August 18, 2025 • 34 mins
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We explore God's divine wisdom on marital fidelity and how to protect our relationships from the destructive forces of temptation and adultery through Proverbs 5.
• Understanding God's priority structure: God first, spouse second, children third, then work and ministry
• How misaligned priorities create vulnerability to affairs and temptation
• Affairs don't "just happen" but are deliberately pursued through a series of choices
• The importance of avoiding environments and relationships that invite temptation
• Why modesty matters in protecting not just your marriage but others' marriages
• Recognizing the workplace as a common setting for developing inappropriate relationships
• The beauty of marital intimacy as God designed it—"be intoxicated always with her love"
• The consequences of infidelity: "His own iniquities will capture him"
• How forgiveness and proper alignment can restore damaged relationships
Join us each weekday morning for our three battles: cultivating humility and gratitude, pursuing relationship with God through His Word, and praying for one another as we lock our shields of faith together.
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Speaker 1 (00:27):
Welcome to your daily battle where we do a Bible
study and fight three battlesevery morning, monday through
Friday.
Here we fight to get a humbleand grateful heart aligned on
the Lord.
That's battle number one,meaning that we are y'all,
particularly the United States,but in the first world we are
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very entitled.
But in the first world we arevery entitled and have a really
easy way of feeling sorry forourselves.
So the first step is getting aproper alignment to God, coming
to God on your knees andgratitude rather than
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expectation.
That is the key to ourrelationship with God is to come
humbly in gratitude because wedeserve nothing.
Good morning, my love.
Battle two we deliberatelypursue a relationship with our
Lord and Savior and Creator bystudying his holy word and
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through prayer.
And then three, we go to warfor each other, we lock our
shields of faith and we prayprayers of intercession and
protection and peace for eachother.
All right, that's what we dohere.
This is about a 30-minute show.
So glad you joined us andyou're sharing.
And you're sharing, hopefully,your first cup of coffee with us
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and give your first cup ofcoffee to God and you'll always
get in the word.
Okay, I know if you're like acoffee addict like myself, that
if I tie this to God then I willnever miss my Bible, right?
So, again, I'm so glad you'rehere.
We have been doing this nowsince Monday.
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We're in the book of Proverbs,which, if you missed a day, it's
no big deal.
You can go back and catch themall and rewatch them all.
Right, we are in Proverbs 5today.
Today, which is, proverbs arebasically wisdom, okay, and you
know we've gone through verse 4and number 5.
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You're going to see which isvery important is we're going to
talk about adultery andavoiding temptation um, which
been sprinkled throughout a lotof these already, but it's
repeated a lot.
It's because it's important andGod knows, we have enough
divorce and enough fidelity inall of our lives, right?
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So let's go ahead and let'spray it in Heavenly Father.
Lord, we thank you, thank youfor giving us another day to get
it right.
Lord, we thank you for theprotections that you had over us
last night, protecting us andour family, our homes.
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Lord, I pray that this timewould bless you, this time would
please you, this time wouldhonor you and only you.
Lord, we're so grateful foryour grace, your divine grace,
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which calls us to you, gives usaccess to you, cleanses us from
our sin and unites us with you,and also your common grace, your
creation, lord.
We thank you for the heavens andstars, and sun, the moon.
We thank you for this earth,from everything in it, from the
tallest peaks to the deepestocean, everything in between the
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animals and the plant life andeverything in between that you
made.
That is good, that is good,lord.
We thank you for sunrises andsunsets.
How beautiful they are.
Thank you for the smell offresh morning rain, flowers.
We thank you for the sound ofwaves breaking on the shore and
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children's laughter.
We thank you for the taste ofgood food and drink.
We thank you for a cool breezeon a hot day like we have here
in the summer now, A warm firecaught in the heat of a warm
fire on a cold day.
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Lord, we thank you for everyonein our lives.
Help us to treasure everymoment of people around us, or
they can be gone in a blink ofan eye.
Help us to leave nothing unsaid.
Help us to always be present.
Help us to love, like you.
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Truth, lord, I pray that youwould be with us during this
time.
Give us discernment in yourword In Jesus' name.
We pray amen.
All right, battle number onedone.
Hey, how's it going there?
We go.
Hello, tanya, daniel, and Ihope I pronounced that right
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Welcome.
So battle number one done.
Let's go ahead and go to battlenumber two, which is pursuing a
relationship with God, studyinghis word, and I'm going to be
reading out of the LegacyStandard Bible.
I just, I love, I love my ESVStudy Bible.
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It is as the best study notes.
I find they're second to noneon so many things, but I just
find the language of the LegacyStandard Bible it's just more
appealing to my way.
I read in my mind and, and it'sso.
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So we're gonna be doing out ofthat.
But the study notes and a lotof commentary I'm using is
usually out of the ESV.
So, hey, good morning Michael.
Good to see you brother.
See you brother.
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Greetings from Pakistan.
Well, hey, awesome, be safe,michael.
Good to see you, anotherbrother in Christ.
So let's go ahead and get intohis word.
Now we're in Proverbs, chapter 5, okay, and this is a very
important bit of wisdom from God.
So, warning against adultery,my son, pay attention to my
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wisdom, incline your ear to mydiscernment.
That you may keep discretion,that your lips may guard
knowledge.
Okay.
And now we're going to get intowhat we're warning against.
Well, the lips of a strangewoman drip honey, okay.
And now we're going to get intowhat we're warning against.
Well, the lips of a strangewoman drip honey.
Smoother than oil is her speech, but her end is bitter as
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wormwood.
Now, wormwood is very, verybitter to the taste.
It's a plant which is extremelybitter that none of us have
probably ever seen but that'swhat they're referring to there
and sharp as a two-edged sword.
Her feet go down to death.
Her steps take hold of shield,which is an oral of the dead
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biblical times, lest she watchthe path of life.
Her tracks are unstable.
She does not know it.
As you see, and we see this asparticularly as we mature in our
relationships, right, as wemature in our relationships as
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two imperfect, perfect peoplebecome married and become one
flesh in the covenant under God,god particularly, you know if,
if you guys aren't, you know,biblically, worldview, walking
out Christians, that we tend towound each other an awful lot.
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Even as Christians, we woundeach other and we acquire scars
and we acquire baggage.
And the beauty of the gospel iswhen you're walking out a
biblical worldview and actuallyapplying the Bible to your life,
you find that you are givinggrace and those wounds don't
stack up.
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But if you are walking in aChristian light or a
non-Christian relationship, yourtraumas stack up, your traumas
and your wounds stack up andstack up and stack.
They're all like knife wounds.
They're cuts that are not beingsealed and you're bleeding from
a million different placesuntil eventually the life runs
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out of your marriage, right, andas we wound ourselves and as we
go through life with childrenright, you know life is easy
till kids.
All right, life is easy to kids.
You know it's.
You can focus on your wife andyour wife can focus on you, can
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focus on you, and you know, andit's a wonderful time of all the
best, a lot of the not all thebest things, but a lot of great
things happen during that period, and then you have kids and
then you lose sleep and then youyou start.
Unfortunately, this happens fartoo often.
The.
The relationship that we haveGod designed was both husband
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and wife, should be as followstheir top relationship, their
top priority, is God.
Okay, so, top of the chain ofcommand, god.
Then is your spouse, yourhusband or wife.
Then is your children, then isyour job, and because he who
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does not provide for his familyis worse than an infidel,
meaning if you don't provide,that's the Bible I just quoted
there.
If you don't provide for yourfamily, you are worse than an
unbeliever.
If you don't provide for yourfamily, nothing else matters.
Okay, you are worse than anunbeliever.
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Okay, and then comes yourministry.
All right if you're as aChristian, right.
So your first ministry, right,obviously your ministry isn't
with God.
God is ministering to youthrough the Holy Spirit.
After that it is youministering to your wife or your
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husband.
Right, that is your second,that is your top ministry.
Then it is your children,passing on your Christian
identity to your children.
You know the Catholics get thispart, have a lot easier time
with this.
I'm not saying they get itright and that's the mistake,
because I don't believe that,I'm not a Catholic.
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But when you have priests andnuns, it's easy to do ministry
all the time because you have noother allegiance.
Okay, it's just you and God.
And then it goes right to workright in your ministry, and
that's that model.
Okay, and you can see how thatall are parents and all you who
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are married out there can seehow that is a lot simpler,
because the rest of us have God,spouse right, then children
right.
So now you're there.
Then children right.
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So now you're there.
Then your work and ministry andeverything else.
And what we find too often withChristian we'll call them
leaders, pastors, ministers,whatever you want to call them.
Whatever you want to call themis that they go God and then
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they go ministry and theirfamilies are a complete
catastrophe.
Complete catastrophe.
Right, because they didn't havethe proper alignment.
Your ministry gets what's leftover from your family.
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Now, if you're a master, thisis why teachers and pastors
should be so rare, because inorder to be able to have enough
left over to be productive, youhave to be a really good
discipler.
You have to have, you know theBible says you have to disciple
your children.
You want to be a pastor?
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You have to.
You know, have to have passedon your Christian identity to
your family first, because yourfamily knows who you are and
your wife knows who you arebetter than anyone, and if they
aren't buying what you're doing,then your walk is inconsistent
and you've got no businessteaching anyone else.
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So again, that was a reallylong-winded way to get in here,
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the strange woman.
So as we acquire these wounds,we get exhausted with family and
often the wife's priority thehusband's priority, right is
he's trying to make a living andyou know he's trying to
disciple his familyappropriately.
If he's aligned to God, he'sdoing that first, before work.
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But the wife often replaces thehusband as her top priority and
puts the kids over there.
And what happens with that isnow there's a misalignment.
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Now there is a betrayal.
A betrayal where the two becomeone flesh is now something else
.
There's an idol between themand it's the children.
Now, children are veryimportant and they are needed
and they are not independent andthey are all those things.
It's a team effort and Iunderstand that, but you must
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remember that your spouse isyour wife or your husband is the
next person that's important toyou after God.
If you don't do that, you'regoing to have problems in your
marriage and you're going toacquire wounds.
Many people don't do that andthe kids become their passion
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and the husband is pushed to theside and the husband feels
neglected.
The husband feels like he can'tdo anything right, the wife's
in rebellion and the house is inrebellion because we're already
out of alignment Right.
The husband is going and dyingto self.
He's out there trying to earn.
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He's trying to do this.
He can only have maritalrelations with one person in the
entire family, or, sorry, inthe entire world, and that's his
wife.
And his wife is pouring outeverything she has but nothing
left over to her, to the kids.
How often this is because thehusband is neglectful and the
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husband isn't doing his partwith the kids as well.
So again, this isn't one sidedon the wife, and the wife is
exhausted because she's got totake care of the kids, because
they can't take care ofthemselves, and there's nothing
left for the husband because thehusband isn't giving her space
enough and enough relief to saveenergy for him.
So I'm not saying that, but thisis how people trip and fall
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into marital affairs.
And they don't trip and fall init, they actually deliberately
pursue and they say, oh, it justhappened.
No, no, no, no Affairs and allthese other things don't trip
and fall on it, they actuallydeliberately pursue and they say
, oh, it just happened.
No, no, no, no Affairs and allthese other things don't just
happen, they are deliberatelypursued.
Because what happens is andI've used this analogy and I'm
stealing it from Paul Washerwhen you're walking along and
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all of a sudden a cobra comes up, what that cobra is, that
temptation?
It's sin, it's death incarnate.
When a cobra comes up, you cando one thing.
You've got a couple seconds tomake a decision.
If you've got a machete, youcan cut its head off, right.
You can kill that sin or youhave to run from it.
But you don't sit there andadmire it, you don't play with
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it, you don't converse with it,you don't hang with it.
You don't converse with it, youdon't hang around it and
befriend it.
Right, because it is sin, it isdeath, and that's what we see
happen time and time again, forboth men and women.
Now this is talking to sonsabout temptress of war, because
a woman, a foreign woman and Idon't mean like foreign out of
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country, but the forbidden womanshe doesn't have any baggage
with you, yet she gets to seethe best of you.
She's going to say you'reamazing and you're awesome and
this and that Because you'restill putting your best foot
forward with her and she'sputting her best foot forward.
So all the baggage that youhave with your family and your
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wife is not there and you'refeeling neglected and betrayed
by your significant other andthis next person thinks you're
just awesome, right, that'swhere those honeyed words lips
drip honey and smoother than oilis her speech.
And that's why men who justwant to be appreciated and
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respected and and yes havephysical needs, just as women
have physical needs.
You guys shouldn't be denyingeach other.
It drives significant otherinto, unfortunately, infidelity.
So we must avoid the temptation, which is what this and all the
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other Proverbs go on.
And I know I'm really breakingthis down because it's really
important who we spend timearound.
You know you put.
You know women who work anddon't stay home.
They are around men at work allthe time and they're serving to
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bosses and they're doing bossestrips.
And there's this misalignmentnow, because now the husband is
in charge at home but the bossis in charge of work.
But work is where she spendsmost of her life and you can see
how that can lead to a problemand why so many affairs happen
at work and in recreation.
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You know going to the gym howmany affairs have started there.
You know going to the gym howmany affairs have started there.
And again, this is a way oflife.
Women dress modestly to notinduce temptation for yourself
and for men.
Men do the same.
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You can tell an awful lot aboutsomebody in their Christian
walk based upon everything aboutthem.
They're beacons of light.
Are they beacons of sensualitywhen they're walking around?
I mean, you know, today I seepeople who call themselves
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Christians with their boobshanging out all over social
media and in yoga pants withtheir labia showing.
I have no business seeing thatas not your husband, and it
shows where you prioritize yoursensuality and your loyalties.
So you know, I go to the gymwhere I work out here and I try
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not.
You know, it is immodest weareverywhere, whereas if you look
at my wife, when she works out,she's in a T-shirt, a loose
T-shirt, and a pair of like gymshorts where you can't see all
of her body parts.
Why is that so hard?
Why must you walk around in inpornographic nature in the gym?
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It doesn't make you faster, itdoesn't make you stronger, it
doesn't make you stronger.
It doesn't make any of thosethings my wife said a lot of
women joke about having a workhusband.
That's where it starts, exactly, exactly.
So again, let's get back intothe text.
You know I got sidetrackedthere, but I think it's really
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important that there is a lot ofbad, like most mortal sins.
There is a lot of bad decisionsthat lead you to that.
All right, her tracks areunstable and she doesn't know it
.
She doesn't even know, shedoesn't have a discernment,
she's not close enough to God,she's not walking it out a
biblical worldview to the pointand she hasn't gone through
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enough sanctification.
No, she's even wrong sometimes.
Now, picking up in verse 7.
Now, my sons, listen to me.
Do not turn away from the wordsof my mouth.
Keep your way far from herAgain, stay away.
Do not go near the door of herhouse.
And again, we're setting thelimits.
Don't go where you're going tobe tempted.
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And again, we're setting thelimits.
Don't go where you're gonna betempted.
Don't go where you're gonna betempted.
Don't invite people into yourcircle that are tempting.
You want to help and Iunderstand you know, and
particularly like when I'mdealing with a woman who's
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struggling and seekingministerial help, I often turn
them, if it's not a quick fix,over to Lauren Because, like
Votie Bauckham and others, theywon't even close the door of
their office with a woman intheir office to avoid the
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appearance of impropriety.
So, again, avoid even theirdoor.
Keep your way far from her anddo not go near the door, door of
her house, lest you give yoursplendor to others and your
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years to the cruel one, leststrangers be satisfied with you
by your strength and yourpainful and by your painful
labor those in the house of aforeigner.
We're talking about the sideeffects of what happens when
you're giving all of yourresources to the forbidden woman
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.
If you look over here, this isthe ESV that I'm showing on the
screen now, the slightdifferences in language.
This is the ESV that I'mshowing on the screen now, the
slight differences in language.
I pick it up in verse 11.
And you groan at the end, atyour end, when your flesh and
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your body are consumed becauseyou've committed horrible sin
and you say how have I hateddiscipline and my heart spurns
reproof.
I have not listened to thevoice of my instructors and have
not inclined my ear to myteachers.
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I was almost in utter ruin inthe midst of the assembly of the
congregation.
I was almost cast out from thecongregation and ruined in the
church of God.
Now, all this 15 to pretty muchalmost the end, except when we
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shift back to talking about theforbidden woman.
This is talking about your love.
Okay that, your woman being afountain of life to you.
Okay, your wife being afountain of life to you.
So drink water, your wife, fromyour own cistern.
Your wife Like, take in thatlove, that life, that passion,
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that love, that life, thatpassion, refresh from your own
well, your own well-being, yourwife.
Should your springs be dispersedabroad?
Should your wife go giving heraffections to everyone else?
No, streams of water in thestreet, giving it to everyone in
the street.
No, that's the woman walkingaround in freaking Spanx and a
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sport bra, sharing everythingshe's got with everyone but her
husband.
Let them be for you alone andnot for strangers.
With you, let your fountain beblessed and be glad in the wife
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of your youth as a loving hindand graceful doe.
Right, the animal that isceremonially clean and thus fit
for eating here often appear inwisdom literature.
Just giving you a background,hind is not a word that most of
us know.
Ceremonially clean hind andgraceful doe.
We're going to get into sexuallanguage here.
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Let her breasts satisfy you atall times.
Does that mean you shouldn't bedenying your body to your
husband or your wife?
Be intoxicated always with herlove.
Now, intoxicated in the Bible,like 90% of the time, is a
negative thing.
Here it is a positive thing, itis a gift from God in your life
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.
And be intoxicated always withher love.
Now we go back to the other.
So why should you, my son, beintoxicated with a strange woman
, embrace and embrace the bosomof a foreign woman?
For the ways of a man arebefore the eyes of Yahweh.
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God sees what you're doing andhe watches all his tracks.
His own iniquities will capturehim.
Who is the wicked one?
With the cords of his sin, hewill be held fast.
Your sin will bind you up.
Your sin is your own prison.
He will die.
Held fast.
Your sin will bind you up.
Your sin is your own prison.
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He will die for lack ofdiscipline.
Because he refused to get awayfrom the door, he refused to be
around, he went into temptation,he did not heed the warnings to
stay away from sin.
Lack of discipline and in anabundance of his folly, he will
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stumble in intoxication.
So again, so many peoplestruggle in their marriage
because they don't have properpriorities, proper priorities,
and this is what happens.
The temptation of the otherwoman or the other man come in,
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wreak havoc and destroy life.
So I hope you guys enjoyed this.
Let's go ahead and pray it out.
I'll pray for us all and lockour shields of faith together.
Heavenly Father, lord, I thankyou.
I thank you for these men andwomen who have joined me today,
who have locked their shields offaith around us and joined our
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ranks, joined our ranks, lord.
We thank you for each and everyone.
Lord, I pray that you wouldgive discernment to each person
listening to this, watching this, hearing this, to avoid
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temptress tempter I enjoy intheir own marriage.
To find the proper alignmentordained at the top would help
us all to recommit right now toyou, lord, and to our spouses,
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that we shall put none on thisearth before them.
Help us to appreciate eachother, help us to love one
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another.
Most of all, help us to forgiveone another.
Now, lord, I pray a prayer ofprotection and peace for this
fellowship, the persecutedchurch, for our troops overseas,
first responders at home andour veterans of yesteryear.
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Lord, I pray for our belovedcountry, america.
I pray that you would turn fromher sin, seek your face, hit
her knees, repent.
That you would see her, healher so we could once again be
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one nation under god,indivisible, with liberty and
justice for all.
Now I call this fellowship,attention, to put on the full
armor of God, strap on theshield of faith and pick up the
sword of the Spirit.
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A boldly step forward to joinshield wall, locking shields to
the left and right.
We march forward to take groundfor your kingdom and for your
glory.
In Jesus' name we pray.
Amen.
All right, everyone.
God bless you.
I will see you on Sunday at 7and then back here on Monday.
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Tanya Daniel said please keepus in prayers.
We have heavy rains andflooding.
Lord, be with Tanya and peopleall over this world that are
dealing with flooding issues andrain and fire and all the other
things.
I want to protect them in peace.
Amen, all right, all right,everyone.
God bless you.
Thank you and I will see youlater.
Bye.
Welcome to your daily battle where we do a Bible
study and fight three battlesevery morning, monday through
Friday.
Here we fight to get a humbleand grateful heart aligned on
the Lord.
That's battle number one,meaning that we are y'all,
particularly the United States,but in the first world we are
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very entitled.
But in the first world we arevery entitled and have a really
easy way of feeling sorry forourselves.
So the first step is getting aproper alignment to God, coming
to God on your knees andgratitude rather than
(01:10):
expectation.
That is the key to ourrelationship with God is to come
humbly in gratitude because wedeserve nothing.
Good morning, my love.
Battle two we deliberatelypursue a relationship with our
Lord and Savior and Creator bystudying his holy word and
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through prayer.
And then three, we go to warfor each other, we lock our
shields of faith and we prayprayers of intercession and
protection and peace for eachother.
All right, that's what we dohere.
This is about a 30-minute show.
So glad you joined us andyou're sharing.
And you're sharing, hopefully,your first cup of coffee with us
(01:54):
and give your first cup ofcoffee to God and you'll always
get in the word.
Okay, I know if you're like acoffee addict like myself, that
if I tie this to God then I willnever miss my Bible, right?
So, again, I'm so glad you'rehere.
We have been doing this nowsince Monday.
(02:18):
We're in the book of Proverbs,which, if you missed a day, it's
no big deal.
You can go back and catch themall and rewatch them all.
Right, we are in Proverbs 5today.
Today, which is, proverbs arebasically wisdom, okay, and you
know we've gone through verse 4and number 5.
(02:41):
You're going to see which isvery important is we're going to
talk about adultery andavoiding temptation um, which
been sprinkled throughout a lotof these already, but it's
repeated a lot.
It's because it's important andGod knows, we have enough
divorce and enough fidelity inall of our lives, right?
(03:04):
So let's go ahead and let'spray it in Heavenly Father.
Lord, we thank you, thank youfor giving us another day to get
it right.
Lord, we thank you for theprotections that you had over us
last night, protecting us andour family, our homes.
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Lord, I pray that this timewould bless you, this time would
please you, this time wouldhonor you and only you.
Lord, we're so grateful foryour grace, your divine grace,
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which calls us to you, gives usaccess to you, cleanses us from
our sin and unites us with you,and also your common grace, your
creation, lord.
We thank you for the heavens andstars, and sun, the moon.
We thank you for this earth,from everything in it, from the
tallest peaks to the deepestocean, everything in between the
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animals and the plant life andeverything in between that you
made.
That is good, that is good,lord.
We thank you for sunrises andsunsets.
How beautiful they are.
Thank you for the smell offresh morning rain, flowers.
We thank you for the sound ofwaves breaking on the shore and
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children's laughter.
We thank you for the taste ofgood food and drink.
We thank you for a cool breezeon a hot day like we have here
in the summer now, A warm firecaught in the heat of a warm
fire on a cold day.
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Lord, we thank you for everyonein our lives.
Help us to treasure everymoment of people around us, or
they can be gone in a blink ofan eye.
Help us to leave nothing unsaid.
Help us to always be present.
Help us to love, like you.
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Truth, lord, I pray that youwould be with us during this
time.
Give us discernment in yourword In Jesus' name.
We pray amen.
All right, battle number onedone.
Hey, how's it going there?
We go.
Hello, tanya, daniel, and Ihope I pronounced that right
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Welcome.
So battle number one done.
Let's go ahead and go to battlenumber two, which is pursuing a
relationship with God, studyinghis word, and I'm going to be
reading out of the LegacyStandard Bible.
I just, I love, I love my ESVStudy Bible.
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It is as the best study notes.
I find they're second to noneon so many things, but I just
find the language of the LegacyStandard Bible it's just more
appealing to my way.
I read in my mind and, and it'sso.
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So we're gonna be doing out ofthat.
But the study notes and a lotof commentary I'm using is
usually out of the ESV.
So, hey, good morning Michael.
Good to see you brother.
See you brother.
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Greetings from Pakistan.
Well, hey, awesome, be safe,michael.
Good to see you, anotherbrother in Christ.
So let's go ahead and get intohis word.
Now we're in Proverbs, chapter 5, okay, and this is a very
important bit of wisdom from God.
So, warning against adultery,my son, pay attention to my
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wisdom, incline your ear to mydiscernment.
That you may keep discretion,that your lips may guard
knowledge.
Okay.
And now we're going to get intowhat we're warning against.
Well, the lips of a strangewoman drip honey, okay.
And now we're going to get intowhat we're warning against.
Well, the lips of a strangewoman drip honey.
Smoother than oil is her speech, but her end is bitter as
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wormwood.
Now, wormwood is very, verybitter to the taste.
It's a plant which is extremelybitter that none of us have
probably ever seen but that'swhat they're referring to there
and sharp as a two-edged sword.
Her feet go down to death.
Her steps take hold of shield,which is an oral of the dead
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biblical times, lest she watchthe path of life.
Her tracks are unstable.
She does not know it.
As you see, and we see this asparticularly as we mature in our
relationships, right, as wemature in our relationships as
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two imperfect, perfect peoplebecome married and become one
flesh in the covenant under God,god particularly, you know if,
if you guys aren't, you know,biblically, worldview, walking
out Christians, that we tend towound each other an awful lot.
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Even as Christians, we woundeach other and we acquire scars
and we acquire baggage.
And the beauty of the gospel iswhen you're walking out a
biblical worldview and actuallyapplying the Bible to your life,
you find that you are givinggrace and those wounds don't
stack up.
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But if you are walking in aChristian light or a
non-Christian relationship, yourtraumas stack up, your traumas
and your wounds stack up andstack up and stack.
They're all like knife wounds.
They're cuts that are not beingsealed and you're bleeding from
a million different placesuntil eventually the life runs
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out of your marriage, right, andas we wound ourselves and as we
go through life with childrenright, you know life is easy
till kids.
All right, life is easy to kids.
You know it's.
You can focus on your wife andyour wife can focus on you, can
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focus on you, and you know, andit's a wonderful time of all the
best, a lot of the not all thebest things, but a lot of great
things happen during that period, and then you have kids and
then you lose sleep and then youyou start.
Unfortunately, this happens fartoo often.
The.
The relationship that we haveGod designed was both husband
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and wife, should be as followstheir top relationship, their
top priority, is God.
Okay, so, top of the chain ofcommand, god.
Then is your spouse, yourhusband or wife.
Then is your children, then isyour job, and because he who
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does not provide for his familyis worse than an infidel,
meaning if you don't provide,that's the Bible I just quoted
there.
If you don't provide for yourfamily, you are worse than an
unbeliever.
If you don't provide for yourfamily, nothing else matters.
Okay, you are worse than anunbeliever.
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Okay, and then comes yourministry.
All right if you're as aChristian, right.
So your first ministry, right,obviously your ministry isn't
with God.
God is ministering to youthrough the Holy Spirit.
After that it is youministering to your wife or your
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husband.
Right, that is your second,that is your top ministry.
Then it is your children,passing on your Christian
identity to your children.
You know the Catholics get thispart, have a lot easier time
with this.
I'm not saying they get itright and that's the mistake,
because I don't believe that,I'm not a Catholic.
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But when you have priests andnuns, it's easy to do ministry
all the time because you have noother allegiance.
Okay, it's just you and God.
And then it goes right to workright in your ministry, and
that's that model.
Okay, and you can see how thatall are parents and all you who
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are married out there can seehow that is a lot simpler,
because the rest of us have God,spouse right, then children
right.
So now you're there.
Then children right.
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So now you're there.
Then your work and ministry andeverything else.
And what we find too often withChristian we'll call them
leaders, pastors, ministers,whatever you want to call them.
Whatever you want to call themis that they go God and then
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they go ministry and theirfamilies are a complete
catastrophe.
Complete catastrophe.
Right, because they didn't havethe proper alignment.
Your ministry gets what's leftover from your family.
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Now, if you're a master, thisis why teachers and pastors
should be so rare, because inorder to be able to have enough
left over to be productive, youhave to be a really good
discipler.
You have to have, you know theBible says you have to disciple
your children.
You want to be a pastor?
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You have to.
You know, have to have passedon your Christian identity to
your family first, because yourfamily knows who you are and
your wife knows who you arebetter than anyone, and if they
aren't buying what you're doing,then your walk is inconsistent
and you've got no businessteaching anyone else.
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So again, that was a reallylong-winded way to get in here,
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the strange woman.
So as we acquire these wounds,we get exhausted with family and
often the wife's priority thehusband's priority, right is
he's trying to make a living andyou know he's trying to
disciple his familyappropriately.
If he's aligned to God, he'sdoing that first, before work.
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But the wife often replaces thehusband as her top priority and
puts the kids over there.
And what happens with that isnow there's a misalignment.
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Now there is a betrayal.
A betrayal where the two becomeone flesh is now something else
.
There's an idol between themand it's the children.
Now, children are veryimportant and they are needed
and they are not independent andthey are all those things.
It's a team effort and Iunderstand that, but you must
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remember that your spouse isyour wife or your husband is the
next person that's important toyou after God.
If you don't do that, you'regoing to have problems in your
marriage and you're going toacquire wounds.
Many people don't do that andthe kids become their passion
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and the husband is pushed to theside and the husband feels
neglected.
The husband feels like he can'tdo anything right, the wife's
in rebellion and the house is inrebellion because we're already
out of alignment Right.
The husband is going and dyingto self.
He's out there trying to earn.
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He's trying to do this.
He can only have maritalrelations with one person in the
entire family, or, sorry, inthe entire world, and that's his
wife.
And his wife is pouring outeverything she has but nothing
left over to her, to the kids.
How often this is because thehusband is neglectful and the
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husband isn't doing his partwith the kids as well.
So again, this isn't one sidedon the wife, and the wife is
exhausted because she's got totake care of the kids, because
they can't take care ofthemselves, and there's nothing
left for the husband because thehusband isn't giving her space
enough and enough relief to saveenergy for him.
So I'm not saying that, but thisis how people trip and fall
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into marital affairs.
And they don't trip and fall init, they actually deliberately
pursue and they say, oh, it justhappened.
No, no, no, no Affairs and allthese other things don't trip
and fall on it, they actuallydeliberately pursue and they say
, oh, it just happened.
No, no, no, no Affairs and allthese other things don't just
happen, they are deliberatelypursued.
Because what happens is andI've used this analogy and I'm
stealing it from Paul Washerwhen you're walking along and
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all of a sudden a cobra comes up, what that cobra is, that
temptation?
It's sin, it's death incarnate.
When a cobra comes up, you cando one thing.
You've got a couple seconds tomake a decision.
If you've got a machete, youcan cut its head off, right.
You can kill that sin or youhave to run from it.
But you don't sit there andadmire it, you don't play with
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it, you don't converse with it,you don't hang with it.
You don't converse with it, youdon't hang around it and
befriend it.
Right, because it is sin, it isdeath, and that's what we see
happen time and time again, forboth men and women.
Now this is talking to sonsabout temptress of war, because
a woman, a foreign woman and Idon't mean like foreign out of
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country, but the forbidden womanshe doesn't have any baggage
with you, yet she gets to seethe best of you.
She's going to say you'reamazing and you're awesome and
this and that Because you'restill putting your best foot
forward with her and she'sputting her best foot forward.
So all the baggage that youhave with your family and your
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wife is not there and you'refeeling neglected and betrayed
by your significant other andthis next person thinks you're
just awesome, right, that'swhere those honeyed words lips
drip honey and smoother than oilis her speech.
And that's why men who justwant to be appreciated and
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respected and and yes havephysical needs, just as women
have physical needs.
You guys shouldn't be denyingeach other.
It drives significant otherinto, unfortunately, infidelity.
So we must avoid the temptation, which is what this and all the
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other Proverbs go on.
And I know I'm really breakingthis down because it's really
important who we spend timearound.
You know you put.
You know women who work anddon't stay home.
They are around men at work allthe time and they're serving to
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bosses and they're doing bossestrips.
And there's this misalignmentnow, because now the husband is
in charge at home but the bossis in charge of work.
But work is where she spendsmost of her life and you can see
how that can lead to a problemand why so many affairs happen
at work and in recreation.
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You know going to the gym howmany affairs have started there.
You know going to the gym howmany affairs have started there.
And again, this is a way oflife.
Women dress modestly to notinduce temptation for yourself
and for men.
Men do the same.
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You can tell an awful lot aboutsomebody in their Christian
walk based upon everything aboutthem.
They're beacons of light.
Are they beacons of sensualitywhen they're walking around?
I mean, you know, today I seepeople who call themselves
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Christians with their boobshanging out all over social
media and in yoga pants withtheir labia showing.
I have no business seeing thatas not your husband, and it
shows where you prioritize yoursensuality and your loyalties.
So you know, I go to the gymwhere I work out here and I try
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not.
You know, it is immodest weareverywhere, whereas if you look
at my wife, when she works out,she's in a T-shirt, a loose
T-shirt, and a pair of like gymshorts where you can't see all
of her body parts.
Why is that so hard?
Why must you walk around in inpornographic nature in the gym?
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It doesn't make you faster, itdoesn't make you stronger, it
doesn't make you stronger.
It doesn't make any of thosethings my wife said a lot of
women joke about having a workhusband.
That's where it starts, exactly, exactly.
So again, let's get back intothe text.
You know I got sidetrackedthere, but I think it's really
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important that there is a lot ofbad, like most mortal sins.
There is a lot of bad decisionsthat lead you to that.
All right, her tracks areunstable and she doesn't know it
.
She doesn't even know, shedoesn't have a discernment,
she's not close enough to God,she's not walking it out a
biblical worldview to the pointand she hasn't gone through
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enough sanctification.
No, she's even wrong sometimes.
Now, picking up in verse 7.
Now, my sons, listen to me.
Do not turn away from the wordsof my mouth.
Keep your way far from herAgain, stay away.
Do not go near the door of herhouse.
And again, we're setting thelimits.
Don't go where you're going tobe tempted.
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And again, we're setting thelimits.
Don't go where you're gonna betempted.
Don't go where you're gonna betempted.
Don't invite people into yourcircle that are tempting.
You want to help and Iunderstand you know, and
particularly like when I'mdealing with a woman who's
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struggling and seekingministerial help, I often turn
them, if it's not a quick fix,over to Lauren Because, like
Votie Bauckham and others, theywon't even close the door of
their office with a woman intheir office to avoid the
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appearance of impropriety.
So, again, avoid even theirdoor.
Keep your way far from her anddo not go near the door, door of
her house, lest you give yoursplendor to others and your
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years to the cruel one, leststrangers be satisfied with you
by your strength and yourpainful and by your painful
labor those in the house of aforeigner.
We're talking about the sideeffects of what happens when
you're giving all of yourresources to the forbidden woman
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.
If you look over here, this isthe ESV that I'm showing on the
screen now, the slightdifferences in language.
This is the ESV that I'mshowing on the screen now, the
slight differences in language.
I pick it up in verse 11.
And you groan at the end, atyour end, when your flesh and
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your body are consumed becauseyou've committed horrible sin
and you say how have I hateddiscipline and my heart spurns
reproof.
I have not listened to thevoice of my instructors and have
not inclined my ear to myteachers.
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I was almost in utter ruin inthe midst of the assembly of the
congregation.
I was almost cast out from thecongregation and ruined in the
church of God.
Now, all this 15 to pretty muchalmost the end, except when we
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shift back to talking about theforbidden woman.
This is talking about your love.
Okay that, your woman being afountain of life to you.
Okay, your wife being afountain of life to you.
So drink water, your wife, fromyour own cistern.
Your wife Like, take in thatlove, that life, that passion,
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that love, that life, thatpassion, refresh from your own
well, your own well-being, yourwife.
Should your springs be dispersedabroad?
Should your wife go giving heraffections to everyone else?
No, streams of water in thestreet, giving it to everyone in
the street.
No, that's the woman walkingaround in freaking Spanx and a
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sport bra, sharing everythingshe's got with everyone but her
husband.
Let them be for you alone andnot for strangers.
With you, let your fountain beblessed and be glad in the wife
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of your youth as a loving hindand graceful doe.
Right, the animal that isceremonially clean and thus fit
for eating here often appear inwisdom literature.
Just giving you a background,hind is not a word that most of
us know.
Ceremonially clean hind andgraceful doe.
We're going to get into sexuallanguage here.
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Let her breasts satisfy you atall times.
Does that mean you shouldn't bedenying your body to your
husband or your wife?
Be intoxicated always with herlove.
Now, intoxicated in the Bible,like 90% of the time, is a
negative thing.
Here it is a positive thing, itis a gift from God in your life
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.
And be intoxicated always withher love.
Now we go back to the other.
So why should you, my son, beintoxicated with a strange woman
, embrace and embrace the bosomof a foreign woman?
For the ways of a man arebefore the eyes of Yahweh.
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God sees what you're doing andhe watches all his tracks.
His own iniquities will capturehim.
Who is the wicked one?
With the cords of his sin, hewill be held fast.
Your sin will bind you up.
Your sin is your own prison.
He will die.
Held fast.
Your sin will bind you up.
Your sin is your own prison.
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He will die for lack ofdiscipline.
Because he refused to get awayfrom the door, he refused to be
around, he went into temptation,he did not heed the warnings to
stay away from sin.
Lack of discipline and in anabundance of his folly, he will
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stumble in intoxication.
So again, so many peoplestruggle in their marriage
because they don't have properpriorities, proper priorities,
and this is what happens.
The temptation of the otherwoman or the other man come in,
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wreak havoc and destroy life.
So I hope you guys enjoyed this.
Let's go ahead and pray it out.
I'll pray for us all and lockour shields of faith together.
Heavenly Father, lord, I thankyou.
I thank you for these men andwomen who have joined me today,
who have locked their shields offaith around us and joined our
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ranks, joined our ranks, lord.
We thank you for each and everyone.
Lord, I pray that you wouldgive discernment to each person
listening to this, watching this, hearing this, to avoid
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temptress tempter I enjoy intheir own marriage.
To find the proper alignmentordained at the top would help
us all to recommit right now toyou, lord, and to our spouses,
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that we shall put none on thisearth before them.
Help us to appreciate eachother, help us to love one
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another.
Most of all, help us to forgiveone another.
Now, lord, I pray a prayer ofprotection and peace for this
fellowship, the persecutedchurch, for our troops overseas,
first responders at home andour veterans of yesteryear.
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Lord, I pray for our belovedcountry, america.
I pray that you would turn fromher sin, seek your face, hit
her knees, repent.
That you would see her, healher so we could once again be
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one nation under god,indivisible, with liberty and
justice for all.
Now I call this fellowship,attention, to put on the full
armor of God, strap on theshield of faith and pick up the
sword of the Spirit.
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A boldly step forward to joinshield wall, locking shields to
the left and right.
We march forward to take groundfor your kingdom and for your
glory.
In Jesus' name we pray.
Amen.
All right, everyone.
God bless you.
I will see you on Sunday at 7and then back here on Monday.
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Tanya Daniel said please keepus in prayers.
We have heavy rains andflooding.
Lord, be with Tanya and peopleall over this world that are
dealing with flooding issues andrain and fire and all the other
things.
I want to protect them in peace.
Amen, all right, all right,everyone.
God bless you.
Thank you and I will see youlater.
Bye.
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