When burnout hits, most people think they’re simply tired. But underneath the exhaustion, there’s often a deeper driver: shame — that quiet voice that says, “You’re failing. You should be stronger.”
In this episode, Dex unpacks how shame silently fuels isolation and self-abandonment in high performers, and what it really takes to break that destructive cycle.
Through the story of “Mark,” a high-achieving executive who spiralled into withdrawal and disconnection, Dex reveals the hidden mechanisms of shame and how they erode confidence, relationships, and health — all while convincing us to “work harder.”
You’ll learn practical, immediately usable steps to reclaim self-trust and reconnect with your power — even in the middle of burnout.
What You’ll Learn
- Why shame is the invisible engine of burnout
- The Shame–Isolation–Self-Abandonment Loop and how it traps high performers
- The biology of shame: how it drives withdrawal and shutdown
- Why masculine conditioning amplifies shame in leadership
- Four Steps to Break the Shame Spiral:
- Name the shame
- Practice tiny acts of self-connection
- Reach out to a safe person
- Recommit to self-respect
Key Quote
“Shame isn’t proof that you’re broken. It’s proof that you care deeply about how you show up. Burnout recovery begins not when you fix yourself, but when you stop abandoning yourself.”
Resources
- Free AI Coach for burnout relief: Dex AI Coach
– private, expert, free, and can reduce shame in minutes. - Book a free consultation: dexrandall.com
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