December 5, 2025 • 33 mins
In Episode 154, we have some big announcements for new content, programs and courses. We’re also breaking down how to get ahead of one of the most important pieces of human wiring you’ll ever understand: the Motivational Triad.
This ancient operating system—designed to help humans survive saber-toothed tigers and harsh winters—is still running the show inside our modern brains. And even though it once kept us alive, now it keeps us stuck.
In today’s world, this default wiring creates a net negative in our lives. Because while it kept early humans from being eaten, it does nothing to help us build relationships, set boundaries, grow businesses, create art, change habits, or pursue dreams.
This episode helps you see where the triad is running your life—and how to upshift out of it using the prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain that can plan, align actions with values, and make intentional decisions.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
- What the motivational triad is and why it no longer serves the life you want today.
- How the triad shows up in modern life through people-pleasing, overworking, scrolling, sugar, avoidance, and staying small.
- Why doing what’s easy often feels productive (like overworking) but is actually avoidance in disguise.
- How to shift from your primitive brain into your prefrontal cortex to choose aligned, intentional actions.
- A practical exercise to analyze your current goal through the lens of the triad—and design a plan that actually matches the outcome you want.
- Real examples from my students this week: parenting pressure, overwork-as-hiding, holiday family dynamics, business avoidance, and behavior patterns we all fall into.
Once you identify where the triad is steering you, you can interrupt the pattern. You can decide how you want to show up and rehearse that response ahead of time—so when the moment comes, you’re already prepared.
We’re getting out of the cave.
Off the couch.
Putting down the Pringles.
And building lives we’re proud of—on purpose.
Mentioned in this episode:
- The Bloom Room — weekly application of these concepts, community, support and coaching
- Moxie Mastermind — high level experience for women turning ideas into real things
- Self-paced courses — access to it all on your own terms and timeline
How to connect with Marie:
- On the Web | The Local Bloom
- Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
- All Things Marie on LinkTree
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We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!
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SPEAKER_00 (00:08):
Welcome to the Blue in Your Mind Podcast, where we
take all of your ideas for whatyou want and we turn them into
real things.
I'm your host, certified coachMarie McDonald.
Let's get into it.
Hello everybody, and welcome toepisode 154 of the Bloom Your
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Mind podcast.
We have a packed episode today.
We are doing three things.
One is that I am gonna tell youabout an amazing weekend that we
just had.
Two, I am going to share somebig announcements for what is
coming in the next few months.
We've been working so hard inthe Bloom team, and we have been
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making all kinds of newprograms, recording a bunch of
content, and we are unveiling awhole bunch of exciting new ways
that you can get into the workand the play and the community
that we offer through Bloom andMoxie.
And I'm gonna give you anamazing tool that we I did with
my students this past week tolook into our brain's default
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operating mode and how it isshowing up in our lives in ways
that we're not recognizing andhow it's getting in the way of
what we actually want to do.
So let's get rolling, shall we?
That's a lot to get through.
Okay, first, we just came backfrom a weekend in the desert.
And the reason I wanted to justmention this, I know I've I've
mentioned it in building up tothis weekend before.
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I've mentioned it on thepodcast, is it was an idea that
my husband and I had that wejust recently made real.
And I talked at the last episodeabout problem solving unexpected
challenges that came up beforeour weekend event.
So we had a vow renewal.
We've been together for uh 15years and married for 10, and we
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decided to have a three-day lovefest celebration in the desert.
And then there was a huge amountof problem solving that had to
go into it last minute.
We did that problem solving, andI wanted to give an update on
how amazing the weekend was.
I just sat back, and my husbandand I, Max and I, have been over
the last week and a half justtalking about how it would have
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been so much easier to not dothat event.
This is a little preview to whatI'm gonna share at the end of
the episode.
It was not easy.
We did not avoid pain by doingit.
We did not pursue pleasure bypulling it off.
It ended up being verypleasurable in the end.
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And there was a lot of joy thatcame out of a lot of the work.
But it was really hard work.
There was a lot of challenges toovercome.
It took so much effort andplanning.
And so, by kind of motivatingourselves through all of those
hard parts in the months goingup to the event and working
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through challenges and problemsolving our doubts about all of
these people that were coming toit, we ended up pulling off this
event that we will never forgetfor the rest of our lives.
We came up with a ceremony thatwe had no blueprint for.
Neither of us had ever been to areal vows ceremony.
I went to one when I was eight,but I had no idea what actually
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you do.
What does one do to renew vows?
And so we made all of this stuffup.
We created a whole ceremony, weproblem-solved with the rain.
People were flying in from allover the place.
Some canceled, some came.
What ended up happening wasunbelievably perfect.
The ceremony itself, by goingthrough the creative process,
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having ideas, ideating,collaborating, letting some of
the ideas go, ended up beingexactly perfect for the amount
of people that were there in thespace we were in.
Problem solving and flexing andpivoting with rain plans
actually ended up giving us theopportunity to renew our vows
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inside, which we weren't goingto do before, at a different
space than we were planning todo it at, uh, in a different
venue.
And then gathering all thetables and chairs under an
awning that we actually sort ofbuilt to protect from the rain
in a way that was much closertogether, much more sort of like
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better feeling and visuallybeautiful than if we had not had
a rain plan.
It didn't even end up raining.
But because we had the plan forit, the whole night ended up
better.
So a few things I want to sharefrom this.
One, we had this idea that feltfar-fetched and wild because
we'd never been to one before.
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We put it out there to ourcommunity and we just went for
it.
We had no blueprint, but wepulled it off.
And we are so grateful.
We will never forget it.
And we're getting so manycomments and so much feedback
from our community saying, thankyou so much for what I got out
of this.
And that was our goal, thateveryone would get what they
needed out of this Love Festweekend.
We called it a Love Fest.
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Secondly, there were a lot ofobstacles along the way.
And by the end, looking back, wecould see that the obstacles
actually created a betteroutcome to the event than we
could have predicted had theynot come up.
They really just like ended upmaking something more beautiful
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than what we had planned.
Now, if you did listen to lastepisode about problem solving,
you'll know that I tried to usean obstacle and strategy method
for problem solving.
And I told myself I was notready for it.
It was not the right tool forthe situation when I was in the
middle of the challenge.
And I and I said to myself, andI told you on that podcast, I
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know that in a couple of days orin a, you know, in the future, I
will be able to use that tool.
And what's really amazing isthat looking back at it, I can
see exactly how the obstacle wasa new path forward that created
new possibilities, howeverything that did happen that
was challenging was actuallyperfect for the situation.
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But it's just a good example ofhow sometimes the tools work for
us in the moment and sometimesthey don't.
We got to choose the right toolfor where we are, where our
nervous system is, where what weneed that day.
The tools almost always work inretrospect.
You can look backwards and knowhow obstacles create new
pathways forward.
You can look backward and knowwhat you learned from a
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situation.
But sometimes those tools aren'tthe right ones just for the
moment that you're in.
You got to pick and choose.
And lastly, it's just anembodiment of what we're gonna
talk about in the third part ofour podcast today, which is that
pushing through what's hard,doing things that don't feel
easy, and getting out there totry new things, pushing past
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that motivational triad ends upcreating experiences that we
would never trade in our lives.
So you'll hear a little bit moreabout how you can reflect on
that might be true for yourselfin your own life at the end of
this episode.
All right, secondly, bigannouncements.
We have completely restructuredand redesigned our offerings in
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the bloom room, in the MoxieMastermind, and in some new
offerings that we have based oneveryone's feedback.
We have been iterating for twoyears running the Bloom Room.
The Bloom Room has gone throughmultiple iterations.
And with multiple rounds offeedback, we have improved all
of the content in the BloomRoom.
It all got really greatfeedback, and we tweaked and
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tightened it.
The things that we've gottenmore feedback around are about
how people can most easilyaccess the material that I teach
and the stuff that I provide.
So our announcement for thecoming year is three different
pathways for you to walk, threedifferent ways that we have
created learning materials,coaching materials, and group
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coaching experiences andcommunities that meet you where
you are in your life and meetyour needs.
The first one is the Bloom Room.
The Bloom Room has been a weeklycoaching program that creates
community.
And the thing we hear most oftenfrom the current participants of
the Bloom Room is that itsbiggest value is both the
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content that they get weekly inthe actual live session and the
connection to community.
That it feels like every singleweek a place where they can come
back to their best selves,recenter, learn one new tool per
week, one new concept, and thenlearn as many more as they want
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because of the library ofmaterials that are available to
them.
But the most significant thingthat people get out of that
bloom room membership is theactual community.
So the people that show up thereconsistently every week are the
ones that just love being therewith other people.
They consistently say thatwatching other people get
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coached in the bloom room is asvaluable or more valuable than
getting coached themselves,which they all do sometimes, but
that both things are just asvaluable, that being in a
community of like-minded people,a supportive community that's
always there and has their backsand always has a new, fresh
thing to inspire their week issuper valuable.
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So that bloom room next year isgoing to be available with the
updated material, all of thefoundational course material as
self-guided content.
So that's the first thing that'savailable in January.
We are launching all of that newmaterial.
So if you are interested ingetting in the Bloom Room, get
in now so that you will be therefor that initial launch in
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January of that new material.
Bloom Room is meeting two tothree times a month so that
there's a little break, but isalways available through a
digital connection point.
So that's the first announcementis this whole new updated
framework, format, and contentfor the Bloom Room.
The second update is that we arelaunching the Moxie Mastermind
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Experience, which is a six-monthprogram for women who have an
idea for how the world can be abetter place that they want to
make real.
In this program, it's asix-month program that has this
amazing material for how to makeideas real.
You will learn the women who arein the Moxie Mastermind will be
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in a cohort of women,like-minded women, with weekly
coaching, weekly digitalsupport, an in-person retreat,
one-on-one coaching a coupletimes during the six months with
me, and the course material,access to all of the
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foundational course material,all of my other programs, but
also the make ideas real course.
The make ideas real course isthe evolution of all of my work,
and it is absolutely amazing.
It is about how to turn an ideainto a real thing and everything
that your brain will do alongthe way as you try to do that.
So I will guide everyone in theMoxie mastermind through that
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course material with support andin community and in-person
retreats and touch points andcoaching.
So that program is for women whohave a really solid idea that
they want to make real.
Now, if you know a woman who hasan idea that they want to make
real, get her in touch with mequick because we are lining up
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the first crew of MoxieMastermind participants.
We will have cohorts every sixmonths, but this first group is
really special with some reallyincredible opportunities.
So send her my way.
Or if it's you and you're awoman with an idea that you want
to make real, come my way.
One last thing is that if youknow a woman that has a few
different ideas but doesn't knowwhich one, or if you are a woman
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with a few different ideas butyou don't know which one you
want to make real, come my wayand I will help you figure it
out and decide if it's time foryou for the Moxie mastermind.
The third exciting update that Iwant to share is because of a
lot of feedback that people havegiven about wanting to
participate in my programs,wanting to be able to access my
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material, but not having thetime during their workday,
during their week to be able tojoin the coaching program, or
feeling like being in a coachingprogram isn't their favorite way
to participate, where theyactually prefer to work through
things self-paced and joinmeetups every once in a while,
but it's just not their bag tolike be in a community every
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single week.
I have actually createdself-guided options for all of
my courses.
So if you're interested in thefoundations course, which is the
basic material to use your mindto work for you, use your
cognitive thinking skills andyour neuroplastic capabilities
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to manage your mind to work foryou, not against you every day.
That's the first skill.
The second skill is emotionalmanagement, making your feelings
and the processing of yourfeelings something that comes
easily to you, that you knowexactly how to do so your
feelings don't overwhelm you,but they work for you and not
against you as well.
Thirdly, self-hypnosis, so thatyou can use your unconscious
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mind as a support system.
Those are our three main toolsthat we use in the Foundations
course.
And then, secondly, the secondpart of it is that we look at
your existing belief systems,your value systems, your true
desires, and we look at theregenerative design of your life
right now.
What are all of the areas thatyour energy goes out into?
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And are they reciprocal?
What are the ways that you'regetting energy back from
everything in your life?
At the end of that course, youwill choose three different
areas that you want to makeimprovements in and you
prioritize them.
What's the first priority area,the second, and the third?
And from there, you have theoption to move into the Make
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Ideas Real course.
That also has a self-guidedoption where you can just work
your way through that courseafter the foundations course.
So you get an email in yourinbox once a week with your new
video, your new instructions,your new assignment.
And that teaches you how to makethat idea for the area of your
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life that you want to make realinto a real thing.
I also have courses inrelationships, in time
whispering, in the art ofself-loving, and in some a
couple of other things that arecoming out a little bit later
next year that are all availableto purchase and experience, all
a carte.
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But if you're in the bloom room,you get access to some of those.
And if you're in MoxieMastermind, you get access to
everything.
So those are all theopportunities that are coming
next year.
There are three choose your ownadventure paths.
One is a community that has yourback, that's always there to
support you and inspire you weekto week.
This and to teach you thefoundations, foundational
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concepts of emotionalmanagement, cognitive thought
management, and self-coachingand self-hypnosis.
And then how to really look atyour belief systems, your
values, your desires, andprioritize the areas of your
life where you want to make achange.
That's the first adventure.
The second adventure isself-guided courses where you
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can choose the foundationalcourse to work your way through
on your own.
The Make Ideas Real course, therelationships course, the time
whispering course.
You can choose any of those asthey come out and work through
them at your own pace.
And thirdly is the MoxieMastermind, which is a six-month
mastermind program with anin-person retreat and in-person
coaching for women who haveideas for how to make the world
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a better place that they wantsupport and community as they
make them real.
So that gives lots of high-levelsupport, any kind of tools,
resources, budgets, work plans,all that stuff that folks might
need as they're making ideasreal.
So those are all myannouncements.
Please send come my way.
Let me know if you're interestedin the Moxie Mastermind or any
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of these other opportunities andsend your people my way.
We are about to open doors onmany of these things.
And you will see if you are onmy social media, if you uh are
on my email list, you'll get thepings and know exactly when
these things are rolling out andexactly what fun bonuses there
are for different times of yearand when you buy these things
and when you participate inthem.
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So those are the announcements Ihave.
Now, on to our podcast contentfor today.
We are talking about themotivational triad.
When I talk about themotivational triad, this is not
new, a new concept.
This is actually a pretty,pretty foundational concept in
psychology that our brains havean outdated operating system
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that prioritizes three things.
The first thing is to pursuepleasure, the second is to avoid
pain.
And the third is to do what'seasy.
So that's the operating systemthat our brain defaults to.
It exists this way because weevolved to conserve energy and
propagate our species, tosurvive as the human species,
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right?
And while this really workedwell to get us to where we are
today, a thriving human speciesin many ways, it our brains just
never went through an operatingsystem update to match the needs
of our current world.
We did survive, but there aremany ways in which this
outdating operating system keepsus stuck and keeps us from
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actually thriving.
So, in general, this oldoperating system has a net
negative impact on our lives.
When we let ourselves default tothat operating system and react
to the world in general in thesethree ways: pursuing pleasure,
avoiding pain, doing what'seasy, we're defaulting to the
motivational triad, it creates anet negative and it gets us
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further and further away fromthe dreams we have for ourselves
and our lives and the ideas wewant to make real.
So let's break this down.
First, our brain wants to dowhat's easy.
Doing what's easy does notinvolve habit changes.
Doing what's easy does notinvolve putting ourselves out
there to date people or grow orevolve or try new things.
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It definitely does not supportus to pursue dreams or chase
goals.
Doing what's easy includesstaying inside, sitting on the
couch, replaying our oldpatterns, doing things that feel
safe and comfortable and thathave no risk involved.
The second thing, the secondpart of this triangle is to
avoid pain.
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And when I say pain, I want youto think of pain as any
discomfort.
So this leg of the triad is theone that's responsible for
things like people pleasing,doing whatever everybody expects
of us instead of the discomfortof doing what's important to us,
instead of the discomfort ofbelieving in our dreams,
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believing in what we want,believing in who we want to
become in our lives, and takingactions that risk other people's
perceived or real disapproval,that risk being rejected by
somebody in our lives or havingthem be confused about what
we're doing or what we're up to.
That avoiding pain isresponsible for just staying
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stuck and people pleasing.
Avoiding pain also isresponsible for avoiding taking
any action when self-doubt comesup.
Anytime we do something new,we're going to have self-doubt.
That is 100% expected and partof the process.
That avoiding pain, part of thetriangle, also is responsible
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for keeping us stuck becausewhen we're going to try new
things, some things will work,some things won't work in our
attempts.
We will iterate, and the brainmight see that process of
iteration, which is in actualitynatural and very, very necessary
in order to make any idea real,in order to make any change, in
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order to make any progress.
The brain will instead of seeingthat as natural and necessary,
the automatic brain, themotivational triad, will see
that as painful.
Any kind of iteration, any kindof, you know, trying, noticing
what doesn't work and tryingagain.
The automatic brain, themotivational triad sees that as
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a horrible thing.
So it will keep us stuck.
It will not want to iterate.
It will not touch a want to risktrying something that does not
work, even when we know nothingworks 100% right away.
So that avoiding pain also willkeep us from changing our
habits, our relationships, ourcommunication style.
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It will keep us from settingboundaries.
Because all of those things canfeel a little hard, can feel a
little tricky.
The third part of themotivational triad is to pursue
pleasure.
So that's like doing anythingthat gives us a dopamine hit,
like social media scrolling,watching kitten videos, getting
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likes on our posts or ourstories, eating sugar, drinking
alcohol, watching Netflix,watching shows, anything to get
that dopamine hit.
Sometimes the dopamine hit comesfrom like freaky stuff, from
reading the news, but it givesus a little hit of something.
So you see, when I say themotivational triad used to help
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us survive, you can see how itdid.
It kept us safe in a cave,eating enough to keep us in to
keep it to help us survive, keepus procreating, avoiding things
that would get us in danger.
It helped the human species makeit through the eras where there
were real predators and we werethe prey.
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But that's not the era thatwe're in, right?
Right now, it has a net negativeimpact.
And you can see that, right?
Because I don't know about you,but zero of the end of life
stories that I read talk aboutpeople who were proud of a life
where they sat on the couch.
All of them say they wish theyhad taken more risks.
They wish they had followedtheir dreams.
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They wish they had builtrelationships and stuck with
them through the ups and downs,spent more time with their
people, done the hard thing ofsaying no to something so that
they could prioritize being withtheir people.
All of them say they wanted tolive a life that was true to
them.
They wish they had been moretrue to themselves instead of
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meeting everybody else'sexpectations.
They wish they had done lesspeople pleasing.
None of those things can be donefrom the couch with a bag of
chips in a remote.
None of those things come fromthe motivational triad.
So today we're looking at howthey might be showing up for
you.
So think of a goal that you haveor something you're trying to
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create in your life, somethingyou're trying to change,
something you want.
This could be a project, itcould be personal or
professional, it could be ahabit or a relationship change
or some growth you want to gothrough, you want to find a
relationship, change how youcommunicate.
Could be a big move or a littlemove that you're making in your
life, a community you'restarting, anything that's a goal
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for you.
What is the outcome that youwant?
Let's call that your intendedoutcome.
So if you think about that goal,what's your intended outcome?
Really do that work of thinkingabout it right now.
Once you have that intendedoutcome in mind, what do you
want to have happen?
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Now answer three questions.
Where are you avoiding pain?
Where are you doing what's easy?
And where are you pursuingpleasure?
And how is that getting in theway of that intended outcome?
So, how is your motivationaltriad?
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Welcome to being a human with ahuman brain, because we all have
one.
We all have a triad back theretrying to take the wheel.
Where is it showing up for you?
Because it's one thing to knowthese concepts, but it really
doesn't help unless you applythem to yourselves.
So, where is that motivationaltriad getting in the way,
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creating a block between you andyour intended outcome?
So, we talked about this with mystudents this week, and I
thought I'd give you some of theexamples that were true for
them.
They really loved this exercise.
One of them said thatmotivational triad is getting in
the way because when she travelsand she's with extended family,
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she gets really nervous aboutmeeting other people's
expectations of her parenting,that she gets a little overaware
of other people's judgment,whether that's perceived or
whether it's real or not,whether she's making it up in
her head that everybody'sjudging her, or whether they
actually are.
She gets really focused on thatinstead of focused on her actual
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child.
Another student said they werehiding from some areas of their
life that feel hard right now bybeing super productive in one
specific area that feels safe.
I love this example becausesometimes doing what's easy can
kind of masquerade as somethingreally positive.
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This student was doing somethingthat felt positive and was like,
you know, meeting a goal in onearea of their life.
But they also realized they werebeing overproductive in that
area and using that to hide fromeverything else, which was
actually just avoiding pain anddoing what felt actually a
little easier.
So overworking is an example ofhow that shows up for a lot of
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people.
For another student, it waseating sugar, falling back into
that old habit that they'dovercome really successfully in
the past, but in this stressfultime, they were falling back
into that easy thing, pursuingpleasure, eating sugar.
Yet another student experiencedthis and saw that she was
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serving her current clients,doing lots of work, giving away
free content, and serving hercurrent clients instead of doing
outreach to do serve moreclients, instead of doing
business development because itfelt hard.
So focusing on the thing infront of her felt easier.
She was avoiding the pain ofdoing something new, doing
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something that felt harder bydoing the thing in front of her
that felt easy and good.
And lastly, some of my clientswere seeing family during the
holidays, and they were doingwhat was easy by going along
with passive aggressivebehavior.
And instead of being directabout it, and instead of stating
and holding their boundaries,they were kind of going along
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with it.
And it created a net negativeimpact.
They were exhausted and bummedand kind of really stressed out
by the end of the holiday seasonbecause they didn't hold their
boundaries and they didn't speakup when there was passive
aggressive behavior going on.
So those are some examples.
What is it for you?
What is that intended outcome?
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And how is the motivationaltriad getting in the way for
you?
Because once you see how it'sgetting in the way, we can
upshift into your prefrontalcortex, the part of your brain
that can think about things inadvance and plan different ways
of acting that are more in linewith your priorities.
So once you see how avoidingpain, doing what's easy, and
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pursuing pleasure is getting inthe way of your intended
outcome, then you can rewind andimagine yourself facing the same
circumstances you're facing now.
And instead of facing them byletting your motivational triad
lead, come up with a plan forhow you want to act that's in
line with your intended outcomeinstead.
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What could you do?
How could you feel, think, andact that will lead to the
outcome that you want instead ofhaving this net negative impact
on your life?
A method that matches yourintended outcome.
By doing that, you will prepyour brain to actually act in
that way, to actually meet thecircumstance and handle it in a
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way that leads to your outcome.
So, some examples of what mystudents came up with were for
the one that was avoiding doingbusiness development and doing
marketing and outreach, sheplanned into her calendar
selling her programs a few daysa week and did some habit
stacking so that she could dosomething that she enjoyed right
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next to doing the selling.
So she could start to developsome good associations with a
selling and make it easy forherself.
The student who was eating sugarand defaulting to that old habit
put a put a reminder on theirfridge that was kind of a joke
that made them laugh.
It was a funny drawing.
And every time they went to openthe fridge and they would see
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that, it was a reminder to dropdown into their body and notice
what feeling they were avoidingthat was having them want to eat
sugar to get present withwhatever was going on instead of
avoiding that feeling witheating sugar and getting a
dopamine head.
The student that was avoidingthe judgment and perceiving
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judgment around her when she wasuh kind of thinking about her
parenting style during thebreak.
Came up with a strategy oftalking through the parenting
plan that she had with heractual child and her partner.
She also planned in a self-careroutine in the morning so that
she would get exercise andmeditate and prep and prime her
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brain to remember that her kidis her priority, that she can't
know what other people arethinking, that it's none of
their business anyway, thatwhether they have judgment or
not, anybody else's judgment ofher parenting is only a
reflection of them.
And that she gets to be incharge of her own parenting and
her own kid.
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It's none of her business whatpeople think about her.
So think of your intendedoutcome.
What is a plan that you can putin place now to handle the
circumstances that are coming upin the coming weeks in the way
that you want to?
Instead of doing what's easy,avoiding pain or seeking
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pleasure.
Once you have that plan,envision yourself acting that
way.
Put in anything that you caninto your calendar to actually
execute on that plan.
How can you remind yourself toreact and act in that way?
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One of my students put a note tothemselves on their lock screen
of their phone.
Somebody did a drawing on thefridge.
Somebody set up a calendar eventto remind her to meet with her
partner.
Somebody else put little blocksin her calendar to do the
business development.
Somebody else, both a couple ofstudents, use habit stacking to
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support these changes.
What are the ways that you canset yourself up for success to
act, think, and feel in waysthat support your intended
outcome?
Let's get out of the cave, getoff the couch, set down the
Pringles and think from ourpre-frontal cortex so we can
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live lives that we're superproud of.
Because the world needs you, theworld needs your idea.
We invite you to come on in tothe Bloom Room, to our
self-paced courses, to the MoxieMastermind.
We are all about helping you getyour unique ideas out there so
that the world can be a betterplace.
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So reach out, ask yourquestions, join one of our
programs, and enjoy yourreflection on the motivational
triad this week.
That's what I've got for youthis week.
And I will see you next week.
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This is a year-round membershipwhere we take all of these
concepts and we apply them toreal life in a community where
we have each other's backs andwe bring out the best in each
other.
We're all there to make ourideas real.
One idea at a time.
Welcome to the Blue in Your Mind Podcast, where we
take all of your ideas for whatyou want and we turn them into
real things.
I'm your host, certified coachMarie McDonald.
Let's get into it.
Hello everybody, and welcome toepisode 154 of the Bloom Your
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Mind podcast.
We have a packed episode today.
We are doing three things.
One is that I am gonna tell youabout an amazing weekend that we
just had.
Two, I am going to share somebig announcements for what is
coming in the next few months.
We've been working so hard inthe Bloom team, and we have been
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making all kinds of newprograms, recording a bunch of
content, and we are unveiling awhole bunch of exciting new ways
that you can get into the workand the play and the community
that we offer through Bloom andMoxie.
And I'm gonna give you anamazing tool that we I did with
my students this past week tolook into our brain's default
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operating mode and how it isshowing up in our lives in ways
that we're not recognizing andhow it's getting in the way of
what we actually want to do.
So let's get rolling, shall we?
That's a lot to get through.
Okay, first, we just came backfrom a weekend in the desert.
And the reason I wanted to justmention this, I know I've I've
mentioned it in building up tothis weekend before.
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I've mentioned it on thepodcast, is it was an idea that
my husband and I had that wejust recently made real.
And I talked at the last episodeabout problem solving unexpected
challenges that came up beforeour weekend event.
So we had a vow renewal.
We've been together for uh 15years and married for 10, and we
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decided to have a three-day lovefest celebration in the desert.
And then there was a huge amountof problem solving that had to
go into it last minute.
We did that problem solving, andI wanted to give an update on
how amazing the weekend was.
I just sat back, and my husbandand I, Max and I, have been over
the last week and a half justtalking about how it would have
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been so much easier to not dothat event.
This is a little preview to whatI'm gonna share at the end of
the episode.
It was not easy.
We did not avoid pain by doingit.
We did not pursue pleasure bypulling it off.
It ended up being verypleasurable in the end.
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And there was a lot of joy thatcame out of a lot of the work.
But it was really hard work.
There was a lot of challenges toovercome.
It took so much effort andplanning.
And so, by kind of motivatingourselves through all of those
hard parts in the months goingup to the event and working
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through challenges and problemsolving our doubts about all of
these people that were coming toit, we ended up pulling off this
event that we will never forgetfor the rest of our lives.
We came up with a ceremony thatwe had no blueprint for.
Neither of us had ever been to areal vows ceremony.
I went to one when I was eight,but I had no idea what actually
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you do.
What does one do to renew vows?
And so we made all of this stuffup.
We created a whole ceremony, weproblem-solved with the rain.
People were flying in from allover the place.
Some canceled, some came.
What ended up happening wasunbelievably perfect.
The ceremony itself, by goingthrough the creative process,
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having ideas, ideating,collaborating, letting some of
the ideas go, ended up beingexactly perfect for the amount
of people that were there in thespace we were in.
Problem solving and flexing andpivoting with rain plans
actually ended up giving us theopportunity to renew our vows
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inside, which we weren't goingto do before, at a different
space than we were planning todo it at, uh, in a different
venue.
And then gathering all thetables and chairs under an
awning that we actually sort ofbuilt to protect from the rain
in a way that was much closertogether, much more sort of like
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better feeling and visuallybeautiful than if we had not had
a rain plan.
It didn't even end up raining.
But because we had the plan forit, the whole night ended up
better.
So a few things I want to sharefrom this.
One, we had this idea that feltfar-fetched and wild because
we'd never been to one before.
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We put it out there to ourcommunity and we just went for
it.
We had no blueprint, but wepulled it off.
And we are so grateful.
We will never forget it.
And we're getting so manycomments and so much feedback
from our community saying, thankyou so much for what I got out
of this.
And that was our goal, thateveryone would get what they
needed out of this Love Festweekend.
We called it a Love Fest.
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Secondly, there were a lot ofobstacles along the way.
And by the end, looking back, wecould see that the obstacles
actually created a betteroutcome to the event than we
could have predicted had theynot come up.
They really just like ended upmaking something more beautiful
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than what we had planned.
Now, if you did listen to lastepisode about problem solving,
you'll know that I tried to usean obstacle and strategy method
for problem solving.
And I told myself I was notready for it.
It was not the right tool forthe situation when I was in the
middle of the challenge.
And I and I said to myself, andI told you on that podcast, I
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know that in a couple of days orin a, you know, in the future, I
will be able to use that tool.
And what's really amazing isthat looking back at it, I can
see exactly how the obstacle wasa new path forward that created
new possibilities, howeverything that did happen that
was challenging was actuallyperfect for the situation.
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But it's just a good example ofhow sometimes the tools work for
us in the moment and sometimesthey don't.
We got to choose the right toolfor where we are, where our
nervous system is, where what weneed that day.
The tools almost always work inretrospect.
You can look backwards and knowhow obstacles create new
pathways forward.
You can look backward and knowwhat you learned from a
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situation.
But sometimes those tools aren'tthe right ones just for the
moment that you're in.
You got to pick and choose.
And lastly, it's just anembodiment of what we're gonna
talk about in the third part ofour podcast today, which is that
pushing through what's hard,doing things that don't feel
easy, and getting out there totry new things, pushing past
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that motivational triad ends upcreating experiences that we
would never trade in our lives.
So you'll hear a little bit moreabout how you can reflect on
that might be true for yourselfin your own life at the end of
this episode.
All right, secondly, bigannouncements.
We have completely restructuredand redesigned our offerings in
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the bloom room, in the MoxieMastermind, and in some new
offerings that we have based oneveryone's feedback.
We have been iterating for twoyears running the Bloom Room.
The Bloom Room has gone throughmultiple iterations.
And with multiple rounds offeedback, we have improved all
of the content in the BloomRoom.
It all got really greatfeedback, and we tweaked and
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tightened it.
The things that we've gottenmore feedback around are about
how people can most easilyaccess the material that I teach
and the stuff that I provide.
So our announcement for thecoming year is three different
pathways for you to walk, threedifferent ways that we have
created learning materials,coaching materials, and group
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coaching experiences andcommunities that meet you where
you are in your life and meetyour needs.
The first one is the Bloom Room.
The Bloom Room has been a weeklycoaching program that creates
community.
And the thing we hear most oftenfrom the current participants of
the Bloom Room is that itsbiggest value is both the
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content that they get weekly inthe actual live session and the
connection to community.
That it feels like every singleweek a place where they can come
back to their best selves,recenter, learn one new tool per
week, one new concept, and thenlearn as many more as they want
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because of the library ofmaterials that are available to
them.
But the most significant thingthat people get out of that
bloom room membership is theactual community.
So the people that show up thereconsistently every week are the
ones that just love being therewith other people.
They consistently say thatwatching other people get
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coached in the bloom room is asvaluable or more valuable than
getting coached themselves,which they all do sometimes, but
that both things are just asvaluable, that being in a
community of like-minded people,a supportive community that's
always there and has their backsand always has a new, fresh
thing to inspire their week issuper valuable.
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So that bloom room next year isgoing to be available with the
updated material, all of thefoundational course material as
self-guided content.
So that's the first thing that'savailable in January.
We are launching all of that newmaterial.
So if you are interested ingetting in the Bloom Room, get
in now so that you will be therefor that initial launch in
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January of that new material.
Bloom Room is meeting two tothree times a month so that
there's a little break, but isalways available through a
digital connection point.
So that's the first announcementis this whole new updated
framework, format, and contentfor the Bloom Room.
The second update is that we arelaunching the Moxie Mastermind
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Experience, which is a six-monthprogram for women who have an
idea for how the world can be abetter place that they want to
make real.
In this program, it's asix-month program that has this
amazing material for how to makeideas real.
You will learn the women who arein the Moxie Mastermind will be
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in a cohort of women,like-minded women, with weekly
coaching, weekly digitalsupport, an in-person retreat,
one-on-one coaching a coupletimes during the six months with
me, and the course material,access to all of the
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foundational course material,all of my other programs, but
also the make ideas real course.
The make ideas real course isthe evolution of all of my work,
and it is absolutely amazing.
It is about how to turn an ideainto a real thing and everything
that your brain will do alongthe way as you try to do that.
So I will guide everyone in theMoxie mastermind through that
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course material with support andin community and in-person
retreats and touch points andcoaching.
So that program is for women whohave a really solid idea that
they want to make real.
Now, if you know a woman who hasan idea that they want to make
real, get her in touch with mequick because we are lining up
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the first crew of MoxieMastermind participants.
We will have cohorts every sixmonths, but this first group is
really special with some reallyincredible opportunities.
So send her my way.
Or if it's you and you're awoman with an idea that you want
to make real, come my way.
One last thing is that if youknow a woman that has a few
different ideas but doesn't knowwhich one, or if you are a woman
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with a few different ideas butyou don't know which one you
want to make real, come my wayand I will help you figure it
out and decide if it's time foryou for the Moxie mastermind.
The third exciting update that Iwant to share is because of a
lot of feedback that people havegiven about wanting to
participate in my programs,wanting to be able to access my
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material, but not having thetime during their workday,
during their week to be able tojoin the coaching program, or
feeling like being in a coachingprogram isn't their favorite way
to participate, where theyactually prefer to work through
things self-paced and joinmeetups every once in a while,
but it's just not their bag tolike be in a community every
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single week.
I have actually createdself-guided options for all of
my courses.
So if you're interested in thefoundations course, which is the
basic material to use your mindto work for you, use your
cognitive thinking skills andyour neuroplastic capabilities
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to manage your mind to work foryou, not against you every day.
That's the first skill.
The second skill is emotionalmanagement, making your feelings
and the processing of yourfeelings something that comes
easily to you, that you knowexactly how to do so your
feelings don't overwhelm you,but they work for you and not
against you as well.
Thirdly, self-hypnosis, so thatyou can use your unconscious
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mind as a support system.
Those are our three main toolsthat we use in the Foundations
course.
And then, secondly, the secondpart of it is that we look at
your existing belief systems,your value systems, your true
desires, and we look at theregenerative design of your life
right now.
What are all of the areas thatyour energy goes out into?
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And are they reciprocal?
What are the ways that you'regetting energy back from
everything in your life?
At the end of that course, youwill choose three different
areas that you want to makeimprovements in and you
prioritize them.
What's the first priority area,the second, and the third?
And from there, you have theoption to move into the Make
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Ideas Real course.
That also has a self-guidedoption where you can just work
your way through that courseafter the foundations course.
So you get an email in yourinbox once a week with your new
video, your new instructions,your new assignment.
And that teaches you how to makethat idea for the area of your
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life that you want to make realinto a real thing.
I also have courses inrelationships, in time
whispering, in the art ofself-loving, and in some a
couple of other things that arecoming out a little bit later
next year that are all availableto purchase and experience, all
a carte.
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But if you're in the bloom room,you get access to some of those.
And if you're in MoxieMastermind, you get access to
everything.
So those are all theopportunities that are coming
next year.
There are three choose your ownadventure paths.
One is a community that has yourback, that's always there to
support you and inspire you weekto week.
This and to teach you thefoundations, foundational
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concepts of emotionalmanagement, cognitive thought
management, and self-coachingand self-hypnosis.
And then how to really look atyour belief systems, your
values, your desires, andprioritize the areas of your
life where you want to make achange.
That's the first adventure.
The second adventure isself-guided courses where you
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can choose the foundationalcourse to work your way through
on your own.
The Make Ideas Real course, therelationships course, the time
whispering course.
You can choose any of those asthey come out and work through
them at your own pace.
And thirdly is the MoxieMastermind, which is a six-month
mastermind program with anin-person retreat and in-person
coaching for women who haveideas for how to make the world
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a better place that they wantsupport and community as they
make them real.
So that gives lots of high-levelsupport, any kind of tools,
resources, budgets, work plans,all that stuff that folks might
need as they're making ideasreal.
So those are all myannouncements.
Please send come my way.
Let me know if you're interestedin the Moxie Mastermind or any
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of these other opportunities andsend your people my way.
We are about to open doors onmany of these things.
And you will see if you are onmy social media, if you uh are
on my email list, you'll get thepings and know exactly when
these things are rolling out andexactly what fun bonuses there
are for different times of yearand when you buy these things
and when you participate inthem.
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So those are the announcements Ihave.
Now, on to our podcast contentfor today.
We are talking about themotivational triad.
When I talk about themotivational triad, this is not
new, a new concept.
This is actually a pretty,pretty foundational concept in
psychology that our brains havean outdated operating system
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that prioritizes three things.
The first thing is to pursuepleasure, the second is to avoid
pain.
And the third is to do what'seasy.
So that's the operating systemthat our brain defaults to.
It exists this way because weevolved to conserve energy and
propagate our species, tosurvive as the human species,
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right?
And while this really workedwell to get us to where we are
today, a thriving human speciesin many ways, it our brains just
never went through an operatingsystem update to match the needs
of our current world.
We did survive, but there aremany ways in which this
outdating operating system keepsus stuck and keeps us from
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actually thriving.
So, in general, this oldoperating system has a net
negative impact on our lives.
When we let ourselves default tothat operating system and react
to the world in general in thesethree ways: pursuing pleasure,
avoiding pain, doing what'seasy, we're defaulting to the
motivational triad, it creates anet negative and it gets us
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further and further away fromthe dreams we have for ourselves
and our lives and the ideas wewant to make real.
So let's break this down.
First, our brain wants to dowhat's easy.
Doing what's easy does notinvolve habit changes.
Doing what's easy does notinvolve putting ourselves out
there to date people or grow orevolve or try new things.
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It definitely does not supportus to pursue dreams or chase
goals.
Doing what's easy includesstaying inside, sitting on the
couch, replaying our oldpatterns, doing things that feel
safe and comfortable and thathave no risk involved.
The second thing, the secondpart of this triangle is to
avoid pain.
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And when I say pain, I want youto think of pain as any
discomfort.
So this leg of the triad is theone that's responsible for
things like people pleasing,doing whatever everybody expects
of us instead of the discomfortof doing what's important to us,
instead of the discomfort ofbelieving in our dreams,
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believing in what we want,believing in who we want to
become in our lives, and takingactions that risk other people's
perceived or real disapproval,that risk being rejected by
somebody in our lives or havingthem be confused about what
we're doing or what we're up to.
That avoiding pain isresponsible for just staying
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stuck and people pleasing.
Avoiding pain also isresponsible for avoiding taking
any action when self-doubt comesup.
Anytime we do something new,we're going to have self-doubt.
That is 100% expected and partof the process.
That avoiding pain, part of thetriangle, also is responsible
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for keeping us stuck becausewhen we're going to try new
things, some things will work,some things won't work in our
attempts.
We will iterate, and the brainmight see that process of
iteration, which is in actualitynatural and very, very necessary
in order to make any idea real,in order to make any change, in
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order to make any progress.
The brain will instead of seeingthat as natural and necessary,
the automatic brain, themotivational triad, will see
that as painful.
Any kind of iteration, any kindof, you know, trying, noticing
what doesn't work and tryingagain.
The automatic brain, themotivational triad sees that as
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a horrible thing.
So it will keep us stuck.
It will not want to iterate.
It will not touch a want to risktrying something that does not
work, even when we know nothingworks 100% right away.
So that avoiding pain also willkeep us from changing our
habits, our relationships, ourcommunication style.
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It will keep us from settingboundaries.
Because all of those things canfeel a little hard, can feel a
little tricky.
The third part of themotivational triad is to pursue
pleasure.
So that's like doing anythingthat gives us a dopamine hit,
like social media scrolling,watching kitten videos, getting
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likes on our posts or ourstories, eating sugar, drinking
alcohol, watching Netflix,watching shows, anything to get
that dopamine hit.
Sometimes the dopamine hit comesfrom like freaky stuff, from
reading the news, but it givesus a little hit of something.
So you see, when I say themotivational triad used to help
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us survive, you can see how itdid.
It kept us safe in a cave,eating enough to keep us in to
keep it to help us survive, keepus procreating, avoiding things
that would get us in danger.
It helped the human species makeit through the eras where there
were real predators and we werethe prey.
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But that's not the era thatwe're in, right?
Right now, it has a net negativeimpact.
And you can see that, right?
Because I don't know about you,but zero of the end of life
stories that I read talk aboutpeople who were proud of a life
where they sat on the couch.
All of them say they wish theyhad taken more risks.
They wish they had followedtheir dreams.
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They wish they had builtrelationships and stuck with
them through the ups and downs,spent more time with their
people, done the hard thing ofsaying no to something so that
they could prioritize being withtheir people.
All of them say they wanted tolive a life that was true to
them.
They wish they had been moretrue to themselves instead of
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meeting everybody else'sexpectations.
They wish they had done lesspeople pleasing.
None of those things can be donefrom the couch with a bag of
chips in a remote.
None of those things come fromthe motivational triad.
So today we're looking at howthey might be showing up for
you.
So think of a goal that you haveor something you're trying to
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create in your life, somethingyou're trying to change,
something you want.
This could be a project, itcould be personal or
professional, it could be ahabit or a relationship change
or some growth you want to gothrough, you want to find a
relationship, change how youcommunicate.
Could be a big move or a littlemove that you're making in your
life, a community you'restarting, anything that's a goal
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for you.
What is the outcome that youwant?
Let's call that your intendedoutcome.
So if you think about that goal,what's your intended outcome?
Really do that work of thinkingabout it right now.
Once you have that intendedoutcome in mind, what do you
want to have happen?
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Now answer three questions.
Where are you avoiding pain?
Where are you doing what's easy?
And where are you pursuingpleasure?
And how is that getting in theway of that intended outcome?
So, how is your motivationaltriad?
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Welcome to being a human with ahuman brain, because we all have
one.
We all have a triad back theretrying to take the wheel.
Where is it showing up for you?
Because it's one thing to knowthese concepts, but it really
doesn't help unless you applythem to yourselves.
So, where is that motivationaltriad getting in the way,
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creating a block between you andyour intended outcome?
So, we talked about this with mystudents this week, and I
thought I'd give you some of theexamples that were true for
them.
They really loved this exercise.
One of them said thatmotivational triad is getting in
the way because when she travelsand she's with extended family,
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she gets really nervous aboutmeeting other people's
expectations of her parenting,that she gets a little overaware
of other people's judgment,whether that's perceived or
whether it's real or not,whether she's making it up in
her head that everybody'sjudging her, or whether they
actually are.
She gets really focused on thatinstead of focused on her actual
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child.
Another student said they werehiding from some areas of their
life that feel hard right now bybeing super productive in one
specific area that feels safe.
I love this example becausesometimes doing what's easy can
kind of masquerade as somethingreally positive.
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This student was doing somethingthat felt positive and was like,
you know, meeting a goal in onearea of their life.
But they also realized they werebeing overproductive in that
area and using that to hide fromeverything else, which was
actually just avoiding pain anddoing what felt actually a
little easier.
So overworking is an example ofhow that shows up for a lot of
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people.
For another student, it waseating sugar, falling back into
that old habit that they'dovercome really successfully in
the past, but in this stressfultime, they were falling back
into that easy thing, pursuingpleasure, eating sugar.
Yet another student experiencedthis and saw that she was
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serving her current clients,doing lots of work, giving away
free content, and serving hercurrent clients instead of doing
outreach to do serve moreclients, instead of doing
business development because itfelt hard.
So focusing on the thing infront of her felt easier.
She was avoiding the pain ofdoing something new, doing
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something that felt harder bydoing the thing in front of her
that felt easy and good.
And lastly, some of my clientswere seeing family during the
holidays, and they were doingwhat was easy by going along
with passive aggressivebehavior.
And instead of being directabout it, and instead of stating
and holding their boundaries,they were kind of going along
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with it.
And it created a net negativeimpact.
They were exhausted and bummedand kind of really stressed out
by the end of the holiday seasonbecause they didn't hold their
boundaries and they didn't speakup when there was passive
aggressive behavior going on.
So those are some examples.
What is it for you?
What is that intended outcome?
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And how is the motivationaltriad getting in the way for
you?
Because once you see how it'sgetting in the way, we can
upshift into your prefrontalcortex, the part of your brain
that can think about things inadvance and plan different ways
of acting that are more in linewith your priorities.
So once you see how avoidingpain, doing what's easy, and
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pursuing pleasure is getting inthe way of your intended
outcome, then you can rewind andimagine yourself facing the same
circumstances you're facing now.
And instead of facing them byletting your motivational triad
lead, come up with a plan forhow you want to act that's in
line with your intended outcomeinstead.
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What could you do?
How could you feel, think, andact that will lead to the
outcome that you want instead ofhaving this net negative impact
on your life?
A method that matches yourintended outcome.
By doing that, you will prepyour brain to actually act in
that way, to actually meet thecircumstance and handle it in a
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way that leads to your outcome.
So, some examples of what mystudents came up with were for
the one that was avoiding doingbusiness development and doing
marketing and outreach, sheplanned into her calendar
selling her programs a few daysa week and did some habit
stacking so that she could dosomething that she enjoyed right
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next to doing the selling.
So she could start to developsome good associations with a
selling and make it easy forherself.
The student who was eating sugarand defaulting to that old habit
put a put a reminder on theirfridge that was kind of a joke
that made them laugh.
It was a funny drawing.
And every time they went to openthe fridge and they would see
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that, it was a reminder to dropdown into their body and notice
what feeling they were avoidingthat was having them want to eat
sugar to get present withwhatever was going on instead of
avoiding that feeling witheating sugar and getting a
dopamine head.
The student that was avoidingthe judgment and perceiving
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judgment around her when she wasuh kind of thinking about her
parenting style during thebreak.
Came up with a strategy oftalking through the parenting
plan that she had with heractual child and her partner.
She also planned in a self-careroutine in the morning so that
she would get exercise andmeditate and prep and prime her
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brain to remember that her kidis her priority, that she can't
know what other people arethinking, that it's none of
their business anyway, thatwhether they have judgment or
not, anybody else's judgment ofher parenting is only a
reflection of them.
And that she gets to be incharge of her own parenting and
her own kid.
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It's none of her business whatpeople think about her.
So think of your intendedoutcome.
What is a plan that you can putin place now to handle the
circumstances that are coming upin the coming weeks in the way
that you want to?
Instead of doing what's easy,avoiding pain or seeking
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pleasure.
Once you have that plan,envision yourself acting that
way.
Put in anything that you caninto your calendar to actually
execute on that plan.
How can you remind yourself toreact and act in that way?
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One of my students put a note tothemselves on their lock screen
of their phone.
Somebody did a drawing on thefridge.
Somebody set up a calendar eventto remind her to meet with her
partner.
Somebody else put little blocksin her calendar to do the
business development.
Somebody else, both a couple ofstudents, use habit stacking to
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support these changes.
What are the ways that you canset yourself up for success to
act, think, and feel in waysthat support your intended
outcome?
Let's get out of the cave, getoff the couch, set down the
Pringles and think from ourpre-frontal cortex so we can
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live lives that we're superproud of.
Because the world needs you, theworld needs your idea.
We invite you to come on in tothe Bloom Room, to our
self-paced courses, to the MoxieMastermind.
We are all about helping you getyour unique ideas out there so
that the world can be a betterplace.
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So reach out, ask yourquestions, join one of our
programs, and enjoy yourreflection on the motivational
triad this week.
That's what I've got for youthis week.
And I will see you next week.
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This is a year-round membershipwhere we take all of these
concepts and we apply them toreal life in a community where
we have each other's backs andwe bring out the best in each
other.
We're all there to make ourideas real.
One idea at a time.
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