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April 7, 2025 30 mins

Jealousy is often just fear in disguise. It’s a prickly emotion that shows up in all kinds of relationships—between siblings, friends, romantic partners, and even with our own kids. And if we don’t know how to work with it, it can hijack our peace, strain our relationships, and leave us stewing in shame.

I get personal in this episode, sharing how jealousy has shown up in my own life. I also unpack how it’s often tied to deeper fears like abandonment, worthiness, or scarcity.

But jealousy doesn’t have to be in charge. I’ll walk you through the practical tools that helped me move from reactive and anxious to curious and empowered—like brain-dumping, speaking with your "inner parts," and building safety in ways that actually work. 

You’ll learn:

  • Why jealousy is wired into us
  • How curiosity is your superpower when jealousy hits
  • What’s really underneath those anxious thoughts
  • How to soothe the fear of abandonment and build your own safety net


Timestamps:

00:28 Introduction and Topic Overview

01:30 Personal Stories of Jealousy

08:20 Evolutionary Perspective on Jealousy

11:09 Steps to Manage and Overcome Jealousy : Curiosity

17:43 Treat Your Underlying Fears

19:57 Embracing Vulnerability

22:30 Focus On What’s Within Your Power

25:50 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

27:20 Kindness Narrative: Courtesy in a Grocery Store

For full show notes, including resources mentioned, go to https://www.calmyourcaveman.com

Music for this episode: J.S. Bach, Goldberg Variations, Transcribed for String Trio (excerpts). Performed by Avery Ensemble live 12/2/2017. Used by permission.
To see original performance go to: youtube
More information about the Avery Ensemble at averyensemble.com

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