July 14, 2025 • 26 mins
In this raw & honest episode of BridgetteUnfiltered, we rip off the glam filter and share the real story behind the unfortunate circumstances in January 2025 that shook your host, Bridgette's loyalty of the industry she has always defended, to the emotional fallout of realizing she was "performing” her whole life, Bridgette lays it all out.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
I'm pulling back the glam to explain the emotional,
spiritual and strategic chaos ofbecoming someone new in front
of an audience.
And if you've ever felt caughtbetween who you were and who
you're becoming, this one's foryou as a former adult star
(00:30):
turned, I guess, podcast, socialmedia, loud mouth, smart mouth
and more.
Ladies and gentlemen, I see you.
(00:52):
This one's for those who arejust tired of the shallow, the
loud, the fake.
You're here because you wantsomething real.
I'm sure, if you're aware, myaesthetic is not exactly for
everyone.
I always like to say I am wellaware that I am not everyone's
cup of coffee, but I'm someone'sshot of espresso, hopefully
maybe Blonde, big boobs, fakelips, as some like to refer to
(01:15):
me as the quintessential Barbiebimbo.
I've heard it a million timesthroughout my entire career,
times throughout my entirecareer.
And now, for someone who usedto love playing with Barbie,
(01:36):
this to me will never not be acompliment, which of course
leads to the ever subtle eyeroll that many of you have when
I refer to myself as real.
And if life has taught meanything, it is to not only not
judge a book by its cover, byits shiny cover, but that,
instead of complaining about thestigma women in my industry and
the like go through.
(01:56):
Let's do something about it.
So here we are.
In past episodes I went intogreat detail about how I started
the adult industry, my naivethoughts behind it and the
creation of the character thatallowed me my own place in an
industry.
Faker than your lastgirlfriend's orgasm, trust me.
(02:19):
Yet the actors, actresses,directors, pas, my agent, makeup
artists were some of the mostsolid, nicest human beings I
could have ever imagined to havebeen surrounded by.
I swear, if it wasn't for theculture within the industry now
I'm talking about the top 5%okay, not the average Mary Jane
(02:44):
grabbing a camera I wouldn'thave made it past a day.
It made going on set somethingI looked forward to, because the
actual act online sex was 25,30 minutes, those 25, 30 minutes
that you watch when you fastforward through my favorite part
, which is the beginning, thescript and I know that most of
(03:07):
the demographic always want toforward that.
They're like don't waste mytime, Just get me to it.
But everything else thestorytelling, the makeup, the
storytelling in the makeup chair.
The lunchtime with the crew, aswe discussed how everyone's
doing the, looking at someone'sbaby pics they truly felt like
(03:29):
we were amongst family.
I think that's why I fight sohard to try and point the honest
picture of my own personalexperiences during my career,
because, for me, I want to giveit the respect it deserves Moral
clauses aside the respect itdeserves from me.
(03:51):
But then, but then, when I feltdisrespected for the first time
within my industry and I feltsuch a huge betrayal and I mean
overall sadness it was then Irealized that not only had I
been performing for so manyyears, but so was the very
(04:14):
industry that I was protectingso much.
Covid truly changed the entiregame.
Within the walls of theindustry, I noticed a cultural
shift.
Performers had to push thelimits to remain relevant.
More people found it easier towork from home, online, than
(04:36):
waste gas, money, time going onset and trust when I say that
sitting in two-hour traffic whenyou only eight miles from set
in Los Angeles was a pain in theass each and every single time.
But I did it Happily, and otherthings of which I have already
tackled in early episodes.
(04:57):
And then came the final nail inthe coffin for me An award show
, january 2025.
In the coffin for me an awardshow, january 2025.
To some, what I heard might havenot been a big deal, but to me
because someone as loyal as I'vebeen to the industry because of
its very people, I realizedthat not only was I performing
(05:19):
this entire time, but dare I say, the entire industry was too,
or at least that part of theindustry, and it just got my
mind racing and racing.
I won't get into it at themoment, but this, this, was when
I realized that speaking mytruth meant more to me than
(05:40):
being a dancing sexy monkey forselect corporations.
I hit that breakdown that beganthat internal audit I had to do
for myself in order to continuemoving forward as an
entertainer.
I realized that I know I'm notthe only one feeling like this,
(06:01):
and there will be others whowill have the sense of oh shit,
now what?
So if you're tuning in, youvalue strength, clarity, inner
confidence, that voice insideyour head, that little voice
that realizes once you hit acertain point and that's
(06:24):
different for everyone thecourage to move ahead and draw
your own life is inside you,because what good is working,
living day-to-day in the grind,when your voice is being
suppressed?
Right, that's exactly what I'mweaving into my brand now not
(06:47):
performing for anyone but me.
So why does this matter?
I feel it's so important to beauthentic.
It's exactly what I look forwhen others content,
entertainment, et cetera.
There's a reason why I no longerappreciate super woke Hollywood
(07:13):
.
There's a reason I refuse towatch the newer Disney remakes.
Just let me have old Cinderella, let me have Snow White the way
she was.
Why remake it with this agenda?
Because there's always anagenda.
Almost every form ofentertainment that we consume,
(07:34):
there's always an agenda,there's always an asterisk,
always just something extra.
And it's exhausting.
Honestly, it's exhausting forme as a consumer and now as a
creator, and as my journeydrives forward.
The layers had to be shed, butat my own time and not anyone
(07:56):
else's.
I've had to relearn literallywho I am, and the journey of
creating just can't be fulfilledwithout this honesty, because
with baggage like mine, there'sjust no way that I could even
move forward.
And that's why this matters tome to put this out there for you
(08:20):
, whatever brought you here.
That's why it matters to me.
As much as it matters to me,we're going to put a little
pause.
We're going to put a little pinon that, because right now I am
going to debut this new sectionthat you're going to be hearing
every week.
I'm calling it Dear Bridget.
(08:41):
So this is something I've beensecretly dreaming about for a
while.
You know how some people growup watching to be astronauts or
surgeons, ballerinas yeah well,I wanted to be Delilah.
Yep, I don't know if you know.
I don't know if you've everwalked into your mom's kitchen
back in the day and she waslistening to the radio and you
(09:02):
heard Delilah.
I loved it.
And if you don't know who thatis, it's probably because you
had a very loving, stable homelife and you weren't awake at
11.30 pm crying in a wet towel,listening to other people's
breakups on AM radio.
I mean, not that I know fromexperience at all, from anyone I
(09:26):
know, of course not.
Delilah was like your mom'stherapist and your ex's worst
nightmare, because after everymini therapy session the music
went straight to like PhilCollins or Enya, some shit like
that.
It was literally iconic.
And then there was Dear Abby.
(09:46):
Dear Abby was the OG New YorkPost columnist.
She gave these punchy like nobullshit responses to readers'
questions with like a cigarettein one hand and a divorce lawyer
on speed dial, and I ate thatshit up.
I loved the New York Post forthat, if I had my way of get
(10:06):
around, if my teacher had it, Iwould read up on it.
I loved the New York Post forthat.
If I had my way of get around,if my teacher had it, I would
read up on it.
I loved it.
So I thought, what if I tookthose two energies right
Delilah's softness of which I'mtrying to embody in my new era,
and you know, miss Abby's sideeye that I'm always gonna have
no matter, and just filter itthrough my own hot mess.
(10:31):
Introducing, dear Bridget, whereyour questions are going to
meet, my brutally honest advice,because that's what we're here
for, right, ladies and gentlemen, dear Bridget, I've been dating
my boyfriend for six months andrecently found out he's been
watching his ex's TikToks andliking every single one of her
thirst traps.
(10:51):
He says it's no big deal.
Am I being insecure or is thisemotional cheating?
Ps, I did look through hisfollowing list, which pretended,
while pretending, to watch thenew episode of Quarterback on
Netflix.
So maybe I'm not innocenteither.
Let me know.
Okay, well, first of all, Ilove when girls step in and, you
(11:17):
know, kind of, ask theirquestions and don't look of me,
don't look at me like their archnemesis.
And you know, girl, I hate you.
You're the reason why my manwatched porn.
So I appreciate that.
I appreciate all the femalesupport.
So that's probably why myproducer said this is going to
(11:39):
be the first question we giveyou, which is awesome Done.
And second of all, girl, youare not insecure and you have
every right to investigate.
Watching your man like anotherwoman's TikTok in 2025 hurts.
It hurts a lot.
And for the men that listen tothe show, here's an inside look
(12:02):
it hurts.
We are well aware that men haveanimalistic behavioral
tendencies and some might saythat, due to the modern-day
suppression of such animal-liketendencies, us, as women, have
instilled unnatural expectationson our male partners.
Don't look, don't stare, don'ttalk.
(12:22):
Why are you liking this?
Why this?
But fuck it, women, we're crazy.
We're crazy only when we likethe guy.
I'll be honest dudes, theaverage girl can probably get
over anything.
When she doesn't like the guy,she'll get the ick.
You know what I mean?
(12:43):
We pray for the ick so that wedon't like you guys too much,
but that's another topic.
And at the beginning of adating story, at the beginning
of a dating relationship, thesedates, you know, the ones where
the minutes turn to hours andyou just learn everything about
the other person is where I feelmen, being the more logical
(13:06):
rather than emotional being,will take mental note and if
he's a dick, we'll use it to hisadvantage.
But if he listens and trulycares about the girl sitting in
front of him, he will listen tothe stories, pay attention to
the things she doesn't like,because he's the hunter and he's
(13:27):
chasing her and by liking exes,tiktoks in modern times that's
considered digital chasing.
It's convenient, it's adequatelydistanced to where a guy truly
can just be liking the pics, notthinking it's a big deal.
Much like if he sees a hot girlwalking and turns and looks.
But the only reason it upsetsyou, my dear listener, is
(13:53):
because you looked.
Had you not looked, would youhave known.
It's a catch-22, right, mygirls?
My mom always used to tell meif you don't want to know, don't
look.
Let's just say we all have ourboundaries.
If yours is lack ofself-control, from a man, you
(14:13):
know, like not liking a girl'spic is easy to do.
Much like not flipping yourneck to see a hot girl walk by
while you're holding your girl'shands is easy to do.
It's self-control.
It's so easy to do when yourespect and like the girl.
It's what separates theanimal-like tendencies to the
(14:36):
in-control masculine that womenlike me tend to find very
attractive.
A man's self-control inout-of-control situations is
what makes us women trust in him, because he demonstrates
leadership, which, in turn, ifyou hadn't noticed him liking
(14:58):
his ex's TikToks, I can bet amillion dollars you wouldn't
have gone through his followlist.
Which leads me to think due tohow that app works, his follow
list is on private, oh boy, andthat's just a whole nother set
of fucking issues.
Why is his follow list private?
(15:19):
I know.
For me it's because of work,brand deals, et cetera.
Having that follow list is goldbecause people look at who you
follow.
So, girl, what's your boundary?
You can't expect a man to bewhat you want if you don't have
your own self-control, because Ican guarantee if his boundary
(15:42):
is that he doesn't like his girlgoing through his phone, you
will get disposed of.
Finding out each other's firmboundaries from early on can
lead to eliminating so muchheartache, because I can
guarantee the man being thelogical one, usually through
(16:04):
experience.
As soon as we fuck up thatfirst boundary, they're done
with us, because a man wants andvalues respect.
And if we go past that boundarythat he has set for himself.
That means he doesn't haveself-respect for himself.
So when the guy doesn't haveself-respect for himself, what
(16:29):
good is he to us?
He can't lead us.
He doesn't even like himself,which then we don't find
attractive, and then we behaveas such and then things become
toxic, and then you have tobreak up.
Most of us are not innocent.
We're crazy.
We're crazy when we like theguy.
It's just part of our DNA andit's just part of our nature.
(16:49):
The moment I stop caring whatyou do, who you're with, what
you're following, what you'reliking, is the moment I'm not
interested.
Trust, and I think guys arecatching on to that.
So, with that being said,sweetheart, if this answer gets
to you in the digital universe Athank you for your question.
(17:13):
B I wish you the best of luckand I really would love to know
what happens.
So you know, dm me on Instagramat Bridget Unfiltered.
Welcome back.
Okay, we left off withexpressing me, expressing and
letting, telling you that, inorder for me to continue as an
(17:36):
entertainer, I needed to relearnwho I was.
I needed to be honest with whoI was and with what I'm going
through as I bridge this gap,because there's a lot of layers
(17:57):
and I've been asking myself, howmany layers do I fucking have?
Because it's exhausting, it'sso much, but it's also so
freeing.
Mind you, my background is notthe norm.
The average person doesn't haveto be concerned that at any
point you could be having aninnocent dinner and the table
next to you can just go toGoogle and see your tits Anytime
(18:18):
, anywhere.
That sense of privacy feelslong gone.
When, if you know you know, I'mnot saying everyone knows what
I do I'd hope that if someonewere to meet me in the middle of
the street or at the grocerystore I'm not exactly blatant
and screaming ex-porn star, butwho knows?
(18:41):
Again, going back to thebeginning, my aesthetic.
It draws certain conclusionsand I get it.
I'm very much privy to it,because what am I going to do?
Am I going to hide under a bedfor the rest of my life?
Am I going to be concernedabout what the table next to me
at dinner is going to think ifthey see something for the rest
(19:04):
of my life?
No way, we can't live our liveslike that.
But there's no rule book,there's no playbook, because we
build as we go.
And for a minute after Irealized that the next chapter
of my career was just evolving,because the internet will never
(19:24):
go away and the internet willnever let me live it down I just
picked myself up and tookaccountability and ownership.
I just picked myself up andtook accountability and
ownership.
Whenever I had to make toughdecisions, I tended to
self-isolate.
I'm notorious for stayingsilent and away as long as it
(19:45):
takes, until I know I'm readyfor that decision to be made.
I remember making this exactstatement on a podcast and the
lady interviewing me said oh,that must be nice.
I got kids and a husband.
I can't hide anywhere.
So, trust me, I know it's aluxury and I'm grateful for it.
But hiding while I worked on adecision that had to be made,
whatever that looked like,worked for me until recently,
(20:08):
until about the last, I guess,16 months or plus.
Until about, you know, the last, I guess, 16 months or plus.
These life decisions that I hadto make that part of my brain
that has to think about what'sfive steps ahead of me instead
of just what's in front of me,is what's had me making the
decision to not be afraid ofwhat's next, that, after being
(20:32):
one of the more downloaded pornstars.
You know not to toot my ownhorn to toot, but whatever,
it'll be okay.
I didn't have to isolate as Ihad before, which is where I am
now revibing in real time,learning what hasn't worked for
(20:52):
me previously and just flippingit on its head and doing it
differently.
However, there is this messymiddle Old friends become
strangers, new friends becomenew family Men I would find
attractive during those chaotictimes and now just seem
(21:15):
exhausting.
The average modern girl doeshave somewhat of a past by the
time you get to her, unless yougo to a monastery and get
yourself a nun.
Because, if I have to comeacross one more talking head,
andrew Tate-like personalityputting down this generation of
women who have had to embodysuch survival skills because the
(21:39):
average male isn't providingthe safety, the leadership, the
trust that she needs to thrive,say, in a growing relationship
like our dear Bridget.
Question from this episode,your girl will feel the need to
look through your follow list,to look through your phone.
She will feel she needs toquestion why her boundary is
(22:04):
being crossed and yet, being theloving, emotional beings we are
, we'll still stay in thefucking relationship, even
though we know it's a wrap.
That award show in 2025 was myboundary.
I wasn't expecting to make adecision that fast.
(22:25):
I thought it was going to bethis drawn out event.
I expected to do what I alwaysdo go away.
To do what I always do go away,hide, get off social media,
stay silent and isolate.
But instead I got louder.
I went back to my hotel room,took off the gorgeous leopard
(22:45):
print cowboy outfit it waschef's kiss by far one of my
most favorite looks of all thered carpets I've done.
I took a bath and I sat.
I sat until the sun rose overthe Las Vegas strip and that was
that.
There was no plan, no idea, andfor me, that was my rebrand.
(23:08):
I mean, I could have stayed andsmiled and continued to give
energy and press and marketingto the company that didn't value
me at all as an integral partof modern day adult industry.
Because they showed me.
They showed me what theythought of me because of what
they did at the award show inJanuary.
I didn't matter to them.
(23:30):
They were nice to me.
Of course.
I mean, they're not animals.
We're not animals, we're adults.
But when I heard from verycredible sources to what was
said about me behind closeddoors, I realized that they were
only being nice to me asanother performer, as another
(23:52):
performance, and that was myboundary.
We all deserve to be respectedas basic human rights and needs
are met.
They fucking teach us that inpre-K.
For God's sakes, your parentsare supposed to teach you that
from birth.
But that boundary, thatinternal pivot in where you no
longer will tolerate what's donein order to be seen, in order
(24:15):
to be paid or just to be able towork, or in order to have that
boyfriend, or in order to havethat girlfriend or that wife, is
where it's different foreveryone.
And so here we are.
The ability to have anauthentic conversation with you
is so rewarding for me that,even though you can google me
whenever you want, I'm going totake my power back and share
(24:39):
with you my voice, my opinionsand my journey, not only to
evolve me as an artist and anentertainer later and to add yet
(25:02):
another layer to Bridget B.
To make room, you have to shed,and that's where this journey
is leading me.
If something I said made youlaugh, made you cry, made you
block your ex, you're welcome.
Make sure to subscribe, rate oniTunes and follow at Bridget
Unfiltered on Instagram and, ifyou want your question featured
on, dear Bridget, go ahead andslide into the DMs or, you know,
do a shout out, put it in thecomments, we'll find it.
(25:25):
Ladies, go light a candle, fixyour lip gloss and stop letting
boys with zero vision distractyou from your empire.
And remember king.
If you gotta check herfollowing list, it's already
over.
Heal, hydrate and stop fallingin love off instagram stories.
(25:47):
All right, guys, see you nextepisode.
Bye.
I'm pulling back the glam to explain the emotional,
spiritual and strategic chaos ofbecoming someone new in front
of an audience.
And if you've ever felt caughtbetween who you were and who
you're becoming, this one's foryou as a former adult star
(00:30):
turned, I guess, podcast, socialmedia, loud mouth, smart mouth
and more.
Ladies and gentlemen, I see you.
(00:52):
This one's for those who arejust tired of the shallow, the
loud, the fake.
You're here because you wantsomething real.
I'm sure, if you're aware, myaesthetic is not exactly for
everyone.
I always like to say I am wellaware that I am not everyone's
cup of coffee, but I'm someone'sshot of espresso, hopefully
maybe Blonde, big boobs, fakelips, as some like to refer to
(01:15):
me as the quintessential Barbiebimbo.
I've heard it a million timesthroughout my entire career,
times throughout my entirecareer.
And now, for someone who usedto love playing with Barbie,
(01:36):
this to me will never not be acompliment, which of course
leads to the ever subtle eyeroll that many of you have when
I refer to myself as real.
And if life has taught meanything, it is to not only not
judge a book by its cover, byits shiny cover, but that,
instead of complaining about thestigma women in my industry and
the like go through.
(01:56):
Let's do something about it.
So here we are.
In past episodes I went intogreat detail about how I started
the adult industry, my naivethoughts behind it and the
creation of the character thatallowed me my own place in an
industry.
Faker than your lastgirlfriend's orgasm, trust me.
(02:19):
Yet the actors, actresses,directors, pas, my agent, makeup
artists were some of the mostsolid, nicest human beings I
could have ever imagined to havebeen surrounded by.
I swear, if it wasn't for theculture within the industry now
I'm talking about the top 5%okay, not the average Mary Jane
(02:44):
grabbing a camera I wouldn'thave made it past a day.
It made going on set somethingI looked forward to, because the
actual act online sex was 25,30 minutes, those 25, 30 minutes
that you watch when you fastforward through my favorite part
, which is the beginning, thescript and I know that most of
(03:07):
the demographic always want toforward that.
They're like don't waste mytime, Just get me to it.
But everything else thestorytelling, the makeup, the
storytelling in the makeup chair.
The lunchtime with the crew, aswe discussed how everyone's
doing the, looking at someone'sbaby pics they truly felt like
(03:29):
we were amongst family.
I think that's why I fight sohard to try and point the honest
picture of my own personalexperiences during my career,
because, for me, I want to giveit the respect it deserves Moral
clauses aside the respect itdeserves from me.
(03:51):
But then, but then, when I feltdisrespected for the first time
within my industry and I feltsuch a huge betrayal and I mean
overall sadness it was then Irealized that not only had I
been performing for so manyyears, but so was the very
(04:14):
industry that I was protectingso much.
Covid truly changed the entiregame.
Within the walls of theindustry, I noticed a cultural
shift.
Performers had to push thelimits to remain relevant.
More people found it easier towork from home, online, than
(04:36):
waste gas, money, time going onset and trust when I say that
sitting in two-hour traffic whenyou only eight miles from set
in Los Angeles was a pain in theass each and every single time.
But I did it Happily, and otherthings of which I have already
tackled in early episodes.
(04:57):
And then came the final nail inthe coffin for me An award show
, january 2025.
In the coffin for me an awardshow, january 2025.
To some, what I heard might havenot been a big deal, but to me
because someone as loyal as I'vebeen to the industry because of
its very people, I realizedthat not only was I performing
(05:19):
this entire time, but dare I say, the entire industry was too,
or at least that part of theindustry, and it just got my
mind racing and racing.
I won't get into it at themoment, but this, this, was when
I realized that speaking mytruth meant more to me than
(05:40):
being a dancing sexy monkey forselect corporations.
I hit that breakdown that beganthat internal audit I had to do
for myself in order to continuemoving forward as an
entertainer.
I realized that I know I'm notthe only one feeling like this,
(06:01):
and there will be others whowill have the sense of oh shit,
now what?
So if you're tuning in, youvalue strength, clarity, inner
confidence, that voice insideyour head, that little voice
that realizes once you hit acertain point and that's
(06:24):
different for everyone thecourage to move ahead and draw
your own life is inside you,because what good is working,
living day-to-day in the grind,when your voice is being
suppressed?
Right, that's exactly what I'mweaving into my brand now not
(06:47):
performing for anyone but me.
So why does this matter?
I feel it's so important to beauthentic.
It's exactly what I look forwhen others content,
entertainment, et cetera.
There's a reason why I no longerappreciate super woke Hollywood
(07:13):
.
There's a reason I refuse towatch the newer Disney remakes.
Just let me have old Cinderella, let me have Snow White the way
she was.
Why remake it with this agenda?
Because there's always anagenda.
Almost every form ofentertainment that we consume,
(07:34):
there's always an agenda,there's always an asterisk,
always just something extra.
And it's exhausting.
Honestly, it's exhausting forme as a consumer and now as a
creator, and as my journeydrives forward.
The layers had to be shed, butat my own time and not anyone
(07:56):
else's.
I've had to relearn literallywho I am, and the journey of
creating just can't be fulfilledwithout this honesty, because
with baggage like mine, there'sjust no way that I could even
move forward.
And that's why this matters tome to put this out there for you
(08:20):
, whatever brought you here.
That's why it matters to me.
As much as it matters to me,we're going to put a little
pause.
We're going to put a little pinon that, because right now I am
going to debut this new sectionthat you're going to be hearing
every week.
I'm calling it Dear Bridget.
(08:41):
So this is something I've beensecretly dreaming about for a
while.
You know how some people growup watching to be astronauts or
surgeons, ballerinas yeah well,I wanted to be Delilah.
Yep, I don't know if you know.
I don't know if you've everwalked into your mom's kitchen
back in the day and she waslistening to the radio and you
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heard Delilah.
I loved it.
And if you don't know who thatis, it's probably because you
had a very loving, stable homelife and you weren't awake at
11.30 pm crying in a wet towel,listening to other people's
breakups on AM radio.
I mean, not that I know fromexperience at all, from anyone I
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know, of course not.
Delilah was like your mom'stherapist and your ex's worst
nightmare, because after everymini therapy session the music
went straight to like PhilCollins or Enya, some shit like
that.
It was literally iconic.
And then there was Dear Abby.
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Dear Abby was the OG New YorkPost columnist.
She gave these punchy like nobullshit responses to readers'
questions with like a cigarettein one hand and a divorce lawyer
on speed dial, and I ate thatshit up.
I loved the New York Post forthat, if I had my way of get
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around, if my teacher had it, Iwould read up on it.
I loved the New York Post forthat.
If I had my way of get around,if my teacher had it, I would
read up on it.
I loved it.
So I thought, what if I tookthose two energies right
Delilah's softness of which I'mtrying to embody in my new era,
and you know, miss Abby's sideeye that I'm always gonna have
no matter, and just filter itthrough my own hot mess.
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Introducing, dear Bridget, whereyour questions are going to
meet, my brutally honest advice,because that's what we're here
for, right, ladies and gentlemen, dear Bridget, I've been dating
my boyfriend for six months andrecently found out he's been
watching his ex's TikToks andliking every single one of her
thirst traps.
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He says it's no big deal.
Am I being insecure or is thisemotional cheating?
Ps, I did look through hisfollowing list, which pretended,
while pretending, to watch thenew episode of Quarterback on
Netflix.
So maybe I'm not innocenteither.
Let me know.
Okay, well, first of all, Ilove when girls step in and, you
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know, kind of, ask theirquestions and don't look of me,
don't look at me like their archnemesis.
And you know, girl, I hate you.
You're the reason why my manwatched porn.
So I appreciate that.
I appreciate all the femalesupport.
So that's probably why myproducer said this is going to
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be the first question we giveyou, which is awesome Done.
And second of all, girl, youare not insecure and you have
every right to investigate.
Watching your man like anotherwoman's TikTok in 2025 hurts.
It hurts a lot.
And for the men that listen tothe show, here's an inside look
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it hurts.
We are well aware that men haveanimalistic behavioral
tendencies and some might saythat, due to the modern-day
suppression of such animal-liketendencies, us, as women, have
instilled unnatural expectationson our male partners.
Don't look, don't stare, don'ttalk.
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Why are you liking this?
Why this?
But fuck it, women, we're crazy.
We're crazy only when we likethe guy.
I'll be honest dudes, theaverage girl can probably get
over anything.
When she doesn't like the guy,she'll get the ick.
You know what I mean?
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We pray for the ick so that wedon't like you guys too much,
but that's another topic.
And at the beginning of adating story, at the beginning
of a dating relationship, thesedates, you know, the ones where
the minutes turn to hours andyou just learn everything about
the other person is where I feelmen, being the more logical
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rather than emotional being,will take mental note and if
he's a dick, we'll use it to hisadvantage.
But if he listens and trulycares about the girl sitting in
front of him, he will listen tothe stories, pay attention to
the things she doesn't like,because he's the hunter and he's
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chasing her and by liking exes,tiktoks in modern times that's
considered digital chasing.
It's convenient, it's adequatelydistanced to where a guy truly
can just be liking the pics, notthinking it's a big deal.
Much like if he sees a hot girlwalking and turns and looks.
But the only reason it upsetsyou, my dear listener, is
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because you looked.
Had you not looked, would youhave known.
It's a catch-22, right, mygirls?
My mom always used to tell meif you don't want to know, don't
look.
Let's just say we all have ourboundaries.
If yours is lack ofself-control, from a man, you
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know, like not liking a girl'spic is easy to do.
Much like not flipping yourneck to see a hot girl walk by
while you're holding your girl'shands is easy to do.
It's self-control.
It's so easy to do when yourespect and like the girl.
It's what separates theanimal-like tendencies to the
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in-control masculine that womenlike me tend to find very
attractive.
A man's self-control inout-of-control situations is
what makes us women trust in him, because he demonstrates
leadership, which, in turn, ifyou hadn't noticed him liking
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his ex's TikToks, I can bet amillion dollars you wouldn't
have gone through his followlist.
Which leads me to think due tohow that app works, his follow
list is on private, oh boy, andthat's just a whole nother set
of fucking issues.
Why is his follow list private?
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I know.
For me it's because of work,brand deals, et cetera.
Having that follow list is goldbecause people look at who you
follow.
So, girl, what's your boundary?
You can't expect a man to bewhat you want if you don't have
your own self-control, because Ican guarantee if his boundary
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is that he doesn't like his girlgoing through his phone, you
will get disposed of.
Finding out each other's firmboundaries from early on can
lead to eliminating so muchheartache, because I can
guarantee the man being thelogical one, usually through
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experience.
As soon as we fuck up thatfirst boundary, they're done
with us, because a man wants andvalues respect.
And if we go past that boundarythat he has set for himself.
That means he doesn't haveself-respect for himself.
So when the guy doesn't haveself-respect for himself, what
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good is he to us?
He can't lead us.
He doesn't even like himself,which then we don't find
attractive, and then we behaveas such and then things become
toxic, and then you have tobreak up.
Most of us are not innocent.
We're crazy.
We're crazy when we like theguy.
It's just part of our DNA andit's just part of our nature.
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The moment I stop caring whatyou do, who you're with, what
you're following, what you'reliking, is the moment I'm not
interested.
Trust, and I think guys arecatching on to that.
So, with that being said,sweetheart, if this answer gets
to you in the digital universe Athank you for your question.
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B I wish you the best of luckand I really would love to know
what happens.
So you know, dm me on Instagramat Bridget Unfiltered.
Welcome back.
Okay, we left off withexpressing me, expressing and
letting, telling you that, inorder for me to continue as an
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entertainer, I needed to relearnwho I was.
I needed to be honest with whoI was and with what I'm going
through as I bridge this gap,because there's a lot of layers
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and I've been asking myself, howmany layers do I fucking have?
Because it's exhausting, it'sso much, but it's also so
freeing.
Mind you, my background is notthe norm.
The average person doesn't haveto be concerned that at any
point you could be having aninnocent dinner and the table
next to you can just go toGoogle and see your tits Anytime
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, anywhere.
That sense of privacy feelslong gone.
When, if you know you know, I'mnot saying everyone knows what
I do I'd hope that if someonewere to meet me in the middle of
the street or at the grocerystore I'm not exactly blatant
and screaming ex-porn star, butwho knows?
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Again, going back to thebeginning, my aesthetic.
It draws certain conclusionsand I get it.
I'm very much privy to it,because what am I going to do?
Am I going to hide under a bedfor the rest of my life?
Am I going to be concernedabout what the table next to me
at dinner is going to think ifthey see something for the rest
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of my life?
No way, we can't live our liveslike that.
But there's no rule book,there's no playbook, because we
build as we go.
And for a minute after Irealized that the next chapter
of my career was just evolving,because the internet will never
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go away and the internet willnever let me live it down I just
picked myself up and tookaccountability and ownership.
I just picked myself up andtook accountability and
ownership.
Whenever I had to make toughdecisions, I tended to
self-isolate.
I'm notorious for stayingsilent and away as long as it
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takes, until I know I'm readyfor that decision to be made.
I remember making this exactstatement on a podcast and the
lady interviewing me said oh,that must be nice.
I got kids and a husband.
I can't hide anywhere.
So, trust me, I know it's aluxury and I'm grateful for it.
But hiding while I worked on adecision that had to be made,
whatever that looked like,worked for me until recently,
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until about the last, I guess,16 months or plus.
Until about, you know, the last, I guess, 16 months or plus.
These life decisions that I hadto make that part of my brain
that has to think about what'sfive steps ahead of me instead
of just what's in front of me,is what's had me making the
decision to not be afraid ofwhat's next, that, after being
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one of the more downloaded pornstars.
You know not to toot my ownhorn to toot, but whatever,
it'll be okay.
I didn't have to isolate as Ihad before, which is where I am
now revibing in real time,learning what hasn't worked for
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me previously and just flippingit on its head and doing it
differently.
However, there is this messymiddle Old friends become
strangers, new friends becomenew family Men I would find
attractive during those chaotictimes and now just seem
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exhausting.
The average modern girl doeshave somewhat of a past by the
time you get to her, unless yougo to a monastery and get
yourself a nun.
Because, if I have to comeacross one more talking head,
andrew Tate-like personalityputting down this generation of
women who have had to embodysuch survival skills because the
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average male isn't providingthe safety, the leadership, the
trust that she needs to thrive,say, in a growing relationship
like our dear Bridget.
Question from this episode,your girl will feel the need to
look through your follow list,to look through your phone.
She will feel she needs toquestion why her boundary is
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being crossed and yet, being theloving, emotional beings we are
, we'll still stay in thefucking relationship, even
though we know it's a wrap.
That award show in 2025 was myboundary.
I wasn't expecting to make adecision that fast.
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I thought it was going to bethis drawn out event.
I expected to do what I alwaysdo go away.
To do what I always do go away,hide, get off social media,
stay silent and isolate.
But instead I got louder.
I went back to my hotel room,took off the gorgeous leopard
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print cowboy outfit it waschef's kiss by far one of my
most favorite looks of all thered carpets I've done.
I took a bath and I sat.
I sat until the sun rose overthe Las Vegas strip and that was
that.
There was no plan, no idea, andfor me, that was my rebrand.
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I mean, I could have stayed andsmiled and continued to give
energy and press and marketingto the company that didn't value
me at all as an integral partof modern day adult industry.
Because they showed me.
They showed me what theythought of me because of what
they did at the award show inJanuary.
I didn't matter to them.
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They were nice to me.
Of course.
I mean, they're not animals.
We're not animals, we're adults.
But when I heard from verycredible sources to what was
said about me behind closeddoors, I realized that they were
only being nice to me asanother performer, as another
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performance, and that was myboundary.
We all deserve to be respectedas basic human rights and needs
are met.
They fucking teach us that inpre-K.
For God's sakes, your parentsare supposed to teach you that
from birth.
But that boundary, thatinternal pivot in where you no
longer will tolerate what's donein order to be seen, in order
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to be paid or just to be able towork, or in order to have that
boyfriend, or in order to havethat girlfriend or that wife, is
where it's different foreveryone.
And so here we are.
The ability to have anauthentic conversation with you
is so rewarding for me that,even though you can google me
whenever you want, I'm going totake my power back and share
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with you my voice, my opinionsand my journey, not only to
evolve me as an artist and anentertainer later and to add yet
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another layer to Bridget B.
To make room, you have to shed,and that's where this journey
is leading me.
If something I said made youlaugh, made you cry, made you
block your ex, you're welcome.
Make sure to subscribe, rate oniTunes and follow at Bridget
Unfiltered on Instagram and, ifyou want your question featured
on, dear Bridget, go ahead andslide into the DMs or, you know,
do a shout out, put it in thecomments, we'll find it.
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Ladies, go light a candle, fixyour lip gloss and stop letting
boys with zero vision distractyou from your empire.
And remember king.
If you gotta check herfollowing list, it's already
over.
Heal, hydrate and stop fallingin love off instagram stories.
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All right, guys, see you nextepisode.
Bye.
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