School Struggles & ADHD: How to Advocate, Reframe, and Actually Help Your Child Thrive (with Scotti Weintraub)

If your kid is falling apart over homework, school emails feel like personal attacks, and you’re constantly wondering if you’re failing as a parent… stop right here. This episode of Chaos & Caffeine brings you the straight-talking, research-backed, and soul-soothing advice of Scotti Weintraub—ADHD parent coach, educator, and founder of Reframe Parenting.

With over 17 years of experience in education and a Master’s in flipping school stress on its head (okay, technically education, but still), Scotti helps overwhelmed parents understand what’s really going on when their neurodivergent kids struggle with school. From IEP and 504 plans to executive function meltdowns and Sunday night homework spirals, we unpack the WHY, the WHAT, and the “what-the-actual-heck-do-I-do-now?”

You’ll learn:

• Why traditional schools often fail neurodivergent kids
• How to advocate without burning bridges—or burning out
• What “reframing” actually means (hint: it’s not toxic positivity)
• How to support your child’s nervous system and your own
• Scotti’s favorite scripts and mindset shifts that change everything

This isn’t a feel-good fluff fest. This is a practical, empowering deep dive that will have you nodding, crying, and screenshotting quotes like your life depends on it.

Connect with Scotti  👉 Coaching for Parents to Help a Child With School Challenges

This Month’s Sponsors:

Dr. Laura

A licensed psychologist and Board Certified-TeleMental Health Provider who works virtually with kids, teens, and adults in NY, DE, VA, and FL. She specializes in anxiety, OCD, ADHD, stress, tics, and insomnia—and offers parent support that actually supports you. Dr. Laura is also a homeschooling mom of two, so yes, she gets it. Explore her children’s book, audio workshops (hello, Behavior Change Ahead!), and therapy services.

💊 NeuroNeeds

A science-backed supplement line created by Dr. Richard Boles, a geneticist and ADHD dad who walked this exact road. These all-natural formulas were developed to support focus, mood, and brain health—and they helped his own son transition off stimulants and thrive in college. So if you’ve ever wished you had a scientist in your back pocket, this is it. 

📱 Goally

The tablet built specifically for neurodivergent kids. It’s distraction-free (no YouTube, no internet rabbit holes) and comes loaded with visual schedules, routines, AAC, timers, and even behavior tracking tools. 

💌 The Unfiltered ADHD Mom’s Club Newsletter

Welcome to The Unfiltered ADHD Mom’s Club, my no-BS weekly newsletter where we talk meltdowns, school drama, sensory hellscapes, and the real wins—like brushing teeth without tears. 

📱 Aura Parental Controls

We can’t uninstall TikTok from the internet, but we can create boundaries that don’t make our kids feel like we’re tracking their every swipe.

Parenting Simply by Adina Soclof 

A gentle, doable intro to positive parenting with rave reviews from parents, bloggers, and experts alike. 

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