In this powerful deep dive, I unpack the Dr. Russell Barkley lecture that completely changed how I parent my neurodivergent child. We’re breaking down why ADHD is not a behavioral issue, but a developmental delay in executive function—and what that actually means in real-life moments (like, why your 10-year-old melts down like a kindergartener).
I also share Dr. Barkley's surprising reply to my personal email—and his groundbreaking insight into Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome (CDS), formerly known as Sluggish Cognitive Tempo. Spoiler alert: If your child seems spacey, unmotivated, or not ADHD enough for the diagnosis to make sense, this might be why.
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Whether you’re newly diagnosed or five IEP meetings deep—this episode will help you make sense of the chaos, ditch the guilt, and finally feel seen.
🧠 Watch the full Barkley lecture here!
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The heart was always off-limits to surgeons. Cutting into it spelled instant death for the patient. That is, until a ragtag group of doctors scattered across the Midwest and Texas decided to throw out the rule book. Working in makeshift laboratories and home garages, using medical devices made from scavenged machine parts and beer tubes, these men and women invented the field of open heart surgery. Odds are, someone you know is alive because of them. So why has history left them behind? Presented by Chris Pine, CARDIAC COWBOYS tells the gripping true story behind the birth of heart surgery, and the young, Greatest Generation doctors who made it happen. For years, they competed and feuded, racing to be the first, the best, and the most prolific. Some appeared on the cover of Time Magazine, operated on kings and advised presidents. Others ended up disgraced, penniless, and convicted of felonies. Together, they ignited a revolution in medicine, and changed the world.