Climb Your Mountain

If you’d rather eat broken glass than set new year’s goals, I’ve got a podcast episode for you!

So many of us have PTSD around goals.

We feel shame about all the times we’ve gone for something in the past … only to fall on our faces.

Every time we see a successful person, we assume they did it “right.” (Set goal. Followed up with disciplined action. Got result.)

But what if the opposite was actually true?

What if creating your dreams is...

Last week in Mexico, I tried to take the bus to a cenote (swimming hole). 

I was SURE it would take just 15 minutes to jump on the colectivo (mini-bus).

90 minutes later …

😭 I’d just walked all over Tulum in the blazing sun trying to get cash for the bus fare …

😭 And then walked another 30 minutes looking for the right bus stop

😭 I was sweating, dehydrated, frustrated and PISSED because I wanted to get to the cenote early before the ...

If you didn’t end the year like you’d hoped …

If there were goals you didn’t reach …

If you feel more stuck than ever …

Then you’re probably beating yourself up for wasting time.

You might be buying into the punishing idea that it’s actually possible to MAXIMIZE your time. 

By doing everything right.

By never failing or getting distracted.

And by always finishing what you start.

If so, here’s what I want to offer you.

(This always blows my ...

If you’re having a sad Christmas …

You’re SO not alone.

(Even if it seems like everyone else on earth is merry and bright.)

I fell into this trap.

On Christmas Eve, I sent out an email speaking to everyone who is struggling during the holidays.

I felt kind of silly doing it.

My brain told me …

🧠 Everyone else is really HAPPY! You’re the only weirdo who’s not overjoyed by the season.

🧠 Now you look like a loser.

🧠 Also, if Debbie Downer a...

Imagine that suddenly you only had electricity for two hours a day.

Two hours a day to charge your phone, use your Wi-Fi, run your heating/air conditioning, watch TV, refrigerate your food.

Maybe you were already hungry and working hard to survive.

And suddenly, the lights went out, and life got that much harder.

That's what happened this year in Cuba. (As I learned on my recent trip.)

In this week's episode of Climb Your Moun...

Is this you?

• You're working two jobs to pay for all your kids activities — and yet they won't lift a finger to help you clean the house.
• You've just had a big loss (a child, partner, parent) — and suddenly everyone disappears. (Grief ghosts are real.)
• Your partner is happy for you to plan the entire vacation — and then complains loudly that they don't want to go to Disney Land.
• Every time you go somewhere with f...

It's my 50th birthday. And I'm not here to give you a load of bullshit about how excited I am, or how 50 is the new 40.

The late 40s have been TOUGH.

And that's true for most people.

Statistically, 47 is the most unhappy age. (Yes, actual scientists have studied this.)

It's the collision of parenting, elder care, and peak work responsibilities.

Your time has never been more constrained.

You feel urgency to trek to Mt....

As you gather with loved ones this holiday season, you may hear lots of opinions about yourself how you're living your life.

Things like ...

😭 You're too fat.

😭 You need to get a grownup job. Yanno, like cousin Becky the neurosurgeon.

😭 It's a shame you're still single.

😭 You better hurry up and have kids (or another kid).

😭 Also, you're getting kind of old to have kids, so maybe you should freeze your eggs.

...

Your life could use a glow up. But is life coaching really the answer?

What the hell happens in those sessions? Cause if it's just talking, you could do that with your bestie.

If it's just advice, you could get that from your opinionated big sis. Or ChatGPT.

If it's just a step-by-step how-to process, you could get that from a self-help book.

How exactly is coaching different?

On this week's episode of the Climb Your...

How do you know you're doing life "right?"

It's a question that can come up at midlife, at the end of an era — or anytime in our disconnected, technology-numbed-out world.

🤔 A lot of people try to get life "right" by doing the socially approved things — prestigious job, 2.5 kids, house in the burbs.

🤔 Some look to social media likes and follows to know if they're on the right path.

🤔 Others find a ...

Did you know that 70% of people have used an AI like ChatGPT for therapy, coaching, or emotional support?

So if you've ever tried this — or use it daily — you're far from alone.

You may also have heard negative news coverage around using AI for mental health support. (For example, many states and professional organizations are calling for greater regulations and passing restrictions into law.)

Naturally, you might wonder: Is...

PRE EPIC SERIES

Last month, I shared a series called Do Your Epic Shit. And some common feedback was:

"This is amazing. AND. 

I don't feel like this is my starting point. 

I'm just overwhelmed, dysregulated, confused, and not able to take even small steps.

First I'd love to learn the basics. The foundational skills that will allow me to play hard and tolerate the discomfort of doing bigger things."

Friends, that ...

PRE EPIC SERIES

Last month, I shared a series called Do Your Epic Shit. And some common feedback was:

"This is amazing. AND. 

I don't feel like this is my starting point. 

I'm just overwhelmed, dysregulated, confused, and not able to take even small steps.

First I'd love to learn the basics. The foundational skills that will allow me to play hard and tolerate the discomfort of doing bigger things."

Friends, that ...

PRE EPIC SERIES

Last month, I shared a series called Do Your Epic Shit. And some common feedback was:

"This is amazing. AND. 

I don't feel like this is my starting point. 

I'm just overwhelmed, dysregulated, confused, and not able to take even small steps.

First I'd love to learn the basics. The foundational skills that will allow me to play hard and tolerate the discomfort of doing bigger things."

Friends, that ...

PRE-EPIC SERIES

Thanks so much to everyone who tuned in for my "Do Your Epic Shit Series" last month and offered their feedback.

One thing I'm hearing loud and clear from many of you: This all sounds great ... one day. But I honestly don't feel ready to even start doing hard things!

Friend, that makes so much sense. 

When I think about my clients, very few of them came into coaching ready to immediately storm the ga...

Whether, you're trying to lose 10 pounds, find your person, or sell your first screenplay — we all want to make our dreams happen faster.

This might lead you to rush.

You might set unrealistic timelines.

Try to do all the things at once.

And try to make it happen from a place of urgency.

But the truth is: trying to rush actually slows you down.

You feel more resistance.

More confusion.

There's more internal pressure to do it perf...

Self-care. It's nice for twenty-somethings without kids, elderly parents, patients, students, or a demanding job.

But you? You have responsibilities.

If you don't take care of it all, who will?

Setting boundaries feels so selfish.

Spending time and money on your own happiness feels like taking it from others.

It's almost like what's bad for them is good for you.

Friend, if you're feeling this, I want you to consi...

Do you ever feel lost in your own life?

Losing your direction in life is super common. It can happen at any time, but it's especially normal after big life transitions like a breakup, a graduation, or your kids leaving home.

It can feel heavy, like you have a lot of resistance to starting something new.

And it can also feel overwhelming, like there are too many possibilities to choose from.

Either way, it's no fun.

If you&apos...

The fourth and final episode of my new series, DO YOUR EPIC SHIT, is live and ready for your viewing and listening pleasure!

This series is designed to help you finally take that adventure you've been putting off forever — whether that's walking across Mongolia, getting a new degree, or having a baby. 

Today, we talked about Bombproof Planning for Inevitable Success.

Click here to check out the video version! (NOTE: Scroll d...