Why is Joy So Elusive? // It's Time to Start Enjoying Your Life, Part 1

It’s such a simple word. Three letters. Just one syllable.  So why is joy so elusive?  We try so hard to find it –but, you know…

 

Why is Joy in Such Short Supply?

Well, it’s great to be with you again this week and we are starting a new series on the programme called, "It’s Time to Start Enjoying My Life". I really am looking forward to this series because "joy" is such a big issue in life. It’s such a simple little word – just three letters, one syllable – "joy" and yet it seems in such short supply; it’s more precious than gold or silver. Think about it, how many of the people that you know, would say, if asked, "I’m really enjoying my life?" And if I ask you, how much, on a scale of zero to ten, are you enjoying your life, right now? How would you answer?

Most people hover somewhere around the middle or bottom half of that "zero to ten" scale. Why is it though that joy seems to be in such a short supply in this world? There’s not one person that I know if I asked them, "Would you like to experience joy in your life?" I don’t know anyone that would say, "Aw no, no, I don’t think I need joy in my life."

Joy is such a wonderful thing, it’s such an important thing. Now I’ve travelled to lots of parts of this planet; places where people are really wealthy, I mean mega wealthy; places where people are moderately well off and places where people live in abject poverty. I know people who are rich and people who are poor, tall and short, black and white, thick and thin, but you know something? None of those distinctions seem to have much to do with whether they are enjoying their lives or not.

Those external things, at the end of the day, that’s not really where it’s at. You can have everything that money can buy – the latest plasma screen, the biggest new car, the finest clothes, jewellery, all those things and more; a wonderful husband or wife and great kids – you can have all of those things and still not really be enjoying your life.

I heard a well known, really wealthy business man on TV the other night and he can have anything he wants. You could tell though, as he spoke and you looked at him, you could tell that he had an unsettled life; he was looking for something. See so often, when it comes to joy and the levels of joy that we experience, they’re so low and we blame those things on the outside. "Well, I’d enjoy my life if I had more money." "I’d enjoy my life if I had a better job." "I’d enjoy my life if other people weren’t so difficult; if it wasn’t for the politics at work or the tension at home, or my loneliness or … You name it, we can blame it – then I’d enjoy my life."

You know what I am talking about; blame, blame, blame. But you know why I know that it’s not the things on the outside that give us joy? Because I used to be one of the people that thought that it was. I could holiday in five star resorts, I did. Had gold plated taps in the en suite – you name it, I could have it and I had no joy. I actually felt desperately miserable.

You see, there’s a big swindle going on in society and I don’t care whether you live in a wealthy country or whether you live in a poor country. Maybe you have heard me talk about it before perhaps and I take aim at the advertising industry. It’s not really their fault because it’s a symptom of a greedy society.

See, they flash up on television and in the media and on radio, seductive images of success and they link them to the product that they are trying to sell us and the message is, "If you buy this product you will be happy." So you do – you buy that product; you spend your hard earned cash and you discover that there is just no joy in it. And so we watch the next ad and we buy the next thing and it still doesn’t satisfy and we do the next thing and it still doesn’t satisfy. "Oh, when I’m happily married, then I’ll enjoy my life." But you know something? Another person can’t make you happy!

I have a wonderful wife – truly. Jacqui is my absolute favourite person on planet earth but I can easily still feel empty and hollow and unhappy, even though I have her; even though I have a comfortable home to live in. See, we live in a world based on greed. Companies know that so they trade on our dissatisfaction; they trade on our lack of joy; they trade on our desire to discover joy as the basis for earning more money to fill people’s pockets to make them happy but it never does. That’s the swindle!

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not against capitalism; I’m not against free enterprise; I’m not against people working hard – those things on their own though just don’t bring you joy. And yet, over and over and over again, we go looking for joy in all the wrong places. "Ah, if I am entertained, I’ll enjoy myself then." Sure for a short time, some entertainment might make us feel good but that’s not what I am