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This week Stormy discusses entitlement in dating, the discernment in all of us, her first date requests, & MORE!!!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Sure, what's up, beautiful people. It is your baby mama,
favorite baby Mama story. Repeat and this is another episode
of Chocolate Chip and Zip the modern day female perspective.
Damn Son back at it again. By the time this drops,
it will be post Thanksgiving. Hopefully your belly and heart

(00:22):
are full. Okay, Hopefully your bougie and't auntie ain't ex
you those same corny ask questions when you're gonna get
in a relationship, when you gonna have another baby, bitch,
worry about yourself? Okay, I hope you did not have
to endure any of that torture this year. Listen, because
that's what it is, all right, shout with your mic.
You ain't even on the mic, thank you. So all

(00:45):
that aside. Uh, your girl has been working on herself, okay,
and not like my usual work on myself where I
go to therapy once a week and I forget everything
my therapist say when I leave. Okay, I mean like
actually working on herself, setting better boundaries, Okay, coming to

(01:06):
new realizations, y'all. I started manifesting, eh, jeez, toxic. I
started manifesting. I started this new workbook called Manifesting your Husband. Okay,
but to be clear, I am aware that Massion Pajamas
ain't looking too good this year. But that's okay. That's

(01:28):
okay because if I have to wait to be in
Masson pajamas with my forever person and just have to
skip another season, then that's okay. That's okay. Can't nobody
hear you? Shot? Thank you? So with all that being said,
I've come to a few realizations, a few questions that

(01:48):
I've had to ask myself. I wanted short input on
as well, because I'm thinking I almost got this shit
figured out, y'all. Almost not quite, not all of it,
but I almost got the shit figure out. And one
of the first things that I really had to ask
myself was does the dating pool half piss in it?

(02:14):
Or is it entitlement? And I'm gonna say that again.
Like I said, I think I got this shit figured out, y'all,
because I was thinking, what's one thing that everybody is
complaining about, whether you're male or female. It seems like
it always comes down to the same thing. Does the
dating pool really half piss in it? Or is it entitlement? Right?

(02:34):
And the reason I say that is because we're not
talking about individuals I ain't talking about you and the
people you go to church with. I ain't talking about
you and the guys you were in balld with. Okay,
I ain't talking about you and the girls your group chat.
I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about you
individually as a person. I'm talking about as a whole. Right,
what do we hear people mostly complaining about the guys
are going to be saying? Oh, well, you know, she

(02:56):
wanted me to pay her rent after three weeks. She
wanted me to buy her bag after two text messages. Okay, entitlement,
she feels entitled to his money. Right, ladies, what are
you saying all the time? Oh well, he wanted to
come over and catch your VAUNI after one date. He

(03:17):
wanted me to send him beauty cheeks after three good
morning texts. Right, entitlement. You feel entitled to some ass
because you took me on a date. Okay, So hear
me out. Does the dating pool half piss in it?
Or is it entitlement? I think that if we really

(03:38):
locked in and got these two things squared away, Like, yo,
it doesn't matter what you buy for a woman. You
are not entitled to Cucci ladies, I don't care how
nice that man is. If your rent is doing the first,
it's gonna be doing the first with or without him.
Don't tell him you need to borrow something. Don't do that.
Don't do that. So I'm just asking, is it piss

(04:02):
in the dating pool or is it entitlement? Right now?
If you heard all of that and you still standing
ten toes down on nod storming, the dating pool got
pissing it. These niggas ain't shit, these bitches, ain't that
a da da da. I feel like we talked about
this a few episodes ago, right, And if you still

(04:24):
heard all that and you feel like the dating pool
still got pissing it, stop going the community pools. Okay,
we talked about this. If you think the dating pool
has pissed in it, stop going to community pools. Okay,
there's there's there's there's nothing. Really, It's not really a

(04:44):
lot of conversation we need to have on that, right
And you know, you you know the community pools. I'm
talking about the ones that let everybody in the guys
being there with socks on in the pool, you know,
you know, Okay, the lady behead ladies, ladies be having
tracks band aids floating all over the place. It's gross.
It's fucking gross. All right, stop going to community pools, people.

(05:08):
You need to start going to those gated pools. Okay,
the ones you need a wristband to get into. Okay, yeah,
the wristband. They got different color wristbands still, all right,
they got a red the red wristband. That mean you
got a primary care physician. Okay, you got a mind
chart on standby, ready to show if need be. Okay, yes, yes,

(05:31):
those are the ones you want to look for your
spouse in, look for your serious relationships, and those are
the ones that are gonna have the good quality people
in it. All right. They got a yellow ristpan, yellow
ristpand okay, those are the ones that come with a therapists.
I require a yellow ristpan. Okay, we need all of that. Okay,
Blue wristbands. Emotional intelligence very important, very important, very fucking important.

(05:56):
Green wrist bands. Okay, that means finances, right, Okay, you
got disposable income. All right, these are the restipands that
we need. People. Okay, stop going to them community pools.
We need to be at the ones that have a
few more guidelines, a few more guidelines, okay, Because you
keep going to the pool in the middle of the

(06:17):
hood and don't understand why you keep leaving a little
bit of hepatitis every time you go. That's why, that's why,
that's why every time you go to that pool you
leave a little bit of pink eye. It's because it's trash, trash, trash. Okay.
And once we decide that we're going to start visiting

(06:39):
better pools, we will have better outcomes. Now. Am I
promising you're gonna automatically find your person when you start
having better boundaries and going to different pools. No, but
at least you'll have more fun swimming. I mean shit,
And that's the least, the least we can ask for. Okay,
the least. But I really wanted to get back into

(07:02):
this whole entitlement thing, right because I really do feel
like that's a large part of what's really messing with
the dating pool right now, right And it's like, I
think it's two sides of it, right, So like it
don't you can you can say and do all the

(07:24):
right things, and that person could still not like you. Okay.
I feel like a lot of times we had these
conversations of oh but I showed up with flowers, I
treated her like a gentleman. Yeah, and she still just
don't fucking like you. Bro, It's okay, it's okay, ladies.
Oh when I gave him kilchie, Oh but I sucked
the deck and he still don't like you. That's your fault.

(07:47):
That's your fault. Like, Bro, nobody is entitled to give
you anything for anything like are you dumb? Are you okay?
Are you okay? Like? There is no rule bit, no
rule book or set of plays that you can say
and do and guarantee defining your person like, we also

(08:10):
have to factor in chemistry, We have to factor in attraction,
We have to factor in I just don't fucking like you, right,
And I feel like, for whatever reason, people be trying
to shame folks for having their own preferences. Right. I
didn't say prejudice. I said preferences, Okay, because there's a difference,

(08:34):
all right, some of y'all be trying to pass all
prejudices preferences, and I don't like that. I don't fucking
like that. Okay, you No, I'm not even gonna go
down the rabbit hole. Okay, you know who you are.
I ain't even gonna go down there with y'all, but yeah, man,
I just think that these are things that we need
to pay attention to. And once we start saying and

(08:57):
standing on these things, what have better outcomes? And all
that aside. Even though you're lonely, even though you may
be bored, though you're six sitting in the house, want
to try these new restaurants, just want some companionship. You
still gotta date people you like. I know, I know, yeah,

(09:19):
we still got to date people we like. I know.
The holiday season is coming up, Auntie hat thanksgiving God
to you, didn't she? I know? I know you sort
of mentioning pajama picks on black Love Feed and it
got to you, didn't it. I know? I know, I know.
But I feel like we still have to have these

(09:40):
boundaries of dating, entertaining and giving our time to people
that we actually like, because when we don't, we end
up hurting people that have done nothing wrong and who
are genuinely good people. This is actually how villains stories
are made, Okay, Like when you continually entertain people you

(10:00):
don't like and they don't understand why they're doing the
right things and just getting these harsh outcomes. This is
how you create the fuck boys. This is how you
cannot tell me any different. Every fuck boy is actually
a hurt boy. Okay, every whole ass fuck girl is
actually a hurt girl. Okay. So I feel like we

(10:22):
just need to pay attention to those things. M hold on, wait,
let me scroll back up, scroll back up, Hold on,
one second, one second, one second? Who's that? Workman? Nine
zero one zero says, yup, uh, deuce clubs and not
a little bit of hepatitis. Mayam Bird seventeen on one says, hey, Stormy,

(10:45):
are you gonna see Wicked? I did today. It was phenomenal.
I heard amazing things about Wicked. I did not go
see it. I did not have an interesting one to
go see it. I know, I know, I know, I know,
Miss musical thearter girl doesn't want to see Wicked. No,
and I'm probably gonna see it, yeah, but maybe when
it like, come on Disney Plus, ain't that a the

(11:06):
C movie? Yes? Okay, well I'll see it, but yeah,
that's it. Were you saying ten minutes left or we're
ten minutes in? No, it's not so we recorded ten minutes.
Oh but I didn't know should I get some money

(11:30):
in nurse because you don't never do ten minutes, you
don't never do timiduts. Okay, okay, scrap the film. Grow says,
I really agree with your fuck boy and girl analogy.
They are hurt and unhealed. Hay relationship talk with G's

(11:54):
MK Designs one hundred. I love your videos. Thank you
so much. I really just be on here saying that
my head, but thank you. I appreciate it. But yeah,
a lot of times people be moving in like these
asso bitch and top tier nigga energies, but a lot

(12:15):
of it really be hurt. A lot of hurt. You
can always tell because something just peeks through and just
like like, okay, who hurts? You don't start shot said
like the white baby mama, And I'm not gonna get
into it. Okay, hear me when I say fuck it. Yeah,

(12:35):
I'm just gonna say that's one thing. I just say
it's one thing, and that's it right now, shout out,
want to fucking grab his mic. I'm just gonna say
this one thing and that's it. Just do your research

(12:59):
on people, okay, I always say, coming from someone who
is actively giving relationship advice on the internet. Don't listen
to everyone who gives relationship advice. That's all I'm gonna say.
Like me personally, I come on here and we had
these conversations. I say, Yo, this is what talking to
the lady taught me. Okay, this is what I've reflected

(13:21):
about this week. This is what I've worked on myself on.
This is what I've experienced. Right when you start listening
to people who don't have that precursor in their message
and their hell bent on putting a certain type of
man or female down, nine times out of ten they're
full of shit. Okay, s I said, nine times out

(13:45):
of ten, they got white baby moms. I'm not gonna
do that. I'm not gonna do that. I'm not gonna
do that. All I'm gonna say is sometimes shit be
a little food gayzy. That's saying. That's all saying. That's all.
That's all I'm gonna say. I don't know that, man, Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
No shade to people with white baby moms who are

(14:08):
a little food gayzy. All I'm gonna say is, you know,
listen with a grain of salt. Yeah. If it don't apply,
I let a fly. But when you hear these people
and they do not give the precursor of hey, this
is what I worked on myself on, or hey this
is what I've talked to my therapist about, or this
is what I've learned through my life coach. And they're
just actively spewing, spewing, spewing, hating on a certain type

(14:30):
of person. Ticket stop shot Shot. They can't hear you.
So yeah, that's that's all I'm gonna say. I hate shot.
Blird seventeen on one says, do you think it's too
much when you are on a date and someone asks
you what are you looking for and you honestly say

(14:50):
you are intentionally dating? Because I've gotten pushback on that.
Oh my fucking god. Yes, Okay, hold on this. This
is a very important thing, right, and I get this
so much it frustrates me. Okay, when I say I
am intentionally dating, it does not mean I want to

(15:12):
get married tomorrow. Men, why do y'all think that when
women say we are intentionally dating, it's like, yo, bro,
jot the fuck up, shut up? Okay, why do y'all
think when women say we are intentionally dating, we have
already put a deposit down on a wedding dress. Okay,
tomorrow we have an appointment at the courthouse. That's not

(15:34):
what that means. Intentionally dating means that I'm only giving
and partaking in activities, events peoples who align with my
goal and are going to get me closer to my goal.
So at the end of the day, no, I don't
want to come to your house at three am and
catch a vibe. Why because I know where that leads
pound down. Okay, I'm trying to go to matching pajama

(15:57):
season and wedding menus in town doesn't interest me. So
when I say I'm intentionally dating and you're actively giving
up events, ideas, dates that show me that you're not
really interested in a relationship marriage forever, I'm not interested. Okay,
And I don't know why. Y'all really love to spin

(16:19):
it like, well, how can we get there if we
don't get to know each other. I know that, I
fucking know that. Okay, I understand that. But what I'm
saying is, I'm only interested in getting to know people
who are going to get me closer to my goal.
So if you tell me, I'm saying like I'm just
trying to see like, would it be like we can

(16:43):
catch Bob, we can hang out for real, for real.
I ain't really trying and get too serious, cause you know,
like it be sticky out here boy, fuck you, Okay,
fuck you. It could be sticky out here for you,
But what I'm saying is it's not sticky for me. Right.
The next a woman tells you she is intentionally dating,

(17:04):
understand that she's only partiking in people, events, places, and
things that get her closer to her goal. Ain't nobody
trying to get married tomorrow? Shut up? Shut the fuck up? Okay?
Third seventeen on one says yes, stormy scrap the film
Groove says, because there is a new catchphrase every month,

(17:26):
so we confuse the spuck on the churney phrases of
the month. Listen, if intentionally dating is one of them,
don't look at it as a catchy phrase. Look at
it as women are actually starting to have better standards
and make better decisions. And if that makes it a
catchy phrase, good, This is the catchy phrase we need,
my guy. Okay, hold on, wait, I'm scrolling, y'all scrolling.

(17:49):
Hold on. Studying Improvement eight says, what's your ring? Side.
I'm trying to see something. It's a size eight, okay,
preferably princess cut invisible setting a double halo. I'm also
open to like a pair of shape if that's cool
with you. But yeah, that's it, thank you. In case
a marriage minded nigga, I wanted to know, like, shut up,

(18:13):
hold on, yo, I'm trying to scroll back down. Wait
a second, Wait a second, wait a second. Apollo ten
seventeen says, what's your goal story? I'm somebody, fine ass,
fit ass wife, Okay, I just ain't found them yet.
So like, if it's not getting me closer to that,
it's probably not for me. And I'm okay with that.

(18:35):
Like that's another thing you have to accept when you're
intentionally dating. Everybody isn't going to be for you, and
you have to really be okay with that. Like, yo,
I understand the goals and the aspirations we have for
our life right now might not fit. That doesn't mean
you're a bad person, doesn't mean I'm a bad person.
It just means we're not a good fit for one another.

(18:56):
And I don't even trip on it no more because
I don't expect people to understand my vision if God
didn't give it to him. Okay, So it's like, if
we aren't meant to be, we aren't meant to be.
You're just not where I am right now, and I'm
fine with that. Like I've made peace with that for real,
real m. Thank you, Gordon H two two bord to bed,

(19:18):
Thank you, Happy Thanksgiving, Gordon H. Deuce club says sound good,
but women also misconstrue what that means. If I'm on
a date with you, that is my intention to get
to know you and identify more. Okay, So two things
can be true, right, So a man can say, yeah,
if I'm on a date with you, my intention is

(19:39):
to get to know you. Cool, But what's your intention
after we get to know each other? Right, Because my
intention after we get to know each other is to
see if we're a good fit to be in a
relationship and eventually get married. If your intention is just
to get to know me to see what I look
like when the lights go off, okay, and honestly, I've
been in the gym, so when the lights is on
for real, for real, right, Like, if your intentions are

(20:03):
not for a forever, we're still not a good fit, respectfully,
Like I'm just not that's not my goal, you know
what I'm saying. So it's like two things can be true.
Like I said, your intention can be to get to
know me, But what happens, what's the intention after we
get to know each other. That's what has to align, honestly,
Mister Ready said, go bord a badge, Thank you so much, baby,

(20:25):
thank you, thank you, thank you, go hand two one
two six, or a badge? Thank you, freckles. Deuce club said,
have you on the fine and fit go hand brought
another badge? Thank you, freckles. My future wife right here? Well,
thank you? Which choice? Thank you? Thank you, thank you.
So yeah, those are things that, uh, we need to
get to a better understanding about. Right, So all that aside,

(20:51):
how do we get here? How do we make sure
we're pouring into and our intentions are aligning with the
right person? Right? I think that every person in this
world has a good understanding and knows how to display discernment.
But we like to act like we don't. We like

(21:13):
to act like we don't. Every person on the world
has a great understanding of discernment. We just like to
pretend we don't. And it's fine, but I want you
to be real with me, and I'm gonna be real
with you when I say, yo, sometimes we like to
play stupid. We do. Sometimes we just like to play stupid, right.
And the reason I say that is because the same

(21:33):
way you can't eat at everybody's house is the same
way you can't date and give your time and attention
to everybody. Okay, now, now hear me out when I
say this, the same way you don't eat at everybody's
house is the same way you can't give your time
and attention to everybody. Okay, you understand, and you have discernment.

(21:56):
You just becking jews when you want to use it,
and it's the same space. So it's cool. I'm guilty
of it. You guilty of it. We all knowhing before.
It's fine, it's fine, it's a safe space. We're gonna
be cool here. We're gonna be honest. We want to
tap in and say yeah, sometimes we like to play stupid, right.
And the reason I say that is because you know,
you can't eat at everybody's house. Okay. Some people be

(22:19):
letting a cat on the kitchen counter, Okay, some people
watch their greens in the bathtub, Okay, some people got
roaches rowchuys. Okay, you already know you can't eat at
everybody's house, So stop acting like you can date everybody.

(22:41):
Stop acting like everybody you run into is gonna be
the person for you. You have discernment, Stop acting like
you don't. Okay, you know how to make good choices.
I know you know how to make good choices. Honestly,
when y'all have a pot luck at work, you already
know you ain't He and Susan food anybody that got

(23:02):
up my kids have palls or any type of shit
like that, or they work station cubicle. I'm not eating
from your house. I'm not I'm not eating from your house, okay,
because I already know you let your kids in the kitchen. Okay,
I can't eat that. I don't want that. I don't

(23:23):
want that. I don't want that and don't Okay, So
I feel like the ac likeness says greens in the
bathtub is crazy. And you know what, in the year
twenty twenty four of our Love, in the year twenty
twenty four of our Lord, some people are still washing
their greens in the bathtub. Okay, slavery is over. Okay,

(23:48):
you have to realize you can't wash all the greens
at once. Okay, break them apart, and you better have
a separate tub in that sink. Don't just wash them
in the sink either, Okay, working apart, wash them separately.
And if you don't have the patience to do that,
I don't have the patiences to eat at your house.
That's it. That's it, that's it. Deuce clubs say, ain't

(24:11):
no way I need to see pictures of food being prepared.
Ain't nobody's stopping to take pictures of their food. Okay,
you just know some people got it and some people don't. Okay,
my bugs Men five says, if you're the one with
roaches or the bathtubs, then you can eat at everybody's house.
Oh shit, hold on, hold on. You might be onto something.

(24:34):
You might be onto something. If you're comfortable eating at
everybody's house, you probably have roaches. Or you wash greens
in the bathtub, or you let your cat on the counter,
you let your dog in the kitchen getting up on
the countertops. You do you do? That makes sense? That
would make sense. Why you're okay with it? You might
be on something. Hold on, hold on, Rolling Saint Clauds said,

(24:59):
my kid, have pause. You know what I'm talking about.
The ac lightness, says Greens in the bathtub is crazy,
I rob ad on one, says roach Azz. Yeah, man,
I think that we like to pretend that we don't
have discernment when we really do. And depending on the situation,

(25:21):
our discernment is immaculate, okay, top tier, Okay, we are
better than rain Man when making decisions. Okay, depending on
the situation, your discernment will change, right, And I'm telling
you to apply that same discernment when you're eating at
people house to when you're dating. I guarantee you have
a better outcome. Guarantee it, Guarantee it. I want to say,

(25:50):
like I said, the key is to apply that discernment
to all of your life, not just when you're trying
to decide if you want to eat at Miss Lorraine house. Okay,
apply that discernment to your whole your whole life. But
of that aside. Another part of having discernment. It's also

(26:11):
realizing what triggers you, what works for you, and what doesn't,
and being okay with that. Right. So, the more time
that goes on, I told you I've been doing my
manifesture husband booklet. Okay, you know it's gonna be so
crazy if, like, you know, a year from now, like
I got my husband and I'm like, yo, I told

(26:31):
you I was made in messing my husband, like and
if it don't guess what that's okay, and the kids
to have both those perspectives, Okay, thank you and thank you?
Right yeah, Like I said, it's important to realize what

(26:52):
triggers you and things to look out for, right, And
I realize certain phrases really get under my skin, like
is it one thing that somebody says to you? And like, ah,
fucking bitch, right, hold on because my piece of hair
is sticking out, let me put it back in. Okay, great,
there is there one phrase that really triggers the fuck

(27:15):
out of you because it is for me. And honestly,
I feel like maybe it's just me when I say this,
but let me know if it's you too. Nobody wants
to hear. I can have anybody, but I chose you. Okay,
but why waiting' jue bruh. I swear nothing triggers the

(27:41):
shit out of me more than I can show. I
could have had anybody, but I choose you, and you
up here yelling and blah blah blah blah blah, and
you worried about so and so. I could have had anybody,
but I chose you, uh by waiting you first of all. Like,
I'm confused. Maybe I missed a part of this conversation,

(28:06):
but I'm confused. Number one, why wouldn't you you like
it here? Right? I thought you trust me because you
like it here. I'm confused. If you don't, why the
fuck are you here? What's happening? What's happening? What's fucking happening? Right?
A nigga? Tell me I could have had anybody, but

(28:26):
I choose you, Like, oh now I'm going to jail
Like ah uh Blird seventeen on one says, typically those
who say that actually could not have had anyone, but
they want to boost their own ego. I agree. Like
most of the times when people say that they actually

(28:47):
can't have anyone, they want to It's like, ah, you're
right where you're supposed to be, but go off, sis,
let me know what you're mad about today, Like ah, like, huh,
throw off, I'm gonna let you have your moment. But
typically when people say that, they actually can't have who

(29:08):
they want to. But I'm gonna let you have your moment. Right,
you're right where you want it to be. But I'm
gonna let you have your moment. Go off, go off.
I'm here for it. I'm here for it. I'm here
for it. Right. That's the first thing. First thing, first
thing that automatically comes to my mind is okay, but
why wouldn't you? But okay, go off, let's not have

(29:30):
you a moment? Right. Secondly is nine times out oftend
you're saying that because I have voiced my concerns or something. Right,
nine times out oftend you're saying that because I voiced
my concerns on something. And it's like, bro, don't tell me.
You can have anybody, but you chose me. Show me,

(29:50):
like show me all that means nothing to me. If
I'm telling you and voicing my concerns on something, let
me know my concerns are valid. Don't automatically shoot down
with I can't have anybody, but I chose you. Okay,
And Nigga, I'm telling you what I have a problem with.
I'm asking how can we compromise to get to a
situation where we're both comfortable and your first thought is

(30:13):
I can have anybody, but I chose you. Same nigga
the fuck Like I am confused, Like I hate when
people try to be little your port of view or
make it feel like your concerns aren't valid, Like I
brought this to you because I'm trying to work through it.
I didn't give you an ultimatum. I voiced my opinion.

(30:33):
I voiced my concerns. Like as my partner, your duty,
your job, your obligation number one is to make me
feel like my concerns are valid. My concerns are heard. Baby,
we really just want to be heard for real. And
I don't care how minuscule, how minute, how unimportant it
may seem. If I had the courage to bring it

(30:53):
to you, it's bothering me address that shit. Like what
what Like I am? I am confusus Like me bringing
this to you is because I want you to put
my spirit at ease. It doesn't matter that you feel
like it's not important to you. I am your partner,
like we supposed to have a companionship, a partnership, and

(31:16):
it's not feeling like it, my guy, you know what
I mean. So it's like don't make me question the
position I'm play in your life by downplaying my concerns.
Don't like that. Don't like that at all. Right, It's like, yo,
if I tell you I'm bothered out, something like made
me you feel important. Now on the same token, I'm
not gonna go od and be like, yo, unfollow that bitch. Now,

(31:40):
those aren't the type of concerns that I'm bringing. Unless
it's somebody used to deal with and she leaving wild
shitowing your post. That's a little different. But it's like, yo,
nine times out of ten, I'm telling you something that
I feel like it's really getting under my skin, and
I'm not giving you a ultimatum with it. I'm just saying, like, hey,
real fast, I just want to happen because this is
bothering me. Is there any way we can get to
some type of compromise, like how can we move forward

(32:01):
from this? But like you saying like, oh, BITCHA, ain't
that deep. I can have anybody, but I showed you
and now you have no one. That's it. That's it.
Um hold on, let me scroll back up. Um oh,
Roland Saint Cloud said, trying to shame you into submission,
trying to shame me into submission. Crazy crazy. Oh no,

(32:27):
I cooked the wrong button. Sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry, guys.
My Booksman says, I think that phrase says that in
your head, you think you settled for me. I agree,
I agree, I agree one thousand percent. I think if
you tell me, if you tell me like I can
have anybody, but I chose you, you feel like you
settled for me. Is that what it is, because that's

(32:50):
what it's giving. I agree one thousand percent, one thousand percent.
Hold on, y'all. Sorry, I'm trying to catch up my
bad Everybody loves Mouth says, let me have you. Uh
g Wegg says you're what I missed everything you late.
Bru Nia Maya says he chose you like ud Yo

(33:14):
Workman nine zero one zero says sounds like a narcissist.
No other anthony says discernment exists within the capacity of
one's own morality. This motherfucker spitting yes. Deuce Club said
that's a wild statement, especially as a response it's given.
I don't have to address your petty concerns. I agree,

(33:37):
like not only is about titty Swington. Hold on, I
put lotion on my chest. Shaw that's where I fucked
up today. But no, I agree though, I feel like
if you give me that response, it's kind of given,
like it's not worth my attention. I don't have to
address your pretty concerns like peon, like you know what

(33:59):
I mean. I feel. I feel that I feel that
legacy Magic says, not the city sweating, I put lotion
on my chest show. That's where I fucked up at
I'll be trying to be hydrated. She don't call me
and she and sometimes I'll be overdoing it because I
like to be like, if you're listening to audio, you
probably didn't see what I did, but I'm gonna do
it again, right and yeah, that's it. Blurred. Seventeen o

(34:24):
one says, how have you been with going outside? So
happy that you ask? I haven't next question? All right, guys,
So now we're going to get into the edible portion
of the show. So the edible portion is where I
read questions and comments that you guys send in. And
usually on the day we record, I put a prompt
up saying ask me anything. But if you have a
question or a story to share or tell on a

(34:46):
day that I don't put the prompt up. You can
always email me at inquiries at stormypea dot com. And
I'm not gonna lie I fucked up, y'all. I forgot
to put the prompt up today. So if you're on
the live, feel free to type a question down into
the chat or click the question mark right there and
put your question in there and we will get into

(35:07):
it all right. So, yeah, nobody asked this, But what's
on my Christmas list? You say, I gotta get people
in a lot of time to type questions. So my
Christmas list this year, I just started making it. It
is as follows. Number one, I want a fire pit. Okay.

(35:27):
I recently bought some porch furniture and I feel like
the best thing to have is a fire pit. So
fire pit. A cast iron skillet fourteen inch so I
can make that good corn bread. Okay. Yeah, some of
y'all don't make your corn bread and any cast iron skillet,
so you don't get what I'm saying. But yeah, that
honey corn bread, the good kind. Okay, I need a

(35:48):
new cast iron skillet. I have one, but I feel
like it's too small. So yeah, I put a fourteen
inch on my Christmas list this year, and I feel
like I need some new gym headphones. Like right now,
I'm using my aarpods and we be having issues. Like
the left one right now currently is going out. Yeah,
how many of y'all? Left AirPod just currently just dies

(36:09):
whenever it wants to, Like you put both of them indicids,
but the left one just isn't charging you know what
I'm talking about yet? So maybe like some beats or
like some over the head airphones headphones, you know, So
that will be on my Christmas list. Maybe like a
size four day trip to Seashells. Okay, that would definitely
be on my Christmas list. If you haven't heard of Seashells, y'all,

(36:32):
let me tell you. This is off the coast of Madagascar.
It is so fucking pretty. Like this is definitely one
of those things that I randomly stumbled upon on the
internet and I want to go so bad, like it
is so so so so so so so so beautiful.
So yeah, a four day trip to Seahells is definitely
on my list. And I'm not gonna lie something is
wrong with me because I really just want to go

(36:52):
and see the people, like I want to see the skin.
I want to smell them like I want to experience
these people. Okay, I know it's weird. Okay, I thought
this was a safe space. First of all. Fuck y'all. Okay,
I thought this was a safe space. But yeah, I
really really really want to go to sea shells. Not
lie if you've ever been to seashells automatically gained like
four points in my book. All right, so let's uh

(37:18):
go back up into some questions. Okay, first one, what
are your thoughts on the friends to lovers trope? So
this can be taking a few work a few different ways.
So are you saying like people who are put in
the friend zone who then become lovers or are you
saying like people are platonic friends who eventually become lovers.

(37:41):
Either way, I know me personally, all of my platonic
friends of the opposite sex are platonic friends because they're
fucking trash or they think I'm trash. Like all of
my platonic friends that are all of the opposite sex.
We automatically decided, yeah, I don't think this is gonna work.
So like we can be friends because I'm not interested

(38:03):
in you or you're not interested in me, Like my
platonic friends that are male, My male platonic friends. I
have seen the way they interacted with women. Maybe I
would never. I would fucking never. Okay, So yeah, it
depends on what you're talking about. But for me personally,
I definitely think that men and women can be platonic

(38:25):
friends because nine times out of ten, one of them
is figured out that the other one is trash or
not what they're looking for in a partner. So yeah,
I think it's a thing. Can we switch into relationships
after being Oh my god, do you hear Shot? I'm

(38:47):
so happy. I'm so happy that Shot does not have
a mic because his opinion is not valid in this
one moment, because the fuck the fuck the fuck the
fuck Shot? It's like, Wow, I'm a good dah. Hold on,
let me go down to the next one. Uh, next one.

(39:07):
Maulbe Lyons said, I seen that Tommy White Ranger swore
for you. Oh yeah, baby, But did you get it though?
Did you fucking get it right? You saw that Saba,
You saw that Saba for me and you thought of
the kid. Did you get it for me? Yes? Or no? Like?
What next one? What are your goals or expectations for
the New Year, y'all listen, I actually got some fireshit

(39:29):
plan for the new year. Twenty twenty five. I'm gonna
get heavier into my acting bag. Okay, I've been doing
the lightsaber training. I want to give y'all more videos
and more content on that. I also started combat training,
like I want to take this shit to the next level.
My whole thing is I've always tried to be ahead
of what everyone else is doing and just doing what

(39:49):
everyone else is doing, and because of my actual interests
in the things that I like to do, it just
worked out that way. So twenty twenty five, y'all gonna
see more fight videos. You're gonna see more fight choreo,
You're gonna see more acting. It's gonna be lit. It's up.
And yeah, I also want to do more Date outside
the Plate. So I'm not sure if y'all have tapped
in or not, but on YouTube, I have a series

(40:11):
called Date Outside the Plate. I also have an Instagram
page called Date Outside the Plate where I give you
date ideas that don't involve food. Now, don't get me wrong, baby,
were gonna eat. Okay, we don't eat, but that's not
gonna be the main center of the actual date. So
so far, we've done like you know, Longwood Gardens, Eastern
State Penitentiary, of Franklin's Mad Scientists Museum, of We've done

(40:34):
walking Avan, Franklin, Bridget's Exotic Plant Farm, like a bunch
of different like date ideas, and it's not just in Philly,
like they're across the country. So yeah, you know, that's
definitely something else I want to tap into more for
twenty twenty five. Uh hold on, uh my Bugsman says,
what's an acceptable Oh god, what's an acceptable budget for

(40:58):
a first date? Social media? It has me feeling like
I'm stingy less than two hundred and fifty dollars, baby, baby, baby. Okay, Now,
everything ain't for everybody, but for me, I personally don't
want you spending more than fifty dollars on our first date.

(41:21):
Oh my god, jesz, I fucking pick me? I know,
I know, I know, right, I'm actually not a pick me.
I'm just courteous. Okay. My whole thing is if I
want you to spend over two hundred and fifty dollars
on my first date, that means I expect you to
spend it on every woman that you fall or every

(41:43):
woman that you encounter, right and realistically, in today's society
and market, that's not feasible. Okay. I personally don't want
a man who's willing to spend over two hundred and
fifty dollars on every first date because in today's market,
it's not feasible. Okay, unless you're talking about the top

(42:03):
one percent of men. And I don't care who you are,
A majority of your dating history cannot be the top
one percent of man, right, Like, it doesn't exist, right.
And this is coming from someone who dates the average man, right,
And it's like, oh, you don't know because you settle

(42:24):
for less and blah blah blah, girl, fuck you. Okay.
I feel like, for me personally, I don't want you
to spending more than fifty dollars on our first date
simply because a it shows me you have discernment and
good investing skills. Also, I don't want you to spend
too much on me and feel like you're entitled to
anything more than just a first date. I don't want

(42:45):
you to spending more than fifty dollars. Let's get some coffee,
Let's get some ice cream. Honestly, we only at twenty
five for real, for real, I'd rather do that because
I don't want you feeling like I owe you a
second date, a text back, any fucking thing. If I
decide this isn't the move for me, we're good and
we can split admicably right. I don't want you to

(43:08):
spend half your rent money on me. I don't want
you to feel like you got to show up with
a bag take me to a five star thing. Because
now it's like, Bro, do I like you? Or do
I like the things you're able to expose me to?
Do I like you? Or do I like the gifts
you bring me? Do I like you? Or do I
like the spaces you're able to accompany in? Like? Nah?
I want you to know I like you for you

(43:29):
stink like. I like your company, I like your time,
I like your conversation. I'm invested on the potential of
what we can become. We can go to fancy dates anytime,
we can go to a fancy dinner anytime. We'll go
on a trip anytime. Maybe you don't even got to
pay all the time. What I'm saying is I want
to make sure I like you for you, so you

(43:50):
spending over fifty dollars on me isn't necessary. And that's
no shade to the girls who feel like it is.
I'm just saying for me, as a woman who comes
with her own I just want to like you, and
that's it. That's it. Hold on, y'all, I'm trying to
scroll up. Y'all was fucking go on a hand. Let

(44:10):
me give me a second, Give me a second. The
Godfather one six ' eight says, well, we all need
to go shopping from Maagine Pj's and get some popcorns
so we can watch these holiday movies and I can cook.
So yeah, we're gonna eat the ac Likeness says thank you.
Social media got people's expectations messed up. Deuce Club says

(44:35):
Snap Snap Snap, preach. What's up, Chizzo? The Godfather one
six eight says, And we're gonna go to the range
and shoot and go to movies combat classes. Uh Exchen
Hassani says this. Michael Jayden says, that's dope. J Mo
Jam seven three zero says agreed, and going back to

(44:56):
these rangers classes. Right. The crazy part is if we're
in a first date, we're getting to know each other,
we're trying to see if we vibe. We're trying to
see if we want to take this further. Right, the
things that you would do that or get to know
that person in that aspect, In you don't really need
money for a walk along a pond or a lake
or a river, right the gym ice cream, like, bro,

(45:19):
I can tell a lot about what you get on
your Sunday, My nigga, you're getting Jimmy's or all you
call them jimmies or sprinkles, like, It's so many things
that go into this, right. So it's like, you don't
need to spend a whole bunch of money to figure
out if somebody likes you, because if they like you, you
don't need a whole bunch of money, right. And I
know that certain people are going to tell you like,
oh well, I got my own standards and I got

(45:41):
my own boundaries. Cool, that's on you. What I'm saying
is for me, I want to make sure I like
the partner and I don't like the things that they
are able to bring, because if I can't provide that
lifestyle of myself, I don't want it. Like it's a
difference between having a lifestyle that the both of us,
can you know, come together and create? And then there's
a difference between the lifestyle that I'm genuinely happy with

(46:02):
that I provide on my own. So it's like, at
this point, I just need you come into my life
and making that much greater by being you. I just
need you to be you, Like your money is cool,
but I just need you to be you. Like are
you funny? Can you handle my family roasting and shit
out you because they all think they're comedians, right? Like?
Are you able to put in and partake all these things?

(46:26):
Like these are things that are important to me. Mike
x Ford says, you're not lying. Deuce Club says, what
is it? Jimmy the fuck? You don't know what Jimmy's are?
Rainbow or chocolate? My nigga, you don't know what Jimmy's are.
What y'all don't Okay, okay, Sophy, y'all who don't know? Right,

(46:49):
when you get ice cream, preferably at the ice cream
truck or like an ice cream stand, right, they have
sprinkles and Jimmy's they are the same thing. Sprinkles and Jimmy's.
Do you want rainbow sprinkles? Do you want chocolate? Sprinkles,
or do you want rainbow jimmies? Or do you want
rainbow or chocolate jimmies? Like jimmies, I call them Jimmy's

(47:12):
what you call them? Shy Jimmy? Yeah? The fuck exactly?
Oh almost nder the live my bad y'all. Deuce Club says,
got to ensure the basics are actually liking the person
is a basic as it gets, but people skip this
step all the time. Deuice Club says, I'm in the Midwest,

(47:35):
No Jimmy's here our fast what's up, you lay dog?
What's up? The fuck? I know? Right, we gotta start
saying out of his name like Mustard our fans. This
is why I miss Low, This is why I miss
Tower Records, the Wall Sam Goodie Music Store days. Ice

(47:57):
learned a fuck ton about the lady. I agree in Outfits.
The next time you come over here a fucking hour
into the segment, we're gonna beat your ass. Okay, whose
side are you on? Shot? The fact that you are
on out there side and not mine, that's good crazy.

(48:17):
I hate it here, outfit said, niggas don't do prose
no more? You know. Once again, I just want to say,
this is now the questions portion of the show. If
you have a question, please type it in the chat
or click the question box and type it in the chat.
Thank you. Outfit says that part hold on, let me

(48:41):
go to the questions. What year did cash money Records
take over? What is for the nine nine to two thousand? Alex, Yo,
I'm not gonna lie. I really do think I can
go on Jeopardy, Like this is probably one of my
secret talents. I do think I can go on Jeopardy,
And I think that if I'm not first, I'll definitely
be second. I'm not coming in third. Do think I
can go on Jeopardy. What is your take on dating

(49:05):
multiple people at once or you give time and attention
to one person at a time. If more than one,
what's one thing that differentiates for you? Okay, So me personally,
I don't have a problem of dating more than one
person at a time. It's not for me, but I'm

(49:27):
not against it. My only recommendation or suggestion is make
sure you can handle dating more than one person at
a time. Like sometimes you gotta sit back and check yourself, like, Yo,
I can only text two bitches at once. Ladies, Sometimes
you have to say to yourself, Like, yo, I can
only tell two niggas how my day went every day consistently,

(49:50):
so they feel like we're locked in. Like I'm not
against dating multiple people at once, but you gotta know
your limits. You have to know your limits. Like you're
not able to give time and attention to everyone, baby,
this ain't the life for you. And I'm also not
against double texting. Okay, I'm gonna copy and paste the

(50:12):
same text message and send it to two different niggas, Okay,
I'm not against that. I'm not against that. Now. Once again,
this isn't the life for me, but I'm not against it, okay,
because as long as you're able to give everybody the
same time and attention, I don't see a problem. Now,
some people are not good at multitasking. The ADHD gene

(50:33):
didn't bless them, so they don't have the qualifications to
be able to multitask like that. And if that's not
trum ministry, that's okay. Okay, just learn you need to
scale back a bit because everything ain't for everybody, right,
how long do you eat leftovers? I'm meil prep so
a week. I can eat it for a week, all right.

(50:56):
I'm not the one to ask that question too, because
I'm mail prep if need be, I'm going to eat
leftovers for a long ass time. What color are your
tools right now? They're the soft pink that are on
my nails. It's very odd question, but okay, here we are.
We're getting the questions done. We're getting the questions done.
Make sure you guys click the question box, click the

(51:19):
question box, put your questions, and I'm reading the questions
that are in the questions box right now. Baked mac
and cheese or stovetop. I didn't even know Stovetop made
bake maga cheese. I thought they only made stuffing. But
if your question was stuffing or baked mac and cheese,

(51:39):
I don't know. I ain't supposed to be eating either
one of these. Really, it's cut in seasons, so I
don't really fucking know. I'm not the right person to
access What do I enjoy making? More? Though, I'd rather
make stuffing. Stuffing is like I think me and my
grandma used to make, So stuffing is definitely like something
i'd rather make because it's like sentimental vibes. Right, says

(52:00):
shout out to the feet gang. You can go, you
can you can apology. Somebody just called me, but you
can go. You can fucking go. I am Sarah l
Rac says, I had a question for you like two
weeks ago, but I forgot it. Boy. If you know
Lulu nine by four said that what color your tools

(52:22):
was too freaking turn your hardy down right? A Malbee
Lion says, we're gonna have to break all that food
off Friday. Who is we? Because I'm cooking. I'm cooking
for the family, right but I also have my meal
that I am going to eat. So like, I wasn't
joking when I said cutting season starting today. So your

(52:42):
girls one sixty five and I'm trying to get down
to like a one sixty one fifty five, one hundred
fty five pounds of twisted steel and sex appeal. Okay,
So yeah, I'm cutting right now. I ain't finna pick
out tomorrow. M hmmm, Cubag said, girl, don't you gotta
go cook? First of all, I started before I came here.

(53:04):
I ain't dumb, Okay, Like I said before, we're recording
this before Thanksgiving, but it's gonna release after Thanksgiving. But
I already got my potato salad done, Okay. I already
got my greens cut. Okay, you just want a potato salad.
First of all, potato salad was the only thing that's done.
Oh my guide, Oh my guide, Oh my guide, Oh

(53:26):
my god. Outfits as double texting equals energy conservation, thank you?
I agree, I agree? Hold we outfits is. I ain't
supposed to eat these things anymore? Big Vic got the
Bruce Lee back. Now you think you better than us,

(53:47):
shut the fuck up and do yeah. Man, all right,
So what do we learn today, y'all? What do we learn?
What do we discuss? Uh, let's tap in and recap. Okay, first,
I don't think the dating pool has pissing it. I
think it has entitlement. And once we get passed that,

(54:09):
we're able to move on to bigger and better things. Okay,
one of them being we have to acknowledge that it's
not the peed that be getting us, it's the pool
that be getting this. A lot of us be swimming
in these community pools, and we gotta stop that. Okay,
the pools that let the niggas wear socks. Okay, let
the bitches have their tracks and band aids s floating

(54:30):
all on the top of the pool. Service we got
to stop it. We got to stop it. We need
to start swimming in pools that have better standards, better boundaries,
better qualifications. Go to the pools that have a risk band. Okay,
do you go to a therapist? Ristband? Do you have
a primary care physician? Ristband? Are you financially stable? Rispand

(54:50):
these are the things we need to give our attention to.
And back to this entitlement thing. You know, it doesn't
matter if you do all the right things, say all
the right things, purchase the right things, give the right
amount of kucie. You are not entitled to anybody or anything,
or anyone's wallet for that matter. Okay, as long as
we understand that, we will have a better time dating. Okay.

(55:16):
A lot of this has to do with discernment, and
we all have discernment, no matter what we try to
convince ourselves. We all possess a certain level of discernment.
And the biggest example of that is, you know, you
can't eat at everybody's house. Why because some people watch
their greens in the tub. Some people let their cats
on the kitchen counter. Okay, some people let their dogs

(55:38):
lick the spoon. You know that, you know that you
know you can't eat at everybody house. The same way
you can't eat at everybody house is the same way
you can't date everybody and give everyone your time and attention. Okay,
And the next point I want to make is that
don't you ever in your fucking life say I could
have anybody, but I choose you. Why wouldn't you, bitch? Okay,

(56:00):
let's start there. Why whatens you? Right? But that that
phrase never really sits well with me because it's like
it's given. You think you settle for me. I hate
that for you. I hate that for you. It's given.
You're not aware of all the blessings that I have
and I'm able to give, and you're trying to downplay

(56:23):
my concerns as if my emotions aren't valid. This is
the partnership, baby. Let me know that I care and
I matter. Don't tell me you gave anybody but you
chose me. Show me, show me that's what I want
and that's what I need. The last thing we talked
about was, you know, my Christmas is I really want

(56:45):
this fourteen inch cast iron skillet. I'm gonna start an
Amazon wishless y'all. Y're gonna give me this cast stron
skill it please, thank you and thank you. I also
put a fire pit on there and a four nature
and C shells. Y'all, it's s E Y C H
E L L E S okay. And I'm only saying
this because it's actually a really beautiful place. And I
probably shouldn't tell y'all because like y'all like to burn

(57:07):
it shit out. But it's okay. This is safe place
and we're family. We're gonna share, all right. It's really
a dope destination, okay. I also wanted to say this
episode is going to drop after Thanksgiving, but I was
on Live trying to swap my turkey wings for someone's
fried turkey because I never had it before. So next
week I'll let you know if I actually got it,
and yet i's it. My message is always going to

(57:28):
be the same. Follow me on the gram at Stormy
p p e A at chocolate Chip and sip and
if you don't remember anything else, please remember my toes
are soft pink. I love you, guys, and I see
you guys next week.