May 25, 2024 • 55 mins
When family gathers around the table, the conversation often turns to stories that tug at the heartstrings. Our latest episode is a tapestry of such tales, woven with threads of forgiveness, personal growth, and the evolving dynamics of relationships. With our son Bailey sharing his journey to self-forgiveness in the unforgiving job market, and Kenzi opening up about coming to terms with her father's actions, we bring you intimate narratives that resonate with the challenges many of us face. Guest appearances from cousin Megan and her husband Ryan enrich the dialogue with varied perspectives on conflict resolution and the healing power of understanding.
Keeping in touch might seem as easy as a text message, but it's the heartfelt efforts that count, such as the monthly calls and support during life's unexpected trials that truly fortify our bonds. Our conversation flows from earnest accounts of connection to bursts of spontaneity in a lightning round that challenges each guest to define 'the good life.' Laughter erupts as we balance the weight of our discussion with lighter moments, and the episode takes an impromptu twist when Tayler, Aynsley & Jack dial in from a stranded highway in Colorado, proving that life's surprises often lead to the most memorable stories.
Wrapping up, we tackle the nuts and bolts of motivation and persuasion, sharing our unique approaches to coaxing out that inner drive when faced with daunting tasks. From Megan's value-driven method to Ryan's dance with deadlines, each story peels back the layers on how we inspire action in ourselves and others. And as if to prove that whimsy has a place even in the most profound discussions, we let our imaginations wander through the enchanting worlds of Hogwarts and faraway galaxies, before Normani's unexpected serenade reminds us of the joy found in life's serendipitous moments. Join us for an episode that's as unpredictable and delightful as the community we cherish.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Let me do my thing.
Anybody else want to say it.
This is the Broken Tilespodcast and we've got a crew
Stace.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
We have a big crew.
It's very exciting.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Stace, can you go around the table and talk about
our guests?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Okay, we have our son Bailey.
Hi hi I want to say bailey boy,you can say that you did
already and his lovely partneryes, yes, that's me zach, how
you play it in public.
And our dear dear friend Ryan.
Speaker 5 (00:46):
Hello.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
And his amazing, beautiful wife and Brian's
cousin, our cousin Megan, Hello.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Fantastic, Our dear friend Ryan.
That's my brother.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Okay, that's true.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
And this is you heard it in the background already.
My brother.
Okay, that's true, and this is.
You heard it in the backgroundalready and this is from a year
ago Florida.
One of our most popularepisodes in Venezuela in the
history of the podcast wasGolden Doodles, our terrible
podcasters.
And that goddamn dog has come3,000 miles to the beautiful
Pacific Ocean which we'reoverlooking right now, and she's
(01:24):
going to ruin another podcastand it we're overlooking right
now Just to be on this podcastand she's going to ruin another
podcast and it's going to bethis one.
Speaker 4 (01:28):
She's committed.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
This is awesome, guys .
It's fun.
We always talk about havingmore guests because I think, for
a million reasons, it addssomething other than Stacey and
I, as we did on our last one hernew question game.
You're supposed to be a footaway from each other and ask the
questions into each other'seyes, yeah, which we kind of did
, right, which?
Speaker 5 (01:48):
is going to happen at these short courts.
That's a very good point.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
This is very, very intimate, and so I think we're
going to play it.
Stace, let's go right into it.
We'll just play it like wenormally do, and I'm not worried
about time, you know.
But we'll go through thequestions and we'll, you know,
ask the question.
We'll kind of reverse it soyou're not always on the button
Bailey asking the first.
You know answering the firstquestion.
So we'll just go, cause it is aquestion podcast.
(02:15):
That's what Stacy does Drop it.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Okay, you chose three red ones right away.
Did you notice that?
Speaker 1 (02:25):
The green and yellow are for suckers.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Okay, so we're going deep.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Yeah, this table can handle it, yeah, right away.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
So I'm asking Bailey first.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
The table.
Bailey's going to answer first.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Okay, when was the last time you forgave someone?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Oh, right out of the gate.
Heavy, hmm, remember, try toget that mic when you answer
everybody.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
Forgave someone.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Remember what you did last time.
You had a good strategy lasttime on this podcast.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
What was?
Speaker 3 (02:58):
that you passed and then came back Really.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
We should actually have a number right of passes,
like how many?
You only get one skip,mulligans.
One skip.
You do, bailey, get one skipand you can circle back around.
You can burn it early.
You can burn that mulligan onthe first hole.
No.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
I can come up with an answer, all right.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Scooch closer to it when you're ready.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
I'd say, for most recently I've definitely had to
put an effort, um to forgivemyself.
Just uh, since we've been herein california, I've been pretty
unsuccessful in finding work, um, where that I wasn't pressing
that.
I do that when we get here.
(03:44):
But after five months oflooking it definitely became a
problem, like more in my ownhead than in our own life.
But the forgiving myself partmore comes from understanding
that it is okay, it doesn'taffect our life in a negative
(04:08):
way, and that the waiting forthe right thing is better than
jumping into something thatwould affect our life in a
negative way.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Right, it's not a reflection of who you are as a
human.
Speaker 7 (04:22):
Right.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
And so that's a probably the first thing that
comes to my head.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Besides that, everyone else in my life the
past few months have just beenno, no reason to need to forgive
everyone, anyone yeah, no rightand yeah, it's hard to come up
with someone else, so yeah andwhat we'll do is we'll pin it,
remember it, and the easiest wayto do it, as we do on this
regularly, is we'll kind of gothrough and then that's okay.
(04:50):
That's my stomach.
Yeah, it's not even the dogthere's a pterodactyl behind it.
The dog it was a elephant bird.
Speaker 5 (04:56):
An elephant bird.
An elephant bird, an elephantbird, an elephant bird.
An elephant bird About athousand AD.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Approximately, approximately, but what we'll do
is it's easiest to do it thisway, so we can get through and
you're on point with your answerand then after we'll open it up
.
Did any of that like strike youin a certain way?
Did Bailey's answer like openup a conversation or a thought?
So we'll just kind of keepmoving, kenzie.
Speaker 6 (05:21):
So I've had a strained relationship with my
dad for a very long time, um,and sometimes I take his
shortcomings personally.
I feel like it's a slight on me, um, but in the last few months
, um, I feel like I have beendoing a better job at forgiving
(05:43):
him for things that he hasn'tdone to me.
He was never doing those thingsto hurt me, he.
Those were things that werehappening you know in his life
or that you know he was doing,but they were never against me.
So, then really working hard onlike forgiving him for those
things.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
That's a good one, that that I have a pen, that
that resonated Ryan Bernstein,my brother.
I know it feels like everybodyelse is less than, but it's just
the way.
Speaker 4 (06:13):
I feel, right now.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
I would say for me, I make kind of a conscious effort
to forgive, often because Idon't want to have a lot of
conflict.
Obviously, there's times whenyou need to run things to ground
and you need to address issues,but a lot of things don't
necessarily need to be talkedthrough to to an extent where
(06:38):
everything becomes a bit of afight or an argument.
So I I really try to justforgive often and let like let
the little things go so thatthey don't manifest themselves
into big problems.
Obviously, again like there'scertain things that you need to
figure out and talk through yeah, but a lot of times, if you,
just you know all right well,forgive them and move on.
(06:59):
You can get on with your life,and no doubt just letting it go
for yourself, in a way.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Exactly that's smart.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
I told you to put a pin in it.
That's actually, it'scompletely breaking the rules
right there.
I wanted to say something afterKenzie's.
Did I?
No, because I'm respecting therules, the process this is a
wild card but her voice isreally cute.
Speaker 8 (07:21):
Well, you know that's the problem.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
That's why you let it go.
Speaker 6 (07:26):
I'm putting a pin in that one, forgive me.
There you go.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
It's going to happen on live, my most recent time I
forgive somebody.
Six seconds ago, or apologize.
It's going to be in about Idon't know what 37 seconds.
Go ahead, megan.
Speaker 8 (07:39):
So the thing that popped in my head was a
challenging coworker that Ithink had I had told you guys a
story about um.
That's the thing.
First thing that popped in myhead Um and I know that we had a
little conflict in this personlike came to me the next morning
and apologized, um, and I triedreally hard to like okay, I'm
going to forgive her.
But she kept saying sorry, but,and so I had, and she told me
(08:02):
something that was going on inlife that was not good.
It was like a really toughsituation.
So, I had to like listen to herand be like you know what she.
She came to me, she apologized.
I need to, you know, show hersome grace.
And that's the first thing thatpopped in my head was sometimes
you have to, even if it's not afull apology, you have to maybe
(08:24):
understand their situation andtry to forgive them, even though
you're like, oh it'sfrustrating.
But just to kind of see theirpoint of view, their perspective
.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Watch it.
That's seriously close to anopen discussion.
Speaker 8 (08:38):
Her voice is really cute as well.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
That's very close to an open discussion right there.
I have a pin, too, for hers.
I have a pin for yours.
I have a pin for yours.
I have a pin for yours, you'rejust great, nothing Perfect
answer.
That's a good one, but there'sdefinitely a pin we'll come back
to.
Mine's been mine's fairly easy.
I've been doing a tremendousamount of apologizing in the
magazine industry lately andit's and it's.
(09:12):
It's a very difficult situationbecause it's a clearly this is
timely because in the lastpodcast, which was this podcast
night before last, this one willbe posted, so it's now.
But is that it's putting a lotof stress and strain on it, two
full-time kind of jobs, and I'mfinding that way.
And clearly, because themagazine is the secondary
full-time commitment, it can'ttouch the landscaping full-time
job, and so that's done in ordernot missing anything.
(09:32):
So I'm missing things on themagazine side because something
has to give.
And so, as an owner,editor-in-chief, publisher,
writer, all the things that I doHold for applause.
What's that Hold for applause?
Why hold?
I got the last podcast, whichwas the night before last, which
(09:55):
this one's now, so that'll beyesterday, so this is the last
one.
I think I got a 23-secondstanding ovation on an answer.
Speaker 5 (10:02):
That's impressive.
That's not easy.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
He's the only person that stood up.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Oh yeah, you know what I screwed up?
I didn't hit record on this.
We haven't even started yet, isthat?
Speaker 5 (10:13):
true, no.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
It was just mean what she just said.
So I've been doing a tremendousamount.
The apologizing it's beengenuine but the apologies are
done intentionally for it.
To kind of come to the front ofmy mind Process, process, we
need process, we need systems,the magazine, so it's for me.
There's not much I can do aboutit right now, other than
recognize that we're not doingit now and it's an intention.
(10:37):
We're all doing this part-timething.
That's a full-time kind ofobligation.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
But that's it, go ahead, it's my turn kind of.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
Actually.
What I'm really feeling, though, isn't that it's this oh my
goodness go ahead stacy wow,what did I do to deserve?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
that I'm sorry, the answer is about two seconds ago.
I forgave you for what you did.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
How many times is that over 34 years?
Oh, a lot.
What's 365 times 34?
I'm not here for that.
What is it, baby?
I know you got one.
You have to have one.
When you're six of six, you'vegot to have one.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
Actually really hard for me.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Never made a mistake.
No, that's not it at all.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
Never forgiven someone.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
No, that's not it either.
I'm trying to figure out themost recent, and is it something
that I want to say on a podcast?
Speaker 1 (11:47):
But that whole thing is like am I going to be
affected?
No, Then answer it.
Speaker 5 (11:55):
Is it going to hurt my feelings?
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Is it going to hurt my feelings?
Speaker 2 (11:59):
No.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
Answer it.
Is it going to hurt somebodyelse's feelings?
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Yeah, maybe I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Can you do it in I for the the purpose of the
conversation, it's not it's nota confession.
A family, it's not aconfessional but even before you
go there, forgive someone yeah,but you can even talk about it
somebody.
You can talk about itabstractly too yeah, okay,
that's fine.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
So it was um during covid was, um during COVID, a
really close family member and Ihad a a very rough conversation
that I never fully understoodthe um, the beginnings of like
how it got to that, and it wasshocking for me and it really
hurt my feelings.
(12:39):
Um and I I just chose to be uh,kind of obstinate about it for
a while and just kind of shutdown, but then after a while I
realized that, um, I think COVIDwas very hard for everybody and
it probably really affectedsome people more so than others,
(13:00):
and I think that was the casefor this one individual.
Speaker 4 (13:02):
And.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
I just decided that it doesn't do any good to hold
on to this, whether this personyou know understands the impact
they had or not.
That's not really the point.
It's about caring for somebodywho is going through a hard time
, so I let it go.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Yeah, and then we'll open it up for pins now.
Did anything really jump out atanybody from any other answers
that they want to talk about?
I got two.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Go for it.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Okay, my first one was Kenzie's and I think it's
very interesting about.
I'm always fascinated by theevolution of a child into an
adult as they view their parents, as they either are leveling up
or going by their parent size.
That hit me with that, becausethat's interesting, because I
think you have two paths, twopaths is you become an adult,
(13:56):
even a teenager adult, and Ithink that one path is possible
resentment and the other one isforgiveness, because, because
there's a, there's a lot ofresentment when you start seeing
your parents as not justidolized parents, you start kind
of like processing it, likegoing like, oh, you're, you're a
fallible human and you andyou're just a person.
(14:16):
Yes, and that's weird for a kid.
It's weird for a kid to say, oh, my mom and dad have this and
that.
Speaker 6 (14:23):
And I think the first instinct isn't forgiveness,
it's like confusion, it could beconfusion so that's what I
thought, even a little bit ofanger, I think that anger
probably where, like some ofthose feelings, um harsh
feelings that I had kind of camefrom, but as I'm kind of coming
into my like real big girl joband um becoming like more and
(14:43):
more of an independent adult,all I can think is how easy it
is to go down paths that wouldlead me to similar decisions
that he's made, so I understandmore and more.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
Is that actually what you get when you finish pants?
It says, you can now go get abig girl job.
Speaker 6 (15:01):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (15:02):
It says you qualify.
Speaker 6 (15:03):
That's what my master's degree says.
Big girl job approved.
Big girl job, yes.
It says you qualify.
That's what my master's degree.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Big girl job approved big girl job and then yours.
If I heard you right now, maybeI didn't, but I because I don't
listen, it's um I'm joking, butI think from yours it sounded
like you.
You basically moved on byforgiving her for without
necessarily talking to her, andforgiving her verbally.
Speaker 8 (15:23):
No, so she did come to me.
She came to you she came to meso I gave her like I was like,
okay, that was hard for her todo.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Right.
Speaker 8 (15:30):
You know things happened after that.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Right.
Speaker 8 (15:33):
As well, which made it, you know.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Now it's like we're kind of back to where we started
, but I guess did the word leaveyour mouth.
I forgive you, I'm just curiousbecause-.
Speaker 8 (15:44):
Oh, yeah, let me think of okay.
So she apologized and then saidI'm sorry, but this happened
yesterday.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (15:50):
Kind of like, almost like an excuse of why she
treated me that way.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
Okay, and so I think, let me think no, but my pen
says no.
My pen's not putting you onpoint.
My pen is more like thoughtfulthan that.
It's like my thought is like.
I think there's a really goodhuman condition to possibly
transitionally move on and trulyforgive them.
The words don't have to comeout of your mouth, right?
Speaker 4 (16:09):
right right.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
I'm not saying I guess it's kind of a dick move
if you don't, but there's goingto be circumstances where they
need to hear it.
The other one is you need tomove on.
You need to move on from likethat sort of like daily grind of
obsessing over something andmaybe you're just like I.
You know that goes in thisconversation.
It's like that's super helpfulIf you can, like, in the quiet
of your room, go, I'm going toforgive it and move on.
Yeah, possibly.
Speaker 8 (16:31):
Well, I remember I can't I think I texted Ryan and
was like, oh my gosh, I give hercredit.
She came to my room and saidsorry.
So I was like that I respectedthat she did that, even though
it was, you know, maybe not whatyou expect.
Like I'm sorry, you know it wasit took some, you know, I gave
her credit, took some couragefor her to come do that and say
(16:51):
that.
So and I gave her a hug, andyou know.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Pins, pins, pins, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5 (16:58):
Yeah, one for Bailey's for sure, cause I mean
it can be a really powerfulthing to be your own toughest
critic and recognize where youhave opportunities to be able to
, you know, grow and be betterin whatever capacity, as long as
you have that second piecewhere you forgive yourself for
whatever it is and then get outof your own way, because
(17:19):
otherwise if you just wallow andyou're just really hard on
yourself all the time, you won'tget anything done.
But if you have both of thosethings it's a very powerful tool
.
So I'm happy to hear that.
Speaker 4 (17:28):
Yeah, yeah, thank you .
You know, it's definitely aprocess, but the process is also
a good thing, yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Yeah, it's one of the greatest pins of all time.
Ryan, you're definitely leavinghere feeling better about
yourself.
Hello, stacey.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
All right.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
I forgive you.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Oh, this is a good point.
I think you chose this one Likeyou really sought this one out.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
What is it?
Speaker 2 (18:03):
Why do you think you are here on planet earth?
I?
Speaker 1 (18:06):
didn't.
You'd think I did, but I didn't.
All I did was I went to the redand I took every single one
that wasn't a couple one.
I took like five that I went, Ijust went through and everyone
that wasn't couple I justrandomly took them.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Oh, this is the family edition.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
It should not be couple Like when's the last time
we were most intimate?
There's some in there wherethere was some sound like it was
a couple to a couple one.
I just went the first ones thatwere broader I took.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
It's very much a Brian question it sure is.
So are we directing this toKenzie?
Speaker 1 (18:35):
I think that's fair, or we can roll a dice or
something.
Speaker 6 (18:40):
No, that's okay, I can answer first.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
Put your big girl pants on.
Speaker 6 (18:49):
Well, shockingly, it is going to come back to my big
girl job.
I think that I'm here to helppeople, and that always sounds a
little cheesy Like.
I work in health care, and Ithink it's a very common
question when people are askedwhy do you do this job?
It's because we all want tohelp people, of course, but I
(19:09):
like to think that I do it at myjob and I like to think that I
do it in my personal life and Itry and do it every chance that
I get.
It makes me happy and it makesme feel like I have purpose.
So that's maybe what my purposeis.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Wow, I like that, ryan.
I mean, it's funny, I'm justbeing, I'm an announcer.
Speaker 5 (19:36):
It was a lack of eye contact when you said my name.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
You want one foot?
Yeah, I'm getting closer Ryan.
Speaker 5 (19:51):
I would say this is too close.
This is perfect.
I would say along the samelines you know, to help and
support friends, family, anybodyyou know close to you.
Obviously, we've talked, we'veall talked about it.
I've recently lost my bestfriend and um I felt found a lot
(20:14):
of purpose and just providingwhatever, uh help and support I
can for his family, which islittle but it, you know, I think
every little bit helps, um andyou know things I can do for my
wife and my parents and mysiblings and just my close
(20:34):
friends.
I find a lot of purpose in thatand so I mean it's definitely a
very it's not a very grand viewof it, but I don't know that I
have a high purpose as far aswhat I can do for humanity.
But I think, on a small scale,the people that are close to me
(20:55):
can make an impact.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
I think that's really good.
I got a pen.
Speaker 8 (21:00):
I also have a pen for that.
I think we can only have onepen per.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
That's a lot of pens.
Speaker 8 (21:07):
You almost made Ryan spit out his water.
I'm kind of the pen guy rightnow.
To piggyback off of that.
My first thought went to Ryan'sgood friend and his family.
Just that we've stepped up andI do feel like we're making a
huge difference and I feel likeyou know it's not a small impact
(21:28):
?
No, and that's my part of mypin.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
Exactly.
Speaker 8 (21:31):
Yeah, I think it makes a huge difference.
And that was my first thought,and then my second thought was
just my job and education andthen my musical abilities I feel
like, with my musical abilities, like just you know, helping
anyone through their journeys oflife.
Could you know weddings,funerals, like any?
Totally step of you know, goodor bad, happy or sad, I feel
(21:54):
like you can make a big impactwith just music and it just
speaks so much, sometimes morethan words can.
It just has a deeper impact.
So those were mine.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Pens.
Best not be sending old pensaround.
Don't even think about a penStace.
What's the question?
Again, joking, because thatwould have made me clearly
disconnected from three verygood answers.
I think where I've landedlately in a lot of it, I refer
to this Berg's meditation.
(22:28):
You know that I listen to everyday and I'm not going to say
that word for it.
But I think where I'm landingis that it could be just.
It's a word, it's a singularword I'm thinking of when this
question is asked, and it'sexplore.
But it sounds like that meansmeans travel, and it does.
I think it does mean explore,but explore relationships,
explore boundaries, explore.
(22:50):
I think we're here and we'revery unique.
This species is very uniquethat we have this cognitive
thought and we're aware thatwe're here and that's a lot of
pressure here and that's a lotof pressure.
We have a lot more pressurethan a hyena, you know.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
We have a lot more pressure than a pelican pretty
easy fucking day out there, youknow overall, an elephant bird
that poor bird.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
Yeah, didn't do good for that bird didn't figure out
their purpose I still can'tfigure out the logistics of that
.
No, it's not how it happened.
Can we talk about it?
Okay, put a pin in it no, noseparate podcast it's kind of
traumatizing.
I told megan about how theelephant bird was made a
thousand years ago.
She did not like it, yeah shedid not like it there's some
movies where imagery there'ssome movie, there's some movies
(23:34):
where I'm like, hey, ryan's likeyeah, not for me, but that's it
.
I think it's.
Um, I think I think thedefinition of that word is is is
sort of possibly why we're here, which is feelings.
I think you can use that wordwith all of it.
I want to explore, you know,ireland.
I want to explore my feelings,I want to explore new
(23:57):
relationships.
I want to explore somebodyelse's perspective.
I think maybe that's.
It is my answer.
I think it's maybe, maybethat's.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
It is my answer.
Mine might be similar to yours,but the the word I'm choosing
is growth.
So growing in so many differentways, but also supporting other
people in growth, which isessentially what I do for work
Right.
There's so many different waysyou can grow, and I think it's.
We all have different growthrates and sometimes, like, what
(24:28):
I'm trying to figure out rightnow is, um, I've always been
sort of a striver, like reallypushing myself a lot to grow in
many different areas, and I havehad to not do that at all so
that I can heal.
And now I'm trying to figureout, oh well, what's a good rate
(24:48):
?
to keep moving forward but notput myself in jeopardy again.
That's really hard to balance,but I still can make some
progress and grow in differentways.
So I'm just trying to figure itout.
It's kind of similar to explore.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
I know.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
It's Bailey's turn now.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
Everybody knew that.
Speaker 4 (25:15):
I think everyone shares a similar perspective and
so there's similar answerscoming from everyone, and mine's
also in that same line of just.
I think that the most importantthing you can do is develop and
maintain relationships with thepeople in your life.
But people and also the thingsyou care about, um, so that's
just interests or or anything.
(25:35):
Yeah, um, that's where I thinkmost people find purpose is like
ryan said, it's not like agrand plan, it's it.
I think a lot of times it's.
It's more fulfilling if youfind, kind of in your small life
, those things that matter um,and focus on those.
That that's where you can findhappiness and purpose and I
(26:00):
loved it, that's a good one pins.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
I left it.
That's a good one.
Pins there was a pin.
Pins.
Speaker 8 (26:14):
I raised my hand.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
Teacher, yes, sir, what do you got?
Speaker 8 (26:20):
No, I was just kind of what you said, Bailey, and
also Ryan.
I don't think what you do issmall.
I think when you said, oh, itdoesn't have a bit, I think what
you're doing to help yourfriend's family and what you're
doing with your life, I think isbigger than you think.
That was my first thought.
(26:42):
I don't think you shouldminimize that, because I think
it's a was my first thought,like I don't.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
Yeah, I don't think like you should minimize that,
because I think it's like a hugeit is yeah big thing in but
it's hard to see that in themoment it's it's because you're
just doing it right, is that?
Is that the way you think aboutit's like it's just?
Speaker 5 (26:56):
yeah, it's almost.
Uh, it almost feels like thebare minimum in some ways.
Yeah, it's just.
How could you not at least dowhatever it is I am doing,
whatever it is you are doing?
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Um, but it is it.
It is from the outside, it is.
It is a lot.
I guess it's almost like aweird analogy.
It's like a pro athlete.
It's like that's what theywould say.
They would say I'm just doingmy kind of like they a lot of
those would be the bare minimum,but we're watch them going.
That's amazing and it is.
It's not a big, you know not tooverdo it right now, but it is.
(27:28):
It's meaningful and it's a lot.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
It is meaningful, not everybody will do that.
Speaker 4 (27:33):
It's totally.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
I mean, I think what you're doing is far more than
what most people do.
I mean, so many people say well, if you need something, call me
.
Well, nobody's going to callyou.
If you say that, I mean that isreally disingenuine.
People get uncomfortable.
They don't know what else tosay, but it's not necessarily
meaningful, yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
It's a lot because you have to, almost, like you
know, for me it's like you know,I think of, like the most
recent ones, my dad goes and youhave an obligation to my mom
from an emotional standpointthat wasn't there before.
And then Gavin goes and you'vegot a new connection with you
know, trent and Darren, but Ihave to literally put it in my
phone.
I mean, like the Trent andDarren I have to, you know, put
in my phone, and I mean that ina loving way, because it's just
there's.
It's a lot of you know, it'sthat's just a once a month catch
up call that.
I try to do this month catch upcall that I try to do.
(28:21):
This is more same zip code kindof thing going on and my mom,
we just handle with likeFaceTimes, and so my point is
it's not obvious and it's noteasy to to literally carve out a
piece of your uh weekly sort ofschedule for someone else in
that way.
Speaker 8 (28:40):
Um, it's pretty big thing and one sorry one more
thing to add.
To add um, this morning on ourI think we were driving to get a
new couch and we both said thathold for a pause 23 seconds and
keep going.
No, but we both said that wehad texted our friend's wife and
(29:03):
their daughter, like we hadboth separately not talking to
like had both said like goodmorning and have fun at your
volleyball tournament.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
It was like.
Speaker 8 (29:10):
Oh my gosh.
And so I think we're makinglike a conscious effort to like
contact them every single dayand I do I?
I I'm very proud of us fordoing that, because I feel like
we're.
I think we're making a hugedifference.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
And you're getting the thing about that.
It's hard thing to say about it.
You're probably getting a lotout of it, absolutely.
Speaker 5 (29:27):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
And that that's the, that's humanity, that's what we
do.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
Yep, it's so true Happy some bills.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
International is creating the most beautiful
airline in the world.
Oh, fuck yeah.
We hired Emilio Gucci to designour unit when reversible coats
of almond, green and apricotspace helmets to keep out the
rain, red space suits andsometimes something a little
more comfortable.
And we hired Alexander Gerardto do our Alexander.
(30:00):
Gerard, alexander, girard, wehave blue planes, orange planes,
yellow planes.
You can fly with us seven timesand never fly the same color
twice.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
I'm with you.
Shocking thing is this airlinewent out of business with that
marketing plan.
They had space helmets andthere were space helmets in this
commercial.
I saw them.
Speaker 6 (30:18):
As a fashion girly.
Yes, I really appreciate it andhonestly I think it's missing
in the flight industry today.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
I agree Totally.
What just happened?
Speaker 4 (30:28):
Lightning round.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
I gotta explore these buttons there's a lot more
going on here than the three weuse.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Okay, I liked the suggestion of lightning round,
so I think this is gonna be alightning round question and my
idea of lightning round.
You gotta stop saying it.
It's gonna be a one-word answer, as fast as you can, and we're
gonna just go around the circle.
Speaker 1 (31:05):
And what's this called again, lightning?
Speaker 2 (31:10):
Okay, and Ryan, you're going first.
What is your definition of thegood life?
Speaker 5 (31:23):
And it's only one word Jesus Time, time Ooh.
Speaker 8 (31:32):
Balance.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Skip.
Speaker 2 (31:41):
You don't get the music for that one.
Speaker 1 (31:43):
I didn't play it.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Connection.
Speaker 4 (31:51):
Family.
Speaker 6 (31:55):
Contentment.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
Shit, that was so fast.
What is this?
This a lightning round?
I honestly don't even know whatthe question is anymore
definition of the good life hmm,boy, this got me a little bit.
You guys were really good atthat definition of the good life
(32:19):
one word is hard and somebody'salready used balance, god damn
it.
Ainsley's calling.
We should get it.
Hold on, I think we can get itlive on the air, ainsley.
Taylor it's me.
(32:39):
Hey, you're live on a podcast.
What's going on?
What do you guys need?
Speaker 7 (32:43):
No dice Everything is broken.
Now the car won't even turnover.
Speaker 1 (32:49):
Guys, this is a breaking news update.
This is Taylor in Colorado.
They're broken on the side ofHighway.
Speaker 7 (32:54):
What what are we?
285.
Highway 285.
Speaker 1 (32:58):
And they're broken down there.
Do you have your U-Haul?
Speaker 7 (33:01):
I'm in the U-Haul down there and do you have your
u-haul and?
Speaker 1 (33:05):
then the u-haul we put a cooler, we got a hotel, oh
you didn't go to frank's.
Speaker 7 (33:08):
Well, we texted him and never heard back.
Just said I, I just didn't wantto.
I felt like it would have beensomething he would have offered
for a sleepover if their houselike accommodated it, right?
So I said, hey, we've beenworking on working on the car
for an hour, no dice.
So we're going to take you homeback to Fair Play and find a
place to camp or get a hotel orsomething.
(33:32):
We haven't heard back yet andthe hotel was like $120.
Okay, and it's two queens andwe could just like reset.
We're all just so cold.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
Do that.
We're going to go because weare podcasting right now, but
I'm going to allow you guys toanswer a question as you're
driving right now.
And the question is this andyou guys all get answers.
It's a lightning round.
You only get one word for thisanswer.
Who answers One word?
Anybody individually, but thequestion is this Go ahead Stace.
(34:00):
What is your definition of thegood life?
It's.
What is your definition of thegood?
Speaker 7 (34:06):
life and you have to answer in one word Family.
Speaker 2 (34:08):
Aww, good one.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
Okay, that's mine.
Taylor says family.
What do I do now?
Speaker 7 (34:15):
Answer the answers.
She got ill because of thestress.
Speaker 1 (34:22):
Okay, do you guys want to pass on that?
There's a skip.
You guys are all sick.
This is the One word.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
Yes, One word Peace.
Oh, I like it.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
Oh man, that's good.
Okay, we're hanging up on youguys.
We'll call you when you get tothe hotel.
Wait, I love the answer.
Oh, I thought she did not wantto answer.
My fault, I'm sorry.
Speaker 7 (34:41):
No, I was just calling.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
I love you.
I'm sorry if there was a soundeffect, I could use right now I
would, but we're on the phone soI can't use them.
Um community, oh, that's a goodone.
Speaker 3 (35:01):
All right now.
I'm hanging up on you done.
Speaker 1 (35:03):
Thanks, guys we'll call the hotel.
Bye.
That is a ban, sorry Gone.
This podcast has gone to hell.
Am I still on the clock?
Speaker 5 (35:09):
Yeah, you've been on the clock.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
I still don't have a real answer my definition of the
good life Home.
Speaker 3 (35:25):
I like that yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
Yeah Home.
Speaker 2 (35:28):
I liked how that lightning round went Do you have
a pen, a pen.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
A pen.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
A pen.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Oh, all you have to say is I want to put a pen in it
and then say what you said.
Speaker 2 (35:38):
Oh sorry, yes.
Speaker 1 (35:40):
A pen.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
A pen, but not on anybody in particular, just on
the lightning round okay, so youhave a pin in the light.
I'll accept your pin, go aheadwow um I I like the lightning
round idea.
It's the first time we've everdone that.
We just made it up on the spot.
Uh, because it really forcedyou to come up with something
quick and meaningful, andeverybody came up with something
(36:03):
so good.
Speaker 1 (36:04):
Not so much me, well, except for Brian.
Well, eventually you got there.
I struggled, you got there.
Speaker 2 (36:10):
And then he said a bad word.
Yeah, but one word is reallyhard for Brian.
Speaker 1 (36:14):
Did I swear yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
How dare you?
Are we on the last question now?
Speaker 1 (36:26):
No, I don't know.
You have the questions.
Speaker 2 (36:28):
We're on the last question.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
We're doing pretty good.
Speaker 2 (36:33):
Okay then.
All right.
So, Megan, you're the firstanswerer for this one.
What is the best way to get youto do something?
You?
Speaker 5 (36:48):
don't want to do.
I don't know the answer to thisone.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
You're about to learn something really important for
your marriage.
Speaker 1 (36:56):
This is where the podcast pays off, yeah.
Speaker 8 (36:59):
I'm pretty stubborn.
What?
Oh, you're very stubborn aswell yeah, let's get real,
that's right, can you read?
Speaker 2 (37:12):
it one more time what is the best way to get you to
do something you do not want todo?
Speaker 8 (37:30):
might have to use my one skip it's hard no um skip
that shit.
I think I think, um, I need alot of like a really good
(37:50):
explanation, and maybe I need tosee, like, what the outcome is
going to be, or like believe inwhat the outcome will be and be
invested in that If that makessense.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
Yeah, totally does.
Speaker 8 (38:06):
Because I do get several.
I'm'm just like I'm not doingthis, that's it.
So it's hard, um, it's hard forme to once I get to that point.
It's hard for me to get out ofthat once I get to that point,
if that makes sense as well.
So I really think I have to seelike the benefit of it, or
(38:31):
believe in what you know ishappening at the end, even if I
don't want to do it.
I need to see, like the, whatgood is going to come out of it,
or is it beneficial?
Or like the why, the why, andI'd also like I feel like I'm
very, um, fair and loyal, and soif something I really don't
(38:53):
want to do and I don't believein it, then it's going to be
really hard for me to to do that.
Or if I don't I'm thinkingabout in terms of like people if
I don't, um, agree with, liketheir values or something, and I
I don't know why it's making methink of that, but yeah, I'm
pretty like strong-willed inthat sense where I'm like I'm I
(39:16):
will not do that and I don'tnecessarily think that's like a
bad thing, but I do think I canbe stubborn and maybe something
that is good, just because Idon't want to do it.
Speaker 2 (39:27):
I'm going to put a pin in there.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
Ryan's got a big pin in there.
Ryan just took six pins.
Six pins.
We don't have enough time.
Does that mean that means me?
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (39:40):
you're up.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
I think the best way for me is, if I can somehow turn
it into, I really respond tocompetitiveness Like on some
level and it doesn't have to belike win or lose, but on some
level I do respond better alittle bit.
If it's and it can be industrycompetition, it can be I just
(40:01):
want to be the best know, the,the best landscaper man you know
, or, or magazine you know.
I feel competitive that way andI think if I can turn it, then
it's like I can't really sleepon that because I want to be the
best at that.
Um, and so I I think Iresponded turning it into a
little bit of, uh, competitionfor myself I see that and the
other way is do the oppositething that you want, Stacey.
(40:24):
And I get motivated to do it.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
For me.
I would say I need time tothink about it and have somebody
ask me questions about why I'mthinking about it in a certain
way and sort of prompt me tolook at it in a different way
and that will help me to see theother side of it.
It's hard for me to get thereon my own.
Speaker 4 (40:56):
I've always had a hard time trying to answer that
question, but I'd say somethingI had learned to do and it might
not be the best answer, but itputs me on a better path to the
best answer.
I would reframe the issue andnot the outcome for myself, but
(41:17):
how it can affect the peoplearound me, and so finding
motivation and something I don'twant to do how that can better
Kenzie's life.
And that because I can have ahard time doing a lot of things
for myself, but I can do easilyanything for Kenzie or for the
family or the dogs, even likethis morning when we were
freaking out.
(41:38):
It's easy if I can reframe itlike that.
Like I said, that's notnecessarily the best way to
handle it, but it's better thanit was before, and so that's
something that's worked for me.
Speaker 1 (41:48):
Yeah, that's a good one.
Speaker 6 (41:51):
That is a good one.
I am not stubborn and I am veryeasily convinced to do things.
Just a little bit of gentlecoaxing and I will.
Yeah, I honestly like sometimesjust like reassurance that I
(42:11):
can do it or that it is helpful,just like um, and not getting
like frustrated with me if Idon't want to do something
because that makes me want to doit even less.
But just like gentle kindencouragement can get me to do a
lot of things Even if I don'twant to.
Speaker 2 (42:32):
I'll put a pin in that one too, you got a pen you
have a pen.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
Yeah, oh yeah, have you answered?
Speaker 2 (42:39):
no, we're all waiting for this one oh yeah, you're
going last, you're battingcleanup here we go.
Speaker 5 (42:45):
So I can be a bit of a procrastinator.
So if I give myself a deadline,uh, or if there is a real
deadline to get something, youknow that I don't want to get
done or don't want to do.
If I've got a deadline and whenit needs to get done, I can get
it done.
I just need to know when I needto do it and I'll get it done.
(43:05):
So whether that's needs to besomething I set for myself or
there just is a you know is anend date on whatever it is, just
having a deadline on that.
Big motivator for me.
Speaker 1 (43:20):
Pins.
Speaker 2 (43:23):
Okay, let's see if I can remember what I was going to
say.
Speaker 1 (43:26):
It was a minute and eight seconds ago.
Speaker 2 (43:30):
Oh yeah, I remember what I was going to say.
I love what you describedbecause I feel like many, many
people in the world are, uh,think the same way.
So, like what I was thinkingabout when you were sharing your
process and, um, I was reallythinking about behavior change
(43:51):
and how so many people are noteven in the pre-contemplation
stage, which means they're noteven thinking about the fact
that a health behavior changeneeds to happen.
Say, somebody with highcholesterol, for instance.
(44:13):
They don't want to make achange in the way they eat, or
they're just not thinking aboutit.
They're not getting their bloodwork done or anything like that
.
Speaker 1 (44:22):
She's pointing to Brian it's a pizookie.
Speaker 2 (44:27):
But it's sort of that you've got to really not only
be aware of what the issue is,but how might things be better
if you make a change?
And I just think the way youdescribed it is just so real.
I think a lot of people feelthat very same way and it
(44:48):
doesn't mean.
I think you started almostsaying that you're stubborn, but
I think that's just humannature.
Speaker 1 (44:56):
Yours was good.
It was like it was tough foryou a little bit, like you kind
of worked.
You know it was a good way, butyou worked your way through,
which I think was interesting tohear.
I like that because it's funwhen you get in the high weeds
and you're the red light's onand you're saying it.
There's something kind of realabout that.
I like that.
Speaker 2 (45:12):
Pins.
I had another pin.
Can I do a second one?
I haven't done any yet.
Have I?
I can't remember, I don't know.
Kenzie, the way you describedyourself reminds me of myself,
and I, in therapy, have reallycome to realize I am a major
(45:35):
people pleaser and while it'snice, it can also be really
unhealthy.
So I put myself in positionswhere I've got too big of a
burden because I say yes toeverything and that's not
helpful.
But at the same time, I love tohelp people and I want to make
other people feel good, and whenyou say yes to something and
(45:57):
you see their face light up,it's like, oh, I did the right
thing.
Until you know, a week lateryou're like, oh my God, when am
I going to have time to do thisthing?
And so that's a, that's achallenge, and I think it just
takes time.
I've gotten better at it, butit took a lot of time to realize
what I was doing to myself.
Speaker 6 (46:15):
Yeah, and it um, you know earlier I answered that
kind.
Of my purpose is to help people.
Saying no to someone needs myhelp.
Yeah, it seems weird.
Speaker 3 (46:24):
That's my nature.
Speaker 5 (46:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (46:26):
So, yeah, but you're, you're very right.
It can definitely go down apath where I end up with too
much going on.
Speaker 2 (46:31):
Yeah, it's hard to find that line, that right line
where it's too much, and yeah,it's difficult On the question.
Speaker 4 (46:39):
we're talking about something you don't want to do.
From my perspective, watchingyou, if you spend a day doing
things only you want to do, youdon't find fulfillment at the
end of the day.
Only you want to do, you don'tfind fulfillment at the end of
the day.
Speaker 3 (46:54):
Like you, you almost force yourself to seek out,
either whether it's a chore orsome sort of challenge Like you
get a lot of just kind of.
Speaker 4 (46:58):
you need that to be able to relax at the end of the
day.
Speaker 2 (47:02):
Like you've accomplished.
Yeah, that's exactly.
Yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (47:05):
So you do, and that that that's so far.
The other side of the spectrumis me of like seeking out those
things you don't want to do.
It's a conversation you and Ihave a lot of times as we
balance each other out withthose kinds of perspectives.
That's great, Like I 'll forceyou to do less and you'll force
me to do more.
Speaker 2 (47:21):
But that's sweet.
Speaker 1 (47:24):
None of it's gonna make in the podcast what he just
said.
He didn't put a pin in it andthat was great stuff.
I was moved by it.
Speaker 2 (47:32):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (47:33):
We got to cut it all.
Speaker 2 (47:34):
You and your rules.
Let's see.
Speaker 1 (47:37):
What's happening?
You don't listen to the podcastbecause I sneak in a hot take
on me.
Every single podcast, in someform or the other.
Speaker 5 (47:49):
No, I did not know.
That's what this is.
Speaker 3 (47:50):
That's great then.
Speaker 1 (47:52):
That's actually 19 seconds.
Yeah, still not there Now.
I'm hearing it yeah, took aminute.
Wow, there we go, and weactually have time for one more
question I pulled up while wewere talking.
I haven't picked it yet, butit's just great.
It says favorite ice Breakers,good way to find them.
(48:16):
That's a pretty good question.
Oh, that's a fun one.
Let's start with you, stacey.
It's kind of just a real funone.
What fictional world or placewould you like to visit?
That's a fun question.
What fictional world or placewould you like to visit Anywhere
?
Hogwarts.
Speaker 3 (48:30):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (48:31):
That came to my mind immediately.
It was between that and Narniayou don't get a clap on this one
.
Speaker 1 (48:38):
You suck.
You've got to clap Pressure'son Bailey.
Speaker 2 (48:46):
What did you just say ?
Speaker 1 (48:47):
If you can't say a fictional place that you'd want
to visit and it doesn't get acrowd response, then I'm just
putting a little stakes in thegame here, Because it clearly is
such a fantastical question.
If you say one, we're like oh,that was okay, but I mean kind
of a bummer.
Speaker 2 (49:04):
Everybody has their own fantasies.
Speaker 1 (49:06):
I've got two buttons.
Speaker 7 (49:10):
That one.
Speaker 4 (49:19):
Uh-oh.
Speaker 1 (49:20):
Or that Bailey, two buttons, that one, or pressures
on that bailey, come on here,come on, I know it's hard, I
overthink it.
Yeah, totally, or you haven'tused your skip.
If you want time, you have notused your skip.
It's a fun one no, I can come.
Speaker 4 (49:26):
I mean, I could say anything that's on my head no
works um, I guess I don't knowwhat you'd call it.
I guess a galaxy far, far away,like I like that yeah, anywhere
it's tattooing, yeah, yeah,exactly that's what I think,
where I overthink.
It's like that star wars, it'sa, it's a war-ridden galaxy.
I don't know if I actually wantto be there, but that's yeah,
(49:48):
that's uh overthinking it.
Probably you were deliberate.
Speaker 1 (49:58):
I was hovering.
It's Star Wars.
You know where I was going,kenzer, where are we?
Speaker 6 (50:03):
going, we're going to Barbie World.
Speaker 1 (50:08):
Where everything is pink and beautiful Uh-oh, where
everything is pink and beautifulWhoa Sounded like the other
night when I had that answer.
Speaker 2 (50:18):
You didn't stand up this time.
Speaker 1 (50:20):
So far we're going to Hogwarts, star Wars Galaxy, far
, far Away.
Barbie World.
Where are we going?
Caribbean, pirate Ships, nicegalaxy far, far away.
Barbie world.
Where are we going caribbean?
Speaker 5 (50:32):
pirate ships, all the pirates and and treasure and
all that stuff.
Speaker 8 (50:38):
Yeah, clearly, clearly that's good answer my
answer just came to me, though,megan I would like to go to the
marvel world, so, like Iron man,avengers.
Speaker 1 (50:53):
Thor.
Speaker 8 (50:55):
I know, but they're fictional.
Speaker 1 (50:58):
But you'd want to be in a world where we're sitting
right now and Iron man flies by.
Speaker 5 (51:02):
I like that one.
Speaker 1 (51:05):
I might not get a clap for this one, honestly,
because it's so retro, but itcame to me and I can't go back
from it.
I might even get myself,because it's going to be no
one's going to know it.
It's going to be the place I'dwant to go is.
It's a PC game I played wayback called Myst, and it's one
of the earliest platform PCgames.
Oh, I know what you're talkingabout.
(51:26):
Yeah, yeah, and it was for me.
It's ingrained in.
I'll just get out of the waybecause it's it's not.
95 of the people aren't goingto know the answer, but that my
answer is missed.
I know exactly.
I want these little islands inthese.
It's fantastical and it wassomething I'd never seen before.
That's where I'd go no, I likethat that one in sim city.
Speaker 8 (51:45):
Remember, like the early pcs games were those two
it made me think of zelda, and Ilove zelda oh my god, 8-bit
zelda.
Speaker 1 (51:51):
Yes, I want to change my answer.
8-bit zelda.
Does anybody want to redo or gobacks or anything?
It's like it's just open long Istarted thinking games um go
ahead, it's open, I gotta findthe blend game anyways, the
skyrim game.
Speaker 4 (52:05):
It's just another fantasy world, but that's way
more of a fun place to be than arandom sand planet.
Speaker 2 (52:12):
Can I say our last question, the previous question
about what is the best way toget you to do something you do
not want to do.
I think a funny rift on thatwould be to ask partners to
answer for each other.
Speaker 5 (52:30):
Oh shit, I already told you.
Speaker 1 (52:33):
We're really up against time on this thing right
now.
So we are right on the buttonhere for our okay.
So we're going to do the blendgame.
The blend game is a little bitout, you guys will know enough.
But if we play it and somebodypicks a number and then we skip
through our thing and then wedecide if it's, it's gotta be
one of the the six.
It's like one of the six Bailey, kenzie, taylor, brian.
Speaker 5 (52:55):
Megan doesn't know what you're talking about, but I
do, I do.
Speaker 1 (52:59):
Okay, so the first thing I need is a number between
like 1 and 15, something fun 11.
Okay, so now I get this.
Jenna 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11.
Okay, and then we just get togo around and say who, who are
the?
Who are the six with the speedscrubs?
(53:23):
I'm, I'm, I'll go, I'll go,I'll guess first Taylor, yeah,
taylor, taylor, taylor.
Speaker 8 (53:28):
Taylor.
Speaker 3 (53:29):
Taylor.
Speaker 8 (53:29):
Taylor.
Speaker 2 (53:30):
Taylor, yeah, and nobody else.
Speaker 1 (53:44):
I don't know what it is, and you know, the funny
thing about this is like usuallythere's at least one other
that's on a playlist.
This is just.
Speaker 7 (53:52):
Taylor and Bumper on the night.
Speaker 8 (53:53):
I think we need to do one more.
What's that?
One different number?
Let's do one more.
Speaker 2 (53:57):
Another blend Another blend Choose your number.
Speaker 8 (54:00):
Megan.
Speaker 1 (54:02):
Okay, wild card.
What's the number?
What's the number?
Speaker 8 (54:04):
between one and what, whatever Like 10.
Okay.
Speaker 3 (54:20):
Nine.
Speaker 1 (54:21):
Do we know the song?
Speaker 3 (54:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (54:23):
Stacey Run song Stacey.
Speaker 3 (54:25):
It's me, we're going again.
Speaker 5 (54:28):
It's me, that was easy.
It's much easier when theperson just said that, yes,
sorry Three people.
Speaker 6 (54:38):
I was going to guess Taylor as well, because it
sounds like a workout.
Speaker 1 (54:40):
What song is this?
Bailey, tate me and Stacey.
Speaker 8 (54:44):
You have it too.
It's Normani.
Speaker 1 (54:46):
Motivation.
I don't know how the hell thatgot on my list.
Speaker 4 (54:49):
I've never heard this song.
She's playing us out, guys.
Thank you, that was awesome.
That was so fun.
Speaker 1 (54:51):
Motivation.
I don't know how the hell thatgot on my list.
I've never heard this song.
She's playing us out, guys.
Thank you, that was awesome.
That was so fun and that dogdid not ruin the podcast.
Speaker 4 (54:58):
No, only the first couple minutes, see ya, wow, I
didn't even think about it.
Let me do my thing.
Anybody else want to say it.
This is the Broken Tilespodcast and we've got a crew
Stace.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
We have a big crew.
It's very exciting.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Stace, can you go around the table and talk about
our guests?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Okay, we have our son Bailey.
Hi hi I want to say bailey boy,you can say that you did
already and his lovely partneryes, yes, that's me zach, how
you play it in public.
And our dear dear friend Ryan.
Speaker 5 (00:46):
Hello.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
And his amazing, beautiful wife and Brian's
cousin, our cousin Megan, Hello.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Fantastic, Our dear friend Ryan.
That's my brother.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Okay, that's true.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
And this is you heard it in the background already.
My brother.
Okay, that's true, and this is.
You heard it in the backgroundalready and this is from a year
ago Florida.
One of our most popularepisodes in Venezuela in the
history of the podcast wasGolden Doodles, our terrible
podcasters.
And that goddamn dog has come3,000 miles to the beautiful
Pacific Ocean which we'reoverlooking right now, and she's
(01:24):
going to ruin another podcastand it we're overlooking right
now Just to be on this podcastand she's going to ruin another
podcast and it's going to bethis one.
Speaker 4 (01:28):
She's committed.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
This is awesome, guys .
It's fun.
We always talk about havingmore guests because I think, for
a million reasons, it addssomething other than Stacey and
I, as we did on our last one hernew question game.
You're supposed to be a footaway from each other and ask the
questions into each other'seyes, yeah, which we kind of did
, right, which?
Speaker 5 (01:48):
is going to happen at these short courts.
That's a very good point.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
This is very, very intimate, and so I think we're
going to play it.
Stace, let's go right into it.
We'll just play it like wenormally do, and I'm not worried
about time, you know.
But we'll go through thequestions and we'll, you know,
ask the question.
We'll kind of reverse it soyou're not always on the button
Bailey asking the first.
You know answering the firstquestion.
So we'll just go, cause it is aquestion podcast.
(02:15):
That's what Stacy does Drop it.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Okay, you chose three red ones right away.
Did you notice that?
Speaker 1 (02:25):
The green and yellow are for suckers.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Okay, so we're going deep.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Yeah, this table can handle it, yeah, right away.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
So I'm asking Bailey first.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
The table.
Bailey's going to answer first.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Okay, when was the last time you forgave someone?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Oh, right out of the gate.
Heavy, hmm, remember, try toget that mic when you answer
everybody.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
Forgave someone.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Remember what you did last time.
You had a good strategy lasttime on this podcast.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
What was?
Speaker 3 (02:58):
that you passed and then came back Really.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
We should actually have a number right of passes,
like how many?
You only get one skip,mulligans.
One skip.
You do, bailey, get one skipand you can circle back around.
You can burn it early.
You can burn that mulligan onthe first hole.
No.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
I can come up with an answer, all right.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Scooch closer to it when you're ready.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
I'd say, for most recently I've definitely had to
put an effort, um to forgivemyself.
Just uh, since we've been herein california, I've been pretty
unsuccessful in finding work, um, where that I wasn't pressing
that.
I do that when we get here.
(03:44):
But after five months oflooking it definitely became a
problem, like more in my ownhead than in our own life.
But the forgiving myself partmore comes from understanding
that it is okay, it doesn'taffect our life in a negative
(04:08):
way, and that the waiting forthe right thing is better than
jumping into something thatwould affect our life in a
negative way.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Right, it's not a reflection of who you are as a
human.
Speaker 7 (04:22):
Right.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
And so that's a probably the first thing that
comes to my head.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Besides that, everyone else in my life the
past few months have just beenno, no reason to need to forgive
everyone, anyone yeah, no rightand yeah, it's hard to come up
with someone else, so yeah andwhat we'll do is we'll pin it,
remember it, and the easiest wayto do it, as we do on this
regularly, is we'll kind of gothrough and then that's okay.
(04:50):
That's my stomach.
Yeah, it's not even the dogthere's a pterodactyl behind it.
The dog it was a elephant bird.
Speaker 5 (04:56):
An elephant bird.
An elephant bird, an elephantbird, an elephant bird.
An elephant bird About athousand AD.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Approximately, approximately, but what we'll do
is it's easiest to do it thisway, so we can get through and
you're on point with your answerand then after we'll open it up
.
Did any of that like strike youin a certain way?
Did Bailey's answer like openup a conversation or a thought?
So we'll just kind of keepmoving, kenzie.
Speaker 6 (05:21):
So I've had a strained relationship with my
dad for a very long time, um,and sometimes I take his
shortcomings personally.
I feel like it's a slight on me, um, but in the last few months
, um, I feel like I have beendoing a better job at forgiving
(05:43):
him for things that he hasn'tdone to me.
He was never doing those thingsto hurt me, he.
Those were things that werehappening you know in his life
or that you know he was doing,but they were never against me.
So, then really working hard onlike forgiving him for those
things.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
That's a good one, that that I have a pen, that
that resonated Ryan Bernstein,my brother.
I know it feels like everybodyelse is less than, but it's just
the way.
Speaker 4 (06:13):
I feel, right now.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
I would say for me, I make kind of a conscious effort
to forgive, often because Idon't want to have a lot of
conflict.
Obviously, there's times whenyou need to run things to ground
and you need to address issues,but a lot of things don't
necessarily need to be talkedthrough to to an extent where
(06:38):
everything becomes a bit of afight or an argument.
So I I really try to justforgive often and let like let
the little things go so thatthey don't manifest themselves
into big problems.
Obviously, again like there'scertain things that you need to
figure out and talk through yeah, but a lot of times, if you,
just you know all right well,forgive them and move on.
(06:59):
You can get on with your life,and no doubt just letting it go
for yourself, in a way.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Exactly that's smart.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
I told you to put a pin in it.
That's actually, it'scompletely breaking the rules
right there.
I wanted to say something afterKenzie's.
Did I?
No, because I'm respecting therules, the process this is a
wild card but her voice isreally cute.
Speaker 8 (07:21):
Well, you know that's the problem.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
That's why you let it go.
Speaker 6 (07:26):
I'm putting a pin in that one, forgive me.
There you go.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
It's going to happen on live, my most recent time I
forgive somebody.
Six seconds ago, or apologize.
It's going to be in about Idon't know what 37 seconds.
Go ahead, megan.
Speaker 8 (07:39):
So the thing that popped in my head was a
challenging coworker that Ithink had I had told you guys a
story about um.
That's the thing.
First thing that popped in myhead Um and I know that we had a
little conflict in this personlike came to me the next morning
and apologized, um, and I triedreally hard to like okay, I'm
going to forgive her.
But she kept saying sorry, but,and so I had, and she told me
(08:02):
something that was going on inlife that was not good.
It was like a really toughsituation.
So, I had to like listen to herand be like you know what she.
She came to me, she apologized.
I need to, you know, show hersome grace.
And that's the first thing thatpopped in my head was sometimes
you have to, even if it's not afull apology, you have to maybe
(08:24):
understand their situation andtry to forgive them, even though
you're like, oh it'sfrustrating.
But just to kind of see theirpoint of view, their perspective
.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Watch it.
That's seriously close to anopen discussion.
Speaker 8 (08:38):
Her voice is really cute as well.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
That's very close to an open discussion right there.
I have a pin, too, for hers.
I have a pin for yours.
I have a pin for yours.
I have a pin for yours, you'rejust great, nothing Perfect
answer.
That's a good one, but there'sdefinitely a pin we'll come back
to.
Mine's been mine's fairly easy.
I've been doing a tremendousamount of apologizing in the
magazine industry lately andit's and it's.
(09:12):
It's a very difficult situationbecause it's a clearly this is
timely because in the lastpodcast, which was this podcast
night before last, this one willbe posted, so it's now.
But is that it's putting a lotof stress and strain on it, two
full-time kind of jobs, and I'mfinding that way.
And clearly, because themagazine is the secondary
full-time commitment, it can'ttouch the landscaping full-time
job, and so that's done in ordernot missing anything.
(09:32):
So I'm missing things on themagazine side because something
has to give.
And so, as an owner,editor-in-chief, publisher,
writer, all the things that I doHold for applause.
What's that Hold for applause?
Why hold?
I got the last podcast, whichwas the night before last, which
(09:55):
this one's now, so that'll beyesterday, so this is the last
one.
I think I got a 23-secondstanding ovation on an answer.
Speaker 5 (10:02):
That's impressive.
That's not easy.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
He's the only person that stood up.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Oh yeah, you know what I screwed up?
I didn't hit record on this.
We haven't even started yet, isthat?
Speaker 5 (10:13):
true, no.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
It was just mean what she just said.
So I've been doing a tremendousamount.
The apologizing it's beengenuine but the apologies are
done intentionally for it.
To kind of come to the front ofmy mind Process, process, we
need process, we need systems,the magazine, so it's for me.
There's not much I can do aboutit right now, other than
recognize that we're not doingit now and it's an intention.
(10:37):
We're all doing this part-timething.
That's a full-time kind ofobligation.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
But that's it, go ahead, it's my turn kind of.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
Actually.
What I'm really feeling, though, isn't that it's this oh my
goodness go ahead stacy wow,what did I do to deserve?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
that I'm sorry, the answer is about two seconds ago.
I forgave you for what you did.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
How many times is that over 34 years?
Oh, a lot.
What's 365 times 34?
I'm not here for that.
What is it, baby?
I know you got one.
You have to have one.
When you're six of six, you'vegot to have one.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
Actually really hard for me.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Never made a mistake.
No, that's not it at all.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
Never forgiven someone.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
No, that's not it either.
I'm trying to figure out themost recent, and is it something
that I want to say on a podcast?
Speaker 1 (11:47):
But that whole thing is like am I going to be
affected?
No, Then answer it.
Speaker 5 (11:55):
Is it going to hurt my feelings?
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Is it going to hurt my feelings?
Speaker 2 (11:59):
No.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
Answer it.
Is it going to hurt somebodyelse's feelings?
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Yeah, maybe I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Can you do it in I for the the purpose of the
conversation, it's not it's nota confession.
A family, it's not aconfessional but even before you
go there, forgive someone yeah,but you can even talk about it
somebody.
You can talk about itabstractly too yeah, okay,
that's fine.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
So it was um during covid was, um during COVID, a
really close family member and Ihad a a very rough conversation
that I never fully understoodthe um, the beginnings of like
how it got to that, and it wasshocking for me and it really
hurt my feelings.
(12:39):
Um and I I just chose to be uh,kind of obstinate about it for
a while and just kind of shutdown, but then after a while I
realized that, um, I think COVIDwas very hard for everybody and
it probably really affectedsome people more so than others,
(13:00):
and I think that was the casefor this one individual.
Speaker 4 (13:02):
And.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
I just decided that it doesn't do any good to hold
on to this, whether this personyou know understands the impact
they had or not.
That's not really the point.
It's about caring for somebodywho is going through a hard time
, so I let it go.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Yeah, and then we'll open it up for pins now.
Did anything really jump out atanybody from any other answers
that they want to talk about?
I got two.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Go for it.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Okay, my first one was Kenzie's and I think it's
very interesting about.
I'm always fascinated by theevolution of a child into an
adult as they view their parents, as they either are leveling up
or going by their parent size.
That hit me with that, becausethat's interesting, because I
think you have two paths, twopaths is you become an adult,
(13:56):
even a teenager adult, and Ithink that one path is possible
resentment and the other one isforgiveness, because, because
there's a, there's a lot ofresentment when you start seeing
your parents as not justidolized parents, you start kind
of like processing it, likegoing like, oh, you're, you're a
fallible human and you andyou're just a person.
(14:16):
Yes, and that's weird for a kid.
It's weird for a kid to say, oh, my mom and dad have this and
that.
Speaker 6 (14:23):
And I think the first instinct isn't forgiveness,
it's like confusion, it could beconfusion so that's what I
thought, even a little bit ofanger, I think that anger
probably where, like some ofthose feelings, um harsh
feelings that I had kind of camefrom, but as I'm kind of coming
into my like real big girl joband um becoming like more and
(14:43):
more of an independent adult,all I can think is how easy it
is to go down paths that wouldlead me to similar decisions
that he's made, so I understandmore and more.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
Is that actually what you get when you finish pants?
It says, you can now go get abig girl job.
Speaker 6 (15:01):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (15:02):
It says you qualify.
Speaker 6 (15:03):
That's what my master's degree says.
Big girl job approved.
Big girl job, yes.
It says you qualify.
That's what my master's degree.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Big girl job approved big girl job and then yours.
If I heard you right now, maybeI didn't, but I because I don't
listen, it's um I'm joking, butI think from yours it sounded
like you.
You basically moved on byforgiving her for without
necessarily talking to her, andforgiving her verbally.
Speaker 8 (15:23):
No, so she did come to me.
She came to you she came to meso I gave her like I was like,
okay, that was hard for her todo.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Right.
Speaker 8 (15:30):
You know things happened after that.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Right.
Speaker 8 (15:33):
As well, which made it, you know.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Now it's like we're kind of back to where we started
, but I guess did the word leaveyour mouth.
I forgive you, I'm just curiousbecause-.
Speaker 8 (15:44):
Oh, yeah, let me think of okay.
So she apologized and then saidI'm sorry, but this happened
yesterday.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (15:50):
Kind of like, almost like an excuse of why she
treated me that way.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
Okay, and so I think, let me think no, but my pen
says no.
My pen's not putting you onpoint.
My pen is more like thoughtfulthan that.
It's like my thought is like.
I think there's a really goodhuman condition to possibly
transitionally move on and trulyforgive them.
The words don't have to comeout of your mouth, right?
Speaker 4 (16:09):
right right.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
I'm not saying I guess it's kind of a dick move
if you don't, but there's goingto be circumstances where they
need to hear it.
The other one is you need tomove on.
You need to move on from likethat sort of like daily grind of
obsessing over something andmaybe you're just like I.
You know that goes in thisconversation.
It's like that's super helpfulIf you can, like, in the quiet
of your room, go, I'm going toforgive it and move on.
Yeah, possibly.
Speaker 8 (16:31):
Well, I remember I can't I think I texted Ryan and
was like, oh my gosh, I give hercredit.
She came to my room and saidsorry.
So I was like that I respectedthat she did that, even though
it was, you know, maybe not whatyou expect.
Like I'm sorry, you know it wasit took some, you know, I gave
her credit, took some couragefor her to come do that and say
(16:51):
that.
So and I gave her a hug, andyou know.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Pins, pins, pins, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5 (16:58):
Yeah, one for Bailey's for sure, cause I mean
it can be a really powerfulthing to be your own toughest
critic and recognize where youhave opportunities to be able to
, you know, grow and be betterin whatever capacity, as long as
you have that second piecewhere you forgive yourself for
whatever it is and then get outof your own way, because
(17:19):
otherwise if you just wallow andyou're just really hard on
yourself all the time, you won'tget anything done.
But if you have both of thosethings it's a very powerful tool
.
So I'm happy to hear that.
Speaker 4 (17:28):
Yeah, yeah, thank you .
You know, it's definitely aprocess, but the process is also
a good thing, yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Yeah, it's one of the greatest pins of all time.
Ryan, you're definitely leavinghere feeling better about
yourself.
Hello, stacey.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
All right.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
I forgive you.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Oh, this is a good point.
I think you chose this one Likeyou really sought this one out.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
What is it?
Speaker 2 (18:03):
Why do you think you are here on planet earth?
I?
Speaker 1 (18:06):
didn't.
You'd think I did, but I didn't.
All I did was I went to the redand I took every single one
that wasn't a couple one.
I took like five that I went, Ijust went through and everyone
that wasn't couple I justrandomly took them.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Oh, this is the family edition.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
It should not be couple Like when's the last time
we were most intimate?
There's some in there wherethere was some sound like it was
a couple to a couple one.
I just went the first ones thatwere broader I took.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
It's very much a Brian question it sure is.
So are we directing this toKenzie?
Speaker 1 (18:35):
I think that's fair, or we can roll a dice or
something.
Speaker 6 (18:40):
No, that's okay, I can answer first.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
Put your big girl pants on.
Speaker 6 (18:49):
Well, shockingly, it is going to come back to my big
girl job.
I think that I'm here to helppeople, and that always sounds a
little cheesy Like.
I work in health care, and Ithink it's a very common
question when people are askedwhy do you do this job?
It's because we all want tohelp people, of course, but I
(19:09):
like to think that I do it at myjob and I like to think that I
do it in my personal life and Itry and do it every chance that
I get.
It makes me happy and it makesme feel like I have purpose.
So that's maybe what my purposeis.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Wow, I like that, ryan.
I mean, it's funny, I'm justbeing, I'm an announcer.
Speaker 5 (19:36):
It was a lack of eye contact when you said my name.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
You want one foot?
Yeah, I'm getting closer Ryan.
Speaker 5 (19:51):
I would say this is too close.
This is perfect.
I would say along the samelines you know, to help and
support friends, family, anybodyyou know close to you.
Obviously, we've talked, we'veall talked about it.
I've recently lost my bestfriend and um I felt found a lot
(20:14):
of purpose and just providingwhatever, uh help and support I
can for his family, which islittle but it, you know, I think
every little bit helps, um andyou know things I can do for my
wife and my parents and mysiblings and just my close
(20:34):
friends.
I find a lot of purpose in thatand so I mean it's definitely a
very it's not a very grand viewof it, but I don't know that I
have a high purpose as far aswhat I can do for humanity.
But I think, on a small scale,the people that are close to me
(20:55):
can make an impact.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
I think that's really good.
I got a pen.
Speaker 8 (21:00):
I also have a pen for that.
I think we can only have onepen per.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
That's a lot of pens.
Speaker 8 (21:07):
You almost made Ryan spit out his water.
I'm kind of the pen guy rightnow.
To piggyback off of that.
My first thought went to Ryan'sgood friend and his family.
Just that we've stepped up andI do feel like we're making a
huge difference and I feel likeyou know it's not a small impact
(21:28):
?
No, and that's my part of mypin.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
Exactly.
Speaker 8 (21:31):
Yeah, I think it makes a huge difference.
And that was my first thought,and then my second thought was
just my job and education andthen my musical abilities I feel
like, with my musical abilities, like just you know, helping
anyone through their journeys oflife.
Could you know weddings,funerals, like any?
Totally step of you know, goodor bad, happy or sad, I feel
(21:54):
like you can make a big impactwith just music and it just
speaks so much, sometimes morethan words can.
It just has a deeper impact.
So those were mine.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Pens.
Best not be sending old pensaround.
Don't even think about a penStace.
What's the question?
Again, joking, because thatwould have made me clearly
disconnected from three verygood answers.
I think where I've landedlately in a lot of it, I refer
to this Berg's meditation.
(22:28):
You know that I listen to everyday and I'm not going to say
that word for it.
But I think where I'm landingis that it could be just.
It's a word, it's a singularword I'm thinking of when this
question is asked, and it'sexplore.
But it sounds like that meansmeans travel, and it does.
I think it does mean explore,but explore relationships,
explore boundaries, explore.
(22:50):
I think we're here and we'revery unique.
This species is very uniquethat we have this cognitive
thought and we're aware thatwe're here and that's a lot of
pressure here and that's a lotof pressure.
We have a lot more pressurethan a hyena, you know.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
We have a lot more pressure than a pelican pretty
easy fucking day out there, youknow overall, an elephant bird
that poor bird.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
Yeah, didn't do good for that bird didn't figure out
their purpose I still can'tfigure out the logistics of that
.
No, it's not how it happened.
Can we talk about it?
Okay, put a pin in it no, noseparate podcast it's kind of
traumatizing.
I told megan about how theelephant bird was made a
thousand years ago.
She did not like it, yeah shedid not like it there's some
movies where imagery there'ssome movie, there's some movies
(23:34):
where I'm like, hey, ryan's likeyeah, not for me, but that's it
.
I think it's.
Um, I think I think thedefinition of that word is is is
sort of possibly why we're here, which is feelings.
I think you can use that wordwith all of it.
I want to explore, you know,ireland.
I want to explore my feelings,I want to explore new
(23:57):
relationships.
I want to explore somebodyelse's perspective.
I think maybe that's.
It is my answer.
I think it's maybe, maybethat's.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
It is my answer.
Mine might be similar to yours,but the the word I'm choosing
is growth.
So growing in so many differentways, but also supporting other
people in growth, which isessentially what I do for work
Right.
There's so many different waysyou can grow, and I think it's.
We all have different growthrates and sometimes, like, what
(24:28):
I'm trying to figure out rightnow is, um, I've always been
sort of a striver, like reallypushing myself a lot to grow in
many different areas, and I havehad to not do that at all so
that I can heal.
And now I'm trying to figureout, oh well, what's a good rate
(24:48):
?
to keep moving forward but notput myself in jeopardy again.
That's really hard to balance,but I still can make some
progress and grow in differentways.
So I'm just trying to figure itout.
It's kind of similar to explore.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
I know.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
It's Bailey's turn now.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
Everybody knew that.
Speaker 4 (25:15):
I think everyone shares a similar perspective and
so there's similar answerscoming from everyone, and mine's
also in that same line of just.
I think that the most importantthing you can do is develop and
maintain relationships with thepeople in your life.
But people and also the thingsyou care about, um, so that's
just interests or or anything.
(25:35):
Yeah, um, that's where I thinkmost people find purpose is like
ryan said, it's not like agrand plan, it's it.
I think a lot of times it's.
It's more fulfilling if youfind, kind of in your small life
, those things that matter um,and focus on those.
That that's where you can findhappiness and purpose and I
(26:00):
loved it, that's a good one pins.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
I left it.
That's a good one.
Pins there was a pin.
Pins.
Speaker 8 (26:14):
I raised my hand.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
Teacher, yes, sir, what do you got?
Speaker 8 (26:20):
No, I was just kind of what you said, Bailey, and
also Ryan.
I don't think what you do issmall.
I think when you said, oh, itdoesn't have a bit, I think what
you're doing to help yourfriend's family and what you're
doing with your life, I think isbigger than you think.
That was my first thought.
(26:42):
I don't think you shouldminimize that, because I think
it's a was my first thought,like I don't.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
Yeah, I don't think like you should minimize that,
because I think it's like a hugeit is yeah big thing in but
it's hard to see that in themoment it's it's because you're
just doing it right, is that?
Is that the way you think aboutit's like it's just?
Speaker 5 (26:56):
yeah, it's almost.
Uh, it almost feels like thebare minimum in some ways.
Yeah, it's just.
How could you not at least dowhatever it is I am doing,
whatever it is you are doing?
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Um, but it is it.
It is from the outside, it is.
It is a lot.
I guess it's almost like aweird analogy.
It's like a pro athlete.
It's like that's what theywould say.
They would say I'm just doingmy kind of like they a lot of
those would be the bare minimum,but we're watch them going.
That's amazing and it is.
It's not a big, you know not tooverdo it right now, but it is.
(27:28):
It's meaningful and it's a lot.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
It is meaningful, not everybody will do that.
Speaker 4 (27:33):
It's totally.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
I mean, I think what you're doing is far more than
what most people do.
I mean, so many people say well, if you need something, call me
.
Well, nobody's going to callyou.
If you say that, I mean that isreally disingenuine.
People get uncomfortable.
They don't know what else tosay, but it's not necessarily
meaningful, yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
It's a lot because you have to, almost, like you
know, for me it's like you know,I think of, like the most
recent ones, my dad goes and youhave an obligation to my mom
from an emotional standpointthat wasn't there before.
And then Gavin goes and you'vegot a new connection with you
know, trent and Darren, but Ihave to literally put it in my
phone.
I mean, like the Trent andDarren I have to, you know, put
in my phone, and I mean that ina loving way, because it's just
there's.
It's a lot of you know, it'sthat's just a once a month catch
up call that.
I try to do this month catch upcall that I try to do.
(28:21):
This is more same zip code kindof thing going on and my mom,
we just handle with likeFaceTimes, and so my point is
it's not obvious and it's noteasy to to literally carve out a
piece of your uh weekly sort ofschedule for someone else in
that way.
Speaker 8 (28:40):
Um, it's pretty big thing and one sorry one more
thing to add.
To add um, this morning on ourI think we were driving to get a
new couch and we both said thathold for a pause 23 seconds and
keep going.
No, but we both said that wehad texted our friend's wife and
(29:03):
their daughter, like we hadboth separately not talking to
like had both said like goodmorning and have fun at your
volleyball tournament.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
It was like.
Speaker 8 (29:10):
Oh my gosh.
And so I think we're makinglike a conscious effort to like
contact them every single dayand I do I?
I I'm very proud of us fordoing that, because I feel like
we're.
I think we're making a hugedifference.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
And you're getting the thing about that.
It's hard thing to say about it.
You're probably getting a lotout of it, absolutely.
Speaker 5 (29:27):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
And that that's the, that's humanity, that's what we
do.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
Yep, it's so true Happy some bills.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
International is creating the most beautiful
airline in the world.
Oh, fuck yeah.
We hired Emilio Gucci to designour unit when reversible coats
of almond, green and apricotspace helmets to keep out the
rain, red space suits andsometimes something a little
more comfortable.
And we hired Alexander Gerardto do our Alexander.
(30:00):
Gerard, alexander, girard, wehave blue planes, orange planes,
yellow planes.
You can fly with us seven timesand never fly the same color
twice.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
I'm with you.
Shocking thing is this airlinewent out of business with that
marketing plan.
They had space helmets andthere were space helmets in this
commercial.
I saw them.
Speaker 6 (30:18):
As a fashion girly.
Yes, I really appreciate it andhonestly I think it's missing
in the flight industry today.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
I agree Totally.
What just happened?
Speaker 4 (30:28):
Lightning round.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
I gotta explore these buttons there's a lot more
going on here than the three weuse.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Okay, I liked the suggestion of lightning round,
so I think this is gonna be alightning round question and my
idea of lightning round.
You gotta stop saying it.
It's gonna be a one-word answer, as fast as you can, and we're
gonna just go around the circle.
Speaker 1 (31:05):
And what's this called again, lightning?
Speaker 2 (31:10):
Okay, and Ryan, you're going first.
What is your definition of thegood life?
Speaker 5 (31:23):
And it's only one word Jesus Time, time Ooh.
Speaker 8 (31:32):
Balance.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Skip.
Speaker 2 (31:41):
You don't get the music for that one.
Speaker 1 (31:43):
I didn't play it.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Connection.
Speaker 4 (31:51):
Family.
Speaker 6 (31:55):
Contentment.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
Shit, that was so fast.
What is this?
This a lightning round?
I honestly don't even know whatthe question is anymore
definition of the good life hmm,boy, this got me a little bit.
You guys were really good atthat definition of the good life
(32:19):
one word is hard and somebody'salready used balance, god damn
it.
Ainsley's calling.
We should get it.
Hold on, I think we can get itlive on the air, ainsley.
Taylor it's me.
(32:39):
Hey, you're live on a podcast.
What's going on?
What do you guys need?
Speaker 7 (32:43):
No dice Everything is broken.
Now the car won't even turnover.
Speaker 1 (32:49):
Guys, this is a breaking news update.
This is Taylor in Colorado.
They're broken on the side ofHighway.
Speaker 7 (32:54):
What what are we?
285.
Highway 285.
Speaker 1 (32:58):
And they're broken down there.
Do you have your U-Haul?
Speaker 7 (33:01):
I'm in the U-Haul down there and do you have your
u-haul and?
Speaker 1 (33:05):
then the u-haul we put a cooler, we got a hotel, oh
you didn't go to frank's.
Speaker 7 (33:08):
Well, we texted him and never heard back.
Just said I, I just didn't wantto.
I felt like it would have beensomething he would have offered
for a sleepover if their houselike accommodated it, right?
So I said, hey, we've beenworking on working on the car
for an hour, no dice.
So we're going to take you homeback to Fair Play and find a
place to camp or get a hotel orsomething.
(33:32):
We haven't heard back yet andthe hotel was like $120.
Okay, and it's two queens andwe could just like reset.
We're all just so cold.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
Do that.
We're going to go because weare podcasting right now, but
I'm going to allow you guys toanswer a question as you're
driving right now.
And the question is this andyou guys all get answers.
It's a lightning round.
You only get one word for thisanswer.
Who answers One word?
Anybody individually, but thequestion is this Go ahead Stace.
(34:00):
What is your definition of thegood life?
It's.
What is your definition of thegood?
Speaker 7 (34:06):
life and you have to answer in one word Family.
Speaker 2 (34:08):
Aww, good one.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
Okay, that's mine.
Taylor says family.
What do I do now?
Speaker 7 (34:15):
Answer the answers.
She got ill because of thestress.
Speaker 1 (34:22):
Okay, do you guys want to pass on that?
There's a skip.
You guys are all sick.
This is the One word.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
Yes, One word Peace.
Oh, I like it.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
Oh man, that's good.
Okay, we're hanging up on youguys.
We'll call you when you get tothe hotel.
Wait, I love the answer.
Oh, I thought she did not wantto answer.
My fault, I'm sorry.
Speaker 7 (34:41):
No, I was just calling.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
I love you.
I'm sorry if there was a soundeffect, I could use right now I
would, but we're on the phone soI can't use them.
Um community, oh, that's a goodone.
Speaker 3 (35:01):
All right now.
I'm hanging up on you done.
Speaker 1 (35:03):
Thanks, guys we'll call the hotel.
Bye.
That is a ban, sorry Gone.
This podcast has gone to hell.
Am I still on the clock?
Speaker 5 (35:09):
Yeah, you've been on the clock.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
I still don't have a real answer my definition of the
good life Home.
Speaker 3 (35:25):
I like that yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
Yeah Home.
Speaker 2 (35:28):
I liked how that lightning round went Do you have
a pen, a pen.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
A pen.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
A pen.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Oh, all you have to say is I want to put a pen in it
and then say what you said.
Speaker 2 (35:38):
Oh sorry, yes.
Speaker 1 (35:40):
A pen.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
A pen, but not on anybody in particular, just on
the lightning round okay, so youhave a pin in the light.
I'll accept your pin, go aheadwow um I I like the lightning
round idea.
It's the first time we've everdone that.
We just made it up on the spot.
Uh, because it really forcedyou to come up with something
quick and meaningful, andeverybody came up with something
(36:03):
so good.
Speaker 1 (36:04):
Not so much me, well, except for Brian.
Well, eventually you got there.
I struggled, you got there.
Speaker 2 (36:10):
And then he said a bad word.
Yeah, but one word is reallyhard for Brian.
Speaker 1 (36:14):
Did I swear yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
How dare you?
Are we on the last question now?
Speaker 1 (36:26):
No, I don't know.
You have the questions.
Speaker 2 (36:28):
We're on the last question.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
We're doing pretty good.
Speaker 2 (36:33):
Okay then.
All right.
So, Megan, you're the firstanswerer for this one.
What is the best way to get youto do something?
You?
Speaker 5 (36:48):
don't want to do.
I don't know the answer to thisone.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
You're about to learn something really important for
your marriage.
Speaker 1 (36:56):
This is where the podcast pays off, yeah.
Speaker 8 (36:59):
I'm pretty stubborn.
What?
Oh, you're very stubborn aswell yeah, let's get real,
that's right, can you read?
Speaker 2 (37:12):
it one more time what is the best way to get you to
do something you do not want todo?
Speaker 8 (37:30):
might have to use my one skip it's hard no um skip
that shit.
I think I think, um, I need alot of like a really good
(37:50):
explanation, and maybe I need tosee, like, what the outcome is
going to be, or like believe inwhat the outcome will be and be
invested in that If that makessense.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
Yeah, totally does.
Speaker 8 (38:06):
Because I do get several.
I'm'm just like I'm not doingthis, that's it.
So it's hard, um, it's hard forme to once I get to that point.
It's hard for me to get out ofthat once I get to that point,
if that makes sense as well.
So I really think I have to seelike the benefit of it, or
(38:31):
believe in what you know ishappening at the end, even if I
don't want to do it.
I need to see, like the, whatgood is going to come out of it,
or is it beneficial?
Or like the why, the why, andI'd also like I feel like I'm
very, um, fair and loyal, and soif something I really don't
(38:53):
want to do and I don't believein it, then it's going to be
really hard for me to to do that.
Or if I don't I'm thinkingabout in terms of like people if
I don't, um, agree with, liketheir values or something, and I
I don't know why it's making methink of that, but yeah, I'm
pretty like strong-willed inthat sense where I'm like I'm I
(39:16):
will not do that and I don'tnecessarily think that's like a
bad thing, but I do think I canbe stubborn and maybe something
that is good, just because Idon't want to do it.
Speaker 2 (39:27):
I'm going to put a pin in there.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
Ryan's got a big pin in there.
Ryan just took six pins.
Six pins.
We don't have enough time.
Does that mean that means me?
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (39:40):
you're up.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
I think the best way for me is, if I can somehow turn
it into, I really respond tocompetitiveness Like on some
level and it doesn't have to belike win or lose, but on some
level I do respond better alittle bit.
If it's and it can be industrycompetition, it can be I just
(40:01):
want to be the best know, the,the best landscaper man you know
, or, or magazine you know.
I feel competitive that way andI think if I can turn it, then
it's like I can't really sleepon that because I want to be the
best at that.
Um, and so I I think Iresponded turning it into a
little bit of, uh, competitionfor myself I see that and the
other way is do the oppositething that you want, Stacey.
(40:24):
And I get motivated to do it.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
For me.
I would say I need time tothink about it and have somebody
ask me questions about why I'mthinking about it in a certain
way and sort of prompt me tolook at it in a different way
and that will help me to see theother side of it.
It's hard for me to get thereon my own.
Speaker 4 (40:56):
I've always had a hard time trying to answer that
question, but I'd say somethingI had learned to do and it might
not be the best answer, but itputs me on a better path to the
best answer.
I would reframe the issue andnot the outcome for myself, but
(41:17):
how it can affect the peoplearound me, and so finding
motivation and something I don'twant to do how that can better
Kenzie's life.
And that because I can have ahard time doing a lot of things
for myself, but I can do easilyanything for Kenzie or for the
family or the dogs, even likethis morning when we were
freaking out.
(41:38):
It's easy if I can reframe itlike that.
Like I said, that's notnecessarily the best way to
handle it, but it's better thanit was before, and so that's
something that's worked for me.
Speaker 1 (41:48):
Yeah, that's a good one.
Speaker 6 (41:51):
That is a good one.
I am not stubborn and I am veryeasily convinced to do things.
Just a little bit of gentlecoaxing and I will.
Yeah, I honestly like sometimesjust like reassurance that I
(42:11):
can do it or that it is helpful,just like um, and not getting
like frustrated with me if Idon't want to do something
because that makes me want to doit even less.
But just like gentle kindencouragement can get me to do a
lot of things Even if I don'twant to.
Speaker 2 (42:32):
I'll put a pin in that one too, you got a pen you
have a pen.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
Yeah, oh yeah, have you answered?
Speaker 2 (42:39):
no, we're all waiting for this one oh yeah, you're
going last, you're battingcleanup here we go.
Speaker 5 (42:45):
So I can be a bit of a procrastinator.
So if I give myself a deadline,uh, or if there is a real
deadline to get something, youknow that I don't want to get
done or don't want to do.
If I've got a deadline and whenit needs to get done, I can get
it done.
I just need to know when I needto do it and I'll get it done.
(43:05):
So whether that's needs to besomething I set for myself or
there just is a you know is anend date on whatever it is, just
having a deadline on that.
Big motivator for me.
Speaker 1 (43:20):
Pins.
Speaker 2 (43:23):
Okay, let's see if I can remember what I was going to
say.
Speaker 1 (43:26):
It was a minute and eight seconds ago.
Speaker 2 (43:30):
Oh yeah, I remember what I was going to say.
I love what you describedbecause I feel like many, many
people in the world are, uh,think the same way.
So, like what I was thinkingabout when you were sharing your
process and, um, I was reallythinking about behavior change
(43:51):
and how so many people are noteven in the pre-contemplation
stage, which means they're noteven thinking about the fact
that a health behavior changeneeds to happen.
Say, somebody with highcholesterol, for instance.
(44:13):
They don't want to make achange in the way they eat, or
they're just not thinking aboutit.
They're not getting their bloodwork done or anything like that
.
Speaker 1 (44:22):
She's pointing to Brian it's a pizookie.
Speaker 2 (44:27):
But it's sort of that you've got to really not only
be aware of what the issue is,but how might things be better
if you make a change?
And I just think the way youdescribed it is just so real.
I think a lot of people feelthat very same way and it
(44:48):
doesn't mean.
I think you started almostsaying that you're stubborn, but
I think that's just humannature.
Speaker 1 (44:56):
Yours was good.
It was like it was tough foryou a little bit, like you kind
of worked.
You know it was a good way, butyou worked your way through,
which I think was interesting tohear.
I like that because it's funwhen you get in the high weeds
and you're the red light's onand you're saying it.
There's something kind of realabout that.
I like that.
Speaker 2 (45:12):
Pins.
I had another pin.
Can I do a second one?
I haven't done any yet.
Have I?
I can't remember, I don't know.
Kenzie, the way you describedyourself reminds me of myself,
and I, in therapy, have reallycome to realize I am a major
(45:35):
people pleaser and while it'snice, it can also be really
unhealthy.
So I put myself in positionswhere I've got too big of a
burden because I say yes toeverything and that's not
helpful.
But at the same time, I love tohelp people and I want to make
other people feel good, and whenyou say yes to something and
(45:57):
you see their face light up,it's like, oh, I did the right
thing.
Until you know, a week lateryou're like, oh my God, when am
I going to have time to do thisthing?
And so that's a, that's achallenge, and I think it just
takes time.
I've gotten better at it, butit took a lot of time to realize
what I was doing to myself.
Speaker 6 (46:15):
Yeah, and it um, you know earlier I answered that
kind.
Of my purpose is to help people.
Saying no to someone needs myhelp.
Yeah, it seems weird.
Speaker 3 (46:24):
That's my nature.
Speaker 5 (46:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (46:26):
So, yeah, but you're, you're very right.
It can definitely go down apath where I end up with too
much going on.
Speaker 2 (46:31):
Yeah, it's hard to find that line, that right line
where it's too much, and yeah,it's difficult On the question.
Speaker 4 (46:39):
we're talking about something you don't want to do.
From my perspective, watchingyou, if you spend a day doing
things only you want to do, youdon't find fulfillment at the
end of the day.
Only you want to do, you don'tfind fulfillment at the end of
the day.
Speaker 3 (46:54):
Like you, you almost force yourself to seek out,
either whether it's a chore orsome sort of challenge Like you
get a lot of just kind of.
Speaker 4 (46:58):
you need that to be able to relax at the end of the
day.
Speaker 2 (47:02):
Like you've accomplished.
Yeah, that's exactly.
Yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (47:05):
So you do, and that that that's so far.
The other side of the spectrumis me of like seeking out those
things you don't want to do.
It's a conversation you and Ihave a lot of times as we
balance each other out withthose kinds of perspectives.
That's great, Like I 'll forceyou to do less and you'll force
me to do more.
Speaker 2 (47:21):
But that's sweet.
Speaker 1 (47:24):
None of it's gonna make in the podcast what he just
said.
He didn't put a pin in it andthat was great stuff.
I was moved by it.
Speaker 2 (47:32):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (47:33):
We got to cut it all.
Speaker 2 (47:34):
You and your rules.
Let's see.
Speaker 1 (47:37):
What's happening?
You don't listen to the podcastbecause I sneak in a hot take
on me.
Every single podcast, in someform or the other.
Speaker 5 (47:49):
No, I did not know.
That's what this is.
Speaker 3 (47:50):
That's great then.
Speaker 1 (47:52):
That's actually 19 seconds.
Yeah, still not there Now.
I'm hearing it yeah, took aminute.
Wow, there we go, and weactually have time for one more
question I pulled up while wewere talking.
I haven't picked it yet, butit's just great.
It says favorite ice Breakers,good way to find them.
(48:16):
That's a pretty good question.
Oh, that's a fun one.
Let's start with you, stacey.
It's kind of just a real funone.
What fictional world or placewould you like to visit?
That's a fun question.
What fictional world or placewould you like to visit Anywhere
?
Hogwarts.
Speaker 3 (48:30):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (48:31):
That came to my mind immediately.
It was between that and Narniayou don't get a clap on this one
.
Speaker 1 (48:38):
You suck.
You've got to clap Pressure'son Bailey.
Speaker 2 (48:46):
What did you just say ?
Speaker 1 (48:47):
If you can't say a fictional place that you'd want
to visit and it doesn't get acrowd response, then I'm just
putting a little stakes in thegame here, Because it clearly is
such a fantastical question.
If you say one, we're like oh,that was okay, but I mean kind
of a bummer.
Speaker 2 (49:04):
Everybody has their own fantasies.
Speaker 1 (49:06):
I've got two buttons.
Speaker 7 (49:10):
That one.
Speaker 4 (49:19):
Uh-oh.
Speaker 1 (49:20):
Or that Bailey, two buttons, that one, or pressures
on that bailey, come on here,come on, I know it's hard, I
overthink it.
Yeah, totally, or you haven'tused your skip.
If you want time, you have notused your skip.
It's a fun one no, I can come.
Speaker 4 (49:26):
I mean, I could say anything that's on my head no
works um, I guess I don't knowwhat you'd call it.
I guess a galaxy far, far away,like I like that yeah, anywhere
it's tattooing, yeah, yeah,exactly that's what I think,
where I overthink.
It's like that star wars, it'sa, it's a war-ridden galaxy.
I don't know if I actually wantto be there, but that's yeah,
(49:48):
that's uh overthinking it.
Probably you were deliberate.
Speaker 1 (49:58):
I was hovering.
It's Star Wars.
You know where I was going,kenzer, where are we?
Speaker 6 (50:03):
going, we're going to Barbie World.
Speaker 1 (50:08):
Where everything is pink and beautiful Uh-oh, where
everything is pink and beautifulWhoa Sounded like the other
night when I had that answer.
Speaker 2 (50:18):
You didn't stand up this time.
Speaker 1 (50:20):
So far we're going to Hogwarts, star Wars Galaxy, far
, far Away.
Barbie World.
Where are we going?
Caribbean, pirate Ships, nicegalaxy far, far away.
Barbie world.
Where are we going caribbean?
Speaker 5 (50:32):
pirate ships, all the pirates and and treasure and
all that stuff.
Speaker 8 (50:38):
Yeah, clearly, clearly that's good answer my
answer just came to me, though,megan I would like to go to the
marvel world, so, like Iron man,avengers.
Speaker 1 (50:53):
Thor.
Speaker 8 (50:55):
I know, but they're fictional.
Speaker 1 (50:58):
But you'd want to be in a world where we're sitting
right now and Iron man flies by.
Speaker 5 (51:02):
I like that one.
Speaker 1 (51:05):
I might not get a clap for this one, honestly,
because it's so retro, but itcame to me and I can't go back
from it.
I might even get myself,because it's going to be no
one's going to know it.
It's going to be the place I'dwant to go is.
It's a PC game I played wayback called Myst, and it's one
of the earliest platform PCgames.
Oh, I know what you're talkingabout.
(51:26):
Yeah, yeah, and it was for me.
It's ingrained in.
I'll just get out of the waybecause it's it's not.
95 of the people aren't goingto know the answer, but that my
answer is missed.
I know exactly.
I want these little islands inthese.
It's fantastical and it wassomething I'd never seen before.
That's where I'd go no, I likethat that one in sim city.
Speaker 8 (51:45):
Remember, like the early pcs games were those two
it made me think of zelda, and Ilove zelda oh my god, 8-bit
zelda.
Speaker 1 (51:51):
Yes, I want to change my answer.
8-bit zelda.
Does anybody want to redo or gobacks or anything?
It's like it's just open long Istarted thinking games um go
ahead, it's open, I gotta findthe blend game anyways, the
skyrim game.
Speaker 4 (52:05):
It's just another fantasy world, but that's way
more of a fun place to be than arandom sand planet.
Speaker 2 (52:12):
Can I say our last question, the previous question
about what is the best way toget you to do something you do
not want to do.
I think a funny rift on thatwould be to ask partners to
answer for each other.
Speaker 5 (52:30):
Oh shit, I already told you.
Speaker 1 (52:33):
We're really up against time on this thing right
now.
So we are right on the buttonhere for our okay.
So we're going to do the blendgame.
The blend game is a little bitout, you guys will know enough.
But if we play it and somebodypicks a number and then we skip
through our thing and then wedecide if it's, it's gotta be
one of the the six.
It's like one of the six Bailey, kenzie, taylor, brian.
Speaker 5 (52:55):
Megan doesn't know what you're talking about, but I
do, I do.
Speaker 1 (52:59):
Okay, so the first thing I need is a number between
like 1 and 15, something fun 11.
Okay, so now I get this.
Jenna 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11.
Okay, and then we just get togo around and say who, who are
the?
Who are the six with the speedscrubs?
(53:23):
I'm, I'm, I'll go, I'll go,I'll guess first Taylor, yeah,
taylor, taylor, taylor.
Speaker 8 (53:28):
Taylor.
Speaker 3 (53:29):
Taylor.
Speaker 8 (53:29):
Taylor.
Speaker 2 (53:30):
Taylor, yeah, and nobody else.
Speaker 1 (53:44):
I don't know what it is, and you know, the funny
thing about this is like usuallythere's at least one other
that's on a playlist.
This is just.
Speaker 7 (53:52):
Taylor and Bumper on the night.
Speaker 8 (53:53):
I think we need to do one more.
What's that?
One different number?
Let's do one more.
Speaker 2 (53:57):
Another blend Another blend Choose your number.
Speaker 8 (54:00):
Megan.
Speaker 1 (54:02):
Okay, wild card.
What's the number?
What's the number?
Speaker 8 (54:04):
between one and what, whatever Like 10.
Okay.
Speaker 3 (54:20):
Nine.
Speaker 1 (54:21):
Do we know the song?
Speaker 3 (54:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (54:23):
Stacey Run song Stacey.
Speaker 3 (54:25):
It's me, we're going again.
Speaker 5 (54:28):
It's me, that was easy.
It's much easier when theperson just said that, yes,
sorry Three people.
Speaker 6 (54:38):
I was going to guess Taylor as well, because it
sounds like a workout.
Speaker 1 (54:40):
What song is this?
Bailey, tate me and Stacey.
Speaker 8 (54:44):
You have it too.
It's Normani.
Speaker 1 (54:46):
Motivation.
I don't know how the hell thatgot on my list.
Speaker 4 (54:49):
I've never heard this song.
She's playing us out, guys.
Thank you, that was awesome.
That was so fun.
Speaker 1 (54:51):
Motivation.
I don't know how the hell thatgot on my list.
I've never heard this song.
She's playing us out, guys.
Thank you, that was awesome.
That was so fun and that dogdid not ruin the podcast.
Speaker 4 (54:58):
No, only the first couple minutes, see ya, wow, I
didn't even think about it.
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