February 28, 2025 • 20 mins
Two things stop people from taking action on the ideas that they have to make their own lives, their communities, their workplaces, families, and the world a better place.
- They think that they’re not special enough…or
- They think they’re too special to work hard for it.
Both of these beliefs are just as harmful, because both of them rob the world of what what we have to give.
Both of them are about seeing ourselves as different, special, and other.
They are two different sides of the same coin, or for today’s purposes- two different sides of the same snowflake.
We all have these snowflake moments! There’s no shame in it as long as we call it what it is; a snowflake moment. A moment where we think we’re a little more or less special than everyone else.
Because it’s okay to be a snowflake if that means you realize you are a once ever happening complete miracle of a human being that has drop dead gorgeous things to do and say and be in the world.
AND if you realize that everyone else is just that special too.
It’s a freaking blizzard out there. When we can overcome our separateness and illusions of otherness, that’s when we start really living with the freedom and the power to make our ideas real.
What you’ll learn in today’s episode:
- Examples of the snowflake moments that sneak up on us
- What become possible when we realize that we’re incredibly special, and that everyone else is too
- How entitlement and self depreciation both step from ego
- How freedom from both of those things allows us the self worth to walk away from anything that detracts from our power
- How clarity, peace, passion and curiosity replace snowflake syndrome
- How we can begin to hear the whispers of possibility that have always been there, when the snowflake noise dies down
Freedom, healing, and ideas that create a better world come when every single one of us realizes that we are in fact undeniably and unbelievably special…and EVERYONE else is too.
Because the only way that we can have a snow pack is if we allow ourselves to be a snowflake. AND the only way that we can have a snow pack is if we understand that everybody else is one too.
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Welcome to the Bloom your Mind Podcast, where we take
all of your ideas for what youwant and we turn them into real
things.
I'm your host, certified CoachMarie McDonald.
Let's get into it.
Hello everybody, and welcome toepisode number 116 of the Bloom
(00:34):
your Mind podcast.
We're going to talk aboutsnowflakes today.
We are, and I wanted to tellyou first that I just got back
from a plane trip.
I just landed from a plane rideto San Francisco, where I used
to live for like eight years,and I, for the last two days,
facilitated a retreat with mymagnificent co-founder and
(00:58):
principal of an organizationcalled Bloom Leadership, and she
and I facilitated this retreatfor a group of change makers,
really teaching them how tocommunicate and give feedback,
how to listen, how to lead.
We led them through a bunch ofstrategic planning stuff and God
(01:18):
, it just feels incredible tospend time like that doing what
I feel always like I am in thezone when I am leading a retreat
, when I am speaking to a groupand facilitating a group and
coaching groups.
It is just so awesome and I amso grateful to be doing that
(01:39):
work, and also not just that Ifeel so in the zone, but I'm
doing this work with someone Iadore who also is super
passionate about this work.
But this work is just so worldchanging because everything
comes down to communication, alltypes of leadership come down
(01:59):
to communication.
When, if everyone in everyorganization could really truly
listen, actively listen andproblem solve, could give
feedback that wasn't all muddiedby black or white thinking and
their mind before they decidehow to act, organizations would
(02:29):
be so much more effectiveEntrepreneurs, relationships.
It's just so cool to facilitateworkshops around feedback,
communication, listening,relationships, leadership and
just see people blossom andchange, because we know that the
ripple effect of that isorganizations being more
effective at the things they'retrying to do, and we tend to
(02:51):
work with change-makingorganizations a lot, so it's
really cool.
So, anyways, I just am sofulfilled by that work that I
wanted to celebrate more peopledoing the work of training their
leaders to listen andcommunicate.
Well, so exciting.
And now I'm going to talk alittle bit about this idea of
snowflakes.
(03:11):
I know you're wondering whatI'm talking about, okay.
Well, there are two things thatI see holding people back as I
coach them in the bloom room, asI coach them individually to
make their ideas for what theywant in their own lives.
Maybe that's changes in theirown physical body, their own
(03:33):
living environment,relationships, those ideas or
the communities that they're apart of, or the world, like you
know starting organizations oryou know making changes in the
world.
There are two things that I seeholding people back the most,
and they all live in the mind.
(03:54):
Two things stop people fromtaking action on the ideas that
they have to make their lives,their communities, their
workplaces and families in theworld a better place.
Lives, their communities, theirworkplaces and families in the
world a better place.
Those two things are that theyeither think they're not special
enough, they're not worthy, orthey don't have something unique
(04:16):
to give.
That's one of the two things.
Or the second thing is theythink they're different than
everyone else, or that it shouldbe easier for them, they should
get more unique opportunities,they should have been discovered
, it should work out withouteffort.
It's too hard.
(04:37):
Each of these things is just asharmful as the other.
Whether an individual thinksthey're not special enough or
they're too special, both ofthose things are just as harmful
to the world, because both ofthose ways of thinking stop
people in their tracks and robthe world of what we have to
(05:00):
give have to give.
Both of them are about seeingourselves as different, special
and other than everybody else.
They're two different sides ofthe exact same coin or, for
today's purposes, the exact samesnowflake.
We think we're a snowflakebecause things are different for
(05:23):
us, whether that's because wethink we're special or because
we think we're a snowflakebecause things are different for
us, whether that's because wethink we're special or because
we think we're not.
Either of those beliefs ormoments where we're thinking
this way, either of those waysof thinking, rob the world of
the goodness that we can give it.
And so often I work with peoplethat don't realize that they're
(05:46):
in a snowflake moment.
And you know, we all have them.
We all have these moments wherewe're a little victim-y or a
little down on ourselves, andthere is no shame in that.
It's all good.
We all have these moments, butlet's call them what they are.
We all have these moments, butlet's call them what they are.
(06:09):
What would happen if, instead ofdiving down into that feeling
of I have nothing unique to say,I just like all these people
around me, they're so special,they're so amazing, they're
doing such great things and Ijust don't have anything,
instead of diving into thatmoment or into the other moment.
That's like, oh, it's just toohard.
Everything is just nothingcomes easy to me and it comes
easy to other people and I justlike I have to work too hard at
(06:31):
this and I'm just not gettingopportunities.
Instead of diving into thatmoment, what if we just call it
what it is and realize, hey,we're having a bit of a
snowflake moment and we shake itoff because it's okay to have
those moments.
We're human and it's okay to bea snowflake.
(06:53):
If that means that you realizethat you are a once ever
happening complete miracle of ahuman being that has drop-dead
gorgeous things to do and sayand be in the world, and if you
realize that everybody else istoo, you get to be a snowflake.
(07:15):
As long as you know thateverybody else is a snowflake
too.
It's a freaking blizzard outthere.
And when we get past ourseparateness and illusions of
otherness, of being not specialenough or more special than
everybody else, that's when westart really living.
(07:36):
And the reason I wanted tobring this up today is because
there's this whole thing of likespecial snowflake syndrome,
where someone thinks thatthey're special, they think that
they're different, they thinkthat what they're experiencing
is different than what everybodyelse is, and I just want to
address that.
That's true, it's just true ofevery single one of us, every
(07:59):
single one of us.
And when we can realize that weboth get to be, ultimately,
completely unapologetically,gorgeously special and not more
special than anybody else, dang,that's when life gets really
good.
And I also want to say againthat all of us have these
(08:22):
moments of believing both thingsthat we're just not as special
as the people around us and thatwe're more special than the
people around us.
And it's all right to havethese little moments.
Let's just get ourselves backout of them, shake them off,
laugh about it, know that allthe other snowflakes have those
moments too.
It's all good, right.
(08:42):
So here are some examples ofhow I see this happening for
people.
Sometimes we have this feelingI'm working so hard, I've just
worked so hard and I haven'tgotten a break.
Or I just work so hard day inand day out.
Or I do all the work in thehouse, I do all the work in the
family, I do all the work atwork.
(09:04):
Right, we have a feeling thatwe're working so hard and I just
invite us when we're in thatkind of a moment to know that
everybody else is working reallyhard too, and to even maybe
start to recognize verbally, ifwe can, if not, just do it in
(09:25):
our minds and start to try torecognize how hard everybody
else is working too.
So in a relationship, one ofthe primary things that couples
argue about when we havefamilies is how hard we're
working.
I'm working so hard, no, I'mworking so hard.
When we have that feelingourselves, the best medicine is
(09:51):
to give the other person what wewant for ourselves.
So if we want recognition forhow hard we're working, start to
give recognition to otherpeople for how hard they're
working, and just watch themagic that happens to other
people for how hard they'reworking, and just watch the
magic that happens.
You know another funny one thatI see happening I just love my
(10:11):
kids more than anything in theworld.
My kids are just the mostspecial human beings on the
planet.
They're just so special.
They're my world.
That is so true.
And guess what?
Everybody else's kids are themost special kids in the entire
world too.
You get to love your kids morethan anyone has ever loved a kid
(10:34):
before.
And guess what?
All the other parents out therelove their kids more than
anyone has ever loved a kidbefore.
Also, we get to feel that way,but not more than other people.
We get to have the hard lossesof people that we love that we
lose, and know that those hardlosses are not harder than the
(10:59):
losses that other people havegone through too.
We can know that we can deserverespect.
We can know that we can deserveto have respect and have people
show us that respect and speakto us with that respect with
(11:19):
their body language, with howthey address us.
We can know that we are queensand kings walking around the
world and that everybody elsedeserves that respect just as
much as we do.
So again, in those momentswhere we feel like we deserve
more respect, we can start bytreating other people with the
(11:42):
respect that we're looking forand just watch what magic
happens.
So good.
A couple of other things that Isee happening is when people
feel like they deserve to berecognized or promoted or lifted
up or discovered, and in thosemoments where we really feel
like we deserve that, how can wejust know that we do deserve
(12:03):
that and not any more thananybody else deserves that?
Pretty cool right.
Just watch how freeing it feels, when you really let go of any
of that superiority and you justunderstand you do deserve all
(12:23):
of the success, but not morethan anybody else deserves it.
I also see when people feellike I am just so busy and I
have such important things to do.
When you really feel like that,how might you start to notice
how busy other people are or howimportant the things that they
(12:46):
have to do are just as importantas yours?
Or if it feels like life hasbeen really hard?
The more times that I leadretreats and workshops and the
more time that I spend coachinghuman beings that trust me with
the most precious thing thatthey have, which is their story
(13:08):
and their truth and their livedexperience, the more I
understand.
Everybody has had a rock bottom.
Everyone has had a rock bottom.
Everybody has lived throughreally hard stuff, and if we can
(13:32):
just know that our hard stuffis so hard and not harder than
anybody else's, there's so muchfreedom and connection and
lightness in that, when we canvalidate how special and hard
and unique and wonderful andterrible and whatever it is that
we're experiencing is, and alsoknow that it's no more any of
those things than any of thebeautiful human beings around us
(13:55):
.
What happens when we know this?
Let me tell you, when we knowwe are a special, special
snowflake are you sick of mesaying that?
Yet I love it when we're aspecial snowflake and everybody
else is too.
What it creates is 100%responsibility for our actions,
(14:17):
100% permission to get out thereand create our own reality.
Change the world, turn ourideas into real things, one
after another after another, butdo it with zero entitlement,
because we don't deserveanything more than anybody else.
And zero comparison.
(14:40):
Right that compare and despairvibe.
We stopped doing that becausewe're all on a hero's journey
and our hero's journey is epic,but no more epic than anybody
else's.
So we have zero superioritycomplex because you are a
special snowflake and everyoneelse is too.
It is a blizzard when werealize that, when we understand
that every single one of us isa world-shaking, cycle-breaking,
(15:02):
beautiful miracle of a beastwalking around.
That's when the world changesfor the better.
I have my son is in a baseballleague and I watch the coach who
is coaching his baseball team,and at first the coach texted me
after the first couple gamesand told me how special my son
(15:23):
was, and I was like God.
This is incredible.
He's really feeling it, hereally sees my kid and I was
like, oh, he really sees him,right.
And then I realized he's doingthis for every single kid.
And then I started watchingthis incredible coach and he is
treating every single one of thekids on his team as a little
(15:44):
king, as a little universe, as alittle miracle, because he
knows that every, he knows this,every single one of them is
everything, and so he interactswith every single one of them
like a sleeping giant, you know,like the next baseball star of
(16:09):
the next generation.
Every single one of them getsto be that in his eyes and he
interacts with every single oneof them like that.
And what happens?
When all of us are that beast inour own eyes and everybody else
is that beast in our eyes too?
We stop living to meet otherpeople's expectations, because
what is the point of that whenwe have nothing to prove?
(16:30):
That's when we stop beingdistracted by our body size and
the shape of our nose, the colorof our skin, the wrinkles on
our skin, and we let all thatmental space be taken up instead
with our passions, ourcuriosity, our love of life,
because we're once everhappening, snowflake.
We're perfect the way we are,so we stop worrying about it,
(16:52):
and all that mental space istaken up with all the good stuff
.
It's when we fall head overheels in love with ourselves in
that way where we walk away fromanything and anybody that makes
us feel unworthy because wehave our own back so hard.
We will not waste a moment ofour time allowing ourselves to
be made to feel small or waste amoment of our time making
(17:15):
anybody else feel small.
And when we clear our minds likethat, knowing we are
spectacularly special andeverybody else is too, our time
is incredibly valuable, and notmore than anybody else's time.
(17:36):
It gives us enough space in ourminds and enough peace to start
listening to the whispers ofpossibility, the little sparks
of ideas.
We have enough energy andmotivation to start acting on
those ideas for how our littleworlds, the health of our bodies
, our minds, our homes andrelationships, how those could
(17:59):
be better Ideas for thecommunities we live in.
Little fun ones.
Little fun ideas to go dancing,or fun ideas for a book club,
or fun ideas for, you know, likea community activism campaign
that's going to start changingthe things we really care about
in our communities.
Or ideas for the big world,humanity and the planet, no
(18:20):
matter what size the ideas.
We start hearing those littleglittering ideas because our
brain has space and peace andcuriosity in it, and that's when
we start taking actions to makethose ideas real, because we
know we're worth it andeverybody else is worth it too.
Our ideas are worth it andtheir ideas are too.
(18:43):
That's when we know that theonly way that we can have a
snowpack is if we allowourselves to be a snowflake, and
the only way we can have asnowpack is if we understand
that everybody else is one too.
So how can you treat yourselfand everybody around you like a
(19:06):
little bit more of a miracletoday and tomorrow and the next
day?
That's what I've got for youtoday, and I will see you next
week.
(19:29):
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(19:51):
I'll see you in the Bloom Room,thank you.
Welcome to the Bloom your Mind Podcast, where we take
all of your ideas for what youwant and we turn them into real
things.
I'm your host, certified CoachMarie McDonald.
Let's get into it.
Hello everybody, and welcome toepisode number 116 of the Bloom
(00:34):
your Mind podcast.
We're going to talk aboutsnowflakes today.
We are, and I wanted to tellyou first that I just got back
from a plane trip.
I just landed from a plane rideto San Francisco, where I used
to live for like eight years,and I, for the last two days,
facilitated a retreat with mymagnificent co-founder and
(00:58):
principal of an organizationcalled Bloom Leadership, and she
and I facilitated this retreatfor a group of change makers,
really teaching them how tocommunicate and give feedback,
how to listen, how to lead.
We led them through a bunch ofstrategic planning stuff and God
(01:18):
, it just feels incredible tospend time like that doing what
I feel always like I am in thezone when I am leading a retreat
, when I am speaking to a groupand facilitating a group and
coaching groups.
It is just so awesome and I amso grateful to be doing that
(01:39):
work, and also not just that Ifeel so in the zone, but I'm
doing this work with someone Iadore who also is super
passionate about this work.
But this work is just so worldchanging because everything
comes down to communication, alltypes of leadership come down
(01:59):
to communication.
When, if everyone in everyorganization could really truly
listen, actively listen andproblem solve, could give
feedback that wasn't all muddiedby black or white thinking and
their mind before they decidehow to act, organizations would
(02:29):
be so much more effectiveEntrepreneurs, relationships.
It's just so cool to facilitateworkshops around feedback,
communication, listening,relationships, leadership and
just see people blossom andchange, because we know that the
ripple effect of that isorganizations being more
effective at the things they'retrying to do, and we tend to
(02:51):
work with change-makingorganizations a lot, so it's
really cool.
So, anyways, I just am sofulfilled by that work that I
wanted to celebrate more peopledoing the work of training their
leaders to listen andcommunicate.
Well, so exciting.
And now I'm going to talk alittle bit about this idea of
snowflakes.
(03:11):
I know you're wondering whatI'm talking about, okay.
Well, there are two things thatI see holding people back as I
coach them in the bloom room, asI coach them individually to
make their ideas for what theywant in their own lives.
Maybe that's changes in theirown physical body, their own
(03:33):
living environment,relationships, those ideas or
the communities that they're apart of, or the world, like you
know starting organizations oryou know making changes in the
world.
There are two things that I seeholding people back the most,
and they all live in the mind.
(03:54):
Two things stop people fromtaking action on the ideas that
they have to make their lives,their communities, their
workplaces and families in theworld a better place.
Lives, their communities, theirworkplaces and families in the
world a better place.
Those two things are that theyeither think they're not special
enough, they're not worthy, orthey don't have something unique
(04:16):
to give.
That's one of the two things.
Or the second thing is theythink they're different than
everyone else, or that it shouldbe easier for them, they should
get more unique opportunities,they should have been discovered
, it should work out withouteffort.
It's too hard.
(04:37):
Each of these things is just asharmful as the other.
Whether an individual thinksthey're not special enough or
they're too special, both ofthose things are just as harmful
to the world, because both ofthose ways of thinking stop
people in their tracks and robthe world of what we have to
(05:00):
give have to give.
Both of them are about seeingourselves as different, special
and other than everybody else.
They're two different sides ofthe exact same coin or, for
today's purposes, the exact samesnowflake.
We think we're a snowflakebecause things are different for
(05:23):
us, whether that's because wethink we're special or because
we think we're a snowflakebecause things are different for
us, whether that's because wethink we're special or because
we think we're not.
Either of those beliefs ormoments where we're thinking
this way, either of those waysof thinking, rob the world of
the goodness that we can give it.
And so often I work with peoplethat don't realize that they're
(05:46):
in a snowflake moment.
And you know, we all have them.
We all have these moments wherewe're a little victim-y or a
little down on ourselves, andthere is no shame in that.
It's all good.
We all have these moments, butlet's call them what they are.
We all have these moments, butlet's call them what they are.
(06:09):
What would happen if, instead ofdiving down into that feeling
of I have nothing unique to say,I just like all these people
around me, they're so special,they're so amazing, they're
doing such great things and Ijust don't have anything,
instead of diving into thatmoment or into the other moment.
That's like, oh, it's just toohard.
Everything is just nothingcomes easy to me and it comes
easy to other people and I justlike I have to work too hard at
(06:31):
this and I'm just not gettingopportunities.
Instead of diving into thatmoment, what if we just call it
what it is and realize, hey,we're having a bit of a
snowflake moment and we shake itoff because it's okay to have
those moments.
We're human and it's okay to bea snowflake.
(06:53):
If that means that you realizethat you are a once ever
happening complete miracle of ahuman being that has drop-dead
gorgeous things to do and sayand be in the world, and if you
realize that everybody else istoo, you get to be a snowflake.
(07:15):
As long as you know thateverybody else is a snowflake
too.
It's a freaking blizzard outthere.
And when we get past ourseparateness and illusions of
otherness, of being not specialenough or more special than
everybody else, that's when westart really living.
(07:36):
And the reason I wanted tobring this up today is because
there's this whole thing of likespecial snowflake syndrome,
where someone thinks thatthey're special, they think that
they're different, they thinkthat what they're experiencing
is different than what everybodyelse is, and I just want to
address that.
That's true, it's just true ofevery single one of us, every
(07:59):
single one of us.
And when we can realize that weboth get to be, ultimately,
completely unapologetically,gorgeously special and not more
special than anybody else, dang,that's when life gets really
good.
And I also want to say againthat all of us have these
(08:22):
moments of believing both thingsthat we're just not as special
as the people around us and thatwe're more special than the
people around us.
And it's all right to havethese little moments.
Let's just get ourselves backout of them, shake them off,
laugh about it, know that allthe other snowflakes have those
moments too.
It's all good, right.
(08:42):
So here are some examples ofhow I see this happening for
people.
Sometimes we have this feelingI'm working so hard, I've just
worked so hard and I haven'tgotten a break.
Or I just work so hard day inand day out.
Or I do all the work in thehouse, I do all the work in the
family, I do all the work atwork.
(09:04):
Right, we have a feeling thatwe're working so hard and I just
invite us when we're in thatkind of a moment to know that
everybody else is working reallyhard too, and to even maybe
start to recognize verbally, ifwe can, if not, just do it in
(09:25):
our minds and start to try torecognize how hard everybody
else is working too.
So in a relationship, one ofthe primary things that couples
argue about when we havefamilies is how hard we're
working.
I'm working so hard, no, I'mworking so hard.
When we have that feelingourselves, the best medicine is
(09:51):
to give the other person what wewant for ourselves.
So if we want recognition forhow hard we're working, start to
give recognition to otherpeople for how hard they're
working, and just watch themagic that happens to other
people for how hard they'reworking, and just watch the
magic that happens.
You know another funny one thatI see happening I just love my
(10:11):
kids more than anything in theworld.
My kids are just the mostspecial human beings on the
planet.
They're just so special.
They're my world.
That is so true.
And guess what?
Everybody else's kids are themost special kids in the entire
world too.
You get to love your kids morethan anyone has ever loved a kid
(10:34):
before.
And guess what?
All the other parents out therelove their kids more than
anyone has ever loved a kidbefore.
Also, we get to feel that way,but not more than other people.
We get to have the hard lossesof people that we love that we
lose, and know that those hardlosses are not harder than the
(10:59):
losses that other people havegone through too.
We can know that we can deserverespect.
We can know that we can deserveto have respect and have people
show us that respect and speakto us with that respect with
(11:19):
their body language, with howthey address us.
We can know that we are queensand kings walking around the
world and that everybody elsedeserves that respect just as
much as we do.
So again, in those momentswhere we feel like we deserve
more respect, we can start bytreating other people with the
(11:42):
respect that we're looking forand just watch what magic
happens.
So good.
A couple of other things that Isee happening is when people
feel like they deserve to berecognized or promoted or lifted
up or discovered, and in thosemoments where we really feel
like we deserve that, how can wejust know that we do deserve
(12:03):
that and not any more thananybody else deserves that?
Pretty cool right.
Just watch how freeing it feels, when you really let go of any
of that superiority and you justunderstand you do deserve all
(12:23):
of the success, but not morethan anybody else deserves it.
I also see when people feellike I am just so busy and I
have such important things to do.
When you really feel like that,how might you start to notice
how busy other people are or howimportant the things that they
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have to do are just as importantas yours?
Or if it feels like life hasbeen really hard?
The more times that I leadretreats and workshops and the
more time that I spend coachinghuman beings that trust me with
the most precious thing thatthey have, which is their story
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and their truth and their livedexperience, the more I
understand.
Everybody has had a rock bottom.
Everyone has had a rock bottom.
Everybody has lived throughreally hard stuff, and if we can
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just know that our hard stuffis so hard and not harder than
anybody else's, there's so muchfreedom and connection and
lightness in that, when we canvalidate how special and hard
and unique and wonderful andterrible and whatever it is that
we're experiencing is, and alsoknow that it's no more any of
those things than any of thebeautiful human beings around us
(13:55):
.
What happens when we know this?
Let me tell you, when we knowwe are a special, special
snowflake are you sick of mesaying that?
Yet I love it when we're aspecial snowflake and everybody
else is too.
What it creates is 100%responsibility for our actions,
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100% permission to get out thereand create our own reality.
Change the world, turn ourideas into real things, one
after another after another, butdo it with zero entitlement,
because we don't deserveanything more than anybody else.
And zero comparison.
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Right that compare and despairvibe.
We stopped doing that becausewe're all on a hero's journey
and our hero's journey is epic,but no more epic than anybody
else's.
So we have zero superioritycomplex because you are a
special snowflake and everyoneelse is too.
It is a blizzard when werealize that, when we understand
that every single one of us isa world-shaking, cycle-breaking,
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beautiful miracle of a beastwalking around.
That's when the world changesfor the better.
I have my son is in a baseballleague and I watch the coach who
is coaching his baseball team,and at first the coach texted me
after the first couple gamesand told me how special my son
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was, and I was like God.
This is incredible.
He's really feeling it, hereally sees my kid and I was
like, oh, he really sees him,right.
And then I realized he's doingthis for every single kid.
And then I started watchingthis incredible coach and he is
treating every single one of thekids on his team as a little
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king, as a little universe, as alittle miracle, because he
knows that every, he knows this,every single one of them is
everything, and so he interactswith every single one of them
like a sleeping giant, you know,like the next baseball star of
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the next generation.
Every single one of them getsto be that in his eyes and he
interacts with every single oneof them like that.
And what happens?
When all of us are that beast inour own eyes and everybody else
is that beast in our eyes too?
We stop living to meet otherpeople's expectations, because
what is the point of that whenwe have nothing to prove?
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That's when we stop beingdistracted by our body size and
the shape of our nose, the colorof our skin, the wrinkles on
our skin, and we let all thatmental space be taken up instead
with our passions, ourcuriosity, our love of life,
because we're once everhappening, snowflake.
We're perfect the way we are,so we stop worrying about it,
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and all that mental space istaken up with all the good stuff
.
It's when we fall head overheels in love with ourselves in
that way where we walk away fromanything and anybody that makes
us feel unworthy because wehave our own back so hard.
We will not waste a moment ofour time allowing ourselves to
be made to feel small or waste amoment of our time making
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anybody else feel small.
And when we clear our minds likethat, knowing we are
spectacularly special andeverybody else is too, our time
is incredibly valuable, and notmore than anybody else's time.
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It gives us enough space in ourminds and enough peace to start
listening to the whispers ofpossibility, the little sparks
of ideas.
We have enough energy andmotivation to start acting on
those ideas for how our littleworlds, the health of our bodies
, our minds, our homes andrelationships, how those could
(17:59):
be better Ideas for thecommunities we live in.
Little fun ones.
Little fun ideas to go dancing,or fun ideas for a book club,
or fun ideas for, you know, likea community activism campaign
that's going to start changingthe things we really care about
in our communities.
Or ideas for the big world,humanity and the planet, no
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matter what size the ideas.
We start hearing those littleglittering ideas because our
brain has space and peace andcuriosity in it, and that's when
we start taking actions to makethose ideas real, because we
know we're worth it andeverybody else is worth it too.
Our ideas are worth it andtheir ideas are too.
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That's when we know that theonly way that we can have a
snowpack is if we allowourselves to be a snowflake, and
the only way we can have asnowpack is if we understand
that everybody else is one too.
So how can you treat yourselfand everybody around you like a
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little bit more of a miracletoday and tomorrow and the next
day?
That's what I've got for youtoday, and I will see you next
week.
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If you like what you're hearingon the podcast, you gotta come
and join us in the Bloom Room.
This is a year-round membershipwhere we take all of these
concepts and we apply them toreal life in a community where
we have each other's backs andwe bring out the best in each
other.
In a community where we haveeach other's backs and we bring
out the best in each other,we're all there to make our
ideas real, one idea at a time.
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I'll see you in the Bloom Room,thank you.
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