Ever since I started sharing more about my co-parenting journey with my ex-husband online, lots of comments and assumptions have been shared, both good and bad, but mostly bad. It blew people’s minds how I’m able to sit down at the same dinner table and still have an amicable relationship with him, then we shouldn’t have gotten a divorce.
“You couldn't put your egos aside when you were married, but now you can.”
“If this is so perfect, then why didn't you just stay together?”
“Genuinely curious if you get along so well, why divorce in the first place? I just don't get it.”
“If you can cordially communicate and be in each other's presence and have the ability to compromise like this why couldn't you compromise on the thing that caused you to divorce in the first place?”
“If you get along this well after a divorce, then you shouldn't have gotten a divorce.”
Because here’s the thing: just because you get along well with someone doesn’t mean that you are meant to be in a romantic relationship with that person. Yes, you read that right. This is from someone who fought for her marriage for years.
So in this episode, let’s talk about some of the things I did to try to save my marriage and how I arrived at the decision to end it.
In this episode:
- 04:18 - My story of betrayal trauma
- 05:58 - How I kept myself in denial
- 08:39 - What are you motivated by when it comes to saving your marriage?
- 11:11 - A healthier way to advocate for yourself when saving your marriage
- 14:03 - When I realized my own role in the dysfunction of my marriage
- 14:28 - What happens when you let go of control
- 17:32 - Is it possible to divorce from a place of love and healing?
- 19:38 - The turning point of why I stopped trying to save my marriage
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