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February 26, 2025 16 mins

In this episode, David Sandstrom discusses the critical importance of social relationships and their impact on health. He emphasizes that loneliness and social isolation can be as harmful as smoking, sedentary lifestyle, or obesity.

Drawing from scientific studies and biblical teachings, he highlights the necessity of fostering loving relationships and offers practical tips for improving relational connectedness.

The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to prioritize their relationships and consider joining a new community focused on natural health.

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00:00 Introduction and My New Online Membership Community
01:56 The Impact of Social Relationships on Health
07:46 Understanding Loneliness and Social Isolation
10:37 Benefits of Relational Connectedness
12:34 Practical Tips for Fostering Healthy Relationships
15:27 Conclusion and Next Steps

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(00:00):
If there was a lifestyle habit that was worse for your health than sedentary lifestyle,obesity, or even smoking a pack of cigarettes a day, would you want to know what it is?
If you became aware of it, would you want to avoid it?
Well, there is such a thing.
Let's talk about it.
Welcome to the Christian Healthy Lifestyle Podcast.

(00:20):
I'm your host, David Sandstrom, and I help Christians opt out of the medical matrix, cutthrough the noise, and embrace a natural health lifestyle the way God intended.
For more, visit chlpodcast.com.
I want to make sure everyone's aware of the new membership club that I'm starting.
My goal is to have a group of like-minded believers that want to declare theirindependence from the medical paradigm and embrace a natural health lifestyle that's

(00:47):
consistent with our God-given divine design.
Now, it's not going to be just a community.
Inside the community, I want to help you go deeper into your natural health journey.
I'm planning on having monthly live Q and A's where you can ask me anything you want abouthealth and wellness.
I'm also planning on having a private podcast and a private newsletter that'll only beavailable inside the community.

(01:11):
And you'll have access to a growing library of online courses that I'm working on rightnow.
I'm also going to have a resource page where you can take advantage of member onlydiscounts on some of my favorite natural health building products like quality
supplements.
and healthy food delivered right to your door.
The community hasn't launched yet, so I encourage everyone to get on the waitlist.

(01:34):
It's going to be a paid membership, but founding members will get the lowest price thatwill ever be offered for the membership.
Go to my website chlpodcast.com forward slash membership, sign up today and get on thewaitlist.
There's no obligation to join, but if you're on the waitlist, you'll stay up to date onthe upcoming launch.
I look forward to hearing from you.

(01:56):
loneliness and social isolation are extremely hazardous to our health.
Take a look at this study right here.
It was published in the Journal of Public Library of Science in July of 2010.
It's called Social Relationships and Mortality Risk, a meta-analytic review.

(02:16):
Now, I'm going to go down to the conclusions here, and here's what they found.
Data across 308,000 individuals followed for an average of seven and a half years
indicate that individuals with adequate social relationships have a 50 % greaterlikelihood of survival compared to those with poor or insufficient social relationships.

(02:36):
The magnitude of this effect is comparable with quitting smoking and exceeds manywell-known risk factors for mortality, including obesity and physical inactivity.
And then dropping down here to the final paragraph, physicians, health professionals,
educators and the public media take risk factors such as smoking, diet and exerciseseriously.

(03:02):
The data presented here make a compelling case for social relationship factors to be addedto that list.
I couldn't agree more.
This is one of the reasons why I say that if you go to the doctor and your doctor talks toyou for seven minutes, the typical doctor visit, and doesn't ask you one question about
your nutrition, your sleep, your exercise or your relationships,

(03:25):
and you walk out with a prescription in hand, you don't have a doctor, you have a dealer.
Again, what these researchers found is that a lack of social connectedness was asdetrimental to their health as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day and worse than sedentary
lifestyle and obesity.

(03:45):
Let that sink in for a minute.
Genesis 2, 18 says, then the Lord God said, it is not good for the man to be alone.
I will make a helper suitable for him.
God wired us to be in connected, loving relationships with other human beings.
It always warms my heart to see science catching up with what the Bible's been teachingfor thousands of years.

(04:11):
The spiritual component of health is all about loving relationships, love for God, lovefor one another.
and the love we have for ourselves.
It shouldn't surprise us then that behaving in ways that are in harmony with our divinedesign will be health promoting.
When we behave in ways that are not in harmony with our divine design, it'll be harmful toour health.

(04:37):
Jeremiah 29 11 says, for I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord plans toprosper you not to harm you plans to give you a hope and a future.
God wants to bless us so that we can be a blessing to others.
Another way of saying that is God's blessings are passing through us on their way to otherpeople.

(05:00):
Expecting more health and wellness by doing things God's way is simply acknowledging thereality of God's design.
We worship God because he's worthy.
We do what he says because we love him and the health benefits attached to that are
simply the fringe benefits to doing things God's way.

(05:20):
I often say in the show, we maximize our health potential by aligning our lives more fullywith God's natural design for spirit, mind and body.
Of course, here we're talking about one part of the spiritual component of health, whichis relational connectedness.
In that same study that I just referenced, they mentioned a study done in 1997 by UNICEF.

(05:43):
Here's what these researchers said, quote,
To draw parallel, many decades ago, high mortality rates were observed among infants incustodial care or orphanages.
Even when controlling for pre-existing health conditions and medical treatment, lack ofhuman contact predicted mortality.
The medical profession was stunned to learn that infants would die without socialinteraction.

(06:09):
This single finding, so simplistic in hindsight or as responsible for changes in practiceand policy,
that markedly decreased mortality rates in custodial care settings.
Contemporary medicine could similarly benefit from acknowledging this data.
Social relationships influence the health of outcomes of adults.

(06:31):
Physicians, health professionals, educators, and the public media take risk factors suchas smoking, diet, and exercise seriously.
The data presented here make a compelling case for social relationship factors to be addedto that lift.
And then they conclude by saying this in the last paragraph.
Social relationship based interventions represent a major opportunity to enhance not onlythe quality of life, but also survival.

(07:00):
Again, that echoes what I've been saying for quite some time.
And that is with a natural health lifestyle, we not only add years to our lives, but lifeto our years.
Now, what these researchers are recommending is adjusting public policy.
I would suggest that waiting for better public policy is not the best approach.

(07:23):
We should, as individuals, by our own initiative, be actively pursuing loving, connectedrelationships with other human beings.
If we care about our health, we should strongly consider the quality and the quantity ofour connected relationships, and we should be proactive in pursuing them.

(07:43):
So let's define a couple of terms.
There's social isolation and then there's loneliness and they're not the same thing.
Social isolation is an objective measure of being present around other people.
It's an objective measurement and it can be seen from the outside.
Loneliness on the other hand is an internal emotion.

(08:06):
We could be in a room with a hundred people in it and still feel lonely.
Check out the study here.
It was published in the perspective of psychological science.
and it's entitled, Loneliness and Social Isolation as Risk Factors for Mortality.
A meta-analytic view.
This is another meta-analysis, which is a study of studies.

(08:26):
Here's what they said.
Actual and perceived social isolation are both associated with increased risk of earlymortality.
The included studies provide quantitative data on mortality as affected by loneliness,social isolation, or living alone.
Across studies in which several possible compounds were statistically controlled for, theweighted average effect sizes were as follows.

(08:51):
Social isolation led to a 29 % increased likelihood of mortality.
Loneliness had a 26 % increase in mortality.
And living alone had a 32 % increased likelihood of mortality.
They concluded with this.
Overall,
The influence of both objective and subjective social isolation on risk for mortality iscomparable with well-established risk factors for mortality.

(09:19):
So once again, we see a lack of relational connectedness being on par with traditionalrisk factors for health like obesity and sedentary lifestyle.
Proverb 1722 says, a cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up thebones.
And then we see in Psalm 34 18, the Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those whoare questioned spirit.

(09:47):
The saving we're talking about here is not salvation.
It's providing relational connectedness and comfort to lonely hurting people.
God wants to be our comforter and the remedy to our despair, but he also works throughpeople just saying, well, I have Jesus, that should be enough.

(10:08):
That's not true.
Again, it is not good that the man be alone.
God wants to involve people as part of the solution to our aloneness.
So why is relational connectedness so beneficial?
Well, for starters, it lowers stress hormones, particularly cortisol and adrenaline.

(10:30):
Studies have demonstrated that social support and positive relationships can buffer thestress response.
chronic stress can wreak havoc on the body, contributing to a host of health problems.
We've talked about this many times on the show.
Improved immune function.
People with strong social networks tend to have better immune responses.

(10:52):
They're less susceptible to viral infections and they recover more quickly when they doget sick.
Better cardiovascular health.
Strong relationships are linked to lower blood pressure and subsequent lower risk of heartdisease.
It also improves heart rate variability.
Now I talked about heart rate variability on previous episodes, but real quick as areview, when we inhale, our heart rate increases because we're experiencing more of our

(11:20):
sympathetic activation of the nervous system, our fight or flight.
And then as we exhale, our body relaxes in the rest and digest mode and our heart rateslows down.
Now the greater the variability between those two extremes,
the more healthy we are.
It's an excellent measure for understanding how healthy we are on a day-to-day basis.

(11:43):
Relational connectedness improves our heart rate variability, which is a very importantmarker for overall health.
Relationships have a positive impact on sleep.
Social support can improve sleep quality and reduce sleep disturbances.
That's likely because feeling connected and supported

(12:04):
reduces stress and anxiety which are common contributors to poor sleep.
Now as always on the show, I don't want to just be an armchair quarterback and point outthe problems, but I want to offer you some action items so that you can do something about
those problems.
So here's some practical tips for fostering better, healthier relationships.

(12:25):
Prioritize quality time with loved ones.
We can be physically present, but mentally and emotionally absent.
Right now, I need to hear this message personally, because I've noticed of late that I amphysically present with my family a lot of the times, but I'm mentally distracted.
And there's been a few comments from the kids and the wife that tell me that, you know,it's true.

(12:49):
If I'm experiencing the same thing with a number of different people, the commondenominator is me.
So I have to work on this just as much as anybody else.
Be emotionally present, not just physically present.
Something I'm working on myself.
We can join a church or a community group.
Get involved in a small group of church would be a great idea.

(13:10):
We could use a website like Meetup to find people in our area that share a hobby or acommon interest, something we enjoy.
Sharing your passion with other like-minded people will naturally lead to more relationalconnectedness.
We can volunteer in our community.
It truly is more blessed to give than it is to receive.

(13:33):
Another thing we can do is practice active listening and empathy.
If we want to have friends, we've got to be willing to be a friend first.
One of the best ways to do that is to be a good listener.
There is a big one, forgive and seek reconciliation.
That's a big one.

(13:53):
We don't have time to go into all of this right now.
There'll have to be another episode.
In fact, that's what I think the next episode should be about.
We'll be talking about forgiveness next week.
For now, believe me when I tell you withholding forgiveness or practicing unforgiveness islike drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

(14:15):
Mark Twain said, forgiveness is the fragrance the rose gives off to the heel that crushedit.
Forgiveness is a big one.
This is something we all need to work on.
I'll put a link in the show notes page on my website.
where you can go there and download a free chapter on forgiveness from my book, TheChristian's Guide to Holistic Health.

(14:35):
Go to my website chlpodcast.com forward slash one seven three, and you can pick up a freecopy right there.
Another thing we can do is set healthy boundaries.
It's not beneficial to our health when we allow other people to consistently takeadvantage of us.
Some of us need to learn how to say no in a loving way.

(14:58):
You also might want to seek professional counseling.
If you struggle with relationships, it's going to take some serious reflection and perhapsrearranging of your priorities.
Oftentimes, a godly counselor can see things that we don't.
I find it very helpful at times to talk with a counselor.
I personally benefited from this practice a great deal.

(15:21):
I highly encourage you to find a godly counselor and seek out their wisdom.
So make sure to tune in to next week's episode where I'll be talking about forgiveness,which is kind of the other side to the relationship coin.
And once again, I encourage everybody to get on the waitlist for the new membership clubor online community that I'm working on.

(15:41):
By getting on the waitlist now, you'll be notified when the launch date approaches andyou'll have a chance to sign up to become a founding member.
Founding members will lock in the lowest price that will ever be available for themembership, but that window won't be open for long.
So get signed up on the waitlist today.
Go to my website, chlpodcast.com forward slash membership and get signed up right now.

(16:03):
You can sign up there and I'll keep you up to date as launch date approaches.
That's all for this week.
For more, go to chlpodcast.com.
Thank you for listening.
I appreciate you.
Go out there and live abundantly.
I'll talk with you next week.
Be blessed.
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