Choosing to Stay

Join Hali in today’s episode where she discusses how to know if and when it’s the right time to step into couple’s work with a coach or therapist. She will offer guidance on when to recognize if you are ready for couple’s work and how to find a coach or therapist who can provide the sensitive support you need in the complex journey of healing after betrayal. 

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We are pleased to welcome Morgan Ellsworth back to share her groups for children who experience family betrayal. With school winding down and summer quickly approaching, it might be the right time to get your teen or adult child registered for a family betrayal support group. Morgan is offering a $5 per week discount for the first month to anyone who registers for either the Resilient Teens or Adult Children United in Healing group...

In this episode of the Choosing to Stay podcast we explore four strategies for fostering compassion when faced with a partner's lack of empathy, discover practical techniques to maintain emotional well-being and navigate challenging dynamics within the relationship, and learn how setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and effective communication can empower individuals to thrive despite emotional challenges.

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In this episode, we delve into the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma from a unique perspective: that of the wounded aggressor. Beneath the surface of aggression lies a multitude of emotions and experiences. We will explore the deeper struggles that drive a betrayed partner to lash out or to hurt others. We give some practical tools that both partners can use to break free from harmful behaviors and cycles. We explore how deep inn...

In this episode we discuss the unique benefits of group support for individuals navigating infidelity and betrayal, such as validation, empathy, and understanding from others who have experienced similar situations. Group support can provide a safe place for individuals to express their feelings, share their stories, and receive guidance without fear of judgement. We share the many different group options available at Choose Recove...

In today's episode, we'll delve into the importance of being assertive with our needs following betrayal, both in terms of meeting our individual needs and ensuring our relational needs are addressed. We explore strategies for identifying and communicating our own needs effectively and we also discuss common obstacles individuals and couples encounter when trying to assert their needs in relational repair after betrayal.

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In this episode, we are talking about navigating the part of the healing journey when you start to feel safe enough to lean back in after betrayal. If both spouses are doing the work and there is a level of safety being created we might find it challenging to lean back in and allow connection to happen. We talk about attachment ambivalence and I share a few resources and groups available for those in this phase of healing. You can ...

In this episode, we delve into the complex landscape of needs in the aftermath of betrayal, exploring both individual and relational dimensions. We examine the importance of acknowledging and validating these needs as essential steps towards healing and rebuilding. Additionally, we explore how betrayal impacts relational dynamics, highlighting the significance of communication, empathy, and boundary setting in addressing shared nee...

This episode highlights the journey of Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith, professionals in the field of relationships and intimacy. Joanna, with her background as an LMFT, CPTT, and CCPS, and Matthew, as a PCC, CPC, both bring a wealth of expertise to their work.

They co-authored the book "Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time," offering insights and strategies for cultivating deep, lasting...

Betrayal in relationships can leave deep scars, but it's possible to rebuild and heal. We'll discuss the signs and milestones that indicate progress on the path to healing, offering hope and guidance to those navigating this challenging terrain. Remember, healing takes time, but with commitment and mutual support, it's possible to emerge from the shadows of betrayal into a brighter, more hopeful future.

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In today’s conversation, we discuss the importance of creating a safe space for communication and healing. We emphasize the necessity of open, honest, and empathetic conversations. We highlight the importance of personal and relational boundaries. We discuss some strategies for the spouse who has caused the sexual betrayal to create safety and rebuild trust. We also discuss the importance for the betrayed partner to be able to crea...

Today we are thrilled to welcome Ashly Leavitt back to the podcast to discuss how people in a couple’s circle of support can gain some understanding on how to best show up for their loved ones facing betrayal. Our hope is that this is an episode you might be able to share with your loved ones who are in your inner circle and are wanting to be part of your healthy support team. We explore the many challenges that couples endure and ...

In this episode we delve into what it means to be attuned to your individual emotions and needs as well as those of your partner. Individual growth is a catalyst for relational repair. We encourage self-reflection as a means to better understand one's needs, desires, and contributions to the relationship's well-being. We give practical tools that you can use to develop individual and mutual attunement as a part of relationa...

In this episode we delve into some common challenges that couples who are in later recovery might face. We discuss setting a new foundation for your relationship so you are prepared not to fall into old patterns. Attunement and other intentional practices are imperative when facing these challenges. We discuss tools such as HALT to aide in intentional relational and self care when making important decisions. Lastly, we highlight th...

On today’s episode, we are joined by Morgan Ellsworth, a coach with Choose Recovery Services who works with children of betrayed families. She shares tips for navigating difficult conversations with our children and ways to support them through their own healing journey from betrayal. Check out Morgan’s bio and schedule a complimentary session here: 

https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#MorganEllsworth 

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Today embark on the candid exploration of the uncharted territories that follow the discovery of betrayal in a relationship. We reflect on the immediate aftermath and emotional impact of discovering betrayal and acknowledge the confusion that often accompanies the early stages of healing. We address some common misconceptions and unrealistic expectations that can hinder healing as well as offer perspectives on steps that can be tak...

We often get asked by our clients in the early stages of healing after discovering betrayal if it’s even possible to recover.  Today we welcome Seth and Megan to the show and offer a heartfelt thank you to them for sharing their deeply personal and inspiring story with us. You will hear some of what it has taken both of them to heal and strengthen their relationship.  They have taken their experiences and use them to support and en...

In today’s episode we dive into the profound journey of putting down the heavy burden that often accompanies the pain of betrayal. We will explore the transformative power of finding joy in the small moments amidst the wreckage of trust. We offer simple exercises and mindfulness practices that listeners can incorporate into their lives to foster a greater sense of joy and release. 

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Join us on today’s episode where we focus on finding qualified professionals and support teams for individuals and couples navigating infidelity and betrayal. We highlight the different roles of therapy, coaching, support groups, and more. We also provide information on how to find the right professional for where you are in your healing journey. 

Click HERE to search the APSATS directory for professionals trained in partner sensit...