EP 04 - Untamed & Sensual: Exploring the Intersection of Sexuality and Masculinity

In this candid and thought-provoking episode, Dave and Manny are joined by Shaun Cooke–Wild Man, Master Coach, and Men’s Group Leader– to discuss the often taboo but essential topics of sexuality and healthy masculinity.

Their bold conversation explores how men’s relationship with sex evolves across different stages of life—from their teenage years through their 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond—and how each stage offers unique opportunities for growth and self-awareness.

Shaun shares his journey through personal struggles and highlights how understanding our sexual energy can lead to a more authentic and powerful expression of masculinity.

Episode Highlights:

• Healthy Masculinity and Self-Awareness: Shaun explains that true healthy masculinity comes from deep self-awareness, acknowledging our shadows, and navigating life’s challenges while remaining of service to others.
• Shaun’s Journey with Mental Health: Shaun vulnerably shares his past battles with depression and suicidal thoughts, and how men’s work has been a key to his healing.
• The Role of Shame in Sexual Struggles: The conversation delves into the many forms of shame men carry around sexuality—whether it's related to erectile dysfunction, porn, masturbation, or sexual preferences. Shaun discusses how this shame leads men to hide and avoid truly exploring their sexual health.

Key Discussion Points:

• The Importance of Men’s Circles: Shaun talks about how trust is critical in men’s groups and how men often open up about their struggles with sexuality after building that trust over time.
• Self-Pleasure and Sexual Mastery: The hosts and Shaun discuss how mindful self-pleasure practices can train men to be better, more present lovers, moving away from the "get it over with" approach many men take.
• Masculine and Feminine Energy: They revisit the dynamics of masculine and feminine energy, focusing on how being overly agreeable can kill sexual polarity in relationships.
• Sex as Creative Energy: Shaun shares insights on how sexual energy can be harnessed as creative energy, encouraging men to use this force to propel them toward greater purpose and creation in life.

Key Takeaways:

• Shame Hinders Sexual Health: Shame around sexual performance and preferences often prevents men from engaging deeply with their own sexuality, yet healing and self-awareness begin with openness and exploration.
• Conscious Accountability: Having trusted "conscious buddies" who hold men accountable is crucial for personal growth and sharpening masculinity in a healthy way.
• Sex is More Than Physical: Sexuality is much more than the physical act—it's an energy that can be used to foster creativity, connection, and purpose in all areas of life.

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