February 14, 2024 • 36 mins
Surprise Mini Episode!
- Patience- It's okay to not have everything figured out
- FOMO is overrated- Too many times I feared missing out on things, which led to misuse of finances, time wasted and regrets. Focus on getting to know yourself!
- Learn about MONEY and the dangers of debt- 18-29 is a CRUCIAL time in your adult life and educating yourself on how money works, credit scores, and what effects debt can have on your life is essential to understand.
- Prioritize your Health- When you are in your 20's you think you are invincible. Taking care your body and mind in your 20's will pay dividends towards having a long healthy life.
- Your relationship Status doesn't define you- Between media, and personal relationships their will always be people that they think they know what's best for you and your martial status. Realize that your timeline is YOUR timeline and its your life to live.
- Seek mentors- Having people that have been through what you have been to is essential part of avoiding mistakes and wasting your time. Having these types of relationships can be great ways to get to yourself
- You have time- Your twenty's is just the beginning of your journey.
- Practice Gratitude- Being Grateful for what you have is the key to opening yourself up to so many more opportunities that may be headed your way.
- Be Present- Your kids won't be little forever, you won't get to relive the important moments in life so remember to be fully invested in the place that you are at currently.
- The Journey is more important than the destination- Some things take a life time to learn so be sure to fall in love with the journey instead of wishing it away to get to a destination.
- Progress over Perfection
- TAKE ACTION- Procrastination is the killer of all the dreams you have; there will never be a right moment to start.
- A small group of friends is better than a huge group of
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(00:01):
And we are back with anotherepisode of the clever angle
podcast.
I am your host, Kevin McGee.
And as you might've noticed, Ihave taken a week off, man.
I just kind of really neededsome time to reset a few
different things happen, but weare back with another episode of
the podcast.
And I appreciate you guys aspatients while I've kind of did
some reflection.
(00:21):
So.
Uh, this episode, I've beentrying to draw out for a good
two or three years.
It's just, it was in the phasewhere I wasn't being consistent
with the podcast.
And I was like, okay, I've got afew guests lined up.
Uh, within the next few weeks.
So be a perfect time to kind ofdrop this content because I
think it's something that needsto be out there.
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So things that I wish that Iwould have known in my twenties,
So for reference out there I'm33 now.
So this is just things that Ihave learned.
And I wish I knew sooner in mytwenties.
So.
Number one on the list ispatients.
When you were in your twenties,patients is something that is
almost impossible to find.
(01:02):
Patients is something that.
Was like the driving factor ofwhy I started this podcast.
All throughout college.
I didn't have any patients.
I remembered.
Trying to accelerate the rate atwhich I graduated, because I
thought that if I, if it took melonger than four years to.
(01:24):
I complete my degree, then itwas somehow.
Less impressive.
So our crammed, a whole bunch ofstuff in my last semester, so I
could graduate.
And in 2013, Uh, with mybachelors and I remember feeling
empty inside and not reallyknowing what I was going to do
next with kind of sparked me todo the podcast in the first
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place.
Um, to get a resource out therefor people that might be
struggling with this and takingthat next step.
Outside of, uh, college, becauseour lives are pretty much
structured in a way that upuntil the end of college, you
kind of know what your nextthing is.
So you go back, I would tell myyoungest, half patients, things
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are going to work out, do thingsthat you enjoy, really get to
know your.
And don't freak out on it on thesame page.
You're going at the same pace.
As somebody else, um, Number twois going to be fear of missing
out or FOMO.
So.
This is something I think we allstruggle with whether that's the
twenties or the thirties, but Ididn't really start to become at
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peace with the fact of Tevin.
You don't have to be involved ineverything.
You do not have to be involvedin every party.
You do not have to go to everyevent.
You do not have to.
Do you don't have to be soconcerned with what everybody is
doing all the time.
We live in a world that is justconstant highlights of
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everybody's life.
Everybody.
What everybody's doing.
Just constant many dopaminehits.
And you think that you should beinvolved in our wasted a lot of
money and a lot of time.
Uh, chasing behind thesetemporary highs of not wanting
to miss out and.
Um, there are so many times thatI wish that I would have just
(03:10):
stayed home.
Instead of.
Going out.
Like, I, I really didn't getmuch from the experience.
So if I were to just focus onthe things that really sparked
joy with me, you know, Um, Iprobably could have saved myself
a lot of times and it's hard.
'cause even now at 33, you know,you get less time with your
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friends than you do in yourtwenties.
And you kind of take that forgranted.
So it can be hard to avoid, butthis is a lesson that I, I truly
encourage you guys to.
Just take a second.
Take some time.
And you just think, is thissomething that I'm truly gonna
regret or error?
Is it just something that'sgonna.
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Be fleeting and in.
You know, 10 minutes from now,you're not really going to.
Miss that experience.
Uh, number three is going to belearning about money and the
dangers of debt.
So if anybody is in student, Uh,it was a student in college.
The majority of us had some kindof student loan debt.
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So, you know, you come out from18 and, you know, I just went
through puberty, you know, five,six years ago.
So I'm still just kind offiguring out what I'm going to
do, what I'm going to major inall these things, you know,
you're focusing on these funthings of college, like.
You've been sold this dream of,yeah, you go, you get the
college experience.
You're going to meet some ofyour best friends, which that is
absolutely true, but something Iwish that the school system
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would.
Absolutely.
I spend more time or start todevelop a curriculum on is money
and what debt means to yourlongevity of your life.
So, you know, if you got to goto school to get the degree, and
there's no way around gettingit.
Um, 100% you got to go tocollege.
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Like if you want to be a doctor,you got to go to college.
A hundred percent.
But I would encourage you,especially if you're in your
twenties.
Or if, if, especially if you'rein your twenties or if you're a
little bit.
Sooner than that, like highschool, junior high start
thinking about creative waysthat you can pay for college.
Your grades matter in highschool, if you want to go to
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college, they matter.
So if you're thinking aboutpursuing a degree that you might
not necessarily need a degreefor.
Looking through somealternative.
Uh, alternative options.
Uh, before you decide to plungeinto debt because.
I think it's become normal tohave to carry a student loan
balance.
It's been normal to get creditcards.
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It's been normal to do all ofthese things.
But the ramifications, thelessons that, that you didn't
learn or going to slap you inthe face very hard.
If you don't learn thesefinancial lessons.
So I encourage all of youparents out there, all of you,
people that are, or.
Um, just now going into yourcollege journey or just now
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beginning living out on yourown.
And you were thinking aboutgetting a credit card and you're
thinking about, uh, going toschool before you take on any of
that, that, that do someresearch, do some education.
Uh, in the subject matter.
I remember when I was a freshmanat a state, there was like this
kind of like carnival type setup where there was a whole bunch
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of different booths, um, oncampus.
And they were just.
Uh, telling you different thingsand.
You know, there was a booth thathad pizza, so you're a broke
college kid.
So you want to get the pizza andyou go over there and they say,
Hey, here's some free pizza.
Do you want to sign up for acredit card or do this?
And a lot of kids were justblindly signing up for these
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cards that are probably 30, 35%interest.
And they really just prey on younot knowing.
These kinds of things and hopingthat you just sign up for it,
spend money that you don't have,and they can get you on the back
end for interests.
So.
Learn about money.
That's a, that's a, that's a,that is a thing that is going
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to.
Of all the things on this list,learning about money is going to
help you out the most in thelongterm.
Because once you do decide tohave a family, once you decide
to buy a house, once you decidethat you are ready to get a car,
Knowing about money, knowingabout savings and emergency
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funds and debts.
And all of these things that aregoing to affect your adult life,
you know, when you're in yourtwenties, you think that you're
invincible.
You think that nothing is goingto come back to bite?
You, you think that you've gottime?
And I promise you the illusionof time is something that we do
not realize.
Tom is our most valuableresource.
(07:50):
And if we just thought aboutthat earlier, we could live a
much more fulfilled life.
So learn about money, learnabout debt, especially if you
are a young.
But I think this is somethingthat everyone should know.
So I'm reading.
I will teach you to be rich.
Um, Right now it's a greatfinancial resource and I'm
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finding a lot of value in thepsychology of money is also a
good book.
So if you're interested in anyof these resources, I'll leave
the subscription down to a fewof the financial and books.
They kind of changed myperspective in the way that I
think about it.
Because mindset is a huge partof getting your finances in
order.
Okay.
Number four, which is probablyjust as important as the money
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thing is prioritize your health.
Just because you're a 20, justbecause you're 18, just because
you're 30.
Does not mean your health is aguarantee.
We need to realize that we are,we only get one body to take
care of us for the rest of ourlives.
So the things that you're doing,it's not worth it.
It's not worth it to mess yourliver up in, in your twenties.
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It's not worth it to getaddicted to nicotine in your
twenties.
There are so many people that Iwent to college with.
There's so many people that areyounger than me, that I'm seeing
at a rapid rate.
Just in my own life, havehealthy health conditions that
they would have never thoughtabout.
You don't have to do somethingcrazy.
This isn't something that I'mtelling you not to have fun or
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not to.
Uh, enjoy sweets, but we have torealize the things that we are
putting into our bodies.
We have to realize the decisionsthat we are making.
Um, are going to affect us forthe next 50 to 60 years.
So.
Find you something that worksfor you.
Moving your body getting outinto that.
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To that sunlight, take your dogfor a, an extra walk.
Get some kind of routine that isgoing to work for you because I
promise you.
Prioritizing your health now isgoing to not only save you
money, it's going to, it's goingto allow you to have higher
quality of life as you move on.
It's not the fact that you'regetting older is why you can't
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do the things that you did inhigh school.
It's because you decide to putyour body on the back burner.
And by the time you're 30, 30, 1years old.
Um, you have put so many mileson your body in a negative way
that.
You don't even realize that it,it can be corrected.
(10:20):
But you don't even realize thedamage that has been done to
your body.
Until you have to go to thedoctor and oh yeah, your
ligaments in your knee orwhatever it is, you know, you
just, it slowly over time, youstart to see these.
Um, regressions and the thingsthat you're able to do, but they
can be corrected.
So I'm telling you the sooner,the better prioritize some kind
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of routine.
I mean, I'm not any kind ofexpert, but I do have a degree
in exercise science and I'mthinking.
Two to three times a week,minimum of getting in the gym or
some sort of exercise.
And here's the thing.
Just find something that youlike to do.
It doesn't have to be liftingweights.
You know, I like playing tennis.
Tennis is something that I dothat helps me stay active and
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taking my dogs for a walk issomething that's low impact that
you can do.
Um, That will help your overalllongevity of health.
And obviously your diet is ahuge part of that.
So, Everything in moderation,man, everything in moderation,
you can't eat the same thingsthat you were eating when you
were 15.
When you're 33, trust me, itsneaks up on you.
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It sneaks up on you fast.
Um, Number five is going to beyour relationship status does
not define you.
So back to the whole socialmedia thing, there is so much
comparison in our everydaylives.
That we think that just becausesomebody else is getting
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married, that, that I need to begetting married and they rush
into things.
So I think that if we just takethe time to do a self evaluation
on what do you want in your lifeand does this fit with another
person right now?
If the answer is yes.
And you think that you were in asituation though where you are
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up for dating and finding thatperson?
Because that is one of the mostrewarding things is finding your
person and building a life withthat person.
But you don't think you don'tneed to think that you're a
failure.
If you're not 24 and married, ifyou're not 31 in married.
You need to be working onyourself and your twenties.
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And getting yourself to whereyou're attracting the type of
person that you would want to bein a relationship with and want
to build a life with.
So I think that they, um, theage in your new and your
twenties.
It's just such a.
Um, self discovery age that wejust need to take the time be
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with ourselves, increased,increase our skillset and the
things that we got going on, youknow, focus on these first four
things.
Focus on your career, focus onsaving money, focus on getting
yourself out of debt.
So now you start to attract thatgood energy of a person that you
will want to be in, butcomparison is the thief of all
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joy.
And I'm telling you.
As long as you're not comparingyourself to other people.
And you were happy with theprogress in your life.
You are going to be live a, a,um, highly fulfilled life and
you are going to look back.
And, and thank that.
It was at the pace that itneeded to be.
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God doesn't make mistakes.
Number six has been trulytransformative for me.
And that is going to be seekingmentors.
Nobody gets through this lifealone, nobody.
So seeking out the guidance ofpeople that are doing the things
that you want to do, someonethat is like a big brother
figure to you that can give youwisdom and guidance, and that
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can help you.
Get out of some of thesepitfalls that we're talking
about.
You know, how different wouldyour life be?
If when you're 17 and you'regetting ready to sign up for
student loans, you had a mentorof some sort.
Like, whether that's a coach,uh, your, your uncle, your dad.
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Whoever it is somebody that hasbeen around the block, somebody
that has experienced some of thethings that you've gone through.
And can help you from making themistakes that they made.
That can set your life on acomplete different trajectory
than you were normally headed onjust by surrounding yourself
with people that are going tomake a positive impact impact on
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you.
I've got several in my thirtiesnow, and I wish I would've known
these people in my twenties.
Because it would have helped mesave a lot of time.
Um, I've got to shout out mybuddy Her AA.
K.
I, we can sit her on one of mybest friends.
One of my mentors, my brother aswell.
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Uh, my, my good friend grantlong.
These are all men that I canreach out to at any given point,
ask for advice on things knowthat they've been through some
of the same things that I'vebeen through.
They're going through some ofthe same struggles currently.
And I value their opinion.
They ha they each have qualitiesand characteristics of things
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that I would want to be betterat in my own life.
And surrounding myself with likea mastermind group of friends is
a game changer for you in somany different areas of your
life, whether that's yourphysical health, whether that's
your spiritual health, whetherthat's your financial health,
whether that's.
You know, you're, you're talkingthrough getting a career and,
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and, and jobs and things likethat.
Whether it's a current creativeoutlet that you need advice on.
Mentors will change your life.
Justin Moody as well.
My, uh, my former boss when Iwas in the warehouse.
All of these are Caleb Shipley.
The list goes on, but the pointis.
These are people that are havinga positive impact on my life.
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And if you don't have some ofthese people around.
Uh, you need to, re-examine yourfriend group and the people that
you're spending your time andenergy on because you start to
become like the people thatyou're around.
Shout out to Ash Pulliam.
And Patrick Patterson as well.
I don't want to leave.
Anyone out that I communicatewith on a regular basis, but.
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Yeah.
Um, seeking mentors wassomething that completely Nathan
night is an inspiration as well.
I would consider him a.
Uh, a mentor as well, as far as,you know, he's doing the things
that, that I would want to do aswell.
Um, so.
Uh, and it doesn't even have tobe someone teaching you
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something.
It's just getting yourselfaround like-minded people.
And trying to achieve the goalsthat you've set out through the
help of others.
Because once again, nobody getsto where they need to go by
themselves.
So that's number six.
Number seven is time is yourmost valuable resource.
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And while you are young.
Don't think that you have allthe time in the world.
It's something that.
You can't buy more of.
So spend it wisely.
You can always get more money.
You always can get another job.
You will not be able to get yourtime back.
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So, I'm not telling you not toenjoy your life because you need
to enjoy your life.
But.
One thing that I found to be sorewarding in my thirties, that I
wish I would have spent moretime doing in my twenties is.
Spinning, just more intentionaltime with my parents, man.
My dad and my mom had began someof my best friends.
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Um, there are people that Istill look up to this day and I
spent so much time just out.
At bars, clubs, you know, doingstuff that was just absolutely
overrated in my opinion.
When I could have been spendingthat time with my family.
And I really just appreciate itso much more now.
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And.
30 is just a weird age becauseyou were in this weird.
Uh, stage of your life, whereyour parents are getting older,
you're starting to have kids,your friend, group isn't as
close as they, they were,everyone is moving in different
directions.
I'm one of the only people in mylocal friend group, uh, that has
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kids.
So my brothers is just gotengaged.
I got another one of my buddiesthat is, uh, has been dating his
girl for a while.
So the time that we actually getto link up now and get the
hangout is few and far between.
And when we were all in thissame crazy stage of life, like
we just thought it would be.
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It would last forever, like,man.
I'm going to get the hang outwith my brother and my friends
like this forever.
And then you wake up and you'rein a different stage of life.
So just really appreciate thosetimes.
Then when you have roommates andyou know, no one has any money
and y'all are just sittingaround talking, having a good
time.
Uh, Life is precious.
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You know, how many times do youjust have a good, genuine laugh
with a friend now?
When I was in my twenties, Ifelt like it happened every day,
but now I really take the timeto.
To stop and appreciate when I'mhaving those sincere moments
with my friends, with my family.
And, um, I encourage you to justthink as a, of those people that
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are in your life, whether it'syour grandmother, your mother,
your brother.
Take advantage of those of thattime that you have with them,
because it is not guaranteed andyou never know what tomorrow
brings.
So.
Time is of the essence, slowdown and enjoy.
Number eight is practicegratitude.
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Being grateful.
For things.
Is something that I think we'realways, um, In the process of
learning better.
But.
With the society that we live innow, and this always wanting
more, more, more, You need toslow down and start to
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appreciate the things that youhave, you know?
Okay.
Yeah.
We might not be LeBron Jamesliving in Beverly Hills on the
Los Angeles Laker.
But we have a, a, a family thatloves each other.
We have a nice home around us.
It keeps us warm.
We have dogs that appreciate us.
We have all of our parentshealthy.
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We have a great.
Ecosystem of friends around us.
I encourage everyone to justthink about 10 things that they
are grateful for.
And really appreciate where youare in life.
Enjoy the journey to yourdestination.
And realize that this life isjust a vapor in the grand scheme
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of things.
We are so blessed to be able tolive in this time where we have
so much comfort and technologyand so many things that make our
lives so great.
We live in the United States,which is one of the greatest.
Countries, and we can.
We have the freedom to be ableto pursue.
Anything that we want to do.
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So practice gratitude and ourpromise.
You will have a happier life.
It's something that I'mconstantly working on.
And when I'm getting to thesemodes where I'm down on myself,
I like to make a list of things.
And I'm grateful for.
I'm grateful for my kids.
I'm grateful for.
Being able to talk on aplatform, even if no one is
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listening to me, I'm gratefulfor the opportunity to get the.
Have a, a space where I can getmy thoughts out to people.
And even if this just reachesone person, I'm grateful for
that.
I'm grateful for the connectionsthat I've made in college.
I'm grateful for my job.
I'm grateful for my beautifulwife that works so hard for.
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Our family and I'm grateful fortwo.
Beautiful, amazing warned herfour daughters, grateful to have
my brother.
And, and friends that, thataccept me for me.
I think that is a rare thingthese days.
And I think that no matter whatsituation that you are in life,
you have something that you canbe grateful for.
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You have something that you canappreciate.
And I encourage you to do so.
And that kind of goes intonumber nine, which is be
present.
Time stops for no one.
That's starting to become arecurring theme of things that
I've learned in my twenties saysit will be gone before, you
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know, it.
I vividly remember.
Playing my last game ofbasketball in high school,
realizing this was the last timeI was going to play competitive
basketball.
Our member, the sadness that wasin that room.
And I was just soaking it up.
I was never the greatestbasketball player.
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But man, was it awesome to be apart of that team?
We were at four city in an awaygame.
As my last game that was aftersenior night.
That was the last time I wasgoing to be able to put on an
Elton Raiders Jersey and I canstill feel the emotion.
And now our look back.
That was like 15 years ago.
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And I can still remember.
Everything that was happening.
I remember shaking my coach'shands and them telling me that
it was a pleasure.
You know, getting to coach meand, and like I said, I wasn't
good, but, uh, I appreciatedjust being on the team around
the guys and.
If this is you and you're injunior high and you're upset
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about your playing time and you,you know, You let these petty
things get and not justbasketball, just things in
general.
You got a grudge that you'reholding against your, your
sibling or you are upset withyour parents for something just
realize time goes by so fast.
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You will go from 15 to 33.
In a blink of an eye.
And by the time you've realizedhow much time has passed another
two or three years this past.
And you just have to just takethe time to slow down.
Be present.
Hug your mom go see yourgrandma.
Go to that funeral.
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There's.
A quick story.
I'll tell about one of my goodfriends.
He used to be my boss at Outbacksteakhouse.
And I remember.
When he first came.
To manage us.
He was about the age that I amnow.
Unfortunately, he passed away atthat young age of 41 years old.
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And.
I remember going to his funeral.
In Memphis.
And there was so much sadness.
I cried and I weep like a baby.
Because me and him used to talkabout the things that we were
going to do.
And the reality is we never knowhow much time we have.
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So hug that person.
Tell that person you like them.
Go ask your boss for a raise.
Go on that walk.
Sign out for that 4k, becauseyou never know, you don't know
when your time is up.
Be present in the moment.
If you were talking to somebodyand if you're at lunch with one
of your good friends, put yourphone away, be present.
That could be the last timey'all go to lunch for five
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years.
You never know what curve ballslife is going to throw at you.
So you, all you have is rightnow to be present in that
moment.
And that moment to make adifference.
To change the trajectory of yourlife.
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You never know when the lasttime is.
You know, I always, I alwaysthink about that.
And I don't know why I alwaysuse pickup basketball as a, as a
example, but I'm a guy thatplays a lot of pickup basketball
still really enjoy the sport.
And.
I think to myself.
You know, Think about the lasttime you played pickup
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basketball.
When you were walking out of thegym and you were putting your
shoes in your car and you weredriving off.
Did you think that that wasgoing to be the last time you
played pick up basketball?
It could have been.
Or did you think.
When you were driving away fromthe gym, I'm not going to do
this for another five years.
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The chances are probably not,but life gets in the way.
So just be present because itcould be over just like that.
You could, you could leave thegym and never get to play
basketball again in your life.
You could leave school.
And that could be the last timeyou saw somebody that you went
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to college with.
You could leave that job and youcan never talk to somebody that
you spent the last five yearswith.
Be present.
I make the most.
Out of the day that you have,which is right now.
Number 10 is.
The journey is more importantthan the destination.
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Some things take a lifetime tolearn.
So fall in love with thejourney.
Instead of wishing you were atyour destination.
It goes back to me and college.
And I was so just focused onbeing a college graduate.
I was rushing through the days Iwas rushing through the classes.
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I was rushing through anexperience in my life that I
needed to just be enjoying the,the, the journey.
Enjoying.
The time and the effort.
And join the relationships.
How many times do you seesomebody on social media?
And say, man, I haven't seenthat person since college.
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I haven't reached out to thatperson since college.
I wonder how they're doing.
Enjoy the journey.
It's all that we have.
The only two things that areguaranteed in this life.
If you're in it.
Is that you will be born and youwill die.
Everything in between that isthe journey.
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The human experience.
Is something that doesn't needto be rushed.
Enjoy it.
If we're lucky we will be oldone day.
And you'll be talking about andreminiscing on the times when
you were able bodied and youwere able to do things.
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You won't always be in yourprom.
There's going to be differentseasons of your life.
That you'll enter in.
And it's going to be filled withhappiness and sadness and
everything in between.
So don't rush it.
Enjoy it.
Take your time.
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Hug your loved ones.
Enjoy.
The journey.
Number 11 is going to beprogress over perfection.
I think that we all think thatwe have to be perfect all the
time.
I know I do.
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I struggle with this, especiallywith putting my content out into
the world.
I think, man.
I'm not going to post an episodethis week because people are
going to find it dumb.
No one's going to resonate withit.
Why do I think that I could be apodcast or full time?
Those inner thoughts of that.
Try to keep you safe becausetaking a risk and doing
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something outside of yourcomfort zone is scary.
So your body fights against it.
And tells you that it's not goodenough.
And maybe it's not.
But posted anyway.
Maybe you don't know everything,but do it anyway.
Pursue it anyway.
I asked the question anyway.
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Because if you don't, you'regoing to be locked into a place
where you are just in perpetualfear.
And you're never going to makeany progress.
Just by starting, you start tolearn that you will make
mistakes, but you will makeprogress.
You will get to your goal.
No, it won't be perfect.
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Even your best videos, there'sprobably something that you can
improve on.
But it goes back to the thingthat we were just talking about
and that's enjoying the journey.
Post the content.
Write the letter hug the friend.
Go to the dinner.
Uh, or the person that youhaven't seen tell your family.
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That you love them.
Make progress towards something.
Step out of side of your comfortzone.
Take action.
Action.
Is much more important than thedestination.
Taking action is what gets youto the destination.
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It doesn't have to be perfect.
It doesn't have to be pretty.
You just have to make progress.
And that's something I wish thatI would have known.
Early on in my life.
And the last thing that I'llleave you guys with is.
A small group of real truefriends.
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Is better than a huge group ofacquaintances.
The funny thing about this is.
I was talking to my brotherabout this the other day.
Or maybe it was AK or TJ orsomebody.
I was talking to somebody aboutthis.
Actually, I think it wasPatrick.
I think I was talking to Patrickabout this, but that's beside
the point.
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If I would have got married.
When I was right out of highschool.
The people that will, that wouldhave been in my wedding would
have been X, Y, Z.
If I would have got marriedwhile I was in college.
The group of people would havechanged slightly.
It would have been some of thesame people.
If I were to got married,post-college.
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Right after college, it changesa little bit.
And if I actually had my voucherand all about two years ago, And
it was a completely differentgroup of people.
There's some outliers in therethere's people that are always
going to there was through allof these things.
But what it made me realize is.
As you go through life, you'regoing to gain friends and you're
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going to lose friends.
Your group of people that aregonna rock with you through the
entirety of your life.
The entirety of the differentseasons of your life, is it
going to be very few people?
And that's okay.
There's some people that youmeet.
And that relationship, thatfriendship is only going to last
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five years and you'll beFacebook friends, and you'll
like each other's posts, but youneither, one of you will make
that effort to continue on withthat relationship.
And that's okay.
You are going to have a group ofpeople.
A small group of people thatyou're going to meet.
That y'all are going to bondwith.
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And those are going to be thepeople that you do life with.
And they're going to have yourback no matter what.
In every.
Um, Version.
Of my groomsmen.
There was always a for sure, forpeople.
No matter what.
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And those four people are thepeople that are on my list for
when I'm feeling down.
They're on my list for when Iwant to tell somebody, somebody
exciting news.
They're the people that I callmentors and friends and family.
The people I'll get a gift for.
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And you start to realize that asmall group of people that are
truly rooting for you.
That are going to listen to yourpodcast.
They're going to watch yourYouTube video.
They're going to like your post.
On social media, they're goingto support you in the fundraiser
that you're doing for your kids.
They're going to be at yourkid's birthday party.
They're going to be a chorebirthday party.
You're going to be at theirbirthday party.
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That is such a small intimategroup.
And that's okay.
Your friends are going tochange.
Your family is going to beforever, and there's going to be
a small group of people that aregoing to be with you.
And instead of trying to please,everybody just lean in to that.
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Because we don't have a lot oftime.
We never did.
It doesn't matter if you dothese things or you don't do
these things.
There's an expiration date onall of us.
So why not get the best out oflife with the best people?
Being in the moment, be present.
Get our finances in order.
Leave a legacy.
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For your kids and your nextgeneration find you, somebody
that you want to spend this lifewith.
And let's make it meaningful.
Gaza.
I hope you appreciated thisepisode.
Things.
I wish I knew in my twenties.
I really enjoyed.
Um, getting this out here to youguys.
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And once again, we'll be backnext week with another episode.
Thank you for being patient withme.
As a I'm in a truly busy seasonof my life.
We'll be back next week.
Um, with one of two episodes,either the TC Burr episode.
Um, we've got that scheduled tobe recorded on Tuesday or the
jet hours of episode.
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program.
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Thank you for your time asalways.
And until next time.
Peace.
And we are back with anotherepisode of the clever angle
podcast.
I am your host, Kevin McGee.
And as you might've noticed, Ihave taken a week off, man.
I just kind of really neededsome time to reset a few
different things happen, but weare back with another episode of
the podcast.
And I appreciate you guys aspatients while I've kind of did
some reflection.
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So.
Uh, this episode, I've beentrying to draw out for a good
two or three years.
It's just, it was in the phasewhere I wasn't being consistent
with the podcast.
And I was like, okay, I've got afew guests lined up.
Uh, within the next few weeks.
So be a perfect time to kind ofdrop this content because I
think it's something that needsto be out there.
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So things that I wish that Iwould have known in my twenties,
So for reference out there I'm33 now.
So this is just things that Ihave learned.
And I wish I knew sooner in mytwenties.
So.
Number one on the list ispatients.
When you were in your twenties,patients is something that is
almost impossible to find.
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Patients is something that.
Was like the driving factor ofwhy I started this podcast.
All throughout college.
I didn't have any patients.
I remembered.
Trying to accelerate the rate atwhich I graduated, because I
thought that if I, if it took melonger than four years to.
(01:24):
I complete my degree, then itwas somehow.
Less impressive.
So our crammed, a whole bunch ofstuff in my last semester, so I
could graduate.
And in 2013, Uh, with mybachelors and I remember feeling
empty inside and not reallyknowing what I was going to do
next with kind of sparked me todo the podcast in the first
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place.
Um, to get a resource out therefor people that might be
struggling with this and takingthat next step.
Outside of, uh, college, becauseour lives are pretty much
structured in a way that upuntil the end of college, you
kind of know what your nextthing is.
So you go back, I would tell myyoungest, half patients, things
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are going to work out, do thingsthat you enjoy, really get to
know your.
And don't freak out on it on thesame page.
You're going at the same pace.
As somebody else, um, Number twois going to be fear of missing
out or FOMO.
So.
This is something I think we allstruggle with whether that's the
twenties or the thirties, but Ididn't really start to become at
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peace with the fact of Tevin.
You don't have to be involved ineverything.
You do not have to be involvedin every party.
You do not have to go to everyevent.
You do not have to.
Do you don't have to be soconcerned with what everybody is
doing all the time.
We live in a world that is justconstant highlights of
(02:50):
everybody's life.
Everybody.
What everybody's doing.
Just constant many dopaminehits.
And you think that you should beinvolved in our wasted a lot of
money and a lot of time.
Uh, chasing behind thesetemporary highs of not wanting
to miss out and.
Um, there are so many times thatI wish that I would have just
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stayed home.
Instead of.
Going out.
Like, I, I really didn't getmuch from the experience.
So if I were to just focus onthe things that really sparked
joy with me, you know, Um, Iprobably could have saved myself
a lot of times and it's hard.
'cause even now at 33, you know,you get less time with your
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friends than you do in yourtwenties.
And you kind of take that forgranted.
So it can be hard to avoid, butthis is a lesson that I, I truly
encourage you guys to.
Just take a second.
Take some time.
And you just think, is thissomething that I'm truly gonna
regret or error?
Is it just something that'sgonna.
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Be fleeting and in.
You know, 10 minutes from now,you're not really going to.
Miss that experience.
Uh, number three is going to belearning about money and the
dangers of debt.
So if anybody is in student, Uh,it was a student in college.
The majority of us had some kindof student loan debt.
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So, you know, you come out from18 and, you know, I just went
through puberty, you know, five,six years ago.
So I'm still just kind offiguring out what I'm going to
do, what I'm going to major inall these things, you know,
you're focusing on these funthings of college, like.
You've been sold this dream of,yeah, you go, you get the
college experience.
You're going to meet some ofyour best friends, which that is
absolutely true, but something Iwish that the school system
(04:40):
would.
Absolutely.
I spend more time or start todevelop a curriculum on is money
and what debt means to yourlongevity of your life.
So, you know, if you got to goto school to get the degree, and
there's no way around gettingit.
Um, 100% you got to go tocollege.
(05:01):
Like if you want to be a doctor,you got to go to college.
A hundred percent.
But I would encourage you,especially if you're in your
twenties.
Or if, if, especially if you'rein your twenties or if you're a
little bit.
Sooner than that, like highschool, junior high start
thinking about creative waysthat you can pay for college.
Your grades matter in highschool, if you want to go to
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college, they matter.
So if you're thinking aboutpursuing a degree that you might
not necessarily need a degreefor.
Looking through somealternative.
Uh, alternative options.
Uh, before you decide to plungeinto debt because.
I think it's become normal tohave to carry a student loan
balance.
It's been normal to get creditcards.
(05:45):
It's been normal to do all ofthese things.
But the ramifications, thelessons that, that you didn't
learn or going to slap you inthe face very hard.
If you don't learn thesefinancial lessons.
So I encourage all of youparents out there, all of you,
people that are, or.
Um, just now going into yourcollege journey or just now
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beginning living out on yourown.
And you were thinking aboutgetting a credit card and you're
thinking about, uh, going toschool before you take on any of
that, that, that do someresearch, do some education.
Uh, in the subject matter.
I remember when I was a freshmanat a state, there was like this
kind of like carnival type setup where there was a whole bunch
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of different booths, um, oncampus.
And they were just.
Uh, telling you different thingsand.
You know, there was a booth thathad pizza, so you're a broke
college kid.
So you want to get the pizza andyou go over there and they say,
Hey, here's some free pizza.
Do you want to sign up for acredit card or do this?
And a lot of kids were justblindly signing up for these
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cards that are probably 30, 35%interest.
And they really just prey on younot knowing.
These kinds of things and hopingthat you just sign up for it,
spend money that you don't have,and they can get you on the back
end for interests.
So.
Learn about money.
That's a, that's a, that's a,that is a thing that is going
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to.
Of all the things on this list,learning about money is going to
help you out the most in thelongterm.
Because once you do decide tohave a family, once you decide
to buy a house, once you decidethat you are ready to get a car,
Knowing about money, knowingabout savings and emergency
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funds and debts.
And all of these things that aregoing to affect your adult life,
you know, when you're in yourtwenties, you think that you're
invincible.
You think that nothing is goingto come back to bite?
You, you think that you've gottime?
And I promise you the illusionof time is something that we do
not realize.
Tom is our most valuableresource.
(07:50):
And if we just thought aboutthat earlier, we could live a
much more fulfilled life.
So learn about money, learnabout debt, especially if you
are a young.
But I think this is somethingthat everyone should know.
So I'm reading.
I will teach you to be rich.
Um, Right now it's a greatfinancial resource and I'm
(08:13):
finding a lot of value in thepsychology of money is also a
good book.
So if you're interested in anyof these resources, I'll leave
the subscription down to a fewof the financial and books.
They kind of changed myperspective in the way that I
think about it.
Because mindset is a huge partof getting your finances in
order.
Okay.
Number four, which is probablyjust as important as the money
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thing is prioritize your health.
Just because you're a 20, justbecause you're 18, just because
you're 30.
Does not mean your health is aguarantee.
We need to realize that we are,we only get one body to take
care of us for the rest of ourlives.
So the things that you're doing,it's not worth it.
It's not worth it to mess yourliver up in, in your twenties.
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It's not worth it to getaddicted to nicotine in your
twenties.
There are so many people that Iwent to college with.
There's so many people that areyounger than me, that I'm seeing
at a rapid rate.
Just in my own life, havehealthy health conditions that
they would have never thoughtabout.
You don't have to do somethingcrazy.
This isn't something that I'mtelling you not to have fun or
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not to.
Uh, enjoy sweets, but we have torealize the things that we are
putting into our bodies.
We have to realize the decisionsthat we are making.
Um, are going to affect us forthe next 50 to 60 years.
So.
Find you something that worksfor you.
Moving your body getting outinto that.
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To that sunlight, take your dogfor a, an extra walk.
Get some kind of routine that isgoing to work for you because I
promise you.
Prioritizing your health now isgoing to not only save you
money, it's going to, it's goingto allow you to have higher
quality of life as you move on.
It's not the fact that you'regetting older is why you can't
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do the things that you did inhigh school.
It's because you decide to putyour body on the back burner.
And by the time you're 30, 30, 1years old.
Um, you have put so many mileson your body in a negative way
that.
You don't even realize that it,it can be corrected.
(10:20):
But you don't even realize thedamage that has been done to
your body.
Until you have to go to thedoctor and oh yeah, your
ligaments in your knee orwhatever it is, you know, you
just, it slowly over time, youstart to see these.
Um, regressions and the thingsthat you're able to do, but they
can be corrected.
So I'm telling you the sooner,the better prioritize some kind
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of routine.
I mean, I'm not any kind ofexpert, but I do have a degree
in exercise science and I'mthinking.
Two to three times a week,minimum of getting in the gym or
some sort of exercise.
And here's the thing.
Just find something that youlike to do.
It doesn't have to be liftingweights.
You know, I like playing tennis.
Tennis is something that I dothat helps me stay active and
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taking my dogs for a walk issomething that's low impact that
you can do.
Um, That will help your overalllongevity of health.
And obviously your diet is ahuge part of that.
So, Everything in moderation,man, everything in moderation,
you can't eat the same thingsthat you were eating when you
were 15.
When you're 33, trust me, itsneaks up on you.
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It sneaks up on you fast.
Um, Number five is going to beyour relationship status does
not define you.
So back to the whole socialmedia thing, there is so much
comparison in our everydaylives.
That we think that just becausesomebody else is getting
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married, that, that I need to begetting married and they rush
into things.
So I think that if we just takethe time to do a self evaluation
on what do you want in your lifeand does this fit with another
person right now?
If the answer is yes.
And you think that you were in asituation though where you are
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up for dating and finding thatperson?
Because that is one of the mostrewarding things is finding your
person and building a life withthat person.
But you don't think you don'tneed to think that you're a
failure.
If you're not 24 and married, ifyou're not 31 in married.
You need to be working onyourself and your twenties.
(12:30):
And getting yourself to whereyou're attracting the type of
person that you would want to bein a relationship with and want
to build a life with.
So I think that they, um, theage in your new and your
twenties.
It's just such a.
Um, self discovery age that wejust need to take the time be
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with ourselves, increased,increase our skillset and the
things that we got going on, youknow, focus on these first four
things.
Focus on your career, focus onsaving money, focus on getting
yourself out of debt.
So now you start to attract thatgood energy of a person that you
will want to be in, butcomparison is the thief of all
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joy.
And I'm telling you.
As long as you're not comparingyourself to other people.
And you were happy with theprogress in your life.
You are going to be live a, a,um, highly fulfilled life and
you are going to look back.
And, and thank that.
It was at the pace that itneeded to be.
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God doesn't make mistakes.
Number six has been trulytransformative for me.
And that is going to be seekingmentors.
Nobody gets through this lifealone, nobody.
So seeking out the guidance ofpeople that are doing the things
that you want to do, someonethat is like a big brother
figure to you that can give youwisdom and guidance, and that
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can help you.
Get out of some of thesepitfalls that we're talking
about.
You know, how different wouldyour life be?
If when you're 17 and you'regetting ready to sign up for
student loans, you had a mentorof some sort.
Like, whether that's a coach,uh, your, your uncle, your dad.
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Whoever it is somebody that hasbeen around the block, somebody
that has experienced some of thethings that you've gone through.
And can help you from making themistakes that they made.
That can set your life on acomplete different trajectory
than you were normally headed onjust by surrounding yourself
with people that are going tomake a positive impact impact on
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you.
I've got several in my thirtiesnow, and I wish I would've known
these people in my twenties.
Because it would have helped mesave a lot of time.
Um, I've got to shout out mybuddy Her AA.
K.
I, we can sit her on one of mybest friends.
One of my mentors, my brother aswell.
(14:59):
Uh, my, my good friend grantlong.
These are all men that I canreach out to at any given point,
ask for advice on things knowthat they've been through some
of the same things that I'vebeen through.
They're going through some ofthe same struggles currently.
And I value their opinion.
They ha they each have qualitiesand characteristics of things
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that I would want to be betterat in my own life.
And surrounding myself with likea mastermind group of friends is
a game changer for you in somany different areas of your
life, whether that's yourphysical health, whether that's
your spiritual health, whetherthat's your financial health,
whether that's.
You know, you're, you're talkingthrough getting a career and,
(15:40):
and, and jobs and things likethat.
Whether it's a current creativeoutlet that you need advice on.
Mentors will change your life.
Justin Moody as well.
My, uh, my former boss when Iwas in the warehouse.
All of these are Caleb Shipley.
The list goes on, but the pointis.
These are people that are havinga positive impact on my life.
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And if you don't have some ofthese people around.
Uh, you need to, re-examine yourfriend group and the people that
you're spending your time andenergy on because you start to
become like the people thatyou're around.
Shout out to Ash Pulliam.
And Patrick Patterson as well.
I don't want to leave.
Anyone out that I communicatewith on a regular basis, but.
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Yeah.
Um, seeking mentors wassomething that completely Nathan
night is an inspiration as well.
I would consider him a.
Uh, a mentor as well, as far as,you know, he's doing the things
that, that I would want to do aswell.
Um, so.
Uh, and it doesn't even have tobe someone teaching you
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something.
It's just getting yourselfaround like-minded people.
And trying to achieve the goalsthat you've set out through the
help of others.
Because once again, nobody getsto where they need to go by
themselves.
So that's number six.
Number seven is time is yourmost valuable resource.
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And while you are young.
Don't think that you have allthe time in the world.
It's something that.
You can't buy more of.
So spend it wisely.
You can always get more money.
You always can get another job.
You will not be able to get yourtime back.
(17:30):
So, I'm not telling you not toenjoy your life because you need
to enjoy your life.
But.
One thing that I found to be sorewarding in my thirties, that I
wish I would have spent moretime doing in my twenties is.
Spinning, just more intentionaltime with my parents, man.
My dad and my mom had began someof my best friends.
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Um, there are people that Istill look up to this day and I
spent so much time just out.
At bars, clubs, you know, doingstuff that was just absolutely
overrated in my opinion.
When I could have been spendingthat time with my family.
And I really just appreciate itso much more now.
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And.
30 is just a weird age becauseyou were in this weird.
Uh, stage of your life, whereyour parents are getting older,
you're starting to have kids,your friend, group isn't as
close as they, they were,everyone is moving in different
directions.
I'm one of the only people in mylocal friend group, uh, that has
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kids.
So my brothers is just gotengaged.
I got another one of my buddiesthat is, uh, has been dating his
girl for a while.
So the time that we actually getto link up now and get the
hangout is few and far between.
And when we were all in thissame crazy stage of life, like
we just thought it would be.
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It would last forever, like,man.
I'm going to get the hang outwith my brother and my friends
like this forever.
And then you wake up and you'rein a different stage of life.
So just really appreciate thosetimes.
Then when you have roommates andyou know, no one has any money
and y'all are just sittingaround talking, having a good
time.
Uh, Life is precious.
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You know, how many times do youjust have a good, genuine laugh
with a friend now?
When I was in my twenties, Ifelt like it happened every day,
but now I really take the timeto.
To stop and appreciate when I'mhaving those sincere moments
with my friends, with my family.
And, um, I encourage you to justthink as a, of those people that
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are in your life, whether it'syour grandmother, your mother,
your brother.
Take advantage of those of thattime that you have with them,
because it is not guaranteed andyou never know what tomorrow
brings.
So.
Time is of the essence, slowdown and enjoy.
Number eight is practicegratitude.
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Being grateful.
For things.
Is something that I think we'realways, um, In the process of
learning better.
But.
With the society that we live innow, and this always wanting
more, more, more, You need toslow down and start to
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appreciate the things that youhave, you know?
Okay.
Yeah.
We might not be LeBron Jamesliving in Beverly Hills on the
Los Angeles Laker.
But we have a, a, a family thatloves each other.
We have a nice home around us.
It keeps us warm.
We have dogs that appreciate us.
We have all of our parentshealthy.
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We have a great.
Ecosystem of friends around us.
I encourage everyone to justthink about 10 things that they
are grateful for.
And really appreciate where youare in life.
Enjoy the journey to yourdestination.
And realize that this life isjust a vapor in the grand scheme
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of things.
We are so blessed to be able tolive in this time where we have
so much comfort and technologyand so many things that make our
lives so great.
We live in the United States,which is one of the greatest.
Countries, and we can.
We have the freedom to be ableto pursue.
Anything that we want to do.
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So practice gratitude and ourpromise.
You will have a happier life.
It's something that I'mconstantly working on.
And when I'm getting to thesemodes where I'm down on myself,
I like to make a list of things.
And I'm grateful for.
I'm grateful for my kids.
I'm grateful for.
Being able to talk on aplatform, even if no one is
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listening to me, I'm gratefulfor the opportunity to get the.
Have a, a space where I can getmy thoughts out to people.
And even if this just reachesone person, I'm grateful for
that.
I'm grateful for the connectionsthat I've made in college.
I'm grateful for my job.
I'm grateful for my beautifulwife that works so hard for.
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Our family and I'm grateful fortwo.
Beautiful, amazing warned herfour daughters, grateful to have
my brother.
And, and friends that, thataccept me for me.
I think that is a rare thingthese days.
And I think that no matter whatsituation that you are in life,
you have something that you canbe grateful for.
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You have something that you canappreciate.
And I encourage you to do so.
And that kind of goes intonumber nine, which is be
present.
Time stops for no one.
That's starting to become arecurring theme of things that
I've learned in my twenties saysit will be gone before, you
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know, it.
I vividly remember.
Playing my last game ofbasketball in high school,
realizing this was the last timeI was going to play competitive
basketball.
Our member, the sadness that wasin that room.
And I was just soaking it up.
I was never the greatestbasketball player.
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But man, was it awesome to be apart of that team?
We were at four city in an awaygame.
As my last game that was aftersenior night.
That was the last time I wasgoing to be able to put on an
Elton Raiders Jersey and I canstill feel the emotion.
And now our look back.
That was like 15 years ago.
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And I can still remember.
Everything that was happening.
I remember shaking my coach'shands and them telling me that
it was a pleasure.
You know, getting to coach meand, and like I said, I wasn't
good, but, uh, I appreciatedjust being on the team around
the guys and.
If this is you and you're injunior high and you're upset
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about your playing time and you,you know, You let these petty
things get and not justbasketball, just things in
general.
You got a grudge that you'reholding against your, your
sibling or you are upset withyour parents for something just
realize time goes by so fast.
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You will go from 15 to 33.
In a blink of an eye.
And by the time you've realizedhow much time has passed another
two or three years this past.
And you just have to just takethe time to slow down.
Be present.
Hug your mom go see yourgrandma.
Go to that funeral.
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There's.
A quick story.
I'll tell about one of my goodfriends.
He used to be my boss at Outbacksteakhouse.
And I remember.
When he first came.
To manage us.
He was about the age that I amnow.
Unfortunately, he passed away atthat young age of 41 years old.
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And.
I remember going to his funeral.
In Memphis.
And there was so much sadness.
I cried and I weep like a baby.
Because me and him used to talkabout the things that we were
going to do.
And the reality is we never knowhow much time we have.
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So hug that person.
Tell that person you like them.
Go ask your boss for a raise.
Go on that walk.
Sign out for that 4k, becauseyou never know, you don't know
when your time is up.
Be present in the moment.
If you were talking to somebodyand if you're at lunch with one
of your good friends, put yourphone away, be present.
That could be the last timey'all go to lunch for five
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years.
You never know what curve ballslife is going to throw at you.
So you, all you have is rightnow to be present in that
moment.
And that moment to make adifference.
To change the trajectory of yourlife.
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You never know when the lasttime is.
You know, I always, I alwaysthink about that.
And I don't know why I alwaysuse pickup basketball as a, as a
example, but I'm a guy thatplays a lot of pickup basketball
still really enjoy the sport.
And.
I think to myself.
You know, Think about the lasttime you played pickup
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basketball.
When you were walking out of thegym and you were putting your
shoes in your car and you weredriving off.
Did you think that that wasgoing to be the last time you
played pick up basketball?
It could have been.
Or did you think.
When you were driving away fromthe gym, I'm not going to do
this for another five years.
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The chances are probably not,but life gets in the way.
So just be present because itcould be over just like that.
You could, you could leave thegym and never get to play
basketball again in your life.
You could leave school.
And that could be the last timeyou saw somebody that you went
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to college with.
You could leave that job and youcan never talk to somebody that
you spent the last five yearswith.
Be present.
I make the most.
Out of the day that you have,which is right now.
Number 10 is.
The journey is more importantthan the destination.
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Some things take a lifetime tolearn.
So fall in love with thejourney.
Instead of wishing you were atyour destination.
It goes back to me and college.
And I was so just focused onbeing a college graduate.
I was rushing through the days Iwas rushing through the classes.
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I was rushing through anexperience in my life that I
needed to just be enjoying the,the, the journey.
Enjoying.
The time and the effort.
And join the relationships.
How many times do you seesomebody on social media?
And say, man, I haven't seenthat person since college.
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I haven't reached out to thatperson since college.
I wonder how they're doing.
Enjoy the journey.
It's all that we have.
The only two things that areguaranteed in this life.
If you're in it.
Is that you will be born and youwill die.
Everything in between that isthe journey.
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The human experience.
Is something that doesn't needto be rushed.
Enjoy it.
If we're lucky we will be oldone day.
And you'll be talking about andreminiscing on the times when
you were able bodied and youwere able to do things.
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You won't always be in yourprom.
There's going to be differentseasons of your life.
That you'll enter in.
And it's going to be filled withhappiness and sadness and
everything in between.
So don't rush it.
Enjoy it.
Take your time.
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Hug your loved ones.
Enjoy.
The journey.
Number 11 is going to beprogress over perfection.
I think that we all think thatwe have to be perfect all the
time.
I know I do.
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I struggle with this, especiallywith putting my content out into
the world.
I think, man.
I'm not going to post an episodethis week because people are
going to find it dumb.
No one's going to resonate withit.
Why do I think that I could be apodcast or full time?
Those inner thoughts of that.
Try to keep you safe becausetaking a risk and doing
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something outside of yourcomfort zone is scary.
So your body fights against it.
And tells you that it's not goodenough.
And maybe it's not.
But posted anyway.
Maybe you don't know everything,but do it anyway.
Pursue it anyway.
I asked the question anyway.
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Because if you don't, you'regoing to be locked into a place
where you are just in perpetualfear.
And you're never going to makeany progress.
Just by starting, you start tolearn that you will make
mistakes, but you will makeprogress.
You will get to your goal.
No, it won't be perfect.
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Even your best videos, there'sprobably something that you can
improve on.
But it goes back to the thingthat we were just talking about
and that's enjoying the journey.
Post the content.
Write the letter hug the friend.
Go to the dinner.
Uh, or the person that youhaven't seen tell your family.
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That you love them.
Make progress towards something.
Step out of side of your comfortzone.
Take action.
Action.
Is much more important than thedestination.
Taking action is what gets youto the destination.
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It doesn't have to be perfect.
It doesn't have to be pretty.
You just have to make progress.
And that's something I wish thatI would have known.
Early on in my life.
And the last thing that I'llleave you guys with is.
A small group of real truefriends.
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Is better than a huge group ofacquaintances.
The funny thing about this is.
I was talking to my brotherabout this the other day.
Or maybe it was AK or TJ orsomebody.
I was talking to somebody aboutthis.
Actually, I think it wasPatrick.
I think I was talking to Patrickabout this, but that's beside
the point.
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If I would have got married.
When I was right out of highschool.
The people that will, that wouldhave been in my wedding would
have been X, Y, Z.
If I would have got marriedwhile I was in college.
The group of people would havechanged slightly.
It would have been some of thesame people.
If I were to got married,post-college.
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Right after college, it changesa little bit.
And if I actually had my voucherand all about two years ago, And
it was a completely differentgroup of people.
There's some outliers in therethere's people that are always
going to there was through allof these things.
But what it made me realize is.
As you go through life, you'regoing to gain friends and you're
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going to lose friends.
Your group of people that aregonna rock with you through the
entirety of your life.
The entirety of the differentseasons of your life, is it
going to be very few people?
And that's okay.
There's some people that youmeet.
And that relationship, thatfriendship is only going to last
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five years and you'll beFacebook friends, and you'll
like each other's posts, but youneither, one of you will make
that effort to continue on withthat relationship.
And that's okay.
You are going to have a group ofpeople.
A small group of people thatyou're going to meet.
That y'all are going to bondwith.
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And those are going to be thepeople that you do life with.
And they're going to have yourback no matter what.
In every.
Um, Version.
Of my groomsmen.
There was always a for sure, forpeople.
No matter what.
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And those four people are thepeople that are on my list for
when I'm feeling down.
They're on my list for when Iwant to tell somebody, somebody
exciting news.
They're the people that I callmentors and friends and family.
The people I'll get a gift for.
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And you start to realize that asmall group of people that are
truly rooting for you.
That are going to listen to yourpodcast.
They're going to watch yourYouTube video.
They're going to like your post.
On social media, they're goingto support you in the fundraiser
that you're doing for your kids.
They're going to be at yourkid's birthday party.
They're going to be a chorebirthday party.
You're going to be at theirbirthday party.
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That is such a small intimategroup.
And that's okay.
Your friends are going tochange.
Your family is going to beforever, and there's going to be
a small group of people that aregoing to be with you.
And instead of trying to please,everybody just lean in to that.
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Because we don't have a lot oftime.
We never did.
It doesn't matter if you dothese things or you don't do
these things.
There's an expiration date onall of us.
So why not get the best out oflife with the best people?
Being in the moment, be present.
Get our finances in order.
Leave a legacy.
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For your kids and your nextgeneration find you, somebody
that you want to spend this lifewith.
And let's make it meaningful.
Gaza.
I hope you appreciated thisepisode.
Things.
I wish I knew in my twenties.
I really enjoyed.
Um, getting this out here to youguys.
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And once again, we'll be backnext week with another episode.
Thank you for being patient withme.
As a I'm in a truly busy seasonof my life.
We'll be back next week.
Um, with one of two episodes,either the TC Burr episode.
Um, we've got that scheduled tobe recorded on Tuesday or the
jet hours of episode.
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But we will be back to with theregular scheduled interview
program.
And I appreciate you guysrocking with me.
Um, if you were being inclinedlike us on Instagram, follow us
on YouTube.
We're at the clever angle at theclever angle on all social media
platforms.
So.
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Thank you for your time asalways.
And until next time.
Peace.
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