March 27, 2024 • 39 mins
Welcome back to another episode of Chronicles of a Virgo Podcast. This week we are joined by EFT and Body Acceptance coach Laine Allen. Laine is a certified Global EFT Practitioner, Body Acceptance coach and host of the podcast "Weight, There's More."
Laine's main mission is to encourage liberation and support to women as they unsubscribe from diet culture and toxic positivity through somatic healing of Emotional Freedom Technique known as (EFT).
In this episode, we discussed:
-Laine's mental health challenges, as she navigated towards somatic healing practices for solace.
-Defined Emotional Freedom Technique and its benefits
-Talked about Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and its transformative advantages in addressing emotional well-being
-The impact of diet culture, media narratives, and the phenomenon of toxic positivity on mental health
-Differentiate between Body Acceptance and Body Positivity, dissecting their nuances and implications in promoting self-love and self-acceptance.
-Laine speaks on her endeavors, coaching initiatives and the impactful conversations featured on her podcast "Weight There's More."
Exploring somatic healing through Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) unveils a transformative journey towards self-acceptance and healing. This practice offers a pathway to release past traumas and cultivate inner peace. Laine's experience serves as a beacon of hope for others on their own paths toward self-acceptance and healing.
Ways to connect with Laine:
Website: https://eftlaine.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/eft.laine/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/eft.laine/
Podcast: https://eftlaine.com/weight-theres-more-podcast
Ways to connect with me:
Website and Blog: https://chroniclesofavirgo.wixsite.com/my-site
IG: https://www.instagram.com/chronicles_of_a_virgo_podcast/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/ChroniclesOfAVirgoPodcast
Twitter: https://twitter.com/___Chiquita___
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chronicles_of_a_virgo
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Chronicles_of_a_Virgo_podcast
Connect through email at chroniclesofavirgo22@gmail.com.
Disclaimer: "This podcast and website represents the opinions of Chiquita Johnson and her guests to the show and website. Views and opinions expressed in the podcast and website are our own and do not represent the place of any mental health or medical professional.
Laine's main mission is to encourage liberation and support to women as they unsubscribe from diet culture and toxic positivity through somatic healing of Emotional Freedom Technique known as (EFT).
In this episode, we discussed:
-Laine's mental health challenges, as she navigated towards somatic healing practices for solace.
-Defined Emotional Freedom Technique and its benefits
-Talked about Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and its transformative advantages in addressing emotional well-being
-The impact of diet culture, media narratives, and the phenomenon of toxic positivity on mental health
-Differentiate between Body Acceptance and Body Positivity, dissecting their nuances and implications in promoting self-love and self-acceptance.
-Laine speaks on her endeavors, coaching initiatives and the impactful conversations featured on her podcast "Weight There's More."
Exploring somatic healing through Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) unveils a transformative journey towards self-acceptance and healing. This practice offers a pathway to release past traumas and cultivate inner peace. Laine's experience serves as a beacon of hope for others on their own paths toward self-acceptance and healing.
Ways to connect with Laine:
Website: https://eftlaine.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/eft.laine/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/eft.laine/
Podcast: https://eftlaine.com/weight-theres-more-podcast
Ways to connect with me:
Website and Blog: https://chroniclesofavirgo.wixsite.com/my-site
IG: https://www.instagram.com/chronicles_of_a_virgo_podcast/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/ChroniclesOfAVirgoPodcast
Twitter: https://twitter.com/___Chiquita___
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chronicles_of_a_virgo
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Chronicles_of_a_Virgo_podcast
Connect through email at chroniclesofavirgo22@gmail.com.
Disclaimer: "This podcast and website represents the opinions of Chiquita Johnson and her guests to the show and website. Views and opinions expressed in the podcast and website are our own and do not represent the place of any mental health or medical professional.
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we are back for another episode ofChronicles of a Virgo podcast, and
as usual, I am your fairfavorite favorite Virgo host Tikeitha Johnson, and
we have a lovely guest joining ustoday, and this guest is going to
give us some good gems. Somake sure you guys got your pen and
paper ready because she is about tocome with it. Okay, y'all.
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So today joining us, we havemy girl Lane. What's so, girl?
How you doing? I'm very well? Thank you? How are you?
I'm doing well? Or should Isay miss ef t Lane as social
media knows Jando knows you about that, but thank you for joining me for
this lovely conversation today because we aregoing to get into some things and I
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feel like this conversation will definitely beinsightful and helpful for many of us.
I am tired, all right,very excited, yes, and I know
it's outside of probably both for ourtime zones, because you're not in the
US with us, well me andleast. I am in Melbourne, Australia.
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So it's about twelve thirty in theafternoon here, but lovely day outside.
I mean, if you know Melbourne, you know that we have about
four seasons in one day. Soit's already been raining, but the sun
is out again so I can see. It's nice and bright in here.
I'm on the East coast. I'vein Maryland, and it has been super
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cold these last couple of days.We got a lot of snow these last
couple of days. So the weatheris just like not in our favorite but
I'll take it right now, allright. So yes, before we get
into our conversation, as usual,we got to do our lovely mental health
check check in with ourselves make surehow we're doing. So for anyone that's
joining me for the first time inLane, the mental health check we write
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it on the scale of one tofive. Five been you feel like you
know your mental health is in agood space, You're doing good and one
you're not doing the best. There'sa room for porn, but you are
managing. So how would you rateyour mental health today on a scale of
one to five. Oh, I'mgonna go with a four. I think
we were chatting a little bit offline. I'm feeling really good, but I'm
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just kind of getting over a coldat the moment, so apologies, I'm
sounding a little bit nasally, butI'm all good. Yeah, So again,
thank you even for joining us,even with you not feeling the best.
We definitely appreciate it. I definitelyappreciate it because I know how it
is fluid, cold RSV season,But I'm glad that you are, you
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know, managing well and taking careof yourself, because that's what's important exactly.
So my mentuem today on a scaleof one of five, I'm gonna
say I am a four and ahalf. No, you know what,
I'm a five, I'm a seven. Five, I'm a five. Yes,
girl, it's been a long timecoming. I've been off of work
for the month of January, sothose that have been listening know that I
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took a month off from work towork on my own mental health and my
wellness, and I'm feeling very light, feeling good, and I am about
to go back to work next week, so probably by the time this episode
comes out, I'll be back atwork, so we'll see how things continue
to go. But nonetheless, Ido these checks as a way to hold
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myself accountable, to check in withmy mental health, as well as to
promote others to check in with themental health distress, see how you're feeling
before it gets too late and someof us reach burnout. Unfortunately. It's
an amazing thing to do. Thankyou. Thank you, yes, And
I really do it in my reallife, like, especially since I've been
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off this month, I've really beenmaking sure the majority of my care has
been catered to mental health and thenmy wellness. So it definitely does make
a difference. And you are goingto tell us some other things we can
do as well to keep that together. So let's get into this conversation.
So today we're gonna be talking aboutbody positivity and one of my favorite techniques
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that I talk about a lot EFTtapping, which is emotional. It's called
the Emotional Freedom technique and it istapping, and I've talked about it before
on the show. I've tried toexplain it and stuff. So I am
going to ask you, since youare certified in the area and stuff,
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can you just give a little bitmore background on specifically what EFT tapping is
and how you personally came in contactwith it. Yeah. Absolutely so.
As you said, EFT stands forEmotional Freedom Techniques or it's also known as
tapping, and essentially it's it's analternative treatment for physical pain and emotional distress.
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So I kind of like to givethis analogy because I feel like it
helps people kind of understand how efT works and what it can do for
people. So a lot of ushave been on road trips before and we've
come across like a really breath takingview and we get out of the car
and we just really soak in thatbeauty that is around us, and we're
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in this like sense of peace andall. And that's a little bit what
happens to us when we start topractice EFT. So if you could imagine
that your body is like the landscapeof this road trip that you're on,
and there are all these highways runningthrough it. These are what we refer
to in EFT as our meridians orour energy systems, which you will probably
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hear a lot about through like reikior yoga. And when we're feeling stressed
out or anxious, it's kind oflike there's a traffic jam on those highways.
And what EFT does essentially is ithelps clear that traffic. So by
gently tapping on and I'm sorry,I know it's a podcast, so people
might not be able to see you, but I'm just staying on certain parts
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of my body and my faith.What I'm doing is I'm actually sending signals
to the amygdala. So the amygdalais the part of the brain that controls
the stress response. Think of itlike the traffic control center. If we're
talking about roads and highways, andwhat you're doing is you're basically telling your
body, Hey, I'm okay,I'm safe. We can let that traffic
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flow again. And this action reallysoothes that intense fight, flight freeze or
horn response that we can often havewhen we're a bit stressed. Now,
let's talk about why we speak duringEFT. So if you can imagine that
you're on a road trip with afriend, you're not going to be driving
in silence, right like, You'llbe sharing stories, You'll be seeing along,
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maybe you're you know, listening toa little bit of I don't know
Beyonce, bit of Liizzo. That'smy jam and that's what's speaking during EFT
is like it really allows us toexpress our feelings and our emotions and really
helps us in changing the way thatwe react to the problems that we're facing.
So EFT, ultimately its aim isto restore the balance in your body.
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So the next time that you're dwellingon a past event, or you're
anxious about something in the future,or maybe there's something happening right now that
intensity has hopefully decreased. Yes,thank you so much for explaining it.
And it is a very powerful technique. I started working with EFT about almost
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two years ago. My therapist weactually introduced me to it and we actually
began working on it, and Iknow how to do it on my own.
And she had recommended me look upa few people and one specific with
bread yeats and he's come to likethe DMV area and I haven't been able
to see him yet, but I'vein the midst of like having like anxiety
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attacks and been very anxious. I'vebeen able to like resort and I even
find myself sometimes if I feel myselfbeing anxious or just things happening, I
will start to happen on like youknow, certain areas, and if I
don't see certain things out loud,I'm saying in my head and then I
can feel a shift and feel myselfcalming down. So it definitely does work.
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Yeah, absolutely, And Brad Yateswas actually very much a part of
my journey as to why I starteddoing EFT, and I can recall during
pretty much the height of COVID reallywas a very isolating time for myself.
My mental health is really really sufferingat that point in time, and so
I decided to have a look atsome online communities that I could join and
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be a part of, just soI could feel a little less isolated at
the end of the day, rightAnd so one of these communities that I
came across was Gala Darling and sheis known as the Tapping Queen on Instagram,
and I joined her program called theVortex a few years ago. And
the very first community call that wehad with the Vortex was with Brad Yates
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and it was a two hour,two hour tapping event and I'd never done
tapping before. I didn't know whatit was. As I said, it
went for two hours, which isa very very long and exhausting time if
it's your first time being introduced toEFT. So I had to go and
have a nap afterwards because I wasthat that drain. And then I woke
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up. I mean, during theprocess of tapping with Brad, I was
like, oh my god, whatare we doing? This is so weird.
Okay, I'm just going to keepgoing along with it, keep going
along with it, and like Isaid, exhausted had to go have a
nap. I woke up and Iwas just like, wow, that is
next level for me for someone whowas like what are we doing to then
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waking up and being like, Okay, this is something that I think would
really help a lot of people andit would really help in my life as
well at that one in time.And yeah, the very next day,
I decided to look into what courseswere available for me a little bit closer
to home in Australia, and Icame across the excuse me, and I
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came across the Australian Tapping Institute,which is run by a woman by the
name of Laura Hollinger. And that'show I decided that ef T was going
to be the next step in mycareer path, in my journey, because
I'd been in corporate for eight yearsand I just knew that it wasn't serving
me anymore. So ef T wasthe next step for me, and Brad
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Yates was part of that journey.That's amazing. And I cannot imagine two
hours of doing that like that,that's impeccable. It was very intense,
like I can barely get through ona good day, maybe an hour or
so of a meditation, so todo two hours of TABN it's crazy,
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but more power to you how youare. So to circle back a little
bit, was there anything I knowyou said that COVID was a rough time
for you. So were you dealingwith like depression or anxiety or did you
have like a history of any typeof like mental health struggle. I think
that I've always had some kind ofrelationship with mental health that has been a
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struggle. I grew up in quitea traumatic household. I also had divorced
parents on top of that, whichcan be you know, trauma and amongst
itself. But I've never been diagnosed, and I think that I don't I
don't necessarily think that you have tobe diagnosed to understand that your mental health
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is suffering and that you want tobe able to change or do something about
it. I was also in ahousehold where I did have very supportive parents,
And I remember when I was reallystruggling with my mental health in my
teen years is I really wanted togo on antidepressants and it just seemed like
a way out for me. Butmy stepmom at the time was like,
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hey, you know, let's tryand implement some other things before you start
taking medication. And I really thankher for that. And I'm not saying
in any way, shape or formthat medication is not an option for people.
It certainly is. I think justin that point in my life,
it was probably more of an openopportunity for me to explore other holistic and
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alternative pathways before resulting or resorting tomedication. So I've always been in therapy
from a very young age and that'ssomething that's pretty much followed me up until
maybe maybe three or four years agowhen I stopped going to therapy, and
that was around the same time thatI really decided to start focusing on my
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own health and wellbeing and it's beena great blessing. And again, I
don't think that therapy is not foreveryone. I think that everyone can go
out and try and see what worksfor them and if it doesn't, try
something else and just keep going untilyou find that one thing that really really
works for you. Yes, Yes, I'm glad you said that, because
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I like I apprecied that, youknow, like I am a therapy advocate,
you know, because it definitely hasbeen impactful for me, and I've
been in situations where I've had numeroustherapists and it just was not a good
fit. And unfortunately it was acycle of trying to find the right one.
But also through therapy, I havelearned things like eft and reiki and
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enhancing my meditations and doing different othertechniques and things that have helped me along
my whole journey. Now, youknow, we're human. We go through
different cycles of like maybe depression,anxiety and things, but implementing other techniques
and stuff can help us on adaily basis, like I'd be in my
little office at work sometimes just tappingaway, absolutely and exactly like like you
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said, there are going to beit's gonna be a journey in a process
to find not just a modality thatworks for you, but someone that can
help you with that modality that isa good fit as well. Like you
know, as you said, therapyhas worked for you, it's worked for
me in the past. But theadded layer to that is finding somebody that
you can feel safe with. RightIt's not just about oh, going to
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therapy and I'm going to go withthe first person that I find exactly exactly,
and now I know, like listeningto your podcast and seeing your social
media. I know that you area body positivity advocate. How did you
come into like wanting to advocate fora body positivity Was that something that you
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struggle with in the past, oryou just you just seen a place that
it needed to be some more positivityaround area. Well, for me,
it's more so about body acceptance thanwhat it is about body positivity, right.
I think that we get very caughtup in this world these days,
especially with medi here and especially withsocial media. Is the messaging that we
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keep getting told on repeat is thatyou have to love your body. You
have to love your body. Ifyou don't love your body, then no
one else will love your body.And I just think that that messaging is
can be quite harmful, It canbe quite toxic, and I think that
we need to take a step backand go right on, let's have a
look at the acceptance space and beingneutral about my body. Right, I
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can look at myself in the mirrorand I can go, man, I
really do not like my stomach atall today. There's a huge difference between
saying that and looking at myself inthe mirror and going like, I love
my stomach, I love my stretchmarks. Your brain does not believe you
when you say that, because itknows that you're lying to yourself. But
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when you come and shift back tobody acceptance and body neutrality and you look
at yourself in the mirror and yougo, man, I don't like my
stomach today, but I know thatit keeps me nice and warm, and
it gets to eat nourishing the foodthat I get to eat with people that
I love. Your body can't denythat, because it is true you do
have a human stomach, you dohave a body that is trying to get
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nutrition through that those systems. Right. So there's I think a huge it's
a fine line, but a hugedifference between body acceptance and body positivity.
And that's just the kind of lensthat I'm trying to get women to see
that they don't have to sit thereand say these things about themselves that,
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yeah, whilst they are very positiveand can be lovely, that it's not
going to work for you if youjust keep if it's a lie. Right,
you have to get to the acceptancebefore you can get into that positive
space. Right. I love thefact that you brought there, full serpoint.
It makes a lot of sense,Like being able to accept something and
embrace it, you know, LikeI deal with body. I guess acceptance
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sometimes, but I think a lotof mine is trauma based, you know,
just my upbringing. And you knowa lot of times I think growing
up people don't know the impact theirwords really have or can have one a
person later in life, you know. So being from the background that I
come from, it was like youhad to have a certain type of body
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image and still even now, youknow, it's tough. So like,
how how does one work towards acceptingtheir body to get to the point where
like, I sat my body,but I love myself at the same time,
I think that that's a life longjourney, and we've got to remember
that we don't ever come to adestination point with our bodies because they're forever
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changing. Right. If you wantto base your identity and your self worth
about the way that you look,that's not going to serve you when you're
in your feet sixty seventies and yourbody image is completely shifted and completely changed.
The internal work is so important sothat you can get to fifty sixty
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seventy and be like, wow,my identity it doesn't really it doesn't really
matter because it's not attached to theway I look. It's about how I
feel about myself on the inside.Because the way that you look doesn't determine
whether or not you're a good personor a nice person, or if you
good, do good, do dogood for the world, right, And
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so again, it's about healing thatinternal journey. And I think, as
you were saying before, like alot of your experience has stemmed from the
traumas that you experienced growing up.And I think a lot of the time,
when women fail in the dieting worldor they are perceived as unattractive by
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social standards, we have to rememberagain that there are so many systems that
are in place to keep women feelingcrappy about their bodies, and that is
you know, from ableism to racismto so much. So much has stemmed
from that, and a lot ofthe time women we tend to blame ourselves
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when things don't work out right.We go, oh, I didn't try
hard enough for you know, Isuck at doing this, or I'm so
lazy or whatever. But we haveto remember that there are billion dollar industries
that are contributing to the way thatwe feel about ourselves and make us feel
like that, so we go outand buy the product, So we go
out and do the diet again.So we go out and get another gym
membership that we won't ever go to. So it's a perpetual cycle. And
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that's why I say, like,it's good and important to realize that there
are external, outer systems that arecontributing to the way I feel. But
ultimately, at the end of theday, it's the internal work that I
need to do that will impact theexternal world that I'm living in most definitely,
and especially with the diet culture,and like you know, we were
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talking about the whole stigma around socialmedia, the big thing that I've been
seeing for the last few months isthe whole old zimpic and you know,
like the fencer meaning trend and havingto do the research on a lot of
these things, even though they maybe seen as beneficial and it can help
the longevity of using a lot ofthese different products, can be very detrimental
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to our own bodies, you know, absolutely, And it's like, oh,
mentally, it's like, well,if I love myself, I wouldn't
continue to fill it with things thathurt me, you know. But on
the flip side, do I reallyis it really worth this short term goal
of looking a certain way just foryou know, someone else's perception. So
I think it's a lot like yousaid, that goes into the whole overall
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aspect of just getting to the placeof accepting yourself. Yeah, and you
know, the diet industry is asixty billion dollar industry, right, and
if diets actually did work, theywouldn't be worth that much because people woudn't
have to keep dieting and keep gettingon the hamster wheel. Diets fail ninety
five percent of the time, andthis is information that we now know.
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Yet we still choose to restrict oureating habits, and we still choose to
over exert ourselves in rigorous exercise andthings like that. But yet the statistics
show that ninety five percent of thetime, within five years you're either going
to put that weight back on oryou're actually going to put that weight back
on and then some So if youcan think about it, like if you
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knew that your car wasn't going towork five days out of the seven days
of the week, why would youstill choose to drive it? It just
does not make sense. But again, these systems that are in place continuously
tell women that it's their fault thatthey didn't try hard enough, and so
we repeat that cycle, and werepeat that cycle and repeat that cycle until
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we're dead in the ground and it'sawful. Yeah. And I will admit
I am Gelsia of going hard ina gym. You know, it is
a mental thing, and it issomething really to like unrival, you know,
going hard in a gym, andeven the whole diet and thing like,
I will admit like that is notmy lifestyle, but I have done
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it. And part of me beingoff of work was learning to create a
more healthy relationship with food. Yeah. Absolutely, And I thought that all
women have gotten on that train,that diet trying that exercise train. For
sure, I myself have. Youknow, it's taken me over thirty years
to really kind of liberate myself andbe like, oh my god, I
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actually I don't have to contribute todiet culture, Like, oh, I
never actually even thought of that before. That's crazy to me. Yeah,
And like you said, it's reallyan inside job. So like, how
do you bring all of that afull circle with doing EFT and working with
people with body of stepness issues.Yeah, absolutely, that's a great question.
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So as I kind of touched onearlier with my little road trip analogy,
so you know, EFTs is restoringbalance to your body's energy system.
So again, the next time thatyou're thinking about past events or you're worried
about something that's coming up in thefuture, if I can you know aliken
that to you know, maybe you'vegot a social event coming up and you're
just really not comfortable in any ofyour clothes or whatever the case might be.
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Again, using ef T, hopefullythat intensity has decreased, hopefully to
a point where you're going to havea more neutral thought or a less reactive
response. So if you could imaginelike you're someone who can't help but think,
oh gross, I look so uglyevery single time you walk past a
mirror or catch or reflection. Afterone EFT session, or you know,
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maybe after a few, you stillmight feel that twinge of discomfort when you
see yourself. But the beautiful partis that now you might actually pause and
look at yourself and go, right, even though I don't feel like a
hot bitch right now, I'm stilltotally worthy of love and acceptance. Or
perhaps you're you're someone who really getscaught up in the Instagram comparison trap,
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as we were talking about earlier withsocial media, you know, endlessly scrolling
through photos of like influences and reallyreally feeling less and less confident about yourself.
Maybe after a session or two ofe FT, you start to notice
that you're comparing yourself when you're scrolling, and rather than scrolling right by that
account, you actually take the timeto stop and unfollow them, and you
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know that that's a really powerful move, and that's the power of EFT.
It doesn't mean that you're never goingto have a bad body image day ever
again, but it does mean thatyou'll understand that it's okay to have days
like that. Right Oh, Ilike that, just getting to a place
of acceptance exactly exactly. I loveit so with teaching it and Evan like,
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you're know your client base is EFT, and I'm asking this as if
I don't know, is EFT somethingthat a person can do on their own
or do they have to do itwith a trained petitioner? Right on,
I again love that question. Soef T is really versatile and you can
use it at any time, anyplace, and it's not going to cost
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you anything, so that makes itvery accessible. Right. However, when
you're tapping by yourself, there area few things that you might want to
keep in mind. So firstly,our brains have that natural tendency to want
to protect us from any kind ofemotional discomfort, which could actually prevent us
from going deeper into the issues thatwe're trying to resolve. Now, we
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might unknowingly ignore or downplay some ofthe subconscious messaging that is trying to surface,
right, So that's one of theconditions of doing it by yourself.
And secondly, without proper guidance,we might also do the complete opposite and
dive a little bit too quickly andtoo deep, and we might get quite
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emotionally charged, and this can leadto emotional distress, and especially we don't
have the necessary support to help kindof navigate those feelings. And so this
is where the role of myself oran EFT practitioner becomes quite valuable, because
as practitioners, we're not only providinga safe and confidential space to explore those
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kind of emotions and things that arecoming up for you. We're also trained
to ask the right questions that reallyencourage you to explore your own emotions a
little bit more deeply, but obviouslyat a pace that is comfortable for yourself
as well. So I mean,whilst you can certainly practice EFT at home
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alongside other body acceptance practices that youmight have, I think that having the
support of a certified practitioner can reallymake the whole process a bit more effective
and ensure that you're doing it ina safe and supportive environment. Thank you
for explaining it. And it makesa lot of sense when you say,
like you can actually go a littletoo deep and have a lot of things
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surface, because I have had thatexperience before and I was so confused.
I'm like, wait a minute,what did I do? That's the power
in it though, like you said, you know, thankfully I got a
surface and like you know, asupport system. But like for me my
experience with doing it, because itopened up the other channels, it allowed
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me to dive deeper with parts ofmy healing. So I'm grateful for that,
you know. Yeah, sometimes youdon't know what's underneath the surface until
you start peeling back the onion exactly. Yes, I loved this whole conversation.
This was so informative and I lovedeverything about it, especially you are
talking about the difference between like lovingyour body and just getting to the place
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of acceptance, and I feel likeI need to hear that. Hopefully someone
else that's listening that helps resonate somethingwith them, because I think a lot
of times when you talk about likejust your body, like you said,
you, I may think I needto love myself, I need to love
but you have to accept it firstbefore you can get to that point.
So I appreciate you for even advocatingfor that and just continuing to raise awareness
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around body acceptance and EFT because it'sdefinitely powerful. Thank you so much.
I really appreciate it. Yes,So before we get out of here,
girl, before we get out ofhere, please know everyone about your podcast
and your social media is the wherethey can find all of your stuff.
It absolutely and so I have apodcast called Weight. There's more Weight is
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spelt we w ight Yeah, Andit's definitely about the conversations with other experts
that also want to advocate for bodyacceptance and just have conversations that we don't
normally or necessarily get to have withour friendship circles and things like that,
So I think that the work thatwe're doing yourself, myself included, is
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super important when it comes to thiskind of space. You can find that
podcast either on Spotify or on mywebsite which is www dot e f T
l A I n E dot com. Otherwise, I mean, I definitely
post about it on my Instagram whichis at e f T dot lane,
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or on Facebook which is Facebook dotcom forward slash e f T Lane as
well. Yes, so y'all pleasego tap in with her check out.
I love the name of your podcast, our dues tap In. So I've
started from the back and I'm workingmy way up, but you had some
amazing guests that come through, andI just love everything that your show your
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platform stands for. So please continueto do the amazing work on yourself first
and foremost, and definitely pouring itout to your clients and just anyone that
is trying to better themselves. Soy'all definitely go tap in with her and
get fed and learn some new thingsand go book Go book her for some
e f T. I would loveit because you don't have to be in
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person. Absolutely, that's the beautyand the power of the Internet. These
days right, so much more accessibleto do the stuff that you want to
do. Yes, the good partis of it, right, Lane,
thank you so much for coming onChronicles of Virgo podcast. Thank you for
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having me. This was fantastic,no problem, all right, y'all.
Did y'all enjoyed the conversation between meand miss Lane. I hope you guys
did, and I hope that youguys learned a lot about e f T,
body acceptance, body positivity, allof those lovely things. I know
that in previous episodes before, I'vespoke about my practices with e f T,
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but I'm so grateful and honored thatI found someone that actually is skilled
in that area and that teaches it. So Lane, thank you so much
for coming onto the Chronicles of aVirgo podcast and offering all of your insight
and your encouragement and your areas ofexpertise, and please y'all, Lanes links
will be listed in a description boxso you guys can go tap in with
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her podcast, her social media,or her website and see everything that she
has going on. And most definitelyif you're someone that is interested in learning
about EFT or interested in taking acourse or as a class or something.
Please bombys reach out to Lane.Like I said, I have been doing
EFT for like the last two anda half three years. For me,
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it has worked wonders. But thereare so many, so many good benefits
to it, and to do itwith somebody it can definitely be beneficial.
And then when you're on your ownyou can still practice those things. So
definitely look it up, do yourown research. But again you can also
go on Lane's page or howite andreach out to her, you know,
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if you're interested in taking that journeyfurther. One thing from this conversation,
and I truly did appreciate is Layingtalking about the difference between body acceptance and
body positivity. And I think weall may can agree that we struggle with
just accepting our bodies, and evenoutside of just the physical context of accepting
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our bodies, we may struggle withwhere we are in life, feeling like
we're not as successful as we shouldbe. I'm not a homeowner, I
don't have children, I'm not married. You know, society tells us all
these different things that we should doand should be by the age of thirty,
forty fifty and so on, andyou may be someone that's not in
that position. And I've realized withmyself even through this conversation, that I
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have been put in positions where I'vetried to jump take these huge leaps of
faith and not really accept myself forwhere I am, not accept my body
for how I look now, notaccept than myself for all of the education
that I've done, all the thingsthat I have done in my career,
and I have just tried to jumpto the next thing, jump to the
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next thing. And like she said, when you tell yourself all these different
things, our mind is not wiredlike that to process it as the truth,
you know. And what I realizewith me is me sitting in my
feelings, like I always say,and accepting things for what they are at
that moment. I am able todraw in different experiences and the things that
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I actually want, and I've hadthat happen for me over the last month.
So just really sit with this message, internalize it how it resonates for
you. But really think about thethings that you're trying to accomplish in your
life, whether it's with your wellness, your fitness, even if it's just
with your success, your career path, even relationships what do you think is
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holding you back? Are you notaccepting of where you are in that moment
and just trying to make these hugeleaps of faith? And don't get me
wrong, there's nothing wrong with makinga leap of faith, Like I am
all for it. Your girl hasbeen out here leaping since twenty twenty four
started. Okay. However, Ifeel like things that make the whole situation
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come full circle more are accepting whereyou are, and with acceptance of you,
yourself and your whole entity and acceptanceof your current circumstances and situation does
not mean that you're going to staythere. And I think that's where we,
you know, misconstrued the lines alot of time as humans, you
know, thinking that, oh ifI accept this, this is what it
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has to be. No, notat all. You're just accepting that moment
for what it is in time.Like I said a couple episodes back,
accept the moment, and then dowhat you need to do to move forward.
Okay, So I don't want tocontinue to remember one. I hope
this whole entire message resonated with someoneLike I said, please by it means
go tap in with Lane. She'sdoing some incredible things on her platform and
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the next couple months, and thosethings may not be mentioned on the podcast,
but they would definitely be on YouTube. So make sure you subscribe.
The link is going to be ina description box. And again, thank
you guys for your Maclin support,for continuing to tap in the Chronicles of
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a Vigal podcast, and thank youto each and every person that has reached
out to me within the last twentyfour hours. I would say, if
you know, I'm from Baltimore,Maryland, and as of yesterday, March
twenty fifth, we have had atragic accident that happened where a cargo ship
actually collided with one of our mainbridges here and it collapsed and it was
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people on a bridge driving, peoplewere on a bridge working, and there
had been a rescue mission at thetime of me recording this part. The
rescue mission is still continuing to goon and they are continuing to try to
find, you know, these people. So thank you to everyone that reached
out to me to see if myselfand my family were safe and okay.
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In which we were. That particulararea that this happened in is on the
outskirts of where I actually grew upat and my entire family grew up at,
so I used to conceive this actualbridge from my Grandmam's house, so
it had a little emotional impact,but nonetheless we are fine. We are
just going to continue to send upprayers to all of those families, the
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thank you guys. What's tapping inwith me? All the links are
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we are back for another episode ofChronicles of a Virgo podcast, and
as usual, I am your fairfavorite favorite Virgo host Tikeitha Johnson, and
we have a lovely guest joining ustoday, and this guest is going to
give us some good gems. Somake sure you guys got your pen and
paper ready because she is about tocome with it. Okay, y'all.
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So today joining us, we havemy girl Lane. What's so, girl?
How you doing? I'm very well? Thank you? How are you?
I'm doing well? Or should Isay miss ef t Lane as social
media knows Jando knows you about that, but thank you for joining me for
this lovely conversation today because we aregoing to get into some things and I
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feel like this conversation will definitely beinsightful and helpful for many of us.
I am tired, all right,very excited, yes, and I know
it's outside of probably both for ourtime zones, because you're not in the
US with us, well me andleast. I am in Melbourne, Australia.
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So it's about twelve thirty in theafternoon here, but lovely day outside.
I mean, if you know Melbourne, you know that we have about
four seasons in one day. Soit's already been raining, but the sun
is out again so I can see. It's nice and bright in here.
I'm on the East coast. I'vein Maryland, and it has been super
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cold these last couple of days.We got a lot of snow these last
couple of days. So the weatheris just like not in our favorite but
I'll take it right now, allright. So yes, before we get
into our conversation, as usual,we got to do our lovely mental health
check check in with ourselves make surehow we're doing. So for anyone that's
joining me for the first time inLane, the mental health check we write
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it on the scale of one tofive. Five been you feel like you
know your mental health is in agood space, You're doing good and one
you're not doing the best. There'sa room for porn, but you are
managing. So how would you rateyour mental health today on a scale of
one to five. Oh, I'mgonna go with a four. I think
we were chatting a little bit offline. I'm feeling really good, but I'm
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just kind of getting over a coldat the moment, so apologies, I'm
sounding a little bit nasally, butI'm all good. Yeah, So again,
thank you even for joining us,even with you not feeling the best.
We definitely appreciate it. I definitelyappreciate it because I know how it
is fluid, cold RSV season,But I'm glad that you are, you
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know, managing well and taking careof yourself, because that's what's important exactly.
So my mentuem today on a scaleof one of five, I'm gonna
say I am a four and ahalf. No, you know what,
I'm a five, I'm a seven. Five, I'm a five. Yes,
girl, it's been a long timecoming. I've been off of work
for the month of January, sothose that have been listening know that I
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took a month off from work towork on my own mental health and my
wellness, and I'm feeling very light, feeling good, and I am about
to go back to work next week, so probably by the time this episode
comes out, I'll be back atwork, so we'll see how things continue
to go. But nonetheless, Ido these checks as a way to hold
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myself accountable, to check in withmy mental health, as well as to
promote others to check in with themental health distress, see how you're feeling
before it gets too late and someof us reach burnout. Unfortunately. It's
an amazing thing to do. Thankyou. Thank you, yes, And
I really do it in my reallife, like, especially since I've been
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off this month, I've really beenmaking sure the majority of my care has
been catered to mental health and thenmy wellness. So it definitely does make
a difference. And you are goingto tell us some other things we can
do as well to keep that together. So let's get into this conversation.
So today we're gonna be talking aboutbody positivity and one of my favorite techniques
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that I talk about a lot EFTtapping, which is emotional. It's called
the Emotional Freedom technique and it istapping, and I've talked about it before
on the show. I've tried toexplain it and stuff. So I am
going to ask you, since youare certified in the area and stuff,
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can you just give a little bitmore background on specifically what EFT tapping is
and how you personally came in contactwith it. Yeah. Absolutely so.
As you said, EFT stands forEmotional Freedom Techniques or it's also known as
tapping, and essentially it's it's analternative treatment for physical pain and emotional distress.
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So I kind of like to givethis analogy because I feel like it
helps people kind of understand how efT works and what it can do for
people. So a lot of ushave been on road trips before and we've
come across like a really breath takingview and we get out of the car
and we just really soak in thatbeauty that is around us, and we're
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in this like sense of peace andall. And that's a little bit what
happens to us when we start topractice EFT. So if you could imagine
that your body is like the landscapeof this road trip that you're on,
and there are all these highways runningthrough it. These are what we refer
to in EFT as our meridians orour energy systems, which you will probably
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hear a lot about through like reikior yoga. And when we're feeling stressed
out or anxious, it's kind oflike there's a traffic jam on those highways.
And what EFT does essentially is ithelps clear that traffic. So by
gently tapping on and I'm sorry,I know it's a podcast, so people
might not be able to see you, but I'm just staying on certain parts
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of my body and my faith.What I'm doing is I'm actually sending signals
to the amygdala. So the amygdalais the part of the brain that controls
the stress response. Think of itlike the traffic control center. If we're
talking about roads and highways, andwhat you're doing is you're basically telling your
body, Hey, I'm okay,I'm safe. We can let that traffic
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flow again. And this action reallysoothes that intense fight, flight freeze or
horn response that we can often havewhen we're a bit stressed. Now,
let's talk about why we speak duringEFT. So if you can imagine that
you're on a road trip with afriend, you're not going to be driving
in silence, right like, You'llbe sharing stories, You'll be seeing along,
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maybe you're you know, listening toa little bit of I don't know
Beyonce, bit of Liizzo. That'smy jam and that's what's speaking during EFT
is like it really allows us toexpress our feelings and our emotions and really
helps us in changing the way thatwe react to the problems that we're facing.
So EFT, ultimately its aim isto restore the balance in your body.
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So the next time that you're dwellingon a past event, or you're
anxious about something in the future,or maybe there's something happening right now that
intensity has hopefully decreased. Yes,thank you so much for explaining it.
And it is a very powerful technique. I started working with EFT about almost
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two years ago. My therapist weactually introduced me to it and we actually
began working on it, and Iknow how to do it on my own.
And she had recommended me look upa few people and one specific with
bread yeats and he's come to likethe DMV area and I haven't been able
to see him yet, but I'vein the midst of like having like anxiety
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attacks and been very anxious. I'vebeen able to like resort and I even
find myself sometimes if I feel myselfbeing anxious or just things happening, I
will start to happen on like youknow, certain areas, and if I
don't see certain things out loud,I'm saying in my head and then I
can feel a shift and feel myselfcalming down. So it definitely does work.
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Yeah, absolutely, And Brad Yateswas actually very much a part of
my journey as to why I starteddoing EFT, and I can recall during
pretty much the height of COVID reallywas a very isolating time for myself.
My mental health is really really sufferingat that point in time, and so
I decided to have a look atsome online communities that I could join and
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be a part of, just soI could feel a little less isolated at
the end of the day, rightAnd so one of these communities that I
came across was Gala Darling and sheis known as the Tapping Queen on Instagram,
and I joined her program called theVortex a few years ago. And
the very first community call that wehad with the Vortex was with Brad Yates
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and it was a two hour,two hour tapping event and I'd never done
tapping before. I didn't know whatit was. As I said, it
went for two hours, which isa very very long and exhausting time if
it's your first time being introduced toEFT. So I had to go and
have a nap afterwards because I wasthat that drain. And then I woke
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up. I mean, during theprocess of tapping with Brad, I was
like, oh my god, whatare we doing? This is so weird.
Okay, I'm just going to keepgoing along with it, keep going
along with it, and like Isaid, exhausted had to go have a
nap. I woke up and Iwas just like, wow, that is
next level for me for someone whowas like what are we doing to then
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waking up and being like, Okay, this is something that I think would
really help a lot of people andit would really help in my life as
well at that one in time.And yeah, the very next day,
I decided to look into what courseswere available for me a little bit closer
to home in Australia, and Icame across the excuse me, and I
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came across the Australian Tapping Institute,which is run by a woman by the
name of Laura Hollinger. And that'show I decided that ef T was going
to be the next step in mycareer path, in my journey, because
I'd been in corporate for eight yearsand I just knew that it wasn't serving
me anymore. So ef T wasthe next step for me, and Brad
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Yates was part of that journey.That's amazing. And I cannot imagine two
hours of doing that like that,that's impeccable. It was very intense,
like I can barely get through ona good day, maybe an hour or
so of a meditation, so todo two hours of TABN it's crazy,
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but more power to you how youare. So to circle back a little
bit, was there anything I knowyou said that COVID was a rough time
for you. So were you dealingwith like depression or anxiety or did you
have like a history of any typeof like mental health struggle. I think
that I've always had some kind ofrelationship with mental health that has been a
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struggle. I grew up in quitea traumatic household. I also had divorced
parents on top of that, whichcan be you know, trauma and amongst
itself. But I've never been diagnosed, and I think that I don't I
don't necessarily think that you have tobe diagnosed to understand that your mental health
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is suffering and that you want tobe able to change or do something about
it. I was also in ahousehold where I did have very supportive parents,
And I remember when I was reallystruggling with my mental health in my
teen years is I really wanted togo on antidepressants and it just seemed like
a way out for me. Butmy stepmom at the time was like,
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hey, you know, let's tryand implement some other things before you start
taking medication. And I really thankher for that. And I'm not saying
in any way, shape or formthat medication is not an option for people.
It certainly is. I think justin that point in my life,
it was probably more of an openopportunity for me to explore other holistic and
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alternative pathways before resulting or resorting tomedication. So I've always been in therapy
from a very young age and that'ssomething that's pretty much followed me up until
maybe maybe three or four years agowhen I stopped going to therapy, and
that was around the same time thatI really decided to start focusing on my
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own health and wellbeing and it's beena great blessing. And again, I
don't think that therapy is not foreveryone. I think that everyone can go
out and try and see what worksfor them and if it doesn't, try
something else and just keep going untilyou find that one thing that really really
works for you. Yes, Yes, I'm glad you said that, because
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I like I apprecied that, youknow, like I am a therapy advocate,
you know, because it definitely hasbeen impactful for me, and I've
been in situations where I've had numeroustherapists and it just was not a good
fit. And unfortunately it was acycle of trying to find the right one.
But also through therapy, I havelearned things like eft and reiki and
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enhancing my meditations and doing different othertechniques and things that have helped me along
my whole journey. Now, youknow, we're human. We go through
different cycles of like maybe depression,anxiety and things, but implementing other techniques
and stuff can help us on adaily basis, like I'd be in my
little office at work sometimes just tappingaway, absolutely and exactly like like you
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said, there are going to beit's gonna be a journey in a process
to find not just a modality thatworks for you, but someone that can
help you with that modality that isa good fit as well. Like you
know, as you said, therapyhas worked for you, it's worked for
me in the past. But theadded layer to that is finding somebody that
you can feel safe with. RightIt's not just about oh, going to
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therapy and I'm going to go withthe first person that I find exactly exactly,
and now I know, like listeningto your podcast and seeing your social
media. I know that you area body positivity advocate. How did you
come into like wanting to advocate fora body positivity Was that something that you
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struggle with in the past, oryou just you just seen a place that
it needed to be some more positivityaround area. Well, for me,
it's more so about body acceptance thanwhat it is about body positivity, right.
I think that we get very caughtup in this world these days,
especially with medi here and especially withsocial media. Is the messaging that we
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keep getting told on repeat is thatyou have to love your body. You
have to love your body. Ifyou don't love your body, then no
one else will love your body.And I just think that that messaging is
can be quite harmful, It canbe quite toxic, and I think that
we need to take a step backand go right on, let's have a
look at the acceptance space and beingneutral about my body. Right, I
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can look at myself in the mirrorand I can go, man, I
really do not like my stomach atall today. There's a huge difference between
saying that and looking at myself inthe mirror and going like, I love
my stomach, I love my stretchmarks. Your brain does not believe you
when you say that, because itknows that you're lying to yourself. But
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when you come and shift back tobody acceptance and body neutrality and you look
at yourself in the mirror and yougo, man, I don't like my
stomach today, but I know thatit keeps me nice and warm, and
it gets to eat nourishing the foodthat I get to eat with people that
I love. Your body can't denythat, because it is true you do
have a human stomach, you dohave a body that is trying to get
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nutrition through that those systems. Right. So there's I think a huge it's
a fine line, but a hugedifference between body acceptance and body positivity.
And that's just the kind of lensthat I'm trying to get women to see
that they don't have to sit thereand say these things about themselves that,
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yeah, whilst they are very positiveand can be lovely, that it's not
going to work for you if youjust keep if it's a lie. Right,
you have to get to the acceptancebefore you can get into that positive
space. Right. I love thefact that you brought there, full serpoint.
It makes a lot of sense,Like being able to accept something and
embrace it, you know, LikeI deal with body. I guess acceptance
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sometimes, but I think a lotof mine is trauma based, you know,
just my upbringing. And you knowa lot of times I think growing
up people don't know the impact theirwords really have or can have one a
person later in life, you know. So being from the background that I
come from, it was like youhad to have a certain type of body
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image and still even now, youknow, it's tough. So like,
how how does one work towards acceptingtheir body to get to the point where
like, I sat my body,but I love myself at the same time,
I think that that's a life longjourney, and we've got to remember
that we don't ever come to adestination point with our bodies because they're forever
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changing. Right. If you wantto base your identity and your self worth
about the way that you look,that's not going to serve you when you're
in your feet sixty seventies and yourbody image is completely shifted and completely changed.
The internal work is so important sothat you can get to fifty sixty
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seventy and be like, wow,my identity it doesn't really it doesn't really
matter because it's not attached to theway I look. It's about how I
feel about myself on the inside.Because the way that you look doesn't determine
whether or not you're a good personor a nice person, or if you
good, do good, do dogood for the world, right, And
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so again, it's about healing thatinternal journey. And I think, as
you were saying before, like alot of your experience has stemmed from the
traumas that you experienced growing up.And I think a lot of the time,
when women fail in the dieting worldor they are perceived as unattractive by
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social standards, we have to rememberagain that there are so many systems that
are in place to keep women feelingcrappy about their bodies, and that is
you know, from ableism to racismto so much. So much has stemmed
from that, and a lot ofthe time women we tend to blame ourselves
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when things don't work out right.We go, oh, I didn't try
hard enough for you know, Isuck at doing this, or I'm so
lazy or whatever. But we haveto remember that there are billion dollar industries
that are contributing to the way thatwe feel about ourselves and make us feel
like that, so we go outand buy the product, So we go
out and do the diet again.So we go out and get another gym
membership that we won't ever go to. So it's a perpetual cycle. And
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that's why I say, like,it's good and important to realize that there
are external, outer systems that arecontributing to the way I feel. But
ultimately, at the end of theday, it's the internal work that I
need to do that will impact theexternal world that I'm living in most definitely,
and especially with the diet culture,and like you know, we were
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talking about the whole stigma around socialmedia, the big thing that I've been
seeing for the last few months isthe whole old zimpic and you know,
like the fencer meaning trend and havingto do the research on a lot of
these things, even though they maybe seen as beneficial and it can help
the longevity of using a lot ofthese different products, can be very detrimental
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to our own bodies, you know, absolutely, And it's like, oh,
mentally, it's like, well,if I love myself, I wouldn't
continue to fill it with things thathurt me, you know. But on
the flip side, do I reallyis it really worth this short term goal
of looking a certain way just foryou know, someone else's perception. So
I think it's a lot like yousaid, that goes into the whole overall
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aspect of just getting to the placeof accepting yourself. Yeah, and you
know, the diet industry is asixty billion dollar industry, right, and
if diets actually did work, theywouldn't be worth that much because people woudn't
have to keep dieting and keep gettingon the hamster wheel. Diets fail ninety
five percent of the time, andthis is information that we now know.
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Yet we still choose to restrict oureating habits, and we still choose to
over exert ourselves in rigorous exercise andthings like that. But yet the statistics
show that ninety five percent of thetime, within five years you're either going
to put that weight back on oryou're actually going to put that weight back
on and then some So if youcan think about it, like if you
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knew that your car wasn't going towork five days out of the seven days
of the week, why would youstill choose to drive it? It just
does not make sense. But again, these systems that are in place continuously
tell women that it's their fault thatthey didn't try hard enough, and so
we repeat that cycle, and werepeat that cycle and repeat that cycle until
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we're dead in the ground and it'sawful. Yeah. And I will admit
I am Gelsia of going hard ina gym. You know, it is
a mental thing, and it issomething really to like unrival, you know,
going hard in a gym, andeven the whole diet and thing like,
I will admit like that is notmy lifestyle, but I have done
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it. And part of me beingoff of work was learning to create a
more healthy relationship with food. Yeah. Absolutely, And I thought that all
women have gotten on that train,that diet trying that exercise train. For
sure, I myself have. Youknow, it's taken me over thirty years
to really kind of liberate myself andbe like, oh my god, I
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actually I don't have to contribute todiet culture, Like, oh, I
never actually even thought of that before. That's crazy to me. Yeah,
And like you said, it's reallyan inside job. So like, how
do you bring all of that afull circle with doing EFT and working with
people with body of stepness issues.Yeah, absolutely, that's a great question.
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So as I kind of touched onearlier with my little road trip analogy,
so you know, EFTs is restoringbalance to your body's energy system.
So again, the next time thatyou're thinking about past events or you're worried
about something that's coming up in thefuture, if I can you know aliken
that to you know, maybe you'vegot a social event coming up and you're
just really not comfortable in any ofyour clothes or whatever the case might be.
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Again, using ef T, hopefullythat intensity has decreased, hopefully to
a point where you're going to havea more neutral thought or a less reactive
response. So if you could imaginelike you're someone who can't help but think,
oh gross, I look so uglyevery single time you walk past a
mirror or catch or reflection. Afterone EFT session, or you know,
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maybe after a few, you stillmight feel that twinge of discomfort when you
see yourself. But the beautiful partis that now you might actually pause and
look at yourself and go, right, even though I don't feel like a
hot bitch right now, I'm stilltotally worthy of love and acceptance. Or
perhaps you're you're someone who really getscaught up in the Instagram comparison trap,
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as we were talking about earlier withsocial media, you know, endlessly scrolling
through photos of like influences and reallyreally feeling less and less confident about yourself.
Maybe after a session or two ofe FT, you start to notice
that you're comparing yourself when you're scrolling, and rather than scrolling right by that
account, you actually take the timeto stop and unfollow them, and you
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know that that's a really powerful move, and that's the power of EFT.
It doesn't mean that you're never goingto have a bad body image day ever
again, but it does mean thatyou'll understand that it's okay to have days
like that. Right Oh, Ilike that, just getting to a place
of acceptance exactly exactly. I loveit so with teaching it and Evan like,
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you're know your client base is EFT, and I'm asking this as if
I don't know, is EFT somethingthat a person can do on their own
or do they have to do itwith a trained petitioner? Right on,
I again love that question. Soef T is really versatile and you can
use it at any time, anyplace, and it's not going to cost
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you anything, so that makes itvery accessible. Right. However, when
you're tapping by yourself, there area few things that you might want to
keep in mind. So firstly,our brains have that natural tendency to want
to protect us from any kind ofemotional discomfort, which could actually prevent us
from going deeper into the issues thatwe're trying to resolve. Now, we
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might unknowingly ignore or downplay some ofthe subconscious messaging that is trying to surface,
right, So that's one of theconditions of doing it by yourself.
And secondly, without proper guidance,we might also do the complete opposite and
dive a little bit too quickly andtoo deep, and we might get quite
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emotionally charged, and this can leadto emotional distress, and especially we don't
have the necessary support to help kindof navigate those feelings. And so this
is where the role of myself oran EFT practitioner becomes quite valuable, because
as practitioners, we're not only providinga safe and confidential space to explore those
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kind of emotions and things that arecoming up for you. We're also trained
to ask the right questions that reallyencourage you to explore your own emotions a
little bit more deeply, but obviouslyat a pace that is comfortable for yourself
as well. So I mean,whilst you can certainly practice EFT at home
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alongside other body acceptance practices that youmight have, I think that having the
support of a certified practitioner can reallymake the whole process a bit more effective
and ensure that you're doing it ina safe and supportive environment. Thank you
for explaining it. And it makesa lot of sense when you say,
like you can actually go a littletoo deep and have a lot of things
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surface, because I have had thatexperience before and I was so confused.
I'm like, wait a minute,what did I do? That's the power
in it though, like you said, you know, thankfully I got a
surface and like you know, asupport system. But like for me my
experience with doing it, because itopened up the other channels, it allowed
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me to dive deeper with parts ofmy healing. So I'm grateful for that,
you know. Yeah, sometimes youdon't know what's underneath the surface until
you start peeling back the onion exactly. Yes, I loved this whole conversation.
This was so informative and I lovedeverything about it, especially you are
talking about the difference between like lovingyour body and just getting to the place
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of acceptance, and I feel likeI need to hear that. Hopefully someone
else that's listening that helps resonate somethingwith them, because I think a lot
of times when you talk about likejust your body, like you said,
you, I may think I needto love myself, I need to love
but you have to accept it firstbefore you can get to that point.
So I appreciate you for even advocatingfor that and just continuing to raise awareness
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around body acceptance and EFT because it'sdefinitely powerful. Thank you so much.
I really appreciate it. Yes,So before we get out of here,
girl, before we get out ofhere, please know everyone about your podcast
and your social media is the wherethey can find all of your stuff.
It absolutely and so I have apodcast called Weight. There's more Weight is
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spelt we w ight Yeah, Andit's definitely about the conversations with other experts
that also want to advocate for bodyacceptance and just have conversations that we don't
normally or necessarily get to have withour friendship circles and things like that,
So I think that the work thatwe're doing yourself, myself included, is
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super important when it comes to thiskind of space. You can find that
podcast either on Spotify or on mywebsite which is www dot e f T
l A I n E dot com. Otherwise, I mean, I definitely
post about it on my Instagram whichis at e f T dot lane,
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or on Facebook which is Facebook dotcom forward slash e f T Lane as
well. Yes, so y'all pleasego tap in with her check out.
I love the name of your podcast, our dues tap In. So I've
started from the back and I'm workingmy way up, but you had some
amazing guests that come through, andI just love everything that your show your
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platform stands for. So please continueto do the amazing work on yourself first
and foremost, and definitely pouring itout to your clients and just anyone that
is trying to better themselves. Soy'all definitely go tap in with her and
get fed and learn some new thingsand go book Go book her for some
e f T. I would loveit because you don't have to be in
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person. Absolutely, that's the beautyand the power of the Internet. These
days right, so much more accessibleto do the stuff that you want to
do. Yes, the good partis of it, right, Lane,
thank you so much for coming onChronicles of Virgo podcast. Thank you for
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having me. This was fantastic,no problem, all right, y'all.
Did y'all enjoyed the conversation between meand miss Lane. I hope you guys
did, and I hope that youguys learned a lot about e f T,
body acceptance, body positivity, allof those lovely things. I know
that in previous episodes before, I'vespoke about my practices with e f T,
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but I'm so grateful and honored thatI found someone that actually is skilled
in that area and that teaches it. So Lane, thank you so much
for coming onto the Chronicles of aVirgo podcast and offering all of your insight
and your encouragement and your areas ofexpertise, and please y'all, Lanes links
will be listed in a description boxso you guys can go tap in with
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her podcast, her social media,or her website and see everything that she
has going on. And most definitelyif you're someone that is interested in learning
about EFT or interested in taking acourse or as a class or something.
Please bombys reach out to Lane.Like I said, I have been doing
EFT for like the last two anda half three years. For me,
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it has worked wonders. But thereare so many, so many good benefits
to it, and to do itwith somebody it can definitely be beneficial.
And then when you're on your ownyou can still practice those things. So
definitely look it up, do yourown research. But again you can also
go on Lane's page or howite andreach out to her, you know,
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if you're interested in taking that journeyfurther. One thing from this conversation,
and I truly did appreciate is Layingtalking about the difference between body acceptance and
body positivity. And I think weall may can agree that we struggle with
just accepting our bodies, and evenoutside of just the physical context of accepting
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our bodies, we may struggle withwhere we are in life, feeling like
we're not as successful as we shouldbe. I'm not a homeowner, I
don't have children, I'm not married. You know, society tells us all
these different things that we should doand should be by the age of thirty,
forty fifty and so on, andyou may be someone that's not in
that position. And I've realized withmyself even through this conversation, that I
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have been put in positions where I'vetried to jump take these huge leaps of
faith and not really accept myself forwhere I am, not accept my body
for how I look now, notaccept than myself for all of the education
that I've done, all the thingsthat I have done in my career,
and I have just tried to jumpto the next thing, jump to the
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next thing. And like she said, when you tell yourself all these different
things, our mind is not wiredlike that to process it as the truth,
you know. And what I realizewith me is me sitting in my
feelings, like I always say,and accepting things for what they are at
that moment. I am able todraw in different experiences and the things that
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I actually want, and I've hadthat happen for me over the last month.
So just really sit with this message, internalize it how it resonates for
you. But really think about thethings that you're trying to accomplish in your
life, whether it's with your wellness, your fitness, even if it's just
with your success, your career path, even relationships what do you think is
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holding you back? Are you notaccepting of where you are in that moment
and just trying to make these hugeleaps of faith? And don't get me
wrong, there's nothing wrong with makinga leap of faith, Like I am
all for it. Your girl hasbeen out here leaping since twenty twenty four
started. Okay. However, Ifeel like things that make the whole situation
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come full circle more are accepting whereyou are, and with acceptance of you,
yourself and your whole entity and acceptanceof your current circumstances and situation does
not mean that you're going to staythere. And I think that's where we,
you know, misconstrued the lines alot of time as humans, you
know, thinking that, oh ifI accept this, this is what it
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has to be. No, notat all. You're just accepting that moment
for what it is in time.Like I said a couple episodes back,
accept the moment, and then dowhat you need to do to move forward.
Okay, So I don't want tocontinue to remember one. I hope
this whole entire message resonated with someoneLike I said, please by it means
go tap in with Lane. She'sdoing some incredible things on her platform and
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her podcast or our links are inthe description as well as mine following me
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little things and I have some awesomestuff, some informal stuff coming up within
the next couple months, and thosethings may not be mentioned on the podcast,
but they would definitely be on YouTube. So make sure you subscribe.
The link is going to be ina description box. And again, thank
you guys for your Maclin support,for continuing to tap in the Chronicles of
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a Vigal podcast, and thank youto each and every person that has reached
out to me within the last twentyfour hours. I would say, if
you know, I'm from Baltimore,Maryland, and as of yesterday, March
twenty fifth, we have had atragic accident that happened where a cargo ship
actually collided with one of our mainbridges here and it collapsed and it was
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people on a bridge driving, peoplewere on a bridge working, and there
had been a rescue mission at thetime of me recording this part. The
rescue mission is still continuing to goon and they are continuing to try to
find, you know, these people. So thank you to everyone that reached
out to me to see if myselfand my family were safe and okay.
(37:30):
In which we were. That particulararea that this happened in is on the
outskirts of where I actually grew upat and my entire family grew up at,
so I used to conceive this actualbridge from my Grandmam's house, so
it had a little emotional impact,but nonetheless we are fine. We are
just going to continue to send upprayers to all of those families, the
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rescue crews, and everyone that wasinvolved in this tragic moment. But again,
thank you guys. What's tapping inwith me? All the links are
listed below, and remember, guys, please please please continue to take care
of yourselves and definitely most importantly andtake care of each other. Peace out.
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Thank you for listening to an episodeof Chronicles of a Virgo podcast with
me your favor favorite favorite verbal host, Shikita Johnson. Your support means the
world to me as I want tocontinue to see you all proser and grow.
Please join me back next Wednesday,where we will continue to dive into
more can it and empower on conversationthat we'll get you a step closer to
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stepping into a new guilt individual.Remember you're not alone on your journey.
Please don't forget to subscribe to uson social media at Chronicles of a Verbal
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