What to Do When a Loved One Dies?

Dealing with the loss of a loved one is never easy. It's a time filled with grief, a whirlwind of emotions, and a lot of uncertainty. On my podcast, Boomer Time, I often get asked, "What do I do next?" when someone loses a loved one. It's a 911 call for help, and honestly, it's a question that needs a thoughtful answer.

First and foremost, let's acknowledge the pain. Grief is essential. Allow yourself to feel it. Many times, a loss follows a long illness or a challenging period of caregiving. Recognize that loss, and let yourself grieve before anything else. The practical matters can wait, trust me. As a person of faith, I believe my loved ones are in a better place, but that doesn't diminish the pain of loss. Grief has its own timetable, and suppressing it will only make it resurface later. Lean on your support system. You're not meant to navigate this alone. I understand that some of you may be experiencing raw and even angry feelings. That's okay. It's all part of the process. Pray, if that's your way of coping.

Now, let's talk about some practical steps. If you're the executor, personal representative, or trustee, understand that you're stepping into a leadership role. Your family will look to you for guidance. Set a tone of communication and transparency. Answer their questions, and share relevant documents when possible. Nothing creates more disputes than a perceived lack of information. Take this role seriously. You're there to lead and reassure your family through a tough time. Remember, they are grieving too, and they may be unsure about what's coming next. Estate administration takes time. Getting into court for probate, if necessary, can take weeks. Share this information. The unknown only adds to the grief.

So, what are the first steps? Allow for grief and honor the lost relationship. Then, communicate with your family. Your loved one chose you for this role for a reason. Be the leader they expected you to be. Guide your family without creating disputes. Setting expectations from the beginning is key.

Episode 71 of Boomer Time offers additional guidance. If you find yourself in this space, I invite you to listen. I’m also here in the event that you need more personalized assistance.

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