July 16, 2024 • 39 mins
What if uncovering hidden family secrets could transform your life? Join us as Nancy Mueller returns to the show to share the captivating journey behind her latest book, "Secrets in the Attic." Inspired by the discovery of her mother's letters in an Ohio attic, Nancy explores the attic as a symbol for the mind, where memories and secrets are stored. This marks Nancy's first foray into fiction, presenting new creative challenges and opportunities to weave personal history into a compelling narrative.
Secrets have the power to shape our lives profoundly, often in ways we don't fully understand until they're brought to light. In our "Breaking the Silence" segment, Nancy discusses the heavy burden of family and workplace secrets, and how they can impact our mental well-being and behaviors. Through the fictional character Bella, Nancy illustrates how storytelling can help people confront their hidden truths, offering valuable insights into the empowerment that comes from releasing long-held secrets. This conversation is a poignant reminder of the power of narrative in reclaiming our voices.
Finally, we turn to themes of empowerment, happiness, and the transformative power of positive energy. Nancy shares her personal experiences with martial arts, emphasizing its benefits beyond physical combat and its role in fostering inner strength and mindset. We delve into practical strategies for cultivating a positive attitude and the importance of gratitude in daily life. Nancy inspires us with her journey to find daily happiness, underscoring the significance of self-awareness and encouraging women to support each other in their quests for fulfillment. Tune in for an inspiring discussion brimming with insights and actionable advice for living a more empowered and joyful life.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, I'm Coach Mickey and I'm so glad that you've
joined us and if this is yourfirst time joining us, come on
in and make yourself comfortable.
And for those of you that joinus on a regular basis, we are so
glad that you do and we are soexcited because I know that many
of you reach out to our gueststhat we have on and we really
appreciate that.
And, again, as you know, whenwe have guests on, they're going
(00:22):
to be embedded, whether you'relistening into the podcast or in
the links down below, and todayis no different.
It's going to be fun andexciting and insightful, and
I've had this guest on beforeand I'm excited to bring her
back because she is on booknumber eight and this one is
incredible, just like all of ourother books, but this one has a
little bit different twist andit's doing very, very well on
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Amazon.
I highly recommend that, onceyou hear this YouTube channel or
this podcast, that you pleasego to Amazon and take a look at
what she has to offer after wego through this.
So welcome, Nancy Muller.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
How are you?
Thank you, mickey.
Thank you for having me.
I am fabulous, thank you forasking.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
So book number eight my gosh and I know this one has
is a little bit different thansome of the others, Kind of on
the same lines I love it, I loveit.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Yep, well, this one, book, number eight, it's
different for me because thisone was written as fiction me,
because this one was written asfiction and the previous books
that I've written were more, notreally autobiographical, but
you know, it was more self helpas far as I healed this or went
(01:36):
through this.
This is how I did it and thisis how you can do it here, step
by step.
So this one was different forme because, as I was working on
it and, you know, meditating onit, I kept coming back to this.
One needs to be written asfiction and you know, when
you're writing in a differentstyle and a different kind of
(01:58):
genre, it's, I think, that initself can be a limiting belief
like, oh, can I do this?
And you know, when I sat backand said, all right, I hear that
this is the way it's meant tobe.
So I opened up, you know, thechannel and gosh, this book was
truly downloaded to me throughme.
(02:19):
And when it was all said anddone, you know, when I was
finished editing and sent to thepublisher, I just sat back and
felt like I had birthedsomething really powerful.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
So I'm excited.
Well, I love the title, and thetitle of the book is Secrets in
the Attic.
And yeah, I love it.
So how did you come up withthat?
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Well, I was literally in the attic.
So I was visiting in Ohio.
I was in Ohio, I live inCalifornia and I was visiting
family there and my cousins werepreparing their parents which
would be my aunt and uncle'shouse for to sell, to sell it.
So they were going througheverything and making sure that
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you know that they had gonethrough everything and was
getting ready.
So we were up in the attic.
There were three of us, me andtwo cousins, a boy and a girl
and we're going through all thisstuff and, you know, kind of
pulling things out.
And that's when I realized,like whoa, my aunt did not throw
anything away, she kepteverything.
It was so amazing and one of mycousins shoved a box over to me
(03:27):
and said here, you know, gothrough this, just make sure
there was no personalinformation in there.
So I took the lid off the boxand immediately I recognized the
handwriting on the very topletter there and I said looked
at them and I said you guys,this is my mom's handwriting.
What's, what's my mom's stuffdoing in your mom's attic?
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And they said well, I don'tknow, let's go through this.
So as we started going throughthe box, we were really kind of
blown away by some of the stuffthat we found.
And I will preface this bysaying growing up, I always felt
like my family meaning me, mysiblings and my parents were
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kind of the unwanted part of thefamily.
Like you know, we never had themoney to do anything.
There were five of us kids.
Everyone else had two or onechild and so, you know, we just
didn't fit in.
We were like I wouldn't say theblack sheep, but we just didn't
have what some of the othershad.
So I guess the best way to sayit is I always considered myself
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, them I have, and me I have not.
Our family I have not.
So I'm going through this boxand we're pulling out this
information and we're findingnewspaper articles and legal
documents that told us thingsthat we did not ever, ever know
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about some of our family members.
And as we sat there, you know,shocked, like, oh my gosh, did
you know this?
No, I didn't know this.
And then one of my cousinslooked at me and she goes well,
I think you know what your nextbook.
Oh my gosh, did you know this?
No, I didn't know this.
And then one of my cousinslooked at me and she goes well,
I think you know what your nextbook's going to be about.
And right then, and there Ilooked at her and I said, yeah,
and I'm going to call it Secretsin the Attic.
So that's the backstory ofwhere the title came from.
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And in the book I use the wordattic as a term for the
something tangible.
So the attic in a house istangible.
Right, you can put something ina box, stick it up in the attic
, forget it, don't even thinkabout it.
And the attic in your mind isthe same way, but it's
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intangible.
So the attic of our mind issomething where we store all our
thoughts, all our beliefs, allour feelings, all our secrets.
Everything is stored up there,and sometimes we take a look at
it.
Sometimes we don't take a lookat it, but everything that's
stored in our mind is alwaysflowing through us and saying
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you can do this, you've got it.
Or who are you kidding?
You can't do that, you don'tknow what you're doing.
And we visit those thoughts andthose secrets in our mind and
we take them out, I think, andlook at them when we feel most
strong.
But when we're not feelingstrong, again they're up there
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floating around and they'reinfluencing our belief about who
we can be, who we can't be.
And it's so amazing becauseeveryone has secrets.
Everyone has secrets and wedon't really stop to think about
the secrets that we keep.
And we're taught to keep thesesecrets at a very early age.
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For me, a lot of the secretsthat I kept were about the
mental abuse, physical abuse,sexual abuse by the age of 12.
And these were secrets that wehad to keep in our family, that
we had to keep in our family.
So whatever kind of secretswe're keeping, it's because
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someone who is teaching ussomething is saying okay, well,
this is not going to be acceptedin polite society or outside of
our home, so we need to keepthese things a secret.
But the more things we keepsecret as children, we don't
really understand why we'redoing it.
And because no one explains whyit's so important to keep these
secrets, we make up a reason.
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You know we say, oh, I guessbecause, like I said at the
beginning, we're just notdesirable to the rest of the
family.
So we need to keep this secretand that secret.
And you know, much like you,mickey, I've heard you share an
amazing message that you sharewith people about people who are
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binge eaters and they secretlykeep this to themselves and they
don't want anyone to knowwhat's going on.
Going to just out myself andI'm going to see where it goes,
because I'm tired of keeping thesecret and having it weighing
on me in mind, body and soul.
And you know, it could beanything.
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It could be you're keeping asecret for your brother about a
blanket that he slept with untilhe was 17.
You know, it's just, we keepsecrets in the family and
because of that it createsbeliefs within our mind and then
as adults, we're eithercontinuing to keep those secrets
or we're learning to speak up,to share.
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But when we feel that we don'thave a voice, when we feel that
we can't speak up, that we can'tsay something, because we have
that belief about something thatwe were taught when we were
taught, when we were growing up.
That's why the HarveyWeinsteins of the world, you
know, get away with what theyget away with, and people in the
workplace or you might seesomething that you just don't
(08:57):
agree with at work, but you haveto keep a secret because you're
afraid of losing your job.
And we justify all thesereasons to keep secrets that are
weighing us down in mind, bodyand soul.
So it is my extreme pleasure tobe able to share the message in
this book so that people canreally start thinking about
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their own secrets why they'rekeeping them and whether or not
they still want to keep them,and why.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Well, that's really insightful because, you're right
, everybody's got some kind ofsecret that they hold, whether
it's personal or something likeyou said, that they know and it
does.
It weighs on you.
I mean, you have you bringthese through your life and it
could be something, like yousaid, that started as in your
childhood, or even somethingrecent.
And if you're dealingespecially every day, if you
have to deal with, like you said, at work or even within your
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family or something that youhave, people you have to be
around on a regular basis, and Ialways tell people you know the
some you take in small doses,you know and you can.
However, it doesn't alleviatethe fact that you're still
harboring or holding somethingthat is still causing mental
anguish or something that is notsitting well with you, causing
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mental anguish or something thatis not sitting well with you.
So tell me a little bit aboutthe book on like how it can help
, because you have a lot ofinformation, but also it does go
down the line of helping othersto discover and overcome these
situations.
So tell us a little that well.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
I feel that this book was written as a way to, I
think, because it's fictionyou're not pulled in and felt
like, oh, this is a how-to and Ihave to learn how to do this.
You're able to flow with thestoryline and get caught up with
the main character and the maincharacter in the book, her name
(10:52):
is Bella, and you're able tofollow Bella's journey.
And there are some parts of itwhere you don't really know
where it's going, but it opensup the mind for, oh, I see this
is the situation she was in.
And then it shows Bella how shegot to be in that situation and
how she could decide if she wasready to let it go.
(11:17):
And in the book I refer to thatas a dark night of the soul,
because there are so many of uswho have had a dark night of the
soul, or many dark nights ofthe soul.
I know you got, everybody canresonate right.
Dark nights of the soul.
I know you got, everybody canresonate right.
You get to that point in yourlife where you think, gosh, I
know that I'm not supposed toever have more than I can handle
, but this is just more than Ican handle.
(11:38):
And when we get to that pointwhere we feel like there's more
than we can handle, where wecan't speak up, where we can't,
we don't have a voice, we can'tshare something, it's
overwhelming.
And it's that place where youfeel like you don't have any
choices.
And I know for me, years andyears ago, one of the answers
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that I thought was going to workfor me was to study martial
arts, because I thought if Icould learn to fight, if I could
learn to protect myself, thenno one would ever touch me again
, no one would ever hurt meagain.
(12:35):
But as I studied martial artsand was a student, competitor
and teacher in the martial arts,the more I studied the more I
understood that when you canmove from the physical, which is
the fighting part of it, to thenon-physical, to the mindset,
to the philosophies behind it,and understand where your true
power comes from and thateverything is energy, and we tap
into that chi in the body, inthe dojo, in the martial arts,
and you can tap into that chifor every experience that you
want to be empowered around.
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And you know, the Dalai Lamasaid it's the Western women that
are going to change the world.
But women can't change theworld until every woman knows
who she is and where her truepower comes from.
And this is something that I gothrough in the book and it just
it gives the reader anopportunity to say, oh yeah, I
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can resonate with that and someof the feedback that I'm getting
.
People are sharing things withme that I didn't even see in the
book.
So it's really exciting whenI'm getting this feedback and
having women say I read this andI resonated with this and I
immediately said, okay, this issomething that I want to change
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in my life and yeah, it's, it's.
I really feel that this is amessage that came through me for
other people.
It's not about me, it's, it'sfor other women for other people
.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
It's not about me, it's, it's for other women.
Well, having something to beable to resonate with is
powerful.
You know.
It's like anything else whenyou, when you watch something or
, like you said, you readsomething.
If you can have that, if youcan identify with what they're
going through and then apply ittowards your own life, there's
the lesson right there to beable to make that recognition.
And then, you know, take whatyou need from it and then move
forward.
And that's that's amazingbecause, like you said,
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everybody's got their ownjourney that they're going
through or whatever.
Whatever the path they'rethey're trying to get through,
is is going to be able to helpthem if they identify with what
you're writing about, and thenthey can move them to go forward
.
And you're right, you know,women are amazing because every
time I've ever done any kind ofevents or we've done stuff
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together I mean even you and I,with our collaboration you know
we always say what do you need,what can I do?
You know how can we collaboratetogether?
And we do, we come together.
You know, one of my favoritequotes that I read and I use it
often is you know, snowflakesare fragile, but look what they
can do.
When they stick together, theycan create an avalanche, and
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it's one of those things wherewe have to recognize that we can
.
We've got a lot of empowermentand ability to be able to come
together, not only for ourselvesas individuals, but also when
we collaborate and do thingswith each other, you know, to
make that difference.
That is really exciting.
I love this.
So what are some of thefavorite things about this book?
(15:22):
I mean, like you said, you kindof it came to you as a download
, and I love that, because whenyou get that and I know what
that download is it's just likeyou can't get it out on the
paper fast enough and it justfeels oh God doesn't it.
So what was some of yourfavorite things that you went oh
my gosh, this is awesome whenyou were writing it.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
One of the things that I really got excited about
was pulling there's.
Well, as an author, I wasalways taught taught, I don't
know, 100 years ago, whensomeone started teaching me how
to write um that an authorshould always write something
that they know about, that theyknow firsthand, so it should be
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information that you're familiarwith.
So there was a lot of me thatis pulled into the character,
but a lot of I shouldn't say alot of me that is pulled into
the character, but a lot of Ishouldn't say a lot of me.
I will change that to a lot ofmy experiences.
And because there were a lot ofmy experiences, one of the
things for me was how excited Ifelt when I was writing this
(16:28):
book.
It was, it was.
It was almost like there wassomething in me going yeah, and
then remember this and yeah, no,you know, and I'm like, yes,
and if I can convey thatexcitement and that power to
other women or anyone who readsthis book and you know I talk a
lot about women, women, women.
(16:49):
But this book isn't just forwomen.
It could be for men who havewomen in their life, women that
they're trying to understand,women that are no longer in
their life women that they feelthey've been wronged by, because
it gives us both an opportunityto see both sides of it than
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the opportunity to see bothsides of it.
Because the thing abouteverything that's going on in
the United States right nowthere's a lot of fear mongering
going on about what if thishappens and what if that happens
and women's rights are gonna betaken away.
But the thing is is we arenever going to stand in our
power if we are concentrating onthe fear.
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So we have to know what we wantfirst of all, instead of
concentrating on what we don'twant.
So most of us were taught to,you know, speak every day and
say I don't want this to happen,I don't want, I don't want to
lose this, and when you'reconstantly putting that out
there, what you don't want, thatis the vibrational energy you
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are speaking to the universe,you are putting out into the
universe.
So it's very important for us,each woman individually, to do
the inner work and know what wewant, because we can't put it
out there to the universe aboutwhat we really want, what our
heart's desire is, if we don'teven know it ourselves, and I
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think that a lot of us are notused to doing that.
We're so used to thinking well,I have to pay my dues, I have to
work really hard in order toget this, but it's like, once we
decide to be the financialabundance, to be the perfect
body, to be whatever that lookslike to anybody, to be the
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person we love to see in themirror, we have to learn to be
that, which means you have totake it in as your essence of
who you are.
Wake up in the morning and go.
This is who I am, of who youare.
Wake up in the morning and go.
This is who I am, regardless ofany of the circumstances that
are going on in front of oureyes, because circumstances
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don't matter.
State of being is what matters.
And if you really think aboutthat sentence that I just said,
circumstances don't matter,state of being matters because
it's our state of being that'sattracting everything into our
lives the people, the places,the experiences.
And it's our state of being,who we are as a person, that we
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are attracting.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
And you're right, you're so right about that.
And one of the examples andit's a minor one, but it's
somebody who gets up and says,let's say, they get up in the
morning and they stub their toeon the bed, or you know, we're
going out the door and they'relike, oh my gosh, that's going
to be one of those days.
You've already set it up,you're going to have one of
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those days because you justconvinced yourself it's going to
be one of those days.
You know, attitude is changeseverything.
What is it?
Yeah, attitude and gratitude,two biggest things.
Right To change it.
So what?
What would you suggest to peoplewhen they do, when they they
don't know how to do thatmindset to the point of where
you get up and you're like, oh,it's going to be one of those
days.
How do you?
(20:06):
How?
How would you suggest thatsomeone could snap?
I don't want to say snap out ofit, because I hate that,
because it's not that easysometimes.
It's a matter of just.
I think choice.
Choice is a better word.
How do you choose?
What would you suggest forsomeone to be able to move
forward?
Speaker 2 (20:23):
I think, what every person wants.
They want to be happy.
But most of us don't know howto get to happy because we think
, oh, when I get this I'll behappy, when I have this person
in my life I'll be happy.
But happiness is a state ofbeing.
So if you, the secret tohappiness is to be happy.
Now, if you're feeling down inthe dumps, depressed, sad,
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overwhelmed, stressed out,that's easier said than done.
So what I suggest to my clientsis to create a happy list and I
have my happy list on my phone,because it should be a list of
like 150 things that when youthink about it, it makes you
feel happy.
And it doesn't have to be amaterial thing.
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In fact, material things maybeshouldn't even be on the list
Things like one of the things onmy list is I love fresh brewed
iced tea in a glass with lots ofice.
I love that and that's on myhappy list.
And when I think about oh yeah,it's hot out and I'm drinking
that iced tea, I feel just sorefreshed and I love that,
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because then you're puttingyourself in a feeling and that's
what you want.
Think about, maybe it's yourpet.
When you look at your pet andyou just laugh.
They make you laugh, and thoseare the types of things that you
want on your happy list.
And the reason that I suggestkeeping it on your phone is
because when you start to findthat you are recognized, that
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you are spiraling downward andfeeling any kind of negative
you're.
That's not the time when youwant to sit and think about oh,
let me think about breathing,let me think about happy
thoughts, let me think that'snot the time, because that's not
the energy that you're in andyou can't just flip a switch and
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go from you know zero to 50.
So you want that gradual shift.
So when you have this list,then you can just start going
down.
And this is why I suggest 150things on there, because if
you're really in a bad mood orreally overwhelmed or stressed
or something, it might take awhile for you to get to
something that'll just spark ahappy thought in you.
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Now you only need to hold on toa better feeling thought for 16
seconds for your energy tostart shifting.
And that's what we want.
We want to start shifting thatvibrational energy.
So imagine you're going downthis happy list and you start to
feel your mood lift, whichmeans you're shifting your
energy from negative to positive.
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Now you start, you hold onto itfor 16 seconds and then
something else comes into mindand you hold that for 16 seconds
.
Before you know it, you'reholding onto that more positive
thought and vibrationalfrequency.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
Things will start to shift for you it sounds so easy
and it's just so minimal.
I mean, 16 seconds is really sominimal to be able to make such
a positive and impactful change.
You know it really does, and Ilike the fact that you said
there's times where you're goingto go down the list and each
day is going to be different.
You know, maybe what's onnumber two, the second thing you
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listed, may resonate with youthat day where the next day it
might be whatever number 45 is.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Yeah, like I said, you know iced tea.
When I think of that it puts asmile on my face.
But if it's you know, wintry,cold day, that might not do it
for me you know, I might want tothink about something hot or I
don't know.
You know, going on vacationwhere it's sunny.
So you just it's got to besomething that resonates with
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you.
And I think this work, which isus connecting with our higher
self, that's what it is, that'sall inner work is is knowing
that you have a higher self,that spiritual, being part of
you and we're always connectedto it.
So for us to say, connect toyour higher self, it's, it's,
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we're always connected to it.
So it's a matter of are youblocking it or are you keeping
the way clear?
And it's that, that power thatresonates in every one of us.
And as you start to experiencethat, you're walking around.
I don't know.
There's a song that I thinkit's from Mortal Kombat and it's
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like dun dun, dun, dun, dun,dun dun dun.
And I always think about thatand I think, yes, that's what I.
I get that song in my head andI don't know that's how I read
my happy list with that.
I get that song in my head andI don't know that's how I read
my happy list with that thoughtof that song in my head.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
Well, music does change your mood.
I mean, think about it.
When you hear a sad song, Imean it makes you very somber.
When you hear an upbeat song,you know it brings you.
Music has a way of moving you.
Anyway, you know, and I think weall have that, that powerful
song, I know, whether it wasgoing out on the field or, like
you said, or you're competing,or even just driving in your car
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, all of a sudden the song comeson and it just changes your
whole mindset.
You know, I mean, who doesn'tturn up the radio really loud
when it's something that youreally like?
Right, it's your favorite song.
But you're right, and that's aperfect example of how vibration
and your mood can change.
Which leads me to the nextthing.
I know we've talked a lot aboutyour book, but I want everyone
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to know, our circle of friends,that you also work with people
on an individual basis, one onone, and everything that you're
talking about you have to offerreally does lead down to this.
So why don't we talk about thata little bit?
On what you do offer whenpeople work with you, you know
either in a group or one-on-one,and I know you do it virtually.
(26:06):
So why don't you share a littlebit of that.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Thank you.
Yes, well, I have a group wemeet every week and it's called
I'm not filling enough, right?
The Dojo, because it's a placewhere women meet virtually
online every week and we talkabout these things that look
like they're problems, or youknow, we talk about finances, we
(26:31):
talk about energy, we talkabout, we talk about so many
things, and every week I pick adifferent topic.
So that's a way for women towork with me not just me, though
one-on-one, because every weekI pick a topic and we discuss
that as a group.
It's not like a mastermind where, where we're trying to pull
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something out of people, it's.
It's a.
It's an opportunity foreveryone to be able to have a
voice.
During that time we're togetherto say, gosh, I never thought
about it that way, and it'samazing how, when everyone
starts feeding into theconversation, how so many
different perceptions can comeinto it.
(27:14):
So that's really valuable.
And if you're unable to join uslive, I do have the down
download, the replays availablefor download.
So that's an opportunity.
So you know, I've got everybodyand wherever you want, you want
to join us live every week, youwant to download the replay and
do it that way.
And then, of course, I alsowork with people one-on-one who
(27:37):
have some personal goals orchallenges or struggles that
they want to eliminate, and Iwork with them as well.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
And then why don't you go ahead and give out your
website?
And again, as everybody knows,it's going to be in the links
down below.
But also, if you listen to thepodcast, it'll be embedded into
the podcast.
When you see Nancy's name,it'll be highlighted and you can
click on that and that'll takeyou right to her website too.
But while people are listening,go ahead and give a shout out.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Sure, you can visit me at masteringyourbeliefscom.
Masteringyourbeliefscom.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
That's perfect.
That is perfect.
So I got to ask you I know thatyou have, you got this book
that you just launched and Iknow you've got your events that
you do and you are just growingand thriving, girlfriend.
I mean, good things arehappening for you.
That is so exciting.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
You know, one of the things that's so exciting about
it, though, is it's it's it'snot just about me and it's, I
think, so many of us.
We decide to go into somethinglike, well, I want to do this
because I want to help people,and when you get to that point,
when you realize there's no oneto help, because everyone has
the power within them to bewhoever, whatever they want to
(28:52):
be, it's more aboutcollaborating.
So, for me, it's exciting,because I wake up every day and
think who am I going tocollaborate with today?
You know whether I'm talkingwith someone that get on my
calendar and we have aconversation, a discovery call,
a client I'm working onpresentation for my dojo.
(29:12):
It's all of it fills me up andlights me up in a way where,
sometimes, I feel like I'mfloating on air.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
And I applaud you because the information that
you've shared and, like you said, from your past and secrets,
and to be able to get beyondthat and then create the life
that you not only desire butthat, like you said, you wake up
happy every day, and I know wehad a conversation while we were
scheduling this, this timeframe, to come together and do this.
(29:46):
You said I'm really happy andI'm like you know and I said to
you there's so few people thatcan actually say that can
actually get up every day and go.
You know what?
I'm really happy with my lifeand and I love the fact that you
have reached that point, butyou also share that and help
guide people and it's not amatter of, I think, like you
said, helping is good, but it'salso having that ability to
(30:11):
share the information, to giveother people that ability, to
take it, use it and then try todesign what they need to do to
create their happiness.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
Yeah, because it's not about me saying, oh, you
have to do it this way.
It's about me asking someone sowhat's going on with you?
What would you like to shift,what would you like to change?
And then be there for them whenthey come up against something
that is a block, somethingthat's keeping them from
acknowledging that power withinthem, and as we work together,
(30:49):
they can start to then see ohokay, so this was something I
was telling myself that I canlet go of that now.
And when we do that, it's soamazing how women I literally I
have clients like texting me andjust saying this happened and
that happened and thank you somuch, and, oh my gosh, I can't
wait till our next session.
(31:09):
I mean, I've even had clientswho say, who have said to me I
got so much out of our session,I want to just pay you an extra
something, because that's howgenerous I'm feeling right now.
And you know, the universe istruly abundant.
What we want, our desires,comes to us from expected as
well as unexpected places, whenwe allow ourselves to say you
(31:34):
know, I am part of creation andbecause I'm part of creation, I
have the same creative abilitiesas creation.
And to sit back and createthrough you, instead of
constantly trying to stay onthat treadmill of I got to do
this, I got to do this.
It's time for us to stopexhausting ourselves and know
(31:59):
the power that we have fromwithin.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
You just mentioned something that's pretty profound
.
You're right, because when weare like running on that
treadmill or the hamster wheelor keeps going around and you're
not really going anywhere, itis tiring, and then you get up
and you do it again the next dayand again there has to be that
time where you've got to makethat shift, you've got to make
that change.
And you're right, I loveeverything that you're about and
(32:26):
I love everything that youoffer, and I know everybody that
has worked with you or has readyour book has come away with
something that can definitelyenhance and help them with their
life.
So I'm going to give you thelast two, three minutes to kind
of wrap this up.
But before we do again, ifyou'd like to reach out to Nancy
, it'll be down into thedescription, but also it'll be
(32:48):
in the podcast.
But go ahead, nancy, I'm gonnalet you wrap it up with the last
last two minutes of insight onwhatever you want to offer.
Speaker 2 (32:55):
Excellent, excellent.
I think one of the things thatI would like you to remember, if
nothing else, when you thinkabout what you've heard here
today with Mickey and I, iswhatever you want to do, be or
have you have the ability to dothat, you have the ability to be
(33:15):
that.
But as women, we really deserveto understand that our power
comes from within, not fromwithout.
It's not about how we look.
It's not about what we'reputting on our face or putting
on our body or the clothes thatwe wear.
(33:36):
It's the essence of who we are.
It's our state of being,because when we are walking
around, loving our life, lovingwho we are, loving how we're
showing up that that people feelthat before that you even open
your and people want to bearound someone like that.
(34:00):
So it's not about gender.
Whatever's going on in theworld right now, it's not about
gender.
It's about strength, yieldingto strength, and when we truly
do say, wow, this person knowsmore about this or has more
experience about this than I doand I would like more of this,
or has more experience aboutthis than I do and I would like
(34:20):
more of this, and we allowourselves to let go of those
secrets and not be afraid to sayI don't know how to do this.
I'm reaching out to you becauseI want some advice, I want your
help, I want to work with you,whatever that is.
Let go of the secrets and speakyour voice, share your message,
(34:42):
even if your voice shakes.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
Thank you.
That's perfect, and actually itled me on to something else.
I would like to have you back,because I was thinking of
something when you were talkingand there's a whole nother
podcast we can do on how tobetween being a victim and a
volunteer, these things right,even even in our own life.
(35:08):
So I'd like to have you backand we can definitely discuss
that too.
I know that's something thatyou work very strongly with too,
but thank you.
Thank you, Nancy.
This was really fun.
It's always insightful havingyou on.
I love everything that you'reabout.
I know you've helped so manypeople and you're just kind and
generous.
You always offer a safe placefor people to come and be able
(35:31):
to share things, regardless ofwhat it is, and I appreciate and
applaud you for that.
Speaker 2 (35:38):
Thank you.
Thank you, mickey, and thankyou for everything that you're
doing.
I love your platform.
Keep on sharing.
I'm so happy to be a part of it.
I wish you much success, and Iknow that as we, as women, keep
collaborating and sharing ourthoughts and putting it out
there to the universe and saying, oh my gosh, we could just keep
(36:00):
expanding, we could keep going,I so appreciate being part of
your tribe.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
Me too, me too, you know reason is season in a
lifetime.
You're a lifetime girlfriend.
Thank you All right, you guys.
Thank you so much for beingwith us.
And again, please reach out toNancy.
But it doesn't matter where youare in the world.
You can reach out to hervirtually.
And, again, like I said,everything is embedded down
below or, if you're listening tothe podcast, it'll be all into
(36:29):
her name.
Just click on it, it'll be inthe green highlighted and you
can reach out to her therethrough her website or
collaborate with her in any way,shape or form.
And if you and her book, please, please, please, go find her
book on Amazon.
Also, if you'd like to haveNancy attend some of your events
, actually, nancy, go ahead andsay something, so your book and
you can pop up on the screen.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
Okay, so here's the book Secrets in the Attic.
It's available on Amazon andI'm sure that Mickey will have
the link.
I would also love to talk towomen's groups.
Maybe you've got a book cluband you're looking for that book
to read this month.
If you choose my book, let meknow.
I would be happy to join you inperson or virtually Talk about
(37:13):
the book, pick my brain, ask mequestions.
Whatever it is, this is aboutwomen, empowering women.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
Perfect, all right, thank you so much, everybody.
I'm so glad that you're with usand remember the most
courageous thing you can do isbe yourself.
Until next time, on CoachMickey and Friends, I'll see you
.
Hey, I'm Coach Mickey and I'm so glad that you've
joined us and if this is yourfirst time joining us, come on
in and make yourself comfortable.
And for those of you that joinus on a regular basis, we are so
glad that you do and we are soexcited because I know that many
of you reach out to our gueststhat we have on and we really
appreciate that.
And, again, as you know, whenwe have guests on, they're going
(00:22):
to be embedded, whether you'relistening into the podcast or in
the links down below, and todayis no different.
It's going to be fun andexciting and insightful, and
I've had this guest on beforeand I'm excited to bring her
back because she is on booknumber eight and this one is
incredible, just like all of ourother books, but this one has a
little bit different twist andit's doing very, very well on
(00:46):
Amazon.
I highly recommend that, onceyou hear this YouTube channel or
this podcast, that you pleasego to Amazon and take a look at
what she has to offer after wego through this.
So welcome, Nancy Muller.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
How are you?
Thank you, mickey.
Thank you for having me.
I am fabulous, thank you forasking.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
So book number eight my gosh and I know this one has
is a little bit different thansome of the others, Kind of on
the same lines I love it, I loveit.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Yep, well, this one, book, number eight, it's
different for me because thisone was written as fiction me,
because this one was written asfiction and the previous books
that I've written were more, notreally autobiographical, but
you know, it was more self helpas far as I healed this or went
(01:36):
through this.
This is how I did it and thisis how you can do it here, step
by step.
So this one was different forme because, as I was working on
it and, you know, meditating onit, I kept coming back to this.
One needs to be written asfiction and you know, when
you're writing in a differentstyle and a different kind of
(01:58):
genre, it's, I think, that initself can be a limiting belief
like, oh, can I do this?
And you know, when I sat backand said, all right, I hear that
this is the way it's meant tobe.
So I opened up, you know, thechannel and gosh, this book was
truly downloaded to me throughme.
(02:19):
And when it was all said anddone, you know, when I was
finished editing and sent to thepublisher, I just sat back and
felt like I had birthedsomething really powerful.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
So I'm excited.
Well, I love the title, and thetitle of the book is Secrets in
the Attic.
And yeah, I love it.
So how did you come up withthat?
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Well, I was literally in the attic.
So I was visiting in Ohio.
I was in Ohio, I live inCalifornia and I was visiting
family there and my cousins werepreparing their parents which
would be my aunt and uncle'shouse for to sell, to sell it.
So they were going througheverything and making sure that
(03:05):
you know that they had gonethrough everything and was
getting ready.
So we were up in the attic.
There were three of us, me andtwo cousins, a boy and a girl
and we're going through all thisstuff and, you know, kind of
pulling things out.
And that's when I realized,like whoa, my aunt did not throw
anything away, she kepteverything.
It was so amazing and one of mycousins shoved a box over to me
(03:27):
and said here, you know, gothrough this, just make sure
there was no personalinformation in there.
So I took the lid off the boxand immediately I recognized the
handwriting on the very topletter there and I said looked
at them and I said you guys,this is my mom's handwriting.
What's, what's my mom's stuffdoing in your mom's attic?
(03:50):
And they said well, I don'tknow, let's go through this.
So as we started going throughthe box, we were really kind of
blown away by some of the stuffthat we found.
And I will preface this bysaying growing up, I always felt
like my family meaning me, mysiblings and my parents were
(04:11):
kind of the unwanted part of thefamily.
Like you know, we never had themoney to do anything.
There were five of us kids.
Everyone else had two or onechild and so, you know, we just
didn't fit in.
We were like I wouldn't say theblack sheep, but we just didn't
have what some of the othershad.
So I guess the best way to sayit is I always considered myself
(04:35):
, them I have, and me I have not.
Our family I have not.
So I'm going through this boxand we're pulling out this
information and we're findingnewspaper articles and legal
documents that told us thingsthat we did not ever, ever know
(04:56):
about some of our family members.
And as we sat there, you know,shocked, like, oh my gosh, did
you know this?
No, I didn't know this.
And then one of my cousinslooked at me and she goes well,
I think you know what your nextbook.
Oh my gosh, did you know this?
No, I didn't know this.
And then one of my cousinslooked at me and she goes well,
I think you know what your nextbook's going to be about.
And right then, and there Ilooked at her and I said, yeah,
and I'm going to call it Secretsin the Attic.
So that's the backstory ofwhere the title came from.
(05:22):
And in the book I use the wordattic as a term for the
something tangible.
So the attic in a house istangible.
Right, you can put something ina box, stick it up in the attic
, forget it, don't even thinkabout it.
And the attic in your mind isthe same way, but it's
(05:43):
intangible.
So the attic of our mind issomething where we store all our
thoughts, all our beliefs, allour feelings, all our secrets.
Everything is stored up there,and sometimes we take a look at
it.
Sometimes we don't take a lookat it, but everything that's
stored in our mind is alwaysflowing through us and saying
(06:06):
you can do this, you've got it.
Or who are you kidding?
You can't do that, you don'tknow what you're doing.
And we visit those thoughts andthose secrets in our mind and
we take them out, I think, andlook at them when we feel most
strong.
But when we're not feelingstrong, again they're up there
(06:28):
floating around and they'reinfluencing our belief about who
we can be, who we can't be.
And it's so amazing becauseeveryone has secrets.
Everyone has secrets and wedon't really stop to think about
the secrets that we keep.
And we're taught to keep thesesecrets at a very early age.
(06:48):
For me, a lot of the secretsthat I kept were about the
mental abuse, physical abuse,sexual abuse by the age of 12.
And these were secrets that wehad to keep in our family, that
we had to keep in our family.
So whatever kind of secretswe're keeping, it's because
(07:08):
someone who is teaching ussomething is saying okay, well,
this is not going to be acceptedin polite society or outside of
our home, so we need to keepthese things a secret.
But the more things we keepsecret as children, we don't
really understand why we'redoing it.
And because no one explains whyit's so important to keep these
secrets, we make up a reason.
(07:29):
You know we say, oh, I guessbecause, like I said at the
beginning, we're just notdesirable to the rest of the
family.
So we need to keep this secretand that secret.
And you know, much like you,mickey, I've heard you share an
amazing message that you sharewith people about people who are
(07:50):
binge eaters and they secretlykeep this to themselves and they
don't want anyone to knowwhat's going on.
Going to just out myself andI'm going to see where it goes,
because I'm tired of keeping thesecret and having it weighing
on me in mind, body and soul.
And you know, it could beanything.
(08:12):
It could be you're keeping asecret for your brother about a
blanket that he slept with untilhe was 17.
You know, it's just, we keepsecrets in the family and
because of that it createsbeliefs within our mind and then
as adults, we're eithercontinuing to keep those secrets
or we're learning to speak up,to share.
(08:35):
But when we feel that we don'thave a voice, when we feel that
we can't speak up, that we can'tsay something, because we have
that belief about something thatwe were taught when we were
taught, when we were growing up.
That's why the HarveyWeinsteins of the world, you
know, get away with what theyget away with, and people in the
workplace or you might seesomething that you just don't
(08:57):
agree with at work, but you haveto keep a secret because you're
afraid of losing your job.
And we justify all thesereasons to keep secrets that are
weighing us down in mind, bodyand soul.
So it is my extreme pleasure tobe able to share the message in
this book so that people canreally start thinking about
(09:18):
their own secrets why they'rekeeping them and whether or not
they still want to keep them,and why.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Well, that's really insightful because, you're right
, everybody's got some kind ofsecret that they hold, whether
it's personal or something likeyou said, that they know and it
does.
It weighs on you.
I mean, you have you bringthese through your life and it
could be something, like yousaid, that started as in your
childhood, or even somethingrecent.
And if you're dealingespecially every day, if you
have to deal with, like you said, at work or even within your
(09:49):
family or something that youhave, people you have to be
around on a regular basis, and Ialways tell people you know the
some you take in small doses,you know and you can.
However, it doesn't alleviatethe fact that you're still
harboring or holding somethingthat is still causing mental
anguish or something that is notsitting well with you, causing
(10:11):
mental anguish or something thatis not sitting well with you.
So tell me a little bit aboutthe book on like how it can help
, because you have a lot ofinformation, but also it does go
down the line of helping othersto discover and overcome these
situations.
So tell us a little that well.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
I feel that this book was written as a way to, I
think, because it's fictionyou're not pulled in and felt
like, oh, this is a how-to and Ihave to learn how to do this.
You're able to flow with thestoryline and get caught up with
the main character and the maincharacter in the book, her name
(10:52):
is Bella, and you're able tofollow Bella's journey.
And there are some parts of itwhere you don't really know
where it's going, but it opensup the mind for, oh, I see this
is the situation she was in.
And then it shows Bella how shegot to be in that situation and
how she could decide if she wasready to let it go.
(11:17):
And in the book I refer to thatas a dark night of the soul,
because there are so many of uswho have had a dark night of the
soul, or many dark nights ofthe soul.
I know you got, everybody canresonate right.
Dark nights of the soul.
I know you got, everybody canresonate right.
You get to that point in yourlife where you think, gosh, I
know that I'm not supposed toever have more than I can handle
, but this is just more than Ican handle.
(11:38):
And when we get to that pointwhere we feel like there's more
than we can handle, where wecan't speak up, where we can't,
we don't have a voice, we can'tshare something, it's
overwhelming.
And it's that place where youfeel like you don't have any
choices.
And I know for me, years andyears ago, one of the answers
(12:02):
that I thought was going to workfor me was to study martial
arts, because I thought if Icould learn to fight, if I could
learn to protect myself, thenno one would ever touch me again
, no one would ever hurt meagain.
(12:35):
But as I studied martial artsand was a student, competitor
and teacher in the martial arts,the more I studied the more I
understood that when you canmove from the physical, which is
the fighting part of it, to thenon-physical, to the mindset,
to the philosophies behind it,and understand where your true
power comes from and thateverything is energy, and we tap
into that chi in the body, inthe dojo, in the martial arts,
and you can tap into that chifor every experience that you
want to be empowered around.
(12:55):
And you know, the Dalai Lamasaid it's the Western women that
are going to change the world.
But women can't change theworld until every woman knows
who she is and where her truepower comes from.
And this is something that I gothrough in the book and it just
it gives the reader anopportunity to say, oh yeah, I
(13:18):
can resonate with that and someof the feedback that I'm getting
.
People are sharing things withme that I didn't even see in the
book.
So it's really exciting whenI'm getting this feedback and
having women say I read this andI resonated with this and I
immediately said, okay, this issomething that I want to change
(13:38):
in my life and yeah, it's, it's.
I really feel that this is amessage that came through me for
other people.
It's not about me, it's, it'sfor other women for other people
.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
It's not about me, it's, it's for other women.
Well, having something to beable to resonate with is
powerful.
You know.
It's like anything else whenyou, when you watch something or
, like you said, you readsomething.
If you can have that, if youcan identify with what they're
going through and then apply ittowards your own life, there's
the lesson right there to beable to make that recognition.
And then, you know, take whatyou need from it and then move
forward.
And that's that's amazingbecause, like you said,
(14:16):
everybody's got their ownjourney that they're going
through or whatever.
Whatever the path they'rethey're trying to get through,
is is going to be able to helpthem if they identify with what
you're writing about, and thenthey can move them to go forward
.
And you're right, you know,women are amazing because every
time I've ever done any kind ofevents or we've done stuff
(14:37):
together I mean even you and I,with our collaboration you know
we always say what do you need,what can I do?
You know how can we collaboratetogether?
And we do, we come together.
You know, one of my favoritequotes that I read and I use it
often is you know, snowflakesare fragile, but look what they
can do.
When they stick together, theycan create an avalanche, and
(14:59):
it's one of those things wherewe have to recognize that we can
.
We've got a lot of empowermentand ability to be able to come
together, not only for ourselvesas individuals, but also when
we collaborate and do thingswith each other, you know, to
make that difference.
That is really exciting.
I love this.
So what are some of thefavorite things about this book?
(15:22):
I mean, like you said, you kindof it came to you as a download
, and I love that, because whenyou get that and I know what
that download is it's just likeyou can't get it out on the
paper fast enough and it justfeels oh God doesn't it.
So what was some of yourfavorite things that you went oh
my gosh, this is awesome whenyou were writing it.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
One of the things that I really got excited about
was pulling there's.
Well, as an author, I wasalways taught taught, I don't
know, 100 years ago, whensomeone started teaching me how
to write um that an authorshould always write something
that they know about, that theyknow firsthand, so it should be
(16:03):
information that you're familiarwith.
So there was a lot of me thatis pulled into the character,
but a lot of I shouldn't say alot of me that is pulled into
the character, but a lot of Ishouldn't say a lot of me.
I will change that to a lot ofmy experiences.
And because there were a lot ofmy experiences, one of the
things for me was how excited Ifelt when I was writing this
(16:28):
book.
It was, it was.
It was almost like there wassomething in me going yeah, and
then remember this and yeah, no,you know, and I'm like, yes,
and if I can convey thatexcitement and that power to
other women or anyone who readsthis book and you know I talk a
lot about women, women, women.
(16:49):
But this book isn't just forwomen.
It could be for men who havewomen in their life, women that
they're trying to understand,women that are no longer in
their life women that they feelthey've been wronged by, because
it gives us both an opportunityto see both sides of it than
(17:09):
the opportunity to see bothsides of it.
Because the thing abouteverything that's going on in
the United States right nowthere's a lot of fear mongering
going on about what if thishappens and what if that happens
and women's rights are gonna betaken away.
But the thing is is we arenever going to stand in our
power if we are concentrating onthe fear.
(17:31):
So we have to know what we wantfirst of all, instead of
concentrating on what we don'twant.
So most of us were taught to,you know, speak every day and
say I don't want this to happen,I don't want, I don't want to
lose this, and when you'reconstantly putting that out
there, what you don't want, thatis the vibrational energy you
(17:52):
are speaking to the universe,you are putting out into the
universe.
So it's very important for us,each woman individually, to do
the inner work and know what wewant, because we can't put it
out there to the universe aboutwhat we really want, what our
heart's desire is, if we don'teven know it ourselves, and I
(18:14):
think that a lot of us are notused to doing that.
We're so used to thinking well,I have to pay my dues, I have to
work really hard in order toget this, but it's like, once we
decide to be the financialabundance, to be the perfect
body, to be whatever that lookslike to anybody, to be the
(18:37):
person we love to see in themirror, we have to learn to be
that, which means you have totake it in as your essence of
who you are.
Wake up in the morning and go.
This is who I am, of who youare.
Wake up in the morning and go.
This is who I am, regardless ofany of the circumstances that
are going on in front of oureyes, because circumstances
(18:57):
don't matter.
State of being is what matters.
And if you really think aboutthat sentence that I just said,
circumstances don't matter,state of being matters because
it's our state of being that'sattracting everything into our
lives the people, the places,the experiences.
And it's our state of being,who we are as a person, that we
(19:22):
are attracting.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
And you're right, you're so right about that.
And one of the examples andit's a minor one, but it's
somebody who gets up and says,let's say, they get up in the
morning and they stub their toeon the bed, or you know, we're
going out the door and they'relike, oh my gosh, that's going
to be one of those days.
You've already set it up,you're going to have one of
(19:45):
those days because you justconvinced yourself it's going to
be one of those days.
You know, attitude is changeseverything.
What is it?
Yeah, attitude and gratitude,two biggest things.
Right To change it.
So what?
What would you suggest to peoplewhen they do, when they they
don't know how to do thatmindset to the point of where
you get up and you're like, oh,it's going to be one of those
days.
How do you?
(20:06):
How?
How would you suggest thatsomeone could snap?
I don't want to say snap out ofit, because I hate that,
because it's not that easysometimes.
It's a matter of just.
I think choice.
Choice is a better word.
How do you choose?
What would you suggest forsomeone to be able to move
forward?
Speaker 2 (20:23):
I think, what every person wants.
They want to be happy.
But most of us don't know howto get to happy because we think
, oh, when I get this I'll behappy, when I have this person
in my life I'll be happy.
But happiness is a state ofbeing.
So if you, the secret tohappiness is to be happy.
Now, if you're feeling down inthe dumps, depressed, sad,
(20:48):
overwhelmed, stressed out,that's easier said than done.
So what I suggest to my clientsis to create a happy list and I
have my happy list on my phone,because it should be a list of
like 150 things that when youthink about it, it makes you
feel happy.
And it doesn't have to be amaterial thing.
(21:10):
In fact, material things maybeshouldn't even be on the list
Things like one of the things onmy list is I love fresh brewed
iced tea in a glass with lots ofice.
I love that and that's on myhappy list.
And when I think about oh yeah,it's hot out and I'm drinking
that iced tea, I feel just sorefreshed and I love that,
(21:31):
because then you're puttingyourself in a feeling and that's
what you want.
Think about, maybe it's yourpet.
When you look at your pet andyou just laugh.
They make you laugh, and thoseare the types of things that you
want on your happy list.
And the reason that I suggestkeeping it on your phone is
because when you start to findthat you are recognized, that
(21:53):
you are spiraling downward andfeeling any kind of negative
you're.
That's not the time when youwant to sit and think about oh,
let me think about breathing,let me think about happy
thoughts, let me think that'snot the time, because that's not
the energy that you're in andyou can't just flip a switch and
(22:14):
go from you know zero to 50.
So you want that gradual shift.
So when you have this list,then you can just start going
down.
And this is why I suggest 150things on there, because if
you're really in a bad mood orreally overwhelmed or stressed
or something, it might take awhile for you to get to
something that'll just spark ahappy thought in you.
(22:37):
Now you only need to hold on toa better feeling thought for 16
seconds for your energy tostart shifting.
And that's what we want.
We want to start shifting thatvibrational energy.
So imagine you're going downthis happy list and you start to
feel your mood lift, whichmeans you're shifting your
energy from negative to positive.
(22:58):
Now you start, you hold onto itfor 16 seconds and then
something else comes into mindand you hold that for 16 seconds
.
Before you know it, you'reholding onto that more positive
thought and vibrationalfrequency.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
Things will start to shift for you it sounds so easy
and it's just so minimal.
I mean, 16 seconds is really sominimal to be able to make such
a positive and impactful change.
You know it really does, and Ilike the fact that you said
there's times where you're goingto go down the list and each
day is going to be different.
You know, maybe what's onnumber two, the second thing you
(23:36):
listed, may resonate with youthat day where the next day it
might be whatever number 45 is.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Yeah, like I said, you know iced tea.
When I think of that it puts asmile on my face.
But if it's you know, wintry,cold day, that might not do it
for me you know, I might want tothink about something hot or I
don't know.
You know, going on vacationwhere it's sunny.
So you just it's got to besomething that resonates with
(24:03):
you.
And I think this work, which isus connecting with our higher
self, that's what it is, that'sall inner work is is knowing
that you have a higher self,that spiritual, being part of
you and we're always connectedto it.
So for us to say, connect toyour higher self, it's, it's,
(24:25):
we're always connected to it.
So it's a matter of are youblocking it or are you keeping
the way clear?
And it's that, that power thatresonates in every one of us.
And as you start to experiencethat, you're walking around.
I don't know.
There's a song that I thinkit's from Mortal Kombat and it's
(24:48):
like dun dun, dun, dun, dun,dun dun dun.
And I always think about thatand I think, yes, that's what I.
I get that song in my head andI don't know that's how I read
my happy list with that.
I get that song in my head andI don't know that's how I read
my happy list with that thoughtof that song in my head.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
Well, music does change your mood.
I mean, think about it.
When you hear a sad song, Imean it makes you very somber.
When you hear an upbeat song,you know it brings you.
Music has a way of moving you.
Anyway, you know, and I think weall have that, that powerful
song, I know, whether it wasgoing out on the field or, like
you said, or you're competing,or even just driving in your car
(25:23):
, all of a sudden the song comeson and it just changes your
whole mindset.
You know, I mean, who doesn'tturn up the radio really loud
when it's something that youreally like?
Right, it's your favorite song.
But you're right, and that's aperfect example of how vibration
and your mood can change.
Which leads me to the nextthing.
I know we've talked a lot aboutyour book, but I want everyone
(25:45):
to know, our circle of friends,that you also work with people
on an individual basis, one onone, and everything that you're
talking about you have to offerreally does lead down to this.
So why don't we talk about thata little bit?
On what you do offer whenpeople work with you, you know
either in a group or one-on-one,and I know you do it virtually.
(26:06):
So why don't you share a littlebit of that.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Thank you.
Yes, well, I have a group wemeet every week and it's called
I'm not filling enough, right?
The Dojo, because it's a placewhere women meet virtually
online every week and we talkabout these things that look
like they're problems, or youknow, we talk about finances, we
(26:31):
talk about energy, we talkabout, we talk about so many
things, and every week I pick adifferent topic.
So that's a way for women towork with me not just me, though
one-on-one, because every weekI pick a topic and we discuss
that as a group.
It's not like a mastermind where, where we're trying to pull
(26:53):
something out of people, it's.
It's a.
It's an opportunity foreveryone to be able to have a
voice.
During that time we're togetherto say, gosh, I never thought
about it that way, and it'samazing how, when everyone
starts feeding into theconversation, how so many
different perceptions can comeinto it.
(27:14):
So that's really valuable.
And if you're unable to join uslive, I do have the down
download, the replays availablefor download.
So that's an opportunity.
So you know, I've got everybodyand wherever you want, you want
to join us live every week, youwant to download the replay and
do it that way.
And then, of course, I alsowork with people one-on-one who
(27:37):
have some personal goals orchallenges or struggles that
they want to eliminate, and Iwork with them as well.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
And then why don't you go ahead and give out your
website?
And again, as everybody knows,it's going to be in the links
down below.
But also, if you listen to thepodcast, it'll be embedded into
the podcast.
When you see Nancy's name,it'll be highlighted and you can
click on that and that'll takeyou right to her website too.
But while people are listening,go ahead and give a shout out.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Sure, you can visit me at masteringyourbeliefscom.
Masteringyourbeliefscom.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
That's perfect.
That is perfect.
So I got to ask you I know thatyou have, you got this book
that you just launched and Iknow you've got your events that
you do and you are just growingand thriving, girlfriend.
I mean, good things arehappening for you.
That is so exciting.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
You know, one of the things that's so exciting about
it, though, is it's it's it'snot just about me and it's, I
think, so many of us.
We decide to go into somethinglike, well, I want to do this
because I want to help people,and when you get to that point,
when you realize there's no oneto help, because everyone has
the power within them to bewhoever, whatever they want to
(28:52):
be, it's more aboutcollaborating.
So, for me, it's exciting,because I wake up every day and
think who am I going tocollaborate with today?
You know whether I'm talkingwith someone that get on my
calendar and we have aconversation, a discovery call,
a client I'm working onpresentation for my dojo.
(29:12):
It's all of it fills me up andlights me up in a way where,
sometimes, I feel like I'mfloating on air.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
And I applaud you because the information that
you've shared and, like you said, from your past and secrets,
and to be able to get beyondthat and then create the life
that you not only desire butthat, like you said, you wake up
happy every day, and I know wehad a conversation while we were
scheduling this, this timeframe, to come together and do this.
(29:46):
You said I'm really happy andI'm like you know and I said to
you there's so few people thatcan actually say that can
actually get up every day and go.
You know what?
I'm really happy with my lifeand and I love the fact that you
have reached that point, butyou also share that and help
guide people and it's not amatter of, I think, like you
said, helping is good, but it'salso having that ability to
(30:11):
share the information, to giveother people that ability, to
take it, use it and then try todesign what they need to do to
create their happiness.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
Yeah, because it's not about me saying, oh, you
have to do it this way.
It's about me asking someone sowhat's going on with you?
What would you like to shift,what would you like to change?
And then be there for them whenthey come up against something
that is a block, somethingthat's keeping them from
acknowledging that power withinthem, and as we work together,
(30:49):
they can start to then see ohokay, so this was something I
was telling myself that I canlet go of that now.
And when we do that, it's soamazing how women I literally I
have clients like texting me andjust saying this happened and
that happened and thank you somuch, and, oh my gosh, I can't
wait till our next session.
(31:09):
I mean, I've even had clientswho say, who have said to me I
got so much out of our session,I want to just pay you an extra
something, because that's howgenerous I'm feeling right now.
And you know, the universe istruly abundant.
What we want, our desires,comes to us from expected as
well as unexpected places, whenwe allow ourselves to say you
(31:34):
know, I am part of creation andbecause I'm part of creation, I
have the same creative abilitiesas creation.
And to sit back and createthrough you, instead of
constantly trying to stay onthat treadmill of I got to do
this, I got to do this.
It's time for us to stopexhausting ourselves and know
(31:59):
the power that we have fromwithin.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
You just mentioned something that's pretty profound
.
You're right, because when weare like running on that
treadmill or the hamster wheelor keeps going around and you're
not really going anywhere, itis tiring, and then you get up
and you do it again the next dayand again there has to be that
time where you've got to makethat shift, you've got to make
that change.
And you're right, I loveeverything that you're about and
(32:26):
I love everything that youoffer, and I know everybody that
has worked with you or has readyour book has come away with
something that can definitelyenhance and help them with their
life.
So I'm going to give you thelast two, three minutes to kind
of wrap this up.
But before we do again, ifyou'd like to reach out to Nancy
, it'll be down into thedescription, but also it'll be
(32:48):
in the podcast.
But go ahead, nancy, I'm gonnalet you wrap it up with the last
last two minutes of insight onwhatever you want to offer.
Speaker 2 (32:55):
Excellent, excellent.
I think one of the things thatI would like you to remember, if
nothing else, when you thinkabout what you've heard here
today with Mickey and I, iswhatever you want to do, be or
have you have the ability to dothat, you have the ability to be
(33:15):
that.
But as women, we really deserveto understand that our power
comes from within, not fromwithout.
It's not about how we look.
It's not about what we'reputting on our face or putting
on our body or the clothes thatwe wear.
(33:36):
It's the essence of who we are.
It's our state of being,because when we are walking
around, loving our life, lovingwho we are, loving how we're
showing up that that people feelthat before that you even open
your and people want to bearound someone like that.
(34:00):
So it's not about gender.
Whatever's going on in theworld right now, it's not about
gender.
It's about strength, yieldingto strength, and when we truly
do say, wow, this person knowsmore about this or has more
experience about this than I doand I would like more of this,
or has more experience aboutthis than I do and I would like
(34:20):
more of this, and we allowourselves to let go of those
secrets and not be afraid to sayI don't know how to do this.
I'm reaching out to you becauseI want some advice, I want your
help, I want to work with you,whatever that is.
Let go of the secrets and speakyour voice, share your message,
(34:42):
even if your voice shakes.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
Thank you.
That's perfect, and actually itled me on to something else.
I would like to have you back,because I was thinking of
something when you were talkingand there's a whole nother
podcast we can do on how tobetween being a victim and a
volunteer, these things right,even even in our own life.
(35:08):
So I'd like to have you backand we can definitely discuss
that too.
I know that's something thatyou work very strongly with too,
but thank you.
Thank you, Nancy.
This was really fun.
It's always insightful havingyou on.
I love everything that you'reabout.
I know you've helped so manypeople and you're just kind and
generous.
You always offer a safe placefor people to come and be able
(35:31):
to share things, regardless ofwhat it is, and I appreciate and
applaud you for that.
Speaker 2 (35:38):
Thank you.
Thank you, mickey, and thankyou for everything that you're
doing.
I love your platform.
Keep on sharing.
I'm so happy to be a part of it.
I wish you much success, and Iknow that as we, as women, keep
collaborating and sharing ourthoughts and putting it out
there to the universe and saying, oh my gosh, we could just keep
(36:00):
expanding, we could keep going,I so appreciate being part of
your tribe.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
Me too, me too, you know reason is season in a
lifetime.
You're a lifetime girlfriend.
Thank you All right, you guys.
Thank you so much for beingwith us.
And again, please reach out toNancy.
But it doesn't matter where youare in the world.
You can reach out to hervirtually.
And, again, like I said,everything is embedded down
below or, if you're listening tothe podcast, it'll be all into
(36:29):
her name.
Just click on it, it'll be inthe green highlighted and you
can reach out to her therethrough her website or
collaborate with her in any way,shape or form.
And if you and her book, please, please, please, go find her
book on Amazon.
Also, if you'd like to haveNancy attend some of your events
, actually, nancy, go ahead andsay something, so your book and
you can pop up on the screen.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
Okay, so here's the book Secrets in the Attic.
It's available on Amazon andI'm sure that Mickey will have
the link.
I would also love to talk towomen's groups.
Maybe you've got a book cluband you're looking for that book
to read this month.
If you choose my book, let meknow.
I would be happy to join you inperson or virtually Talk about
(37:13):
the book, pick my brain, ask mequestions.
Whatever it is, this is aboutwomen, empowering women.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
Perfect, all right, thank you so much, everybody.
I'm so glad that you're with usand remember the most
courageous thing you can do isbe yourself.
Until next time, on CoachMickey and Friends, I'll see you
.
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