Advice to remember for the remainder of 2024 ft Mama D

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So sit back and relax and let'sget into some halen. All right,

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y'all, we are back in actionwith another lovely guests joining us today.
This is one of my favorite favoritefavorite people in podcasts and I love her
so much. We have Mama dfrom Pedals of Support. How are you
doing today, Lady Hikita, Thankyou so much. You talk about favorite
You're one of my favorites. Sowhen you asked me, I was like,

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Oh, we have got to getthis schedule because I love talking to
you. You made me smile,and your podcast makes me smile, and
I think we all definitely need thatin our day, so I'm so grateful
you are letting me come and talkto you today. Yes, of course,
mamade. Like when I was onyour show, I think it was

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last year, we had so muchfun. It was such a good conversation.
We did all of the episodes,we quit recording, and then we
talked for like another like forty fiveminutes, and I'm like, I should
have just kept recording because we justkept talking. I think we talked about
some private stuff, so I'm gladI didn't record all that. But it's
just nice when you can meet somebodyonline and just feel comfortable talking to them.

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It's a blessing. I think thatwe sometimes look at internet and all
the you know X and all thisstuff is bad, but it's not the
best for some things. But thenyou meet these connections with people and you're
like, thank you for being inmy world because I appreciate you so much.
Definitely, Like I always say,I used to think that, you

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know, everyone was a bad personor people allowed to get you. But
being in this podcasting environment, Ireally have faith in humanity again because there
are some good people, including you. Well, thank you, yes,
including you, We do well.There are some wonderful, wonderful people in
the indie podcast community. I willdefinitely say that, supportive and kind and

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helpful, and it's just it's agood little fan to be a part of.
If you're looking for something cool todo. Yes, yes, yes,
so y'all were gonna get into somethings today. But before, of
course, we get into our conversation, we have to do our lovely mental
health check. We have to makesure we are good, all our bring
juices are flowing, all of thosewonderful things. So Mama, d you

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know how to go. But forsomeone that's joining us for the first time
that does not know much about themental health check, we do them every
episode and hopefully every day in yourreal life, when you are measuring your
mental health on a scale of oneto five, five, being that you
are in a very good space.One band. You're not in the best
space, have some room for porn, but you are managing okay. So

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Mama D how are you feeling today? On the scale of one to five.
I did some thinking because you know, I knew that you'd be asking
me, and I think I'm goingto give myself a four because I had
a long week and it was alittle draining because we've got the thing's going
on in the family with life thathappens, exciting things, but they add

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stress. But it's Friday, becausewe're recording on a Friday. So I
realized that probably there's a couple timesthis week I was a three, a
couple of times that maybe I wasat a five. But I think today,
just because it's the end of theweek so you're a little tired,
I would give myself a four,which I'm very happy with. Yes for

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the four, come through four.But you know what, it's okay because
you said you went from like athree, four or five some days this
week, and that's fine. Thatjust shows that you are human. You
don't always have to have a goodday, but you can bounce back,
and that's what we have to do, and sometimes, you know, bounce
a little little bounces and then allof a sudden we're doing better. So

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the little bounce is a couple ofdays this week. But now I'm and
I'm good at a four. Ithink that tomor being a Saturday, despite
the yucky weather, I'm ready fora five. And that's what tomorrow it's
gonna be. The weather. Child, Listen, I said a couple of
weeks ago, I'm ready. We'reready for spring, summer. Anything with

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this rain and coldness, okay,anything it's up and down that I'm like,
you know, I'd even take coldif it was a consistent cold where
I was like I know what towear today, or you know, am
I gonna have my heated seats onin my car? Or am I gonna
have the windows? Like what isgoing on? Because we actually live close

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to each other, you just youknow, I just don't talk about that.
So we experienced very similar weather.And there's a couple of days where
I'm like, you know, Icould go outside and like a T shirt
and be totally happy, and thenthe next day I'm wearing eight layers and
I'm like a burrito, you know, and I'm just like, I don't
it's hard. We had a lotof we had a lot of the same

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snow days and I'm like, gosh, what is that random? There was
a surprise one one Friday that Iwas like, yes, what is that
outside? Because you know, they'realways like predicting weather that doesn't happen.
But usually it's like, oh,it's gonna snow and you don't get snow,
and you're like, you're all liars. But this one, no one

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said anything, and I'm like,what is that that? I had three
kids trapped at my house because noone expected it, and I'm like,
y'all are sixteen year old new drivers. No one's going anywhere. So we
had, you know, frozen pizzaand the air fryer and Mazzarella steps and
I'm like, just sleep on thefloor when he's here tonight. But yeah,
we need we need spring, thoughI'm ready for spring. Those are

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the great memories. But yeah,my mental health today on a scale of
one to five, your girl isfive in it out, I mean getting
alive. Those we are in theseason of five and four four, four
and a half five, you know, like you said, this was definitely
a long week. I think,just with work and then the bipolar weather

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and just life. Sometimes. Youknow, some a couple of days I
didn't and feel always the best,but somehow I managed to just like shake
it off and snap back to realitydo something that made me feel good.
Sometimes it's just going outside in thecold to let some of that anxious vibes
off. But nonetheless, thank youso much for participating in a mental health

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check. Yes, I do theseas a way to continue to hold myself,
to check in with myself to seehow I'm feeling, but also to
encourage my guests and listeners to alsomake sure you're checking in with yourself,
because sometimes we think that things arenormal with our body, but your body
will tell you or show you signswhen you need to slow down. You

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know, I experienced burnout back inDecember, and I a hate for anyone
else to ever experience anything like thator just have, you know, like
a mental health emergency. So tokind of prevent these things, we want
to do our check in. Youknow, I agree, it's good,
all right, all right, Solet's get it into this conversation. So

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before we dive fully into the conversation, Mom and d you have a fabulous
podcast, Pedals of Support. Youknow that you give so much, so
much encouraging and insightful messages, right, thank you. And you have lovely
guests. Yes, you have lovelyguests on there. You call them like

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your sleepover my Sleepover episodes. Yeah, I'm so lucky to including you some
great guests. Yes, yes,So tell us how you came up with
the whole platform of Pedals of Support, Like, what was your motivation behind
it? Well, it was,I say, a gift for my kids.
I have two boys right now.One is a junior in college and

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one is a sophomore in high school. And back when the junior was a
senior in high school, so he'sgetting ready to leave, and we were
all not feeling it because, youknow, we've been this family of four
for a very long time and youknow things are going to change. It
could be that he's coming home allthe time. It could be we don't
see him, you know, andwe didn't know what to expect. But

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we were sitting around and my oldestwas teasing my youngest and saying, you
know that when I'm gone. Insteadof mom being able to focus like all
her mom on two people she's goingto just have you. And my youngest
was quite scared because I have alot of mom in me and just kind
of you know, just focusing onlaser on one person would probably not be

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a good thing. And my youngestdoesn't. He's pretty self sufficient. He's
just that kind of person. Hedoesn't need somebody you know, did you
do this or did you do that? He needs someone to check on him,
of course, but he doesn't needme sitting outside his school waiting for
him, which is probably what wasgoing to happen. And then he even
said something to my oldest, youknow, well she might end up in

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your college. And I'm thinking,you know, I could go back to
school, you know me, I'llshow up, I'll sit next to you
in a business class. We'll beyou know, we'll be buddies, study
together. So now they're like,no, this is not gonna work.
So for Christmas that year, theybought me podcasting equipment because they said,
well, you know you like totalk, which yeah, and you like

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to help people, and so theythought, well, just go help other
people, you know, Like well, I like to think it's because they
had faith in me, but seriously, it was because they're like, please,
do not like live with us anymore, like do not show up in
my accounting class. So they gotme some basic stuff and it took some

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time to figure out how to dothese things. And it's funny. When
I started, my focus was becauseof what I used to do before I
was me. I worked with specialtreatment foster care kids, so I dealt
with kids who didn't really have stableadults in their world. We tried,

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but for so many reasons, theywere moved around so off and the and
the biological parents for various reasons,were not actively in their lives, so
they didn't have a mom. Somy podcast started with the idea that there
are a lot of people that justfor whatever reason, don't have that or

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didn't have that. So it reallystarted with me. If you listen to
some of my first episodes, Ido a whole one on how to do
laundry because I thought, if someonedoesn't tell you how to do it,
there is no common sense. Inmy opinion, you have to be taught
everything, even from you know,a little kid, don't put your hand
on the stove. They'll do ituntil you teach them not to. So

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that's not even common sense. SoI thought, well, I'll do episodes
on laundry. I'll do episodes onhow to, you know, find the
best deals, you know, howto actually grocery shop for the best deal
so you save money. And astime went on, I realized that a
lot of my listeners were not thatage group. And of course that age

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group is welcome to come listen andI'll do whatever episode people need, but
I realized that it was a lotbroader. And then I also realized that
my boys just they can be messessometimes. So they give me so many
topics that I can talk about,but I can twist it a little bit
to make it a little bit morefor people in all sorts of age groups.

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So that's how I started the name. My oldest came up with the
original picture that I used as mylogo. My youngest took of some flowers
that they had bought me and hezoomed in on one flower, and that
was the logo that I was using. So they've been really active in helping,
but you know, they've never listenedto the podcast. They even though

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they came up with the name,they actually don't know it's the one.
Because there was like four names.They came up with, some we couldn't
use, but it was the youknow one that I picked. They've never
listened. They're not I don't wantthem to. It's kind of my thing.
So you know, they're in thebackground, they're always there, they
just aren't the active you know,they don't come on or anything like that.

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So yeah, that's where it started. I love that story. Everything
is like so intentional, Like it'slike seeds were planned and now everything is
coming to fruition and just blossoming.I love that. And what I love
that you said was a lot ofpeople did not have like that mommy,
that mom nurture. Yeah, andyou felt like you could offer that like

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kind of like virtually right. Yeah, And I just I thought, like,
back to my freshman year of college, my freshman roommate did not know
how to do laundry. When yousaid that, I'm like, oh,
she literally, I'll never forget thisstory. Like she literally the first time
we went to go do laundry,she tried to throw everything together white colored.

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I'm like, no, you don'tdo I was like, you never
watched like your own clothes. You'relike, no, my mom doesn't like
her mom would do everything, butshe never taught her how to do it
was a lot of things that shewill was well. Then that's the other
extreme, is that you can havea parent who you know they don't mean
to do everything, but by doingeverything, you're not passing the knowledge down

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to your kids. So then youdrop them off at college and you think,
you know, I loved them andI supported them, and I you
know they wanted for nothing. They'reready, and you drop this child off
who's like, I don't know howto do any I don't know how to
make my bed, and I knowkids that were like that, and so
it's kind of just that there's thisan extreme on both sides. So I

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was kind of like, well,we'll try to aim for those people,
but ended up kind of being morein the middle, which is okay,
it all works the way it's supposedto. Yeah, I feel like your
message is whether it's from you oryour guests, everything is just universal,
Like someone can find something with yourshow and that's why I love about it.
And it's always I remember when Ifirst connected with you, I was

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like, dang, this lady beecome every week. You're like coming with
stuff that's either in my head orlike that I'm going through and I'm like,
this was right on time. Ithink it was right on time.
I think there was one one ofthe podcast friends said, do you follow
me around? Because if you do, just let me know and I'll invite
you over for you know, likea glass of wine. I'm like,
I wish, you know, thatwould be beautiful, but it's just I

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think it applies because we've all youknow. I don't like to say people
aren't special, because you are special, but a lot of what you're going
through other people have gone through.I've gone through, or I'm going through,
my kids are going through. Solet's learn from each other because I
don't want me to stumble and fall. I've stumbled and fall. It would
been nice for someone to say thatthere's that's the way to do it,

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or try this way because it won'thurt as bad, and I would have,
you know, maybe listened, maybenot, because sometimes we have to
make their own decisions. That's cooltoo, but it's kind of I want
it to be where maybe it doesn'tapply to you now, but if you
file it away, maybe one dayit will or sometimes I hope it never
does, you know, I hopeit's just something a message you never need,

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like about toxic friends or something.I hope you never have those people.
But if you do, and itmight not be toxic friends, maybe
you have to tweak it and it'stoxic co workers, or it's a toxic
family in law or family or neighboror something. But maybe somehow you can
kind of tweak it a little bitso it works and maybe it'll make your
life a little bit easier, becausethat's all I want to do. Yeah,

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I love that. And what doyou like putting out certain episodes and
talking about certain things. Does itaffect you personally? Because I know sometimes
like when I talk about certain thingsback in the day in my earlier stages,
I'm like, oh, maybe Iwasn't prepared to talk much about this.
Or do you find healing in someof the conversations that you have.

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It's a good question. Well,I do not talk much about my past.
I was in my past life beforeI was Mama D when I worked
in foster care. I don't talkabout that. There's maybe a couple episodes
where I thought that the message wasimportant, but I don't talk about those

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things because a lot of those episodesare solos, so it's me talking to
a wall, and that can bea lot for me to start through.
So when I'm a guest or whenI have guests, I'm willing to talk
about that stuff because I don't feelalone. But because of what I saw
and what I dealt with, andI loved the job, I loved that

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I did it, but it tookmore out of me than I realized at
the time, but it made mewho I am now, so I'm very
grateful for it. But to talkas a solo episode, I don't do
that. And there have been thingslike I did talk once. This was
quite a while ago about a lossthat I had, and it was of

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fiance boyfriend. I don't we wereyoung, so we called each other one
thing where we truly I don't thinkwe were at that level, but we
ended on a very bad note andwe didn't talk and then he passed away.
And when I talked about that episode, I realized just how there was

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things I hadn't worked through, andI got points from it, such as,
you know, how really you shouldn'tleave things unsaid, and you shouldn't
you know, it's not easy todo, but don't walk away mad.
Don't let someone leave mad, becausesometimes sometimes you just do need to walk
away mad, but you need tocome back together. And we never came

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back together, even after we bothgot married, and it would have been
so easy in the world of socialmedia just to reach out, but neither
one of us did because we bothsaid things we shouldn't have said, and
and he passed away. I realizedthat that was a part that I would
never that was a whole, itwould never be filled because he was a

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part of my life and no onewas going to fix that, and then
my chance to fix it was over. So that one that was a hard
episode for me. But in general, most of the time it's you know,
as I sent my kids do someweird things. God love both of
them. So it's usually me going, I don't even know, you know,
some advice, Oh why that wasa bad idea, you know,

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Or it's things I oversee where Iam like, oh jeez, how that
could have been handled so much better, and then nobody would be mad at
each other. So most of theepisodes are not you know, but there
have definitely you know, thank youfor asking though, because I hadn't really
thought it. There have been sometriggering ones or ones that I totally avoid,
which is what I did in thepast, or the details of those
things, and that's very understandable.Like, like I said, I've had

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moments too where I've had conversations withmy I guess you could say, myself
when I'm doing solos and like myheart is racing and I'm like, am
I not supposed to talk about this? But I guess it's just me gauging
how much I'm actually ready to share, you know, because I'm like an
open book, you know. Butbut I realized, just do this.

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You talk about things when you're ready, and if you're not ready, then
that's okay. You just say whatyou want and then you can come back.
I've had that moment, Hey,something happened. I can't talk about
it now, But when I'm safeor out of a certain environment than I
can, you know. So Ijust I guess it's important for us,

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as you know, podcast is torecognize those moments, you know, because
I would hate for someone to talkabout like some of the things that we
discussed and then later on the flipside of that, they're really suffering alone,
you know. Yeah, when Ihave done episodes when I've actually deleted
them because I realized it. Butit's not that I was upset I shared

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it. It was more that thewhole twenty minutes, because mine are usually
twenty minutes when they're solos, wasme trying to work through something and I
realized that that wasn't really what Iwanted to put out, but it worked
for me. So I think wesometimes underestimate just how wonderful podcasting can be
for us just work things out.Because then, you know, I listened

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back and I realized, well,and it wasn't that it was something I
didn't want anyone to know about.It was more like that made little to
no sense to anyone else. They'regonna be listening to this going whoa,
you know, she has gone allover the place. But I felt better
afterwards, So then later on Iredo the episode, but making a lot
more sense because it's not me,let's go off the path and now let's

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go up this hill, but we'regonna run down the hill. And it
all ended up working out, butit was definitely needed. So have you
do you ever delete episodes or doyou? Yeah? I do get it,
Yeah, yeah, because I thinkthat sometimes I can go down a
rabbit hole too much and I canlose track of the main point of what

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I'm trying to say. So I'mlike, you know what, I didn't
need to say that, this don'tneed to be out. Let me go
back and re recorded solo ones arealways easier, are always so I have
I have that that moment a fewtimes, and it's just me also like
regaining my self control because again Iknow that sometimes certain things don't need to

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be said, or I don't wantpeople to misconstrue what I'm trying to actually
say. So let me try toformulate, you know, my dialogue a
different way saying the same thing,but just more appropriate, you know.
And that's I mean, yeah,it's like I re record and I'm like,
now that I figured out how tosay it for someone else, But
it took me recording at the firsttime and making you know, I mean,

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it makes sense in my head,but I could definitely see how somebody
else would be like, I don'teven understand how she connected those two dots.
They don't connect, but what Irethink of how to say it,
I'm like, see, they doconnect, but I needed to say it.
This way and then I'm getting mymessage out much better than you know,
because I don't want someone to turnoff halfway through because they're like,
you know, she is really noneof this makes sense. Where maybe the

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message in the end was good andit's what I wanted to say, I
just couldn't formulate how to say it. And I might do that now forty
times on this episode with you,I'll be like, hello, we're gonna
talk about this. Yeah, Likenow, you go back to my first
season. I didn't know how toedit it back then and I wasn't restarting
nothing. So I can't tell youthat I didn't say some things that probably

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should have been either edited it outor I probably should have just re recorded.
But it is what it is.It shows my growth as well,
you know, and that's, youknow what, that's what we should be
proud of, because you know,I'm always like you don't. You can
listen to the first ones, butjust remember that I do know what audacity
is now, and I know howto edit, and I have real equipment.
I mean, not that the boysdid a great job, but they

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went on Amazon and they typed inpodcasting equipment and then they were in a
budget where you know, when yougrow a little bit, you're like,
okay, now I can have somethinga little bit more where you can control.
So everybody's welcome to listen to thoseepisodes at the beginning, but just
remember that we do get better,we grow, we do get more formulated

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in all of those things. Andbecause you are Mama d and you put
out all of these wonderful episodes aboutjust life advice and just informal things.
And I say informal things because yourepisodes you did about the will of dating
your will, and you've done episodesabout us scam calls like you do a

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lot of informative things. Since weare in a season where we are we
have a few more months left ofthe year. When an episole comes out,
I want you to give us someMamedy advice, some tips on some
things how we can have the restof twenty twenty four can be successful for

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us. Love that good topic,very good topic. Yes, So I
picked out five as you requested,and they're going to be all over the
place, and I did do episodeson these, so I will say an
episode number just in case anybody wantsto go listen to me raise at it
just as a solo, you know, under twenty minutes. But there's some

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rambling. But the first one isactually from episode two hundred, which was
a big milestone for me. Andyes, it was well recently from when
we were recording this, and itwas this saying that I ed I'd save
this saying for this episode, whichis one day or day one, you
decide and whenever something cool pops intoyour path, whether it is you know,

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a job opportunity, whether it's anopportunity to move, whether it's a
new hobby, or it's something whereyou're like, you know what I want
to do that I want to takethat trip one day, you should ask
yourself is this a one day thing? Or is this day one? And
day one means that you're ready tostart, but it doesn't have to be
like this big firework thing. AndI think a lot of us think day

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one has to be a big dealbecause it's the first step, but it
doesn't. It's just committing and whetherthat committing is researching. So let's say
you know, you want to takethis trip to you know, I don't
know, MAUI. I would loveto do that, So that's not going
to happen anytime soon. But Ican still start day one by researching how

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much money do I need to take, the trip I want to take,
where do I need to stay,what do I want want to do,
and then you can start working towardsit. Day one isn't when you step
on the plane or when you putyour feet on the beach. It's the
research involved. And it's okay tosay, you know, one day I'll
do it, but so many thingswe could start day one and really prepare.

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So you've got you know, sixmonths left, you know, ask
yourself, whatever you've got going on, can this be day one and get
started on it. I love thatso much, And when I heard that
specific episode, I instantly thought,like fitness journey for me personally, because
I'm always having these moments while I'mstarting over, or I'm like tomorrow and

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then tomorrow becomes tomorrow, so you'relike, I can do it today,
you you know, because sometimes specificallyspeaking around like fitness journeys and things,
my mind was set up like Ican do things that I did back in
the day that worked for me,that helped me lose, because back in
the day, I lost like fiftyplus pounds like that. Doing things the

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right way. However I'm older now, can't difference. Oh yeah, yeah,
it really a little bit, gettinga little bit more seasoned. I'd
be thirty five this year, right, Yes, you know. I had
someone on and we were talking andthey told me their age, and I
realized I could be their mom.It was one of those moods where both

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staring each other in horror because it'slike, now, I mean, I
guess in theory, I could beyour mom, but it would have been
a very, very very bad thing. So we just won't go that way.
We'll just see it. We're justfronts up. But no, I
just love the fact you just saidstarting today doesn't mean like you have to
do the whole whatever that big thingis, but just doing the research,

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you know, making a making aplan. Like I loved it. I'll
go calling your doctor. Because withage comes changes, whether we're happy about
them or not. And what youcould do, you know, when you
were eighteen, or even when youwere twenty nine whatever, it might not
be totally spur. You shouldn't justgo jumping into it, you know,

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like you can say, you know, day one, I'm going to go
run a mile, maybe not maybethat. You know, maybe in the
end you run the mile, butyou know, what's your next day going
to be? Like, are yougetting out of bed? Are you making
it anywhere? So maybe day oneis doing some research, finding a cool
app. They've got really great appsout there that can help you calling your

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doctor and saying let's make an appointment, you know, going to a health
club if you can afford, youknow, the fitness stuff, and finding
a trainer, budgeting all that.But that's still day one. Or to
add to it, though, Dayone could simply be I'm gonna go for
a walk because I didn't take awalk yesterday, I didn't take a walk
last week. So you walking goingto the park and walking two laps,

(29:53):
that's day one. Celebrate that.That is the first step. It doesn't
have to be that mile it Itwill be the mile one day, just
day want. You know, Ilove that, and I love the fact
you said celebrate. Oh is onpoint. Celebrate it. But whatever you
do, like, whatever steps youtake towards that goal, celebrate it.

(30:15):
Celebrate the milestone even you know,and I always like to say, now
where I'm in life, don't necessarilymeasure it, right whether it's big or
small, celebrate it. Yeah,well that's like this. You know that
when I had my two hundredth episode, you know, I didn't I put
it out there because I was veryproud of myself and I knew that my

(30:36):
podcasting friends would get it. Ialso knew that my family would not because
as af fordive they are, theydon't get what I do. They're like,
like tonight, they're like, whoare you talking to? And you
know they're they want to be involved, but they don't get it. So
I wanted to put it out there, but to be honest, I got
I had a bottle of wine andafter they was a band doing I had

(31:00):
some wine and I was proud ofmyself. I don't need everybody else to
celebrate with me. And it's soit's nice. It's nice to have.
But sometimes just you know, doesn'thave to be a bottle of one.
It could be you know, whateveryou enjoy that idea. You know,
it could be you know, goingto the grocery store and getting yourself a
slice of cake, unless you're doinga fitness journey, probably not the best,

(31:22):
but you know, just to say, you know what, this is
cool. I did this all me. This is me. Celebrate it,
be proud of yourself. Yes.So first thing on Mamade's list is one
day. Wait, no, I'malready it's one day or day one.
You decide, yes, one dayor day one, you decide that's right,

(31:45):
Next one, next episode two hundred. Yeah, that was episode two
hundred. This one is from episodeone thirty four And I recorded this right
after the last episode of the tedLasso Show. I don't know if anyone
else watched ted Lasso. It's onApple TV. It is will always be

(32:07):
one of my favorite shows, justbecause it is so heartwarming and you know,
you got the side people and it'syou know, about soccer. And
I'm not going to say that theactors aren't worth looking at, you know.
I mean, there's some bonuses forMama d there, but the story,
the way people help each other,it is truly a beautiful, you

(32:27):
know, four season show. Ihighly recommend it. But one of the
things that ted Lasso says to hisplayers, there is one player and he
just things are not going well.He has a bad I want to say,
it's it was like a bad game. And it's not all about soccer,
like it's more about the other things. But Ted says to him that

(32:49):
the happiest in whether this is trueor not, don't know, don't care,
because I like it. The happiestcreature is the goldfish because it has
like a one second or two secondmemory, and so be a goldfish.
And I agree with that. WeI think, at least in my world,
we focus on things that have happenedso much, and we often focus

(33:13):
on the bad things. We alltalk about how you know, I'm lying
in Ben about to fall asleep,and my brain's like, let's discuss that
really embarrassing moment that happened when youwere in sixth grade, and let's relive
it a hundred times, you know, because we remember bad things, and
bad things are going to happen.You are going to fail. I love
you, but you're gonna fail.I am going to fail. You are

(33:36):
going to make big mistakes. Mostmistakes, in the end can be fixed.
It's okay. There's very few timesthat we cannot fix something. It
might take time, but be agoldfish. Move on, learn I mean
the love of God. Learn fromeverything, the good and the bad.
But don't carry that negative baggage tothe next thing and think that that decides.

(34:00):
I feeled it at the first time, so I'm going to feel why
try again. We'll try again becausenow you have something new in your back.
Now you know that didn't work.Let's try this. But you I
think people would be a lot happierif we could somehow. And it's not
easy. None of my advice isever. You know. I wish I
had a magic wand and I couldbe like Kida, you know, forget

(34:21):
it, you know, just mehappy. But be a goldfish. Move
on, you know, don't forgetthe memory or the lesson part. But
keep going. Don't sit in thepast. It's so hard to not do.
But if we work at things andwork on them ourselves, not expect

(34:42):
other people to do it for us, you know, and that commuted or
not try to do it for otherpeople. That's you know, a fixer
wanting to do it for other people. You gotta do it yourself. But
be a goldfish and just you know, move on. It's a new game,
it's a new day. I wouldjust Oh, I could watch that.
I could watch all four just onrepeat because you get such a little

(35:06):
awesome gems from that show. Soyeah that I love it so much.
And I always say, I've beensaying this since my first season, that
if you happen to look back inthe rearview mirror, just look at look
back to look how far you havecame. You know, don't look don't
look back to stay there, acknowledgethe journey, acknowledged a lesson, like

(35:28):
you said, but just keep goingforward. I love this, so lessen
to for the rest of the year. Y'all be a goldfish, Be a
goldfish. Just keep sweeting. Andthat was episode one thirty four. I
ramble about that mostly because I ranabout ted last so for twenty minutes.
But great show number three, numberthree is in all we're going back in

(35:50):
time. We're gonna go to episodesixty five. So warning for everyone who's
you know, listening to this audionot awesome. Didn't understand how to edit.
I didn't understand that sitting in areally big room with an iPad and
a microphone when you produce good audio. Didn't understand that now we're kind of
in this enclosed space. It's alittle bit better for me. But I

(36:12):
like this message, and it wasit's that bad choices are good. Make
bad choices. We learn from thattime because sometimes we look and think,
you know what, my friends wantto go out after work. The right
choice is for me to not goout with them because I got to work

(36:32):
tomorrow too. The right choice isfor me to go home and let's say
you live alone, for me togo home, make myself dinner, sit
down and watch TV, go tobed early, get up the next day.
The bad choice, because I'm nottalking bad choice, is like,
you know, go drink and godrive. No, please, do you
know it's not that's That's not whatwe're talking. Don't do that. Don't

(36:55):
do that. I'm saying that thewrong choice in you know, logic is
to go out with your friends becauseyou're gonna, you know, your friends,
you're gonna have fun, You're gonnastay out late, but you are
gonna make so many awesome memories.I'm not saying do it every time,
but there's nothing wrong with saying I'mgonna do the wrong thing and I'm gonna

(37:19):
learn from it, and tomorrow nightI can go home early, you know,
and go home and go to begs. I'm gonna be tired for the
night I have, But think ofthe memories. Some of my favorite stories
of my growing up were me makingreally not the right choice. It was
me saying, you know what,yeah, let's go there. Or it's
a restaurant. You know you alwaysgo the same restaurant because it's the restaurant

(37:43):
where you know, you know themenu, you know what you're gonna get,
you know it's gonna be good.It's all good. It's saying,
you know what, I have neverhad typhood in my life. Let's go
get thy food. And maybe youlike typhood, maybe your Tommy doesn't like
typhood. The next day you're like, I will never have time food.
You can, but the memory youhave, it's a new choice. Go

(38:05):
and do it. And don't youknow, don't always walk the straight path.
Sometimes we got to just go offand learn something, have fun.
Life is so short, and again, there are very few mistakes we can't
fix. There are some avoid those, but there are very few mistakes we
can't fix. Eventually, I lovethat and thinking about it, my whole

(38:27):
freshman year of college was bad choice. But I remember every single one you
do. And you can sit backand say like, there's times when I
think, thank goodness, there wasno social media that would like you could
not take my picture and then youlike have it all over the place.
You know, Thank goodness that didn'texist, Thank goodness that you know,

(38:49):
we were in a safe place withthe things we did. Oh, those
are some really wonderful memories, andI'm glad I had them. I learned
stuff, I experienced things that Inever would have experienced. I laughed and
I cried, and I danced andI did you know things that Thank goodness,
I'm alive sometimes, you know,like, thank goodness we came out

(39:12):
girl. Yes, yes, yes, some of those stories. You know,
it's like I could tell you somethings, Kita that you no,
I could tell you some things.And we had social media, but the
era. Yeah, so let mesee when I had when I my freshman

(39:32):
year of college. First of all, you wasn't able to get on Facebook
unless you had a college email address. So when I got my email address,
oh you're wrong, yeah, becauseI got on it like my senior
year of high school because that's whenI got accepted to college. Instagram and
then I don't know when Twitter allthat stuff came around. But we had

(39:53):
social media, but it was nothinglike it is today. Like I looked
at some of my memory, wedid not care how we looked, if
we would have to be fixed upand dulled up and stuff. Like we
was just being us and just comfortable. Not I can't even recall too many
conversations of us feeling like people arein line are going to judge us.

(40:15):
We would go I don't know whatwe were wearing back and back then going
to these parties and stuff. Butlike even those moments, the memories that
I have, none of those madesocial media because people wasn't so quick to
pull out phones and you were justin the moment. You were in the
moment, in the bad moments,but it was okay. But you know

(40:36):
it again, it's like I,yeah, they weren't great they and I
would never want my kids to comehome and be like this is what I
did. I'd be like, ohgod, no, you know, but
good for them for you know,living in the moment, because we don't.
And I think as we get olderwe also are like, you know,
oh, I don't want to Idon't want to spend that money.

(40:58):
I'm not telling you to go outand you know, buy a car or
something like that. You know,but you want another Stanley Club, you
know, get yourself one if youwant to have a whole that's fine.
You know. Is it a badchoice? And you know, yeah,
in theory it is, because that'smoney that probably should be saved for something
else. But you know what,if another plant makes you happy, buy

(41:22):
a plant. It's not the endof the world. It's okay. And
buy that bath and by the candleexactly and burn it. Do not put
it on a shelf and say,I'm gonna save this for a special day.
No. No, the special dayis the next time you want to
take a bath. Burn the candle, or you're sitting watching you know,

(41:42):
ted Lasts Apple TV. Burn thecandle and enjoy it. Quit saving things
for special days. Do it,because I guess that would be the great
choice. I'm going to save this, these dishes for when people come over,
or I'm gonna save you know,I'm not gonna use that until people
come over. No use it?Yeah, you know, hand wash it

(42:06):
if you can't put in dishwasher becauseit's special dishes. I don't care.
Use it. Sit down, watcha show, or sit with your family
and eat on your good china whatever. Enjoy it. Is it a bad
choice? Yeah? Probably, youknow, I mean, things can happen,
but enjoy life when you can.Yeah. So when we finished this,
I will be going to empty allof my carts on machine flashing OVA

(42:30):
target all of those stores and purchasingeverything that I haven't saved for weeks.
So yes, And when it showsup and you open the park to say
thank you Mama D for telling me, yes, I'm gonna send you all
the pictures like you said, makebad and I will be so happy for
you. I just went and buymyself. I don't need another plant,

(42:52):
but I'm like, you know what, it's orange. I don't have one
that makes I love cactuses. SoI have the Thanksgiving and a Christmas.
I have wanted an Easter one,and I found the Easter one in it,
so I bought it. And myhusband's like, you have two of
them, Like, but I don'thave this one. This is a whole

(43:12):
other season. So it's on thetable too. Could I have saved that
money and probably used it for oha thousand other things? I mean,
tennis is expensive. I could havebut it's okay that I spent fifteen dollars
on a plant that bad. Choicesare okay here and there, not all

(43:34):
the time. You know. Imean, that's not good, but you
know that's why. You know,we do have budgets and everything. But
cod go to the different restaurant,go see a movie that you've heard really
crappy things about. If you don'tlike it, it's a memory. You
can sit with whomever you want withand be like that really sucked. That
was a way of money, butyou know what, it was fun.

(43:58):
It was fun. Yeah, lifeneeds to be a little bit more fun.
So number three, I'll make badchoices, make them, make them
own up to them and laugh abouthim and be like, you know what,
that was not where we should haveended up, but damn it was
a fun night. As long asyou're safely home afterwards, that's all that.
It's all gang. Yes. Sonumber four is from episode one fifty

(44:23):
four and it was called one LittleWorld, One little Word. Here we
go. And this was something thatI had read and it was like a
challenge that I gave myself because weoften say that I have to so I'm
I have always been bad about thatI have to go over to my parents'

(44:45):
house. My parents live very closeand then betimes when they would be like,
hey, can you stop by anddo this my dad. It's always,
you know, I don't understand whyhe has a DVR. He doesn't
use it. And I said it, I can't even tell many times I've
set this and then so I'm constantlygoing over there. The man is extremely
intelligent, but the DVR, it'sjust over his head for some reason.

(45:07):
And my friend and I remember thisbecause my friend said, Dode, I
want to go out to dinner beforewe had a meeting, and I said,
no, I have to go tomy parents' house. And then I
read this little have to versus Iget to, And I thought, I
say have to constantly and I don'tmean it meanly. I don't mean you

(45:29):
know, damn it, I haveto go to my parents again. But
that's how it comes across. Andif my parents heard me say it,
it doesn't sound very nice. Iwouldn't want someone to be like like tonight,
I have to record with Mamma dytonight. It doesn't sound nice.
It doesn't sound like you really wantedthis. But if you say I get

(45:51):
to, that says something that meansI matter to you. It makes me
feel appreciated. It doesn't hurt myfeelings when my kids, you know,
they both, you know, drivenow. But I used to say I
have to drive my youngest to practice. Did I really mind? You know?
Sometimes sometimes I didn't want to.But truthfully, now that my one

(46:15):
is older, those were blessings,you know, we those times pass.
My parents are fine right now,but I will not have them, so
I get to see them when Igo over there to set a dang DVR.
My oldest doesn't need me to drivehim anywhere. You know, he

(46:37):
will let me obviously, Like wewent and got sushi day. Oh he
was in the car. Let metell you he was fine with me driving
somewhere, and he doesn't need meto, so I get to drive him.
I got to drive my youngest topractice for years. I got to
sit out in a cold weather andwatch soccer and then get sick. But

(47:00):
I don't get to do that anymorebecause you get the seat. Oh you
hide these I am really good atbeing like they look over I have like
gummy worms, and I'm like,you know, I laugh every time you
say that, and I'm like,that is a good idea because sometimes putting
me your g love department, peoplewill find you had spot and you say

(47:20):
so bad about that. Yeah,I actually I hide them places where I
know people are looking over in anothercar and they see me, you know,
butt in the air. I'm climbingover seats to get to my secret
stash of you know, whatever itis that I you know, when I
pack it on, then I've gotyou know, my pop in there and
everything, or my water. Andbut I get to do those things.

(47:43):
So it's amazing how if you reallytry, you can change your whole outlook
with just changing one silly word.And I don't think we mean to say
have to. I think that wejust say it, but we it most
of these things. And there's somethings, you know, I have to
go to jury duty. Yeah,that's I have to. Don't want to

(48:06):
not happy about it. That's allI get to. One could argue you
live in a country where you getto Okay, yes, but I'm not
willing to go thinking about that.You know those I'm gonna say have to.
I have to go and do certainthings. But so much of it,
truly, if you're lucky, andif you say, get to it,
kind of it did. I startedreally working on it, and it

(48:28):
made a difference in how I viewedthings. And as I'm getting older and
the kids are getting older. Howmuch I was very lucky to get to
do and I try to soak.That's why, you know, they're like
you, mom, all you're doingis mom and all over. So I'm
like yeah, because I get toYeah, you're not going to be here

(48:50):
very soon. I mean very soon, could be a year. I mean
I'm hoping oldest moves back in aftercollege and finds his footing somewhere and saves
and does all of that, andI'll get to have him under my roof
for a certain period of time.It's not I have to. I get
to and I think it's kind ofchanged. You know, everybody needs a

(49:14):
little tweak here and there. That'sthe tweak I needed was how I was
saying things because and then again itaffected those who are listening to me.
You know, I have to goto a meeting tonight. I think there's
probably people there that were like,you know, that's lovely, Mama,
Dy. You know, we wantedyou here. We think you're helping.
You don't sound like you want tobe here. I get to do that.

(49:35):
I get that opportunity, and Ishould be more appreciative of it,
or at least look at it differently. And I remember that episode. I
do because I was like, oh, yeah, yes, we're talking about
the power of words and just likewords just like changing everything. But even
you just every time you said Iget to you, I got chills,
like cause I understand. I understandit because it makes you feel like more

(50:00):
empowered, at least for me,empowered to do whatever it is you get
to do, opposed to oh,I have to go to work, even
though some people that's not the best, right, but changing your perspective and
your verbage around even the things thatyou don't look forward to doing, well
help you, you don't know,be a little bit more excited to do

(50:23):
it. You know, people don'tmake it bearable, you know. I
mean there's very few people that Iknow that are like, yeah, it's
Monday, you know, They're likeflying out the door to go to their
job. I get that, andI'm not trying to be like that toxic
positivity where you know, you havea job, you should be so happy.
No, you can not like it. You could be like it's Monday,
it's nine am. I'm not happy, you know, I want to

(50:45):
be in bedroom. I get it. But sometimes if we say I get
to I get to be or maybeit's just I get to be around these
wonderful coworkers I have, or Iget to have this boss that gets me,
or I get to help people throughmy job, or I get to
earn money, and then I can, you know, buy that stuff in

(51:06):
the target cart that I have justsitting there. However, you need to
do it, but sometimes it isa little tweak makes it's a little bit
more bearable. I think at leastI love that. So number four,
y'all change one word? Yeah,Episode one fifty four. I rambled about
that for twenty minutes, so,you know, just getting a little loose
here, but who I talk.And so the last one we are going

(51:30):
to transport to the holidays. BecauseI am a Christmas nut, I will
not deny that I love it.I'm not somebody who starts it too early
because I also like Halloween. Ilove spooky season. I do love Thanksgiving
because of the family aspect. ButI mean, you want to once those
holiday Hallmark movies start. My behindis on a couch with little dog,

(51:54):
and we know the storyly white husbandwill sit down and they'd be like,
so, oh is the book doyou want to is the author gonna marry
the guy who owns the coffee shop. I'm like, I don't know,
let's find out. He's like,again, I guess, and let's watch
it again. I have favorite ones. It's so horrible. But may you
talk about this last year? Oh? Yeah, it has to you.

(52:20):
They make me happy? What iswrong? I get that some people like
you've seen like I watched the onesfrom the previous year, and he's like,
it's not true crime. Things aren'tchanging. I'm like, what might
you know? You never know?I'm had to watch this one, But
so I did an episode. Itwas one seventy nine and it was an
honor of one of my absolute favoriteChristmas movies, which is National Lampoon Christmas

(52:44):
Vacation. I will watch it probablyif this is coming out in June.
Usually in July they do Christmas inJuly. They air it for like twenty
four hours. I will watch alltwenty four hours. I don't care.
I will sing The song at thebeginning makes me happy. But what I
think when I was younger this episodethat I talk with about this is that

(53:08):
I watched it as a young kid. This came out when I was very
young, It was one of mydad's fit it's still one of his favorites.
I watched it from kid Eyes.It's a funny movie. There is
a squirrel in a tree, thereis you know, people bring in these
presents a cat. I mean,it is hilarious. When I got older,

(53:29):
I saw it a little differently.I saw it as this man who
wanted to make the perfect holiday forhis family, and it sounded like from
the movie this was like a repeatedthing, like I think they even said,
you know, from weddings to funerals. He wanted perfection for his family
and the stress that put him under. We all, whether you're a parent

(53:53):
or whether you just adult, wheneveryou start buying gifts for people, you
start taking on that stress. Iwant it to be perfect. The perfect
gift if you are hosting that year, the perfect food, if you're bringing
something, you know, am Imaking the perfect thing? It's everything decorated.

(54:14):
Are we spending every dang moment ofDecember soaking up the holidays? So
when it's over, we're like,there's the best holiday ever? And that's
what this man did. You don'thave to, it doesn't matter. The
memory will be there. Nothing isperfect that pie. If you make the

(54:36):
apple pie, it burns, thecrust burns. It is going to taste
just as good as if it wasperfect, because you're going to take it.
And hopefully, whether you are surroundedby your family, whether it's your
friends, whether it is just you, you are surrounded by people who want

(54:57):
to be with you, and theyare sharing their home with you and you
are sharing yours with them, thatpie is gonna taste just as good because
of who you're around. It doesn'thave to be perfect. It can be
burnt. You can scrape that off. It doesn't The mashed potatoes is gonna
have lumps in them. It's okay. The twinkling lights do not have to
twinkle. It's all about being inthat moment. And again, whether you

(55:23):
are surrounded with family, whether you'resurrounded with your friend's neighbors, whether it
is just you and your best petsor your plants or whatever, it is
your day and it's not gonna beperfect. You cannot have perfection. I
wish you could, you can't.We all are trying. It's never gonna

(55:45):
happen. There's nothing perfect. It'sokay. Just calm down. So that
episode was calmed down Clark, becauseClark needed to calm down, because it's
it's gonna be okay. The giftdoesn't have to be perfect. All that
matters is that you put time.Whether that time is clicking, you know,
on Amazon, or whether it's goingto the store and battling people,

(56:07):
you put time into it. AndI pray that whomever you give that gift
to knows that. And I praythat whatever gift you're given, you remember
somebody. It doesn't matter if it'sthe color you wanted, somebody thought about
you. That's what matters. Sojust calm down, it's gonna be okay.

(56:29):
Just enjoy it. You know,it's a holiday, love celebrating,
you know, apply that to whateverholiday and it is, you know,
wedding, whatever it is, youknow, came down. I love that
because I feel like holiday time,especially like Christmas, it brings out just
so much hostility and anger because peopleare trying to get their kids this toy,

(56:51):
or you're trying to buy this outfit, this person, whatever it is.
Yeah, people, I remember theyears where people were like fighting in
the walmarts and targets over the lastwhatever. You know, I gotta tell
you this story. I was Iwas newly married, and the people across
the street had they were older,obviously they had three kids, and I

(57:13):
had never I mean, I haddone some of the Black Friday shopping,
but it was like with friends andit was fun. It was more just
like we went to the food court, you know, and so she said,
will you go with me to Iwant to say it was like Walmart,
but it was, you know,big store when they opened. She's
like, we're only going to gofor an hour because I have three things,

(57:35):
one thing each of the kids wants, and I need you to help
me. And I'm like, yeah, you know, I mean, sounds
fun. We get there and shemade me get into a cart and my
job was to lay on the itemsthat she threw in the car so no
one could take them out. Andshe ran through this store with me laying

(57:55):
in a cart holding down I thinkit was a bicycle, it was all
and something else, and I'm layingon this stuff so no one else could
steal it. And I think backthat, you know, yes, it
was put up again. Bad choice. Should I have been in bed?
Oh hell yeah, I should havebeen dipp them through Walmart with a crazy
woman. But it's a cool memory, you know, but yes, it's

(58:19):
what the kids have been happy withsomething else. I don't know they should
have been. Maybe that's part ofthe point too, we should be happy
with what we get. Mmm.And that scenario reminds me of the movie
Jingle all the way with Arnold Shureser Yes, what is the action if

(58:40):
they wanted to action that his sonwanted to action fiction had it and he
really didn't have it, and thenthe mall was just so chaotic. But
that's a that's a good point,like maybe we should just kind of,
you know, be in the momentand be grateful for what we have because
some people, some people don't evenhave those moments, you know. So

(59:01):
I love that you even bounced aheadto Christmas because again, as you said,
six months, no, no,no, I love that because like
where we are now, just inpreparation, you know, some some people
do things differently. My family,like, we really don't. We don't

(59:22):
deal with anything around them of October, so Halloween nothing like that, just
because my aunt was murdered around thattime. Now my one aunt does have
small ones and they brought the joykind of back. If there is joy
in Halloween, because we get tosee them in that Halloween costume. Yeah.
You know, but even even withthe holidays, people that have experienced

(59:45):
grief and stuff. What I havelearned because I've lost people these last couple
of years that are no longer youknow, we don't have the time to
build those memories, is now it'stime to make traditions and things for yourself.
And my folks really have been justbeing in the moment, even if
we're just sitting at home at mymom's house and everyone's just watching movies and

(01:00:07):
stuff. It's just the moment andjust enjoying that. Yeah, sometimes it
sucks getting on social media seeing theselarge families together and you don't have that.
But you know what, I'm gratefulfor the family I do have,
all the friends I do have.I'm just gonna make the best, make
the best memories and time with whatI have, Right, So I love

(01:00:28):
that you even, Oh I lovethat, Yeah, because I mean and
that is you know, we talkabout the ups and downs of social media.
We've talked about that quite a fewtimes here. You know, I
think it's always remembering that people tendpeople at general tend to post only the
good things and you can smile andjust be glad that they have the happiness

(01:00:51):
they have. But hopefully you're lookingaround you you know where you are,
or realizing who you have in yourworld. Maybe you're grateful that your home
and it's quiet right then because youjust came from something loud. But it's
just appreciating things a little bit andrealizing that whatever you have is awesome.
It's great. That's what you need. And if you need to take yourself

(01:01:12):
away from maybe some not great familysituations or not great friends situations and have
the holiday by yourself, that's perfectlyokay. Make your own tradition. Maybe
your tradition is watching Hallmark movies.If you need someone to talk to about
the Hallmark movie, you can findme on X and I will talk to
you. Give me the name ofit and I will start talking about it.

(01:01:36):
We will deep dive into what thepoint of the movie is. I
mean, I'm fine with that.But it's just finding those memories or finding
the traditions that work for you,and they could change. They don't have
to be the same traditions you grewup. What they can if you want,
But it's just enjoying and remembering thatlumpy mashed potatoes are just as good

(01:01:59):
as smooth, but there's nothing wrongwith some lumps, So do not beat
yourself up over lumps. That's silly. Yes, Oh, I love all
five of those pieces of advice thatyou gave. And I'm pretty sure when
this episode come out and probably wantto play it back a couple of times
because you made some very valid points. So hopefully with this someone it resonated.

(01:02:22):
Or you take this information that MamaD braced us with and you apply
it to the remainder of your year, and maybe you just a lifestyle switch,
just like she said, change aword, change up some things in
your life, you know, dependingon where you are at in your life.
Yeah, so I appreciate you foryour energy and these wonderful things of
course. And yes, guys,she definitely will chat with you on X

(01:02:45):
because we had a whole conversation aboutChristmas movies. I don't even during that
timeframe, and she just is anawesome person. So again, I appreciate
you so much for this conversation.Mamed. Thank you for asking me and
working with me because I know weboth have some strange schedules going on when
we're recording this. So I reallyappreciate you being so flexible because that that's

(01:03:07):
nice. It's nice to feel likesomebody wanted you to come and was willing
to work with you. So thankyou so much for that. No problem,
And I'm just I try to beaccommodating because I know in my mind
what I can do. But Ialso know that a lot of other people
have other responsibilities. So how wouldI look with saying just your life doesn't

(01:03:28):
matter in mind? Just like,no, that's crazy, that is crazy.
So yes, this has been great. So before we get out of
here, run down those five thingsone more time. So number one was
to ask yourself one day or dayone you decide, and that was from
episode two hundred. Number two iscalled the goldfish, which is the short

(01:03:51):
memory of a goldfish. And howwe should just keep on swimming. That
was episode one thirty four Ted Lassobest showing up. Number three is to
make bad choices within reason, donot get hurt. That is episode sixty
five, and please give me gracewhen it comes to the audio on episode

(01:04:12):
sixty five. Number four was onelittle word, which was changing half two
to get to That is episode onefifty four, and the very last one,
episode one seventy nine is calmed DownClark, and that is to just
remember that you don't need things tobe perfect. Just enjoy the moment,

(01:04:32):
whatever the moment is, whatever theholiday is, whatever the event is,
soak it up and enjoy it becauseyou deserve that. Yes, ooh,
I love it, I love it. I love it. So hope hopefully
y'all was listening and so the notes. If not, run it back so
you can take notes and then runover to Mamadee's podcast, which she's about
to tell us about soon, whereyou can find it and listen to you

(01:04:54):
all five of those episodes and catchup to where she's at now when this
one comes out, because I'm prettysure by this point she has some lovely
other conversations that you guys can catchup with. Well, oh for sure,
we know who knows where we're going. Yes, So can you please

(01:05:15):
tell everyone where they can find pedalsof Support on their podcast and on social
media so they can tap in withyou. Yes, definitely, it's pedals
of support right now. When we'rerecording this at spring it is once a
week on Tuesdays, but starting backin the summer, it returns to biweekly,
so Tuesdays and Thursdays or new episodes. My solos are I try to

(01:05:40):
do under twenty minutes. Sometimes there'sa little extra rambling, but usually under
twenty minutes. And then if youlike guests, like listening to Keith and
I. We talked about generational traumaand it was very eye opening. She
came with a lot of insight thatI had not thought of, and I
appreciated what she taught me. Sothat is a wonderful episode. Those are

(01:06:02):
called sleepovers. There have been ohso many guests and they all come.
I was trying to do themes,so I've done themes before. I've done
where they just come with their ownadvice, because sometimes getting the advice from
a forty seven year old mom mightnot be what you need. So there's
all sorts of people out there thatare willing to share what they have learned

(01:06:23):
in life. You can find meon anywhere that you listen to podcasts.
I'm on I think pretty much everythingI can be reached on, So you
can email me at pedals dot sat aol dot com. You can find
me on x TikTok, threads,and Instagram at pedals of support. I

(01:06:44):
am always looking for topics or questions. If you have some advice that you
would like me to pass on on, always anonymously, please send it to
me. I'm always happy to sharethat because who knows what you might have
that I had not thought of,And then I will ramble about it for
a while. Everyone is always welcome, and I hope to hear from some

(01:07:06):
of you soon. Yes, andshe definitely does keep everything anonymous, so
you guys don't ever have to worryabout her exposing who you are. But
also what you're thinking about asking itmay not just benefit you, it may
help someone else. Someone else maybe afraid to, like, you know,
act the same thing. So weactually kind of helping each other out

(01:07:27):
here we are. Sometimes I'm amazedat some people the topic they come up
with them. I'm like, howdid I not think of that? Because
it's such an excellent topic. Butmaybe that's why I didn't think of it.
It needed to come from somebody else, And then they present it away
where I think, oh my goodness, even if I have to do a
little research, I'll do my best. But sometimes I get done rambling and
say, but if you have anybetter opinions. Please please reach out because

(01:07:53):
I can easily be wrong and Iappreciate getting the feedback. Yeah, most
definitely, y'all heard her. Whereyou can go find her show? I
will have all of her links inthe description below, So please go subscribe
to her a podcast, follow heron social media, listen to all of
the five episodes she mentioned on thisepisode, but also just catch up with

(01:08:15):
everything because I promise you you willbe blessed, you will be filled,
you will be healed. It's justan amazing show. I love it.
Yes, no problem, and again, thank you so much, Mama D
for coming through you. Thank youso much for infighting. Man, I
just love talking to you. Youjust made me smile, so thank you.
Thank you for that I needed.Now, you know what, We're

(01:08:38):
not at a four, we're ata five. And I ended go to
bed thinking, you know what,what I got to I didn't have to.
I got to talk to Kita andI needed that to Thank you so
much. No problem, y'all seeyou see the four, but to the
five, and that was all you, That was all you. So that
is awesome. Yes, thank youfor listening to an episode of Chronicles of

(01:09:04):
a Virgo podcast with me your favoritefavorite verbal host, Shikita Johnson. Your
support means the world to me asI want to continue to see you all
priser and grow. Please join meback next Wednesday, where we will continue
to dive into more can it andempower on conversations that we'll get you a
step closer to stepping into a newkilled individual. Remember you're not alone on

(01:09:27):
your journey. Please don't forget tosubscribe to us on social media at Chronicles
of a Verbal Podcast on all socialmedia platforms and the YouTube channel. Check
out our website and blog at chroniclesovivirgodot website dot com. All links will
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keep rising from those ashes and staytrue to you and know your girl loves

(01:09:51):
you. Peace out,

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