June 10, 2025 • 17 mins
Before you say yes to the next big opportunity, ask yourself: do I have the capacity to follow through? In this episode, I share the 5 critical capacity buckets every high-achieving woman must evaluate before committing to a decision and building success on her own TERMS — time, energy, resources, money, and support. I walk you through how skipping even one of these can turn bold moves into performative burnout. You’ll also hear about two powerful bonus capacities — cognitive and strategic — that reveal why you may still feel stuck even when everything looks “right” on paper.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to the Business Blasphemy Podcast,
where we question the sacredtruths of the online business
space and the reverence withwhich they're held.
I'm your host, sarah Khan,speaker, strategic consultant
and BS busting badass.
Join me each week as wechallenge the norms, trends and
overall bullshit status quo ofentrepreneurship to uncover what
it really takes to build thebusiness that you want to build
(00:23):
in a way that honors you, yourlife and your vision for what's
possible, and maybe piss off afew gurus along the way.
So if you're ready to commitbusiness blasphemy, let's do it.
Hello, hello blasphemers,welcome back to Business
Blasphemy, the podcast.
Where we don't follow the rules, we rewrite them.
(00:43):
I am Sarah Kahn, your host.
I'm here today to save you fromone of the most common
self-sabotage patterns I see inambitious women.
Okay, I thought this would be areally good episode to talk
about capacity, particularlybecause, if you follow the
podcast on a weekly basis, youwill know I didn't publish an
episode last week because I didnot have the capacity, and this
(01:07):
is a through line that I've, youknow, seen in a lot of
conversations that I've had withhigh-performing women over the
years.
You know we keep makingdecisions that leave us
frustrated or depleted orfeeling stuck, and it's a
conversation that a lot ofpeople tend to avoid.
Do you actually have thecapacity to follow through on
what you're about to commit to?
(01:28):
And, honestly, it's one of themost common self-sabotage
patterns I see in ambitiouswomen right, saying yes without
checking to see if they have theactual capacity to follow
through.
Now, let's be clear.
I'm not talking about mindset,I'm not talking about fear.
I'm talking about reality, andreality has very little to do
(01:49):
with desire or ambition or vibes.
Reality is reality, right?
We love to talk about big, boldmoves and big goals, and the
thing is, bold doesn't meanreckless, right?
If you're investing your time,your energy, your money or
anything else especially ifyou're already running a
business or a household or acareer or all three you better
(02:11):
be damn sure you've checked yourcapacity first.
Now, when most people talkabout capacity, they're talking
about energetic capacity, right?
Do you have the energetic oremotional capacity to undertake
something?
I want to talk about fivecapacities that I have
identified that I really feelyou need to assess before you
say yes to anything, whetherit's a course or a mentor, or a
(02:33):
new coach, or a new offer or apartnership or a career move,
whatever it is.
These are the five questionsthat really determine whether
your yes is going to be powerfulor whether it's going to put
you in a performative state.
So let's walk through them.
My acronym is TERMS T-E-R-M-S.
The first one.
(02:54):
The T stands for time.
This is an obvious one.
Do you actually have the timeto show up for this?
Not the fantasy version of yourcalendar, not the, you know,
once things calm down or I'llmake time for it.
No, no, no, right now, in yourreal life, with your job or your
business, your family, yourobligations, do you have the
(03:16):
hours available to take this onand do it well?
Because if you're alreadydrowning in time, this isn't a
strategy.
It's actually sabotage.
Time is not something that wecan manufacture just because we
desire it or because we want to.
Time is finite, right?
You either have the time or youdo not.
So you really need to askyourself where is the time for
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this going to come from?
Because the truth of the matteris, the reality of the matter
is you're probably going to haveto say no to something else in
order for you to say yes to this.
So now you have to look at thethings you've already committed
to?
What are you willing to let goof or sacrifice or stop doing in
order to make time for this?
Because you can't overcommityourself, right?
What has to get deprioritizedin order to get this done?
(04:03):
So time is your first capacitybucket, and this is a really
important one, because if youdon't have the physical time to
do it, it doesn't matter if youhave the rest of the capacities.
It's not going to work or it'sgoing to make you very stressed,
overwhelmed, overcommitted,right, and that's what we do not
want.
The second capacity bucket,what we do not want the second
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capacity bucket, the E is forenergy.
Time means absolutely nothingif you are too depleted to use
it.
And remember you do also needto have time to rest, because
you can't do anything well ifyou don't have time to rest.
That's the bottom line.
I'm not even going to sugarcoatthat.
So when you're looking at yourenergy capacity, do you have the
physical and mental stamina totake on this commitment?
Energy, like time, is finite.
(04:50):
You don't just get more energybecause you want something badly
enough, and it's not becauseyou're lazy.
You're fucking exhausted.
And if you're not checking that, then you're setting yourself
up to fail, and I don't like touse the word fail, but let's be
completely honest with ourselves.
If you're setting yourself upto fail and I don't like to use
the word fail, but let's becompletely honest with ourselves
If you're trying to pushthrough exhaustion, you're doing
(05:12):
more damage to your health thanI think a lot of us really want
to admit.
And like I heard someone say along time ago, if you don't
prioritize your health, you'regoing to have to prioritize your
illness, and that is notsomething we want.
So ask yourself am I energizedenough to do this well?
Because if you can't do it well, there's no point in really
doing it.
(05:32):
And I understand the rhetoricaround done is better than
perfect.
We're not talking aboutperfection, but we really are.
When we say doing it well, weare really talking about getting
it done.
If you don't have the energy todo that really talking about
getting it done If you don'thave the energy to do that,
there's really no point instarting.
So ask what's draining me rightnow, and not in a negative way,
but what is actually drainingmy energy on a day-to-day basis?
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And can I really afford to addone more thing?
So time and energy do go handin hand.
The third capacity bucket, the R, is resources.
Resources are everything thatmake your life work beyond time
and money.
So things like childcare,things like the technology or
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the admin support, things likequiet space to think and reset
and recenter yourself, theactual infrastructure of your
life needed to follow through onsomething.
You might have the time and youmight have the desire, but if
you don't have the systems orthe team or the tools to execute
, it's not going to matter.
It's still going to put youinto overwhelm and that's what
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we're trying to avoid.
So ask what needs to be inplace for this to work smoothly.
I don't know the ins and outsof your personal life, but this
is something you need to thinkabout.
Do you have the resources to dothis in a way that doesn't add
more to your bucket, thatdoesn't add more to your
overwhelm?
And do I have that, or am Igoing to be scrambling the whole
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way through?
So I'm going to pause here andjust remind you that you're
listening to what I'm hoping isa reality check, because I think
a lot of us need it, especiallyif you're a woman who has been
historically very ambitious,very driven, very high,
achieving.
It is really hard toacknowledge our humanness.
(07:20):
And that is what I really wantyou to do this week Acknowledge
your humanness.
You are not weak, really wantyou to do this week.
Acknowledge your humanness.
You are not weak, you are not afailure.
Just because you acknowledgethe fact that you're human,
you're actually doing yourself aservice, a big service, by
acknowledging your humanity andacknowledging the fact that you
cannot do everything, nor do youneed to, nor should you.
(07:40):
All right, that was my PSA.
Moving on on capacity bucketnumber four money.
Let's talk about it.
Not can I afford it?
Okay, but can I afford thisright now, without resentment,
without pressure and withoutguilt?
(08:02):
So this isn't one of thosethings like can I just put it on
a credit card, but do I havethe money to actually do this
without panicking and feelingstressed every month when that
bill comes in?
Do you have what you needfinancially to say yes without
setting yourself up foroverwhelm and stress?
If you say yes and then youcan't pay your bills or you're
(08:25):
so financially stressed that youshow up with fear and scarcity,
you're not going to get whatyou came for and you're going to
be in survival mode, and I'veseen this so often in coaching
programs and certificationcourses and really any kind of
investment where people investfrom that space of it's got to
work.
If this doesn't work, I'mscrewed right.
(08:48):
And then you're so focused onthe actual investment that
you're not focusing on how toleverage what you've actually
invested in.
So is this an alignedinvestment or am I spending to
fix a deeper problem, like, am Ibetting on this because I
believe in it or am I betting onit because I'm desperate for
relief or a solution?
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Those are two very differentways to come at it, particularly
if you are somebody who is verycognizant of their energy.
And then the final bucket is Sfor support.
This one actually getsoverlooked a hell of a lot,
especially by high-functioningwomen who are used to doing it
(09:29):
all alone.
Let me be very clear with youyou need support, not after
things fall apart, but beforeyou commit to something, whether
that is emotional support,practical support or strategic
support.
The people in your corner whohelp you stay grounded and
(09:51):
focused and well-resourcedthat's the support you need.
So who is going to hold you upwhile you do this?
And if no one comes to mind,then you have to ask are you
ready to do this anyway?
Not all of us have theprivilege of a support system.
If you do, then you need to askwhere it's going to be required
(10:13):
to support you.
Let me give you an example ofthis.
If you're taking, let's say, acoaching course or a coaching
program and they're meeting inthe evening which I'm seeing
more and more of because, let'sbe honest, our days are very
overcommitted Do you havesomeone to watch your child in
the evening, because most of usdon't have childcare in the
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evening?
Do you have someone who canmake sure the kids are fed and
watered, while you're spendingan hour or 90 minutes or
whatever on an evening, once aweek or twice a week, to do the
thing?
Because if you don't have that,it's going to be very
challenging and stressful foryou, and I'm saying this from
experience.
Okay, if you're taking a jobacross the city, do you have
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someone who can support you inpicking up your kid if you have
to stay late one day, right, andyou don't have childcare?
And I know that I'm using kidsas an example, not everybody
who's listening has children,but there are other things that
you're committed to.
Maybe you have pets at home.
I know I have a friend who hastwo dogs and she doesn't always
have the capacity to be workingsomewhere that's going to
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require her to be there all day,because she needs someone who's
going to be able to look afterher pets.
And, you know, maybefinancially she doesn't have the
capacity to put the pets in akennel during the day or have
someone come and watch themduring the day, like that's also
important, right, there are alot of?
And again, like I can't speakto your specific circumstance, I
can only speak to my experienceand the experiences that I have
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of friends who have talked tome about their experiences.
So you need to look at yourindividual, specific, unique
circumstance and ask yourselfthe questions Do I have the time
to do this, to commit to thisfully, not just now, but like
the entire length of whatevercommitment this is?
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Do you have the energeticcapacity, the physical and
mental stamina to take this on?
Do you have the resources,physical and mental stamina, to
take this on?
Do you have the resources,whether it's child care,
technology, admin, whatever Doyou have what needs to be in
place for this to work smoothly?
Or are you going to be wingingit?
Because, believe me, winging itis not as sexy as people make
it out to be.
Do you have the money?
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Can you afford this right now,without resentment or pressure
or guilt or that desperation?
Never invest from that place ofdesperation.
And then, do you have thesupport?
Who's going to hold you up?
No-transcript.
So those are the five capacitiesthat I've identified that are
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super, super important to checkin on your time, your energy,
your resources, your money andyour support.
They are not obstacles, theyare not excuses, they are your
reality check.
Look after my kids at homeafter hours, like after school,
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was somehow me not wanting tocommit to something, but I
didn't have the resources or thesupport for someone else to
take care of that.
I couldn't commit to eveningclasses because I didn't have
that capacity right.
My partner was working oppositehours to me, so it didn't work.
We're in a different positionnow, but at that time it wasn't
possible.
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Don't let people make you feellike your capacity is somehow an
excuse.
It is not, because if even oneof them is out of alignment,
your decision has to change.
You either need to pause, youneed to rework the plan, or you
need to say no altogether.
That is not quitting, that isnot being weak.
That is leadership.
So here is the real question,right, the one that you can
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probably ask above all else Areyou making decisions from
clarity or from compulsion?
Because if it's compulsion, noamount of investment is going to
get you what you think you'rebuying.
And you know, I say this withlove and a little bit of a butt
kick.
But if you've been throwingtime and money and energy at
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things and still feeling likeyou're spinning, then start here
.
Audit your capacity, audit yourtime, your energy, your
resources, your money and yoursupport.
That's how you stop recyclingthe same decisions and finally
build something that is actuallysustainable.
Now, because you've listenedthis far, I'm going to give you
very quick bonus capacities tothink about Cognitive capacity.
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This is about mental bandwidth.
Are you mentally in a placewhere you can think clearly,
make decisions, processinformation and really integrate
what you're learning or doing?
Because if your mind iscluttered with 57 open loops and
unprocessed trauma and all theconstant mental load of managing
everybody else's needs, then,no, your cognitive capacity is
probably shot and no, throwingyourself into another course or
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program is not going to fix that.
So do you have the space tothink and process right now, or
are you just collectinginformation that you're never
going to use again.
And then there's strategiccapacity.
This is the other bonus one,and this one's a real difference
maker.
Strategic capacity is yourability to discern whether doing
this is actually going to moveyou closer to the life or
business that you want, orwhether you're doing this
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because you're scared or boredor trying to catch up to someone
else's version of success.
Because without strategiccapacity, you're making reactive
decisions, you're chasing shinyobjects and you're getting
stuck in loops.
So the question to ask here isis this aligned with my
long-term goals or is this justa distraction I need, dressed up
as an opportunity Becauseyou're not willing to face the
(15:37):
reality?
Look, you don't need morehustle.
You need a very clear, alignedplan and the actual capacity to
make it happen.
So if that's something you needhelp with, drop me a line.
I do a strategic growth reset.
It's 90 minutes.
We can evaluate all of yourcapacities and put together a
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plan that helps you see how youcan get to your goals in a
realistic manner.
And the strategic growth resetcomes with a tool that I have
personally created that looks atall of the necessary pillars of
growing your business and helpsyou assign time spent to each
of those pillars on a weeklybasis, depending on how much
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time you have each week.
It's a business time optimizercalculator that I created and
that's part of it's an exclusivepart of the strategic growth
reset.
So if that's of interest, headto the show notes and let's have
a conversation.
All right, that is the hardtruth for today.
Share this with the friend whokeeps buying $3,000 programs.
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She never finishes.
You know the one.
And if this episode gave youclarity, I would really
appreciate it if you'd go aheadand leave a review or send me a
message using the link in theshow notes.
I'd love to hear what clickedfor you.
All right, like I always say,you can have success without the
BS, but sometimes you got toburn it down and rebuild it
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better.
I'll talk to you next week.
That's it for this week.
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without the BS.
Welcome to the Business Blasphemy Podcast,
where we question the sacredtruths of the online business
space and the reverence withwhich they're held.
I'm your host, sarah Khan,speaker, strategic consultant
and BS busting badass.
Join me each week as wechallenge the norms, trends and
overall bullshit status quo ofentrepreneurship to uncover what
it really takes to build thebusiness that you want to build
(00:23):
in a way that honors you, yourlife and your vision for what's
possible, and maybe piss off afew gurus along the way.
So if you're ready to commitbusiness blasphemy, let's do it.
Hello, hello blasphemers,welcome back to Business
Blasphemy, the podcast.
Where we don't follow the rules, we rewrite them.
(00:43):
I am Sarah Kahn, your host.
I'm here today to save you fromone of the most common
self-sabotage patterns I see inambitious women.
Okay, I thought this would be areally good episode to talk
about capacity, particularlybecause, if you follow the
podcast on a weekly basis, youwill know I didn't publish an
episode last week because I didnot have the capacity, and this
(01:07):
is a through line that I've, youknow, seen in a lot of
conversations that I've had withhigh-performing women over the
years.
You know we keep makingdecisions that leave us
frustrated or depleted orfeeling stuck, and it's a
conversation that a lot ofpeople tend to avoid.
Do you actually have thecapacity to follow through on
what you're about to commit to?
(01:28):
And, honestly, it's one of themost common self-sabotage
patterns I see in ambitiouswomen right, saying yes without
checking to see if they have theactual capacity to follow
through.
Now, let's be clear.
I'm not talking about mindset,I'm not talking about fear.
I'm talking about reality, andreality has very little to do
(01:49):
with desire or ambition or vibes.
Reality is reality, right?
We love to talk about big, boldmoves and big goals, and the
thing is, bold doesn't meanreckless, right?
If you're investing your time,your energy, your money or
anything else especially ifyou're already running a
business or a household or acareer or all three you better
(02:11):
be damn sure you've checked yourcapacity first.
Now, when most people talkabout capacity, they're talking
about energetic capacity, right?
Do you have the energetic oremotional capacity to undertake
something?
I want to talk about fivecapacities that I have
identified that I really feelyou need to assess before you
say yes to anything, whetherit's a course or a mentor, or a
(02:33):
new coach, or a new offer or apartnership or a career move,
whatever it is.
These are the five questionsthat really determine whether
your yes is going to be powerfulor whether it's going to put
you in a performative state.
So let's walk through them.
My acronym is TERMS T-E-R-M-S.
The first one.
(02:54):
The T stands for time.
This is an obvious one.
Do you actually have the timeto show up for this?
Not the fantasy version of yourcalendar, not the, you know,
once things calm down or I'llmake time for it.
No, no, no, right now, in yourreal life, with your job or your
business, your family, yourobligations, do you have the
(03:16):
hours available to take this onand do it well?
Because if you're alreadydrowning in time, this isn't a
strategy.
It's actually sabotage.
Time is not something that wecan manufacture just because we
desire it or because we want to.
Time is finite, right?
You either have the time or youdo not.
So you really need to askyourself where is the time for
(03:39):
this going to come from?
Because the truth of the matteris, the reality of the matter
is you're probably going to haveto say no to something else in
order for you to say yes to this.
So now you have to look at thethings you've already committed
to?
What are you willing to let goof or sacrifice or stop doing in
order to make time for this?
Because you can't overcommityourself, right?
What has to get deprioritizedin order to get this done?
(04:03):
So time is your first capacitybucket, and this is a really
important one, because if youdon't have the physical time to
do it, it doesn't matter if youhave the rest of the capacities.
It's not going to work or it'sgoing to make you very stressed,
overwhelmed, overcommitted,right, and that's what we do not
want.
The second capacity bucket,what we do not want the second
(04:29):
capacity bucket, the E is forenergy.
Time means absolutely nothingif you are too depleted to use
it.
And remember you do also needto have time to rest, because
you can't do anything well ifyou don't have time to rest.
That's the bottom line.
I'm not even going to sugarcoatthat.
So when you're looking at yourenergy capacity, do you have the
physical and mental stamina totake on this commitment?
Energy, like time, is finite.
(04:50):
You don't just get more energybecause you want something badly
enough, and it's not becauseyou're lazy.
You're fucking exhausted.
And if you're not checking that, then you're setting yourself
up to fail, and I don't like touse the word fail, but let's be
completely honest with ourselves.
If you're setting yourself upto fail and I don't like to use
the word fail, but let's becompletely honest with ourselves
If you're trying to pushthrough exhaustion, you're doing
(05:12):
more damage to your health thanI think a lot of us really want
to admit.
And like I heard someone say along time ago, if you don't
prioritize your health, you'regoing to have to prioritize your
illness, and that is notsomething we want.
So ask yourself am I energizedenough to do this well?
Because if you can't do it well, there's no point in really
doing it.
(05:32):
And I understand the rhetoricaround done is better than
perfect.
We're not talking aboutperfection, but we really are.
When we say doing it well, weare really talking about getting
it done.
If you don't have the energy todo that really talking about
getting it done If you don'thave the energy to do that,
there's really no point instarting.
So ask what's draining me rightnow, and not in a negative way,
but what is actually drainingmy energy on a day-to-day basis?
(05:55):
And can I really afford to addone more thing?
So time and energy do go handin hand.
The third capacity bucket, the R, is resources.
Resources are everything thatmake your life work beyond time
and money.
So things like childcare,things like the technology or
(06:16):
the admin support, things likequiet space to think and reset
and recenter yourself, theactual infrastructure of your
life needed to follow through onsomething.
You might have the time and youmight have the desire, but if
you don't have the systems orthe team or the tools to execute
, it's not going to matter.
It's still going to put youinto overwhelm and that's what
(06:37):
we're trying to avoid.
So ask what needs to be inplace for this to work smoothly.
I don't know the ins and outsof your personal life, but this
is something you need to thinkabout.
Do you have the resources to dothis in a way that doesn't add
more to your bucket, thatdoesn't add more to your
overwhelm?
And do I have that, or am Igoing to be scrambling the whole
(06:59):
way through?
So I'm going to pause here andjust remind you that you're
listening to what I'm hoping isa reality check, because I think
a lot of us need it, especiallyif you're a woman who has been
historically very ambitious,very driven, very high,
achieving.
It is really hard toacknowledge our humanness.
(07:20):
And that is what I really wantyou to do this week Acknowledge
your humanness.
You are not weak, really wantyou to do this week.
Acknowledge your humanness.
You are not weak, you are not afailure.
Just because you acknowledgethe fact that you're human,
you're actually doing yourself aservice, a big service, by
acknowledging your humanity andacknowledging the fact that you
cannot do everything, nor do youneed to, nor should you.
(07:40):
All right, that was my PSA.
Moving on on capacity bucketnumber four money.
Let's talk about it.
Not can I afford it?
Okay, but can I afford thisright now, without resentment,
without pressure and withoutguilt?
(08:02):
So this isn't one of thosethings like can I just put it on
a credit card, but do I havethe money to actually do this
without panicking and feelingstressed every month when that
bill comes in?
Do you have what you needfinancially to say yes without
setting yourself up foroverwhelm and stress?
If you say yes and then youcan't pay your bills or you're
(08:25):
so financially stressed that youshow up with fear and scarcity,
you're not going to get whatyou came for and you're going to
be in survival mode, and I'veseen this so often in coaching
programs and certificationcourses and really any kind of
investment where people investfrom that space of it's got to
work.
If this doesn't work, I'mscrewed right.
(08:48):
And then you're so focused onthe actual investment that
you're not focusing on how toleverage what you've actually
invested in.
So is this an alignedinvestment or am I spending to
fix a deeper problem, like, am Ibetting on this because I
believe in it or am I betting onit because I'm desperate for
relief or a solution?
(09:08):
Those are two very differentways to come at it, particularly
if you are somebody who is verycognizant of their energy.
And then the final bucket is Sfor support.
This one actually getsoverlooked a hell of a lot,
especially by high-functioningwomen who are used to doing it
(09:29):
all alone.
Let me be very clear with youyou need support, not after
things fall apart, but beforeyou commit to something, whether
that is emotional support,practical support or strategic
support.
The people in your corner whohelp you stay grounded and
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focused and well-resourcedthat's the support you need.
So who is going to hold you upwhile you do this?
And if no one comes to mind,then you have to ask are you
ready to do this anyway?
Not all of us have theprivilege of a support system.
If you do, then you need to askwhere it's going to be required
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to support you.
Let me give you an example ofthis.
If you're taking, let's say, acoaching course or a coaching
program and they're meeting inthe evening which I'm seeing
more and more of because, let'sbe honest, our days are very
overcommitted Do you havesomeone to watch your child in
the evening, because most of usdon't have childcare in the
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evening?
Do you have someone who canmake sure the kids are fed and
watered, while you're spendingan hour or 90 minutes or
whatever on an evening, once aweek or twice a week, to do the
thing?
Because if you don't have that,it's going to be very
challenging and stressful foryou, and I'm saying this from
experience.
Okay, if you're taking a jobacross the city, do you have
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someone who can support you inpicking up your kid if you have
to stay late one day, right, andyou don't have childcare?
And I know that I'm using kidsas an example, not everybody
who's listening has children,but there are other things that
you're committed to.
Maybe you have pets at home.
I know I have a friend who hastwo dogs and she doesn't always
have the capacity to be workingsomewhere that's going to
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require her to be there all day,because she needs someone who's
going to be able to look afterher pets.
And, you know, maybefinancially she doesn't have the
capacity to put the pets in akennel during the day or have
someone come and watch themduring the day, like that's also
important, right, there are alot of?
And again, like I can't speakto your specific circumstance, I
can only speak to my experienceand the experiences that I have
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of friends who have talked tome about their experiences.
So you need to look at yourindividual, specific, unique
circumstance and ask yourselfthe questions Do I have the time
to do this, to commit to thisfully, not just now, but like
the entire length of whatevercommitment this is?
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Do you have the energeticcapacity, the physical and
mental stamina to take this on?
Do you have the resources,physical and mental stamina, to
take this on?
Do you have the resources,whether it's child care,
technology, admin, whatever Doyou have what needs to be in
place for this to work smoothly?
Or are you going to be wingingit?
Because, believe me, winging itis not as sexy as people make
it out to be.
Do you have the money?
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Can you afford this right now,without resentment or pressure
or guilt or that desperation?
Never invest from that place ofdesperation.
And then, do you have thesupport?
Who's going to hold you up?
No-transcript.
So those are the five capacitiesthat I've identified that are
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super, super important to checkin on your time, your energy,
your resources, your money andyour support.
They are not obstacles, theyare not excuses, they are your
reality check.
Look after my kids at homeafter hours, like after school,
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was somehow me not wanting tocommit to something, but I
didn't have the resources or thesupport for someone else to
take care of that.
I couldn't commit to eveningclasses because I didn't have
that capacity right.
My partner was working oppositehours to me, so it didn't work.
We're in a different positionnow, but at that time it wasn't
possible.
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Don't let people make you feellike your capacity is somehow an
excuse.
It is not, because if even oneof them is out of alignment,
your decision has to change.
You either need to pause, youneed to rework the plan, or you
need to say no altogether.
That is not quitting, that isnot being weak.
That is leadership.
So here is the real question,right, the one that you can
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probably ask above all else Areyou making decisions from
clarity or from compulsion?
Because if it's compulsion, noamount of investment is going to
get you what you think you'rebuying.
And you know, I say this withlove and a little bit of a butt
kick.
But if you've been throwingtime and money and energy at
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things and still feeling likeyou're spinning, then start here
.
Audit your capacity, audit yourtime, your energy, your
resources, your money and yoursupport.
That's how you stop recyclingthe same decisions and finally
build something that is actuallysustainable.
Now, because you've listenedthis far, I'm going to give you
very quick bonus capacities tothink about Cognitive capacity.
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This is about mental bandwidth.
Are you mentally in a placewhere you can think clearly,
make decisions, processinformation and really integrate
what you're learning or doing?
Because if your mind iscluttered with 57 open loops and
unprocessed trauma and all theconstant mental load of managing
everybody else's needs, then,no, your cognitive capacity is
probably shot and no, throwingyourself into another course or
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program is not going to fix that.
So do you have the space tothink and process right now, or
are you just collectinginformation that you're never
going to use again.
And then there's strategiccapacity.
This is the other bonus one,and this one's a real difference
maker.
Strategic capacity is yourability to discern whether doing
this is actually going to moveyou closer to the life or
business that you want, orwhether you're doing this
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because you're scared or boredor trying to catch up to someone
else's version of success.
Because without strategiccapacity, you're making reactive
decisions, you're chasing shinyobjects and you're getting
stuck in loops.
So the question to ask here isis this aligned with my
long-term goals or is this justa distraction I need, dressed up
as an opportunity Becauseyou're not willing to face the
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reality?
Look, you don't need morehustle.
You need a very clear, alignedplan and the actual capacity to
make it happen.
So if that's something you needhelp with, drop me a line.
I do a strategic growth reset.
It's 90 minutes.
We can evaluate all of yourcapacities and put together a
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plan that helps you see how youcan get to your goals in a
realistic manner.
And the strategic growth resetcomes with a tool that I have
personally created that looks atall of the necessary pillars of
growing your business and helpsyou assign time spent to each
of those pillars on a weeklybasis, depending on how much
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time you have each week.
It's a business time optimizercalculator that I created and
that's part of it's an exclusivepart of the strategic growth
reset.
So if that's of interest, headto the show notes and let's have
a conversation.
All right, that is the hardtruth for today.
Share this with the friend whokeeps buying $3,000 programs.
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She never finishes.
You know the one.
And if this episode gave youclarity, I would really
appreciate it if you'd go aheadand leave a review or send me a
message using the link in theshow notes.
I'd love to hear what clickedfor you.
All right, like I always say,you can have success without the
BS, but sometimes you got toburn it down and rebuild it
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better.
I'll talk to you next week.
That's it for this week.
Thanks for listening to theBusiness Blasphemy Podcast.
We'll be back next week with anew episode, but in the meantime
, help a sister out bysubscribing and if you're
feeling extra sassy rating thispodcast, and don't forget to
share the podcast with othershead over to
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Thanks for listening andremember you can have success
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without the BS.
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