Episode 89: Becoming your own CEO: A journey in Self-Awareness and Constructive Feedback

Ready to supercharge your success story and amplify your growth, both personally and professionally? We've got the inspirational Tiffany Largy and our stellar Do The Damp Thing coaches on board to show you how. They'll walk us through the transformative journey of self-awareness, revealing how you can harness it to level up your sales, marketing, and relationship-building strategies.

You are in for an insightful conversation. We'll uncover the power of constructive criticism, and how it can be your secret weapon to exponential growth. We're also talking about the often-overlooked strategy of having a personal 'CEO' to hold you accountable, and why creating contracts with yourself could be the game-changer you've been searching for. We'll share our thoughts on how to solicit feedback from various sources - your loved ones, customers, and team - and how these insights can open your eyes to your strengths and weaknesses. Your journey to success is about to get a lot clearer, so switch on your self-awareness and let's get started!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, you welcome to Build the Damp Thing, A place
where myself, tiffany Largy andour amazing Do the Damp Thing
coaches show you how to use yourstory to build it all.
Whether it's your first sixfigures, your next layer of
multiple six figures, or maybeyou're on your way to a minute,

(00:22):
and if it's not, that it's thelife of your dreams when you are
free, you are strong and youare whole.
First, we're going to show youhow to use your story to build a
strong foundation, and then,next, we're going to show you
how to use your story in salesand marketing to clean up the
cracks.
And last but not least, we'regoing to show you how to use
your story to gather people,because the truth of the matter

(00:44):
is that there's nothing strongerthan being connected to people
who just understand you as youare where you are, so you can
stop explaining yourself.
I want to remind you that, nowthat you're here, you are home
and I officially welcome you toour family.
Alright, let's get started.

(01:04):
The name of the game isself-awareness.
I want you to think to yourselfthat every single bit of your
ability to make money, yourability to get to the next level
, is all rooted in what you'rewilling to be aware of, not what
you are aware of, two differentthings.
In this moment, you and I aregoing to have a truth moment, a
come to Jesus moment, because, Ipromise you, criticism is your

(01:25):
best friend and so many peoplethat I have watched this year,
specifically, who are trying toreach the next level.
They constantly run fromcriticism because they don't
like what people have to say,they don't want to hear
negativity, and what I'm here totell you is that, inside of
your ability to simply be, toallow other people to say things

(01:46):
to you, to hear comments, toget feedback, is your ability to
absolutely create a way for youto have a path to grow every
day, to make more money and toget stronger.
I am not playing this game tosimply play this game.
How stupid is it of me to playthis game to not win?
We are all playing this game sothat we can win.

(02:09):
You know what I mean.
As much as you want to thinkthat it's the next tactic, the
next course, the next person,the next, whatever it might be,
I want to tell you that not onlyis it not those things, but it
is everything that you have beenignoring.
One of the things that I put inplace this year for myself was a
boss, and I know this is goingto sound wild, but, as the CEO

(02:30):
myself, it's wild to think thatI don't need my own CEO or my
own person to make sure that Iam staying in check, because
oftentimes we get moving andsomething goes wrong and we want
to blame the other person, andso for me, it's like I can blame

(02:51):
a lot of people and, yes, I canblame myself but I'm also
holding myself up to my ownstandards of what are you going
to do about it.
One of the things that I talkedabout this week in the Sunday
dinner that I did, or Tequilawith Tiffany is that I feel like
I'm going to have to do withcontracts and I feel like and

(03:12):
I'm going to get into this in amoment but I really feel like we
don't make enough time to makethe kind of contracts to
ourselves that have the returnSelf-awareness of why do you do
what you do?
Why don't you do what you do?
What are you missing?
What could you be doing?
What are the easiest ways forus to button up everything in

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front of us?
Here are five things that youcould do to be more self-aware.
Number one go to people who arefriends and family.
I know this angle is a littlebit odd, so we're going to work
on bringing this down for youover here, but the truth of the
matter is that, like if you wereto go to your family and I mean
like your immediate family andyou were to say hey, family, I

(03:54):
have a question I'd love for youto sit around the dining table
and to tell me what are some ofthe areas in which I could grow
more, I could be more or I couldbe more open or receptive to
things that you are doing or youare saying.
Now, this sounds crazy becauseit's like wow, perfect, because
it's like wow, do you reallywant to subject yourself to

(04:17):
criticism?
The answer is yes, otra vez,the answer is yes, it's okay,
we'll keep going.
The answer is yes, and let metell you why.
Because without criticism, I, asa CEO, I can't get stronger.
I have to emphasize thatWithout criticism, I can't get
stronger.
I can have the idea of gettingstronger, but I can't actually

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physically get stronger.
What I can do is I can allowmyself to lean on my own mind,
my own knowledge, my own ideas,but unless I hear other people
tell me their observation ortheir opinion or their thoughts
or their feelings or their ideas, the truth, like the absolute
truth of the matter, is that I'monly going to get as strong as

(05:02):
I'm willing to get, and you andI can't afford to get that
strong because that level ofstrength will not allow us to
get to what we need.
So step number one is go to yourfamily.
Now, some of the things youhave to hear when you hear your
family.
Some of it is really like andthis is all about building
self-awareness in 24 hours or ina week.
Some of that self-awarenesscould totally be rooted in other

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people giving you theirinsecurities, other people
giving you their ideas about whoyou are, who you're not.
But if you ask them an openquestion and they give you an
answer, and three of the fourpeople have the same answer,
it's possible that not only isthere something for you to learn
from it, but there's a placefor us to grow from it.
The question is where.
It's up to you to find out.
Now, the first place I'm goingto go to is my family.

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The second is I'm going to calla bunch of my friends who know
me very well and I'm going toget them on Zoom and I'm going
to say, or Google Meet, orFaceTime, or whatever you might
think I'm going to be like, hey,I got a crazy question for you.
I'm really looking to grow andI want to know what can I do
better?
Sure, but what are the areasthat you feel like I constantly
stumble with, I'm constantlyhaving trouble with or we're

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just not knocking out of thepark?
Oh, I can't tell you how manytimes I have done this privately
, one-on-one, and thenone-to-many, and how many times
it has saved me, because thetruth of it dictates that I can
only do as much as I am willingto do and I can only grow as

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much as I have.
Outside response, outsidefeedback, outside dictation,
outside information to who I amBuilding a self-awareness is
much more than simply doing alittle bit of something.
It's actually like taking thetime to ask the questions.
I said ask your family, askyour friends, third customers
and clients.
This is going to sound wild.

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The other day, so, when I gotout of the hospital and I came
back to the seat, one of thequestions I asked myself was how
can I support these people more.
Now I could ask that questiongenerally through a survey.
I decided to just pick the phoneand call people.
I did that in two groups.
I called my customers, notcustomers.
I called people who had boughta product who actually would

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never get the opportunity tohear or talk to me because of
the nature of the product thatthey purchased.
The second thing that I did isI went and I called private
clients who were doing more thanhalf a million or a million.
I was like, hey, I have a crazyquick question for you.
What's something that you'veneeded this year?
I didn't say from me that youhaven't gotten yet from our

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company.
Boom, answers galore, answersto the wuzah.
It made it so easy for me todouble down and go hey, I get it
, I hear you.
The fourth thing I'm going totell you is simply to get the
person who was closest to you.
So for me, in some instances itcould be my daughter, in other

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instances it could be my husband, it could be whatever it might
be.
I'm going to say hey, um,unbiased, unfiltered and without
repercussion.
I'm gonna ask you to tell mewhat are some of the challenges
that you have with me or whatare some of the areas that you
feel like I overlook or I don'tlet you grow.
I don't let you grow or I'm notgrowing myself.

(08:18):
Boom, because they spend themost time with me so easy.
Last but not least, my team.
Now, for me, as a CEO, this isprobably the hardest one,
because you really truly wannabe right and righty-mighty, but
you can't be righty-mightyrighty-mighty that's a real word
now and you can't be right allthe time.
You have to be wrong to getright, and I know that's gonna

(08:40):
sound weird, but this stupididea that we have as CEOs that
we've always got this thingtogether, is pretty dumb and I'm
gonna talk about that on mynext episode, the truth of the
CEO.
But for me, it's like if Icould get you to really stay
with me and say and remember andremind yourself that you work
for your employees as wild asthat's gonna sound, as I don't

(09:01):
care how big you are you'regonna make your life so much
easier.
So that is it.
This was very quick, but it's amoment about self-awareness and
it's the beginning of me talkingabout, or getting you to see
that possibly getting criticizedallowing and let me just say
this actually before I get outof here.

(09:21):
Is this not like constructivecriticism?
Get out of here with all that?
Constructive criticismbasically says I want you to
tell me the truth, not the wholetruth, and be soft and be
gentle.
What am I gonna do with that?
If you're soft and you'regentle and you don't give me the
whole truth, how am I supposedto grow?
Tiffany give?
I want constructive criticism.
Well, I don't think anycriticism is really constructive

(09:42):
.
I think all criticism can bedeemed as destructive if we
allow it to.
But I think all criticism insome capacity is valid.
It's either valid because itallows you to see your validity
inside of the invalidness of thestatement being said, or it's
truly valid because of how it'splaced or position inside of the

(10:02):
world.
I hope that makes sense.
So that's it, we are done.
This is moment one in theconversation around how the heck
do I become more self-aware?
Why do I need to be self-awareand why the hell do I need to
pull up a mirror?
Because, my gosh, if you avoidthe mirror, you will never, ever
see yourself.
How the hell are you supposedto grow if you're not part of
the conversation and not in theequation itself?

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Remember, you're either todaybuilding the damn thing or
you're not.
I can't wait to see what you'regonna build.
I am stupid excited abouthearing all about it and I will
see you soon.
I hope that episode was amazingfor you and you are closer to
building the dancing.
I can't wait to hear what yourthoughts were, what part you

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truth of the matter is that theperson who wins is not the
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