Are you guilty of holding yourself (or others) to impossibly high standards?
In this episode, we're exploring the concept of Ought implies can—the notion that we can only be obligated to do what we’re actually capable of. But how do we know where the limits of ability really are?
Are we being too hard on ourselves (or others)? Or are we making excuses?
Learning how to tell the difference can help you set fair, realistic, and empowering expectations—for yourself and everyone around you.
Key Takeaways
- Capacity includes more than just your physical ability to do something—cognitive, emotional, and situational factors also shape what’s truly possible.
- There's an important difference between "I can't" and "I can't yet."
- Acknowledging barriers or limitations is not an excuse, it's an invitation.
- When setting expectations—of yourself or others—check your assumptions. Are you asking for something that’s actually within reach? Or are you expecting the impossible?
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