March 10, 2024 • 19 mins
Have you ever felt a disconnect between your goals and / or desires and your daily actions? This episode is a candid reflection on that universal struggle around the "D Word! That's right, today we are talking about discipline. I'm sharing where I struggle, even as a person who is very disciplined, and I also share strategies that can assist in bridging the gap. From writing down your goals to strategically delaying gratification, I divulge the actionable tips that can help strengthen how discipline shows up in your life. Remember, the journey of discipline is one we take together, so let's continue to inspire and be inspired by each other.
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Jenelle (00:03):
Hey y'all, I'm Jenelle Yarbrough and welcome to
Blockers and Friends.
This is your podcast fordiscussions around relevant
topics and experiences thatresonate with the culture.
For those of you who roll withme, you know we talk a lot about
embracing the possibility ofchange.
We'll continue to touch on that, and lots more Sound good Word
(00:25):
Get into it.
Hey, hey y'all.
How is everyone doing today?
How is everyone feeling today?
We're getting more daylight,the weather is getting better.
Hopefully that's allowingeveryone to get out and about
and live a little more life.
Yeah, I mean, I can take coolweather.
(00:48):
Dislike it, but I can take it.
But when it is just rainy andwindy, chow, get someone else to
do it.
I like to be in sigh, warm andcozy on days like that.
You feel me.
Y'all know what's next.
I want to shout out some of thelocations where our listeners
(01:09):
are tuning in, from Shout out toSpanaway Washington, everett
Washington, bellinghamWashington, jonesboro, georgia,
clinton Township, michigan andWarrenville, illinois.
Thank you so much to all of mylisteners, both new and
returning, for choosing to behere with us today, as usual, I
(01:31):
am grateful.
Y'all know what to do.
We've got to keep on buildingour little community here, so go
on ahead and forward, share,post this episode, put it in a
text message, send it to yourgroup chat, send it to your
social media followers.
You never know, this just maybe the podcast they didn't know
(01:52):
they needed.
Also, don't forget to subscribeto the podcast on whatever
platform you listen from.
This helps so that you canreceive notifications when new
episodes are released.
Last, if you have not followedus on IG, head on over, search
bloggers and friends podcast andclick follow.
You know we love to hear fromy'all, so make sure to also DM
(02:15):
us and tell us what you think ofthe episodes you've listened to
so far.
Topics you'd like to see mecover, or guess who you would
like for me to have on.
We're in this together.
Yeah, show is.
Let me start off by saying HappyPisces Season La, la, la, la,
la la, yes, honey, the season ofemotion, intuition and human
(02:38):
connection.
If you know what Pisces,welcome to the experience, say
it.
I know that I often talk aboutmy self-care Sundays, but listen
, let me tell you.
I turned on that playlist,honey.
We did a pre-shower face mask,did body exfoliation in the
shower, got out, did lipexfoliation chowd, had my stage
(03:01):
and white tea candle burning,not to be confused with our
favorite white tea and gingercandle from blessed and thankful
, and to who Continue, orMcCuticles Journaled, when I
tell you that self-pampering isalways on time.
Maybe I'll share some of myfavorite products with you all,
(03:22):
but I don't need anyone comingafter me like the product police
now.
Okay Deal, I don't need allthat.
These are the things that Ilike for me.
Did you get that?
I'm also hoping to suggestions,though.
Tell me if you have a self-careSunday and what routines and
products you use to pamperyourself, your body, your hair,
(03:45):
your mind, your spirit.
I love to learn about and trynew things.
So share honey, share, okay.
Okay, back on track, girl, backon track.
Have you ever, just out ofnowhere, just realize something
that you desire in life ismissing?
Maybe it's something you oncedid that you no longer do, or
(04:09):
something that you want to dofor yourself and you're trying
to attain it.
Like, maybe you used to go onjogs regularly and for some
reason, you stopped.
Or you used to cook, plannedout meals regularly and you no
longer do.
Maybe you are an avid readerand now you can't remember the
last time you picked up a book.
Maybe there is a certificationthat you would like to obtain,
(04:33):
but procrastination rides onyour hip like a pager from the
90s.
Honey, maybe you want to becomea homeowner, but it seems like
a far-off reality.
I'm sure we can all throw ourhand in the air and relate to
one of these.
Right, we can all pinpoint anarea whether it be a goal, a
(04:56):
habit, a routine or newbeginnings that we want to
commit to but are falling shortor just not following through on
.
We know what it takes to makeit happen, but can't quite
activate our go-go gadgetdiscipline.
That's right y'all.
Today we're gonna dive into theD word.
Oh snaps, y'all trying to getinto this with me today.
(05:18):
Count me in Word.
Let's do it.
Then let's get it.
Someone once told me thatdiscipline is like learning how
to take a cold shower.
In the beginning it's cold anduncomfortable, so uncomfortable
and you dread looking forward toit, so much so that you want to
(05:38):
give up.
But you stay committed.
And then you begin to turn thecorner and each day the shower
becomes a bit more tolerable,until one day you find your mind
and your body aligned andyou're able to take that cold
shower without the internalfight and resistance.
You as in who.
How often do we find ourselvesin moments when we are needing
(06:01):
to make inconvenient adjustmentsor changes but struggle with
getting through the discomfortthat the moment requires.
Listen, I can speak for myself.
Y'all know I keep it real right, like I don't exempt myself
from these conversations, honey.
I throw myself in the ringbecause, listen, a lot of the
(06:21):
things I'm talking about, I'mtalking about it because I'm
experiencing it or I've hadconversations with people around
this.
So so me, me, me, me, me, I canspeak for myself.
You have heard me say it beforeand I'll say it again the gym
facts.
And in all caps, girl hush, Ineed to be working out.
That's just period.
(06:43):
I need to be working out.
This is part of living a healthylife, right, this part of it.
You eat better, you work out,you keep your body in shape.
Man, listen, I am a couplepounds above my pocket weight
and I am only two second big.
So that couple pounds makes abig difference.
And I'm not a person who'sattached to the numbers on the
(07:03):
scale.
I don't even own a scale.
I don't even like scales, Idon't even.
I don't like them, right, those, those don't move me.
But, child, listen when he'sclosed here.
Did I done paid this hard toearn money for Start fitting my
body different?
Listen, all the alarms startgoing off.
Shout out to the pandemic forbringing back high wasted.
(07:30):
Let the church say amen.
Seriously, though, you all haveheard me fuss and laugh at
myself because there was a timewhen I was in the gym three to
four days a week.
Right, shout out to my sisterfor setting the bar back then.
She's still going strong.
Honey ain't never stopped.
That is her life, that is herlifestyle.
Love that for her.
Wish I had that in me in theway that she does.
(07:53):
But Then Honey, life was on thatass and between working full
time, going to school full timeand mom in full time, I started
prioritizing the gym differentlyand it began falling lower and
lower on the list.
Now, hey, y'all, here I am.
I'm here knowing that when Ireturn I'm going to have to have
(08:20):
a garbage being close becauseyour girl is definitely going to
be giving it up.
Body going to be all locked upthe next day.
Y'all know what I mean.
So it's going to take a littlesomething for me to wrap my mind
around looking forward to that.
Right, it's crazy because I amsuper disciplined in other areas
(08:41):
, like I have laser focused.
I've said it before that Irecognize this is something that
I have passed on to my kidsyour ability to tune the noise
out and get stuff done.
Yeah, it's real, we're on thatOlivia Pope vibe handle.
(09:03):
So the fact that I have not beenable to motivate myself to get
back into this routine isperplexing and it's just really
interesting to me.
There was a January 2023article from Psychology Today
which essentially suggests thatpeople move through six specific
(09:23):
stages on their way toaccomplishing a goal.
They have one pre-contemplationa person not even thinking
about change.
And then you have two, which iscontemplation, which is a
person starting to consider itlike okay, I really want to do
this, yeah, yeah, I'm going totry to move this idea forward.
(09:47):
And then three is preparationgetting ready to do something
different.
Four is action putting in thework.
Five is maintenance keeping itgoing.
And six is termination knowingthat there's no going back.
Like you dove all in, you'reall in, 100%.
(10:10):
No going back.
This is a space of consistency.
Right, you've done it.
And then I realized, as itrelates to my own relationship
to the gym here, yeah, is that Idon't make it past number two.
I'm sitting right here atContemplation, honey.
So, in considering these sixsteps, I see for myself that I
(10:35):
have to prepare, I have toprepare, I have to prepare for
it.
Like it is like right, like Iknow I want to do it Now.
I need to prepare, I need to dothe things that say I am
preparing, which likely means Ineed to re-up on the gym clothes
because, honey, the last time Ihave been to the gym, these
(10:58):
ain't the clothes that are goingto work for today.
Not going to work for today,honey, we're going to need some
new snacks and we're going toneed a few other items.
Okay, this is much like aperson would prepare for the
arrival of a new baby.
I know that sounds like A and Z, but roll with me on this.
(11:23):
It's how we may purchase newattire for a new professional
environment or in taking up anew hobby.
If someone wanted to take upbaking, they would buy the
proper pans and utensils.
If a person wanted to eathealthier, they would plan meals
and shopping lists.
Nothing about it.
This way.
It felt like I was solving ariddle.
(11:47):
It seemed so obvious, right,like so obvious.
Yeah, start, you want to go,start getting the things that
will make you successful indoing it right, and then do it,
and then do it, and then buildor work towards, I guess, being
consistent.
Be consistent, then you'rethere, right where you want to
(12:10):
be, janelle.
Come on, janelle, you can do it.
No, it really does seem soobvious when I say it in this
way.
When I was reading this article, I was like, oh, yeah, yeah,
yeah, that makes perfect sense.
And you know, as someone whoworks in a lot of change
(12:34):
management, like, yeah, thatmakes sense.
Right, they say information ispower, and sometimes thinking of
things with new information andperspective can bring us to a
new place of thought and action.
Sometimes that obvious thingjust needs to be, you know, set
in a megaphone, right?
(12:56):
I want to hear from all of y'allIs there something that you're
lacking discipline around?
If so, which stage in thestages of change model are you
at?
Let's share support and holdone another accountable to
achieving and obtaining thethings that we desire for
ourselves.
Message me and tell me aboutyour journey and I will keep you
posted on mine.
(13:16):
Let's go community, yeah, sothat's it, y'all.
I don't know that I could everget used to taking a cold shower
, nor do I want to, but I getthe theory and understand that
discipline requires makingdifferent choices and sometimes
sacrificing the comfort of themoment in order to achieve or
(13:37):
attain in the future.
We're talking long game, y'all.
Change can seem challenging fora lot of us.
I'm a change enthusiast and I'mstruggling with change in this
area of my life, so I canimagine how challenging it may
be for someone who feels anxiousor unsure when it comes to
creating lasting change.
(13:58):
That psychology today articleprovided five tips on how you
can become more disciplined.
One, they said, identify areaswhere you struggle most.
For some people it's followingthrough on a task or a
commitment.
For others it's finishing whatthey've started.
To set yourself up for success.
Sometimes the things that getin the way of being disciplined
(14:21):
are the things people tend notto consider, like getting enough
sleep or maintaining propernutrition.
Those types of things.
Number three notice the thoughtsand emotions that drain you of
that discipline that you need.
Pay attention to the emotionsand feelings that tend to derail
you and be mindful of the kindsof thoughts that keep you from
(14:43):
sticking to your commitments.
Number four write things downand set reminders.
Distraction is a big barrier todiscipline.
Hello, did you hear my lastepisode?
Set your reminders in yourphone or use organizational apps
and digital tools to keepyourself on track.
(15:04):
And number five and I think thatthis one might be my favorite
practice delayed gratification.
The article states that ourworld is wiring us all for the
instant gratification.
We've talked about that inprevious episodes.
Also, it's like the blessingand the curse of social media in
(15:25):
this new age of digitalexperiences that give you that
instant gratification all thetime right.
And it's never been easier totake shortcuts and stay on the
comfortable path of leastresistance.
But discipline requires delayedgratification, the ability to
(15:46):
sustain effort in the absence ofreward.
I must say that again theability to sustain effort in the
absence of reward.
They also provided some reallygreat examples of how to do this
.
They suggest that you startwith small practices, such as
not turning on the TV untilyou've completed all the
(16:09):
essential tasks on your to-dolist right.
Not opening TikTok or othersocial media apps until you've
sent those important emails.
Waiting to enjoy your morningcoffee until after you finished
a 30-minute workout.
Baby, that took me out.
That took me out a lot.
The way my eyes bulged on that?
(16:29):
I can't imagine, but it's agood one.
They're all three good examples.
Of course, these are justexamples.
You have to think about whatapplies to your life, right?
I also was reminded about habitstacking, not from the
Psychology Today article, buthabit stacking increases the
(16:51):
likelihood that you'll stickwith a habit by stacking your
new behavior on top of an oldone, right?
So if you want to read morebooks, maybe I read while I'm
warming up on an exercise bike,or one common one that I see
this is a trend that has pickedup in our office.
But people putting treadmillsunder their desk so that they
(17:12):
can exercise while working right?
One that I do personally is Iutilize my drive home from work
to have phone dates with mydaughters.
I use this to help me, one,flip the switch from work life
to personal life and two, tohelp me stay connected and make
sure that we have some dedicatedtime to just connect outside of
(17:36):
text messages but hear eachother's voice, catch up, all
that good stuff.
Those again, those are justsome examples.
I mean you have to think aboutyour life and think about where
habit stacking might be able tofit into your day to day.
Or again, the examples of thedelayed gratification.
The D word doesn't have to be anintimidating thing.
(18:00):
Matter of fact, to me as awoman, discipline is so damn
attractive.
It's one of the values that Idesire in a companion and I also
desire to strengthen in myself.
Let's not be out here lackingfriends.
We're all at different placesin life and have a different
(18:24):
capacity, but we have to startsomewhere right.
Whether you're a disciplinedperson who is working out the
kinks, or if you're someone whois learning how to implement
discipline into your life, weall have space in this
conversation.
We all need to know that we arecapable of affecting positive
change in our body, our spirit,our relationships, our life.
(18:49):
I know that's right.
Let's do it together, y'all Bewell.
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, be well.
Hey y'all, I'm Jenelle Yarbrough and welcome to
Blockers and Friends.
This is your podcast fordiscussions around relevant
topics and experiences thatresonate with the culture.
For those of you who roll withme, you know we talk a lot about
embracing the possibility ofchange.
We'll continue to touch on that, and lots more Sound good Word
(00:25):
Get into it.
Hey, hey y'all.
How is everyone doing today?
How is everyone feeling today?
We're getting more daylight,the weather is getting better.
Hopefully that's allowingeveryone to get out and about
and live a little more life.
Yeah, I mean, I can take coolweather.
(00:48):
Dislike it, but I can take it.
But when it is just rainy andwindy, chow, get someone else to
do it.
I like to be in sigh, warm andcozy on days like that.
You feel me.
Y'all know what's next.
I want to shout out some of thelocations where our listeners
(01:09):
are tuning in, from Shout out toSpanaway Washington, everett
Washington, bellinghamWashington, jonesboro, georgia,
clinton Township, michigan andWarrenville, illinois.
Thank you so much to all of mylisteners, both new and
returning, for choosing to behere with us today, as usual, I
(01:31):
am grateful.
Y'all know what to do.
We've got to keep on buildingour little community here, so go
on ahead and forward, share,post this episode, put it in a
text message, send it to yourgroup chat, send it to your
social media followers.
You never know, this just maybe the podcast they didn't know
(01:52):
they needed.
Also, don't forget to subscribeto the podcast on whatever
platform you listen from.
This helps so that you canreceive notifications when new
episodes are released.
Last, if you have not followedus on IG, head on over, search
bloggers and friends podcast andclick follow.
You know we love to hear fromy'all, so make sure to also DM
(02:15):
us and tell us what you think ofthe episodes you've listened to
so far.
Topics you'd like to see mecover, or guess who you would
like for me to have on.
We're in this together.
Yeah, show is.
Let me start off by saying HappyPisces Season La, la, la, la,
la la, yes, honey, the season ofemotion, intuition and human
(02:38):
connection.
If you know what Pisces,welcome to the experience, say
it.
I know that I often talk aboutmy self-care Sundays, but listen
, let me tell you.
I turned on that playlist,honey.
We did a pre-shower face mask,did body exfoliation in the
shower, got out, did lipexfoliation chowd, had my stage
(03:01):
and white tea candle burning,not to be confused with our
favorite white tea and gingercandle from blessed and thankful
, and to who Continue, orMcCuticles Journaled, when I
tell you that self-pampering isalways on time.
Maybe I'll share some of myfavorite products with you all,
(03:22):
but I don't need anyone comingafter me like the product police
now.
Okay Deal, I don't need allthat.
These are the things that Ilike for me.
Did you get that?
I'm also hoping to suggestions,though.
Tell me if you have a self-careSunday and what routines and
products you use to pamperyourself, your body, your hair,
(03:45):
your mind, your spirit.
I love to learn about and trynew things.
So share honey, share, okay.
Okay, back on track, girl, backon track.
Have you ever, just out ofnowhere, just realize something
that you desire in life ismissing?
Maybe it's something you oncedid that you no longer do, or
(04:09):
something that you want to dofor yourself and you're trying
to attain it.
Like, maybe you used to go onjogs regularly and for some
reason, you stopped.
Or you used to cook, plannedout meals regularly and you no
longer do.
Maybe you are an avid readerand now you can't remember the
last time you picked up a book.
Maybe there is a certificationthat you would like to obtain,
(04:33):
but procrastination rides onyour hip like a pager from the
90s.
Honey, maybe you want to becomea homeowner, but it seems like
a far-off reality.
I'm sure we can all throw ourhand in the air and relate to
one of these.
Right, we can all pinpoint anarea whether it be a goal, a
(04:56):
habit, a routine or newbeginnings that we want to
commit to but are falling shortor just not following through on
.
We know what it takes to makeit happen, but can't quite
activate our go-go gadgetdiscipline.
That's right y'all.
Today we're gonna dive into theD word.
Oh snaps, y'all trying to getinto this with me today.
(05:18):
Count me in Word.
Let's do it.
Then let's get it.
Someone once told me thatdiscipline is like learning how
to take a cold shower.
In the beginning it's cold anduncomfortable, so uncomfortable
and you dread looking forward toit, so much so that you want to
(05:38):
give up.
But you stay committed.
And then you begin to turn thecorner and each day the shower
becomes a bit more tolerable,until one day you find your mind
and your body aligned andyou're able to take that cold
shower without the internalfight and resistance.
You as in who.
How often do we find ourselvesin moments when we are needing
(06:01):
to make inconvenient adjustmentsor changes but struggle with
getting through the discomfortthat the moment requires.
Listen, I can speak for myself.
Y'all know I keep it real right, like I don't exempt myself
from these conversations, honey.
I throw myself in the ringbecause, listen, a lot of the
(06:21):
things I'm talking about, I'mtalking about it because I'm
experiencing it or I've hadconversations with people around
this.
So so me, me, me, me, me, I canspeak for myself.
You have heard me say it beforeand I'll say it again the gym
facts.
And in all caps, girl hush, Ineed to be working out.
That's just period.
(06:43):
I need to be working out.
This is part of living a healthylife, right, this part of it.
You eat better, you work out,you keep your body in shape.
Man, listen, I am a couplepounds above my pocket weight
and I am only two second big.
So that couple pounds makes abig difference.
And I'm not a person who'sattached to the numbers on the
(07:03):
scale.
I don't even own a scale.
I don't even like scales, Idon't even.
I don't like them, right, those, those don't move me.
But, child, listen when he'sclosed here.
Did I done paid this hard toearn money for Start fitting my
body different?
Listen, all the alarms startgoing off.
Shout out to the pandemic forbringing back high wasted.
(07:30):
Let the church say amen.
Seriously, though, you all haveheard me fuss and laugh at
myself because there was a timewhen I was in the gym three to
four days a week.
Right, shout out to my sisterfor setting the bar back then.
She's still going strong.
Honey ain't never stopped.
That is her life, that is herlifestyle.
Love that for her.
Wish I had that in me in theway that she does.
(07:53):
But Then Honey, life was on thatass and between working full
time, going to school full timeand mom in full time, I started
prioritizing the gym differentlyand it began falling lower and
lower on the list.
Now, hey, y'all, here I am.
I'm here knowing that when Ireturn I'm going to have to have
(08:20):
a garbage being close becauseyour girl is definitely going to
be giving it up.
Body going to be all locked upthe next day.
Y'all know what I mean.
So it's going to take a littlesomething for me to wrap my mind
around looking forward to that.
Right, it's crazy because I amsuper disciplined in other areas
(08:41):
, like I have laser focused.
I've said it before that Irecognize this is something that
I have passed on to my kidsyour ability to tune the noise
out and get stuff done.
Yeah, it's real, we're on thatOlivia Pope vibe handle.
(09:03):
So the fact that I have not beenable to motivate myself to get
back into this routine isperplexing and it's just really
interesting to me.
There was a January 2023article from Psychology Today
which essentially suggests thatpeople move through six specific
(09:23):
stages on their way toaccomplishing a goal.
They have one pre-contemplationa person not even thinking
about change.
And then you have two, which iscontemplation, which is a
person starting to consider itlike okay, I really want to do
this, yeah, yeah, I'm going totry to move this idea forward.
(09:47):
And then three is preparationgetting ready to do something
different.
Four is action putting in thework.
Five is maintenance keeping itgoing.
And six is termination knowingthat there's no going back.
Like you dove all in, you'reall in, 100%.
(10:10):
No going back.
This is a space of consistency.
Right, you've done it.
And then I realized, as itrelates to my own relationship
to the gym here, yeah, is that Idon't make it past number two.
I'm sitting right here atContemplation, honey.
So, in considering these sixsteps, I see for myself that I
(10:35):
have to prepare, I have toprepare, I have to prepare for
it.
Like it is like right, like Iknow I want to do it Now.
I need to prepare, I need to dothe things that say I am
preparing, which likely means Ineed to re-up on the gym clothes
because, honey, the last time Ihave been to the gym, these
(10:58):
ain't the clothes that are goingto work for today.
Not going to work for today,honey, we're going to need some
new snacks and we're going toneed a few other items.
Okay, this is much like aperson would prepare for the
arrival of a new baby.
I know that sounds like A and Z, but roll with me on this.
(11:23):
It's how we may purchase newattire for a new professional
environment or in taking up anew hobby.
If someone wanted to take upbaking, they would buy the
proper pans and utensils.
If a person wanted to eathealthier, they would plan meals
and shopping lists.
Nothing about it.
This way.
It felt like I was solving ariddle.
(11:47):
It seemed so obvious, right,like so obvious.
Yeah, start, you want to go,start getting the things that
will make you successful indoing it right, and then do it,
and then do it, and then buildor work towards, I guess, being
consistent.
Be consistent, then you'rethere, right where you want to
(12:10):
be, janelle.
Come on, janelle, you can do it.
No, it really does seem soobvious when I say it in this
way.
When I was reading this article, I was like, oh, yeah, yeah,
yeah, that makes perfect sense.
And you know, as someone whoworks in a lot of change
(12:34):
management, like, yeah, thatmakes sense.
Right, they say information ispower, and sometimes thinking of
things with new information andperspective can bring us to a
new place of thought and action.
Sometimes that obvious thingjust needs to be, you know, set
in a megaphone, right?
(12:56):
I want to hear from all of y'allIs there something that you're
lacking discipline around?
If so, which stage in thestages of change model are you
at?
Let's share support and holdone another accountable to
achieving and obtaining thethings that we desire for
ourselves.
Message me and tell me aboutyour journey and I will keep you
posted on mine.
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Let's go community, yeah, sothat's it, y'all.
I don't know that I could everget used to taking a cold shower
, nor do I want to, but I getthe theory and understand that
discipline requires makingdifferent choices and sometimes
sacrificing the comfort of themoment in order to achieve or
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attain in the future.
We're talking long game, y'all.
Change can seem challenging fora lot of us.
I'm a change enthusiast and I'mstruggling with change in this
area of my life, so I canimagine how challenging it may
be for someone who feels anxiousor unsure when it comes to
creating lasting change.
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That psychology today articleprovided five tips on how you
can become more disciplined.
One, they said, identify areaswhere you struggle most.
For some people it's followingthrough on a task or a
commitment.
For others it's finishing whatthey've started.
To set yourself up for success.
Sometimes the things that getin the way of being disciplined
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are the things people tend notto consider, like getting enough
sleep or maintaining propernutrition.
Those types of things.
Number three notice the thoughtsand emotions that drain you of
that discipline that you need.
Pay attention to the emotionsand feelings that tend to derail
you and be mindful of the kindsof thoughts that keep you from
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sticking to your commitments.
Number four write things downand set reminders.
Distraction is a big barrier todiscipline.
Hello, did you hear my lastepisode?
Set your reminders in yourphone or use organizational apps
and digital tools to keepyourself on track.
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And number five and I think thatthis one might be my favorite
practice delayed gratification.
The article states that ourworld is wiring us all for the
instant gratification.
We've talked about that inprevious episodes.
Also, it's like the blessingand the curse of social media in
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this new age of digitalexperiences that give you that
instant gratification all thetime right.
And it's never been easier totake shortcuts and stay on the
comfortable path of leastresistance.
But discipline requires delayedgratification, the ability to
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sustain effort in the absence ofreward.
I must say that again theability to sustain effort in the
absence of reward.
They also provided some reallygreat examples of how to do this
.
They suggest that you startwith small practices, such as
not turning on the TV untilyou've completed all the
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essential tasks on your to-dolist right.
Not opening TikTok or othersocial media apps until you've
sent those important emails.
Waiting to enjoy your morningcoffee until after you finished
a 30-minute workout.
Baby, that took me out.
That took me out a lot.
The way my eyes bulged on that?
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I can't imagine, but it's agood one.
They're all three good examples.
Of course, these are justexamples.
You have to think about whatapplies to your life, right?
I also was reminded about habitstacking, not from the
Psychology Today article, buthabit stacking increases the
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likelihood that you'll stickwith a habit by stacking your
new behavior on top of an oldone, right?
So if you want to read morebooks, maybe I read while I'm
warming up on an exercise bike,or one common one that I see
this is a trend that has pickedup in our office.
But people putting treadmillsunder their desk so that they
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can exercise while working right?
One that I do personally is Iutilize my drive home from work
to have phone dates with mydaughters.
I use this to help me, one,flip the switch from work life
to personal life and two, tohelp me stay connected and make
sure that we have some dedicatedtime to just connect outside of
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text messages but hear eachother's voice, catch up, all
that good stuff.
Those again, those are justsome examples.
I mean you have to think aboutyour life and think about where
habit stacking might be able tofit into your day to day.
Or again, the examples of thedelayed gratification.
The D word doesn't have to be anintimidating thing.
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Matter of fact, to me as awoman, discipline is so damn
attractive.
It's one of the values that Idesire in a companion and I also
desire to strengthen in myself.
Let's not be out here lackingfriends.
We're all at different placesin life and have a different
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capacity, but we have to startsomewhere right.
Whether you're a disciplinedperson who is working out the
kinks, or if you're someone whois learning how to implement
discipline into your life, weall have space in this
conversation.
We all need to know that we arecapable of affecting positive
change in our body, our spirit,our relationships, our life.
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I know that's right.
Let's do it together, y'all Bewell.
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