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Setting boundaries isn't easy because a relationship has so many variables. Because of that, it is helpful to have specific components to focus on. One of those is to determine who is responsible for what. Once you know those things, it is easier to figure out what your limits should be. Watch this video on setting boundaries to learn how to determine who is responsible. #responsibilty #settingboundaries #Christianboundaries

When you are dealing with chronic liars, it is infuriating and hard to believe that despite the many promises to never lie again, they do. You probably ask why and how it could happen. But more importantly for you to figure out is "Why do you believe their lies?" #chronicliars #dysfunctionalrelationship #healthyrelationshipsteps #toxicrelationships #boundaries #dysfunctionaldynamics

What is the difference between forcing a solution where you are trying to control someone's behavior and setting a boundary where you are drawing a limit for yourself? Watch this video to get the answer to that question. #difficultrelationship #boundaries #controlling

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Abigail did not submit to her husband Nabal when he refused to help David and his men. This biblical story provides submission principles women can use to confidently say no to things that violate their consciences. #difficultrelationships #toxicrelationship #dysfunctionalrelationship #scripturalmisunderstandings

It isn't easy to listen to someone saying things you disagree with. It is hard to hear someone is upset with you, and even harder to not receive it as an attack and defend yourself. It takes self-restraint to focus on what is being said when your emotions are out of control.  Defensiveness and reactivity are primary reasons that conflict escalates and isn't resolved. There is an approach that can make it easier for you to listen, a...

People are often out of touch with what is going on with themselves. This leads to problems in their lives and relationships. Whether it is feeling an emotion, problem-solving a situation, making a decision, or resolving a conflict, it helps to be self-aware. Not knowing what and why you are acting and reacting the way you are means you lack valuable insight. 

The alternative is to be curious about yourself. Watch this video to fin...

Dysfunctional people do all kinds of hurtful things and rarely ask for forgiveness. It is common to struggle with forgiveness because there are so many hurtful things done. The Bible tells us that God doesn't forgive us when we don't forgive our offenders, but does this really mean you aren't forgiven? #forgiveness #boundaries #toxicrelationships #dysfunctionalrelationship #emotionalhealing 

Abuse victims often experience a lack of support and mistreatment when they describe what is happening to them. This lack of support is labeled as "Double Abuse" by Annette Oltmans of The Mend Project.  Find out what Double Abuse is and why it is harmful to the victim. #dysfunctionalrelationship #abusevictims #doubleabuse #toxicrelationshiprecovery 

Heather tells her story of being married to a sex addict and minimizing and denying the signs until discovering proof that she could no longer ignore. Listen to how she tried to be satisfied in a marriage without intimacy by adjusting her expectations and focusing on other things.     #dysfunctionalrelationship #podcast #sexaddiction #toxicrelationships 

Twelve Step recovery includes working Steps One, Two and Three where you admit powerlessness, come to believe God will restore you to sanity and surrender your will and life to God. When life gets overwhelming, you can work Steps One, Two and Three together to get yourself back on track. See how it is done in this video. #dysfunctionalrelationship #complexrelationships #recoveryjourney 

Toxic relationships with dysfunctional dynamics don't use reparative moves to reconnect after conflict. As a result, they are perpetually disconnected. There are small things that can be done that will move the parties toward each other and increase the possibility that they can open a discussion. Find out what these things are by watching the video.#reparativemoves #openingdiscussion #dysfunctionalrelationship #healthyrelationship...

Triangulation or stepping into a relationship conflict between two people is one of many dysfunctional dynamics. Find out what the Karpman Triangle is and how it sheds light on the pros and cons of triangulating. #karpmantriangle #complexrelationships #relationshipconflict 

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Being gaslit is a horrible invalidating experience typically done by narcissists, abusers, and manipulators in toxic relationships. If you are a recipient of it, there is a question you need to answer: Are you gaslighting yourself? Many victims do because they get to a point where they stop believing in themselves. Watch this video to find out if you are gaslighting yourself and how to stop doing it. #gaslighting #invalidatingyours...

An expectation is the beginning of a resentment. Does that mean you can't have any expectations? Does it mean that people can get away with whatever they want and you can't set boundaries? Resentments can ruin a relationship. It is crucial that you set realistic expectations and let go of your unrealistic expectations. Find out how to do that by watching this video. #resentment #expectations #realisticexpectations #toxicrelationshi...

Difficult relationships have losses. The healthy way to process loss is to work through the grief process. One of those stages is bargaining. Bargaining in relationships occurs as part of the grief process but also occurs during conflict resolution. #bargaining #dysfunctionalrelationship #loss #griefprocess