Chocolate Cake Bytes

Chocolate Cake Bytes

Chocolate Cake Bytes is a Latter-day Saint culture discussion. Chocolate cake represents everything that is good, and Chocolate Cake Bytes are the nuggets of understanding that has made my life better. And I'd like to share some chocolate cake bytes with you.


August 5, 2022 54 min

I love this question!

There are so many things that I think I know, and I think it can be valuable to at least ponder this question.

"How does what I know get in the way of what I don't know?"

Liz Wiseman is an author and teacher about leadership. Magnifying versus Diminishing leaders.

You should check her out. But in the meantime, think about her quote from a BYU Forum address. You should check it out.

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What happens when a couple of guys start having a conversation with no agenda?

We end up talking about how we're not very good at journaling.

Yeah, I didn't see that one coming either.

Meet Greg, new (and somewhat reluctant) co-host, as we start talking about stuff and end up deciding that we should challenge ourselves to better document significant things in our lives.

Feedback on how we can do better? Let me know at ken@c...

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This week, we listen to a fireside I did a couple of months ago for Our Turtle House.

I believe it's more important to Be something than to Do things.

As we BECOME who God wants us to be, we naturally DO things that we should do. And sometimes, I believe, God uses those things to bless the lives of others.

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July 1, 2022 49 min

Co-host Harrison taught Elders Quorum last Sunday and started by asking "What is love?"

I loved the question and invited him to continue the discussion.

So, what is Love? Share your thoughts with us at

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June 24, 2022 22 min

We're supposed to be completely honest in all of our dealings, right?

But what about when telling the truth will be unnecessary? or harmful? Or illegal?

Mark and I explore options that might exist when being completely truthful might not be a great idea.

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June 10, 2022 42 min

God required that Gideon reduce the size of his army to a mere 300 people.

This was so that God could show His power.

Where is he doing this in our lives? Where might we feel like the bulk of our support has vanished, and how can we recognize the hand of the Lord in these instances?

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June 3, 2022 13 min

Imagine your feelings as a number line. Zero is neutral.

I think that if you're capable of feeling "bad: (which is really "uncomfortable")) at a -3, you can only feel "good" at a +3.

If you're afraid to feel uncomfortable, aren't you also afraid to feel too positive?

This week, it's just me sharing some of my thoughts I've been having over the past few weeks.

Thanks for listening. You can rea...

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May 27, 2022 44 min

"You have to feel it to heal it."

I think there's truth in that. Having "bad" feelings (not really bad, but uncomfortable feelings) is a part of our life.

But what about "Men are that they might have joy"?

Yeah. That's true. But we're not supposed to have joy ALL THE TIME. There's a time for happy and a time for sad.

Listen as Eddison, Allison, and I talk through when and why we should feel our f...

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Family friend Catie (who is Latter-day Saint Friendly, but not a member herself) raised an interesting question.

What if my blood relatives aren't people that I want around in my life? What does that mean for "forever families?"

In this episode, we talk about ways that we can navigate some of those complicated relationships that--at least as we see them now--we don't want to have for eternity.

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May 14, 2022 43 min

We are commanded to be a peacemaker, but what does that mean?

How can we be a peacemaker without sacrificing our own needs and resorting to people pleasing?

Is there a way to follow the command and be true to ourselves?

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This week, we talk with Whitney (Sister) Durtschi, who is currently serving as a Service Missionary for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Her experience from preparing for her mission, to receiving her call, to loving her mission has been a journey in learning how God is aware of His children.

Listen in to learn part of Whitney's story

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Life is hard.

Sometimes we're confronted with mourning with others who mourn, or comforting those who stand in need of comfort.

But interacting with someone who is needing comfort can be...well...uncomfortable.

How do we put off our own discomfort and truly *comfort* others?

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April 22, 2022 40 min

In an unrelated but totally related conversation with Carissa, she asked a question that tied in perfectly with last week's conversation with Heidi. So I told her to stop talking so we could record the conversation.

Having "But If Not" faith may be a next step for some of us. What does that look like, and what does it mean?

This is our attempt to address those questions...and more!

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April 15, 2022 46 min

During a Family Home Evening lesson, favorite niece Heidi made a very insightful comment about prayer.

As I tend to do, I asked her if we could have a more in-depth conversation and record it for the podcast.

She's a recently-returned missionary, and hasn't learned to say "no" yet, so here is our chat.

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April 8, 2022 20 min

We are instructed to "Counsel with the Lord," and for some of us, that has meant "Ask the Lord's opinion" or "Get the Lord's direction" for all of our major decisions.

But not all decision are major, and what are the drawbacks or risks to counseling (or NOT counseling) with the Lord on smaller or less significant matters?

And how do we make a decision when there isn't necessarily a "right" ...

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What does it mean to "systematically include the Lord in your development?"

I'm not one who prays to get inspiration for each choice I make on a daily basis, but instead, I tend to act in a responsible manner, hoping to do the best thing for myself and others.

Elder Clark Gilbert addresses this in General Conference:

I've been p...

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March 28, 2022 44 min

Grandma Jan, my mother-in-law, passed away a couple of weeks ago, giving me a front row seat to how different people grieve.

What does it take to give yourself (or others) the space to properly grieve?

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March 11, 2022 11 min

The first stage of grief is denial.

When does having and exercising faith and hope cross over into being in denial, and not allowing you to move through the grief process?

I haven't figured this one out yet, so I'm asking more questions than I'm answering. But I'd love to hear your thoughts and feedback.

Reach me at

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March 4, 2022 27 min

This week, I make an attempt to talk about beliefs.

What are they, why do we have them, and are they based on anything tangible?

For example, how can you and I have vastly different beliefs about the same "truth?"

I don't know all the answers, but I share some thoughts about why I believe.

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February 14, 2022 44 min

Setting goals can be a little bit scary and a little bit intimidating. It's not always easy to decide and commit to doing something bigger than we've ever done before, and if we're not careful, we  open ourselves up to beating ourselves up a LOT for missing the mark.

This week we chat with Geoff (Brother Brigham) who has a different take on setting goals...with faith.

I learned some new things that I will start using as I...

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