November 2, 2023 • 47 mins
Howdy Folks! I loved recording this week's episode. You'll hear three women and three generation perspectives: Gen Z, Millennial and Gen X discuss their findings when discovering their 'barking dog' (the ego). Listen how each of them grew in self discovery and how eye opening their experiences were!
Do you remember a time when you were angry, hurt or jealous, and instead of addressing it, you bottled it up? Well, we sure do. We even had the chance to address them head on over the past week. Through personal anecdotes, we explore the importance of managing feelings and understanding why it's crucial not to absorb others' emotional state. We share practical strategies such as journaling to process our emotions and discuss how doodling can stimulate parts of the brain that help us navigate our emotional labyrinth.
Or, have you ever felt grounded and truly present in the moment? Carrie, Jordan, Keri and Carla, join us to discuss the concept of grounding and the art of practicing generosity in our daily lives. Drawing inspiration from the Holy Spirit, Eckhart Tolle and Dr. Caroline Leaf, we delve into the profound impact of staying present and being generous with our time, resources, and heart. The dialogue further underlines the importance of recognizing our ego, ensuring we don't take things personally, and prioritizing emotional boundaries.
Moving forward, we reflect on personal growth and the influence of our upbringing on our behavior. Join Carla and Carrie as they uncover the power of positive self-talk and how embracing change fosters positive outcomes. We also shed light on the transformative energy of prayer, the meaning of self-discovery, and remaining receptive to new paths and possibilities. Tune in for an enlightening episode packed with valuable insights on managing emotions, grounding, and harnessing the power of prayer and self-discovery.
Week 2 - Homework:
1. Grounding - find new ways of being in the present moment.
2. Generous - journal the ways you love and dislike being generous. Journal why you feel this way.
3. Doodle - use this writing technique to help open the basal ganglia and help yourself process your thoughts and emotions.
4. Notice what your spirit is telling you this week, journal your findings.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You came up with your barking dog.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
I did.
I named her Nala Nala.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
There she is.
Is her tongue sticking out?
Is that what that is?
No, she just looks sad.
Is this extra skin?
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Yeah, she just has a pouty sad dog begging face on
her.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Yeah, how did your wheat go?
Did it help you identifyingyour barking dog?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
It definitely did.
I realize I'm pretty quick toanger about certain things I
don't want to do, like at thejob in the morning like they
wanted me to move the towelsfrom the washer to the dryer and
fold like 100 towels, and I wasjust so upset I'm like this
wasn't in the job descriptionfolding towels and I was just
(00:47):
like sitting there like foldingtowels, going through all the
things in your head.
I know what.
I shouldn't be doing.
This.
They should hire someone elseto fold towels and I should be
in the office and I'm like whatdoes it matter?
I'm either way, I'm gettingpaid.
It doesn't matter.
Exactly, I'm still here.
There's no one calling in theoffice right now.
I'm sort of at the desk anddoing nothing.
I just like, okay, take a deepbreath, it's not a big deal,
(01:10):
it's just towels.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
See, yeah, I love that it worked out.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
It helped you.
So, yeah, it was just like oneof those things that just like
made me so angry.
Like why, like, if he's goingto drive stupid, that doesn't
mean I have to let him make mefeel like I need to drive stupid
as well.
Like something I don't want todo.
I don't want to drive silly, Idon't want to get in a wreck.
If he wants to cause a wreckbecause he wants to get to
school or he's, it makes me somad.
(01:35):
I was starting to get like.
You know, like when you get mad, you kind of feel like your
heart starts beating fast.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
And my phone parts start beating fast and I was
right about to get to work.
I'm like I need to calm down.
There's no reason I need to bethis mad for someone that is
trying to make me mad.
I just need to let them do that.
And that's another thing too.
Someone's frustrated and theytake it out on you.
I need I started to realizethat too is that I don't need to
meet that Like I don't need tomeet them being angry because
(02:03):
they're frustrated.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
You don't need to take on their emotions.
The energy yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Yeah, and I feel like with emotion, I'm so good at
just absorbing it and making itmy own and I don't need to do
that and I think that's part ofmy working dog too is taking on
others emotions what reallyruins my day, and I just need to
let it go.
It's so true.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
Jordan, and I'm so glad that you're getting that at
the age that you are, because Ididn't know that at your age.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
And it's definitely like that's probably the biggest
one for me is that I've triedto notice that is they're going
to be that angry, they're goingto live that way.
That doesn't mean I need toabsorb it and make it my own or
even just to realize me.
They can be upset by themselves.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Yeah, it's like you can still be there for them, but
it doesn't mean you absorb allof their energy and take on
their problems.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Yeah, and I'm trying to be better at that.
That's just the biggest thingI'm trying to be better about
and I'm noticing more, and Imean it takes a lot of work.
We can't change overnight or goswitch back to our old ways.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
It's super easy to switch back.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
So I mean at least noticing my barking dog when
it's happening, even if it'salready happened, be like.
Well, at least I know ithappened and I can try to work
on it.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
To me, you just won because some people can't get
there.
Some people can't even noticewhat it's saying because it's so
ingrained in who they are andtheir brain they can't separate
it.
So, just the fact that you'vealready separated it.
You've heard those words.
Did you find out this out inyour journaling?
Speaker 2 (03:41):
So I write down goals every morning and it was
actually and some of them arejust, like you know, basic
things I need to do goals andthen at the end of it, I've
started writing down.
I mean, I did it every once in awhile, but it was like last
week or something, after wetalked, another co-worker was
upset and him taking out it onme made me upset and it was just
(04:06):
like well, what's the point ofme being here?
Like, just totally like I waslike you know what, try my best.
That's all I can do is try mybest.
So every day since we've talked, at the end of my goals list I
say try my best and just likeokay, this is what I can try my
best at and try not to be angryor noticing when I do, when
writing it down.
And then it's like your journalgets filled up and you realize
(04:28):
how angry you get about smallthings.
It's like it's not worsefilling up my journal with angry
things and rather just goodthings and like try better and
take a deep breath.
You know, look back and reflectrather than get mad.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
I know what you mean about getting away with the
writing you know and thejournaling, and sometimes,
because they say you know yougot to work through it, you got
to let the emotion pass throughyou and one way to do that is
through the basal ganglia inyour brain.
When you write, it actuallyopens that part of your brain up
where you can processinformation.
(05:05):
So if you don't know, likeyou're trying to think things
out, or you're trying to figurethings out or you're
contemplating something, that'swhy grabbing that pen and just
started, you know writing andusing your hand, yeah, it was
just so therapeutic.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
And it is, and I was really good at it when I was
just doing real estate.
When I was just doing that andthen when I took on this other
job, I realized I got out ofthat habit of writing my goals
down in the morning and it wasjust like, well, why, just
because something in mylifestyle changed doesn't mean I
still shouldn't have my dailygoals.
Yeah, if I'm not writing themdown at home, the first thing I
(05:42):
do when I get to that shop iswrite down my goals and I was
like that's probably not a greatthing and I probably should be
answering the phone, but I'mgoing to write down my goals
because I need to, you know,focus and have goals and look
back on it and be like, oh, Idid that already, good, like
that's something.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Yeah, and that makes you feel good.
Yeah, you actually accomplishedsomething that you wrote down,
right?
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:01):
And I actually this is like a kind of a side note
but I wrote myself a letter ayear ago to my future self and
it got.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
You did.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Yeah, I got in the mail during this whole thing,
like a couple of days ago, andjust like writing those letters
and like seeing, like yeah, Ididn't accomplish some of it,
but still saying like in theretoo, I was like it's true, for
this in 2024.
And like I said that in 2022, Isaid shoot for this in 2024.
And then I said get a new car.
And I listed the car, I gotthat car this year and then book
(06:30):
, book this trip, which wasDisney World, and we didn't go
this year but we booked it andwe're going next year.
Yeah.
So I mean there are certainthings, other things I didn't,
you know, accomplish, like youknow the amount of people I
wanted to sell houses to orthings like that.
But it's still like, okay, 2023is not over yet, it's not, it's
not.
I can still meet that goal.
And just to like write downthose things and realize you
(06:52):
actually accomplished thingsthat you wanted to do last year
and things you want to do nextyear is still things you want to
do next year.
Yeah, so it's.
It's good to write down thosethings, even if it's bad things
like anger stuff.
Yeah, so those good things too.
It's just easier to focus it onone thing than pin it onto
someone else, because paintingit onto even like an animal or a
(07:16):
person, and making that angernot, you know, towards them or
the other person is not fair,and if they're angry, then them.
Pinning it on you isn't faireither, and you need to realize
that and not make it your own,rather than it's hard.
And it's hard, I mean.
I think that's what we all canrelate to For ever.
Really.
(07:36):
No matter how hard we try, it'sjust as easy to be angry.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
So I'm going along with it, you know, with all of
you as well.
I'm a little bit further along,you know, because I'm telling
you what to do, but I'm alsowanting to be in the week, in
the moment, with you.
And there was one day where,okay, I knew that was Tina the
barking dog.
What are those things that shesays to me specifically that are
(08:02):
kind of on repeat?
You know, once I noticed it, Ialso realized I couldn't get it
out of my head.
It was just like on repeat.
You know, one of the thingsthat I learned was tell your
spirit to lead, tell your spiritto lead.
So I did that and I was likespirit lead and shut them out of
(08:26):
that bark and dog.
Right now I want to change andI'm trying and I want you to
lead.
And honestly I thought, oh well, we'll just see how the day
goes.
And right, when I said that itwas gone Good, it's gone, and I
was going throughout my day andI just felt lighter, I felt like
something shifted.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
And I can't acknowledge that change it.
You feel a shift.
You're so wise.
The first step is acknowledgingit.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
You are.
You're right.
The first step is and it'sabout being aware, you know, of
awareness, awareness just beingreal.
I'm amazed by what youexperienced this week.
I'm so proud of you.
Do you feel like it helped you?
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Absolutely, like I said, even just like personal
stuff, but things that I look at, like, looking at things
differently, like rather thanand of course it takes a second
or you just acknowledge it a lotquicker.
I felt like I've acknowledgedit a lot quicker now, like today
, for, like I said, like for thecar that was following me
really close, like justrealizing that I don't, I don't
(09:34):
need to make that person, makeme feel so upset and then go
about my whole morning beingupset because one person
followed me way too closely.
So now when it happens, all ofus it happens all the time yeah,
it happens all the time Likewhat am I going to do about it?
I can't do anything, so move onand on how I was doing and not
let that affect me.
(09:54):
And noticing that and noticingit quicker, like the first one,
was, you know, I took me like anhour to get over something, and
then I realized throughout theweek it was just like okay, I
don't need to let things affectme for an hour of my day to be
upset.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I can move on On to the next homework phase
Grounding.
What do you think grounding itmeans?
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Grounding like I almost think of self
self-deprecating.
I know that's not like good,we're not supposed to do that,
but I think each person is theirown biggest enemy at the end of
the day, and acknowledging thatis a huge thing is that we
don't need to be that hard ofourselves.
But grounding to me is liketaking away something that I
(10:40):
liked, or be like oh, you don't,you don't deserve that.
You did something bad, I know.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
And that's really funny that you just said that,
because I swear I had thisconversation in my head
yesterday and thinking aboutthose exact things, and I was
like if somebody asked me what Ithought grounding was and I
didn't know what it was, whatwould I say?
The definition was I'm likewell, sitting in a corner with
my nose in it, or my phonegetting taken away or you know,
(11:07):
whatever you can't go out,you're grounded.
You know how funny.
At my age I want to be grounded, but at my kids age they don't
want to be grounded.
Grounding, you know, in theworld of spirit, and what we're
talking about is feeling yourfeet on the earth.
(11:28):
Basically, like you know, whenyou're all over the place and
your heads just kind of flightyand you're thinking about so
many things and you just can'tdecide.
What you know all these right,grounding is stop, put your feet
on the ground, sit down and beright here in the present moment
.
(11:49):
Have you ever heard of EckhartTolle?
No, he's the most chilledperson in the entire world.
Don't look him up.
But he teaches about being inthe present moment.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Reading or focusing or playing drums and just not
something that is multiplethings going on.
I realize I can focus on thatlike a puzzle even.
It's just like I'm focused onthose pieces and putting it
together and that's just where Isit down and realize that's
like.
The calmest point is when I'mdoing something with my hands.
My brain's working as well.
(12:21):
You know, flipping a book page,making cookies, doing a puzzle,
something like that workLighting a candle, yeah, like
something is just like going onat the same time, where my hands
and my brain is doing it,rather than like sitting,
because I'm sitting doingnothing.
Oh my gosh, every minute feelslike an hour.
Yeah, yeah, that's just kind ofworth.
(12:41):
That's another.
That's a good definition forgrounding.
I like that definition betterthan grounding.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Right, take away.
So this week I want you to finda new practice of grounding.
Even if it's for five minutesand I mean, this is so easy,
jordan, I'm talking like a newsong, like Tibetan bowls or
classical music.
Any kind of music is verygrounding.
The right kind of music isgrounding Meditation.
(13:10):
Maybe you find a meditation andyou do it all week, every day,
for five minutes on Headspace orYouTube, or just being still
and being quiet and focusing onyour happy place that you have
in your mind's eye.
And the word for this week isgenerous.
So during your time or yourweek, or your journaling or your
(13:34):
meditation time, I want you toask yourself am I generous?
And then I want you to writedown how you're generous.
There's no right or wronganswers.
Some people do not have timeand they love to give money, and
that's awesome.
Some people don't have money.
All they have is time.
(13:55):
Some people just have desiresor crafts or things they wanna
make and give away, like mealsor phone calls or spending time
with someone Anything generouswith your time, with your money,
with your heart, whatever.
And I want you to write thatdown.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
That's a good way to put it, because I think generous
can mean something super strongsometimes.
But that's a good way to put it, that you can be generous on a
lot of things.
That doesn't mean it's such abig deal, it's just-.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
Yeah, so what that is gonna do is help you discover
more of your spirit.
You have a voice for yourgeneration, you know.
Yeah, I'm proud of you fordoing it.
I'm a merry-go-round here.
I love that thing.
I wear it a lot.
I know I love it too.
I wear it all the time, even ifI tuck it in.
Yeah, no, it's there.
(14:48):
Close Me, maria, me Maria.
Okay, I just met with Jordan.
How was that?
It was so good, like honestly-.
Speaker 4 (14:57):
I love everyone else's perspective.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
It's so good I know and I love that she's doing this
.
You know the Gen Zers Right andI even told her.
I mean, I was blown away bywhat she said, but she was just
telling me her experience andwhat she discovered about
herself and I was like Jordanthe fact that you're getting
(15:20):
this at your age, right now,girl, I wish I had this
information.
Then Let me see your barkingdog.
Speaker 4 (15:31):
Her name's little Betty Ruth.
Betty Ruth, the smallest thingcan make her think of like
offense, really being offended,instead of spirit who is patient
, and it's just.
I guess it's a maybe moreself-centered, because it's like
every little thing, you knowsomebody can't do something or
(15:54):
make an appointment or show upor something like that, and it's
like, oh, they just don't wannatalk to you or they don't like
you or yeah, her Betty'sfeistyness does also help me.
I think you mentioned this inlike talking about the.
You know the need for ego, andit's like sometimes you need
that little feistiness of yourego or the harder voice that
(16:19):
says, like, keep going, get up,do the thing, quit being a baby,
you know whatever yeah.
I noticed how much likeunnecessary dialogue I take in
from stuff that's just really ismore black and white.
Like I said, somebody justsimply couldn't make an
appointment and it really hadnothing to do with me and it
(16:40):
wasn't Taking things so personalyeah.
Which you know, when I'm sureyou've read like the four
agreements and that's like oneof the main things is like don't
take things personal, and Ithink that is an ego thing.
It's like we.
It's easy to turn everythingback around to us when really
it's like most often it'snothing to do with you.
(17:01):
Yeah, yeah, you just kind ofpart of the little I will say I
think a piece of that like afternoticing it and then not
letting my ego be overly hard onmyself for reacting that way or
feeling that way, it's likepart of that is human nature and
I mean it's a good thing tocare what other people think to
(17:22):
a degree to have some socialawareness.
Sure.
And, like you know, I mean, youcan't just be like oblivious you
know, and then also justrecognizing the patterns that we
have because of, you know,maybe, things that like ways
people relate it to us, you knowfrom a very young age or, and
so sometimes I'll recognizethat's probably why so did you
(17:47):
do like the trail back?
Speaker 1 (17:49):
Oh yeah, kind of thing yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:51):
And literally like most everything that I struggle
with in general trails back to afeeling of reduction and a fear
of that.
Yeah, and so it can be the goodside of that and I guess the
spirit side of that is caring alot, wanting to please, wanting
to help, wanting to love peoplereally well and, you know,
(18:12):
putting myself out there to bevulnerable because I do care.
But then the ego side, the badside.
I hate calling the ego bad, butthe Right, the darker side of
that is the too much emphasis onwhat other people think and if
they're disappointed or if thereason they didn't want to do
(18:33):
something was because they justdon't like me or whatever.
You know, I mean I've, evenI've had this conversation with
my own sister, which she's mysister and like deep down I know
she loves me and she's shown upfor me in many ways in life,
but I'll still feel she's olderand I also still like just
certain situations will can makeme my ego, I guess think like
(18:56):
she's judging me or she thinksshe doesn't really like me or
she's disappointed in some wayor whatever, and when I talk to
her about it and get that outand she's like I.
That can be further from thetruth.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
It's not crazy.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
I'm really proud of you, I'm, you know, maybe in
some way yeah and be this, butjust like, and my admirers a
certain thing or whatever, andI'm like wow, mm-hmm, and, like
I said, when it makes sense andyou understand where things are
coming from you.
But also it helps you to workto change and see the truth.
But I think for me it helps meBecause when you're struggling
(19:32):
with something, then there'sthat extra load of then you beat
yourself up for struggling.
Yeah you know it's justcompounded.
Yeah, so for me it was like kindof a freedom of like okay,
there's, there's a reason,there's a route, there's a.
You know I'm not crazy or not.
You don't take it so personal,right.
Yeah, it's just like your way.
Yeah, I understand why thishappens.
(19:52):
I recognize it when it does,and then I can choose how I
Respond to it, instead offeeling like just consumed by it
or burdened by it.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
You know, it's like it doesn't get to control.
You like, just exactly what youjust said consumed by it and it
helps you Separate when you putthe barking dog over here and
this over here and you can stepback and look at yourself
Objectively and say this iswhere I'm at, you know over
looked, Maybe even in justtraditional counseling, because
(20:25):
you know a lot of times that'shelpful.
But yeah Well even the Christiancounselors that we visited.
Yeah, never were we ever talkedabout God and spirit.
They just happen to be aChristian.
There wasn't this.
Yeah, both ways.
And that's interesting Becausethis is all the stuff that I did
with Miles and my kids when wewere going through that.
(20:48):
Sure, he had therapy and youneed good, solid plan to help
rebuild his life.
Right, he's also my kid and Iknow his spiritual gifts and I
know the other side of it thatthat therapist doesn't know, and
I feel like it's myresponsibility To educate them
and show them how to use thosegifts in this world.
(21:08):
It's gonna give them morefulfillment and help others.
Speaker 4 (21:12):
Right, I love that because a I love that, yes, as a
parent or a friend or you know,whatever the relationship is of
people that we love, if we, ifwe have something that's helpful
, like we are responsible topass that along.
But it's not you telling himthis is what you need to do,
whatever x, y, z, it's Helpingpeople understand that there's,
(21:34):
there's tools, there are otherpeople that can be a tool.
God in the Holy Spirit,absolutely are your source, but
also you have a role and you arecapable.
Like there's no Therapist,there's no doctor or other
person that can do it for you.
You know, I think so often wewant, like we want to find the
(21:56):
healing Somewhere you know whenI go to the therapist's office
and be healed and walk away andall your problems are gone.
But you gotta put the work inand you gotta try and you get to
be aware and participate, yeahbut the cool thing is is I'm
like once I realized that I hadthat power, I was like that's
actually fantastic.
I mean it's, it's hard work andyeah, whatever, but it's nice,
(22:20):
it's like okay, I don't have tolike there's a way out.
Yeah, it's super easy to gobackwards, but but you got to
remember Whatever triggers thebackwards you can get your way
out of that too, because now youhave the tools and the
information Before you didn't.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
Now you do.
Now you know what to do.
I just choose it, do it.
Speaker 4 (22:43):
It's easy to think that you can be like, oh, I'm
better, you know I'm better, I'mhealed, I get it, I'm fine, and
then you can have a you know asetback, and it can feel
overwhelming.
But that's been a big lessonfor me, to learn that you know,
I didn't, I didn't go all theway.
One is Stay stuck for whateverreason, whatever our personal
fear or our personal past orwhatever.
(23:03):
If we all just stay stuck andwe can't move our mouth and we
can't do what we're supposed todo, then guess what?
Guess who wins.
You know?
So understanding like wherethat that opposition is even
coming from.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Carrie and I talked a little bit and it was almost
like you don't take it sopersonal.
Yeah, you know yeah.
Like you can separate.
You know Tina's over here.
I know my best self is righthere.
Yeah, I know I'm gonna hearfrom God in my best self.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
Yeah, right, yeah.
So let me ask you now that Adamknows Tina, right, he knows who
Tina is in the name.
This is what I've wondered,because I haven't told Sunny
about all of this yet.
Does he ever go?
Speaker 1 (23:50):
okay, maybe you got Nega talk to Tina, or I see Tina
coming out, or Well, actually,what it has done is created a
whole dialogue with my kids andmy family.
So I thought why aren't wedoing this?
If I'm doing this with myfriends, let's do it as a family
.
And so we sat down, journaled, Iexplained the whole thing, and
(24:14):
that was so fun to do it withyour kids, because they're
visual that way and they're notgoing to sit and listen to your
whole lecture from some film,what she believes,
neuroscientists, blah, blah,blah.
They're just going toparticipate.
And Major was hilarious.
He came up with his dog, thepersonality he came up with,
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their cousins and their friendsand his home life.
I mean this whole picture.
It was awesome.
Speaker 3 (24:44):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (24:45):
And then when you got them there, okay, well, what
kind of things did the barkingdogs say to you?
And I asked them that, and sodid you notice.
I'm not asking you exactly whatit said, but is there anything
that you can share that you didnotice?
Speaker 3 (25:02):
I think that it's made me think about when I'm in
a situation, something thatcomes out I'm like, oh and like.
I mean a couple of things.
I can give a couple of examples, like being at the gym We've
talked about this, touched on alittle bit.
Am I going to be more thecheerleader that, oh man, she
looks fabulous, she's here everyday working her butt off, you
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know.
Or am I more like, well, thereshe is again and her, you know,
whatever, whatever.
And oh, she got more newleggings, or you know, whatever
it is.
And it's funny because this weekI found myself with one
particular lady, just seeing herand going I wanted to think
great thoughts, but I really was.
I was like, oh, there she isagain in her tiny little top.
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And then I'm going, what wait,hold on there, who is that and
what is that?
And you think she looks amazing.
She's probably an incrediblykind lady.
She's here every day, like youare, you know, working her butt
off, and instead maybe go tellher how much you love her
leggings and go cheer her on.
And so it just kind of causedme to look at that, that side
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that just kind of sneaks out,that judgmental, critical side.
And you know I didn't like it.
So it's made me more aware of it.
That's been pretty cool.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
Yeah, it is.
And what's cool is you can stopand go wait a minute.
That's not my heart.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
You know that's not where I who I am.
Why am I thinking that?
Did you get any journaling timein this week?
Speaker 3 (26:37):
I did.
I wrote down.
I probably don't write as muchas I would like to, because my
hands do get really sore when Iwrite and it's really
frustrating, but they do, it'sjust a fact in my hand just gets
pretty sore.
So I think that kind of slowsme down from writing as much as
I.
But just a situation with withSunny and where he was telling
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me something and I came backwith what he said.
You know, sometimes you can justcome across really hard and
harsh and like when you hearthat, you're like oh ouch, you
know, and the automatic is to bedefensive.
But then again, thinking aboutit like he had kind of walked
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away after that and then he cameback, it caused me to go, okay,
yeah, that, what about?
That made it feel hard andharsh to you Because it's not,
it's again, it's not my heart,it's not how I want to come
across and I think sometimes Ido it.
I don't even remember what,what we were talking about, what
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was going on, but I think a lotof times it's my, also my
protective mode, it's my, and itcomes across more like I'm
being hard because I all of asudden I feel like a need to
self protect when I don't needto self protect.
I mean, god has shown me amillion times that he is my
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protector, he's my you know,he's the one that's going to
step in for me and I don't haveto come across with a hard,
harsh, tough exterior one.
Really, inside, it's a wholedifferent situation, you know we
are the same person, Carlareally, really I've even stopped
and thought about it.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
You know I do voiceovers in my very first
coach it's you have a tone.
Everyone has a tone in theirvoice, the pitch, a tone,
inflections, and she's so sweetand she was like Carrie, you
sound like a bitch.
And I was like so when we wouldpractice and I would go back
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and listen to myself, I couldhear that and I really explored
it, like why do I have that tone?
And I am a lot like you withthe self, you know, protection
thing.
But I also realized that it isthe way you're raised.
Who are you raised by and howdo they talk?
Speaker 3 (29:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
So I went back in my you know my lineage and noticed
how my mom and my grandmothertalked and they're love you to
pieces, but that's how they talk.
So I really believe not only isit your experiences, your
surroundings, all the things,but it's kind of like how you
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were brought up too.
Speaker 3 (29:24):
Yeah, do you see a?
Speaker 1 (29:25):
little bit of that in your song, oh I fully agree
with that.
Speaker 3 (29:27):
Yes, I mean, if I look back like you did, I grew
up like that and a lot of, a lotof hardness, a lot of harshness
, a lot of abrupt and not a lotof softness, gentleness,
tenderness, especially in tone.
And that's funny, becausethat's one of the things you
know.
That I always told my kids wasit's your tone, it's what comes
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across, that you may be tryingto be kind, but there's that
tone that's showing you'refeeling something else other
than what you're really saying.
But yes, I had a, you know,loud dad, loud grandfather.
You know everybody was justloud and just I mean hard, just
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kind of look.
Speaker 1 (30:15):
If you needed to get a word and edge wise, the only
way you were is if you werestrong and had a voice to get
that word in, you weren't goingto get it in.
You know, so it's so interestingbecause at first, when she said
it, she said it's so sweet.
But in a way I kind of alreadyknew it and I don't want to
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change who I am and I don't wantto change myself, but it is.
It was definitely a selfreflection.
And how do I speak?
How do I come across?
Because I don't want to comeacross that way, you know.
But in those times of quickreaction and then I feel like I
am being defensive or I'm backedup against the corner, I'm
(30:59):
gonna find my way out of thatcorner yeah.
Do you think that's kind of whatit is?
Speaker 3 (31:05):
100%.
Yeah, so much of that for me.
That's a whole another story,but is my self-protection as a
kid and growing up in the thingsthat I went through and I just,
yeah, often felt like I wasretreated to a corner by myself
because I had to be and I had toprotect and I had to be strong
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and I had to fight back and beloud, because that's how you got
hurt and, I think, grew hard, Ithink for a long time, a
hardened kind of heart, but notreally because inside it was
sensitive, gentle girl cryingout, just wanted to feel like
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she didn't, yes, and didn't wantto have to feel like she had to
protect herself, that she wasprotected, not protect herself.
But so, yeah, it is.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
And so this week I'm gonna have you do several
different things, but one of thethings is now the dog, and
you've identified her and wehaven't put a name to it yet,
but you're still on the fence,right, you're gonna pick out a
name Because I want that to bereal quick, visual for you
during your week and not focuson the barking dog.
(32:20):
But now, oh, okay, that's Tina,now I can see that and I want
you to open yourself up to yourspirit, listening to her spirit
and deciding.
So one morning I woke up andI'm practicing and doing all
these steps with you guys, andone morning I woke up and I
noticed that the barking dogwould not stop.
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And there's different things.
Sometimes I wake up in themorning it's like, oh, this day,
these things, and it's more ofa ugh.
I got all this ahead of me andhow am I gonna do this?
And instead of I got a greatday, I'm gonna do this and that
and the other, and so it wasmore of those kind of things.
And I stopped and I just saidspirit lead.
(33:03):
And it was instant, carla, itwas instant.
All of a sudden, there was aquick change.
I go to my cycle class I teachmy cycle class.
There's a lady that comes inthere.
She's been coming to my cycleclass for a year or more and
she's so bright.
She always has a smile on herface when she walks into a room.
(33:23):
You can feel it and she doesn'thave to say anything.
And this particular day, whichwas last Tuesday, I go and after
class I said, how are you doing?
And she was like oh, I'm doinggreat.
And this is where I listened to.
My spirit had a lot going onthat day.
I had a choice Do I saysomething to her or not?
Because I could get out of herea lot faster.
(33:45):
I've got this and this and thisto do, being real right.
So I asked her and she was likeoh, you know, I'm doing great
and I go.
I just got this really strongfeeling, girl, because when you
walk in here your spirit isbigger than this room.
And right now I'm feeling likesomething's up and I had a
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feeling it was her health and Isaid, no, really, what is it?
And she goes.
I was just diagnosed withmelanoma, oh my gosh.
And right then Pauline came inthe room because she was taking
yoga next door.
Her sister has had melanoma forseven years.
And they start talking.
And then we start talking aboutSylvestra, who is a member of
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the Y that a couple of weeks agowalked into my yoga class and
told everyone that she was justdiagnosed with ovarian cancer.
And I'm telling her and Paulineand several other members about
this story, about Sylvestra.
And I said it was right beforeclass and I looked around and I
said all of you know what Ibelieve, but I am gonna pray and
(34:51):
if you don't believe what Ibelieve, it's okay.
But I know that every singleperson believes in love and so
if you could just send her loveright now, because God is love.
And we prayed and then I kept upwith her during the week
texting.
I put her name on my littleprayer journal, took a picture
of it, sent it to her.
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The day before last Tuesday,when I went into cycle class, I
texted Sylvestra and I saidhow's it going?
And she said well, they'retelling me after I got my port.
They don't think I have cancer.
Speaker 3 (35:25):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
And so I told this story to these women and to this
woman that told me she hadmelanoma.
And it was my body just didthis.
I didn't decide it, I didn'tthink about it.
My hand just went directly ontoher arm and I started praying
for her and I said my God is ahealer and a provider and I know
(35:47):
that he can heal you right now.
And she just kind of smiled andwe all left.
And I don't.
That is where I could havedecided if I do that she's gonna
go tell everyone I'm a weirdo.
I'm this woman that thinks Ican go around healing people.
I don't think I can.
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I know God can.
Speaker 3 (36:11):
And.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
I know that he uses people as vessels, and so I
truly believe that if my barkingdog is telling me, don't do
that, cause she's gonna go telleverybody this, then I'm not a
vessel for God.
He can't use me for his gloryif I'm not willing to
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participate in it.
And so what if she toldeverybody that, so what, I'm not
gonna die, I still have all thelove from my family and a great
life.
And what if it worked?
Speaker 3 (36:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
And what if it didn't work?
What do you have to lose?
There's nothing to lose in anyof it, right?
Speaker 3 (36:56):
And what other seeds did you plant in that process?
And you may never know aboutthem.
You know in other people whatseeds did you plant, praying
over her and people hearing youand hearing you also saying that
you don't have to believe whatI believe, but I know you
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believe in love and if you sendher your love, you know what a
kind and loving and open-handedthing to do for other people to
see and go.
I don't have to believe exactlyas her, but I do kind of.
I'm kind of interested in whatshe's saying and maybe I do
wanna learn more and you know soyou being in that vessel.
(37:36):
It's just it's the seeds weplant, that we don't always see
the fruition of it, but welisten to that spirit and we
move forward with it, no matterwhat others might think or what
they're gonna say about us.
But it doesn't mean it's alwayseasy.
Speaker 1 (37:53):
Oh, my gosh, I know right.
Speaker 3 (37:56):
I mean it's easy, because we're so consumed, I say
, we me with what others think.
You know, oh my gosh, how'sthat gonna come across, or
whatever.
And then there's just times I'mlike, why do I care?
I don't care, you know, I don'tcare.
Speaker 1 (38:11):
And, like I told her, in these other people I said,
the reason that I can tell youin such confidence is because of
my experience.
You know, when I was in my 20s,there was a girl that came over
that had a lump and was toldshe had breast cancer.
I said let's pray, and we did.
She went back to the doctor andthere's, there was no lump, no
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breast cancer.
You know, there's anothermember named Matt Colon Cancer.
I've never told this story onpublic, and I don't know if I'll
tell any of this.
Carla, I really don't Betweenme.
I wanna tell you, though, and Iwanted my kids involved.
I trained for a year and a half, so I was very close to her.
(38:52):
When she told me this.
You know, it hurt me likefamily, and so I got the kids
involved.
We would send her scriptures.
My kids made this huge posterwith encouragement all over it.
We mailed it to her, and youknow just to be in her life
during that time was so great,and she was so thankful, and she
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framed the poster and said itgave her so much encouragement.
She doesn't have colon canceranymore.
Did I heal her?
No, god healed her.
Speaker 3 (39:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
Did it bless me beyond measure to be part of
that and be in her walk.
Yes, she showed my kids thepower of being there for people
you know she could have died,and what would have happened if
she would have died?
It would have been terrible,but at least I was there for her
, giving her encouragement alongthe way.
Speaker 3 (39:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:48):
And just loving her.
More love while she was here,but she's here.
We still text and talk.
You know, last week we talkedabout the barking dog and
getting familiar with that and Idon't want to stick on it.
But now we know let's openourself up this week to what a
spirit telling us to do.
We kind of gave a couple ofexamples.
(40:09):
I loved your example at the gym, karla, because that's so real.
It's so real, I've had the samethought.
It's not what you want to think.
Speaker 3 (40:18):
You don't want those thoughts in your head and you
know, it's not your heart.
You have a word, and that'sgenerous.
Speaker 1 (40:27):
Being generous opens up your heart, and I know that I
can list off all the millionways that Carla Allen is
generous because she just is.
But there are some people thataren't, because they're hurt.
And so this week I wanna askyou to just, in your quiet time,
put your hand over your heartand your question is how am I
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generous?
Just any way to be generouswith your time, with your money,
with your talents, you know.
And I want you to just thinkabout how you like to be
generous, and I want you towrite down the ways that you are
generous and really go a littledeeper in that.
And then why?
Discovering yourself a littlebit more of why you really like
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that?
Cause there's an underlyingreason why and it's wonderful
and it can really open your eyesto even more.
Find out what you don't like tobe generous with and why.
And there's no right or wronganswers.
I'm not gonna ask you to sharethis.
Just being real with yourselfand writing, you know, as we
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said, is therapeutic.
Dr Caroline Leaf you'll hear metalk about her with the others
and how she recommends doodlingwhile you're on the phone, while
you're trying to learnsomething.
If you're watching, you know, avideo or a learning module, I
want you to doodle.
While you're on the phone, Iwant you to doodle.
If you're meditating orjournaling, I want you to doodle
(41:56):
.
And what do I mean by doodling?
I don't mean I want you to go.
What should I draw?
Hmm, I'm gonna draw a flower.
No, I want you to take your pen, and I did this while we were
on the phone a couple of times,cause I've always done this
anyway and I'm like how I getpermission, and so I'm just
noticing my emotions right nowand how I feel, and I'm moving
(42:19):
my pen right now with myemotions, right, oh my God, oh
my God Right.
So, whatever it is and I'lllike, let me kind of show you a
little just for an example, yousee, all those like little
things.
I don't know why.
I was like I'm just gonna.
I feel like my arm's going thisway and around this way, so
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what's the importance of evendoing that?
Caroline Leaf is a doctor,she's a neuroscientist and a
Christian and I just love herand she has this book called the
Brain Detox.
Kiri's actually done it and readit, loved it, and it's one of
the things that she recommendsthat you do, because you have a
part in your brain called thebasal ganglia and when you start
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doing that, it actually opensit up for you to receive
information and understandinformation better.
Like college students that arein lectures, they would doodle
and they found that theyretained more information when
they let their pen flow whilethey're listening.
So I tell this to Miles lastnight, and Miles is like well,
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maybe somebody is just a better,maybe they're just smarter.
And I was like no, they tookthe same person, so they took
you, taking you know theinformation down, what you
absorbed, and then took youpatient, whatever and did the
doodling and actually found thatyou did do it and they proved
it by showing that inside yourbrain.
(43:49):
So I thought that was such acool.
Speaker 3 (43:52):
I never knew that you know I do the bunny ears over a
fence and yeah, you gotta showme that one.
Those were things that I usedto doodle, like all the time.
If you saw something in mynotebooks, those were my doodles
.
Speaker 1 (44:07):
I love that, so you won't have a problem doodling
this week.
Speaker 3 (44:11):
I don't think doodling will be a problem.
Speaker 1 (44:13):
Yeah, so last week, like I said, we focused on
trying to identify between thetwo.
This week we're really justopening up your brain and
connect it with your spirit,kind of like a mind-body
connection you know, and see howthat goes and let it flow, see
how spirit leads you.
This week, notice what youchoose spirit telling you to do
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instead of the barking dog, ifyou can do that for me, I want
you to open yourself to new waysof grounding.
I told this to Carrie and toJordan as well.
Jordan loves to read.
I want her to find a piece ofmusic this week that really
resonates with her, that she canturn on immediately to help
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ground her.
So for her, that's what I askedher to do.
Carrie, she meditates, journalsand does yoga every single day,
and so I just asked her to goexplore if she found something
that she for sure wouldn't do orthat she would for sure
incorporate again.
Just more self-discovery ofthings that you like.
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Sometimes we get kind of justin our little routines, but
we're gonna open up our spiritand see where spirit leads us to
grounding, opening our heart,self-discovery and our
generosity right and just beingopen during the week.
Speaker 3 (45:36):
And I feel like this has been a learning process and
it's good, so Definitely Enjoyedit.
Speaker 1 (45:43):
All right, I can just hang out with you here all day.
I know.
Let me go get my coffee andI'll be back, okay.
Speaker 3 (45:48):
I know right, yeah, I feel like.
Speaker 1 (45:50):
I'm on.
Speaker 3 (45:50):
YouTube.
And now I'm gonna put a fire inthe fireplace today too.
Speaker 1 (45:54):
All right friend.
Speaker 3 (45:55):
Okay, I love you last week.
For you, I love you too, andkeep in touch.
Okay, bye.
You came up with your barking dog.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
I did.
I named her Nala Nala.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
There she is.
Is her tongue sticking out?
Is that what that is?
No, she just looks sad.
Is this extra skin?
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Yeah, she just has a pouty sad dog begging face on
her.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Yeah, how did your wheat go?
Did it help you identifyingyour barking dog?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
It definitely did.
I realize I'm pretty quick toanger about certain things I
don't want to do, like at thejob in the morning like they
wanted me to move the towelsfrom the washer to the dryer and
fold like 100 towels, and I wasjust so upset I'm like this
wasn't in the job descriptionfolding towels and I was just
(00:47):
like sitting there like foldingtowels, going through all the
things in your head.
I know what.
I shouldn't be doing.
This.
They should hire someone elseto fold towels and I should be
in the office and I'm like whatdoes it matter?
I'm either way, I'm gettingpaid.
It doesn't matter.
Exactly, I'm still here.
There's no one calling in theoffice right now.
I'm sort of at the desk anddoing nothing.
I just like, okay, take a deepbreath, it's not a big deal,
(01:10):
it's just towels.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
See, yeah, I love that it worked out.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
It helped you.
So, yeah, it was just like oneof those things that just like
made me so angry.
Like why, like, if he's goingto drive stupid, that doesn't
mean I have to let him make mefeel like I need to drive stupid
as well.
Like something I don't want todo.
I don't want to drive silly, Idon't want to get in a wreck.
If he wants to cause a wreckbecause he wants to get to
school or he's, it makes me somad.
(01:35):
I was starting to get like.
You know, like when you get mad, you kind of feel like your
heart starts beating fast.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
And my phone parts start beating fast and I was
right about to get to work.
I'm like I need to calm down.
There's no reason I need to bethis mad for someone that is
trying to make me mad.
I just need to let them do that.
And that's another thing too.
Someone's frustrated and theytake it out on you.
I need I started to realizethat too is that I don't need to
meet that Like I don't need tomeet them being angry because
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they're frustrated.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
You don't need to take on their emotions.
The energy yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Yeah, and I feel like with emotion, I'm so good at
just absorbing it and making itmy own and I don't need to do
that and I think that's part ofmy working dog too is taking on
others emotions what reallyruins my day, and I just need to
let it go.
It's so true.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
Jordan, and I'm so glad that you're getting that at
the age that you are, because Ididn't know that at your age.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
And it's definitely like that's probably the biggest
one for me is that I've triedto notice that is they're going
to be that angry, they're goingto live that way.
That doesn't mean I need toabsorb it and make it my own or
even just to realize me.
They can be upset by themselves.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Yeah, it's like you can still be there for them, but
it doesn't mean you absorb allof their energy and take on
their problems.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Yeah, and I'm trying to be better at that.
That's just the biggest thingI'm trying to be better about
and I'm noticing more, and Imean it takes a lot of work.
We can't change overnight or goswitch back to our old ways.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
It's super easy to switch back.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
So I mean at least noticing my barking dog when
it's happening, even if it'salready happened, be like.
Well, at least I know ithappened and I can try to work
on it.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
To me, you just won because some people can't get
there.
Some people can't even noticewhat it's saying because it's so
ingrained in who they are andtheir brain they can't separate
it.
So, just the fact that you'vealready separated it.
You've heard those words.
Did you find out this out inyour journaling?
Speaker 2 (03:41):
So I write down goals every morning and it was
actually and some of them arejust, like you know, basic
things I need to do goals andthen at the end of it, I've
started writing down.
I mean, I did it every once in awhile, but it was like last
week or something, after wetalked, another co-worker was
upset and him taking out it onme made me upset and it was just
(04:06):
like well, what's the point ofme being here?
Like, just totally like I waslike you know what, try my best.
That's all I can do is try mybest.
So every day since we've talked, at the end of my goals list I
say try my best and just likeokay, this is what I can try my
best at and try not to be angryor noticing when I do, when
writing it down.
And then it's like your journalgets filled up and you realize
(04:28):
how angry you get about smallthings.
It's like it's not worsefilling up my journal with angry
things and rather just goodthings and like try better and
take a deep breath.
You know, look back and reflectrather than get mad.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
I know what you mean about getting away with the
writing you know and thejournaling, and sometimes,
because they say you know yougot to work through it, you got
to let the emotion pass throughyou and one way to do that is
through the basal ganglia inyour brain.
When you write, it actuallyopens that part of your brain up
where you can processinformation.
(05:05):
So if you don't know, likeyou're trying to think things
out, or you're trying to figurethings out or you're
contemplating something, that'swhy grabbing that pen and just
started, you know writing andusing your hand, yeah, it was
just so therapeutic.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
And it is, and I was really good at it when I was
just doing real estate.
When I was just doing that andthen when I took on this other
job, I realized I got out ofthat habit of writing my goals
down in the morning and it wasjust like, well, why, just
because something in mylifestyle changed doesn't mean I
still shouldn't have my dailygoals.
Yeah, if I'm not writing themdown at home, the first thing I
(05:42):
do when I get to that shop iswrite down my goals and I was
like that's probably not a greatthing and I probably should be
answering the phone, but I'mgoing to write down my goals
because I need to, you know,focus and have goals and look
back on it and be like, oh, Idid that already, good, like
that's something.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Yeah, and that makes you feel good.
Yeah, you actually accomplishedsomething that you wrote down,
right?
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:01):
And I actually this is like a kind of a side note
but I wrote myself a letter ayear ago to my future self and
it got.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
You did.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Yeah, I got in the mail during this whole thing,
like a couple of days ago, andjust like writing those letters
and like seeing, like yeah, Ididn't accomplish some of it,
but still saying like in theretoo, I was like it's true, for
this in 2024.
And like I said that in 2022, Isaid shoot for this in 2024.
And then I said get a new car.
And I listed the car, I gotthat car this year and then book
(06:30):
, book this trip, which wasDisney World, and we didn't go
this year but we booked it andwe're going next year.
Yeah.
So I mean there are certainthings, other things I didn't,
you know, accomplish, like youknow the amount of people I
wanted to sell houses to orthings like that.
But it's still like, okay, 2023is not over yet, it's not, it's
not.
I can still meet that goal.
And just to like write downthose things and realize you
(06:52):
actually accomplished thingsthat you wanted to do last year
and things you want to do nextyear is still things you want to
do next year.
Yeah, so it's.
It's good to write down thosethings, even if it's bad things
like anger stuff.
Yeah, so those good things too.
It's just easier to focus it onone thing than pin it onto
someone else, because paintingit onto even like an animal or a
(07:16):
person, and making that angernot, you know, towards them or
the other person is not fair,and if they're angry, then them.
Pinning it on you isn't faireither, and you need to realize
that and not make it your own,rather than it's hard.
And it's hard, I mean.
I think that's what we all canrelate to For ever.
Really.
(07:36):
No matter how hard we try, it'sjust as easy to be angry.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
So I'm going along with it, you know, with all of
you as well.
I'm a little bit further along,you know, because I'm telling
you what to do, but I'm alsowanting to be in the week, in
the moment, with you.
And there was one day where,okay, I knew that was Tina the
barking dog.
What are those things that shesays to me specifically that are
(08:02):
kind of on repeat?
You know, once I noticed it, Ialso realized I couldn't get it
out of my head.
It was just like on repeat.
You know, one of the thingsthat I learned was tell your
spirit to lead, tell your spiritto lead.
So I did that and I was likespirit lead and shut them out of
(08:26):
that bark and dog.
Right now I want to change andI'm trying and I want you to
lead.
And honestly I thought, oh well, we'll just see how the day
goes.
And right, when I said that itwas gone Good, it's gone, and I
was going throughout my day andI just felt lighter, I felt like
something shifted.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
And I can't acknowledge that change it.
You feel a shift.
You're so wise.
The first step is acknowledgingit.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
You are.
You're right.
The first step is and it'sabout being aware, you know, of
awareness, awareness just beingreal.
I'm amazed by what youexperienced this week.
I'm so proud of you.
Do you feel like it helped you?
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Absolutely, like I said, even just like personal
stuff, but things that I look at, like, looking at things
differently, like rather thanand of course it takes a second
or you just acknowledge it a lotquicker.
I felt like I've acknowledgedit a lot quicker now, like today
, for, like I said, like for thecar that was following me
really close, like justrealizing that I don't, I don't
(09:34):
need to make that person, makeme feel so upset and then go
about my whole morning beingupset because one person
followed me way too closely.
So now when it happens, all ofus it happens all the time yeah,
it happens all the time Likewhat am I going to do about it?
I can't do anything, so move onand on how I was doing and not
let that affect me.
(09:54):
And noticing that and noticingit quicker, like the first one,
was, you know, I took me like anhour to get over something, and
then I realized throughout theweek it was just like okay, I
don't need to let things affectme for an hour of my day to be
upset.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I can move on On to the next homework phase
Grounding.
What do you think grounding itmeans?
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Grounding like I almost think of self
self-deprecating.
I know that's not like good,we're not supposed to do that,
but I think each person is theirown biggest enemy at the end of
the day, and acknowledging thatis a huge thing is that we
don't need to be that hard ofourselves.
But grounding to me is liketaking away something that I
(10:40):
liked, or be like oh, you don't,you don't deserve that.
You did something bad, I know.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
And that's really funny that you just said that,
because I swear I had thisconversation in my head
yesterday and thinking aboutthose exact things, and I was
like if somebody asked me what Ithought grounding was and I
didn't know what it was, whatwould I say?
The definition was I'm likewell, sitting in a corner with
my nose in it, or my phonegetting taken away or you know,
(11:07):
whatever you can't go out,you're grounded.
You know how funny.
At my age I want to be grounded, but at my kids age they don't
want to be grounded.
Grounding, you know, in theworld of spirit, and what we're
talking about is feeling yourfeet on the earth.
(11:28):
Basically, like you know, whenyou're all over the place and
your heads just kind of flightyand you're thinking about so
many things and you just can'tdecide.
What you know all these right,grounding is stop, put your feet
on the ground, sit down and beright here in the present moment
.
(11:49):
Have you ever heard of EckhartTolle?
No, he's the most chilledperson in the entire world.
Don't look him up.
But he teaches about being inthe present moment.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Reading or focusing or playing drums and just not
something that is multiplethings going on.
I realize I can focus on thatlike a puzzle even.
It's just like I'm focused onthose pieces and putting it
together and that's just where Isit down and realize that's
like.
The calmest point is when I'mdoing something with my hands.
My brain's working as well.
(12:21):
You know, flipping a book page,making cookies, doing a puzzle,
something like that workLighting a candle, yeah, like
something is just like going onat the same time, where my hands
and my brain is doing it,rather than like sitting,
because I'm sitting doingnothing.
Oh my gosh, every minute feelslike an hour.
Yeah, yeah, that's just kind ofworth.
(12:41):
That's another.
That's a good definition forgrounding.
I like that definition betterthan grounding.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Right, take away.
So this week I want you to finda new practice of grounding.
Even if it's for five minutesand I mean, this is so easy,
jordan, I'm talking like a newsong, like Tibetan bowls or
classical music.
Any kind of music is verygrounding.
The right kind of music isgrounding Meditation.
(13:10):
Maybe you find a meditation andyou do it all week, every day,
for five minutes on Headspace orYouTube, or just being still
and being quiet and focusing onyour happy place that you have
in your mind's eye.
And the word for this week isgenerous.
So during your time or yourweek, or your journaling or your
(13:34):
meditation time, I want you toask yourself am I generous?
And then I want you to writedown how you're generous.
There's no right or wronganswers.
Some people do not have timeand they love to give money, and
that's awesome.
Some people don't have money.
All they have is time.
(13:55):
Some people just have desiresor crafts or things they wanna
make and give away, like mealsor phone calls or spending time
with someone Anything generouswith your time, with your money,
with your heart, whatever.
And I want you to write thatdown.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
That's a good way to put it, because I think generous
can mean something super strongsometimes.
But that's a good way to put it, that you can be generous on a
lot of things.
That doesn't mean it's such abig deal, it's just-.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
Yeah, so what that is gonna do is help you discover
more of your spirit.
You have a voice for yourgeneration, you know.
Yeah, I'm proud of you fordoing it.
I'm a merry-go-round here.
I love that thing.
I wear it a lot.
I know I love it too.
I wear it all the time, even ifI tuck it in.
Yeah, no, it's there.
(14:48):
Close Me, maria, me Maria.
Okay, I just met with Jordan.
How was that?
It was so good, like honestly-.
Speaker 4 (14:57):
I love everyone else's perspective.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
It's so good I know and I love that she's doing this
.
You know the Gen Zers Right andI even told her.
I mean, I was blown away bywhat she said, but she was just
telling me her experience andwhat she discovered about
herself and I was like Jordanthe fact that you're getting
(15:20):
this at your age, right now,girl, I wish I had this
information.
Then Let me see your barkingdog.
Speaker 4 (15:31):
Her name's little Betty Ruth.
Betty Ruth, the smallest thingcan make her think of like
offense, really being offended,instead of spirit who is patient
, and it's just.
I guess it's a maybe moreself-centered, because it's like
every little thing, you knowsomebody can't do something or
(15:54):
make an appointment or show upor something like that, and it's
like, oh, they just don't wannatalk to you or they don't like
you or yeah, her Betty'sfeistyness does also help me.
I think you mentioned this inlike talking about the.
You know the need for ego, andit's like sometimes you need
that little feistiness of yourego or the harder voice that
(16:19):
says, like, keep going, get up,do the thing, quit being a baby,
you know whatever yeah.
I noticed how much likeunnecessary dialogue I take in
from stuff that's just really ismore black and white.
Like I said, somebody justsimply couldn't make an
appointment and it really hadnothing to do with me and it
(16:40):
wasn't Taking things so personalyeah.
Which you know, when I'm sureyou've read like the four
agreements and that's like oneof the main things is like don't
take things personal, and Ithink that is an ego thing.
It's like we.
It's easy to turn everythingback around to us when really
it's like most often it'snothing to do with you.
(17:01):
Yeah, yeah, you just kind ofpart of the little I will say I
think a piece of that like afternoticing it and then not
letting my ego be overly hard onmyself for reacting that way or
feeling that way, it's likepart of that is human nature and
I mean it's a good thing tocare what other people think to
(17:22):
a degree to have some socialawareness.
Sure.
And, like you know, I mean, youcan't just be like oblivious you
know, and then also justrecognizing the patterns that we
have because of, you know,maybe, things that like ways
people relate it to us, you knowfrom a very young age or, and
so sometimes I'll recognizethat's probably why so did you
(17:47):
do like the trail back?
Speaker 1 (17:49):
Oh yeah, kind of thing yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:51):
And literally like most everything that I struggle
with in general trails back to afeeling of reduction and a fear
of that.
Yeah, and so it can be the goodside of that and I guess the
spirit side of that is caring alot, wanting to please, wanting
to help, wanting to love peoplereally well and, you know,
(18:12):
putting myself out there to bevulnerable because I do care.
But then the ego side, the badside.
I hate calling the ego bad, butthe Right, the darker side of
that is the too much emphasis onwhat other people think and if
they're disappointed or if thereason they didn't want to do
(18:33):
something was because they justdon't like me or whatever.
You know, I mean I've, evenI've had this conversation with
my own sister, which she's mysister and like deep down I know
she loves me and she's shown upfor me in many ways in life,
but I'll still feel she's olderand I also still like just
certain situations will can makeme my ego, I guess think like
(18:56):
she's judging me or she thinksshe doesn't really like me or
she's disappointed in some wayor whatever, and when I talk to
her about it and get that outand she's like I.
That can be further from thetruth.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
It's not crazy.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
I'm really proud of you, I'm, you know, maybe in
some way yeah and be this, butjust like, and my admirers a
certain thing or whatever, andI'm like wow, mm-hmm, and, like
I said, when it makes sense andyou understand where things are
coming from you.
But also it helps you to workto change and see the truth.
But I think for me it helps meBecause when you're struggling
(19:32):
with something, then there'sthat extra load of then you beat
yourself up for struggling.
Yeah you know it's justcompounded.
Yeah, so for me it was like kindof a freedom of like okay,
there's, there's a reason,there's a route, there's a.
You know I'm not crazy or not.
You don't take it so personal,right.
Yeah, it's just like your way.
Yeah, I understand why thishappens.
(19:52):
I recognize it when it does,and then I can choose how I
Respond to it, instead offeeling like just consumed by it
or burdened by it.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
You know, it's like it doesn't get to control.
You like, just exactly what youjust said consumed by it and it
helps you Separate when you putthe barking dog over here and
this over here and you can stepback and look at yourself
Objectively and say this iswhere I'm at, you know over
looked, Maybe even in justtraditional counseling, because
(20:25):
you know a lot of times that'shelpful.
But yeah Well even the Christiancounselors that we visited.
Yeah, never were we ever talkedabout God and spirit.
They just happen to be aChristian.
There wasn't this.
Yeah, both ways.
And that's interesting Becausethis is all the stuff that I did
with Miles and my kids when wewere going through that.
(20:48):
Sure, he had therapy and youneed good, solid plan to help
rebuild his life.
Right, he's also my kid and Iknow his spiritual gifts and I
know the other side of it thatthat therapist doesn't know, and
I feel like it's myresponsibility To educate them
and show them how to use thosegifts in this world.
(21:08):
It's gonna give them morefulfillment and help others.
Speaker 4 (21:12):
Right, I love that because a I love that, yes, as a
parent or a friend or you know,whatever the relationship is of
people that we love, if we, ifwe have something that's helpful
, like we are responsible topass that along.
But it's not you telling himthis is what you need to do,
whatever x, y, z, it's Helpingpeople understand that there's,
(21:34):
there's tools, there are otherpeople that can be a tool.
God in the Holy Spirit,absolutely are your source, but
also you have a role and you arecapable.
Like there's no Therapist,there's no doctor or other
person that can do it for you.
You know, I think so often wewant, like we want to find the
(21:56):
healing Somewhere you know whenI go to the therapist's office
and be healed and walk away andall your problems are gone.
But you gotta put the work inand you gotta try and you get to
be aware and participate, yeahbut the cool thing is is I'm
like once I realized that I hadthat power, I was like that's
actually fantastic.
I mean it's, it's hard work andyeah, whatever, but it's nice,
(22:20):
it's like okay, I don't have tolike there's a way out.
Yeah, it's super easy to gobackwards, but but you got to
remember Whatever triggers thebackwards you can get your way
out of that too, because now youhave the tools and the
information Before you didn't.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
Now you do.
Now you know what to do.
I just choose it, do it.
Speaker 4 (22:43):
It's easy to think that you can be like, oh, I'm
better, you know I'm better, I'mhealed, I get it, I'm fine, and
then you can have a you know asetback, and it can feel
overwhelming.
But that's been a big lessonfor me, to learn that you know,
I didn't, I didn't go all theway.
One is Stay stuck for whateverreason, whatever our personal
fear or our personal past orwhatever.
(23:03):
If we all just stay stuck andwe can't move our mouth and we
can't do what we're supposed todo, then guess what?
Guess who wins.
You know?
So understanding like wherethat that opposition is even
coming from.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Carrie and I talked a little bit and it was almost
like you don't take it sopersonal.
Yeah, you know yeah.
Like you can separate.
You know Tina's over here.
I know my best self is righthere.
Yeah, I know I'm gonna hearfrom God in my best self.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
Yeah, right, yeah.
So let me ask you now that Adamknows Tina, right, he knows who
Tina is in the name.
This is what I've wondered,because I haven't told Sunny
about all of this yet.
Does he ever go?
Speaker 1 (23:50):
okay, maybe you got Nega talk to Tina, or I see Tina
coming out, or Well, actually,what it has done is created a
whole dialogue with my kids andmy family.
So I thought why aren't wedoing this?
If I'm doing this with myfriends, let's do it as a family
.
And so we sat down, journaled, Iexplained the whole thing, and
(24:14):
that was so fun to do it withyour kids, because they're
visual that way and they're notgoing to sit and listen to your
whole lecture from some film,what she believes,
neuroscientists, blah, blah,blah.
They're just going toparticipate.
And Major was hilarious.
He came up with his dog, thepersonality he came up with,
(24:37):
their cousins and their friendsand his home life.
I mean this whole picture.
It was awesome.
Speaker 3 (24:44):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (24:45):
And then when you got them there, okay, well, what
kind of things did the barkingdogs say to you?
And I asked them that, and sodid you notice.
I'm not asking you exactly whatit said, but is there anything
that you can share that you didnotice?
Speaker 3 (25:02):
I think that it's made me think about when I'm in
a situation, something thatcomes out I'm like, oh and like.
I mean a couple of things.
I can give a couple of examples, like being at the gym We've
talked about this, touched on alittle bit.
Am I going to be more thecheerleader that, oh man, she
looks fabulous, she's here everyday working her butt off, you
(25:23):
know.
Or am I more like, well, thereshe is again and her, you know,
whatever, whatever.
And oh, she got more newleggings, or you know, whatever
it is.
And it's funny because this weekI found myself with one
particular lady, just seeing herand going I wanted to think
great thoughts, but I really was.
I was like, oh, there she isagain in her tiny little top.
(25:46):
And then I'm going, what wait,hold on there, who is that and
what is that?
And you think she looks amazing.
She's probably an incrediblykind lady.
She's here every day, like youare, you know, working her butt
off, and instead maybe go tellher how much you love her
leggings and go cheer her on.
And so it just kind of causedme to look at that, that side
(26:11):
that just kind of sneaks out,that judgmental, critical side.
And you know I didn't like it.
So it's made me more aware of it.
That's been pretty cool.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
Yeah, it is.
And what's cool is you can stopand go wait a minute.
That's not my heart.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
You know that's not where I who I am.
Why am I thinking that?
Did you get any journaling timein this week?
Speaker 3 (26:37):
I did.
I wrote down.
I probably don't write as muchas I would like to, because my
hands do get really sore when Iwrite and it's really
frustrating, but they do, it'sjust a fact in my hand just gets
pretty sore.
So I think that kind of slowsme down from writing as much as
I.
But just a situation with withSunny and where he was telling
(26:59):
me something and I came backwith what he said.
You know, sometimes you can justcome across really hard and
harsh and like when you hearthat, you're like oh ouch, you
know, and the automatic is to bedefensive.
But then again, thinking aboutit like he had kind of walked
(27:19):
away after that and then he cameback, it caused me to go, okay,
yeah, that, what about?
That made it feel hard andharsh to you Because it's not,
it's again, it's not my heart,it's not how I want to come
across and I think sometimes Ido it.
I don't even remember what,what we were talking about, what
(27:41):
was going on, but I think a lotof times it's my, also my
protective mode, it's my, and itcomes across more like I'm
being hard because I all of asudden I feel like a need to
self protect when I don't needto self protect.
I mean, god has shown me amillion times that he is my
(28:01):
protector, he's my you know,he's the one that's going to
step in for me and I don't haveto come across with a hard,
harsh, tough exterior one.
Really, inside, it's a wholedifferent situation, you know we
are the same person, Carlareally, really I've even stopped
and thought about it.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
You know I do voiceovers in my very first
coach it's you have a tone.
Everyone has a tone in theirvoice, the pitch, a tone,
inflections, and she's so sweetand she was like Carrie, you
sound like a bitch.
And I was like so when we wouldpractice and I would go back
(28:42):
and listen to myself, I couldhear that and I really explored
it, like why do I have that tone?
And I am a lot like you withthe self, you know, protection
thing.
But I also realized that it isthe way you're raised.
Who are you raised by and howdo they talk?
Speaker 3 (29:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
So I went back in my you know my lineage and noticed
how my mom and my grandmothertalked and they're love you to
pieces, but that's how they talk.
So I really believe not only isit your experiences, your
surroundings, all the things,but it's kind of like how you
(29:22):
were brought up too.
Speaker 3 (29:24):
Yeah, do you see a?
Speaker 1 (29:25):
little bit of that in your song, oh I fully agree
with that.
Speaker 3 (29:27):
Yes, I mean, if I look back like you did, I grew
up like that and a lot of, a lotof hardness, a lot of harshness
, a lot of abrupt and not a lotof softness, gentleness,
tenderness, especially in tone.
And that's funny, becausethat's one of the things you
know.
That I always told my kids wasit's your tone, it's what comes
(29:52):
across, that you may be tryingto be kind, but there's that
tone that's showing you'refeeling something else other
than what you're really saying.
But yes, I had a, you know,loud dad, loud grandfather.
You know everybody was justloud and just I mean hard, just
(30:12):
kind of look.
Speaker 1 (30:15):
If you needed to get a word and edge wise, the only
way you were is if you werestrong and had a voice to get
that word in, you weren't goingto get it in.
You know, so it's so interestingbecause at first, when she said
it, she said it's so sweet.
But in a way I kind of alreadyknew it and I don't want to
(30:35):
change who I am and I don't wantto change myself, but it is.
It was definitely a selfreflection.
And how do I speak?
How do I come across?
Because I don't want to comeacross that way, you know.
But in those times of quickreaction and then I feel like I
am being defensive or I'm backedup against the corner, I'm
(30:59):
gonna find my way out of thatcorner yeah.
Do you think that's kind of whatit is?
Speaker 3 (31:05):
100%.
Yeah, so much of that for me.
That's a whole another story,but is my self-protection as a
kid and growing up in the thingsthat I went through and I just,
yeah, often felt like I wasretreated to a corner by myself
because I had to be and I had toprotect and I had to be strong
(31:25):
and I had to fight back and beloud, because that's how you got
hurt and, I think, grew hard, Ithink for a long time, a
hardened kind of heart, but notreally because inside it was
sensitive, gentle girl cryingout, just wanted to feel like
(31:47):
she didn't, yes, and didn't wantto have to feel like she had to
protect herself, that she wasprotected, not protect herself.
But so, yeah, it is.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
And so this week I'm gonna have you do several
different things, but one of thethings is now the dog, and
you've identified her and wehaven't put a name to it yet,
but you're still on the fence,right, you're gonna pick out a
name Because I want that to bereal quick, visual for you
during your week and not focuson the barking dog.
(32:20):
But now, oh, okay, that's Tina,now I can see that and I want
you to open yourself up to yourspirit, listening to her spirit
and deciding.
So one morning I woke up andI'm practicing and doing all
these steps with you guys, andone morning I woke up and I
noticed that the barking dogwould not stop.
(32:40):
And there's different things.
Sometimes I wake up in themorning it's like, oh, this day,
these things, and it's more ofa ugh.
I got all this ahead of me andhow am I gonna do this?
And instead of I got a greatday, I'm gonna do this and that
and the other, and so it wasmore of those kind of things.
And I stopped and I just saidspirit lead.
(33:03):
And it was instant, carla, itwas instant.
All of a sudden, there was aquick change.
I go to my cycle class I teachmy cycle class.
There's a lady that comes inthere.
She's been coming to my cycleclass for a year or more and
she's so bright.
She always has a smile on herface when she walks into a room.
(33:23):
You can feel it and she doesn'thave to say anything.
And this particular day, whichwas last Tuesday, I go and after
class I said, how are you doing?
And she was like oh, I'm doinggreat.
And this is where I listened to.
My spirit had a lot going onthat day.
I had a choice Do I saysomething to her or not?
Because I could get out of herea lot faster.
(33:45):
I've got this and this and thisto do, being real right.
So I asked her and she was likeoh, you know, I'm doing great
and I go.
I just got this really strongfeeling, girl, because when you
walk in here your spirit isbigger than this room.
And right now I'm feeling likesomething's up and I had a
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feeling it was her health and Isaid, no, really, what is it?
And she goes.
I was just diagnosed withmelanoma, oh my gosh.
And right then Pauline came inthe room because she was taking
yoga next door.
Her sister has had melanoma forseven years.
And they start talking.
And then we start talking aboutSylvestra, who is a member of
(34:28):
the Y that a couple of weeks agowalked into my yoga class and
told everyone that she was justdiagnosed with ovarian cancer.
And I'm telling her and Paulineand several other members about
this story, about Sylvestra.
And I said it was right beforeclass and I looked around and I
said all of you know what Ibelieve, but I am gonna pray and
(34:51):
if you don't believe what Ibelieve, it's okay.
But I know that every singleperson believes in love and so
if you could just send her loveright now, because God is love.
And we prayed and then I kept upwith her during the week
texting.
I put her name on my littleprayer journal, took a picture
of it, sent it to her.
(35:11):
The day before last Tuesday,when I went into cycle class, I
texted Sylvestra and I saidhow's it going?
And she said well, they'retelling me after I got my port.
They don't think I have cancer.
Speaker 3 (35:25):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
And so I told this story to these women and to this
woman that told me she hadmelanoma.
And it was my body just didthis.
I didn't decide it, I didn'tthink about it.
My hand just went directly ontoher arm and I started praying
for her and I said my God is ahealer and a provider and I know
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that he can heal you right now.
And she just kind of smiled andwe all left.
And I don't.
That is where I could havedecided if I do that she's gonna
go tell everyone I'm a weirdo.
I'm this woman that thinks Ican go around healing people.
I don't think I can.
(36:08):
I know God can.
Speaker 3 (36:11):
And.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
I know that he uses people as vessels, and so I
truly believe that if my barkingdog is telling me, don't do
that, cause she's gonna go telleverybody this, then I'm not a
vessel for God.
He can't use me for his gloryif I'm not willing to
(36:32):
participate in it.
And so what if she toldeverybody that, so what, I'm not
gonna die, I still have all thelove from my family and a great
life.
And what if it worked?
Speaker 3 (36:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
And what if it didn't work?
What do you have to lose?
There's nothing to lose in anyof it, right?
Speaker 3 (36:56):
And what other seeds did you plant in that process?
And you may never know aboutthem.
You know in other people whatseeds did you plant, praying
over her and people hearing youand hearing you also saying that
you don't have to believe whatI believe, but I know you
(37:16):
believe in love and if you sendher your love, you know what a
kind and loving and open-handedthing to do for other people to
see and go.
I don't have to believe exactlyas her, but I do kind of.
I'm kind of interested in whatshe's saying and maybe I do
wanna learn more and you know soyou being in that vessel.
(37:36):
It's just it's the seeds weplant, that we don't always see
the fruition of it, but welisten to that spirit and we
move forward with it, no matterwhat others might think or what
they're gonna say about us.
But it doesn't mean it's alwayseasy.
Speaker 1 (37:53):
Oh, my gosh, I know right.
Speaker 3 (37:56):
I mean it's easy, because we're so consumed, I say
, we me with what others think.
You know, oh my gosh, how'sthat gonna come across, or
whatever.
And then there's just times I'mlike, why do I care?
I don't care, you know, I don'tcare.
Speaker 1 (38:11):
And, like I told her, in these other people I said,
the reason that I can tell youin such confidence is because of
my experience.
You know, when I was in my 20s,there was a girl that came over
that had a lump and was toldshe had breast cancer.
I said let's pray, and we did.
She went back to the doctor andthere's, there was no lump, no
(38:31):
breast cancer.
You know, there's anothermember named Matt Colon Cancer.
I've never told this story onpublic, and I don't know if I'll
tell any of this.
Carla, I really don't Betweenme.
I wanna tell you, though, and Iwanted my kids involved.
I trained for a year and a half, so I was very close to her.
(38:52):
When she told me this.
You know, it hurt me likefamily, and so I got the kids
involved.
We would send her scriptures.
My kids made this huge posterwith encouragement all over it.
We mailed it to her, and youknow just to be in her life
during that time was so great,and she was so thankful, and she
(39:17):
framed the poster and said itgave her so much encouragement.
She doesn't have colon canceranymore.
Did I heal her?
No, god healed her.
Speaker 3 (39:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
Did it bless me beyond measure to be part of
that and be in her walk.
Yes, she showed my kids thepower of being there for people
you know she could have died,and what would have happened if
she would have died?
It would have been terrible,but at least I was there for her
, giving her encouragement alongthe way.
Speaker 3 (39:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:48):
And just loving her.
More love while she was here,but she's here.
We still text and talk.
You know, last week we talkedabout the barking dog and
getting familiar with that and Idon't want to stick on it.
But now we know let's openourself up this week to what a
spirit telling us to do.
We kind of gave a couple ofexamples.
(40:09):
I loved your example at the gym, karla, because that's so real.
It's so real, I've had the samethought.
It's not what you want to think.
Speaker 3 (40:18):
You don't want those thoughts in your head and you
know, it's not your heart.
You have a word, and that'sgenerous.
Speaker 1 (40:27):
Being generous opens up your heart, and I know that I
can list off all the millionways that Carla Allen is
generous because she just is.
But there are some people thataren't, because they're hurt.
And so this week I wanna askyou to just, in your quiet time,
put your hand over your heartand your question is how am I
(40:49):
generous?
Just any way to be generouswith your time, with your money,
with your talents, you know.
And I want you to just thinkabout how you like to be
generous, and I want you towrite down the ways that you are
generous and really go a littledeeper in that.
And then why?
Discovering yourself a littlebit more of why you really like
(41:12):
that?
Cause there's an underlyingreason why and it's wonderful
and it can really open your eyesto even more.
Find out what you don't like tobe generous with and why.
And there's no right or wronganswers.
I'm not gonna ask you to sharethis.
Just being real with yourselfand writing, you know, as we
(41:32):
said, is therapeutic.
Dr Caroline Leaf you'll hear metalk about her with the others
and how she recommends doodlingwhile you're on the phone, while
you're trying to learnsomething.
If you're watching, you know, avideo or a learning module, I
want you to doodle.
While you're on the phone, Iwant you to doodle.
If you're meditating orjournaling, I want you to doodle
(41:56):
.
And what do I mean by doodling?
I don't mean I want you to go.
What should I draw?
Hmm, I'm gonna draw a flower.
No, I want you to take your pen, and I did this while we were
on the phone a couple of times,cause I've always done this
anyway and I'm like how I getpermission, and so I'm just
noticing my emotions right nowand how I feel, and I'm moving
(42:19):
my pen right now with myemotions, right, oh my God, oh
my God Right.
So, whatever it is and I'lllike, let me kind of show you a
little just for an example, yousee, all those like little
things.
I don't know why.
I was like I'm just gonna.
I feel like my arm's going thisway and around this way, so
(42:42):
what's the importance of evendoing that?
Caroline Leaf is a doctor,she's a neuroscientist and a
Christian and I just love herand she has this book called the
Brain Detox.
Kiri's actually done it and readit, loved it, and it's one of
the things that she recommendsthat you do, because you have a
part in your brain called thebasal ganglia and when you start
(43:05):
doing that, it actually opensit up for you to receive
information and understandinformation better.
Like college students that arein lectures, they would doodle
and they found that theyretained more information when
they let their pen flow whilethey're listening.
So I tell this to Miles lastnight, and Miles is like well,
(43:28):
maybe somebody is just a better,maybe they're just smarter.
And I was like no, they tookthe same person, so they took
you, taking you know theinformation down, what you
absorbed, and then took youpatient, whatever and did the
doodling and actually found thatyou did do it and they proved
it by showing that inside yourbrain.
(43:49):
So I thought that was such acool.
Speaker 3 (43:52):
I never knew that you know I do the bunny ears over a
fence and yeah, you gotta showme that one.
Those were things that I usedto doodle, like all the time.
If you saw something in mynotebooks, those were my doodles
.
Speaker 1 (44:07):
I love that, so you won't have a problem doodling
this week.
Speaker 3 (44:11):
I don't think doodling will be a problem.
Speaker 1 (44:13):
Yeah, so last week, like I said, we focused on
trying to identify between thetwo.
This week we're really justopening up your brain and
connect it with your spirit,kind of like a mind-body
connection you know, and see howthat goes and let it flow, see
how spirit leads you.
This week, notice what youchoose spirit telling you to do
(44:38):
instead of the barking dog, ifyou can do that for me, I want
you to open yourself to new waysof grounding.
I told this to Carrie and toJordan as well.
Jordan loves to read.
I want her to find a piece ofmusic this week that really
resonates with her, that she canturn on immediately to help
(44:59):
ground her.
So for her, that's what I askedher to do.
Carrie, she meditates, journalsand does yoga every single day,
and so I just asked her to goexplore if she found something
that she for sure wouldn't do orthat she would for sure
incorporate again.
Just more self-discovery ofthings that you like.
(45:20):
Sometimes we get kind of justin our little routines, but
we're gonna open up our spiritand see where spirit leads us to
grounding, opening our heart,self-discovery and our
generosity right and just beingopen during the week.
Speaker 3 (45:36):
And I feel like this has been a learning process and
it's good, so Definitely Enjoyedit.
Speaker 1 (45:43):
All right, I can just hang out with you here all day.
I know.
Let me go get my coffee andI'll be back, okay.
Speaker 3 (45:48):
I know right, yeah, I feel like.
Speaker 1 (45:50):
I'm on.
Speaker 3 (45:50):
YouTube.
And now I'm gonna put a fire inthe fireplace today too.
Speaker 1 (45:54):
All right friend.
Speaker 3 (45:55):
Okay, I love you last week.
For you, I love you too, andkeep in touch.
Okay, bye.
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