The Diary of a Discarded Daughter - Redeeming a Painful Past
Welcome to the Diary of a Discarded Daughter (formerly titled "The Chronicles of the Christian Drama Queen") Diary of a Discarded Daughter is hosted by Lisa Schafer—a woman who has walked through forty years of abandonment, childhood s**ual abuse, and the long, messy road to healing. This podcast takes a raw, authentic, heartfelt, and often humorous look at the deep wounds left by being unprotected, unloved, and unwanted. Abandoned and abused as a child, Lisa Schafer, Founder of Christian Drama Queen Solutions, shares the wounds that shaped her choices, her faith, and her understanding of God, as well as the healing and redemption Jesus gave her during her 40-year search for answers to painful questions. If you’ve ever struggled to "let go" of trauma or wrestled with bitterness, Lisa offers a seat at the table. Through candid conversations, spiritual insights, and her signature wit (often at her own expense), Lisa creates a space for women to dig deeper into their walk with Jesus. Whether you're drowning in past pain or just beginning to confront it, she offers encouragement, truth, and an open invitation to get real about the hard stuff—without shame. Lisa Schafer is the author of two Bible studies on forgiveness: 📖 DISCARDED – A Daughter’s Journey to Reclaim Freedom and Forgive the Father Who Left Her Behind 📖 The Christian Victim’s Guide to Forgiving the Unforgivable (Both available on Amazon.) Please note: Lisa is not a licensed counselor, pastor, or mental health professional. She strongly encourages listeners to seek professional care when needed. Subscribe, follow, rate, and share—because someone you love may need to hear what you're hearing.
Episodes
What a surprise to find out (during what was supposed to be the happiest time of my life, welcoming our new baby into the world) that I had terrible thoughts of rage, abuse and despair. But that's how many of us tossed aside or abused at a young age behave later in life, because we haven't dealt with our anger. And who are me mad at? Let's be honest now...is it the father who never wanted us, the abuser...
Discarded Daughters struggle to see their Heavenly Father honestly, as protector and provider, as a safe place to run and hide. And make no mistake, good works and Christian activity are suppose to be a response to an intimate walk with the Lord, not a replacement.
Note the podcast name change! Please share with those discarded daughters you know who need to find hope and healing from a painful past. Find more stories...
Forgiven is NOT the Same as Forgotten
I love being in fellowship with other believers. I love worshipping in song and praising Jesus with all my heart. So—I DO attend church. But some days are just harder than others. And for Discarded Daughters like me, Father's Day can be tough.
It's not that I'm still angry. I'm not still bitter. But God gifts each of us with an amazing memory. Some...
If you feel called of God to ministry or business and still need to keep it "all together" on the home front, then this is the episode for you! Aliese is one of the first guests I've brought to the Chronicles of the Christian Drama Queen Podcast. Aliese Halcomb is a Christian mompreneur on a mission to help other Christian mompreneurs! After becoming a mother, she was determined to stay home with her s...
A few months ago, I was invited to share the Forgiving the Unforgivable subject on Tapestry Ministry Network with Stephanie Morin Sherwood during their live Facebook group broadcast called Woven In Wednesdays. It's a bit longer than my usual broadcast but I touched on most of the concepts behind the Biblical journey in my published studies on Amazon. Find Tapestry Network on Facebook @ https://www.facebook.com/...
Lisa never claims to have all the answers. This became abundantly clear when she read through someone else's post on Facebook, expressing their comfort with cutting someone out of their life. We all deal with toxic relationships, and have probably had to simply turn our backs on someone we used to believe was a friend. But what would Jesus do? And whatever He would do, does He require or empower us to do the same...
Scripture has provided a resounding "NO!" in answer to the questions of whether we are unloved or unwanted (see parts 2 & 3 of this series). But what about the question of whether we are worthy? Deserving blessing? When feelings of unworthiness express themselves to the extreme, we can become self-abusive, prone to self-medicating our pain or succumb to addictions. We need to recognize what the Word of G...
This is part III of the series I'm doing regarding the emotional baggage that keeps Christian Drama Queens like me, abandoned and recovering from childhood trauma, awake at night. Am I as unwanted as I've convinced myself I am? Where is God on the subject? Am I truly the last thing on His mind? And why wouldn't I be?
The new Freedom Christian Radio stream starts the first of the month, and yo...
This episode is a little longer and a little different from Lisa's typical Drama Queen excursions. This week Lisa talks about her 25 years as a homeschooling mom. What led her to do it? Was God really calling her to the chaos and blessing of home education? Was it even legal 25 years ago? And were there any REAL benefits? Pros and cons alike, today we find answers, surprises and encouragement.
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Discarded Daughters struggle with the desire to be needed, wanted, loved, accepted...and often don't turn down opportunities to put out someone else's fire, when deep down they know they should. In this episode, Lisa shares her heartbreak over having to turn down an opportunity she was just certain had God's fingerprints all over it. Why was it so hard to say, "no," though? Was she desperate f...
In this episode, Lisa recounts the weekend retreat when the enemy spent an inordinate amount of time trying to keep her quiet and convincing her that only "church mouse" personalities can truly be called by God to deliver His message. Discover how she responded and the outcome of her "wrestling" with who God created her to be.
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The is the second episode in the series, What Keeps YOU Up @ Night? - The CDQ's Bible Study Through Emotional Bondage. In this episode, Lisa gives the Biblical ammunition to fight the deception many traumatized women believe; "Nobody loves me." Many born-again believers buy into the stinkin' thinkin' that they are not lovable and therefore cant NOT be loved. Nothing could be further from the ...
In this episode, Lisa shares a list of emotional bondage that haunts most all Christians at some point in time. They carry guilt, doubt, self-loathing, pain from a traumatic past, lack of trust in a God they've claimed to be devoted to, and more. She encourages the listener to dig in deep to the Word of God to find answers and to travel the journey of God-Discovery in this, and the next several weeks of episodes....
When I decided to be a WAHM, I really didn't have any idea what I was getting myself into. This is a recording of the Work-At-Home workshop I offer on my YouTube channel. If you're hoping to build a business from home, there are many things you need to plan for. I wish someone would have prepared me to be an entrepreneur. Check it out and share with the young moms in your life who are considering being a sel...
Recently I've been doing a lot of grief "counseling" with women burdened by loss. And it's brought up some painful memories of my own. In this episode, I share the stories of children we fell in love with but were never allowed to parent. Aside from being heartbroken, we also had to let those babies go...knowing the situations they'd be going do might not be the safest places for them. Our hea...
I know it may sound completely counterintuitive to NOT comfort those who are grieving, but hear me out. In this episode, Lisa shares her own thoughts regarding the way Believers tend to step on the grief of others with more "comfort" than they can handle at that moment. Listen and see if you can relate.
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Drama Queens like to play the victim. Doesn't matter if they're Christian or not. Their pain and suffering has to be bigger and more horrendous than anyone's in the room. What's the damage done by hanging onto their trauma? And, once the conviction leads us to the cross, should we walk in our guilt and shame forever, as if bearing a "scarlet letter" is an honor? Today Lisa reminds listene...
In this episode, Lisa shares the story of a rich man who thought more of his independence and wealth than his eternal soul, and asks the question: Is Jesus just your Savior? Or have you really made Him Lord of your life? And what are you waiting for?
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Lisa would never imply that victims don't have the right to feel the pain they're experiencing. After all, she struggled herself for over 40 years to understand God had a plan and a purpose for the suffering in her past. But most victims don't just feel pain—they desire vengeance and to see their perpetrators suffer, as well. But do they really have some sort of supernatural "right" to feel th...
No matter who you are, everyone has felt slighted, ignored, uncherished and unappreciated at some point. How long should you sit feeling sorry for yourself; on the pitty pot, so to speak? Even if your feelings are justified, is there a better…more Biblical way to respond? And seriously…What Would Jesus Do?
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