Do You Want to Be Right or Do You Want It to Work?

In this grab bag episode, Barry and Bobby cover everything from scams and digital hygiene to emotional moments in caregiving. Barry opens up with a story about learning the hard way that being “right” isn’t always helpful—especially in caregiving situations. They debunk the overhyped 16-billion credential breach, share essential password and scam-spotting tips, give an update on DMV ID changes, and dive deep into how fear often hides behind our need for control. Barry wraps with a reflective story inspired by a bicycle ride and some programming wisdom that unexpectedly applies to caregiving.

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⏱️ Timestamps:

• 00:00 — Barry’s “do you want to be right or do you want it to work?” story

• 01:20 — Summer heat check-in and life updates

• 02:00 — The overhyped “16 billion credential leak” explained

• 04:45 — Why password managers and multi-factor auth still matter

• 06:00 — Have I Been Pwned? and cleaning up your password hygiene

• 07:45 — Email scams, AI-powered phishing, and red flag spotting

• 09:00 — Barry’s real-life PayPal scam attempt and how to respond

• 12:00 — The psychological toll of scams on older relatives

• 13:00 — South Carolina DMV changes: no more same-day IDs

• 15:00 — Real ID, fraud prevention, and planning ahead for ID renewals

• 15:45 — Deep thoughts from Barry’s morning ride: why we nitpick and correct

• 18:00 — Fear, control, and the importance of talking to others

• 19:30 — The power of shared fears and building emotional support

• 21:00 — Listener email invitation and how to reach out

• 21:45 — Tech meets psychology: Perl’s “3 virtues” and how they don’t always serve you in caregiving

• 24:08 — Final thoughts and sign-off

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Key Topics:

• Caregiving psychology: control vs compassion

• Digital hygiene and password safety

• Phishing and AI-powered scam prevention

• South Carolina’s DMV shift & Real ID changes

• When tech virtues don’t serve caregiving moments

• Emotional self-awareness and fear sharing

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Resources Mentioned:

• Have I Been Pwned? – Check if your email was in a breach

• What Got You Here Won’t Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith

• DMV state list for Real ID policies (see show notes)

• Show notes and resources are here: https://bit.ly/caretechandtips-resources