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Camille (00:00):
Before you cringe and
spiral out into mom guilt, know
that you are not alone andyou're not doing anything wrong.
Sometimes it just takes knowinghow to tweak the system in your
own family so that it works foryou.
So you want to make an impact.
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You're thinking about startinga business, sharing your voice.
How do women do it that handlemotherhood, family and still
chase after those dreams?
We'll listen each week as wedive into the stories of women
who know this is Call Me CEO.
Hey, everyone, it's CamilleWalker here, and and it is
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summertime and I'm doing aspecial series where the
episodes are around 10 minutes.
I'm going to stick to thatquick juicy in and out, and we
are doing this because summer isalready in full swing.
I can't believe it's alreadyalmost the end of June.
By the time you hear this, it'sprobably going to be the first
of July.
So this is the sanity savingsummer series.
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That's what I'm calling it, andtoday's episode is one that I
feel very passionately about.
I was recently asked to be onFox 13, which was really fun and
exciting, about how to handlescreen time in your home.
This is a huge topic.
It's not going anywhere.
This is something that we areall dealing with as busy parents
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.
Screens are a part of our livesand it's something we don't
want to demonize, but we alsowant to come up with tools and
tactics to help use it in apositive way reinforcement as
fun, but not have it take overour kids' lives.
I don't know about you, but Ifeel like when my kids have
unlimited access or too muchaccess to screens, they can get
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grumpy or they argue more orthey're a little less likely to
listen.
You know and it's not thatthey're bad for doing this it's
simply the fact that studieshave shown that if you have a
propensity towards anxiety,depression, aggression, any of
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these things that increasescreen time will increase those
symptoms.
So let's do a little forwardaction with this and create
tactics and tools for creatingpositivity around the use of
screens in your life.
So before you cringe and spiralout into mom guilt, know that
you are not alone and you're notdoing anything wrong.
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Sometimes it just takes knowinghow to tweak the system in your
own family so that it works foryou.
So seven years ago I can'tbelieve it's been that long I
wrote this program.
I'm holding it up for those ofyou watching the video.
It's called the Screen FreezeHandbook.
I wrote this because I was in atime of desperation, of needing
to get a handle on the screentime usage in our home.
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This is a time where my familyand I took a 30 day fast from
screens and it felt verynecessary.
I felt called to do it.
It was an extreme approach toemotions that were running high
in the family.
Let's just say that, and what'sreally cool about the process
of creating this Green FreezeHandbook is that it became a
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meeting of what are the thingsthat we're feeding our bodies
and our minds with to help us tobe the most healthy.
Screens aren't bad, but whatcould we do to create an
atmosphere that's better?
So I talk about the fivepillars of health that I created
with my kids, and the five arewhat are you eating?
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These are questions we'll gothrough if they're having a hard
time.
What are you eating?
How much sleep are you getting?
How much screen time are youhaving?
Did you go outside and have youtalked about your feelings?
So it goes down to the basicsAre you exercising?
Are you eating well?
Are you sleeping?
What is your screen times andcan we talk about it?
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And typically, if we go throughthose five, we'll always get to
the root of what we're missing.
So this handbook used to beavailable for sale on my site.
Right now it is not.
I think I should remedy that,because I have maybe like 20 to
30 of these printed andavailable and if you are
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interested, please DM me.
I will sell them for $14.
Let's say that If you leave areview on the podcast, I'll even
give you a discount.
All right, so let's, let's diveinto this.
So this handbook is meant tocreate meaningful moments.
What do you do in the meantime?
It's about coming up with acontract, meaning a meeting of
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the minds of what does it meanand how are we going to use
screen time in our home so thatit is something that we enjoy
together.
But we also know that there's alimit, and we'll come back to
that in a minute.
But I want you to think aboutscreen time as being a tool in
your parenting toolbox and it'snot the enemy, and then to also
consider about resetting habits,to reconnect and create
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purposeful time together.
So this is the part that I'mexcited to share with you,
because I actually am kind ofnerding out on this myself
Educational apps that I lovethat do involve screens are so
fun.
So one of them that is myfavorite is Simply Piano and the
Simply Series.
I have done Simply Piano in thepast and taken a break from it.
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If you buy the family package,you can have up to five accounts
and you can also have access toSimply Piano, simply Singing,
simply Guitar, simply Drawingand what's the fifth one?
Oh, I can't remember.
And what's the fifth one?
Oh, I can't remember Guitarsinging, drawing.
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There's one other one, I swear.
Anyway, what's really cool aboutthis is if you set your phone
up on the piano and it takes youthrough almost like a gamified
way of learning how to learn thenotes, read the staff and learn
to play the piano, the phonewill actually recognize whether
or not you're playing the rightnotes and if you don't, it will
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start you to the beginning ofthat set so you can get it right
in practice.
And then, as you go along, itgives you a notification that
you have passed that part andyou can go on to the next.
So it's very gamified.
It is super fun.
All of the songs that it leadsyou into learning can be
identified as genres of musicthat you're into, and it also
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sets it up by age.
So for younger kids my sonJensen, who just turned nine he
was learning today and it wasteaching him how to play baby
shark and he thought that was alittle too young for him where I
was learning how to play babyshark and he thought that was a
little too young for him where Iwas learning how to play
Imagine Dragons.
So if you wanted to, you couldset the age higher to be like
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more music you'd hear on theradio, or if you wanted it to be
more kid geared, you can dothat as well.
But I love this app.
It is very easy to use andunderstand and it's also
something that you can buy for amonth, like for me.
I think I'll do it a month at atime, get us through the summer
and then we'll evaluate in thefall to see if we have time or
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the interest is there.
One of my favorites Number twois Duolingo.
This is probably an app thatyou're familiar with, but it
gamifies learning how to learn alanguage, and what I really
like about it is that you canlink up with other accounts to
have learning streaks together,meaning you are both using the
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app and learning from it.
So this is something my olderkids are using, because my
younger kids don't have phones,but I'm connected to my husband,
my daughter and my son that areall teenagers and that's
something that I'll give themunlimited time on, because
they're learning and it's funand they're learning different
languages.
We have in the family peoplelearning Japanese English.
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She really is working onEnglish, spanish and French, so
that's been really fun.
Another one I really like isthe Khan Academy or the PBS Kids
.
This is one that I used foryears when my kids were a little
younger.
It's very safe, engaging,age-appropriate content, and
it's all centered aroundlearning basics of reading,
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writing, arithmetic, that sortof thing, but really fun in a
really fun way.
Hey, my friends, just popping inhere really quick to say if you
are drowning in a to-do listbut never actually getting
anything done, I hear you.
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My coaching involves a lot oftime spent with business owners
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could either delegate or createa system around, but first
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needing to understand how theirtime is being used.
So imagine having more time foryour family, your business and
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now.
Another resource, number four,that I want to make sure that
you pay attention to and areaware of is five minute
meditations for kids, becausethat is my other podcast.
I've been doing that podcastwith my friend Jesse and we're
almost up to a year of doingthis podcast, and it is such a
cool way to be screen-free, toreset, relax and regulate
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emotions.
Honestly, if I could go backand teach myself as a younger
mom, I would have said to startmeditation sooner, even if it's
just five minutes a day.
That's why I had the idea tocreate five minute meditations,
because there are specificepisodes around affirmations,
overcoming anxiety, storytellingfor bedtime.
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We have episodes that arespecific, that can be used in
classrooms or even on a drive toand from school, or focused
around night terrors or makingfriends, or I mean gosh.
There are so many, so manyepisodes that are awesome, even
just episodes on learning tobreathe.
So it's a perfect for quiettime, transitions or bedtime.
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Pop it in and let it sink in,and we have nighttime routines
that help with that.
All right.
So the next tool I want to talkabout is connection tools, and I
wrote a journal called Time forUs.
That came after I wrote theScreen Freeze program, and what
it is is.
It's open conversation throughplayful questions and using
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simple prompts that you can dowith your child sitting side by
side.
It can be used after screentime or as a daily rhythm that
you do together, whether it'smorning or at night, but even
five minutes a day builds trustand lasting memories.
I really feel like therelationship and openness that I
have with my teenagers now, whoare 17, 14, 11, almost 12, he's
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preteen for sure was time thatI invested with them as little
people.
This is available on Amazon.
There is a volume one and avolume two written by me, and my
heart and soul went into it andI think you would love it.
So check that out because it'sa really cool way to give your
kid attention that feels reallypurposeful out because it's a
really cool way to give your kidattention.
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That feels really purposefuland it's a really cool memento
to keep with you.
There are pages in there thathave things called like a kid
quiz, where they guess thingsabout you, or drawing activities
, where they do creative thingsin there as well.
All right, so let's talk aboutthe CEO approach to screens.
This is kind of your overviewof how I run things in the house
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, and this has changed over timedepending on the ages of my
kids.
But instead of a vague, you getso many hours a day.
I very much have it linked toit being a reward for getting
things done around the home thatneed to be done.
We talk about the five pillarseating, sleeping, eating,
getting outside and having theirbrains used elsewhere.
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So that's typically where we'llsay reading time in, outside
time in.
We're looking at what we canfit in first, and then we open
up green lights when it's a yesto have you done these other
things in your day and ourscreen time opens up at one
o'clock on summer days.
I will be honest in confessingthat by that time I like to
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arrange for play dates for mykids.
So, yeah, some days they'rehome and they get some screen
time and we monitor that throughan app called Family Safety,
which can be connected to ourcomputer, our Xbox, as well as
what's?
The other app we love, the Barkapp, which monitors more of
like texting, internet searching, youtube subscriptions, that
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sort of thing.
But it's a really cool way toset that intention of we do this
first and then we do that, andthey get a reward of screen time
.
That's what they want.
Like my kids are gamers, sothat's worked really well for us
.
Another idea is to create ascreen menu of shows and apps
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that you approve of, or maybethings that you don't have as
much of a limit on.
So take, for example, my 17year old.
He I'm going to sound reallystrict, but it's kind of.
I mean, I've been in the socialmedia world forever and I am I
am stricter with social media, Ithink, than a lot of people
might be.
But he my daughter doesn't haveaccess to Instagram.
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My 17 year old does.
He gets, I think, five minutesa day and then if he wants more
time, he has to request it andI'm okay with that.
I just don't think he needs tobe on there a lot.
But then there's apps likeDuolingo or learning apps that
I'm fine with him having lots oftime on because he's learning
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and spending that time wisely.
So going through and talkingabout what is something that we
want to be spending a lot oftime on, what is something we do
not.
That does not mean that they'renot playing Fortnite, where I
think one of my son's latestfavorites is Bellatro, my 17
year old, and that's like a moremature game.
But talk about it, have openconversations and why do you
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want to play it and why howwould you be spending the time?
Number three is to anchorscreens to real life.
So this is actually an ideathat I'm going to try.
That's new, but after doing,say, a Spanish lesson and do a
lingo, then making tacostogether, or having a night
where you correlate the languagethat they're working on with
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something that you're eating fordinner that night, that's
really fun.
Or if you're learning piano, tohost a little mini rehearsal or
recital and invite family andfriends to come, which I think
is really cute, really fun.
Another idea is to go for walks, to go to do journaling or to
have meditation time together.
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I'm a big fan of walk and talk.
I do that with my kids veryregularly, where they take turns
having one-on-one time with me,where we talk, they talk and I
walk and I listen, and it givesthem time to just have that
one-on-one attention with me,which has really been wonderful
for us.
So, to wrap up, we talked aboutSimply Piano, duolingo, five
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Minute Meditations for Kids,time for Us, journals, the
Screen Freeze program and thisis all about.
You do not need to eliminatescreens, but it is good to have
a plan and to be on the samepage as your partner.
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It's so good to have one-on-oneconversations.
I am a human.
I am a mother, flawed, tryingto figure it out in this crazy
world, just like you, and I hopethat these short episodes help
you.
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summer.
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