"Would you like to know your future? If your answer is yes, think again. Not knowing is the greatest life motivator. So enjoy, endure, survive, each moment as it comes to you in its proper sequence – a surprise." ~Verna Nazarian
Based on her training in neuroscience and wisdom gained through her spiritual journey, Gail learned that the words "I DON'T KNOW" are some of the most powerful words to embrace.
Not knowing gives us the chance to truly create anew and have a LASTING CHANGE. When we focus on what we already know, we often end up repeating the past.
--The gap time between the old ways of being and the new is our most creative, fruitful, and even magical time. And yes, this period of staying in the unfamiliar causes angst, for it means we need to let go of control.
--The trick is not to focus, or base progress, on external circumstances during this time of unknowns. It may look like nothing is changing on the outside, yet the internal transformation that comes from staying with the pause can be life-altering.
--Saying “I don’t know” also opens us up to others’ perspectives, which helps expand our world view, and get out of limited thinking.
When Gail was first introducing her worthiness platform to the national media via a major TV show, she spent a lot of time in solitude grounding herself for whatever will happen—or does not happen—next.
KNOW THIS SHE SAYS: I did set very clear intentions for what I wanted to share, and then let go of the outcome.
In that reflective time—I embraced the joy of new possibilities and focused on letting go of old controlling ways of being that no longer serve my growth.
The show happened, and it was seen by my family, friends, and colleagues all over the country, which helped me bond with others I hadn’t seen in a long while.
It was those connections that brought me joy, not seeing myself on TV, as grateful I am for national exposure and the new doors that later opened in their own time, not by “willing” them or knowing what would happen.
I know the pandemic, with all its uncertainties, has forced many of us into that “I don’t’ know” time. Instead of feeling guilty for needing to “wait” or impatient about “what’s next,” use this time to build trust muscles that you WILL BE PROVIDED FOR, and in a potentially new and more expansive way that you alone could have imagined.
I created this new CLAIM YOUR WORTHINESS PODCAST after spending time in the unknown, staying open and trusting.
I love these words of Henri J. M. Nouwen from his book, Life of The Beloved:
“I have found it very important in my own life to try to let go of my wishes and instead to live in hope. I am finding that when I choose to let go of my sometimes petty and superficial wishes and trust that my life is precious and meaningful in the eyes of God, something really new, something beyond my own expectations begins to happen to me…To wait with openness and trust is an enormously radical attitude toward life.”
TO KEEP LETTING GO into I DON’T KNOW, meditate frequently—and make friends with your wise inner and Higher-self, who will guide you forth.
2. The second major and related permission slip to give yourself that can change your life is PERMISSION TO REST.
(to read more, check out Gail's blog post), https://claimyourworthiness.com/permission-to-rest/)
--It’s safe to stop, rest and do nothing.
--answers come in quiet, not all that pushing, begging, pleading, controlling.
--the body, mind, and even spirit heal best in a restful state...as I noted in my book, Cancer as A Love Story...Developing the Mindset for Living, worrying is not a form of exercise...the mind needs to become CALM to create anew.
--And remember this: when in a major change, transformation takes a lot of energy. Resting and regrouping are important.
--This year especially, the longing for rest seems even stronger, with the pandemic thrusting us into a worldwide transformation that has zapped our energy. Normal automatic routines now require an extra level of thought and care.
--Despite the weariness, and desire to rejuvenate, I have witnessed personally, and professionally within my coaching practice, how difficult it can be to rest.
--To stop and become “non-productive” from our busy ways is
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