E8: How to Win Friends and Influence People: The only book you need to lead you to success

3 Lessons 💡

1. Give honest and sincere appreciation.Appreciation is one of the most powerful tools in the world, people put in their best efforts to be appreciated rather than criticized, so whenever anybody does something right, or for you, you should show your love with meaningful and honest appreciation. Don’t hesitate in your praising, and it should be really what you feel, no flattery. One of the strongest desires people have is to be appreciated.One point that I really like that is attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson: Every person is superior to me in certain ways. There is always something to learn from and appreciate in others
2. Become genuinely interested in other peopleYou can make more friends in a short span of time, by being genuinely interested in them, rather than trying to be interesting to them. People often like to talk about themselves. Thus, I've heard someone say, "The person is a good conversationalist". However, what they might also mean with this statement is "The person is a good listener."
3. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.Well, we all know that nobody likes to take orders, from toddlers to old people and everyone in between. A good way to get things done right by others is to ask questions that show the right path, and share information rather than direct orders. Asking questions allows your partner to come to their own conclusions independently. People like their own ideas better. When someone is given control, it stimulates the creativity of your partner
   1. Sample Questions-How likely do you think this will work?-What do you think of this?-Can we think of different ways to do it?

3 Actions ✅

1. Share sincere appreciation to at least one person in your life this week.
2. During a conversation with a stranger or acquaintance, ask questions and while they're speaking, don't think about what you want to say next.
3. During a conversation in your personal or professional life, ask a question instead of telling someone what to do

Helpful Links:

• "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
• "Abhishek Soni's" Summary Article
• "Little Bit Better" 30 minute summary video
• Alex and Books Website/Newsletter - provided structure and notes for this episode

Book Mentioned: "How to Win Friends and Influence People: The only book you need to lead you to success" by Dale Carnegie