uh, may be a little boy, the
same age as you, a little girlor even an adult that lies, um,
because we know when you lie,what happens, you're in trouble,
(18:32):
and the truth always what comesback, it comes back.
So there's no reason to eventell that lie.
Just tell the truth, even whenyou don't want to, because it's
always gonna come back.
So thank you for uhacknowledging that that's
something that you want to workon and we're gonna hold you to
it.
Irin (18:52):
We're gonna hold you to it so, as far as, as far as, as
far as your chores, what do youlike doing the most?
Make sure you take notes onthis cause.
Lanette (19:12):
We wanna make sure we write it down right now you love
to do dusting?
Oh, whoa love to do dusting,huh.
So besides dusting, what elsedo you like to do?
Dusting, huh.
So besides dusting, what elsedo you like to do?
Is there anything like wipingthe windows in the bathroom?
(19:33):
Yeah, what's the least favoritething doing the bathroom?
I mean, no, doing the bathroom,toilet and the bath.
Nasir (19:51):
Yeah, nasty isn't it, and ?
Irin (19:52):
the dish dishes, yeah, dishes so we're going to make
sure we put that in one and whatI suggest you do because it's
funny.
Lanette (20:04):
I don't think any of y'all like doing the bathroom
and cleaning the toilet and allthat.
I mean nobody really does.
But tell your siblings to aimyes, and if y'all aim properly
then we'll be good.
Y'all don't have to worry aboutcleaning up all that extra
stuff.
Irin (20:24):
So do you have a favorite Bible verse?
Do you have a favorite Bibleverse?
What's your Bible verse?
Nasir (20:37):
this week Rejoice.
Always break into the way, giveall your sins, for this is
God's will for you and ChristJesus.
First I say all the answers 4,verse 18 wonderful.
Lanette (20:53):
Next one thing we want to make sure that we know who's
always number one in our life.
It's Jesus.
He is always number one in ourlife as long as we yes, right,
he is always number one in ourlife.
As long as we put God first, aslong as Jesus is our source, we
can never go wrong when we'reold and gray and even one day
(21:14):
when we're no longer here.
We want to make sure that youput God number one in your life
and you will succeed in lifeevery time.
Irin (21:24):
The reason why is because one day you'll have your own
life, you'll have your own house50 years from now.
You'll have your own children,and the only way you're going to
survive and thrive is if youhave the foundation of God.
Lanette (21:39):
I definitely want you to make sure you know who God is
and have a good relationshipwith God.
Oh, you know what?
Before we get off, I forgot,there's something special about
him he loves to sing.
No, I don't.
Yes, he does.
(21:59):
Last Sunday, him and hissiblings did an amazing job of
singing to everybody.
They had that microphone andthey were going and they had a
good time.
Do you want to sing to thepeople?
I'm not going to put you on thespot if you don't want to, but
that is something about you.
You come from a family that ismusically inclined, that can
(22:24):
sing, and he likes to sing,definitely.
Do you want to sing?
No, okay, that's not a problem,not at all.
Irin (22:35):
So do you want to end this podcast with a prayer?
Can you lead us in prayer?
Nasir (22:40):
Yeah, Okay go ahead.
God, thank you for this day.
Help us with anything tomorrow.
Thank you for what you gave metoday.
Thank you for putting me on apodcast.
Help me with the soccer gamethat I have on the 14th Amen,
(23:05):
amen.
Irin (23:06):
Amen, amen and amen.
Well, I'm Ira, I'm.
Lanette (23:11):
Lynette, I'm Nazir and we are.
Nasir (23:14):
Blending with the Frenches.
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