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Fortune (00:04):
Welcome all to
circuitry. It's time to ignite
your life. Join us
Jean (00:08):
as we explore this
episode's thought provoking
topic and what it means to usthrough everyday life challenges
and practical spiritual tools.
Fortune (00:16):
So let's start sharing
Hello, darling. Hello, darling.
How are you?
Jean (00:23):
I'm doing good today.
Yeah, yeah, it's it's a blusteryday again. Oh, yeah. I mean,
these these weather's that arenot pleasant. Lot of rain. A lot
of rain. A lot of rain. It's notfair. Yeah.
Fortune (00:35):
It's not fair. Well,
that's what our topic is
Jean (00:38):
trying to get to that. Are
we resenting the rain?
Fortune (00:43):
Can we use entering?
No, we can't resent the rainbecause the rain is good for the
tree. It is it's preparing usfor spring springs coming? Yes.
It's a beautiful thing. But ourshow is about resentment.
Jean (00:55):
It is today. Yes, yeah.
And we talked about fear lasttime. And that was a little bit
a little bit of I don't want tosay a dark topic. But it was it
was an it was a topic that alittle heavy, sometimes, you
know, about things people gothrough. And I think we're,
we're back in that space again.
(01:17):
But that's okay. I think that'simportant to talk about these
things, and why we do them andwhat we how we can get better at
Fortune (01:23):
while we're all about
transforming, right? So we want
to take the things that arebringing us down, that is giving
us a lower vibration orfrequency absolute, and we want
to be able to transform thatwithin us to recognize a
transformer within us so we canrise above it. And, you know, be
in a higher frequency.
Jean (01:43):
Ready so much again.
Fortune (01:45):
Well, I mean, number
one, that is the feeling of it's
not fair. Yeah. And how often dowe feel like that we feel like
that all the time. We'redriving, somebody cuts us off.
That's not fair. You know, wedon't know paid for something we
found a cheaper, that's notfair. Everything is about? And
(02:09):
and think about that. unpackthat. You know what I mean? It's
happening to me, you know, it'sso full of ego. The whole
resentment, idea.
Jean (02:19):
Yeah. Well, it's, it's a
lot like the fear thing, which
is that you're making yourselfaware, it will, it can make you
self aware, it should make youself aware. Whether it makes you
self aware or not, is I guessthe challenge if you're doing
it, and you're not going okay,wait a minute, why am I feeling
this?
Fortune (02:38):
Right? Well, a lot of
times you're feeling anger, you
know, you can't stop, you know,the resentment is that you can't
stop thinking about something,somebody hurt you, and you just
can't get out of your head. Youcan't just keeps popping back
in. And I suffer with that. Youknow, everybody does, you think
that you're past it, and you go,you start thinking about it
again, and you're like, youknow, that person really hurt
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me.
Jean (03:01):
But why did they hurt you,
they hurt you because you have
some kind of expectation in yourhead of how they should be
treating you. And oftentimes,that person has no idea, no idea
at all, that they've crossed aboundary there might not even be
aware of what your expectationis or what you are wanting from
the relationship. And they'remostly Mmm,
Fortune (03:23):
yeah, that's mostly.
And also what we do is, this isthe big thing that I discovered.
Thinking about resentment is howwe act passive aggressive.
Jean (03:35):
So we don't deal with it.
We have the resentment. Andwe're calling communication.
Yes, but I'm saying exactly, butwe don't want to go there. We
don't want to unpack it. Wedon't want to be the bad guy.
You don't want to that you don'twant to be like going well,
sometimes it's not even beingthe bad guy. It's some people
don't want to stick up forthemselves or be clear about
what it is they
Fortune (03:56):
need. They hate
confrontation, or whatever it
is. But I realized that Oh, mygoodness, I do this all the
time. I act passive aggressive,just not to again, we're, you
know, I'm dodging, dodging whatI need to do to get rid of the
resentment. Yeah. Because youdon't want to go that you just
do it in other ways.
Jean (04:16):
Oh, you know, yeah, it's
boiling down to a lot of things.
There's, there's a lot of, okay,when when you start resenting
something or someone, there's alot of judgment that goes on
self judgment, judgment towardsthe other person. Judgment, like
maybe even just like the eventsthat led up to that moment, but
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you're judging and you're reallyfeeling like, This is so
Fortune (04:44):
unfair. Right, right.
Right. Right.
Jean (04:47):
And I think
Fortune (04:50):
yes, but then we keep
we put that down. We will.
Jean (04:54):
Never good if you're
pushing anything down and
resentment is a huge one thatpeople tend to do,
Fortune (04:59):
but then you have Then
you're with that person or that
situation and you pretend likeit doesn't exist. And then
you're worse. And it can come in
Jean (05:07):
like, okay, like, that
sounds, this sounds really
heavy, okay? But like, it cancome in small doses like, Okay,
say you are with a partner or afriend, and you love going out
and having a drink on theweekend with friends at the
local bar, or you like going tothe movies or you like, Don't
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you like going dancing, and yourpartner really is like a
wallflower. They don't want togo out and socialize they,
they're tired at the end of theweek, and they just want to shut
down and whatever. Well, guesswhat? You chose this person?
Right? They're just being them.
Right? You're secretly resentingthem, right? You're not
fulfilling my needs. You're not?
(05:50):
Right, you know, I need to do,right. So it's almost about
having clarity and selfawareness, all through the
process from from start tofinish. And being able to
communicate, and to also to alsonot try and control what that
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person is going to do. Becauseattached to resent me
Fortune (06:14):
is a lot. Yeah, like
manipulation, you're saying, you
will, there's
Jean (06:18):
a lot of emotions that go
into it. But it's really, you
know, the resentment part isright, you're right. It's about
feeling like you're beingtreated unfairly. Whether it's
like, okay, you can say, well,um, me and my coworker were up
for a raise or a promotion, andthey got it, and I didn't, and I
had been putting in theovertime, and I showed up early,
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or I worked through lunch, orI'm the one putting all the data
together, and the boss doesn'trealize that and, you know, so
why did they get it and I didn'twrite, you know, well, there's
something deeper than that wasmuch deeper than that, then much
deeper than that. And I thinkthat is a key element that we're
finding here is, but again, it?
I guess what I'm trying to getat is, sometimes we justify the
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resentment. You know what I'msaying? Like, we feel absolutely
not in our right, it's not abouta right, a righteous thing. It's
just a, you know, gosh, can yousee how that happened? And to
me, to me, yeah, right. And tothem, and it's not right, that
that happened. And, and thoseare, those are normal emotions.
Fortune (07:26):
Absolutely. That's I'm
saying, I mean, it's like so
common, like when,
Jean (07:30):
right, but like, it's so
common, that we go, there's
nothing wrong with that, right?
That's not right or wrong, butthere's nothing that I need to
work on in there, because that'sjust the way it is. Everybody's
gonna feel like, well, actually,that's a moment where you need
to go. I need to go a littledeeper with this, because it is
the emotions that we alignourselves with. That is
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changing. You talked aboutfrequency and energy vibrations
coming out. If we're aligningwith those feelings. I mean, we
all know that person, it'sbringing you down, we know that
person. Okay, we sometimes havebitten that person, yes. Okay,
where they are walking aroundwith the black cloud over their
head, or they've got that er,mentality? Oh, yes. And they're
basically like, everything'sgoing wrong. I know what's
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coming next, it's all going tobe bad. You know, and guess
what, it is going to be badbecause that is your reality.
Right? Exactly. So that's, uh,they're aligning themselves to
that emotion of negativity, andtotally not self aware of what
they're doing.
Fortune (08:34):
Okay. But even if
you're not in the cloud, okay,
there are so many things thattrigger us, you know, to feel
the resentment. Soon as we allowsomeone to take advantage of us,
okay. If anybody puts you down,it all, like you said little,
little things that all starts toadd up, you know, not being
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heard. You know? When you arearound somebody or you have a
relationship or you're friendswith somebody that has to be
right all the time. It's allthese little things. You know,
accumulate and this resentmentsthoughts, and you don't even
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realize that you are making thisbowl of negativity inside of
you.
Jean (09:23):
Right, but you know what I
mean, but the other part of it
is, you're okay, yes, you'reright. But you're not waiting.
You're not right. How, however,
Fortune (09:34):
I say it's this way go?
Jean (09:36):
No, it is that way. Okay.
But it is also it is also thatthat person has no idea what
your expectation is. Right?
Exactly. So you're getting allthis this resentment and you're
like you're saying it's buildingand it's building, it's building
and building. And every timethey don't hear me or every time
they don't acknowledge or everytime they do this, you're going
they just don't care about me,right? They don't love me. They
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Don't listen, they don't. You'recreating movie, right? That
doesn't exist. And they're justgoing, I'm just being me. And
you were fine with it everymoment up to this. So that's
cool. Right? Right. Right.
Right. But you haven't been coolwith it. So whose fault is that?
Right? So it's always anindication that you need to
reevaluate, and be self awareand decide what it is you need
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and express that. And wherethose boundaries maybe possibly
need to be made stronger or moreobvious. Yes,
Fortune (10:30):
absolutely. Boundaries
play always a part in all of it,
you know, for value foryourself. Because, okay, so
good.
Jean (10:37):
I'm sorry. No, I'm
Fortune (10:38):
just saying that, you
know, I mean, resentment comes
from, you know, not letting goof those negative thoughts about
someone that keep revisitinginstead of us. saying, Why am I
feeling like this? You justconstantly are blaming that
person for whatever they did,and not taking any
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responsibility to say, okay,maybe it's true, what they did
was not good. But like you justsaid, you're not you're having
expectations, and you're notconfronting, whatever was
happening. So
Jean (11:11):
the expectations are very
complicated. Oh, yes. Okay.
Because attach, getting clarity,right. But attached to
resentment is all other kindsof, you know, harmful emotions.
I'll say harmful, becausethey're not good for you. Right?
And they complicate the matter.
So, yes, resentment is, I feelI'm being treated unfairly. But
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why do I feel that? Am I enviousof this person? Or am I jealous
of this person? Sometimes thatis the part of it. And guess why
that those are two separateissues, just like when we looked
into fear, and we said, well,anxiety and phobias are a
different representation ofthat, you know, emotion or
reaction, whatever. That's thesame thing. So if you have envy,
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it's because you feel somebodyhas something that you wouldn't
have, right? You should have oryou would like for yourself, and
Fortune (12:07):
that's very dangerous.
And oh, boy, that's a bad but
Jean (12:10):
jealousy is also bad. It's
separate, like envy and jealousy
sounds like it'd be the samething. I'm jealous of that
person. But jealousy, you're notreally jealous with the person.
You're saying there is somethingin here that I feel can be taken
away from me. Just like ifsomebody's you feel like you're,
your partner is cheating on you?
Well, you could lose yourpartner. Right? So that's why
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you're jealous. Right? Right.
But envy is, Oh, they got thepromotion. So now they're gonna
get more money. So I'm enviousof what what's happening to them
or whatever. But those twoemotions seem to be, like,
almost like, Cornerstone basisof where resentment can come
(12:51):
from.
Fortune (12:52):
Right? I mean, that's
what many yeah, there's many,
many different things that wecan scenarios but bring up in
our head or feelings or whateverthat gets all ego. I mean, it's
all about, you know, not seeingthe other person as the one
that's to blame for whateveryou're feeling. I
Jean (13:10):
don't like the word blame.
Yeah. But now, now, I don't likethe word blame, because that, I
mean, I know that's not how youwere meaning it, but it's just
sort of like, we're not going toblame that person. We should
never be blaming anybody.
Because all of these things arehappening, right? Is, like we
say, a mirror, or it's a way oftaking our temperature to figure
out what is it in us that weneed to be working on? Right? It
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always comes back to that. Andif we can, we can approach the
life of everyday of goinganywhere. And it's not easy.
It's not easy. If we can look ateverything that's going on, it's
somehow at some point of it,even if it's not at the moment
of impact, right? And we can go,Wait a minute. What Why am I
feeling strong?
Fortune (13:50):
Right? Let me dig
through this. Yeah.
Jean (13:51):
And see that, yes, that
person has a part in this
dynamic. But really, it'ssomehow it's making me react, is
what I need to be thinkingabout?
Fortune (14:03):
Yes. And something that
I learned personally, through
all of this, you know, I'malways having challenges, I feel
like and for growth, it's allfor good. I feel like see having
a different perspective onthings can help you with
resentment as well. Seeing itdifferently. So, your chant,
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you're taking those negativethoughts, and you are putting
them to the side, okay, andtrying to think of all of the
good things that you need tofocus on. Okay? To bring you to
a better place. So then you cantake those negative things
again, and see them for whatthey are. It's not a it's not a
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it's not an it's not a feelingor an emotion. It's more like
okay, these are things that aregoing wrong. Okay. Don't attach
it to anything, no feeling orwhatever it and you start to
value that person or situation.
And you can take all thosenegative things and see how you
can correct them. Now, yes,okay. Mine has always been there
is good. It's the beauty of us.
(15:14):
Yes, it is.
Jean (15:15):
There's always a bump when
I say something and you see some
parts of it and you bring it upand I go, Okay, that's great.
You know? Yes. Um, don't resentme for saying I learned as your
boundary.
Fortune (15:29):
I love it. Actually. I
love I don't want to disrespect
you. Because if you agreed withme, I'd be like, like, what the
heck? Yeah. Now,
Jean (15:36):
there's nothing more to
talk about. Exact podcast over.
What she said is exactly right.
Um, okay, so, first of all,
Fortune (15:48):
I'm just saying get to
the root. Yes, yes, differently.
But okay.
Jean (15:50):
So when we're feeling
these emotions, yes. Okay. It's
a comparison of where we havelack or where we have abundance.
Okay, we're comparing them tous. And the only person we
should be comparing anybody tois who we were five minutes
before we had that convertconfrontation or, you know,
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scenario that upset us, orderailed us or whatever,
whatever, however you want tosay that, but we should never be
comparing anything to anythingother than our own self on our
own situation. That's the otherthing our should be striving to
be better than, Oh, it's not aperfect world. A whole part of
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transformation. Yes,
Fortune (16:35):
yes. Yes, everything in
our life is to teach us how to
transform and grow without,without that you can't compare
yourself,
Jean (16:42):
that's where it comes
into. That's where it turns into
resentment, you are comparingit, you want to saying, Look at
what they have, or did, and Ididn't get that, or they're
doing this, and I don't get todo that.
Fortune (16:53):
I mean, like, so I
would never do that. I mean, I
mean, the same thing, right?
It's you can't, you know, like,compiled, you know,
Jean (16:58):
you know, you have
situations where, okay, you're
your partner, you're trying,you're cleaning the house and
you you the party is going tohappen, and you're making sure
everything looks perfect, andthe floor is spotless, and the
counters are gorgeous andsparkling. And your partner is
up in the bathroom, um, youknow, reading the newspaper, and
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you're going, Hey, this is ourparty. Right? And this is
everybody's coming over to ourhouse, why aren't you helping
me? Right? Well, yourexpectation is, is that
everything has to look that wayor be that way. And theirs is
not. Right, right? Or Guesswhat? You always took care of it
before? Right? So why are youresenting me today? Right?
(17:39):
Because when I've tried to cleanthat counter, it's never good
enough for you?
Fortune (17:42):
Right? Well, we we live
this every day. Right? So
Jean (17:46):
there's expectations here
and there's lack of
communication and, and clarity,of self awareness of Okay, so
why am I doing this this way?
Why not the counters, but why ami right? Right, right? You know?
Fortune (18:02):
Well, the first thing
is to recognize it. That's the
first thing because I think Ijust went through this last
week, you know, letting thingsgo, why do I want everything so
perfect. You know what I mean?
It doesn't matter. It doesn'tmatter. It doesn't matter if
this is not done, the dishesaren't done, if the kids didn't
take a bath, whatever it is, yougot to let it go. Because if
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that's making you upset andruining your day, what's more
important to have the kids cleanand the house look good, or
you'd have a good day, that'swhere the balance comes in to
me, You know what I mean? Andjust letting it go. But but it's
remembering because you're in apattern. Remember, we get in
patterns from a child. Thisstarts from when we're a child,
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that it's not fair, that childsibling
Jean (18:50):
rivalry is probably one of
the biggest, you
Fortune (18:53):
know, so. So we're so
we're just like growing in this
pattern of it's not fair, youknow, so as an adult to really
recognize what why why am Ihaving a good day? Why am I you
know, Why am I crying at the endof the day? Well, let's think
about it. You know, you wantthings a certain way. And maybe
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that's not the way it should be,you know, just coming clean with
yourself saying, I need to makea change, I need to make a
change. So I don't keep all ofthat resentment to others.
Coming back to my face whilemaking me upset, right.
Jean (19:31):
And when you're making
when you're having this
resentment or envy or jealousythat's attached to the, to the
recent where the core part of itcomes from, you're making a lot
of assumptions. You're makingtons of assumptions that you
probably don't even realizeyou're doing right. And honestly
and you know, what, I'm assumingis yes, yes. No, no, it goes
beyond that. What I'm saying isthat, you know,
Fortune (19:54):
it's not there's always
Jean (19:55):
it's not fair. No, that's
all I'm saying. You know, I'm
saying okay, if you were to lieAnd everybody up, right in your
life or whatever, and you aretrying and you try to do those
assumptions in comparison, thereis information that you simply
don't have access to.
Fortune (20:12):
Right, what the other
person thinking, or the other
person is going through or whatthey're expecting. Right,
Jean (20:16):
exactly. So you could say,
oh, well, Mary Jane got the
raise. And I didn't the outset,but Mary Jane could be working a
job that she hates. And thatmoney means nothing or her
mother's suffering from aterminal disease. And she goes
home every day, and she's acaregiver, and she never gets to
rest. And so you're saying, Oh,well, that raise is makes her
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life just amazing. That wouldmake my life amazing. But for
her, it doesn't even makedoesn't mean what it means to
you. And she has all these otherproblems or challenges that
she's facing. So when we put itall on the scale, okay, we're
making we're back to that we'rejudging. We're judging that and
going, well, you've got theperfect and you're great, and I
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am not, I should have. So it'sreally coming to the point where
you can, you can take thosenegative emotions or those
assumptive. Word, thoseassumptions, and you can flip
them and you can say, Okay,well, instead of looking at this
with that jealousy or envy, orwhat I was just saying, right,
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that you can look at them andsay, compassion, empathy, hack,
yes, and empathy and go, Youknow what, maybe their life
isn't as perfect as it looks onthe surface. Or maybe my life
isn't as bad as I'm saying,Maybe I should look at all my
blessings and go, focus on
Fortune (21:35):
the good things, and
then you can unpack the negative
things. But let me take a littlebit of a twist on this. Okay,
let's go to the spiritual sideof this. Okay. Life is not fair.
You know why?
Jean (21:48):
I disagree with that
statement. Go ahead.
Fortune (21:50):
Well, let me let me
finish. don't disagree until I'm
done. Okay, blanket statement.
It's not fair because we arecoming into this life with
karma. So it's going to Okay,let's say this way, it doesn't
feel fair. Thank you. That'sbetter. Okay. That's better.
Jean (22:09):
Okay. Because karma is
fair. It is fair, just
Fortune (22:13):
the life I'm sorry, I'm
sorry, feels unfair. But really,
spiritually, we have to dealwith karma. So whatever
unfinished business we have todeal with, and we have to learn
through, that's what it's allabout.
Jean (22:27):
Okay. But that karma is
such a, that's, that's a whole
episode.
Fortune (22:33):
But I just feel like
that's a part of this, that we
feel like, oh, life isn't fair.
But we need to look at it with abroader spectrum, to say,
Jean (22:43):
so you're saying, Well,
let's not use the word Arma. But
let's, let's say that we'll goback to the concept of there may
be things in this dynamic thatwe're not aware of. And that
could include karma.
Fortune (22:54):
Yes, because it's
something that you need to work
on. So you're, you're the reasonwhy
Jean (22:59):
you came here, and we're
coming. It's part of why you
came here. I would rather saythat, like, this is like a way
of healing that relationship orhealing the thing in yourself,
right? That why you alignedyourself with this person to
begin with, is you have giftsfor each other,
Fortune (23:14):
right? So even though
we think that the resentment is
a bad thing, it is something towake up in yourself to say, Why
am I feeling like this? And thenas you start to dig, and work
out all those negative things,you find the flaws within
yourself that you need tochange. And only then you can
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repair?
Jean (23:36):
Okay, I'm gonna say this,
okay. Okay. So, yes, the things
you need to repair but also thefaulty stuff, guess what,
sometimes, sometimes when you'reresenting somebody or whatever,
there could be somejustification. And it may be
you're not wrong.
Fortune (23:52):
Oh, absolutely,
absolutely. But then how you're
approaching exactly but youstill write exactly. There's
still something that you need to
Jean (24:00):
make it very well could be
that you work harder than Mary
Jane and Mary Jane got the bonusand you did bring all the data
and stay after those are allreal things you're not wrong for
you know, going nailing it thatanalytically I look at this and
I go, okay, but So here's,here's what I want to add to
this. Okay, we are in thephysical world, and we are
humans. Yes. Besides our thumbs.
Guess what we have that thatdifferentiates us from the rest
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of the animal kingdom? What isthat? We have the ability to
think and be rational we have arational mind. Yes. And we can
see where we are right now doesnot have to be where we're going
to be tomorrow. No other speciesthat we know of on this planet
Earth has the
Fortune (24:44):
ability to make a
choice. I think this dolphins I
think they
Jean (24:48):
Okay, well, I'm saying but
to say I can see the future,
right. I know that if I do thistoday, tomorrow, things might be
better, right? That we live In away where we concentrate on the
past, right, and the present andthe future, now we need to
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concentrate more on, we do needto concentrate more on the
present. But in this example,I'm trying to say that if you
can kind of look at, like Isaid, line everybody up, what is
it about that person or thatsituation that you desire?
Desires are good, right? So Ireally would like to be making
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20,000 more dollars a year, inthe next two to three years. So
what do you need to do? To getto that goal, you have the
ability to make that discernmentand put it into action. And you
have the power to think thatthrough and do that. And it's
only when we start thinking interms of what we want. And
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judging just ourselves, not theother person. It's not a
comparison. It's not well, shegot it, and I didn't let me just
figure out what it is that Iwant, what it is that is
tolerable to me, what is theworld that I want to live in?
Right? So we're
Fortune (26:07):
just going back to what
I said about perception, okay,
and what dimension or whichfrequency or how your vibration
is going to be or where you wantto be? You know, I mean, it goes
back to that, right? It's,
Jean (26:22):
it's also about being
humble. Okay, instead of taking,
like, we talked about flippingemotions, instead of looking at
that person and going, Okay,well, they haven't they haven't,
they haven't, I don't, and Idon't, and I don't, let's get
the self awareness to go, whatit is in myself, that I am not,
I'm not getting those thingsthat I want. So what do I need
(26:45):
to? To change? Maybe that job isnever gonna give you right, that
recognition? Yes. So rightthere. And Jen knows the boss,
and she's known that family foryears, you're never you're never
moving up that ladder, possiblythe speed you want to, maybe
that relationship is really notgood for you, maybe you made
these decisions to be in thisrelationship before you have the
self awareness of what your realneeds work, right? It's all
(27:08):
about change. So you need it'sall about self awareness and
saying, I know. And it's onlywhen you have that self
awareness that you can step backand say, Okay, this isn't about
them. Right? This is about me.
Alright, and what not just thenegative part of it, the good
part of it, what are my desires?
(27:29):
What do I want? So instead ofbeing resentful, let me put on
those different classes andgoing, what are the different
things I have my what are thetalents I have? What are the
things that make me happy? Whatdoes do I want my world to look
like, right? And so that I don'thave this resentment
Fortune (27:44):
and envy or jealousy,
it's important to look at that
negative situation, and reallypause and then say, How do I
want it to look? Exactly, youknow what I mean? How do I want
it to look differently? And thenyou come into play? How do I
make that work? You know, yes,you're still going to be
challenged with the situation.
But if you are working towardsmaking a difference, everything
(28:07):
will change. Because your energyhas changed. Yes, this is the
whole
Jean (28:13):
building block like we
it's sometimes isn't. It all is
good. Now. It didn't get bad inone. Snap. Right. Okay, exactly.
It was like we said in thebeginning, I ignored it. I
didn't speak up, write it andsay what I needed I shut it
down. Even forget saying it tosomebody saying it to myself,
You know what, this is importantto me. And I, for whatever
(28:35):
reason, I'm not this, it may beyour priorities are changing,
it's gonna say maybe somethingelse is more important. Maybe it
was more to the side on thecouch with your partner. And
that was more of a security foryou then going out. But now you
feel like, you know what, Ireally need that or I really
want that. Right.
Fortune (28:51):
Right. Right. And it's
also putting your, like you
said, putting your ego to theside, what's more important, the
relationship or your ego? Youknow, what I mean? Or whatever
the situation? Well, I
Jean (29:00):
think they're all on
board. You know, I think they're
all important. And I don't thinkthat meant, okay, that's we're
still comparing, I don't want tocompare, I want to say stop the
comparison. Just work on whatneeds to work on yourself. And
all those things will act as abuilding block to make
everything fall into place.
Because we've changed ourenergy, our frequency, we are
(29:21):
now vibrating at the higherconsciousness of I am the
creator of my own existence, andI'm going to make the decisions
to right and if I want toproactive action to make those
things happen
Fortune (29:35):
if I want to harbor
these bad feelings, or whatever,
that's my choice,
Jean (29:39):
right? And it's a whole
nother episode again, but what
are we experiencing sometimes inour own lives that the some
people that we have vibrated ata very like tight knit group,
sometimes when you change yourapproach your mentality, your
consciousness, you start seeingthat, you know, people are not
resonating with what you'refeeling or who you are anymore,
(29:59):
right? And there's a naturalkind of separation raishin
happening here and it's nothingagainst them or yourself.
Nobody's right? Nobody's wrong.
It's just the energy is notdifferent. It's different. It's
different.
Fortune (30:12):
It's different, but it
can be difficult to swim through
those waters, you know, to letgo of the old and, you know, be
able to tread the water.
Jean (30:25):
And no one can harm you.
You know, yourself. And yeah,well exactly. Feel John Lennon
said that no one can harm youfeel your own pain, right? And
that's basically kind of what wekeep saying over and over again,
is where if you want to talkabout karma, where is that? That
blockage? That pain that, youknow, you know, what, what is it
(30:47):
that's keeping you from justbeing in the Garden of Eden and
happy all the time? Right. And
Fortune (30:54):
sometimes, like, we'll
be talking, and like, we'll be
thinking of things that happenedto us when we were younger? Oh,
wow. You know, maybe that'swhere that comes from. You know,
so I'm still working on tryingto fix that, or change that, or
I'm still dealing with the painof that. Yeah. You know, what I
mean, and really getting past itis the key to not, you know, not
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having the resentment,
Jean (31:20):
right. Well, when you say
getting past it, it's it's a
process, you know, it's, youknow, it's like, when we were
talking about fear, just getover it. There's no just getting
over or getting past something.
You know, even when you havethat aha moment, and you go, Oh,
my God, it's so much, you know,internal processing, and work
and self analysis that goes,Okay, now I get it. You know, we
(31:44):
used to say, I don't know if youremember, but you can know
something. But do you know
Fortune (31:50):
it? Right? Exactly.
Exactly. Because
Jean (31:53):
you have the information?
Right? But why went about it?
Why is it resonating you to thepoint where you would never even
consider any other way ofliving? Or approaching or, and,
and we're honestly just tryingto get to that point where we
don't have the resentment, theenvy, the jealousy, the
comparison, the whatever, weshould only be being the creator
(32:15):
of our own life, and nocomparison. Just what is it we
want?
Fortune (32:21):
Yes. And communicating
that, and forgiving when it's
necessary, absolutely forgiving.
Because, you know, resentment isall about that
Jean (32:28):
the empathy is such a big
thing. It's like to just not
assume that that person is doingsomething to harm you. But
they're just, they might just beaware and doing things
differently. They obviously loveyou, they they're in your life.
They're they're there with youthrough other scenarios of
support, and love andtogetherness. So why wouldn't
they? So it's also that point ofsaying to you that you value
(32:50):
yourself enough to let themknow,
Fortune (32:53):
right? And as we always
say, with every situation, going
out of your comfort zone isalways the answer.
Jean (33:00):
Yes. It's hard to
sometimes so because you're
going well, why don't they justknow, they should just know,
this? is who I am as well. SoI've always been, but you hear
all the it's all bravado and youunderstand who I am. Right.
Right.
Fortune (33:12):
And knowing the
relationship and unpacking all
those things, talking aboutexpectations, you know, be
willing to accept them how theyare. Because guess what, you're
not changing them. You know, nomatter what, there's no, that's
the way they're going to be, theonly change that can come is
from how you act. And then andonly then will you see the
(33:35):
change. And that's
Jean (33:35):
the only time you can
truly manifest. Yes. When you
are in acceptance, yes. And youhave an intention. And you know
what you want,
Fortune (33:46):
right? But you have to
do that action. That's I'm
saying the comfort zone goingout of the comfort zone doing
that action, to make thetransformation to get rid of the
resentment to get rid of theenvy to get rid of all those
negative feelings?
Jean (34:00):
Well, sometimes the action
is internal. It's sometimes it's
internal.
Fortune (34:03):
Oh, yes, but but but it
is how your
Jean (34:06):
everybody processes
everything differently. To you
miss Taurus, it is a physicalmanifestation to a cancer or an
Aquarius, it may be an internalaction that needs to be taken.
So that's again, we cannotassume that everybody thinks or
is resonating in the same way.
Fortune (34:25):
No, but but guess what,
how you take those feelings that
you have to
Jean (34:30):
have to do something, but
what I'm saying is it's not when
you say action, people think Ihave to I have to physically do
something, I have to have thatconversation, but you have to be
internal
Fortune (34:41):
seeing it differently.
I mean, you know, you may seesomething, you know, oh my
goodness, this thing is alwayshot. Or, you know, all of a
sudden you're seeing it cooler.
You know, I don't know, just adifferent perspective on
something that you are so stuckon. You know, it's over and over
and over and Over and over thesame, you know, it never you
(35:02):
never get out of that thatwheel. You know, you're always
seeing it the same, you know,you got to see it differently. I
agree. You know, I mean, Iagree.
Jean (35:12):
But also know that like,
okay, like when we talk about
like, there's always thingswrong with us, okay, I want to
end on this note, okay, we arecomplete our perfect, perfect
soul that is radiating so muchlove and compassion to the
world. And that's what we needto align ourselves with. Is that
(35:34):
also that letting all that out,revealing all of that
concentrate on that concentrateon what's good in you and your
surroundings? We have, we haveso much to that other stuff is a
distraction, it is only of thisphysical world, it really is not
going to matter. Right? Well,that's what I'm saying. But but
(35:54):
but the journey of why we'rehere and what we're here to
heal, and change that energy tosomething good, right? Once you
change is the journey, then youhave the good stuff coming out,
right? And then more good stuffis coming. Yes, that's what
that's what like, I think, forthe past, I don't know, a long
time. And you see it one littlebit at a time. But the more you
(36:18):
can stay in that space andconnect with the higher energy,
the source, the greater thelight and say, I, I feel that
positive, you know, I feelhappy, I feel good. You know, I
don't mean to worry about whatanybody else is doing, or
whatever, I can concentrate onvibrating that.
Fortune (36:42):
But you know, like less
hard. You know, last week, I was
struggling so that I understandthat. But it just I couldn't get
past it. It took time. It tooktime and it took realization.
And I'm happy to say I am pastit. And I am feeling wonderful.
And I am aligning, and I amraising my frequency. So even in
(37:04):
that place, but when you're inthat play may ask you a question
up
Jean (37:07):
when it came to you. Did
you go? I didn't even realize I
was doing that. There was somepart of it where you're going,
Oh, wow. I didn't realize thatwas connected to
Fortune (37:17):
that. Right? Exactly.
And that's that's like
Jean (37:22):
mind blowing sometimes
where you go, Holy, moly, this
is really not about this. Thisis about what happened to me
when I was whatever whatever Ihad this bad relationship where
I wasn't getting nurtured inthis way or right. And so now I
anything that even resemblesthat I resent
Fortune (37:41):
it, you're triggering,
right? You're triggering. So
let's do less triggering andmore giving and loving and
laughing and looking. Alright,so we can agree,
Jean (37:55):
I can agree that we've
unpacked this a little bit, and
we understand the concept. Andyes, we do understand the
concept. And for everybody outthere. Let me tell you, I have a
best friend. And she's alwaysthere for me. And she her name
is fortune. And and I try and bethere for her. Yes. And so all
the time, if you can find thatperson and give you the support
(38:17):
give you that support. Becausesometimes especially somebody
that's new a really long time.
Yes. They can say well, theyknow the other side. Yeah, they
know Yeah, this story, or Iremember when we were there, and
they can kind of gently guideyou to it. Yes, maybe that's
something you weren't even readyto think about. Right? Right. So
but it's all loving and good. Itis. Alright, so I think we've
come to the end of this segment.
Fortune (38:43):
Yes and no more reason
not well.
Jean (38:47):
Let's agree to try
excellence agree to try. All
right, so we don't know whatnext. Next week's episode is
going to be. Surprise surprise,surprise, surprise, but tune in
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