April 25, 2025 • 19 mins
Have you ever needed a fresh perspective so badly, that you just started over instead? Maybe it was by getting a fresh relationship going, or getting into a fresh job or home setting, or starting your life over in a fresh new place.
No matter how many times we change our external setting, we know that eventually we’ll meet the same challenges there, too.
In today’s episode, we’ll learn the idea of giving ourselves a freshie every day. About treating our mental perspective, our belief in our ideas, relationships, and ultimately in ourselves as a discipline that requires as much consistency and attention as diet, exercise, communication, or even caring for a living thing that we’re responsible for.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
- Why we look for external change to help us re-motivate.
- How hedonistic adaptation causes us to eventually meet the same challenges in new situations.
- How friendships, coaching relationships, and other support systems serve the purpose of freshening our belief in ourselves and our ideas, and why that’s not enough.
- Examples of how the moment we stop trying is the moment things stop working
- How we can use that reality to motivate us to believe in ourselves, our relationships, and our ideas day after day
- A “freshie” practice we can normalize and use daily to build the skill and resilience we'll need when things get hardest.
- Three examples of how we can support the fresh perspectives of the people around us, through the examples we set and the things we share.
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Welcome to the Bloom your Mind podcast, where we take
all of your ideas for what youwant and we turn them into real
things.
I'm your host, certified CoachMarie McDonald.
Let's Well.
Hello everybody, and welcome toepisode number 124 of the Bloom
(00:32):
your Mind podcast.
I am coming to you for thisrecording from Sun River, oregon
, which is right outside of Bend, about half an hour, and I'm
sitting in front of a series ofred neon signs.
They say things like checks,cash, wi-fi, triple X.
It's a whole series, dvd, wholeseries of these red neon signs
(00:58):
that are part of the design ofthis incredible vacation rental
that I'm staying at Belongs to afriend of ours, a dear, dear
friend, who my husband grew upwith his best friend, and they
own a series of homes that theyrent for vacation rentals that
are in Oregon, and we're stayingin one.
They call them the stay away Ifyou'd like to look them up.
(01:20):
They're so inspiring becausethe couple that owns them, as
well as being incredible humanbeings, are masters at turning
their ideas into real things.
They are two creative directors, designers.
One is a designer at Nike whosort of designs outdoor
adventure apparel and is a leaddesigner there, and the other is
(01:41):
a designer and a leader at acompany called Wild Fang, which
is an incredible apparel, sortof gender fluid apparel company,
and they not only bring theseincredible passions that they
have into their careers, butthey bring them into these
creations that are vacationrentals that they have, and what
they have created here arespaces that are so incredibly
(02:05):
unique and so their own thesehomes.
There are rooms that havewallpaper that are covering the
walls, the ceiling, thatactually make up framed art with
wallpaper that matches them,that have bedding that is done
with the same pattern as thewallpaper.
It's like these incredibledesign environments that you can
(02:27):
stay in, and the reason I'mdescribing this is just that it
is such an incredible example ofturning ideas into real things.
They are so unique and soincredible, and my kids have
just loved being in theseenvironments.
They have been making movieslike trailers and advertisements
, just making movies in thesehomes.
(02:47):
And we celebrated Easter here mykids know I'm the Easter bunny,
so they just call me the Easterbunny and we spent Easter day
off-roading in this big truckand hiking around lava fields
and then we went actually to alava cave that is like leftover.
It's like a quarter mile, Ithink of underground cave,
(03:11):
really cold, really dark, madeby this lava that was there at
one time.
There's all these rocks lavarocks left over, and my husband
and I put on headlamps and wewalked down these stairs and hid
what it was actually like candywrapped in bright tissue paper,
but hid the Easter eggs rightAll around this underground lava
(03:34):
tunnel and the kids went aroundwith headlamps on and found all
of these eggs.
So we created this incrediblefun holiday experience out here
in Oregon and that is where I amcoming to you and I love kind
of sharing these examplesbecause to me they're so
inspiring.
When I have ideas that I want tomake real, it's always really
inspiring to me to hear whatother people are up to.
(03:56):
And while we were here, myhusband and I went out into Bend
and as I was walking out of agelato store, I heard my name
yelled out.
This voice called out my name,the name I went by in high
school, if you know.
You know, and I turn around andthis woman is standing there
(04:20):
with this face that I recognizebut I haven't seen for 20 years,
and she shrieks and she saysit's you and we give each other
this huge hug and it's a friendthat I had in high school.
So here we are in Oregon.
We grew up in this little town,ramona, in California, southern
California, and we see eachother in this gelato store and
(04:40):
we sit down and we start talkingand she says to me, among many
other beautiful things, you know, she says that she's this is
just providence, it's justsynchronicity that we're running
into each other, because shesaid to me you know, you're one
of the people that I alwayswished I had a friendship with
and we never quite had one.
Right, that was super solid.
(05:01):
And now we're running into eachother.
And this is just a time in mylife where a lot of things are
changing.
I'm separating from my husbandand I've been listening to your
podcast and that's helped me inthat separation, and I just had
this moment of like.
I got chills.
I had no idea that thisbeautiful human being from my
(05:24):
past history was in any waybeing served right in her
experience by the work that I do.
And here we are running intoeach other and it's so inspiring
and so beautiful.
And I had another interactionwith another friend here in
Oregon that I hadn't seen for along time and we had a similar
(05:45):
conversation where I said to herhey, you know, I always tell my
husband you're the one that gotaway.
You know you're the friend thatI always thought if I lived
close to you, you and I would bereally close friends.
And I just mentioned thisoffhand.
When I saw her and she got allthese tears in her eyes and she
said that is the nicest thinganyone has ever said to me.
And she gave me this big hugand she was so surprised and I
(06:09):
thought what?
I just mentioned this because Iwas just kind of laughing about
how much I love her and I wishwe were close.
You know we lived closer so wecould be together more, but it
meant so much to her.
And so I mentioned these thingstoo to you, because in many of
my episodes I say to say thingsout loud.
I say when you feel something,when something is special to you
(06:31):
, say it out loud, speak it.
And in episode two of thepodcast, in episode one, I kind
of talk about these things,about how incredible it is to
speak, the unique perspectivethat you have from walking
around with your mind and yourset of lived experiences, seeing
the parts of the world and themoments of the world that only
(06:52):
you see right.
And these are these twoexamples that created something
really meaningful for myselffrom someone else and for a
different person from me right,speaking, just an experience we
had of the other person.
For me, right, speaking just anexperience we had of the other
person.
So here in Oregon, there'vebeen these beautiful, inspiring
experiences that I've had withother people, and in one of
(07:23):
these conversations, our closefriend was talking about this
concept, this idea of whenpeople start over, how he likes
to call it a freshie, and he wastalking about you know, you get
a dog.
He has a puppy that was stayinghere with us and he said it's a
freshie.
You know, this is a freshie dog, and we were laughing about it.
And I've thought about it a lotsince then, because the number
one thing that I coach people onday in and day out, week in and
(07:45):
week out, year in and year out,is me supporting them on giving
themselves a freshie, a freshperspective, whether that's new
belief, a fresh belief in theirown idea that they're trying to
make real, or even me justgiving them permission to
(08:06):
believe in themselves over andover and over again.
That is the most significantthing that we do for each other
in coaching and friendships iswe sort of like revive our
motivation, our inspiration, ourbelief in ourselves and our
ideas and what we're trying tomake real.
All these examples that I justgave in the introduction, these
(08:29):
beautiful homes that we'restaying in, that are the
creations of these reallyimaginative minds that are
making their ideas real.
The Easter egg hunt, right,which is this random idea I had
that we made real and created amagical experience for my kids.
And then these two experienceswith friends where we had these
moments where we spoke freshperspective to one another.
(08:51):
All of them are aboutinspiration, right.
They're all about speakingsomething or creating something
or saying something thatbreathes new life into another
person or another group, thatcreates an environment or
creates an idea, a newperspective for someone else.
It's a freshie.
(09:12):
And what's wild about this ideathat the number one thing that I
offer to people is this renewedbelief in themselves.
What's interesting about thisis that for exactly zero of the
people that I coach, for exactlyzero of any of us, is this the
(09:33):
first time that we're needing tohave belief in ourselves.
Right, at some point we allbelieved in ourselves, whether
that was when we were a tiny kidand we didn't know any better
than to think we could doanything and be anything right.
I think we should still believethat now.
Right, but before we had any ofthe layers of voices or lived
(09:56):
experiences or belief systems orsocial programming that told us
you can't, you can't right.
At some point we all believedin ourselves, and most of us go
through these cyclicalexperiences of like I believe in
myself and I lose ground.
I believe in myself and I loseit a little bit.
But what's interesting is thatwhen we give each other
(10:20):
permission when I give one of myclients permission to believe
in themselves, to believe intheir idea, right, because they
need somebody backing them up,somebody saying, hey, this is a
good idea, you got this.
It's never the first time, andso I love this idea of just
looking at it as a freshie.
(10:43):
It's available to us at any time, and what we tend to do is we
look for external things to giveus a fresh perspective.
We get that freshie from anexternal place.
We get a new relationship tofreshen things up, believe in
ourselves again, believe in loveagain, believe in partnership
(11:05):
again, believe in a businesspartner again, whatever that
relationship is we get a new jobit's a freshie.
We go on a new diet a differentone it's a freshie.
We have a new house, we move toa new city we get a freshie
right.
And all of that helps, ofcourse, to start from scratch,
and it helps usually for a while.
(11:26):
And then we bring all of ourown practices, our own ways of
thinking, our own habits backinto the lives that we're in.
That freshie becomes old, right, and it's up to us to give that
to ourselves, without needingthat external environment to
(11:49):
always freshen up ourperspective in our life and
that's what I'm talking abouttoday is that that is available
to us any time.
But what I notice is that wethink about freshening our
perspective differently than wethink about any other
disciplines, because we knowthat when we have a house plant
(12:09):
or we have a pet, it needs afreshie every week or every day.
You know you got to feed ananimal, food and water every day
.
You got to water your plantevery week, every other week,
depending on what it needs.
You need to freshen up itsaccess to sunlight, like it
doesn't ever stop needing thosethings.
We kind of know that aboutfitness too, right?
(12:31):
There's not a point where wedon't need to freshen up what
we're eating, our exercise.
There's not a point where wejust we call it good right.
It's a practice that we have tokeep up with all the time.
If we get off track, if we goon vacation and we eat all kinds
(12:53):
of crazy stuff, we got to getback on track right and clean up
our diet and start exercisingagain in order to keep our
bodies healthy Withrelationships.
The minute that we give up onthem is the minute when they
stop working.
The minute that we give up ontaking care of something around
us our home environment, thethings, the living things that
(13:16):
depend on us, our garden, ourplants, whatever the minute that
we stop taking care of thingsis the minute that they stop
working.
And the same is true for ourperspective.
But for some reason, we tend tothink about this differently.
We tend to think that ourperspective is going to take
(13:38):
care of itself, and it's justnot that way.
And so I just want to offerthis idea that you can give
yourself a freshie, and youshould give yourself a freshie
every single day, if you can.
This fresh perspective, thispermission to believe in
yourself, permission to believein your idea, no matter what has
(14:01):
gone wrong, no matter how bigof a fail you've just
experienced.
Permission to know that rightnow is the perfect time to start
again.
The people that I know that arebest at making idea after idea
real in the world, the peoplewho are most successful at
creating the lives and therelationships that they most
(14:23):
want, are the ones that are goodat giving themselves a freshie,
taking care of that mentaldiscipline, of framing their
perspective and their belief inthemselves and their belief in
their idea again and again, andagain.
(14:43):
So what is it to give yourselfa freshie?
It's giving yourself a fresh upon knowing that you can do it,
that you deserve to keep movingforward, no matter how many
people around you say thatyou're bananas.
For believing in yourself, forbelieving that things could be
different, for believing youcould make your idea that
they've never seen an example ofreal.
(15:05):
All that matters is your beliefin your idea.
All that matters is that you'vegot you, and it's up to you to
freshen that perspective upevery single day.
I was watching my kids ski onthese mountains and I was just
blown away by how dependent theexperience they have skiing is
(15:29):
on what they're thinking.
If they're thinking they'retired, they start losing their
focus and they start havingmaking mistakes, maybe
definitely not having as good ofa time.
If they start thinking thatthey're learning new skills,
they're changing, they're movingfrom their pizza or their
snowplow into parallel skiingand they're thinking that
(15:53):
they're doing really well, thatconfidence actually translates
right into the experience thatthey have skiing.
The perspective that we framein our mind is directly
correspondent to the successthat we have in our day,
creating what we want, thesuccess that we have making our
(16:14):
ideas real.
So it is entirely up to us toframe our perspective every
single day, because we are theonly ones.
Well, there will always be.
You know, always be there formy kids when they call me, and
I'm going to be there in thosemoments, skiing next to them and
saying you got this Whoopingwildly.
(16:34):
I cannot help myself, y'all.
I whoop so much when we'reskiing.
It's just like one of myfavorite things to do and I
whoop wildly.
And while they will have thatnoise as backup right when we're
on the ski slopes, remindingthem that they're doing an
incredible job, I'm not going toalways be there and while
(16:54):
sometimes in our lives somebodyelse carries us right, reminds
us to believe in ourselves.
When we lose, we falter alittle bit, we lose belief.
Somebody is there to say no,your idea is good, keep going,
keep going.
You know, hearing that friendsay your podcast really helped
me in these hard parts of mylife.
It makes me want to make moreepisodes.
(17:16):
It's true, we can lean on eachother like that and, at the end
of the day, my kids they're notalways going to have me right
there next to them.
I definitely don't always havesomebody right there next to me
telling me I'm doing a good job.
None of us will ever alwayshave somebody there to back us
(17:39):
up right At the end of the day.
We are the one that isguaranteed to be there at our
lowest moment.
We are guaranteed to be the onethat is there when shit gets
really, really hard.
So the better we get at givingourselves a freshie right now,
(17:59):
every day, lifting up our ownperspective, reminding us to
believe in ourselves, giving uspermission to believe again in
our own idea, the better thechances are that we'll be there
to pick ourselves up in thatdarkest, darkest moment.
That's what I've got for youtoday.
I hope you enjoy these wildstories and I will see you next
(18:24):
week.
If you like what you're hearingon the podcast, you gotta come
and join us in the Bloom Room.
This is a year-round membershipwhere we take all of these
concepts and we apply them toreal life in a community where
(18:46):
we have each other's backs andwe bring out the best in each
other.
We're all there to make ourideas real, one idea at a time.
I'll see you in the Bloom Room,thank you.
Welcome to the Bloom your Mind podcast, where we take
all of your ideas for what youwant and we turn them into real
things.
I'm your host, certified CoachMarie McDonald.
Let's Well.
Hello everybody, and welcome toepisode number 124 of the Bloom
(00:32):
your Mind podcast.
I am coming to you for thisrecording from Sun River, oregon
, which is right outside of Bend, about half an hour, and I'm
sitting in front of a series ofred neon signs.
They say things like checks,cash, wi-fi, triple X.
It's a whole series, dvd, wholeseries of these red neon signs
(00:58):
that are part of the design ofthis incredible vacation rental
that I'm staying at Belongs to afriend of ours, a dear, dear
friend, who my husband grew upwith his best friend, and they
own a series of homes that theyrent for vacation rentals that
are in Oregon, and we're stayingin one.
They call them the stay away Ifyou'd like to look them up.
(01:20):
They're so inspiring becausethe couple that owns them, as
well as being incredible humanbeings, are masters at turning
their ideas into real things.
They are two creative directors, designers.
One is a designer at Nike whosort of designs outdoor
adventure apparel and is a leaddesigner there, and the other is
(01:41):
a designer and a leader at acompany called Wild Fang, which
is an incredible apparel, sortof gender fluid apparel company,
and they not only bring theseincredible passions that they
have into their careers, butthey bring them into these
creations that are vacationrentals that they have, and what
they have created here arespaces that are so incredibly
(02:05):
unique and so their own thesehomes.
There are rooms that havewallpaper that are covering the
walls, the ceiling, thatactually make up framed art with
wallpaper that matches them,that have bedding that is done
with the same pattern as thewallpaper.
It's like these incredibledesign environments that you can
(02:27):
stay in, and the reason I'mdescribing this is just that it
is such an incredible example ofturning ideas into real things.
They are so unique and soincredible, and my kids have
just loved being in theseenvironments.
They have been making movieslike trailers and advertisements
, just making movies in thesehomes.
(02:47):
And we celebrated Easter here mykids know I'm the Easter bunny,
so they just call me the Easterbunny and we spent Easter day
off-roading in this big truckand hiking around lava fields
and then we went actually to alava cave that is like leftover.
It's like a quarter mile, Ithink of underground cave,
(03:11):
really cold, really dark, madeby this lava that was there at
one time.
There's all these rocks lavarocks left over, and my husband
and I put on headlamps and wewalked down these stairs and hid
what it was actually like candywrapped in bright tissue paper,
but hid the Easter eggs rightAll around this underground lava
(03:34):
tunnel and the kids went aroundwith headlamps on and found all
of these eggs.
So we created this incrediblefun holiday experience out here
in Oregon and that is where I amcoming to you and I love kind
of sharing these examplesbecause to me they're so
inspiring.
When I have ideas that I want tomake real, it's always really
inspiring to me to hear whatother people are up to.
(03:56):
And while we were here, myhusband and I went out into Bend
and as I was walking out of agelato store, I heard my name
yelled out.
This voice called out my name,the name I went by in high
school, if you know.
You know, and I turn around andthis woman is standing there
(04:20):
with this face that I recognizebut I haven't seen for 20 years,
and she shrieks and she saysit's you and we give each other
this huge hug and it's a friendthat I had in high school.
So here we are in Oregon.
We grew up in this little town,ramona, in California, southern
California, and we see eachother in this gelato store and
(04:40):
we sit down and we start talkingand she says to me, among many
other beautiful things, you know, she says that she's this is
just providence, it's justsynchronicity that we're running
into each other, because shesaid to me you know, you're one
of the people that I alwayswished I had a friendship with
and we never quite had one.
Right, that was super solid.
(05:01):
And now we're running into eachother.
And this is just a time in mylife where a lot of things are
changing.
I'm separating from my husbandand I've been listening to your
podcast and that's helped me inthat separation, and I just had
this moment of like.
I got chills.
I had no idea that thisbeautiful human being from my
(05:24):
past history was in any waybeing served right in her
experience by the work that I do.
And here we are running intoeach other and it's so inspiring
and so beautiful.
And I had another interactionwith another friend here in
Oregon that I hadn't seen for along time and we had a similar
(05:45):
conversation where I said to herhey, you know, I always tell my
husband you're the one that gotaway.
You know you're the friend thatI always thought if I lived
close to you, you and I would bereally close friends.
And I just mentioned thisoffhand.
When I saw her and she got allthese tears in her eyes and she
said that is the nicest thinganyone has ever said to me.
And she gave me this big hugand she was so surprised and I
(06:09):
thought what?
I just mentioned this because Iwas just kind of laughing about
how much I love her and I wishwe were close.
You know we lived closer so wecould be together more, but it
meant so much to her.
And so I mentioned these thingstoo to you, because in many of
my episodes I say to say thingsout loud.
I say when you feel something,when something is special to you
(06:31):
, say it out loud, speak it.
And in episode two of thepodcast, in episode one, I kind
of talk about these things,about how incredible it is to
speak, the unique perspectivethat you have from walking
around with your mind and yourset of lived experiences, seeing
the parts of the world and themoments of the world that only
(06:52):
you see right.
And these are these twoexamples that created something
really meaningful for myselffrom someone else and for a
different person from me right,speaking, just an experience we
had of the other person.
For me, right, speaking just anexperience we had of the other
person.
So here in Oregon, there'vebeen these beautiful, inspiring
experiences that I've had withother people, and in one of
(07:23):
these conversations, our closefriend was talking about this
concept, this idea of whenpeople start over, how he likes
to call it a freshie, and he wastalking about you know, you get
a dog.
He has a puppy that was stayinghere with us and he said it's a
freshie.
You know, this is a freshie dog, and we were laughing about it.
And I've thought about it a lotsince then, because the number
one thing that I coach people onday in and day out, week in and
(07:45):
week out, year in and year out,is me supporting them on giving
themselves a freshie, a freshperspective, whether that's new
belief, a fresh belief in theirown idea that they're trying to
make real, or even me justgiving them permission to
(08:06):
believe in themselves over andover and over again.
That is the most significantthing that we do for each other
in coaching and friendships iswe sort of like revive our
motivation, our inspiration, ourbelief in ourselves and our
ideas and what we're trying tomake real.
All these examples that I justgave in the introduction, these
(08:29):
beautiful homes that we'restaying in, that are the
creations of these reallyimaginative minds that are
making their ideas real.
The Easter egg hunt, right,which is this random idea I had
that we made real and created amagical experience for my kids.
And then these two experienceswith friends where we had these
moments where we spoke freshperspective to one another.
(08:51):
All of them are aboutinspiration, right.
They're all about speakingsomething or creating something
or saying something thatbreathes new life into another
person or another group, thatcreates an environment or
creates an idea, a newperspective for someone else.
It's a freshie.
(09:12):
And what's wild about this ideathat the number one thing that I
offer to people is this renewedbelief in themselves.
What's interesting about thisis that for exactly zero of the
people that I coach, for exactlyzero of any of us, is this the
(09:33):
first time that we're needing tohave belief in ourselves.
Right, at some point we allbelieved in ourselves, whether
that was when we were a tiny kidand we didn't know any better
than to think we could doanything and be anything right.
I think we should still believethat now.
Right, but before we had any ofthe layers of voices or lived
(09:56):
experiences or belief systems orsocial programming that told us
you can't, you can't right.
At some point we all believedin ourselves, and most of us go
through these cyclicalexperiences of like I believe in
myself and I lose ground.
I believe in myself and I loseit a little bit.
But what's interesting is thatwhen we give each other
(10:20):
permission when I give one of myclients permission to believe
in themselves, to believe intheir idea, right, because they
need somebody backing them up,somebody saying, hey, this is a
good idea, you got this.
It's never the first time, andso I love this idea of just
looking at it as a freshie.
(10:43):
It's available to us at any time, and what we tend to do is we
look for external things to giveus a fresh perspective.
We get that freshie from anexternal place.
We get a new relationship tofreshen things up, believe in
ourselves again, believe in loveagain, believe in partnership
(11:05):
again, believe in a businesspartner again, whatever that
relationship is we get a new jobit's a freshie.
We go on a new diet a differentone it's a freshie.
We have a new house, we move toa new city we get a freshie
right.
And all of that helps, ofcourse, to start from scratch,
and it helps usually for a while.
(11:26):
And then we bring all of ourown practices, our own ways of
thinking, our own habits backinto the lives that we're in.
That freshie becomes old, right, and it's up to us to give that
to ourselves, without needingthat external environment to
(11:49):
always freshen up ourperspective in our life and
that's what I'm talking abouttoday is that that is available
to us any time.
But what I notice is that wethink about freshening our
perspective differently than wethink about any other
disciplines, because we knowthat when we have a house plant
(12:09):
or we have a pet, it needs afreshie every week or every day.
You know you got to feed ananimal, food and water every day
.
You got to water your plantevery week, every other week,
depending on what it needs.
You need to freshen up itsaccess to sunlight, like it
doesn't ever stop needing thosethings.
We kind of know that aboutfitness too, right?
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There's not a point where wedon't need to freshen up what
we're eating, our exercise.
There's not a point where wejust we call it good right.
It's a practice that we have tokeep up with all the time.
If we get off track, if we goon vacation and we eat all kinds
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of crazy stuff, we got to getback on track right and clean up
our diet and start exercisingagain in order to keep our
bodies healthy Withrelationships.
The minute that we give up onthem is the minute when they
stop working.
The minute that we give up ontaking care of something around
us our home environment, thethings, the living things that
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depend on us, our garden, ourplants, whatever the minute that
we stop taking care of thingsis the minute that they stop
working.
And the same is true for ourperspective.
But for some reason, we tend tothink about this differently.
We tend to think that ourperspective is going to take
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care of itself, and it's justnot that way.
And so I just want to offerthis idea that you can give
yourself a freshie, and youshould give yourself a freshie
every single day, if you can.
This fresh perspective, thispermission to believe in
yourself, permission to believein your idea, no matter what has
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gone wrong, no matter how bigof a fail you've just
experienced.
Permission to know that rightnow is the perfect time to start
again.
The people that I know that arebest at making idea after idea
real in the world, the peoplewho are most successful at
creating the lives and therelationships that they most
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want, are the ones that are goodat giving themselves a freshie,
taking care of that mentaldiscipline, of framing their
perspective and their belief inthemselves and their belief in
their idea again and again, andagain.
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So what is it to give yourselfa freshie?
It's giving yourself a fresh upon knowing that you can do it,
that you deserve to keep movingforward, no matter how many
people around you say thatyou're bananas.
For believing in yourself, forbelieving that things could be
different, for believing youcould make your idea that
they've never seen an example ofreal.
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All that matters is your beliefin your idea.
All that matters is that you'vegot you, and it's up to you to
freshen that perspective upevery single day.
I was watching my kids ski onthese mountains and I was just
blown away by how dependent theexperience they have skiing is
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on what they're thinking.
If they're thinking they'retired, they start losing their
focus and they start havingmaking mistakes, maybe
definitely not having as good ofa time.
If they start thinking thatthey're learning new skills,
they're changing, they're movingfrom their pizza or their
snowplow into parallel skiingand they're thinking that
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they're doing really well, thatconfidence actually translates
right into the experience thatthey have skiing.
The perspective that we framein our mind is directly
correspondent to the successthat we have in our day,
creating what we want, thesuccess that we have making our
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ideas real.
So it is entirely up to us toframe our perspective every
single day, because we are theonly ones.
Well, there will always be.
You know, always be there formy kids when they call me, and
I'm going to be there in thosemoments, skiing next to them and
saying you got this Whoopingwildly.
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I cannot help myself, y'all.
I whoop so much when we'reskiing.
It's just like one of myfavorite things to do and I
whoop wildly.
And while they will have thatnoise as backup right when we're
on the ski slopes, remindingthem that they're doing an
incredible job, I'm not going toalways be there and while
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sometimes in our lives somebodyelse carries us right, reminds
us to believe in ourselves.
When we lose, we falter alittle bit, we lose belief.
Somebody is there to say no,your idea is good, keep going,
keep going.
You know, hearing that friendsay your podcast really helped
me in these hard parts of mylife.
It makes me want to make moreepisodes.
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It's true, we can lean on eachother like that and, at the end
of the day, my kids they're notalways going to have me right
there next to them.
I definitely don't always havesomebody right there next to me
telling me I'm doing a good job.
None of us will ever alwayshave somebody there to back us
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up right At the end of the day.
We are the one that isguaranteed to be there at our
lowest moment.
We are guaranteed to be the onethat is there when shit gets
really, really hard.
So the better we get at givingourselves a freshie right now,
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every day, lifting up our ownperspective, reminding us to
believe in ourselves, giving uspermission to believe again in
our own idea, the better thechances are that we'll be there
to pick ourselves up in thatdarkest, darkest moment.
That's what I've got for youtoday.
I hope you enjoy these wildstories and I will see you next
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week.
If you like what you're hearingon the podcast, you gotta come
and join us in the Bloom Room.
This is a year-round membershipwhere we take all of these
concepts and we apply them toreal life in a community where
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we have each other's backs andwe bring out the best in each
other.
We're all there to make ourideas real, one idea at a time.
I'll see you in the Bloom Room,thank you.
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