#74 - Purpose, Pain & Potential: Navy SEAL Lessons with Garrett Unclebach - Choose Hard with Cody McBroom

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Welcome to the Choose Hard podcast.
In today's episode of the show, I have former Navy SEAL, the
leader of a massive men's group out of a church in Dallas, TX,
transformation coach, keynote speaker and entrepreneur of
multiple startup companies, the one and only Garrett Unclebach.
I am very, very excited for you guys to listen to this episode

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because Garrett is somebody who is very important personally to
me in my life. He is somebody who has been a
mentor, a friend, and just a leader in my life that is open
my eyes to so many powerful things.
And it has created radical shifts.
And as I talked about in this podcast, it actually put me into
some very difficult situations because I was ignoring and

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neglecting what was right in front of me and it was
preventing me from really fulfilling my purpose in life.
And Garrett opened my eyes to that.
He has an amazing way of taking words and breaking down the
definition, translating it in a way that you understand how it
applies to your life and shows you practices on how to master
those tactics and strategies to elevate your success and

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fulfillment in every area of your life.
Not just one area, but physical,the financial and the business
career, your relationships, yourfamily, your spiritual health,
everything. It's just this is a very, very
powerful man. He is a phenomenal speaker.
He has his own podcast called The Impossible Life.
You can find him at Garrick Unclebach on Instagram because
he puts out a ton of great content.
And I highly suggest that if this podcast touches you and

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really influences you in a positive way, which I know it
will, go check out the rest of his content because it is
unbelievable. And truly, when I say this, I
mean it is life changing. And I don't say that about many
people. So without any further ado,
let's get into this episode withthe one and only Garrett
Unclebach. The greatest things in life all
start with a challenge. You must accept that everything

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is hard before it gets easy. Every, every, every, everything
you want in life begins with a hard path.
I feel like this is long overdue.
I've been wanting to get you on the podcast for a while, but I
haven't pushed it. You're a busy guy and also you
have so much going on that I knew it as eventually when we

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would record this. You just have more to talk about
and more to share. So I'm really excited to have
you on Garrett. Just for the listeners, Garrett
was somebody that God put in my life unexpectedly and radically
changed my life in many ways. And in in some ways is, is, and
I mean this in the best way possible, responsible from for
some of the hardships that I went through because he just

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opened my eyes. Just so many things within
myself, within my purpose withinthe path that God had in my life
with what I wanted to do for myself, my family, my business,
everything. And it's been such a blessing
and just such a massive change. And it's actually really cool
that we're doing this now because so many of the
principles we're going to talk about today, I can so clearly
see how much they helped me now over this last couple of years.

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So it's just that much more impactful to me to hear.
But for the listeners who don't know Garrett Unclebach, give me,
you know, in a nutshell, who is Garrett Unclebach?
Yeah, well, First off, I'm, I'm honored.
It's great to be on the show andgreat for us to get some a
chance to talk again 'cause it'sbeen a minute.
So I was, I was looking forward to that the most and I do take

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it as a compliment that I've brought hardship into your life
because I know it's the right kind.
Who is Garrett Unclebach? The other thing that that most
people recognize about me or or see about me is that I was a
Navy SEAL. But you know, Nick talks about
this on our podcast that it's one of the things he respected
about me more than being a Navy SEAL was that I said it's

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something that I did. It's not who I am.
It was a great experience that God put me through.
But after post Navy SEAL, you know, I came home and the thing
that I was looking for the most of my life was some other strong
men around me. I had the privilege of growing
up with two incredible parents. I'm, I'm very privileged and I'm
not afraid to say that, you know, Luke 1248 says to whom

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much is given, much is required and much has been given to me.
And, and, and that's part of what pushed me into the SEAL
teams. My, my journey there was
different than a lot of other people's.
Most people were running from something when they went to the
SEAL teams or trying to prove someone wrong.
I knew exactly who I was and I had a great relationship with my
dad. And I said, you know, I've been
given so much, so I'm going to go give back as much as I can.

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And with the foundation that I had what, what happened in the
seal teams is it gave me a very different perspective on my
life. It gave me a very different
perspective on on Kingdom. I grew up with strong faith, but
I also saw some things in my life that, and I saw some things
in the church. I saw some things in
spirituality that I said, man, this doesn't, this doesn't seem
right to me, But what do I know?I was I was a kid, but spending

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time in the SEAL teams give me avery different perspective of
life. So who is geared Uncle Bach?
I'm a I'm a former Navy SEAL with a very unique perspective.
Today I get the privilege of leading men and mighty men.
We have over 400 guys that meet every Saturday.
The last few years I've been doing quite a bit of work in the
leadership and culture space. I've gotten to work with people

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like Cody and his business. I've also had the great
opportunity of working with really large companies like
Oracle. I just did a a year long project
with them on their culture and one of the the fastest growing
businesses in this country and and their business unit Oracle
Cloud infrastructure at Oracle. So leadership and culture work
are some of my favorite things, helping people develop great

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teams. I've also built a few businesses
of my own and started a new business this year in the
defense industry, so. I love it and I'm just going to
say this now because I'll probably reference to it a
couple times. He hosts a podcast called The
Impossible Life, which some of you listening have heard me
recommend. I specifically recommended your
guys's leadership series. I have the links saved on my

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computer ready to go 'cause I'vereferred it to so many clients,
dude. Like the, I believe it's lead
yourself, lead your wife, lead your family, lead others.
Is that right? That's right.
Yeah, I've said that to so many guys.
It's phenomenal series, podcast.And that's one of your early
ones too. So it's only gotten better, but.
Yeah, they, well, one of the, one of the best compliments we
get is we can see it in the dataas people, new people come

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listen to the podcast all the time.
But episode 1, the, the, the downloads on episode 1 is
growing every single day 'cause people come in and they listen
to a few episodes and they, theywant to know more so they go
back to the beginning. And we also reference a bunch of
past episodes cause different than than some other shows that
are, you know, 95% of the episodes on the podcast is just

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me and Nick. And so we've developed a lot of
content and tied a lot of it together.
And so people go back to the beginning and they want to
listen all the way through. Yeah, well, and you know, one of
the things I love about it and what people are going to hear
and kind of see throughout this podcast is your ability to take
a topic, or a single word even, and expand upon it to shed light
on why it's so important and howvaluable understanding it is.

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Like the word identity or purpose or values, which we're
going to get into today is phenomenal.
It just helps so much for the listener to expand and really
learn. But one of those things that I
really admire about you is your sense of purpose and identity
and my perspective on this. And I want to ask you this
because I don't know if I'm correct in thinking this, but I

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know you really well. I know your story really well
and it seems as if at such a young age you knew you needed to
go to the Seals in order to learn what you needed to learn
and experience what you needed to experience in order to do
what you're doing today. Now, I don't know if that's the
case. I don't know if you went there
not knowing why you needed to gothere, but you needed, you know,
you needed to, or you were goingthere because you planned a
lifelong career in the Seals. But from my perspective, it

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seems like you did that so intentionally to do what you're
doing today. And it makes so much sense.
And you even helped me understand why things in my past
have led me to where I'm at today, which helped me so much.
So I really want to touch on youbecoming a Navy SEAL, this kind
of start us into this topic of the different values, standards,
principle, all these things thatwe're going to touch on.
Did you go into the SEALS knowing that it was for

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something greater later on, or was it different?
And and if so, at what point didyou realize that?
So yes and no there. I didn't always know that I
wanted to be a Navy SEAL, but I will say at the time that I went
into it, I went into it with themindset of like, this is my
purpose and, and I'll talk a little bit about that.
But before I, I do that, let me back up to what I did know at a

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young age. I, I love sharing this with
people. It's been one of the biggest
unlocks in my life. I call it the infinite potential
unlock. And it comes from two things,
right? Well, let's, let's start to dive
into some words here. Starts from two things that my
parents gave me at a young age. These are two beliefs.
And I have a definition for beliefs.
Beliefs are the things that you know are true but can't prove

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right. And, and then really the
language is so important. It's how we communicate.
And if you and I have different definitions for words, we're not
communicating right? You might hear me, but you don't
know what I mean. And so it is important that we
define words. And so when I say beliefs, it's
things that you know are true but can't prove.
And I mean prove in the scientific sense that is
verifiable, demonstratable, repeatable.
That's what scientific proof is.And there's a lot of things in

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life that actually you cannot prove.
There are a few things that you can, and belief in God is one of
them, right? I have I can show you mountains
of evidence in my life for who God is.
I have a great belief and and God.
I can't prove them to you. I can't scientifically prove
there's you can scientifically look at at who Christ was.
We know that he existed and and it is pretty close to verifiable

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fact that Christ died, right? What what is not verifiable fact
is that he rose from the dead. Now there's great evidence for
it. That's what much of the Bible
is. And again, I'm just making an
example of proof versus evidence.
But let me come back to two really powerful things my
parents said to me at a young age.
And these are two great beliefs.My parents said this all the
time, like from the time I was 5, I remember hearing this and

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this is the power of parenting. They would say God is a great
plan for your life. Now my, my oldest daughter is 4
1/2. She's coming up on five.
And when I say that to her doesn't mean anything to her.
Doesn't doesn't mean anything. She didn't know what that means.
So you could say it back to me. Just because she says it back to
me doesn't mean she knows what it means.

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And I heard that over and over from the time I was young.
And I think the first time I really knew it and felt that it
like you, you hear it at five. OK, sure.
You hear it at 10. OK, Dad, I've been hearing this
for a long time. You hear it at 15, maybe it
starts to mean a little bit of something to you.
But when you've been hearing it from the time that you're 5 till

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the time that you're 20 till thetime that you're 22, that God is
a great plan for your life. And maybe you start to believe
it. And the first time I very first
mission I was on in the military, my helicopter took
over 300 rounds, right? And, and that's the equivalent
of put five guys inside of a metal storage container and
shoot 300 rounds through it and don't kill anybody.

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It's a they prepared us for everything that we could face in
combat, basically, except for that because you can't do
anything. You're just stuck inside of a
box receiving fire. You can't return fire.
There's nothing you can do. You just sit there and take it.
And as my helicopter was gettingSwiss cheesed, I remember
closing my eyes and just waitingto die.
And, and when I took a it felt like a long time.

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But when I took another breath, it's the first thought that I
had. It's God reminding me you have
breath in your lungs for a reason.
You're, you're alive because I still have a plan for your life,
right? And that is one of that is
that's purpose. The Bible says that we have a
purpose. Ephesians 210 God created us for
good workmanship, right? God made you for a purpose.

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God wants you to know your purpose, but he doesn't tell you
what it is. And we'll come back to that one
in a minute. But that's one of the first
beliefs. My parents gave me the second
belief my parents gave me from ayoung age, right?
This isn't, I can't prove this to you, but I believe that I've
bet my life on it. And that's really what beliefs
are. It's a different way of saying
it. Cody is what are the things

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you're willing to bet your life on?
A lot of people say they believein God.
They don't bet their life on it.So I would challenge you.
You don't actually believe in God.
You like the idea, but you wouldn't bet everything that you
have on it. That's what beliefs are.
And really your life is shaped by the bets that you make.
But the second thing that they said to me was you can have
anything you want in life as long as you're willing to pay

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the price for it, right? That is potential.
So God has a plan for your life.That's purpose.
You can have anything you want as long as you want to pay the
price for it. That's potential.
When you put purpose and potential together, you're
infinitely capable to go out anddo whatever God has put you on
the earth to do. Or, or another way of saying
that is like what Henry Ford said, whether you think you can

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or you think you can't, you're right.
Some people like my In high school, I wrote my senior
English final paper on that statement on Henry Fords.
Whether you think you can or youthink you can't, you're right.
My English teacher said that's ridiculous.
I said you're right. It's true for you.

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I don't think it's ridiculous. I've bet my life on this, right?
This I, I, I've said this is whoI am.
This is the way that I'm going to live my life.
And it has proven true for me. And it, and, and I know it's
some of the lesson that you've learned and, and the way that
you've been dealing with things you've navigated in your life.
Well, the things that I'm going through, this is an opportunity
for me to grow. This is an opportunity for, for

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me to mature. It's not that I'm incapable of
doing it. I'm just going to have to grow
to get to the level that I want to be at.
And it probably takes a little bit more work than I first
estimated. That's OK.
I'm willing to pay the price. So when you have purpose and
potential, you're infinitely capable to go out and do what
God's put you on the earth to do.
And that's one of the first great beliefs that that my
parents gave me and sent me intothe SEAL teams with.

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So when I say or yeah, I I hear what you say that like you must
have known that, you know, beinga SEAL was going to get you to
where you are today. Yes and no.
What I did know Cody is going inthere that like, I felt in my
heart that this was the place that I'm supposed to be and I'm
supposed to go into this program.
And I walked in there with some really strong belief.

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The scary part about SEAL training, this is 1.
I think it's one of the cool parts about SEAL training too,
is that there is no guaranteed completion because it's such an
elite community. There's kind of a a mystique
around it. And there's some some truth,
some myth that the just because you can run and jump and swim

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doesn't mean you can make it through that program.
The instructors retain some ability to be what they call
gatekeepers, where they can lookat certain students and say,
like, we don't want you here. And that's one of the scariest
parts of the training program topeople.
They're like, well, students will ask me how many push ups do
I have to be able to do to guarantee that I would be a Navy

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SEAL? It's this desire for certainty.
And that's why so many people falter in that program.
I went into that program saying,you know what, if there wasn't
amount of push ups, I probably haven't trained enough to be
able to do it, but I know I'm supposed to be here.
And so whenever I did fail, whenever I did have mistakes, I
said, it's OK, I just need to grow.
I know I'm supposed to be here. The people who had bet on how

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many push ups can I do? The day that they failed at push
ups, they said, I guess I'm not supposed to be here, right?
And so I, I went in with this sense of purpose.
And this is also an example of atool that I teach called purpose
compression. So what I, you know, SEAL
training is incredibly difficult.
It's known as the most difficultmilitary training in the US

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military. And there are days that will
test you to your absolute core. And many people who would quit
it, it's fascinating. You know, you have people that
would plan for and work for fiveyears, for seven years to make
it there. And then in a moment, they quit.
And you ask them why they quit and they say, well, I just
decided I didn't want to do thisanymore.
It's not that you just all of a sudden changed your mind.

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It's that it got really, really hard and maybe harder than you
thought it was going to be. And and you decided you wanted
to walk a different path. The way that you overcome that,
OK, pain is really pain is temporary, but pain is really
loud. Purpose whispers, OK.
And so how do you overcome that?What you do is you look at like

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purpose is a path you're going to walk the rest of your life.
And so for me, I, I looked at a moment that was incredibly
painful and there were many, I looked at these moments and
instead of saying like, oh man, the, the, the pain's a lot
louder than the purpose here. I looked at purpose over the
value of my life, not just making it through today is going
to let me, you know, retain somedignity.

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Not just making it through todayis going to help me become a
Navy SEAL, but everything that God has put me on the earth to
do is on the other side of today.
And so I took the value of purpose over my entire life and
I bring it back into this moment.
And so in instead of just looking at the crumb of purpose
in front of me, I'm looking at the crumbs of every day of my
life and bringing it all into one moment.

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And when you can do that, then the purpose becomes louder than
the pain. And this is when, when you look
at it that way, that's how people can continue.
That's how people can move forward.
A lot of people look at me and, and, and you know this about me,
Cody, because we've developed a relationship, but a lot of
people first thing like, oh, Navy SEAL put you on this big
pedestal like you must be the most disciplined person in the

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world. And I, I like to tell people I'm
probably not as disciplined as you, as you might think I am.
What I am is, is I'm, I'm very purpose minded and I, I know why
I'm here and I'm very focused onwhat I'm supposed to do.
Most people they, they have a discipline problem, but more
than that, they have a purpose problem or a reasons problem.
If I asked you like, Hey, would you come run a marathon with me

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tomorrow at 4:00? We're, we're setting off at four
and I'd like to be done by, you know, 830 and then we'll make it
into work. How does that sound to you?
Most people don't have the levelof discipline that they're
willing to accept that challenge, right?
And that would be a discipline shortfall.
However, if I said to you, meet me tomorrow at 4:00 AM, we're
running a marathon. You have 4 1/2 hours to complete

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it. And if you don't, something
terrible is going to happen to your family.
Most people would not even question the fact that they
would be there at 4:00 AM, and alot of people who are not
runners would make it happen because they have a great reason
to do it. If I don't, something terrible
is going to happen to my family.And so I see pert like, you need
discipline in your life, otherwise you're going to make a
lot of mistakes. But purpose is a far more

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powerful motivator than discipline is.
Most people don't have a discipline problem, they have a
purpose problem. When you can get a line to the
right reasons, you can overcome some of the most difficult
things in your life. There were a lot of people in
SEAL training that were more discipline than me and they
didn't make it. You know, you, you just said
aligned. And now one of the topics we're
going to, I'm going to ask you about is alignments.
And I think that that's the big key.

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Like what you're talking about here allows people to really
never quit because quitting. It's not because you're just
this like rah, rah, bad ass. It's because it's not an option
because you understand your purpose and you're aligning
everything with it. And to that point too, if you
look at your habits before doingdifferent things, even in like
I'll speak on work life for podcasts, for example, when the

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podcast guest aligns with my values, my mission, the purpose
of this podcast, I am naturally overly prepared.
I can't even, I didn't even makeit to my alarm this morning
because I'm ready to wake up andmake sure I get everything I
need in order and done the topics ready, my other work
ready. So I'm not struck because this
aligns with what I know my purpose is, and I can look back

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and go, why don't I act like that with some other podcasts
'cause I know the ones that I doand I know the ones that I
don't. Well, it's because they don't
align with it, right? And I think a lot of us do this
throughout. But there's something you said,
I want to say it was in a keynote speech I watched of
yours on YouTube or something. And you said something to the
effect of what I'm going to tellyou today is either going to

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ruin your life or it's going to like I.
I call it the burden of knowledge.
Yes, right, If you yes in one ofmy keynotes.
I have a couple different keynotes that I do and, and in
two of them I'll, I'll, I'll share this with people, one on
perspective and one on foundations of unstoppable team.
I tell people, I say, look, I, Ididn't come here to entertain

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you or to motivate you. I came here to share something
with you. And what I'm about to give you
is a gift. And if you take this, it'll make
your life better if you apply it.
And if you take this and you just hear me and you learn what
I'm teaching you and you don't put into the practice, your life
will be worse. It's worse that you know this

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and don't do something with it. So I'd I'd say that at the
beginning of my speech, I said either pay attention with intent
to change your life or tune me out.
Because if you hear what I'm saying and you don't change,
it's actually going to make yourlife worse.
And that's the burden of knowledge.
It's interesting scripture. One of the things that Paul
talks about is one of the one ofthe definitions of sin is not

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doing what you know to do. And so it got, you know, Bible
says that a man looks at the outside, God looks at the heart
and that's what that's the Lord weighs the heart.
He judges man or or parallel of talents.
He judges a man in accordance with what he's been given,
right. I, I, I look, I hear that
statement. I'm like, man, I'm, I'm going to
be judged extremely harshly. So I better show up.
And in the same way, once you'vebeen educated, once you know

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better, and then you still don'tdo the right things, you're
actually your life is worse. And so, yeah, we could say the
same today. This is going to be a little bit
of a burden of knowledge. Yeah, well and me and my wife
were actually talk about this the other night.
Just the idea of, you know, welldone, my good and faithful
servant. When you make it after
afterlife, like being able to know that you used the talents

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and the skills and really followed your purpose that God
had intended for you. That is the mission.
That is the the goal, right? And so one of the things I took
away while going through coaching with you in a
mentorship was you unlocked all these big key pillars, some that
I quote UN quote thought I knew,some that I just wasn't even

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paying attention to. But it did exactly what you're
talking about right now. It showed me what's my
potential, what's possible, and it really it eliminated the idea
of quitting out of my head. Like my endurance to continue
pushing forward was just, I was unlocked because I knew what I
was doing and why I was doing it.
And if there was these roadblocks or changes or the
path wasn't exactly how I thought it was, I knew that it

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was supposed to be. I just didn't know why yet.
But that's OK. I have faith.
I have to just figure it out andgrow as you were saying.
And I wanted to kind of pinpointa handful of these specific
words for this podcast and let you first define them 'cause you
do so well at, at defining the actual word itself and then
being able to teach the audiencewhy this is so important and how

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to implement it through examplesor just literal practice.
And, and you can take this however you want to take it in
whichever direction 'cause I know you're great with that.
But I have a few laid out identity, purpose, values,
standards and principles, 'causethey're all similar, but
there's, you know, values and standards and then there's
principles, perspective and awareness I put together, and
then alignments. So we'll start with identity

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because I love hearing you speakon that.
But if you can define identity and really just explain why this
became so important for you to teach people inside of your
coaching, I feel like that wouldbe a great start.
Yeah, all my favorite topics so great.
And and most of these topics like you mentioned are in a
program that we have called mindset mastery, right.
So if you go to our, our website, the impossible dot

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life, if you want to jump into this program and learn more
about it and do it with us because we have all the content
online, but we also do 2 calls amonth where people can jump in.
And we have people who've been in there for over 2 years.
And every month we're to like this month we're talking about
perspective. We have a mindset mastery call
tomorrow. So anyways, identity, there's
three pieces to identity, which is your vision, your values and

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your beliefs, right? And I'll come back to those in a
second, but here's what identityis you.
You make decisions in accordancewith who you are and who you
believe yourself to be. There's a great book for on, on
weight loss for women. I'm, I'm blanking on the
author's name, but the book's called Target 100 and the, the
book is actually about identity for women in weight loss.

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Women struggle with this specific issue more than men,
Men, men do as well in differentissues.
But basically the book is about how women will lose weight, but
then they go back to being overweight, not because they
didn't learn, but because that'show they never changed the way
that they see themselves. They always identified as a fat
person. So that's one part of your

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identity. But I identity is really is
really closely tied to your purpose, right?
When you have a sense of purpose, you're going to have a
strong identity. And again, the things that build
that up are your vision, your values and beliefs.
So what we'll talk about identity and then we'll jump
right into purpose next to it because these things are so
closely tied together. But one more thing just kind of

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about the way identity works before we define some of these
pieces is when you have a reallygood sense of identity, it's
kind of like, you know, when youlook at really fantastic
professional athletes or or gymnasts, they have this great
sense of body awareness. OK, Like, you got Mookie Betts,
one of the like most athletic baseball players on the field

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right now are people who are great gymnasts or or golfers,
whatever your sport is. These people have an incredible
sense of where their body is in a space, right?
Like you, if when Mookie Betts runs up a wall and and turns
around and catches a baseball, he could go back if he, I don't
know if he has any ability to draw.
Wouldn't surprise me if he does because he's like professional

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level at like a dozen sports. You could probably draw out by
hand like exactly what his body position was.
He has great awareness of his body and with identity.
It's it's people who have that ability athletically, they're
great athletes. And when you have this ability
with who you are, like you know who you are in any situation,
this level of awareness allows you to perform at a very high

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level. The reason that people first
pursue identity is, is typicallyrelated to performance.
OK, because performance is not just about your athletic
ability. I, I, I listen to golfers
interviews, right? I'm not AI don't do a bunch of
athletic performance coaching. I've done some, I do a lot more
executive performance coaching. I can listen to golfers

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interviews like I'm a decent golfer.
I'm not a great golfer, but I can listen to their interviews
and say that guy's a champion ornot just by the way that he
talks about himself right. Again, that's that comes back to
some of what he believes. If you want to perform at your
highest level and also have a level of resilience, resilience
is not based upon confidence. Confidence is I've made 100 free

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throws, so I know I can make thenext one.
Resilience is I've missed the last 10 throws, 10 free throws,
but I know I can make the next one big difference between
resilience and confidence. Confidence is based upon
experience, resilience is based upon identity.
And you, you look at some of thepeople who have been all time
great achievers, they have gone through seasons or had to go

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through seasons where no one believed in them.
Everyone was against them, theircircumstances were against them,
yet they still overcame. And that is an identity
performance, not a skills or talent OR lock based
performance. So that's where it like where
identity is so important. A lot of people just, you know,
they they, they try to hype themselves up into success.
And then the first time time that it doesn't go well, they

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say, yeah, that's that's what I thought, you know, that's who I
am. I'm not meant to succeed,
whatever it is. But when you have the right
identity, that's where you can be like one of my favorite
characters in the Bible. This is Joseph, and we'll return
to him. When we talk about purpose.
Joseph, it says that he just hada dream, right?
Shares his dream with his brothers and they they try to

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kill him. Then they throw him into a pit
and ends up in slavery and captivity.
And for 13 years his life doesn't get any better.
But in both of the places that he was both as a prisoner and as
a slave. When he was a slave, it says
that he was so excellent that his master worried for nothing.
And then when he was in prison, it says that he was so

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excellent, they made him ruler over the whole prison.
That wasn't because Joseph thought that like, oh man, if I
get out of here, they'll promoteme.
But he was a slave and then he was a prisoner.
He had no path to move on. But because of who he was,
because of what he believed about his life, because of what
he valued, he showed up in a great way.
This is David. David had a very strong

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identity. And and if you when you have and
it says that David had a heart after the Lord, when you have
that type of identity, that's when you get the type of God
promotions. You want a God promotion, Cody?
You don't want a career promotion.
Career promotion takes you from an assistant supervisor to
supervisor. A God promotion takes you from
being a shepherd to being a king.
Because again, man looks at the outside, God looks at the

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inside. So what is an identity that
really comes from three things, your vision, your values and
beliefs. I'll I'll try to keep these kind
of each of these kind of short vision.
This is the world that you imagine.
Vision is tied a little bit to purpose.
It's a part of what purpose is. There's a dream in every man's
heart. And this is what's giving me a

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lot of what where a lot of my fire comes from in men's
ministry. Cody is because I I've seen so
many Christian men that are are afraid of success or have been
told that success is wrong. Jesus was born with literally a
pile of gold. David, who it says that was a
man after God's own heart, was aking who lived in a palace of

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gold. Joseph became second most
powerful person in the world at the height of the Egyptian
empire. And all of these men like had
had a great destiny on their life.
David and Joseph all had great dreams says that Joseph dreamed
of being a great leader. And so it's not so much that
that thing is wrong. What God cares way more about

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why you do what you do than it is that what you do.
But you have to have this vision, right When you have
small ambition, when you have a small dream, you're not going to
succeed and become who you were called to be because that thing
that you feel like is so far beyond you is part of who you
are, right. God places these things inside
of you from the very beginning. We're all made differently.

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We're made with different measures of rule.
But like Ephesians 210 says, Godcreated you for good
workmanship. Before Cody was born on the
earth, God had a plan for codes life, right?
And so vision is part of that. It's the world that you imagine.
And when, when I help companies,what you and I got to do some of
this together. When when I help companies
develop their vision, A lot of it is there's things that really

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bother you that don't bother other people.
And these are these are the Dragons in life that you're
meant to kill. Some Dragons people are like, I
don't care about that dragon. That dragon never bothered me.
And then some people you look ata dragon and say, that dragon
burned my, my whole flock, that that dragon burned down my
brother's farm. I'll spend the rest of my life
trying to kill that dragon, right?
These are things that are assigned to you.

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Says that God owns the cattle on1000 hills.
He owns all of it. God gives specific domain to
men. A man gets 1 hill, God owns all
of them and he says this is yourdomain.
So well, God creates a purpose for us and puts vision in each
of us. And that's what's again, that's
part of your identity. It's the things that you're
going to see that nobody else sees.
But I've seen things that nobodyelse saw.

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Not because I'm some special guy, but it because that's the
thing that God gave me to worry about, right?
So that's vision values. A lot of people talk about core
values. Values are important, but really
values are. They're not so much heaven or
hell issues. They're not right or wrong
issues. Values are what you value that
adds value. One of my primary values is

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excellent. Excellence is not a heaven or
hell issue. It's not a sin issue.
But to me, excellence is doing something in its highest form
and I like I care deeply about this Excellent starts it like a
discipline level. This is what my father taught
me. If you get in my truck, you
won't find trash in the doors. It's not that hard, right?

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Just take the trash out. No one has to That's not like a
level of intelligence that you need to be able to keep the
inside of your car clean. That's the beginning of
excellence. But what I've learned is when
you do all the things that you know to do, you learn how to do
things that nobody else knows how to do, but that's the path
to doing it. And so excellence has been a
been a door opener in my life. Excellence has been a promotion

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path for me to like, your resumedoesn't show that you should be
here. How did you get here?
I was excellent, right? I did, I did the little things
in a great way. That's who David was.
David went from being a shepherdto being a king because he was a
really excellent shepherd. So that's something that I value
that adds value. And then the 3rd part of your
identity, this is the most important piece is those

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beliefs, right? I am who I am, Cody, because I
had some parents who trained into me, really strong beliefs
from a young age. So when I was, I was 19 when I
went into field training, I was one of two people in my class
under 20 to graduate. There were people there way more
physically mature than me, but Ihad probably the strongest
identity in the class. I didn't come there looking for

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the instructors to tell me who Iwas.
I already knew. I knew I was supposed to be
here. And I knew who I was.
And that's what an identity is. You don't walk into
environments. You're not trying to win the
golf tournament so that you can know that you're a winner.
You already know that you are right.
And I'm going to come here and perform based upon who I am, not
perform so I can know who I am. I love that I have two little

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things I want to mention and then a question around it that
might actually lead you into purpose.
So one thing just because I think that you'll enjoy hearing
this, I was actually reading about Joseph this morning.
And also it was by far my favorite story in the Bible that
I just, I don't know, it really resonated with me.
It motivated me. It was just, I was drawn to it,

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but it's the first one I memorized.
And probably six months ago or so, my daughter out of nowhere
was just like, can you just tellme a story?
I was putting her to bed. She just wanted a story.
And I'm not a guy that can just make up a story about fairies
and just, you know, so I was like, well, do you want to hear
about Joseph from the Bible? And I just told her the story.

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And then she was like, can you tell me another story the next
night? And then I was like, I need to
start reading and memorizing. And so now I've gone through so
many stories in the Bible for her because it, it pushed me to
really memorize these different stories and then share ones with
her. And now she just loves and it's
really bringing her closer to the word and in her little, you

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know, Bible book and stories that we have for her and just
been such a cool thing to see. But it started with that, that
story of Joseph. I want to make a point really
quick on that before we move on.This is actually an
encouragement I give to people about reading the Bible.
People ask me all the time, like, oh man, like, how do you,
how do you know so much? How do you remember so many
scriptures? Let me let me tell you how.

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And I think people get the wrongidea about like memorizing
scripture. For most people, this isn't
everybody, but for most people listening to this episode, you
probably have a favorite movie that you can quote.
And unless you're one of those theater nerds who like cares a
ton about this, you probably never wrote down flash cards
with all the dialogue from your favorite movie to learn the
lines. You just know them because you

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like it right? And you've watched it many
times. My favorite movie is the Matrix.
I can quote the nearly the entire movie at this point.
I can probably give it to you scene for scene.
But after the first time I watched it, I like when I'm
watching the movie. I literally know what scenes
coming next. I've I've watched that movie for
at least once, 1/4 I just like it that much.
But anyways, the beginning of the Bible is just being able to

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tell the story of the Bible, right?
You don't have to memorize the whole thing, right?
Think about like you've never watched a movie before, but
you're going to focus on 5 minutes of the movie and just
try to learn everything you can about the 5 minutes of the movie
and learn the dialogue from that5 minutes of the movie.
That's a stupid idea. Just watch the movie, right and
watch the movie a couple times that you're like, OK, I now I

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understand the point of the movie.
When you watch really great movies like the Matrix or like
some of Christopher Nolan's films, you watch them like the
5th, 7th, 10th time. You're like, oh man, I I didn't
see that before. My wife and I really like the
Dune movies. Great movies.
You start seeing stuff on the 3rd and 4th time that you hadn't
seen before. Well, that's the Bible, except
like times a million, right? Like every time I read, I read a

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proverb of the day, right? Today's the 20th.
I read Proverbs 20 this morning.I've been doing that since I was
14 years old. And somehow, like Proverbs is
some of the most simple writing in the Bible.
But somehow, like when I read Proverbs still, after I've been
doing it every day for 20 years,I get new things out of it.
And that's because not only is the Bible complex, but it's also

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the living word of God. And so it, it speaks to you, but
the beginning of that is, hey, just learn how to tell the story
of the Bible. So I I love that you made that
point code. Yeah, that's a habit I picked up
from you as well is. And that's why I actually read
some of Joseph this morning because my Bible has this like
excerpt of like related topic and it'll give you another.

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So I was reading the proverb andthen it put me back into Joseph
and I was reading this summary part of that.
So grateful. And then the the other thing I
wanted to mention just for people listening, this was the
understanding this identity part.
And specifically for me, my identity and how it pertains to
being a Christian has been the ultimate marriage unlock of all

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time. Like there's so many great
marriage books and all that stuff and it's nothing against
them, but nothing provided more trust and understanding in my
relationship than this. Because both of us know exactly
what, who we are and why we do what we do and that everything
is always going to align with our beliefs.
And so that there's not this questioning or wondering or
anything. It's, it was just this unspoken

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level of trust that we hadn't experienced until we both really
started walking the path, which helps so much.
Now the question I have around identity that might lead you in
a purpose is I'm I'm trying to guess what people might be
thinking who maybe aren't this confident, don't understand
their identity, so on and so forth.
As you're talking. And it's this, well, maybe I, I

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feel like I know who I'm supposed to become, but I'm not
them yet. And they're not acting in
alignment with who they need to become because they're not
confident in that person. And I think there is this aspect
of I know who I am intended to be and that is who I am.
It doesn't always mean that you're that version of yourself
completely yet and you have to build yourself there.
And if people to your point withthe sports and stuff, if they

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haven't earned, earned the stripes in the sport or in the
company or anything, you might be that person to yourself in
your mind and to God, but not toeverybody around you because you
haven't earned their respect yet.
One of my best friends, Josh, Pastor Josh, the who's on my
podcast occasionally he was talking to Nick about me
because, you know, obviously as my Co host, the reason the show

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worked well as Nicks very fascinated by by me and has
wanted to learn from me and Joshand I grew up together.
We've been friends since we were, you know, tiny.
Our fathers have been friends for 40 years.
And something that Josh said to Nick that like really struck him
is that Josh said to Nick about me that Garrett knew who he was
before anyone else did. And that is going, that is going

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to be your path. If you walk a with a strong
identity and a sense of purpose,you're going to it's, it's going
to be between you and God for a long time.
Everyone I, I for for many yearsin my life, people just told me
I was crazy and, and there were times that I thought now I
don't, I'm not sure. Maybe they're right.
Yeah, but you ended up walking that path anyway because you

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understand who you're supposed to become.
So, so on on purpose, right purpose and identity tied very
closely together. And I'm going to like the the
beginning of purpose, the beginning of vision, which start
is a piece of identity really starts with this question.
That's a very hard question. Doesn't seem like it should be,
but it's a hard question for a lot of people to answer.

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I've walked this journey with hundreds of people, like help
them, like one-on-one with people, work out their purpose.
And it's fascinating to me. How hard this question is for
people, but it's just one question.
What do you want? Like what what do you really
want and answer that wholeheartedly and unafraid.
Don't tell me what you think youcould achieve.
Don't tell me what sounds good. Don't tell me what you've been

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coached into. What do you really want.
And again, this is like this is some of my the what fires me up
Cody about like how sad would ithave been.
This is like if Joseph was your average Christian today.
Joseph would have gone to his brother's and said, guys, I had
this dream and I don't know, maybe we're supposed to work

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together. If you guys wanted to, you could
you could work for me. I just feel like that might, you
know, I don't want to be I don'twant to come across prideful,
but do you guys want to work with me?
That's what the average Christian would sound like.
They're so afraid of being prideful.
Pride. Pride is dangerous and
destructive. First Peter 5 says that God and

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then which is quoting Proverbs 3, that God gives grace to the
humble but opposes the proud. Not want pride in your life, but
pride in your heart is between you and God.
It's not about what somebody else says about you.
And Joseph knew where his heart stood with God and he went to
his brothers and he says all of his twelve older brothers and
said I had a dream that every single one of you was supposed
to bow down to me. He was unafraid of that.

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And that's the problem, Cody, isthat most men are afraid.
And and I hate that. I hate that.
And it's why I talk about the same things at every Saturday at
Mighty Men that most men are wrestling with fear.
But if you can answer that. So that's really like the that's
the prerequisite coming into like purpose and identity is we
got to get you fearless, which is a difficult place to get to.

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But let's just step over that prerequisite for a second.
Then the question is, what do you want?
And really the question is what's in your heart.
OK, so there's two pieces that creates your purpose is that
like like I said, Ephesians 210 says that God created you for a
purpose. Ecclesiastes 311 God placed
eternity in the human heart. There's meaning and purpose in

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all of us that seeking him and seeking why we exist on this
earth. Bible's full of scriptures about
purpose, but nowhere in Scripture I've I've read it all
a few Times Now. Nowhere in Scripture does it say
Garrett, here's where your purpose is.
Nowhere in Scripture does it say, Cody, here's what your
purpose is. So if God gave us one and God
wants us to know it, but he didn't tell us what it is, what

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does that mean? And means he wants us to
discover it and, and Scripture doesn't leave us blank on how to
discover it. So it comes from these two
pieces. Number one is what's in your
heart. It really is what's your dream?
What's, what's your real dream? Not the dream that you have the
courage to tell people. What's your real dream?
Joseph had a real dream and he shared it with his brothers and

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he was unafraid and it and it cost him 13 years of slavery in
prison and feeling like you'd never see his family again,
feeling like his life was over. That's the price of courage.
But from there, it led on to right if you, if you read the
rest of Joseph's story, he goes from being a slave and a
prisoner to becoming the second most powerful person in the

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world. And you know what?
His brothers come and they have to bow down to him, right?
They, they don't recognize him at first, but there's a huge
famine in the land. And so his brothers and then all
of the Israelites have to come to Egypt and bow before Joseph
to be and to enter and, and to get fed.
And so Joseph's dream came true,but that wasn't his purpose.

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This is the important part, the actual purpose of Joseph's life.
What God used him to do was to save all of the Israelites from
starvation and famine. Now God could have just told
Joseph, Joseph. And because we're going to talk
about Moses here in a second, what God did with Moses, God
didn't tell Joseph, hey, I'm going to use you to save all the
Israelites from starvation and famine.

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And it actually doesn't say anywhere that Joseph, that God
spoke to Joseph. Many of the people in Scripture,
it'll say the Lord spoke or the Angel of the Lord appear,
doesn't happen in Joseph's life.It just says Joseph had a dream,
which I think is so very interesting, right, God?
God didn't speak to Joseph, or at least it's not recorded that
way. But he had a clear dream which

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led to his purpose. His dream came true, but that's
not what his life was about. His life was about saving all of
Israel from starvation and famine.
But what if Joseph had been afraid?
What if Joseph hadn't been able to hold what his real dream is?
Joseph knew his lineage, knew who his, who his family was.
He's got it, Jacob and Isaac andAbraham ahead of him who have

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been his father's and grandfather and great
grandfather. He knows the plans that God has
for his life. And but here's the here's the
thing about your heart, Cody. If you've grown up around
church, not everyone has, it's probably not be better for you
if you didn't. But if you grew up around
church, you might have heard things like the heart is evil,
deceitful and wicked. That's true.
That's what Ezekiel 36 says, that the heart is evil,

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deceitful and wicked. But right after that, God says,
who can help the heart but me? And it's the longest, one of
God's longest monologues in Scripture, the longest is with
Job. But one of the longest
monologues in Scripture of God speaking Ezekiel 36 is
essentially God saying I'm the one who's going to give you a
new heart. I will take out your heart of
stone and give you a new heart. And so yes, the heart is evil,

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deceitful, and wicked. And that's what Jeremiah 17 says
as well. But if you have a heart, that's
for God, like David did, doesn'tmean you're perfect, doesn't
mean you're sinless. None of us will check that box.
But if you have a heart that's for God like David, like Joseph
did, That's where you can say, you know, God, I've taken these
things that matter to me and, and put those aside and I and I,

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I feel like this is still what you've put me on the earth to
do. Pride will fool you into the
wrong dream. When your life is about you,
you'll live a miserable life. This is really the test around
your heart. God gave Abraham.
It was the beginning of the Israelites.
God gave him a great dream, sayslook outside and count the
stars. That's how many children you're

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going to have, right? I'm going to make you the father
of many nations. A great dream that God gave
Abraham. 25 years later, after God finally gives him Isaac, and
then another few years, Isaac grows up Abraham.
God comes to Abraham and he says, you know what, Abraham, I
want you to sacrifice Isaac. I want you to put him on the
altar and kill him. And God wasn't saying God didn't

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want Abraham to kill Isaac. God was testing Abraham.
This is exactly the test that every man's going to go through
is that you would take your dream, the thing that's most
precious to you and not God doesn't want you to burn it.
God's just testing you. Are you willing to lay it on the
altar? Because when you trust me most,
then I can take you all the way.And I could spend a long time

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talking about Abraham and why God chose Abraham, but this is
the test of the heart. God puts a dream in our heart,
but we have a heart that is sinful and and has a constant
desire to lead towards them. And so the only way that you can
use your heart is any form of guide is 1.
It's it's half of the compass, but also you have to have a
heart that's been cleansed on the altar that you've given your

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dream to God and said God, if ifyou don't want this, I don't
want it, but when you can, and this is the this is the scariest
thing. Cody is the most beautiful thing
about God. You can't fool him.
You can, you can fool everybody else.
You can't fool God. And what you, you have to really
mean it in your heart when you put your dream on the altar and
say, God, if you don't want this, I don't want it, you can't

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fool him and it. But if you can really do that,
that's where you can take the dream in your heart and you can
take it to the bank, so to speak.
You can bet your life on it and say this is the plan that God
has for my life. What's the second part of your
purpose? So number one is what's in your
heart that has to go with this other thing, which is what's in
your hand. This comes from the life of

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Moses at the at the end of Exodus 3, Moses gets what most
men wish they had. God literally appears to Moses
the burning Bush and God gives him a purpose statement.
God says, Moses, I'm going to use you to lead my people out of
Israel. That's a purpose statement.
That's what we would all like. But Moses responds the way
actually most of us would respond if God told you what
your true purpose was. And Moses said, I, I don't think

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I'm the right guy. I brick you killed a guy,
Abraham says I, I, I murdered somebody and I'm not a good
speaker. You you're mistaken.
I'm not the person you're supposed to use.
And instead of God just spacking, smacking Moses upside
the head and saying, hey, dummy,I'm God, just do what I'm
telling you to do God. God asked Moses a question.
And if if God's asking a question, it's not for God's

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benefit, he already knows the answer.
The question is for us. And so God asked Moses this
question. He says what's in your hand
Moses, and it's a the shepherd staff.
That's what's in his hand. And he says Moses throw the
staff on the ground. The staff becomes a snake.
Does Moses pick up the snake turns back into the staff.
God saying, Moses, I don't need you to tell me what you do or
don't have. I need you to be faithful with

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what I've given you. OK, and you may not think you're
qualified, but actually shepherds are great leaders.
Moses was the 1st and and God uses many other shepherds after
that. Shepherds are great leaders.
That shepherds staff has the ability to fight off animals and
protect the flock. It holds you up.
You can use it for all sorts of things.
Don't tell me what you don't have.
I need you to use what you do. And God used a lowly shepherd

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who was lost in the desert to lead his people out of Israel.
And so this is like where purpose comes together in your
life. You're probably not going to get
a purpose statement from God, but what you do is you have to
take this courageous, fearless dream in your heart.
God, I feel like this is what you've spoken to me and it's
scary and I don't know how I could do it.
And I don't see a path to get there.

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And what I'm going to take with that is God, what have you put
in my hand, right? What are the opportunities that
I have today? What are the things that are in
my hand today? And that's stewardship.
And when you combine vision and stewardship together, that's
when you get this compass that allows you to navigate your
purpose in life. So good.
So obviously, and I probably should expect this, there's a

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whole year's worth of lessons inside of mindset mastery.
Yeah, purpose. We just we spend 1.
Month focusing on on purpose yeah there's there's 12 courses
so I don't know why I thought we'd get through 5 on.
A hour long podcast, but and again, like if anybody wants
more of this, go check it out. I'm in there.
It is. It is phenomenal.
But maybe just touch on principles in standard, you, you

(50:27):
did touch on values, but I feel like, you know, we can save
perspective, awareness, alignments, all these things
where they can go check it out there.
But you mentioned values. I remember being slightly, you
had to help me work through the difference between values and
principles. So just that understanding for
people is helpful. And then how that shapes your
standards 'cause I, I, you know,standards isn't 1 of the things
in your list necessarily, but there's definitely a set of

(50:49):
standards that you live by and that I think of when I think of
you because of your values and principles and your vision.
So I think it's a good way for people to understand that it, to
me at least, it's almost like myvalues and principles are kind
of my guiding compass. My standards are what people see
it and kind of explain who I am and how I show up based on my
values and principles, if that makes sense.

(51:11):
Yeah, no, let's let's jump in. So we'll talk.
About values and principles and then standards and and maybe
maybe hit alignment as well. That might be a little
ambitious, but let's see what wecan do.
Some some values has said valuesis what you value that adds
value. Values are personal to you.
It's part of the compass in yourlife.
It's the things that matter to you.

(51:31):
Like there's things for some people that like you and really
important to you that Garrett would say.
Garrett doesn't care about that,right?
Some values for you on the flip side, as you have principles.
Definition of principles is principles govern outcomes.
OK, you don't have to like principles.
You don't have to agree with them.
They govern the universe. God is a God of order.
He made the world to work in a certain way.

(51:53):
There are people who are wicked and nasty that God completely
opposes, yet they're successful.Why?
Because they understand principles.
OK. Just because you're a good
person doesn't mean gravity doesn't apply to you.
And just because you're a bad person doesn't mean gravity
applies extra to you. Gravity is gravity, and that is

(52:13):
the power of principles. I love this study of this is one
of my like favorite lessons in history is when you go back to
the the Wright brothers when they were trying to when they
were pursuing flight, the US government was pursuing flight
at the same time and they had a lot more money.
They spent hundreds of 1,000,000back then, which is the
equivalent of, I don't know, lots of money today.

(52:34):
And the US government was spending all of their money
trying to make the airplane lighter so if it was light
enough we could get it to fly. And they, they, there was
problems with steering and otherstuff too.
But anyways, there's a few principles that govern flight,
Lift, thrust, weight, and drag. OK, what?
You get those, right? You can get an airplane 747,

(52:55):
which weighs more than your house to fly.
It's not about the weight of theplane.
You got to get all the principles right.
That's the power of principles. But most people, when I look at
their success, they're the US government trying to make the
airplane lighter. Man, if we could just make it
lighter, it would fly. People just liked me more.
I'd be successful if I just had this.
No, the reason you're failing isbecause you don't understand

(53:16):
principles, right? And this is when, when you get
principles, that's where you cansay like the, the principles of,
of agriculture. It's like, look, I got to take
this seed. It's a good seed.
I put it in the ground at the right time of year.
I give it the right amount of water.
I make sure that it has proper sunlight, proper shade.
This thing's going to grow you, you should pray for your seed,

(53:36):
but praying for it's not going to make the principles work.
You don't have to pray for principles.
You can pray and ask for favor, which is saying, God give me
rain. You can pray and ask for grace
and say, God, I don't know what I'm doing with this seed.
So he's helped me because like, I need you to do what I don't
know how to do. That's grace in your life.
That's God doing his way regardless of our mistakes and

(53:56):
stupidity, right? But principles are principles.
And when you get principles, right, Cody, you understand the
principles of fitness, right? Like, as much as people might
like to think that the world is just mean and they were destined
to be fat, it's not true. You can't defy the laws of
thermodynamics. That is principles.
Maybe life's not fair, and it's not.

(54:17):
Maybe your metabolism is a little bit slower than other
people. Maybe you have thyroid problems.
Maybe you have hormone problems.You still can't defy the laws of
thermodynamics. Your body just doesn't burn as
many calories as another person does.
But it does still burn calories.These are principles.
And when you get principles right, you will succeed.
Principles for fitness, principles for agriculture, they

(54:39):
might be a little bit easier to understand.
But Jensen Huang, who's the CEO of NVIDIA, he was just talking
about this earlier this year in one of his keynotes about how
Nvidia's been successful becausewe've seen some principles that
other people didn't see. He didn't call them principles,
he called them truths. But he says we've learned some
of the truths of of processors and computing chips that other

(55:00):
people just didn't understand. And it's add to a, you know,
trillion dollar company. And so when you can figure out
some principles in your life, you unlock so many things.
Principles are a launching pad when you understand them.
They're obstacles and roadblockswhen you don't.
And I think so many people, they're focused on that like in
in my life when I'm not succeeding, like my first

(55:22):
question is what principles am Imissing, right?
If I, if I get the principles right, and that's where I pray,
pray God give me wisdom. Like wisdom is knowing what to
do. Wisdom is understanding what's
going to happen. Wisdom is what gives you the
ability to see principles. But when you get those right,
you have you, you are, you're not master of the universe, but
you get pretty close. God understands all of the
principles. We could never do that.

(55:43):
But if you can just understand the principles that govern your
domain, that is literally the formula for success.
So good. And it really just.
Allows people to understand things so clearly.
For me, the fitness and the nutrition side is what helped it
click. Because it is like, I don't care
how clean you eat and how healthy you think you are, if
you are not in a calorie deficit, you don't lose weight.

(56:04):
If you're in a calorie service, you're going to gain weight.
I wish it was more complicated and sexy and cool and there was
some research that came out thatdefied all this, but it is what
it is, the quality of food you eat.
Might relate more to like cellular health and longevity
and and inflammation and diseaseand things like that that stuff
all matters different domain right but for but for for

(56:26):
fitness for building muscle, forlosing fat.
It's it's not it's not a complicated formula yeah yeah.
And this is so helpful for people to.
Understand, and as long as you're not leaning on principles
to be successful in spite of your values and you lose that
integrity, like you're dismissing your values to just
focus on the principles to be successful, which does not lead
to fulfillment and true success,obviously, and, and leading in

(56:47):
your purpose, you're going to befine.
You know, this is, I know we, we're running short on time.
So I want to kind of wrap up here, but even just this brief
overview of identity, purpose and and values and principles is
so helpful. And for people listening,
Garrett took me through doing this with my life and my
business. And it has been so unbelievably

(57:07):
helpful to scale my team to create more bonds on my team to
unfortunately get rid of some ofmy team because at the end of
the day, you do have to prune ifas you were growing.
But it has shaped so much for the better on all parts and I'm
forever grateful. So really take this stuff
seriously. And you can check out their
podcast, what they have to offerat the impossible dot life,

(57:29):
because he dives deeper and deeper into this stuff.
Like I said, they spent a whole month on one of these words.
So it there's so much more to go.
But Garrett, I just have one last question for you and then
we're going to wrap up. And that's just what does choose
hard mean to you? I love that.
I would say choose hard. To me this is just straight off
of what matters. Straight out of my heart is

(57:52):
James chapter 1. James chapter 1 says, consider
it joy when you face struggles of many kind because this is an
opportunity for your endurance to grow.
And when your endurance is complete, you'll be mature and
lacking nothing, right? This is choose hard for you.
It's like a lifestyle, it's a mindset.
And this scripture is like one of my life scriptures.

(58:13):
It said. James says consider it joy.
He doesn't say it is joy. He says consider it meaning,
right? The actual considers the Greek
word hegemi. It's a military word which means
to lead or to choose. And so literally in your life,
like when bad things happen to you, right, when, when you go
through struggle, when you go through difficulty, choose to
see that thing as an opportunityto grow, an opportunity to

(58:36):
mature. Not everyone does.
And when bad things happen to you, if you cry about it, you're
probably not going to grow from it.
It's like if I gave you a weightvest, vest for your birthday,
which those things, they're not cheap.
They're a few 100 bucks. I gave you a nice 40 LB weight
vest and you cried when I gave it to you.
You're not going to get the benefits from it.
But if you take this weight vestand say, man, look, look at this
opportunity that I have to grow,That's where you get better and

(58:57):
better and better. So choose hard to me is the
mindset that's looking at everything in my life that's
been difficult, everything in mylife that's a challenge and
saying this is how I get better.I love it.
Such a great way to end the. Podcast Garrett, I'm going to
link your Instagram, your website, podcast everything in
the description so people can check that out and and just
thank you so much for coming on and spending some time with me,
brother, great to see you great to.

(59:18):
Be with you. Thank you for having me.

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