A Journey of Healing and Renewal ft Tiffany Harvey

Welcome back to another episode of Chronicles of a Virgo Podcast. This week we are joined by US Navy Commander, Author, and public speaker Tiffany Harvey. Tiffany's mission is to inspire and empower others as they navigate their personal storms, demonstrating that overcoming life's adversities is not only possible but can also lead to discovering one's purpose by transforming pain into power.

During our discussion, we explored:

 - Tiffany's journey of overcoming and healing following her divorce while raising her child as a single mother

-The significant role of faith and spirituality in guiding her through the healing process

-The positive influence of therapy and affirmations in her journey towards healing

-The crucial support provided by a nurturing community during challenging times

-Tiffany's exciting ventures, including the birth of her business "Pick Your Sweet Poison" and the publication of her book "Healing but Not Broken," alongside various other remarkable business endeavors.



Ways to connect with Tiffany:

Website: Www.speakwithtiffany.com

Etsy shop: https://www.etsy.com/shop/TLHarveySpeak

IG: https://www.instagram.com/speakwithtiffany/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100092639125545

Get Tiffanys book "Healing not Broken"- https://www.amazon.com/Healing-But-Not-Broken-Navigating-ebook


Ways to connect with me:

Website and Blog: https://chroniclesofavirgo.wixsite.com/my-site

IG: https://www.instagram.com/chronicles_of_a_virgo_podcast

FB: https://www.facebook.com/ChroniclesOfAVirgoPodcast

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Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/ @Chronicles_of_a_Virgo_podcast 


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Disclaimer: "This podcast and website represents the opinions of Chiquita Johnson and her guests to the show and website. Views and opinions expressed in the podcast and website are our own and do not represent the place of any mental health or medical professional.

Episode Transcript

(00:02):
Welcome to the Chronicles of a Verbalpodcast, the podcast dedicated to the transformative
journey of healing, mental health andpersonal growth. I'm your favorite favorite verbal
host Shakita Johnson, and together we'llcontinue to turn our vulnerability into strength.
As a sexual assault survivor and mentalhealth advocate, I have learned to sort

(00:23):
through the ashes of my trauma andturn my pain into power. And this
podcast is representation that healing is possible. And each episode we'll dive deep deep
into conversations about overcoming challenges, findyour inn strength, and emerging from life
trials like a feelings from the ashes. We may even have some friends drive
by from time to time. Getready to be inspired and empowered as we

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embark on a rewarding journey of selfdiscovery. So sit back and relax and
let's get into some healing. Allright, y'all, And welcome back to
another episode at the Chronicles of aVirgo podcast. And as usual, I'm
your favorite favorite favorite Virgo host SiqiitaJohnson, and we are coming through with

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another lovely guest today. Okay,let me try to give the grand introduction
for this person, all right,because she deserves it. We are joined
today by Miss Tiffany Harvey, whois a motivational speaker, a business owner,
and she's also a commander in theUnited States Marine Serve. Okay,

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she wears many titles. She hasdoes a lot of wonderful things, and
we are going to get into thisto that, but let's welcome Miss Tiffany.
How are you doing today, lady, I'm great. How you're doing.
I'm doing well, Thank you somuch. I am just trying to
stay warm. You know, it'scold. It's cold, cold, cold,
cold, and snowy. So weare in the same state. So

(01:52):
you know how this weather has beenrocking with us lately, and I don't
like it. I'm not a fanof it. Where you're coming from,
yes, right, but thank youso much for joining us for this conversation.
Before we can get into the wholeconversation, I have to do all
mental health check. So for anyonethat is joining us for the first time,

(02:12):
the mental health check is we rateour mental health wan to scale of
one to five. Five being andwe are feeling in a good space today,
one being We're not in the bestwe have some room for porn,
but we are managing so Ms Harvey, how would you rate your mental health
today on the scale of one tofive. Well, I'm gonna say five
today. I'm feeling good. I'mnot feeling stressed. I'm nice and relaxed

(02:36):
at a good massage self care day, So I'm five today. Yes,
we love this self care around here. Yes, I'd love to hear it.
I am today. I'm gonna stayat a four, so have some
room for porn, but I am. I'm managing really well. I'm doing
good. I think the weather justbeen too cold for me, like that

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is a thing. But otherwise I'mI'm great, you know. And the
reason that I do these mental healthchecks is a way to hold myself accountable,
to just make sure I check in, have that inner dialogue, and
also to encourage others to do that, you know, before we go to
the points of the extremes of burnout, and just making sure that we're doing
fine, you know, correct.I mean, it's mental health is a

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big thing in this country, andespecially two black women, we don't do
it enough, if you know,want to be honest about it. We
don't ask each other how we're doing, how your heart is today, and
you know, we don't really sitin it and ask ourselves, you know
how we're doing. You know,we sometimes be on the go and move

(03:43):
and move and moving, and youyou know, you get burnt out and
then it's too late. So Ilike that you do that. I love
it. Thank you, And Ialways tell people, you know, like
you said, sometimes extend that tosomeone else because you never know who needs
to hear from you, what hairspacesomeone is in. Not saying that you're
going to be the fixer of theirproblem, but just being an open air.

(04:06):
They may need to get that out. So definitely continue to make sure
you take the time to do yourself care and just check in with yourself.
So thank you for doing the mentalhealth check today. You're welcome.
Yeah, so let's get into somethings. So, as I said in
the beginning, you are a womanthat wears many different capes. You hold

(04:29):
many different roles in your current liferight now. But I'm gonna just jump
out there and assume that there wasa path that got you to that point.
There was a journey, there wassome adversity in different things that you
may have endured to get you faralong. Because I will look at you
and be like, you're so successful, You're all these different things. But
I feel like we all have astory, you know, Yes, I

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mean I don't think anyone has gottenanywhere in life without a story or multiple
stories. You know, I havemultiple stories, but probably the more recent
story that I really had to comethrough and really made me who I am
now that's sit in front of you, was you know. I was married

(05:17):
for three years, and you know, the day we got married, I
really thought. I thought I foundthe man of my dreams. I thought,
you know, I was going tolive this fairy tale life. Keep
in mind, I was not thatlittle girl to grow up thinking and planning
her wedding. That was not me. So you know, when he asked

(05:40):
me to marry him, I waslike, yes, Okay, I did
it. But unfortunately, shortly afterwe got married and I got pregnant with
our son, things changed. Itwas a completely different man. Communication stopped
staying out all night, he didn'tcare. Intimacy stop and I think I'm

(06:04):
a beautiful woman. So I don'tknow why he wanted to tell me,
but everything changed. And no matterhow much I tried talking therapy, nothing
nothing changed. It's like my voicewas not heard. I felt like I

(06:24):
was actually trapped in my own house, and I got to the point I
just couldn't take it anymore. Ireally could not take it. We went
almost four weeks without talking at onepoint, and I had enough. I
said, I did not get marriedto be someone's roommates, right, And
so when I had to take astep back and I had to think,

(06:47):
and I just remember my grandmother usedto say, little time apart make the
heart grow. Father old saying Ijust knew. I said, Okay,
I got it. That's what itis. We just gonna take a little
time, just a little time apartwork on the marriage. I love a
come back, stronger, better girllives. I told him, man that,
he said, I'm one of divorces. I said, what I mean?

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I stood there, confuse, angry, mad, every rage, every
emotion ran through me so quickly.What you for real? Three years?
Three years and you're walking out onyour family to make the matters worse,
not even ten days later, notonly asking for the boys about he bought

(07:34):
a house, purchase a house whiley'all were still officially married. Yeah,
in that in my house, Yes, in ten days. So when I
thought, honestly, I was alreadyangry. But when I thought I couldn't.
My heart wasn't bleeding anymore. Ioverheard him tell his mom that I

(07:55):
was never for his quaint. Iwas like, Wow, what the hell
just happened? I was never yourqueen. I mean, you regret this
whole marriage, this whole family.And all I could do was cry.
All I could do was sit onmy floor in the middle of my bedroom

(08:18):
and literally just cry and cry.I never felt so broken in my life,
but the first time in my life, I was broken. And as
I was sitting there, my pastorcame on one afternoon and he said,
do not allow your heart to hearten. So when as he said those words,

(08:39):
more tears, more crying, becausethat's how I felt at that very
moment. I felt as if Iwas losing myself. I felt my heart
heartening because for the hate of thisman. But then also I cried and
not weep for me because I didn'twant to lose me. And I just

(09:01):
started praying and praying and praying,and I clearly her God say, Tiffany,
you got to go talk to somebody. You need professional help, because
if you don't let it out what'sin you, it's going to eat at
you and you're going to lose yourself. That was the day I had to
make a decision. And I madea decision not only to continue to see

(09:24):
my spiritual therapist who I was seeingat that time, but I also had
to see a medical professional therapist.And it took both of them to get
me through the hurricane five size katrinostorm that had just came into my life.
And trust me, he came't Thatstorm came to kill and destroy me,

(09:50):
and I needed all the help toget me through that. Oh man,
well, thank you so much forsharing that I could. I've never
been married before, but I canonly imagine just I can feel your energy
just explaining that, so I canonly imagine how it felt at that time.
And something that I realized that yousaid a lot is like you prayed

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a lot, you talk to yourpastor how are you able to like really
keep your faith during that time?You know? Because I feel like a
lot of times we go through thingsand we're like, yes, God,
thank you so much, and thenthis happened and then we're blaming God for
like these these bad things. Sohow are you able to like really keep
your faith on that time? Honestly? You know, what. I never

(10:37):
blamed God the one time I wasgoing through only because through that I got
taught that God had already prepared mefor this storm here almost ten years prior,
and it was almost antem that,Okay, I'm in it. First

(11:00):
thing I need to do is pray. The first thing I needed to do
is surround myself by daily devotion affirmations. I started pouring into myself. And
see ten years before that, afterwhen I first came into the military,
I ran into a situation where Icouldn't pour into myself. And since I

(11:20):
couldn't pour into myself the way Ineeded to, I actually poured alcohol into
myself to heal and numb me mybandid. Being twenty five brand new officer,
that was a lot emotionally mentally todeal with. I wasn't ready to
handle that. So it took forsomeone to see my pain and my hurt

(11:43):
to pour into me and show mehow to get through a tough situation.
I just didn't know that was Godpreparing me for this storm ten years later,
So it was like instant as soonas that happened, I just remember
what he did, and it's nowokay. Daily devotion affirmation it was almost

(12:05):
I had just had to keep repeatingto myself and keep porn into myself,
like, m Nope, we're notgonna go down wrong. We're not blaming
God. Nope, we're not blamingGod. You know, if I thank
him for the good, I gotto thank him for the bad. But
that was a process that was now. I was on a journey of healing

(12:26):
and it hurt. Let me behonest, That journey hurt, but I
knew God was with me. Andonce I recognized the season I was in,
and I think that's where a lotof us mess up. We don't
recognize the season we're in when we'regoing through stuff, so we started making
decisions based off our feelings. Yeah, So once I had to sit in

(12:52):
it, literally sit in it andunderstand I was in a season of growth.
I was in a sea shedding andrealizing God was trying to move me
but he couldn't move me. Withthe man standard drops the mic. Like

(13:15):
you just said so much and everythingthat you said can go in so many
different directions, but let's stay hereat the season part, right, Because
I feel like a lot of usgo through different things in our life and
we let that one season dictate thewhole journey that we're on, and that
is literally just a season. Sothat season that you were in with the

(13:39):
therapy, building yourself up, withthe devotions, the affirmations and things,
how like what was your mindset atthat point? Like how are you able
to dictate like, Okay, thisis just something temporary because a lot of
times we can't discern if this isreally how it's supposed to be or we
can't figure a way out. Solike, what was that turning point for

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you? Honestly, I had tosurround myself with people who love me,
and honestly two medical professionals. Idid. And unfortunately, in our community,
we want we don't want to gosee therapy. We just say pray
on it. M hmm. Ineeded too. I needed the spirit for

(14:22):
therapy to keep me grounded for notblaming God, but I needed the medical
professional to keep me out of myown head. It's a dangerous place when
you start talking to yourself and thenyou start answering yourself, so you don't
basically put somebody on trial jewelry convictedthem all in your own hair. That

(14:43):
is a dangerous place to be.So I for me to stay grounded and
for me to get through it,I literally had to surround myself with people
not only who loved me, wasgonna tell me true, not pacify me.
And I think that's sometimes when wego through stuff, we look for

(15:05):
people to co sign what we're whatwe're doing, how we're feeling. I
didn't surround myself with those people.Those people I had I could not talk
to, I could not deal withduring that time because I knew the season
I was in. But guess whatthey were also like, no, this
is temporary. You're in a seasonthat's going in and it kept had to

(15:26):
keep reminding me every time I wantedto backtory, They're like, no,
no, it's just a season.Sit in it. Yes, God is
moving you. But guess what yougot a lesson you need to learn.
And that's part too. Know theseason. Understand the lesson. That's the
probably more than the hardest parts bywhen you go through anything, God,

(15:50):
you wanna know the season I wasin. I was and I went through
multiple seasons. Let me be clear, you ain't gonna go through one,
you gonna go through most. Iwent through a surviving season. I would
through a growth season. I wentthrough a fighting season, but I had
to go through each and every lastone. I guess why. I had
to learn the left along the way, and that was probably the hardest part

(16:12):
because I had to take responsibility fromthe role I had to play in that
marriage. That accountability piece is tough. Woo honey. That is it makes
you swallow a very very big horsepill when you realize and you start taking

(16:33):
accountability, and I did. Ihad to. I had to go all
the way back from the beginning ofthe relationship, not just when we got
married. I had to go allthe way back, like now you know
God turned where God was telling youbefore you got married that this man won't
for you. But there were signs. There were signs again like what what

(16:56):
do we do a girl? Thatsign went red, that black went red,
it was one, it was yellow, it was burghning. We come
up with all these colors, andwe come up with all these excuses of
why we stayed mhm. And Ifor me, that was one of the
lessons I had to learn. Ihad to learn when to walk away.

(17:23):
Regardless of how much time you Iinvested in that relationship. I should have
walked away a long time ago.If I would have just listened to that
wisdom, that voice inside that Godspeaking to us, run run right,
I know it. But I'm nowasking God to bless marriage to keep together.

(17:45):
Mm hmm. I should have neverbeen there. I should have never
been there. And I did Iget a beautiful sun out the union,
Yes, I did. But Ishould have left that relationship a long time
ago. And let me ask youthis because there's a particular pastor that I
like watching her sermons and listening to. I do like her morning Bible study

(18:10):
and stuff, and she does alot of relationship podcasts. And one thing
that she says in relation to datingand marriages is sometimes things don't work because
you did not ask God if thatis the person you're supposed to be with.

(18:30):
And I'm just like, huh,but you wouldn't have had that desire
on your heart unless that was theright person, right? Or is that
a part of ignoring all the flagsthat were there? And so this is
where I think a lot of peoplewant to have a different opinion. And
I know sometimes I said God didnot bring him to me. He wasn't

(18:53):
my husband, and I should havewaited for God. I do believe that.
Please I'm not saying that's not that'snot true. But I think can
you meet someone and they still beyour husband? Yeah? Do I necessarily

(19:15):
think God has to bring him,especially if he's a good man. We
have everything in common. He lovesGod. I love God. He prayed
for me, I pray for him. You know, we we walk in
the same walk. When not necessary, I heard from God. So what
do I not give this man atry? Because I did not hear from

(19:37):
God. No, So that's whatI'm saying. I think it's going to
different over opinions on now makes sense. And I was just like, well,
like sometimes like you would think that, like you're hearing God, but
you sometimes it's hard to Like Isaid, discern you know what I'm saying,
And it's like, the only oneyou really know is if you take

(19:59):
that walk. And we have tolearn. We have to know how God
listens to us. I had tolearn that. That was number three another
tip. I had to learn howGod speaks to me. I had to
learn how God speaks to me.We go through a lot of stuff and
we listen to the wrong people.I love my friends, I love my

(20:23):
family. They were different me,but Lord, no, they could get
some mad advice, but they don'tmean to, but they're giving advice of
what they will do. Mm hmm. You're not them. God made you.
God made them. Your walk isdifferent from their walk. And sometimes

(20:45):
when we are going through stuff andwe're listening to other people, that ain't
the walk you're to own, Thatain't the urn you were supposed to make,
because you're listening to the wrong person. So sometimes you have to sit
and be quiet and figure out howGod is speaking to you. For me,
it's the music, lectures, youknow, other things. I hear

(21:08):
God through my ears, not necessarilyhis voice, but through a message.
That's how I hear God. Yeah, that's how I hear God. I
prompt you through that time. Iheard songs that I've been listening to since
I was growing up, but sometimesthey came on like I heard him with

(21:32):
fresh ears. It was brand newand I can literally hear God speaking to
me through that song. How Ishould when to be quiet, when to
just be still. We have tolearn that. You have to learn how
God speaks to you. Yeah,I think that's something that I had.

(21:52):
I'm like I was dealing with becauseI used to ask people like how do
you hear God? Like, howdo you you know what I'm saying?
And now I think I got Iknow, like me and him like we
had like you established your own relationshipand different things. So and like you
said, it's important to just makethose decisions on your own and not listen
to everyone else. So as you'reon this whole healing journey, was there

(22:19):
a part of the journey where youhad to really rediscover who you were because
now you're going from you know,unfortunately like a two household family, you're
you know, you're expecting a baby, and now you have it's just you.
So was there a whole rediscovery process, identity process? Like how did

(22:42):
that go? I don't know wasan identity process, but it definitely was
a rediscovery where I'm like, wow, I didn't sign up for this being
a single mom, Like, didn'tplan for it, didn't sign up for

(23:02):
it. That was a trend.Let me say this, It was a
transition. But I was already asingle mom in a marriage, so I
was yeah, I was married,but I was already a single mom in
the marriage. But once he leftthe house, the reality set in and
I was like a lot of justnessnow needed to be made, and I

(23:29):
knew I was strong enough to handleit, but accepting it that was hard.
And then so we lived in anice home out on southern Maryland,
and once the divorce came, Isold that house, packed that house up,

(23:52):
and I downbread. And that wasadjustment. That really was because I've
for the past probably mhm, tenfifteen years, I've always lived in you
know, a nice high rise,you know somewhere in the city, walk
game, you know, that typeof lifestyle. And we moved on Base,

(24:15):
and my son I made a decisionlike, you know what, We're
gonna move on base and we're gonnastart over. We're gonna, we're gonna,
we're gonna start over, and butwe're gonna stay here. And it's
an adjustment, even my son,he said, except I mean, I
like this house. It's tiny.But the transition was more of just Okay,

(24:42):
this is not what you've been usedto, but this is where you
need to be right now. Mhm m hm. Did you get to
a point of forgiveness, Yes,yes, I did, probably quicker than
most people would think. We probablywasn't even separated a year when he left,

(25:06):
where I had already forgave him becauseI had to for me. I
had to forgive him for me.I don't old stress well, I don't
like a lot of hate, andit's just that's just too much. I
don't know how people would stay madat people for ten twenty years. That

(25:26):
is too much to carry. AndI just had to. I just had
to let it go. I said, God, you got this. I
can't carry this much anger for someonein my heart and still walk around being
happy. It was too much forme. So I had to forgive and
let go. I had to.Yeah, And I think that's the tough

(25:52):
part for a lot of people,because you want to hold onto that resentment
and you kind of want to makethe person feel how they made you feel,
But in reality, you're hurting yourself, and it's easy to stay there.
That's kind of what it is.It's easy to stay angry, it's
easy to stay mad, It's easyto stay in that place a comfort because

(26:15):
if you stay there, you don'thave to not recognize the part you played.
Oh you said a word, Yousaid a word. That accountability piece
does something totally different when you lookin yourself in the mirror, and it's
not saying like oh, you're abad person. But sometimes we really don't
realize the impact and the part thatwe play in any relationship, whether it's

(26:37):
a friendship or intimate space. Youknow, and you have to really forgive
yourself for what you didn't know andmaybe what you have done, you know,
I mean, and some things wasn'tyou probably didn't even do purposely.
Yeah. So but when you recognizeit, you're like, Okay, I

(26:59):
did play a role in it.Oh, I played a bigger role than
I thought I played. But youlearn from it and you grow through it.
Don't go g O do it?Grow through it that way, the
next time you get in a predicamentor that same situation, you're going to
react totally different. Yeah, whendid you reach the point where you wanted

(27:23):
to tell your story? Because youknow, sometimes when we go through things,
we're embarrassed, we feel shameful,we're afraid of what people are going
to say. So when did youget to the point where you're like,
I need to tell my story?Actually I did someone Yeah, someone close

(27:47):
to me knew my story, agood friend of mine, and she got
presented to be in a devotional that'sgoing to be compass Three hundred and sixty
authors, and when she spoke withthe head author of the book, she

(28:08):
you know, she came to me. She said, you got a story
to tell, and I just wantyou to listen. Just talk to her
and listen, and I think thiswould be really good for you to just
share a piece of your story.And once I listened and everything, honestly,

(28:30):
I went in. I agreed todo the devotional, not because I
wanted to share my story. Honestly, I agree to do devotional because I
had just started my other business,Pictures We Poison, and I thought I
was going to use it as anetworking gotcha, that's really was I said,
Okay, I'll do it, youknow sure, And she's like,

(28:52):
oh, have all these authors,you know, the great networking for your
business. I said yeah. Butactually it turned out again a blessing in
disguise. Where I said, Iwrote my devotional, I titled it I'm
Built for This, and I titledit that way because throughout this process I

(29:22):
channeled Joshua. He was one ofthe people out the Bible that I channeled,
his strength, that he had,the leadership that he had, but
still his heart of being afraid andhaving to go to God and ask for
more strength. And I found myselfdoing that a lot, asking God,

(29:47):
just give me a little more,Just give me a little bit more strength.
So it actually was a blessing.I never meant to tell my story
one. I never thought anybody wouldwant to hear it. So people get
women get divorce all the time,me and get the divorce outside. Who
will want to hear my story?What separates me from anybody else? And

(30:11):
now I look at this, youknow, it kind of foult me.
It forced me to tell my story, and I'm happy. I'm happy now
that it pushed me out of acomfort zone that I would have never done.
Yeah, and it's also symbolic toyou turning something that was so painful

(30:33):
into something that's so purposeful, becauseI mean, you're inspiring me about me
listening to your story and just howyou have like enhanced your relationship with God.
Like I think that's that's big,because, like I said, a
lot of us sometimes we lose notfocused. But it's just like okay,
like why is this happening? LikeI thought you were supposed to like help

(30:56):
me figure things out, but itdon't seem like you're listening especially when you
in the midst the most painful experiences. So hearing like the resilience and the
strength that you conjured up to keepgoing. I think that that's very impactful.
So I commend you for your journeyand for you telling your story,

(31:17):
because even though there were painful parts, something good did come out of it.
I mean a lot of great things. And you know what I heard
somebody say, not all storms comeinto your life to break you. Some
ask you come into your life toput you on your path and your purpose.
That's what this storm did. Itput me on my path and my

(31:41):
purpose that I didn't even know.I had no clue if someone would have
sld me, you know what,You're gonna get married, You're gonna have
a baby, he gonna leave youearly on in the marriage. But guess
what, you want to start threebusinesses, you want to write two books.

(32:01):
You're actually want to now start speakingand motivating and encouraging and pouring into
other people. I would say,yeah, lie, but guess what.
That's what my both my therapists helpedme see that the storm, even though

(32:22):
it was a hurricane five, itwas actually my blessing. It was my
blessing. Yes, let's talk aboutthem blessings. Let's at the blessings.
Let's talk about these books and thebusinesses. Yes, okay, So you
mentioned the devotional. I know that'snot well at the time of this recording,

(32:44):
it's not out yet, so itbe out in two weeks. You
could pre order now, and I'vealready placed my order for the devotional at
the journal. So it is calledJoy three sixty five has three hundred and
sixty five authors in it, sothat would make this one so special.

(33:05):
It's not one voice. You getthree hundred and sixty five authors for every
day of the year, a differentvoice, a different perspective, so important
into you every single day that wasmade this one. It's you know,
it's just so special and I'm I'mso happy to be a part of this
project. But that's a devotional.There also is a journal, and the

(33:30):
journal had the affirmation that we allwrote as well. Yes, so it's
amazing. I thought I already toldyou I'm getting all of it. Yeah,
yes, I already placed the orderalready, so they're already on their
way. So you can't go preorder twenty four ninety nine for the devotional

(33:52):
twenty four nine for the journal.But if you buy both of them together,
you say five dollars, it's fortyfive dollars. I'm not including shipping
and handling. But you would geta Bungle Bungle deal where you get the
devotion, the journal, and amonk which say I'm built for this.
Yes, who don't know what money? Yes? Yes. I actually took

(34:16):
my affirmation, my title, mydevotion, and I put it on shirts,
mugs, sweaters. I started wearingmy affirmation. I started wearing it
because I was like, you knowwhat, I am built for this,
I'm built for everything. Dang yeah, I love that so much. And
I'm gonna give me a hoodie too, because I saw him on your site.
I'm like, I love affirmations.I feel like I think I love

(34:40):
them so much because they have beena huge part of my growth and my
whole self concept, you know.And I'm reading a new book now.
I love books, and for thelast couple of years, I've had issues
with my eyes, and I've onlybeen able to do a lot of audio
books, and now I've been ableto really knock one would read like physical

(35:02):
books make you sound crazy, butit's something weird going on with my eyes.
And I started one of Joyce Meyer'sold books and it's about authenticity.
And I don't have the exact name, but I can definitely share with you.
But she talks about just being authenticand what it means to really love

(35:22):
yourself. And in the back ofthe book she has listed all these different
scriptures that you can like go findaffirmations and positive scriptures that need to help
you build yourself up. You know, affirmations have been a huge part of
my healing and personal development because it'sjust like you're empowering and speaking into yourself.

(35:43):
So I'm not seeing your sweatshirts.I was like, I'm built for
this. That make you sound sosolid, Like like, listen, come
on, life, life is goingto like you know, life is going
to like you. But guess whatyou built forward. God already prepare you
for it. So why not wearit proudly on your test? Okay,
yes, yes, yes, Ilove it? So yeah, I love

(36:07):
it. Yeah. So that's oneproject. So that's me I'm co authoring.
But now recently I actually started writingmy own journal and workbook. Oh
the nice yeah m hm. SoI actually just started writing my own journal
and wrote work book, and it'sliterally go through the things we talked about

(36:30):
tonight. I tell pieces of mystory, my testimony, but I also
share with you the different tips identifyingyour season, learn the lessons, know
when to sit with God, youknow, know who to talk to it.
It's some of the main things thathelped me through. I'm now putting

(36:52):
in a not only it's gonna journal, but it has little questions and work
stuff for you to answer, soyou could just sit there and really understand
how did you end up there andhow do you feel? How do you?
And I think that's the part thatsome things miss. We don't get
to such a how do how doI feel now? How do I how

(37:14):
did I feel in it? Andwhere do I want to go out?
All right, y'all, big newsalert. Miss Tiffany Harvey's latest masterpiece,
Healing but Not Broken, an inspirationaljournal and workbook, has officially hit the
shelves. That's right. This ismore than just a book, but it
is also a journey of self discovery, introspection, and transformation, all of

(37:36):
the things that we are all abouthere at Chronicles of a Virgo podcast.
So let's come together y'all and supportTiffany and make this book a bestseller on
Amazon. It is also available anebook, which is on sale right now
for ninety nine cents. All ofthe links will be listed below, so
you guys can go snag your copyof Healing But Not Broken. And big

(37:57):
shout outs and congratulations to miss TifinnyHarvey on her book. You just brought
a lot full circle. The mainthing that I took away from you just
saying that is that we have tofeel continue to fill our feelings. But
like every part of life and everyencounter that we encounter is a part of
the season. It's a specific partand it's something meaningful, and we have

(38:22):
to really be intentional about sitting init and doing the work to really figure
out what it means. And eachpart is going to help us get to
the next level, correct to yournext season. So that's your season of
elevation, your season of increase.You know it's going to help you get
there, But are you in it? You got to go through it,

(38:46):
definitely, so yeah, so butno, that's yeah, that's too.
I have an ebook I'm working onillustration for kids, drop Shipping God one
on one. It is adults coulduse it as well. But you know,
as I was starting this journey ofAmazon and my Etsy store and learning,

(39:08):
I thought that books out there they'renot good for visual people like me.
I'm a visual learner and not sayingI need pictures all the time.
But it was hard because yes,you have YouTube videos, but you have
I had to watch three, fouror five different version of YouTube videos just

(39:30):
to figure out what drop shipping righton. Man, it's a lot,
it's a lot. But then Iwas like, what about the kids.
You know, kids are you know, they are so much risk more risk
takers at a younger age. Andso I literally put something together with them

(39:53):
in mind, uh and I developeda shop drop shipping guide one on one
for young adults. Kids and adultscould use it as well. I give
a lot of help tips in there. It's just, you know, it's
just on an illustration kids form,that's all see look at you even your

(40:15):
boss bag. I love it.But it's like the bounce back, right
like you, you bounce back fromsomething that just felt horrific in your life.
Probably didn't even foresee everything that you'redoing now. If there was anything
that you could have changed with yourjourney, would you have changed anything?
No, honestly, because I wouldn'tbe who I am today. I would

(40:39):
not be the woman who I amtoday. I mean ten years ago.
I don't even know if I wouldhave taken this leap to be really my
own entrepreneur. I don't think Godwould have started writing. I hate writing.
I hated reading growing up. Iwas math science. So to have
you working on two books at onetime, to be working on different design

(41:06):
T shirts, shirts, the blankets, okay, yes, yes, yes,
I actually keep watching my start tryingto strop something every week. And
let's see next week Monday, Probablysomeday I will be dropping the first line

(41:27):
of my blankets. And one isright in time for Black Kiss three month,
which is called it's a Black Excellenceblanket. Yes, it's a Black
Excellence blanket. And then also sincemilitary, I did see a lot of
military blankets out there, but donereally for the Navy and really now for

(41:49):
women. M hm. So I'mworking on a couple different Navy inspired blankets
right now. That's dope. Now, let me ask you this, because
we didn't really get into a lotof your you know, your military,
your Navy, your Navy background,do you think that or would you say

(42:10):
that you're training? Because I knowa lot goes in like too, the
physical but also the mental agility ofservice. Do you think any of that
held space for like how you wereable to really get through? Okay,
okay, you know what I wasabout to say. I promised you.

(42:30):
After I had my son, Ihad a C session. Stubborn just went
calm, so I have emergency CEAsession. Then my right hip separated.
You know, when you have ababy, your muscles and stuff start moving
and shifting. They don't tell youthat. They don't tell you that.

(42:50):
But even though I had a Csession my right hip it did muscles didn't
really come back in line, soI had to go to therapy. So
I was just so much pay betweenmy hip and a sea session and a
new baby and not sleeping. AndI would tell everybody. I said,
listen, this military, it wasnot trained, did not train me to
go fight no war. It trainedme to have this dirt baby. I'm

(43:19):
promised you. I said, mmhmmmmm that basic training ocs that all this
leapless knife, going overseas and goingto Afrighana saying no, this trained me
to have this baby. But thenas I went more, as I went
through everything else, I was like, oh, I thought this. I
said, No, I ain't trainedme to have that baby. It trained
me to get through the third thewars and all this other craziness. Because

(43:44):
in the military they mentally break youdown. So that's what I heard.
Oh my god, you count Youcouldn't not pay me no amount of money
to do that. Oh god,no, No, that was thirteen weeks
and it's a cold floor going throughthis school. Yeah, I want to
do that again. There was alot of crime, Oh my god.

(44:08):
But it was. It was,but you were able to use it in
other parts of your life. Definitely. I again, I do not think
I would have made it. Ifit was not for all that, I
wouldn't have. Well, I commendyou for your service, you know,

(44:28):
just being able to I have familythat have served in the military and law
enforcement and stuff, and I've seenlike videos online and I wanted. I
thought about going to the Air Forceout of high school, because you know,
they go, y'all go to thehigh schools the Marines, and I'm
like, I can't swim, soI'm not going nowhere. They're like,

(44:49):
we'll train you, no, girl, I seen them videos. Okay,
okay, So I did not knowhow to swim. I didn't listen.
I did not know how to swim. I was the typical lat Chat I
listen. I had a real badexperience as a kid, almost browned in

(45:09):
the pool. So I was likewhat So when I decided to come in,
I had already graduated FAMU. About a year after graduated, I
was working, you know, atHert's student loans kicked in. I said,
oh I did not. I waslike, you know, if you

(45:30):
start to, you know, reflecton your life, like I got a
degree, why am I over herecleaning cars? You know something? They
add enough. That's when they startedasking for their money back. You right
though. They don't waste no time. A couple of months, right after
you get the diploma, just camehere, here's your first loan payack.

(45:53):
Yeah yeah, So I mean seriously, I mean seriously. So they got
one of my good friend, bestfriend, and the time her mom taught
to me about coming into the military, like, you know, you can
go into any branch as the officerbecause you got a degree. I said,
okay, cool. I talked toall the branches except the Marine Corps.
Don't like them. I ain't lookcute, they're crazy. I'm good.

(46:15):
Air Force told me I wasn't goodenough. They told me my degree
was not good enough. That jointthe Air Force. I said, oh,
oh, wow, I said,okay, they turned anyone down,
like girl, I think so either, but they girl, they that lady
looked at me and said, what'syour degree. I said, agricultural business

(46:37):
and a minor economics. She saidwhat's that? I said, wow,
I said that's what. I realizedthat my degree. Most people didn't understand.
I was like, oh, butshe told me, like, we
can't use you. Okay. SoI went to the Navy maybe with the

(46:58):
only the only branch that actually talkto me about becoming an officer, the
only branch. And so that's howI ended up in a baby. But
honey, uh, that's crazy.I just always thought that, like,
if you had certain health issues,that that's the only because I have a

(47:23):
little cousin that is done at Ibelieve Tuskegee, and he had did RTC
all through high school and he wasfollowing behind his grandfather going to the military.
But he has a penatalergy. YEP. And I was like, wait
a second, you what, it'sa whole books. It's the entire book

(47:46):
that would disqualify you, and penaalergyis one of them. I have a
good friend he tried to go inlast year, same thing, penalalogy.
Oh well, again, I commendyou because because you know, I feel
like you don't hear a lot ofat least for me, I don't know
a lot of black women that arein service, So like, hats off

(48:08):
to you for even taking that riskand doing that. That's that's major,
you know, And I know thatyou also speak about being in service and
stuff, so I'm pretty sure youhave amplified a lot of people's voices in
that arendom because, like I said, I really haven't heard a lot of
black women speak about their experience ina always good light. But just speak

(48:32):
on you know. No, Yeah, that is definitely one of the things.
After I retire next year, youdefinitely want to transition and speaking at
more military thoughts to share. Listen, this is the truth, this is
Listen. I don't know what yourexperience is going to because you're walking is

(48:53):
going to be different on my mind, but let me paint this picture not
everything is going to be beautiful,rosing. You won't go through some stock,
especially if you're a female one.I don't care what race you are.
You're female, but then you're ablack female, you won't go through

(49:14):
some stuffs. And it's just justthe way it is. But then I
also want to speak to the highschool students, the ones that's thinking about
coming into the military. You know, let me help you and get your
mind right, because when we're young, we don't know what we're walking into.

(49:35):
We have no clue. And Iwish people did a better job preparing
me. You know, I gotwarnings, but I really wasn't prepared.
So I really would like to startspeaking and just better prepare our youth.
Military is great. Not talking aboutagainst it, Oh god, no,

(49:57):
come in, but I want tomake sure they know what they're getting into.
That's good. See look at youout here blossoming Boston up. I
love that. And to add,just to bring this whole conversation for a
circle, can you speak on pickthe Sweet Poison? Yes? Yes,

(50:20):
yeah, yeah, so picture sweetPoison. I'm a misologist. I turned
day hobby into a business. Heyyeah, so it was born through COVID
and through my divorce. But ittook a good friend of mine to see
that I had a skill and atalent that I didn't even know I had.

(50:40):
So I've been making drinks since college. You know what we do before
we go out and we know drinksare too hot. We're gonna make our
own drinks. Thank you, wegonna regain. And that's all I was
doing again, just entertaining, entertainingfriends. She said, you know you
make content recipes without using the recipe. Say what you said, my girl,

(51:00):
I'm just over here to make itsome drinks. She's like, yeah,
but you're not using a recipe.Car, You're creating your own drinks.
So did a little market research seeif there was a market. There
was. So my boxes pick yourSweet poison. Okay, that's how it
looks. It's on Amazon. Yes, on Amazon. It has over sixty

(51:23):
plus cocktail recipes in it, aboutten percent. I left some plastic ones
in there for you, but they'reall my own recipes and they are geared
towards women. I had us inmind. You know, so you want
your sweet drinks, your candy drinks, your tea drinks, your coffee drinks.
That's me. Yeah, I gottired of my friends say I can't

(51:43):
drink dark liquor white liquor. I'mnot comfortable to a liquor store. You
just haven't had the right cocktail.That's all it is. You just haven't
had the right cottail. So nowI not only have the recipes for you
to add to your whenever you feellike we have a drink, but if
you want to learn and just havesome fun, I actually do virtual classes.

(52:07):
You could go to www. DotCocktail recipes dot fun or Instagram,
Facebook click on my schedule. Ialways have at least three or four classes
posted a month. And I alsodo in home parties in home private lesson.
So it's a great way. Ithink of it like having a girl

(52:28):
sleepover one night. Okay, yes, have an adul't sleepover. When you
and your girls, y'all can party, y'all could drink. Everybody's safe,
and I'm your entertainment. Something likea private shelf, but you get a
private mission. It just showing youhow to make four contails in home safe.

(52:50):
What better way? And we gotgames, we got everything, We
do it all. It's like itis a big party, either online or
in person. It is an experience. But you know what, as good
as that sounds, I feel likewhat makes it more wonderful is the fact
that it came, the idea came, the birth of it came down such
a rough part of your life.So you turned that timing into something miraculous.

(53:19):
You know the books the speaking thatlike you really as they say,
now you glowed up, your bossedup, you know, like you know
what the thing? I love it. But you are a pair of representation
that the storm does not last.And I'm going to hit you with something
that with your own words, youcan handle anything that comes your way because

(53:44):
you were designed and prepared for it. Trust you, And I feel like
you didn't know you were prepared forthe storm, Like you said, that
came your way, but you trustedGod. But you had to trust yourself
as well. And then don't lookat you. You don't put my words
back over there, like yeah,listen, I'm gonna put put it back.

(54:05):
Put it back, you know whatI'm saying. But because like,
no, I saw that, andI'm like hold on now, like I'm
I believe in divine time, andI believe that things come to us in
the right time, whether it wasand that lives one of the first things
that I saw, and I'm like, okay, yeah, this I need
to get a little bit more deeper. So I like to end every episode

(54:28):
even though we talked about a lotof words of encouragement and inspiring things.
Can you offer something positive to someonethat may be you know, enduring,
like whether it's a divorce right nowor breakup or just going through a hard
patch in life, something positive thatthey may need to hear right now.
Yeah, you know, it doesn'train forever. So just because what you're

(54:55):
going through may seem hard, itmay seemed difficult, it may be stormy
in your life, and all youfeel is the wind, the rage,
the howling everything around you. Settleyourself and just know that I was going

(55:17):
in. There's nowhere in the historybooks said it rained forever. The rain
has to stop, the storm willpass, the battle will come to an
end. As long as you settleyourself, trust yourself, trust in God,

(55:38):
you're going to come out on theother side better than when you were
in it. M I'll hear that, and she is prime literal representation of
coming out on the other side.And I wish so much more success and
beautiful things boss in your life,and I feel that it's going to happen.

(56:00):
It's happening. So thank you againfor this conversation and you know for
sharing space with me to speak onthese things. I want everyone to go
tap in with you. So canyou please tell people where they can find
you on social media, your website, anything that you you know want to
give, Please let them know rightnow where they can find you. Yeah,

(56:21):
you know, so you can followme. You want to know more
about my mythology and sign up forclasses, go to Facebook, YouTube or
Instagram and type in picture sweet poisonthe website. The direct website is www
dot contail, Recipes dot fun.But if you don't want to follow me.

(56:42):
In regards to speaking and devotional orthe shirts motivational shirts, affirmational shirts,
you can go to speak with Tiffanydot com. That's also speak with
Tiffany on Instagram and Facebook. Ido have an epsy page where you can
order everything, or even on mywebsite. I have a shop on there

(57:04):
that's t L. Harvey Speak that'smy et C store. Then you already
just go to one stop shop.My landing page is t L. Harveyinvestments
dot com because you will see that. I'm also do government consultations for small
businesses. Oh so anybody wants awoman of many girls? You just you

(57:27):
just racking in na is so goodthough. Yeah, So that's that's you
know. I've been doing it foreighteen years, eighteen years government, eighteen
years military. That's something I sleepand breathe. That's what the government has
trained me in and I'm great atwhat I do. So now I've seen

(57:49):
the struggle of small business, especiallyblack owned small businesses who really want to
break into to be a federal contractor. Now, so I have my business
where I'm happy at a very lowrate. I would say to help get
businesses in, to help get themon the right track and not try to

(58:12):
sell them all these different classes andcourses and overcharge and just all these myths
and lines that people got out ofthere. Yeah, because you definitely gotta
be care all these days. Takethis master class and you'll do that.
Yeah. So, but that isa matter class. You get me one
on one. Nope, there's nomaster class, there's no d book,

(58:34):
there's no download buss. That's mewalking you through, holding your hands throughout
the process. That's what you're getting. Oh man, that's awesome when you
guys heard it. If you didn'thear it, that's okay if you winding
back. But I'm going to haveall her links in the description so you
guys can go tap it with her, get some of her merged get pre

(58:57):
order the book Enjoy three sixty fivedevotional because it's gonna launch in two weeks.
Are you open still at this timefor like speaking and doing podcasts and
things like that. Yeah, soI am open right now. My schedule
is not cool for twenty twenty four, so I'm still taking anybody want me
to speak in person, some inpodcasts, I'm definitely open. I do

(59:22):
have a big leadership tour that youall can buy ticket if you want to.
If you're in Michigan, Universal ofMichigan, you can definitely come and
watch multiple speakers, most ATTAMPT allthe training that we're going through, or
you can watch online if you goagain, or speak with Tiffany. My

(59:42):
LinkedIn is Tiffany Harvey and I havethe link the event right link where you
could buy a ticket and it's goingto be amazing, amazing event. Now,
if you want to hear me,actually tell my story on the stage.
That's where you want to talk.Tune in. I might either check
that out. Okay, yeah,so you guys tap in with her if
you would like for her to comeon your platform, your podcast, reach

(01:00:06):
out, or reach out to me. I can put you guys in contact,
you know, because she's an amazingperson. But please go follow her
on social media and get filled withsome of her wonderful inspiration that she pours
out on her page as well.So again, thank you so much for
joining me for this lovely conversation.Thank you for having me. Yes,

(01:00:29):
no problem, all right, y'all. I hope you guys enjoyed that lovely
conversation with me and Miss Tiffany Harvey. Thank you so much, Miss Harvey
for coming onto Chronicles of a Virgopodcast embracing us with your story as well
as your encouragement and your words ofinspiration. I truly appreciate it, and

(01:00:52):
I hope that someone out there thatwas listening resonated with that or just is
feeling more inspired now on your journeyof life, wherever path you are on
at this time. For me,it was inspiring because it showed that it
doesn't matter where you are in yourjourney, you can always push through.
And I think we all go throughthose moments where we feel defeated, We

(01:01:15):
feel like maybe God has forgot aboutus. God, are you listening,
Like, are you even there right? If I'm just being real, I've
had those thoughts many days. ButI feel like when you hold on to
your faith and you really trust inyourself and you get up and you keep
pushing through, you will find outwhat's on the end side of those obstacles.

(01:01:39):
I always say, you got togo through it and step out on
faith, step into the unknown toreally see what's what's on the other side,
you know. And a lot oftimes when we're going through a lot
of pain and adversity, it's hardfor us to want to go on.
However, Miss Harvey is a primeexample of what happens when you get the

(01:02:01):
help that you need, do thework, and keep pushing through, and
out of that pain came a purpose, a passion, and a bunch of
other blessings, and now she's blessingother people in many beautiful ways. So
I love that for her, andI love that for anybody out there that's
going through it, because there isa way out of it, so don't

(01:02:23):
feel like you are stuck in whateveryou're going through, because we're gonna get
through it all right, y'all.And like she said, you gotta feel
it to heal it. I loveit. I love it, but please
by it means please go tap inwith her on social media. Check out
her website for her merge all ofthe business endeavor she is embarking on.
Please go support. All of herlinks will be in a description box below,

(01:02:45):
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(01:03:08):
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segment if you have a question forme. Like I said, some of
those questions will be rolled out soonin more of an episode form though.
Okay, but anyway, the linkwill be in a description box of all
of my other links as well asMS Harvey's links as well so you guys

(01:03:29):
can tap in with her all right. So I hope you guys take care
of yourself, my body, spirit, soul, keep everything in alignment,
keep your heart together all right,and take care of each other. Peace
out. Thank you for listening toan episode of Chronicles of a Virgo podcast

(01:03:51):
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(01:04:14):
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