Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

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Can you name your emotions beyond happy, sad, and mad? In this final episode of our real recovery series, we dive into the emotional work that transforms recovery from performance into real transformation. 

If you've been doing all the "right things" but still feel disconnected, t...

When recovery feels like an endless checklist, how do you know if real change is happening? This week Amie and Alana break down the concrete, visible behaviors that build the foundation of safety and trust after betrayal–from radical transparency to making amends. 

Discover why doing all the “right things” might still leave you feeling disconnected, and what’s missing when actions don’t lead to healing.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Are you questioning if your partner's recovery is genuine or performative? In this episode, Amie and Alana delve into the concept of weaponized recovery, helping you understand when recovery efforts may be used manipulatively rather than authentically. 

Learn to identify signs of true recovery, the importance of somatic work, and how to maintain your own mental and emotional safety. 

Listen to learn:

• What confusion is teaching you

• ...

Have you heard about breathwork but aren’t quite sure what it is or how to begin? This week we are excited to welcome Kurtis Lee Thomas to the podcast. Kurtis is the founder of Breathwork Detox Modality and was named 2024 Entrepreneur of the Year by Best Holistic Life Magazine. 

Learn how Kurtis’s journey led him to discover the healing power of breathwork and practical tips you can apply. If you’re searching for healing and clarity...

Have you ever felt dismissed or minimized in your relationship? Have you been made to feel as though your concerns are crazy or unimportant? If so, keep listening! This week Amie continues the conversation around gaslighting in relationships. 

Listen in as she relates a powerful analogy between a neighborhood dispute and gaslighting tactics often seen in toxic relationships. Through this example she unpacks methods of gaslighting an...

Join us this week for a replay of one of our most popular episodes! 

When your partner turns your therapy progress into ammunition against you and conversations become twisted battles where you end up apologizing for things you never did wrong, you might be experiencing a calculated pattern of emotional abuse. 

This eye-opening episode breaks down the DARVO technique (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) and reveals how gasligh...

Join us this week for a replay of one of our most popular episodes! 

How can you trust yourself again after betrayal? Being betrayed by a partner is traumatizing physiologically, emotionally, and mentally. When you’ve had this kind of blow in your life, it affects your sense of self, sense of safety, and self identity. This makes trusting yourself difficult. 

This is a very natural response when you’ve experienced betrayal, but learn...

How do you find your way back to loving yourself when betrayal has left you feeling broken and unworthy? Discover five transformative practices to rebuild your relationship with yourself, from alignment and boundaries to celebration and vitality. These aren't quick fixes, but foundational shifts that teach your nervous system you matter.

What you’ll learn:

• How to realign with your values instead of living from fear and surviv...

Do you feel like you’ve gone from calm and collected to emotionally unstable since experiencing betrayal? You’re not broken; your brain is just trying to protect you. This week Alana breaks down the science behind why betrayal throws your nervous system into overdrive and shrinks your window of tolerance.

Listen to learn:

• How betrayal activates your brain’s alarm system

• Why your window of tolerance shrinks after betrayal

• The scienc...

What does real healing look like? This week Alana welcomes Athina Chiron to the podcast. Athina shares her deeply personal journey from trauma survivor to healing professional. 

Athina offers a raw and honest look at what healing actually feels like day-to-day. She breaks down the myth that healing has a finish line and instead reframes it as an ongoing journey of growth, renegotiation, and moving toward life.

Athina Chiron is a coac...

Are you caught in a cycle of stress and trauma? In this episode, Amie dives into the symbolism of isometric workouts as it relates to the deep, quiet strength needed for healing trauma and regulating the nervous system. 

Drawing from her own experiences and client stories, Amie offers insights into recognizing dysregulation and nurturing a resilient, self-trusting nervous system. 

Tune in to uncover:

• How isometric workouts mirror ...

Do you wish you could stop caring so much because your empathy has been used against you? If you’re exhausted from carrying everyone else’s emotions while your own needs go unmet, this episode is for you. 

Learn why your empathy isn’t a flaw that needs fixing–it’s a gift that needs protecting. Discover the difference between healthy empathy and survival-mode hypervigilance, and get practical tools to create boundaries that honor you...

Recovery isn’t just about stopping harmful behaviors - it’s about rediscovering your authentic self. This week Alana explores how trauma disconnects us from who we really are and offers hope for reclaiming your true identity.

What you’ll learn:

• Why recovery is about becoming, not just stopping

• How trauma disconnects us from our true identity

• Practical steps for rediscovering yourself

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• Revive and Thrive Women’s Inte...

Do you feel like you and your partner are on different pages in your healing journey? In this episode, Alana tackles the challenges faced when one partner believes they've done “enough” healing while the other still feels the relationship isn't whole. 

Listen to understand:

• The complexity and layers of the healing process

• The importance of clear communication and setting boundaries

• How to navigate moments of plateau in your...

What happens when recovery focuses solely on stopping harmful behaviors but ignores the deeper work of connection? Stephen Thomas (coach at Choose Recovery Services) joins Alana this week and reveals why true sexual health must include your partner's experience and input. This conversation challenges conventional recovery approaches and offers a roadmap to the intimacy we all crave.

Learn more about Stephen and sch...

Is your relationship leaving you feeling confused and hurt? This week, Alana explores subtle and overt forms of abuse, emotional turmoil, and the challenges of recognizing harmful patterns. 

Listen to learn:

• How to recognize different forms of abuse

• Why it's hard to accept abuse 

• Practical steps for beginning the process of healing from abuse

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• Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transf...

This week Amie welcomes Isy Williams to the podcast! Isy is a coach with Choose Recovery Services. She has a background in sociology and counseling and has personal experience with betrayal trauma and recovery.

Isy shares her journey from the devastating early stages of discovery to finding new strength and resilience on the other side of trauma. She offers hope to those wondering what life after betrayal can look like showing that ...

Are you confused about whether your partner can help you in your healing journey or if you need to do it alone? This powerful episode breaks down the myth that it's an either/or situation.

 Alana and her guest Luke Gordon (Executive Director of Choose Recovery Services and host of the Beyond the Facade podcast) dive deep into the three essential ways partners can support healing—emotional availability, accountabili...

Are you struggling with patience in your recovery journey? This week Amie and Alana delve into the nuanced concept of patience, its role in healing from betrayal, and how to cultivate it healthily. 

Learn to balance patience with reality, recognize unhealthy patterns, and empower yourself to know when your patience is being honored and when it’s not.

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• Should I Stay Or Go? Struggling with whether to stay in your...