October 21, 2025 • 48 mins
When life feels heavy and hustle never stops, how do you slow down and heal?
Breanna Snyder (aka Charlie Lux), founder of Charlie Lux Beauty (https://www.charlieluxbeauty.com/), joins Erica Rawls to share how she merged beauty with healing and found purpose through faith, community, and self-care. From creating 3D areola reconstruction tattoos for breast-cancer survivors to mentoring future estheticians, Breanna is helping women feel whole again. Inside and out.
In this uplifting and transparent conversation, Erica and Breanna talk about trusting God’s timing, listening to your body, and learning to be softer with yourself.
You’ll learn:
•How Breanna turned beauty into a path for healing and empowerment
•The powerful story behind her paramedical tattoo artistry
•Why women must stop smiling through multiple workloads
•How to overcome comparison and hustle guilt
•Building community over competition in the beauty industry
•The importance of faith, journaling, and slowing down
Connect with Breanna Snyder
Location: 5006 Lenker St, Mechanicsburg, PA 17050, USA
Website: https://www.charlieluxbeauty.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charlieluxbeauty/
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Hey you! We have a great episode that you are about
to watch.
I had the privilege of sittingdown with Brianna Snyder, also
known as Charlie Lux.
She owns an amazing beauticianbusiness.
Now, let me share something withyou.
When we had our conversationbefore we actually recorded, we
(00:20):
were going to talk aboutadversity.
You know, adversity that smallbusiness owners actually have.
However, we were actually took aleft turn and we started talking
about just how to put yourselffirst.
Because us as small businessowners, when it comes to putting
yourself first, that's a foreignconcept.
And then yet when it comes topersonal things like avoiding
(00:41):
your friends or just puttingthem to the back burner and just
missing the important things inlife, well, when I tell you we
got raw and authentic about thatconversation, I promise you you
do not want to miss it.
And do me a favor, I would loveto know what you thought of it.
And meet me in the comments.
(01:20):
Time out for that.
We are no longer going to beworking by the old rules.
We're going to create our ownones, okay?
Very good new ones.
So cheers to you from jugglingmultiple flames with torches and
making your own rules.
Brianna.
Yes.
No, the funny part is I want tocall you Charlie so bad.
You could call me Charlie.
Because your branding is sophenomenal.
(01:42):
Thank you.
Yes.
Brianna Snyder is sitting downand having coffee with me.
With the one and only coffeewith E.
Yes.
Thank you so much.
I appreciate it.
No, thank you for inviting me.
Yeah, you're welcome.
So it was your light thatattracted me to you.
Okay.
And we were talking before weactually started recording.
(02:04):
Like, where did we actuallymeet?
Like, how did we get connected?
So you booked an appointmentbecause you snarled.
SPEAKER_01 (02:11):
Yes, because of the marketing was that great.
Thank you so much.
You were so welcome.
Um, so you came, uh, we did yourbrows, they look amazing.
They do look amazing.
We had a good conversation.
We really did.
And then we found that weactually are connected through
mutual people.
Yeah.
And how I don't know how we justdidn't come across because we
know a lot of people.
(02:32):
And then uh that is crazy.
Yeah, we know a lot of mutuals.
We have a lot of mutuals aroundus.
So and then I don't know, justsocial media, and we just kept
chatting.
Yeah, yeah.
Well, you're just a beautifulperson.
SPEAKER_00 (02:43):
Thank you.
Yeah, for sure.
Yes.
I mean, externally as well asinternally.
So I was attracted to your yourlight.
And then when we had thatconversation, I was like, oh my
gosh, she is my person.
Where have you been all my life?
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (02:56):
Oh, just hiding under a rock.
Trying to build up brands andbees big and beautiful like you,
you know?
SPEAKER_00 (03:02):
Girls, stop, stop it.
So when we were doing ourbrewing, we were talking about
um adversity.
But first, before we get intothat, because a lot of people
may not know who you are.
Imagine that, you know, someonenot knowing who Charlie Lux is.
What?
Just over Gal from Harrisburg,Princeton.
You are, but you've gotoverclaimed so much.
(03:22):
So can you share with us alittle bit about your journey?
Because just so you know, uh, weshare this.
Our platform, it's young,upwardly mobile, ambitious women
who are go-getters, right?
Women in leadership overall,between the ages of 25 to 35.
We are literally going to betheir mentors today.
Okay?
Love that first.
SPEAKER_01 (03:43):
Yes, yes.
That's honestly like kind ofwhat I stand for.
You know, as people do know, Ido own uh Charlie Lux Beauty and
Charlie Lux PMU.
Yeah.
Um but beauty is just surfacelevel.
It is.
It's more like empowering.
Um, it's kind of like combiningbeauty with healing.
That's more what I think I standfor.
(04:04):
So Barbara's talking about beingmore of a mentorship today and
being mentors to uh youngerwomen, older women, our age
women, middle-aged women, allthe women.
Yeah.
Um, that literally stands forwhat I want to do, like my
mission for my business.
Um empowering, healing, growing.
It's personal.
(04:25):
So it's more like buildingconfidence.
SPEAKER_00 (04:28):
Yeah.
So when you say you want toempower, like how do you want to
empower?
Because there's different waysthat you can empower someone.
Like, what do you how do you seeyourself empowering the people
that you interact with?
SPEAKER_01 (04:37):
Definitely empowering by bringing uh women
together, um, trying to form acommunity.
Because I feel like that'sthat's something we need to
bridge.
We need to bridge that gap.
Yeah.
Um, especially in the beautyindustry, um, or just women and
business in general, um, forminga community, forming that
support, letting people know,like, hey, you have somebody
(05:00):
here in your corner.
Um, healing as far as more onthe surface with my my clients
that are in the um survivors forbreast cancer, my paramedical
side.
SPEAKER_00 (05:13):
Yeah, I did.
I was so my assistant and I, wewere talking about your your
bio, and that's how you gotstarted, isn't it?
Well, I got started with thelashes.
SPEAKER_01 (05:22):
So aesthetician, I started with aesthetics.
Okay.
Um, and then as I grew listeningto my clients, what do they
want?
Um, all the services that Ioffer literally is from my
clients, like telling me like,we put our trust in you, we love
you, we only want to come toyou.
So this is what we need.
So I listened.
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SPEAKER_01 (05:59):
Um, as I got into my um permanent makeup tattoo
journey, um, I realized that Ihave a history in my family of
breast cancer survivors.
And then to understand, um, whenthey undergo the massectomy
surgery, they're left withnothing.
Right.
Just a scar to remind them ofwhat they have been through.
(06:21):
Um so through that, with mytattoo artistry, I was like,
okay, how can we take thisknowledge and my expertise in
this and apply it to the beautyindustry, make people feel
confident.
Um, so I took a class, actuallysaid two passes, um, to learn
paramedical areolareconstruction.
(06:42):
So I do 3D nipple and um areolatattoos.
Really?
For those patients, yes.
So after they get the clearancefrom their doctor, they undergo
the surgeries and all thethings, um, they can come to me
and I'll tattoo 3D nipples andareolas on them.
Wow.
That looks realistic.
It does.
It looks literally realistic.
(07:02):
And these are clients that Idon't post.
Um, it's kind of like if youknow you know situation.
Right.
Um, but there are some that haveread are uh broken uh written
beautiful reviews on my um myInstagram pages or um internet?
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (07:22):
Um you have reviews.
SPEAKER_01 (07:25):
That is awesome.
Yeah, but I don't like to sharethat type of stuff because it's
more it's more intimate.
SPEAKER_00 (07:30):
No, okay.
Stop.
Time out.
It's more intimate than that.
Right.
So here's the thing, but youshould be sharing it so people
know that you have offered thisservice because that's a
beautiful thing.
True.
So how many people do you knowthat are out here doing
reconstructive um breast area?
What is it, areola?
Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_01 (07:48):
In this area, like locally in the area.
Is it wrong with me speakingtoday?
I don't know.
I think we're both having alittle I definitely separate
that.
SPEAKER_00 (07:56):
Too much coffee for me or something.
Good lord.
Yeah.
But okay, so the reconstructivepart of it, that's something
that more people should knowabout.
SPEAKER_01 (08:04):
Yes.
So there's not too many peoplein our area that offer it.
Right.
Um, you have to go through likea lot of training to like make
it look realistic, you know?
Because you don't want to justslap something on there and it's
just like, well, what is that?
Yeah.
So the the whole point behind itis to bring confidence back to
your client.
Um, they went through a crazyjourney.
(08:27):
Crazy journey.
Um, the fact that they're stillhere.
Number one, first and foremost.
But then once they get to thatpart, they under they go through
the surgeries, they go througheverything they're opposed to.
Looking at themselves, theydon't look the same.
You know?
Um women want to feel likewomen.
And that's the number one thingthat I've gotten back, like the
(08:48):
feedback that I've gotten frommy clients is I just want to
look like a woman again.
So some of them may get implantsdone.
Some of them won't.
Um but whichever way that theygo, they always come back and
say, when I do do it, they'relike tears, water works, you
know.
They're they're grateful.
(09:08):
Um, I get big hugs.
I get you do.
I do.
Yeah.
But that's why I don't showcasethat side so much because like I
said, it's like more of like, ifyou know, you know.
I do put it out there that I doit.
I just don't blast it on socialmedia because they don't want
that.
They love the privacy, but theyalso show more than enough
(09:28):
gratitude.
Um, I think that I'm a part ofsome of their communities as
well.
And uh I get people calling allthe time about it.
SPEAKER_00 (09:36):
Is it possible to market it without actually
bringing like real life examplesin?
You see me pushing?
Yes, Sado.
SPEAKER_01 (09:44):
But here's the thing Yeah, Instagram is so weird with
the content.
So even if I don't get theperson's face and I just try to
like, oh, here's a before and anafter, I can't say how many
times I was flagged.
And literally like gotten to thepoint where they were like,
we're gonna take your page downif you post something like this.
(10:05):
So I don't even do it.
Um even when I do some of the umthe I turn hearts into well
nipples hearts.
I do those tattoos as well.
And that's actually what startedbecoming how it got became
popular because I startedposting the areola
reconstruction tattoos, and thenyou know, it became like a a
thing where girls were like, Oh,well, what can you do hearts
(10:26):
with this?
I was like, Yeah, actually Ican.
And then I'll post that contentand I'll get flagged.
So I just don't even post any ofit at all.
Like I don't even push the heartuh tattoos on the nipples.
SPEAKER_00 (10:38):
So hold on.
So you're saying that peoplecome in, I'm being very, I'm
very naive.
Yes, I don't care.
You could laugh at me, Brie.
So people come in and actuallyget like the the tattoos just
because on it- nipples?
Yes.
Really?
SPEAKER_01 (10:54):
Yeah, they're just like, hey, can you turn this
into a shape?
And I'll do it.
SPEAKER_00 (10:58):
Huh.
Okay, y'all.
I just learned something today.
Yes.
You can call it.
SPEAKER_01 (11:04):
There's a lot that I do that I don't pose.
Like everybody thinks I just dobrows and lashes because that's
what I push the most, butthere's a lot behind it.
SPEAKER_00 (11:11):
So you do permanent makeup?
Yes.
Okay, got it.
Tiny tattoos.
Okay, okay, got it.
So y'all can call me naive ifyou want to, but that was just
something I had to know.
Like, okay, because ourconversation is literally we're
gonna be peeling um back somelayers here and allowing people
into our private conversations.
I was like, wait a second, youmean people really do that?
I don't understand.
Okay, so why do people do that,Brie?
(11:33):
And I promise then we'll getinto this conversation.
I just need to know.
I don't know.
Oh, really?
No, I don't know.
So is it fat or is it oh, it'scool?
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (11:45):
I get them all the time.
I get like literally, likeweekly.
Yeah.
I won't say daily because that'snot what I push, but for sure,
weekly.
Wow.
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (11:57):
Okay, okay.
You want to scar?
Do you want to hurt?
So I need to know.
Am I the only one that did notknow?
Am I the only one out here inthese streets being naive?
Because I really did not know.
SPEAKER_01 (12:07):
No.
SPEAKER_00 (12:08):
I did not know that was a thing.
Yeah.
So, but the beautiful part aboutit is you allow women to get
something that they feel asthough is the most sacred piece
of their body, and that is by umgetting their breast back.
You know what I mean?
After going such a um a a verytraumatic experience, you know.
(12:29):
However, the blessing is they'rehere, they're a survivor.
That's the beauty in the wholething.
And you're giving them a secondchance of feeling feminine
again.
That part.
So I love that.
SPEAKER_01 (12:39):
It's like literally what I said, um bridging that
gap, combining beauty andhealing um with a little
sprinkle of confidence.
Yeah.
You know.
Um, no matter what service thatI do, anybody that walks through
my door, I may know them, I maynot know them, like you.
For example, when you came in, Ididn't know you before you came
in, you know?
But treat everybody like you.
(13:00):
Literally.
And we connected instantly.
And it's like, to me, it's likeum, I don't know what's going on
behind closed doors.
Whoever walks in my door, I wantthem to feel beautiful, not only
on the inside but the outside,whenever they walk out of my
door.
Yeah.
So you you know how our sessionsare.
We talk, try to get to know you.
(13:22):
Um there have been times whereclients have come in and we
didn't even do a service.
Like we didn't even get to it.
Because the conversation was soraw and needed that I've
literally had clients say, Ijust wanted to talk to you.
I've literally had clients say,I couldn't wait to come to my
(13:43):
appointment just to talk to you.
I've had clients ask if we couldpray.
I've asked clients or clientshave asked me, like, I just want
to tell you what's going on inwe waterworks.
And it was like, you know what,we'll get to the service
tomorrow or another day.
But this moment right here, it'sauthentic, it was needed, and I
(14:03):
realized who I am now.
That's why I want to build thatcommunity.
Yeah.
I feel like sometimes like we gothrough the life journey of life
and then we try to figure outlike what's my purpose here.
I do think that I'm a naturalhealer.
Um I think that I do bring acertain aura and light to the
table, hints as to what you evensaid about me.
(14:26):
And so why should I take that?
Thank you so much.
You're wild.
Um, but these are all thingsthat I stand for, genuinely.
And anybody that has comethrough my doors or come through
the shop, whether it was here orPhiladelphia, wherever it is
that I'm at, like I've gottenthese same responses.
These same responses are in myreviews on my booking site, on
(14:47):
my website, on Instagram, youknow.
So it's kind of like, wow, youreally are who they say you are.
Yeah.
And then after going throughthat, after doing shadow work,
after spending time with myselfand really trying to understand
who is Brianna, it was like,okay, God, I get it.
We have these conversations withGod all the time.
God, what I'm, what are you,what are you showing me here?
What are you putting us through?
(15:07):
Um, what are you putting methrough these obstacles for
these situations?
And it's just like, okay.
When you spend those times byyourself, you ask God for signs.
You ask God.
Sometimes you might not hearthem right away, but then you
start listening.
Signs start showing.
I'm like, okay, I get it.
I get it.
You're showing me this for areason.
You're putting this in front ofme for a reason.
You're putting these clients infront of me for a reason.
(15:27):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (15:28):
And so you believe that too, because I believe that
too.
Hey, I need to take two secondsto interrupt this wonderful show
that you're watching.
I run a real estate business,and the way we fund this podcast
is through that business, theErica Ross team.
I would love it if you wouldjust give us one opportunity to
service your real estate needs,whether you are in Central PA or
around the entire world.
(15:49):
Think of us first so we can helpyou.
Now back to the show.
So everyone, ooh, Bion, this isreally good.
Okay.
So you know how people, there'sa lot of people that you run
into that have this crab in thebarrel mentality, right?
There's not enough foreverybody.
Yes.
I truly believe that each personthat's in their design industry
(16:10):
or profession, there areparticular people that you're
going to naturally gravitate to,right?
I call them your avatar or yourideal client, right?
So because of that fact, andsome of it I believe is like um
ordained, you know, um, becauseI do believe in God.
I think God ordains you to workor bring other people into your
(16:32):
life, and it is for, in my case,real estate.
But I also believe there'sanother purpose attached or um
attached to that assignment.
So that's why I take everyclient that I work with so, so
seriously.
And sometimes when it'schallenging, I'm like, okay,
what is the lesson I'm to learnfrom this interaction all the
(16:53):
time, every last time.
So for you to say that, girl, Igot goosebumps.
SPEAKER_01 (16:58):
It's almost like we're here in the physical form,
right?
Our careers is our job.
This is what we're doing in thephysical form.
But it's almost like he uses usas a tool to still fulfill the
purpose he is giving for us whenwe're born into this world.
(17:20):
But also given that blessing ofwhat we want to do.
So it's like he's giving us thatfreedom, like the freedom, like,
oh, you know what, I lovebeauty, I want to do this.
Oh, I love real estate, I wantto do this.
Okay.
But this is I'm gonna give youthis.
Right.
But I'm gonna use you as avessel to do what your real
purpose is on earth.
(17:41):
And so I think that that's whywe attract those type of people.
We attract those type ofclients.
Um, and not even just clients,we just attract those people in
our bubbles, period.
You know, because I've comeacross people that have never
been clients a day in my life,and they're like, I don't know
what it is about you, but I likeyou.
(18:02):
You know?
And I'm like, well, thank you.
SPEAKER_00 (18:08):
Well, your light does shine bright.
I mean, because you even had astint on reality TV.
You know I was gonna bring thatup.
SPEAKER_01 (18:14):
A little cameo, Martha's.
SPEAKER_00 (18:16):
Yeah, a little cameo, wasn't it?
It was good.
Like, what was the name of theshow?
SPEAKER_01 (18:20):
It was uh Summer House Martha's Vinger.
SPEAKER_00 (18:22):
I love it.
So how in the world did you getselected for that?
Because people cousin Nicholas.
Cousin Nicholas.
SPEAKER_01 (18:31):
I had a conversation with cousin Nicholas today.
Did you really?
We did.
I love that.
Yeah, so he um he was the maincharacter on season one and two.
Okay.
And then uh cousin Nicholasinvited me over.
Shout out to Cousin Nicholas.
SPEAKER_00 (18:45):
Yes.
Which channel was it?
Bravo.
It was on Bravo.
SPEAKER_01 (18:48):
But you can still watch it on Peacock.
Really?
Yes.
See, I'm gonna watch it.
Yeah, so Cousin Bree, as theycalled me, comes on um season
two, starting at I think episodesix or seven.
Okay.
I think I'm on like two or threeepisodes.
That's real good.
You guys could see cousin Breeand Cousin Nicholas.
SPEAKER_00 (19:05):
The dynamic duo.
That is awesome.
So when you got to thatcharacter, did you think, okay,
I want to stay in reality TV, ordid you know it was just that
one time and done?
SPEAKER_01 (19:16):
Or it was just like a go with the flow.
I'm a really go with the flowperson.
SPEAKER_02 (19:20):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (19:20):
Um, because I was already like introduced to
celebrity clientele at thattime, it was kind of like, I
think I wasn't so like, oh, thisis what I want to do.
It wasn't the hype kind ofwasn't there because I was
already around so much.
SPEAKER_02 (19:34):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (19:34):
Um but for sure, if the opportunity presented
itself, if it stood for what Ifeel like my mission and my
purpose is in my business,absolutely I would do it again.
Yeah.
Um, but reality TV is not real.
Really?
Okay.
You're gonna you gonna get sometea?
SPEAKER_00 (19:54):
No.
No.
Oh, man.
I just knew you're gonna getsome tea.
Okay, okay.
Just a little bit.
SPEAKER_01 (19:59):
Can I just have a sip?
Okay, okay.
As we sip our tea.
Okay.
Sip your tea, honey.
Well, it really isn't anythingbad to necessarily say.
It's just to say this.
Whenever you were dealing withreality TV, whenever we're
dealing with not even justreality TV, TV in general,
social media, um, people that wesee anytime behind a screen.
(20:24):
I feel like we are so caught upin a generation where everything
we're scrolling or we'rewatching, we're streaming.
We're watching constantlyeverybody going on that we kind
of don't take like what we havegoing on in front of us.
We're always comparingourselves.
I think that that's why there'sso much envy going on in the
(20:44):
world.
I feel like that's why there'sso much um anxiety and
depression going on in the worldbecause we're too busy watching
other people instead of watchingwhat's in front of us.
SPEAKER_00 (20:55):
But isn't that what reality TV is all about?
Is um, you know, you're giventhe you wanna paint the
perception that people wannathat will gravitate people to
the show.
Right?
So um it's not really reality,it's about okay, so how can I be
dramatic enough they drawpeople's attention, right?
Yeah.
Because people like negativeThey do like negative.
SPEAKER_01 (21:17):
Yeah, drama.
And that's why I was saying,like, if it has anything to do
with like me, like a show if itpresented itself, um, you know,
highlighting what I stand for,for sure I would do it again.
So I definitely wanted to bemore authentic, um, more
transparent with like theaudience of like who I am and
what I stand for.
Um, but that also circles backto like what I was saying about
(21:38):
even social media.
So like you, I want to circleback to what you said earlier
about um clients, um, thecattiness, yeah, how do we
overcome negativity, drama, andall those things.
So I feel like that's why thereis so much in the world in our
in all industries, not justyours, not just mine, all
industries, because we're toobusy looking at what everybody
(22:01):
else is doing instead of lookingat what's presented in front of
us, being grateful for what wehave, being grateful for what we
overcame, all of the things.
So um I try not to look at whateverybody else is doing.
SPEAKER_00 (22:13):
That is such a good practice because you're right,
um, social media has it wherethat people do compare
themselves.
It's called the comparisonsyndrome.
So, and they always feel asthough that they're not ahead or
further along than they shouldbe because they're looking at
someone that's in their agegroup and they feel as though
they're further along than theyare.
(22:34):
In all actuality, you know,their life is in shambles.
They're just giving you thehighlight rails.
You know?
Because it's not reality.
It's not reality.
SPEAKER_01 (22:42):
Yeah.
Literally not reality.
Yeah.
Behind that screen, whether it'sthe phone screen, the television
screen, the streaming screen,whatever screen, whatever behind
that lens, it is not real.
And I think that if everybodywere just to stop, if social
media were to stop right now,everything, it's like, who are
(23:03):
you for real?
What are you grateful for?
Take a step, look back at yourlife, look at all the goals that
you've already accomplished.
I feel like we are also likehustle, hustle, hustle, hustle.
What are we doing?
I want this next.
We accomplished this goal.
Didn't even get a chance toreally be grateful for what we
accomplished because it's like,all right, I got that.
Now I'm gonna do this.
And it's just like slow down.
(23:27):
You're right where you'resupposed to be.
SPEAKER_00 (23:29):
Right?
I agree.
Um I would agree with that.
I do agree with that.
SPEAKER_01 (23:33):
Yeah.
And if we take that step backand we show gratitude for what
was given to us and what we'veaccomplished and all of the
things, then I feel like wewould be a little softer with
not just the real but withourselves.
Um and I'm guilty of that too.
I'm really hard on myself.
SPEAKER_00 (23:50):
Hold on, Brie, but you just said if we did that,
then we'd be a little bit softerwith ourselves.
You gotta explain that.
That's beautiful.
SPEAKER_01 (23:59):
Because we're our worst critic.
Um I feel like even withinmyself, I criticize I'm uh I am
so hard on myself.
Um, there are things that areI'm like, okay, you wanted to do
X, Y, Z, because I'm a goalsetter.
Like when I say goals, it'slike, okay, what are we doing
(24:22):
for the year?
Then I break it down about aquarter, then I break it down
about a month, then I'm breakingit down about a week, and then
it's just like, what are wedoing today?
And then then I found sometimes,not all the time, but sometimes
you can't get everything done inone day.
So how do you adjust when you dothat?
When you figure that out.
I've learned to start going withthe flow and the rhythm of my
body in life.
(24:43):
There are days that I wake upand I'm just like not doing it
today.
If I want to go take a walk on ariverfront, I'm gonna go do
that.
Once I learn to go through arhythm, stop feeling guilty
about not doing things becauseI've had that for a very long
time.
SPEAKER_02 (25:03):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (25:04):
I used to feel guilty if I bed rotted for a
day.
Just to do nothing.
There are times I literally donot turn on TV and I'll just lay
there for a couple hours insilence.
It's needed.
Spend time with yourself.
SPEAKER_00 (25:20):
So you listen to your body.
SPEAKER_01 (25:21):
Yes.
And I've learned it, and I'veonly learned that this year,
like 2025 this year.
Oh wow.
Like I just started learningthat.
Yeah.
Um, listening to my body,listening to life, listening to
just what's going on right now.
You know?
Um, slow it down a little bit.
That helped my anxiety.
(25:43):
That helped me realize like I'mstill on track.
I'm right where I'm supposed tobe.
Just because you want to havethis obtained and that goal done
and want to be here and there,it doesn't mean that it's
supposed to happen when you wantit to happen.
You know that saying you want tomake God laugh?
Tell him your goals.
(26:04):
You know?
And I think that I was too busy,like, oh, I want to do this, I
want to do that, da da da da.
And it was just like, when itdidn't happen, I would feel
guilty.
I would be angry at myself, Iwould push myself, be hard on
myself.
Like, why didn't you do the X,Y, and Z?
And it was just like, you knowwhat?
Yeah.
Why are we doing that?
Why am I doing that to myself?
SPEAKER_00 (26:22):
Almost as if we're impatient with ourselves.
Literally.
SPEAKER_01 (26:25):
And then everybody else around me is like, oh,
you're doing so well.
I'm so proud of you.
And then I'm just like, really?
Yeah.
Because I'm over here having ameltdown.
Yeah.
You know, and then it was justlike, stop doing that.
Relax.
Right.
You're right where you'resupposed to be.
SPEAKER_00 (26:40):
That is so good because that happens to a lot of
people that are in ourcommunity.
They are just going, going,going, going, going, not really
grateful for the fruits of theirlabor or not taking time to
smell the roses, if you will.
Yes.
And everyone else is like, oh mygosh, you are doing so great.
You're doing dynamic, this,that, and the third.
You're like, really?
(27:00):
Like, really?
SPEAKER_01 (27:02):
Like who do they see that I don't see?
Right.
But when you when you take thattime, like I keep saying, yeah.
Take that time, be softer toyourself.
Yeah.
It's not always about the hustleand bustle.
SPEAKER_00 (27:12):
Yeah, I'm still in that.
You gotta be softer on yourself.
SPEAKER_01 (27:15):
Be softer on ourselves.
Be gentle.
Be kind to yourself.
Yes, that's great.
You're the only person that'sgonna do it.
That is good.
You know?
Yeah.
Because you and God.
Y'all the authors.
Right.
You're the writer of thesechapters.
Yeah.
So it's like, it's going to getdone, you know?
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SPEAKER_01 (27:51):
And another thing that I also feel like over,
especially over the last likefive years, I feel like I was in
this, this, this zone where Iwas trying to accomplish all
these things that I was missingbirthdays.
I was missing time with friends.
SPEAKER_00 (28:05):
Are y'all listening to her?
Like she is, she's talking toy'all, like really having a
conversation.
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (28:12):
This summer has been a summer where I feel like I
spent most time with my peersand since 2019.
Where I was always trying to,because every season has things,
right?
You feel like, oh, you knowwhat?
I'm just gonna take this muffand just relax.
And you're like, oh no.
We have festivals going on.
(28:35):
You know, I was chasing thatthat celebrity bag, trying to
get all of these, this, thatclientele, and it was just like
there's always something.
Oh, there's concert festivalseason.
Now we're in fall.
Oh, there's New Year's FashionWeek season.
Then a little bit's about to beart bossle season.
You know, it's it's always aseason.
It's always a season, but youknow what I wasn't listening to?
(28:55):
My season.
But then when I realized thatstarted going with the flow and
the rhythm of my life, my body,stopped chasing everything
around me.
Realized what I had in front ofme, started being kinder to
myself, started being gentle tomyself.
Anxiety went down.
I started sleeping more.
Um because I wasn't sleeping.
(29:16):
Really?
My mind was just everywhere.
Like you know?
It was to the point where I'mlike telling myself, you know
what, you're gonna go home,you're gonna you're gonna rest
tonight.
1201.
How tall was Jesus?
You know, it's but this is thereality of an entrepreneur's
mind.
Yeah, you know, like exactlyright.
(29:38):
It's just like, I didn't dothis, oh I didn't email that
person back, oh I didn't, youknow, and it was just speaking
the truth.
SPEAKER_00 (29:44):
You really are.
We gotta stop doing that.
Yeah.
So how do you shut your minddown?
I know you said that you now arejust like, okay, but how did you
begin to shut your mind down?
Because now you're like, okay, Iwake up and I don't have what to
do today.
I'm just like, okay, I'm notgonna do that anymore, and I'm
not gonna judge.
Myself, but you havingconversations about how tall is
Jesus, like when did that stop?
(30:06):
It still goes on.
Sometimes okay.
Like I said, visionary, mosttimes it's hard to shut down.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (30:12):
Um, I started painting.
Good for you.
Okay.
Be honest.
Yeah.
Um, I started getting mycreative bag.
Yeah.
But like, not just creative asfar as like work entailed, like
drawing, painting, whatever itis that I wanted to do.
Yeah.
Like stuff like that.
SPEAKER_00 (30:29):
Good for you.
For me, it was meditation.
I want to challenge you to do mmeditation.
Okay.
Yeah.
So if you need to do it likebefore you go to bed, do it.
And then also in the morning,like give yourself 10 minutes
just to calm your mind down,right?
And then just go to sleep.
That's how my brain shut down.
It has to shut down.
Did you can you like go to sleeplike easily though?
(30:49):
No.
SPEAKER_01 (30:50):
Like before entrepreneurship?
SPEAKER_00 (30:53):
Were you like before entrepreneurship?
I was always a visionary.
Like I'm always thinking,thinking, thinking, thinking,
thinking.
Because I've always like, metoo.
SPEAKER_01 (30:59):
Yeah.
But I also bat with like alittle bit of insomnia.
So sleep was always like a eversince high school.
Right.
My dad was like, what is wrongwith you?
Are you human?
Yeah.
You know?
Yeah.
Yeah.
So I always had like my mindalways was going.
Do you journal?
I do journal.
I journal a lot.
So I journaled then more thanprobably most people think.
(31:20):
That's how I was able to figureout who I was.
Spent a lot of time by myself.
Spent a lot of time journaling.
Spent a lot of time um doingshadow work.
And I'll post it on my socialmedia here and there, like, I'll
just get into this.
Something's telling me likethere's somebody out there
watching that needs this, andI'll just post all these journal
prompts for a month.
And I do feel like if you evendid it for 30 days, just some
(31:43):
prompts for self-growth andself-help.
Oh my gosh, the person that youbecome in 30 days is crazy.
Like really knowing yourself,you know?
And then you also learn yourlikes and your real dislikes.
You know, like, you know, Ireally don't like that about
myself.
Right.
I don't know if anybody evertold me that they don't like
this, but I don't like it.
So let's switch that habit.
SPEAKER_00 (32:05):
Yeah.
So let's go into your business.
You're an entrepreneur.
unknown (32:09):
I am.
SPEAKER_00 (32:09):
You're a woman in leadership.
SPEAKER_01 (32:10):
I am.
SPEAKER_00 (32:11):
And um you are growing your business.
I am.
So let's talk about the uglyside of business.
And the reason why I want to dothat is because we always see
people with the um the highlightrole like we said on social
media.
So, what's the one thing thatyou wish you could have changed
if you know what you know now inyour business?
SPEAKER_01 (32:33):
Listen to more for myself.
Listen more to myself.
Um, I would do that.
I would definitely would havestarted certain things earlier.
For example, for sure.
Like coming out of high school,I went to school for dental
hygiene.
Did you?
I did.
Wow.
Um, and I spent six, seven yearsworking in the dental industry.
(32:58):
And then if I would have knownback in high school what my real
passion was, yeah.
So that was the thing.
I was too busy trying to listento everybody else around me.
Okay.
What you should be doing.
Oh, that's a good career.
Get into that.
Instead of doing what Briannawanted to do, I would have went
to a vote or went to beautyschool right out of high school.
(33:21):
And I would have truly do what Iwhat I love.
Yeah.
Because to me, when I go towork, it's not work to me.
Right.
I really love what I do for aliving every day.
You can tell.
Like I love it.
You know?
And those years working in thedental industry, I can't say
that it was, it was like I hatedit.
But I wasn't, I just I knewevery day this is not what I was
(33:44):
supposed to be doing.
When I go to work every day,this is I know this is what I'm
supposed to be doing.
Right.
You know?
So I definitely would havelistened to me.
Um, that's definitely the numberone thing that I would have done
differently.
Um what else would I have donedifferently?
I again listening.
(34:05):
I wouldn't have paid attentionso much into the negative.
Okay, so what negative?
Like give us an example.
The beauty industry is verycatty, right?
Um I wouldn't have paidattention to in the beginning, I
felt like I was being targeted.
Um, I felt like because a lot ofpeople they'll they'll call to
stay bored on for no reason.
(34:26):
Um stuff like that.
That these are these are thingsthat I've encountered in my
career.
And once I got to that pointwhere it was just like, you know
what, we're not gonna feed intothis.
Now it's like I don't do it foryou all.
I don't do it for anybody.
Who I do it for is my clients.
SPEAKER_00 (34:43):
I think it's kind of sad because um, and I'm making a
huge assumption that the personthat may have reported you was
another female, right?
Sure.
So I think the mostheartbreaking thing is instead
of you know straightening yourcrown and just building
community around each other sothat everyone everyone can win
around, the feeling the need toactually try to tear someone
(35:07):
down.
So what do you think that'sfrom?
SPEAKER_01 (35:09):
Territory.
I think that people are veryterritorial in their industries,
um where it builds thisinsecurity.
And uh again, watching peoplefrom social media succeed doing
things that maybe they're notgonna out loud say, but nobody
(35:32):
wants to see somebody else doingsomething that they wanted to do
and doing it on a mega uhplatform.
You know, nobody wants to seethat.
So I think that that builds, itcould start like as a little,
little jealousy bug, right?
Mm-hmm.
And then it keeps getting biggerand bigger and bigger and bigger
because that person is notaddressing it within themselves.
(35:54):
They just keep looking.
It becomes like not necessarilyan obsession, but it is an
obsession because you want tostop what somebody else is doing
instead of saying, you knowwhat, I like this person.
I maybe I could learn from thisperson, maybe I could collab
with this person.
It's more so like she doesn'tdeserve that.
Why her, not me, or simply Idon't like her, but you don't
(36:16):
even know me.
Right.
You never have a conversationwith her.
SPEAKER_00 (36:19):
So how do you how do you deal with that?
Like, how should how what wouldwould be your advice to someone
that's been in your situation?
Like, how do you overcome it?
Because it has to mess with yourum self-confidence.
SPEAKER_01 (36:34):
I would think It did in the beginning.
That's why I said I if I woulddo something different, I would
stop listening to that.
I would stop feeding into thatnegativity and and and people
around.
Now, I listen to me.
I listen to God, you know,because what's for me is always
going to be for me.
And it that didn't happenovernight.
That happened by just me goingthrough the journey and me
(36:54):
realizing who I am, realizingwho my purpose is, and realizing
what I stand for, and knowing,you know what?
All this is happening becauseyou must be doing something
right.
You know?
And then now it's like, okay,what's for me is gonna be for
me.
I don't look at what everybodyelse is doing.
My lane is my lane.
How I do it is how I do it.
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SPEAKER_01 (37:47):
Um but the craziest thing is there's enough money
for everybody.
Right.
And it's almost like writing apencil, right?
Writing with a pencil.
I can use the same pencil thatyou just give me right now,
right?
Write the same word.
Our handwritings are gonna bedifferent.
Right.
When people realize that, it'slike we can do the same thing.
(38:08):
We can use the same tools.
We could have learned from thesame exact instructor what's
gonna be for me is gonna be forme.
What's gonna be for you is gonnabe for you.
Right.
Instead of trying to tear eachother down, let's collaborate.
Let's collaborate.
Somebody might like the way thatyou pull your J down and dotted
it at the top.
(38:29):
You know?
I might not have dotted it atthe type.
I might have did a littlesquiggly line.
There's gonna be somebody that'sgonna like that for me.
Yeah.
And that's what it is in theworld.
There's somebody for somebody.
SPEAKER_00 (38:41):
Yeah.
There is somebody for somebody.
Right.
SPEAKER_01 (38:44):
So when we come together, that's what I'm trying
to do is building a community.
Um, you may well, you do know.
Yes.
I'm an educator now, just got myteacher's license.
And I um I run the nighttimeprogram at a beauty school.
So with me having these studentsthat are coming into this
industry, these are things thatI have to think about.
(39:04):
Like you're not just aneducator, you're a leader in
this.
You are they're looking for youto teach them.
So this is part of the thingsthat I'm trying to teach them.
We don't build hate.
We're not jealous of each other.
What's for you is always gonnabe for you.
I'm teaching you all facialsright now.
Your facial manipulation may bedifferent than your neighbors.
Right.
That's okay.
You're not doing anything wrong.
(39:26):
I see some of my studentssometimes they're doing it with
their practice and they're likelooking over.
Why are you looking over?
Yeah.
You're doing it right.
Right.
Look at your coin.
Look at your hand movement.
You're doing it.
Don't look at your neighbor.
You know?
So these are things that I tryto instill in my students and in
my teaching when I'm in in thein the classroom setting.
(39:46):
Um, and this is what I'm tryingto do now, building my
community.
Like I'm in the verge ofliterally building a beauty
community.
Um, and I didn't think aboutthat until I became an educator.
And it's like, okay, how are wegonna bridge this gap now?
Because I know what I wentthrough, but I was strong enough
to do the work.
I did the work.
I did the the background workwhere nobody, where nobody's
(40:08):
looking, me and my journal, mehaving conversations with
myself, me having conversationswith God.
Like, how are we gonna changethis so it doesn't affect you
anymore?
But this is why I feel like Iwalk around every day.
I'm happy and I'm bubbly everyday.
You are.
I realize life is a joke.
Yeah.
A joke is crazy, bro.
Life is a joke.
(40:29):
I can literally, and I'm notsaying here saying that I don't
have bad days.
We we're human.
Yeah, we have feelings, we allhave bad days.
I could have, and this is I amso serious right now.
I could have a face full oftears right now, and I'm gonna
still crack a joke.
Yeah, yeah.
Life is literally a joke.
When you when you realize not totake everything so seriously, or
take yourself seriously, either.
SPEAKER_00 (40:50):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (40:51):
You know, you're kinder to yourself, you're more
gentle to yourself, you know,you're gentle to those around
you because we're gonna havegood days, we're gonna have bad
days.
But when you don't, when youdon't try to take it and you're
just like controlling, so somuch controlling of everything,
and just let let life flow.
Let it flow.
I promise you'll be ten timeshappier.
SPEAKER_00 (41:11):
Happier, and you probably have more peace.
For sure.
SPEAKER_01 (41:14):
Yeah.
I pray for peace every day.
Yeah.
Feasts.
That's literally all I want.
Yeah.
Peace, happiness, love.
You know?
And when I stop trying to chasecertain things or try to have so
much control in certain areas ofmy life, realized, again, this
is all in God's team.
What's gonna happen is gonnahappen.
(41:36):
Right.
You know?
Just go with the flow with it.
It's gonna happen.
It's gonna get there when it'ssupposed to get there.
Right.
So do you see yourself buildinga team?
For sure.
Good for you.
I do.
Um, I don't know as far as likeemployees.
I don't know if I want that somuch.
I think that's like acollaboration.
Yes, collaborations, um buildinglike a space where people can
(41:59):
still be their own boss, theycan still be entrepreneurs, they
don't have to be under likesomeone's supervision.
I just don't have a thing withlike feeling like I had to um
You don't want to manage people?
No, I don't.
Yeah.
I don't.
I understand.
Because I feel like we're alladults.
Yeah.
I understand.
Like how you want to do it ishow you want to do it.
(42:21):
Again, that goes back to justgoing with the flow of life, you
know.
Right.
Just because I like to run mystuff this way doesn't mean that
they want to run it that way.
Yeah.
And it's like I feel like that'swhere conflict goes, and I don't
want to have control overanother human being.
So if you want to do it thatway, have it.
But I can but I can create asafe space.
You know, we could be under myumbrella of like guidance and
(42:43):
love.
You can you can have that thattrust that you would come to me
and ask me questions, or I canhelp you, or you know, however
way I could, you know, whateveravenue you're going through.
SPEAKER_00 (42:54):
But yeah, kind of for someone that's wants to get
into your industry and you aredynamic.
If I was, you know, younger,wanted to get into your
industry, you know, um beautyindustry and do the permanent um
makeup and the tattoos and thelashes and all the things, I'd
(43:16):
be looking up for you, you know,oh Charlie.
It'd be Charlie, right?
It'd be Charlie.
Yes, Charlie Lux.
I want to get with Charlie Lux.
How can someone get in contactwith you?
And then what can they expect?
Because I'm thinking, you know,someone's dynamic like you, you
don't have a lot of time towait, so I don't.
Yeah.
So how should someone come andapproach you?
(43:37):
Hey, can you be my mentor or mytrainer?
SPEAKER_01 (43:40):
So definitely coming just as just as such.
They can call the shop, um, theycan uh contact me on my social
media platforms.
Um I am in the process rightnow, my page is under
construction.
I'm going to have a mentorshipbutton there where it's going to
be a form that they could fillout um just to be a part of that
program because um this issomething that I'm putting a lot
(44:00):
of time into.
SPEAKER_02 (44:01):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (44:01):
Um I'm really building a community.
Um and it's gonna come withthings.
It's gonna, I'm gonna make surethat's structured properly since
I'm taking my time with it.
Um so yes, they could be on thelookout for that.
Um, it's gonna be on the websiteprobably within the next couple
of months or sure by January 1of 2026.
Um, that will be there wherethey can like fill out a form.
(44:23):
What is what areas do we needhelp with?
Um, are we a beginner?
Are we seasoned?
Um, are we just looking for someguidance?
Are we looking for to like trainunder me?
All of those things.
So um it's definitely going tobe tailored to the person.
That's why I'm spending so muchtime with it.
Um, but for right now, in thenext couple of months, if that's
(44:44):
what they want, they candefinitely uh contact me on
social media or um my businessline.
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So then how do you reset andrecharge?
How do I reset and recharge?
SPEAKER_01 (45:11):
Um because you're always on the go, go, go, go.
Spending time by myself, cuttingthe phone off, cutting the TV
off.
Um generally painting, spendingtime with my loved ones, um,
doing things that are outside ofthe business, doing what makes
(45:32):
me happy.
Like I don't know why the otherday something popped in my head
and I was like, I want to goskating, I'm gonna go buy a pair
of skates and rollerblades, andthis is what I want to do.
Yeah.
And that was a reset andrecharge for me.
Um cooking.
I love cooking.
Um, just doing things that Ilove to do.
That to me, that's a reset andrecharge.
SPEAKER_00 (45:52):
Good for you.
Thank you.
Yeah, good for you.
Wonderful.
So, okay, so you know theaudience, the target market.
What's the last words that youwant to share with them?
Words to uplift.
SPEAKER_01 (46:04):
Be your authentic self always.
Um pray.
Be kind to yourself, be kind toothers.
Um, and just do you, baby.
One of one.
You know?
I love her.
That's why I tattooed one of oneon me.
I had to remind myself.
SPEAKER_00 (46:23):
I love it.
Nobody else is like you.
Right, you're right.
You know I'm gonna start askingcoffee or tea or not?
Neither.
Coffee.
Yes, black or with cream.
With cream, oak milk.
Yes, yeah, oak milk.
Oat milk.
Oh my gosh.
Starbucks or dump dunkin'donuts.
Starbie.
Girl, I knew it.
I knew you were my spiritanimal.
(46:43):
Thank you very much.
SPEAKER_01 (46:44):
Target or Target?
SPEAKER_00 (46:48):
Oh, that is so funny.
I like Target.
Okay, Target.
Yes, period.
Yes.
Thank you so much.
You've been such an inspiration.
Like, seriously, I believethat's um the young community
that we're actually buildinghere, powerful women, is really
wanting to take something awayfrom this.
So thank you so much.
We have something special wewant to give to you.
SPEAKER_01 (47:08):
I love gifts.
SPEAKER_00 (47:09):
Yes.
We usually do this behind thescenes, and I was like, you know
what, we're gonna switch it up.
We're gonna switch it up.
Sydney is cringing.
Okay, Pennsylvania bakery.
Oh, I got my own coffee with emug.
Coffee with e mug and everymonth we have like a coffee
sponsor.
Okay.
So and this month is umPennsylvania Banker Bakery.
And um did you not know?
(47:30):
I didn't know that they madetheir own coffee.
I had no idea.
Zero, zero number.
Wow, yeah.
So it's good.
Yes, oh my goodness.
Yes, a hundred percent.
Can we make some now?
You can we can try to.
We can try to.
And then the mug.
What I would love for you to do,you have to um make sure you
post a picture because I lovelike to share.
(47:50):
We're gonna try to build thisup.
Okay.
So I was talking to our umsocial media manager, okay, and
one of the things we're gonnastart doing is you know, getting
people with the mug.
Yes, with the mug and tagging.
Yes, 100%.
SPEAKER_01 (48:01):
We're gonna have this mugshot.
Um, honey, yeah, because I needmy coffee every day.
I love it, I love it.
Thank you so much.
SPEAKER_00 (48:09):
I appreciate you.
You have some a little bitbehind the scenes.
We would love to hear from you.
She really broke down a lot ofinformation about being my
favorite thing, seriously, isjust being soft.
Yes, yes, be soft, yeah.
Softer, be kinder to yourself.
Be soft on yourself.
Yeah, I love that.
(48:30):
That was really good.
Are we gonna practice thattoday?
We are gonna practice thattoday.
Okay, and whatever you issuelater on.
I'm gonna see Bree's gonna be inthe comments.
I'm gonna make sure of it.
So if you have a commentdirectly for her, let us know.
Okay, and we're building acommunity, so spread this
episode around.
I love nothing more than to seeyou in the comments.
See ya.
Hey you! We have a great episode that you are about
to watch.
I had the privilege of sittingdown with Brianna Snyder, also
known as Charlie Lux.
She owns an amazing beauticianbusiness.
Now, let me share something withyou.
When we had our conversationbefore we actually recorded, we
(00:20):
were going to talk aboutadversity.
You know, adversity that smallbusiness owners actually have.
However, we were actually took aleft turn and we started talking
about just how to put yourselffirst.
Because us as small businessowners, when it comes to putting
yourself first, that's a foreignconcept.
And then yet when it comes topersonal things like avoiding
(00:41):
your friends or just puttingthem to the back burner and just
missing the important things inlife, well, when I tell you we
got raw and authentic about thatconversation, I promise you you
do not want to miss it.
And do me a favor, I would loveto know what you thought of it.
And meet me in the comments.
(01:20):
Time out for that.
We are no longer going to beworking by the old rules.
We're going to create our ownones, okay?
Very good new ones.
So cheers to you from jugglingmultiple flames with torches and
making your own rules.
Brianna.
Yes.
No, the funny part is I want tocall you Charlie so bad.
You could call me Charlie.
Because your branding is sophenomenal.
(01:42):
Thank you.
Yes.
Brianna Snyder is sitting downand having coffee with me.
With the one and only coffeewith E.
Yes.
Thank you so much.
I appreciate it.
No, thank you for inviting me.
Yeah, you're welcome.
So it was your light thatattracted me to you.
Okay.
And we were talking before weactually started recording.
(02:04):
Like, where did we actuallymeet?
Like, how did we get connected?
So you booked an appointmentbecause you snarled.
SPEAKER_01 (02:11):
Yes, because of the marketing was that great.
Thank you so much.
You were so welcome.
Um, so you came, uh, we did yourbrows, they look amazing.
They do look amazing.
We had a good conversation.
We really did.
And then we found that weactually are connected through
mutual people.
Yeah.
And how I don't know how we justdidn't come across because we
know a lot of people.
(02:32):
And then uh that is crazy.
Yeah, we know a lot of mutuals.
We have a lot of mutuals aroundus.
So and then I don't know, justsocial media, and we just kept
chatting.
Yeah, yeah.
Well, you're just a beautifulperson.
SPEAKER_00 (02:43):
Thank you.
Yeah, for sure.
Yes.
I mean, externally as well asinternally.
So I was attracted to your yourlight.
And then when we had thatconversation, I was like, oh my
gosh, she is my person.
Where have you been all my life?
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (02:56):
Oh, just hiding under a rock.
Trying to build up brands andbees big and beautiful like you,
you know?
SPEAKER_00 (03:02):
Girls, stop, stop it.
So when we were doing ourbrewing, we were talking about
um adversity.
But first, before we get intothat, because a lot of people
may not know who you are.
Imagine that, you know, someonenot knowing who Charlie Lux is.
What?
Just over Gal from Harrisburg,Princeton.
You are, but you've gotoverclaimed so much.
(03:22):
So can you share with us alittle bit about your journey?
Because just so you know, uh, weshare this.
Our platform, it's young,upwardly mobile, ambitious women
who are go-getters, right?
Women in leadership overall,between the ages of 25 to 35.
We are literally going to betheir mentors today.
Okay?
Love that first.
SPEAKER_01 (03:43):
Yes, yes.
That's honestly like kind ofwhat I stand for.
You know, as people do know, Ido own uh Charlie Lux Beauty and
Charlie Lux PMU.
Yeah.
Um but beauty is just surfacelevel.
It is.
It's more like empowering.
Um, it's kind of like combiningbeauty with healing.
That's more what I think I standfor.
(04:04):
So Barbara's talking about beingmore of a mentorship today and
being mentors to uh youngerwomen, older women, our age
women, middle-aged women, allthe women.
Yeah.
Um, that literally stands forwhat I want to do, like my
mission for my business.
Um empowering, healing, growing.
It's personal.
(04:25):
So it's more like buildingconfidence.
SPEAKER_00 (04:28):
Yeah.
So when you say you want toempower, like how do you want to
empower?
Because there's different waysthat you can empower someone.
Like, what do you how do you seeyourself empowering the people
that you interact with?
SPEAKER_01 (04:37):
Definitely empowering by bringing uh women
together, um, trying to form acommunity.
Because I feel like that'sthat's something we need to
bridge.
We need to bridge that gap.
Yeah.
Um, especially in the beautyindustry, um, or just women and
business in general, um, forminga community, forming that
support, letting people know,like, hey, you have somebody
(05:00):
here in your corner.
Um, healing as far as more onthe surface with my my clients
that are in the um survivors forbreast cancer, my paramedical
side.
SPEAKER_00 (05:13):
Yeah, I did.
I was so my assistant and I, wewere talking about your your
bio, and that's how you gotstarted, isn't it?
Well, I got started with thelashes.
SPEAKER_01 (05:22):
So aesthetician, I started with aesthetics.
Okay.
Um, and then as I grew listeningto my clients, what do they
want?
Um, all the services that Ioffer literally is from my
clients, like telling me like,we put our trust in you, we love
you, we only want to come toyou.
So this is what we need.
So I listened.
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SPEAKER_01 (05:59):
Um, as I got into my um permanent makeup tattoo
journey, um, I realized that Ihave a history in my family of
breast cancer survivors.
And then to understand, um, whenthey undergo the massectomy
surgery, they're left withnothing.
Right.
Just a scar to remind them ofwhat they have been through.
(06:21):
Um so through that, with mytattoo artistry, I was like,
okay, how can we take thisknowledge and my expertise in
this and apply it to the beautyindustry, make people feel
confident.
Um, so I took a class, actuallysaid two passes, um, to learn
paramedical areolareconstruction.
(06:42):
So I do 3D nipple and um areolatattoos.
Really?
For those patients, yes.
So after they get the clearancefrom their doctor, they undergo
the surgeries and all thethings, um, they can come to me
and I'll tattoo 3D nipples andareolas on them.
Wow.
That looks realistic.
It does.
It looks literally realistic.
(07:02):
And these are clients that Idon't post.
Um, it's kind of like if youknow you know situation.
Right.
Um, but there are some that haveread are uh broken uh written
beautiful reviews on my um myInstagram pages or um internet?
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (07:22):
Um you have reviews.
SPEAKER_01 (07:25):
That is awesome.
Yeah, but I don't like to sharethat type of stuff because it's
more it's more intimate.
SPEAKER_00 (07:30):
No, okay.
Stop.
Time out.
It's more intimate than that.
Right.
So here's the thing, but youshould be sharing it so people
know that you have offered thisservice because that's a
beautiful thing.
True.
So how many people do you knowthat are out here doing
reconstructive um breast area?
What is it, areola?
Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_01 (07:48):
In this area, like locally in the area.
Is it wrong with me speakingtoday?
I don't know.
I think we're both having alittle I definitely separate
that.
SPEAKER_00 (07:56):
Too much coffee for me or something.
Good lord.
Yeah.
But okay, so the reconstructivepart of it, that's something
that more people should knowabout.
SPEAKER_01 (08:04):
Yes.
So there's not too many peoplein our area that offer it.
Right.
Um, you have to go through likea lot of training to like make
it look realistic, you know?
Because you don't want to justslap something on there and it's
just like, well, what is that?
Yeah.
So the the whole point behind itis to bring confidence back to
your client.
Um, they went through a crazyjourney.
(08:27):
Crazy journey.
Um, the fact that they're stillhere.
Number one, first and foremost.
But then once they get to thatpart, they under they go through
the surgeries, they go througheverything they're opposed to.
Looking at themselves, theydon't look the same.
You know?
Um women want to feel likewomen.
And that's the number one thingthat I've gotten back, like the
(08:48):
feedback that I've gotten frommy clients is I just want to
look like a woman again.
So some of them may get implantsdone.
Some of them won't.
Um but whichever way that theygo, they always come back and
say, when I do do it, they'relike tears, water works, you
know.
They're they're grateful.
(09:08):
Um, I get big hugs.
I get you do.
I do.
Yeah.
But that's why I don't showcasethat side so much because like I
said, it's like more of like, ifyou know, you know.
I do put it out there that I doit.
I just don't blast it on socialmedia because they don't want
that.
They love the privacy, but theyalso show more than enough
(09:28):
gratitude.
Um, I think that I'm a part ofsome of their communities as
well.
And uh I get people calling allthe time about it.
SPEAKER_00 (09:36):
Is it possible to market it without actually
bringing like real life examplesin?
You see me pushing?
Yes, Sado.
SPEAKER_01 (09:44):
But here's the thing Yeah, Instagram is so weird with
the content.
So even if I don't get theperson's face and I just try to
like, oh, here's a before and anafter, I can't say how many
times I was flagged.
And literally like gotten to thepoint where they were like,
we're gonna take your page downif you post something like this.
(10:05):
So I don't even do it.
Um even when I do some of the umthe I turn hearts into well
nipples hearts.
I do those tattoos as well.
And that's actually what startedbecoming how it got became
popular because I startedposting the areola
reconstruction tattoos, and thenyou know, it became like a a
thing where girls were like, Oh,well, what can you do hearts
(10:26):
with this?
I was like, Yeah, actually Ican.
And then I'll post that contentand I'll get flagged.
So I just don't even post any ofit at all.
Like I don't even push the heartuh tattoos on the nipples.
SPEAKER_00 (10:38):
So hold on.
So you're saying that peoplecome in, I'm being very, I'm
very naive.
Yes, I don't care.
You could laugh at me, Brie.
So people come in and actuallyget like the the tattoos just
because on it- nipples?
Yes.
Really?
SPEAKER_01 (10:54):
Yeah, they're just like, hey, can you turn this
into a shape?
And I'll do it.
SPEAKER_00 (10:58):
Huh.
Okay, y'all.
I just learned something today.
Yes.
You can call it.
SPEAKER_01 (11:04):
There's a lot that I do that I don't pose.
Like everybody thinks I just dobrows and lashes because that's
what I push the most, butthere's a lot behind it.
SPEAKER_00 (11:11):
So you do permanent makeup?
Yes.
Okay, got it.
Tiny tattoos.
Okay, okay, got it.
So y'all can call me naive ifyou want to, but that was just
something I had to know.
Like, okay, because ourconversation is literally we're
gonna be peeling um back somelayers here and allowing people
into our private conversations.
I was like, wait a second, youmean people really do that?
I don't understand.
Okay, so why do people do that,Brie?
(11:33):
And I promise then we'll getinto this conversation.
I just need to know.
I don't know.
Oh, really?
No, I don't know.
So is it fat or is it oh, it'scool?
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (11:45):
I get them all the time.
I get like literally, likeweekly.
Yeah.
I won't say daily because that'snot what I push, but for sure,
weekly.
Wow.
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (11:57):
Okay, okay.
You want to scar?
Do you want to hurt?
So I need to know.
Am I the only one that did notknow?
Am I the only one out here inthese streets being naive?
Because I really did not know.
SPEAKER_01 (12:07):
No.
SPEAKER_00 (12:08):
I did not know that was a thing.
Yeah.
So, but the beautiful part aboutit is you allow women to get
something that they feel asthough is the most sacred piece
of their body, and that is by umgetting their breast back.
You know what I mean?
After going such a um a a verytraumatic experience, you know.
(12:29):
However, the blessing is they'rehere, they're a survivor.
That's the beauty in the wholething.
And you're giving them a secondchance of feeling feminine
again.
That part.
So I love that.
SPEAKER_01 (12:39):
It's like literally what I said, um bridging that
gap, combining beauty andhealing um with a little
sprinkle of confidence.
Yeah.
You know.
Um, no matter what service thatI do, anybody that walks through
my door, I may know them, I maynot know them, like you.
For example, when you came in, Ididn't know you before you came
in, you know?
But treat everybody like you.
(13:00):
Literally.
And we connected instantly.
And it's like, to me, it's likeum, I don't know what's going on
behind closed doors.
Whoever walks in my door, I wantthem to feel beautiful, not only
on the inside but the outside,whenever they walk out of my
door.
Yeah.
So you you know how our sessionsare.
We talk, try to get to know you.
(13:22):
Um there have been times whereclients have come in and we
didn't even do a service.
Like we didn't even get to it.
Because the conversation was soraw and needed that I've
literally had clients say, Ijust wanted to talk to you.
I've literally had clients say,I couldn't wait to come to my
(13:43):
appointment just to talk to you.
I've had clients ask if we couldpray.
I've asked clients or clientshave asked me, like, I just want
to tell you what's going on inwe waterworks.
And it was like, you know what,we'll get to the service
tomorrow or another day.
But this moment right here, it'sauthentic, it was needed, and I
(14:03):
realized who I am now.
That's why I want to build thatcommunity.
Yeah.
I feel like sometimes like we gothrough the life journey of life
and then we try to figure outlike what's my purpose here.
I do think that I'm a naturalhealer.
Um I think that I do bring acertain aura and light to the
table, hints as to what you evensaid about me.
(14:26):
And so why should I take that?
Thank you so much.
You're wild.
Um, but these are all thingsthat I stand for, genuinely.
And anybody that has comethrough my doors or come through
the shop, whether it was here orPhiladelphia, wherever it is
that I'm at, like I've gottenthese same responses.
These same responses are in myreviews on my booking site, on
(14:47):
my website, on Instagram, youknow.
So it's kind of like, wow, youreally are who they say you are.
Yeah.
And then after going throughthat, after doing shadow work,
after spending time with myselfand really trying to understand
who is Brianna, it was like,okay, God, I get it.
We have these conversations withGod all the time.
God, what I'm, what are you,what are you showing me here?
What are you putting us through?
(15:07):
Um, what are you putting methrough these obstacles for
these situations?
And it's just like, okay.
When you spend those times byyourself, you ask God for signs.
You ask God.
Sometimes you might not hearthem right away, but then you
start listening.
Signs start showing.
I'm like, okay, I get it.
I get it.
You're showing me this for areason.
You're putting this in front ofme for a reason.
You're putting these clients infront of me for a reason.
(15:27):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (15:28):
And so you believe that too, because I believe that
too.
Hey, I need to take two secondsto interrupt this wonderful show
that you're watching.
I run a real estate business,and the way we fund this podcast
is through that business, theErica Ross team.
I would love it if you wouldjust give us one opportunity to
service your real estate needs,whether you are in Central PA or
around the entire world.
(15:49):
Think of us first so we can helpyou.
Now back to the show.
So everyone, ooh, Bion, this isreally good.
Okay.
So you know how people, there'sa lot of people that you run
into that have this crab in thebarrel mentality, right?
There's not enough foreverybody.
Yes.
I truly believe that each personthat's in their design industry
(16:10):
or profession, there areparticular people that you're
going to naturally gravitate to,right?
I call them your avatar or yourideal client, right?
So because of that fact, andsome of it I believe is like um
ordained, you know, um, becauseI do believe in God.
I think God ordains you to workor bring other people into your
(16:32):
life, and it is for, in my case,real estate.
But I also believe there'sanother purpose attached or um
attached to that assignment.
So that's why I take everyclient that I work with so, so
seriously.
And sometimes when it'schallenging, I'm like, okay,
what is the lesson I'm to learnfrom this interaction all the
(16:53):
time, every last time.
So for you to say that, girl, Igot goosebumps.
SPEAKER_01 (16:58):
It's almost like we're here in the physical form,
right?
Our careers is our job.
This is what we're doing in thephysical form.
But it's almost like he uses usas a tool to still fulfill the
purpose he is giving for us whenwe're born into this world.
(17:20):
But also given that blessing ofwhat we want to do.
So it's like he's giving us thatfreedom, like the freedom, like,
oh, you know what, I lovebeauty, I want to do this.
Oh, I love real estate, I wantto do this.
Okay.
But this is I'm gonna give youthis.
Right.
But I'm gonna use you as avessel to do what your real
purpose is on earth.
(17:41):
And so I think that that's whywe attract those type of people.
We attract those type ofclients.
Um, and not even just clients,we just attract those people in
our bubbles, period.
You know, because I've comeacross people that have never
been clients a day in my life,and they're like, I don't know
what it is about you, but I likeyou.
(18:02):
You know?
And I'm like, well, thank you.
SPEAKER_00 (18:08):
Well, your light does shine bright.
I mean, because you even had astint on reality TV.
You know I was gonna bring thatup.
SPEAKER_01 (18:14):
A little cameo, Martha's.
SPEAKER_00 (18:16):
Yeah, a little cameo, wasn't it?
It was good.
Like, what was the name of theshow?
SPEAKER_01 (18:20):
It was uh Summer House Martha's Vinger.
SPEAKER_00 (18:22):
I love it.
So how in the world did you getselected for that?
Because people cousin Nicholas.
Cousin Nicholas.
SPEAKER_01 (18:31):
I had a conversation with cousin Nicholas today.
Did you really?
We did.
I love that.
Yeah, so he um he was the maincharacter on season one and two.
Okay.
And then uh cousin Nicholasinvited me over.
Shout out to Cousin Nicholas.
SPEAKER_00 (18:45):
Yes.
Which channel was it?
Bravo.
It was on Bravo.
SPEAKER_01 (18:48):
But you can still watch it on Peacock.
Really?
Yes.
See, I'm gonna watch it.
Yeah, so Cousin Bree, as theycalled me, comes on um season
two, starting at I think episodesix or seven.
Okay.
I think I'm on like two or threeepisodes.
That's real good.
You guys could see cousin Breeand Cousin Nicholas.
SPEAKER_00 (19:05):
The dynamic duo.
That is awesome.
So when you got to thatcharacter, did you think, okay,
I want to stay in reality TV, ordid you know it was just that
one time and done?
SPEAKER_01 (19:16):
Or it was just like a go with the flow.
I'm a really go with the flowperson.
SPEAKER_02 (19:20):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (19:20):
Um, because I was already like introduced to
celebrity clientele at thattime, it was kind of like, I
think I wasn't so like, oh, thisis what I want to do.
It wasn't the hype kind ofwasn't there because I was
already around so much.
SPEAKER_02 (19:34):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (19:34):
Um but for sure, if the opportunity presented
itself, if it stood for what Ifeel like my mission and my
purpose is in my business,absolutely I would do it again.
Yeah.
Um, but reality TV is not real.
Really?
Okay.
You're gonna you gonna get sometea?
SPEAKER_00 (19:54):
No.
No.
Oh, man.
I just knew you're gonna getsome tea.
Okay, okay.
Just a little bit.
SPEAKER_01 (19:59):
Can I just have a sip?
Okay, okay.
As we sip our tea.
Okay.
Sip your tea, honey.
Well, it really isn't anythingbad to necessarily say.
It's just to say this.
Whenever you were dealing withreality TV, whenever we're
dealing with not even justreality TV, TV in general,
social media, um, people that wesee anytime behind a screen.
(20:24):
I feel like we are so caught upin a generation where everything
we're scrolling or we'rewatching, we're streaming.
We're watching constantlyeverybody going on that we kind
of don't take like what we havegoing on in front of us.
We're always comparingourselves.
I think that that's why there'sso much envy going on in the
(20:44):
world.
I feel like that's why there'sso much um anxiety and
depression going on in the worldbecause we're too busy watching
other people instead of watchingwhat's in front of us.
SPEAKER_00 (20:55):
But isn't that what reality TV is all about?
Is um, you know, you're giventhe you wanna paint the
perception that people wannathat will gravitate people to
the show.
Right?
So um it's not really reality,it's about okay, so how can I be
dramatic enough they drawpeople's attention, right?
Yeah.
Because people like negativeThey do like negative.
SPEAKER_01 (21:17):
Yeah, drama.
And that's why I was saying,like, if it has anything to do
with like me, like a show if itpresented itself, um, you know,
highlighting what I stand for,for sure I would do it again.
So I definitely wanted to bemore authentic, um, more
transparent with like theaudience of like who I am and
what I stand for.
Um, but that also circles backto like what I was saying about
(21:38):
even social media.
So like you, I want to circleback to what you said earlier
about um clients, um, thecattiness, yeah, how do we
overcome negativity, drama, andall those things.
So I feel like that's why thereis so much in the world in our
in all industries, not justyours, not just mine, all
industries, because we're toobusy looking at what everybody
(22:01):
else is doing instead of lookingat what's presented in front of
us, being grateful for what wehave, being grateful for what we
overcame, all of the things.
So um I try not to look at whateverybody else is doing.
SPEAKER_00 (22:13):
That is such a good practice because you're right,
um, social media has it wherethat people do compare
themselves.
It's called the comparisonsyndrome.
So, and they always feel asthough that they're not ahead or
further along than they shouldbe because they're looking at
someone that's in their agegroup and they feel as though
they're further along than theyare.
(22:34):
In all actuality, you know,their life is in shambles.
They're just giving you thehighlight rails.
You know?
Because it's not reality.
It's not reality.
SPEAKER_01 (22:42):
Yeah.
Literally not reality.
Yeah.
Behind that screen, whether it'sthe phone screen, the television
screen, the streaming screen,whatever screen, whatever behind
that lens, it is not real.
And I think that if everybodywere just to stop, if social
media were to stop right now,everything, it's like, who are
(23:03):
you for real?
What are you grateful for?
Take a step, look back at yourlife, look at all the goals that
you've already accomplished.
I feel like we are also likehustle, hustle, hustle, hustle.
What are we doing?
I want this next.
We accomplished this goal.
Didn't even get a chance toreally be grateful for what we
accomplished because it's like,all right, I got that.
Now I'm gonna do this.
And it's just like slow down.
(23:27):
You're right where you'resupposed to be.
SPEAKER_00 (23:29):
Right?
I agree.
Um I would agree with that.
I do agree with that.
SPEAKER_01 (23:33):
Yeah.
And if we take that step backand we show gratitude for what
was given to us and what we'veaccomplished and all of the
things, then I feel like wewould be a little softer with
not just the real but withourselves.
Um and I'm guilty of that too.
I'm really hard on myself.
SPEAKER_00 (23:50):
Hold on, Brie, but you just said if we did that,
then we'd be a little bit softerwith ourselves.
You gotta explain that.
That's beautiful.
SPEAKER_01 (23:59):
Because we're our worst critic.
Um I feel like even withinmyself, I criticize I'm uh I am
so hard on myself.
Um, there are things that areI'm like, okay, you wanted to do
X, Y, Z, because I'm a goalsetter.
Like when I say goals, it'slike, okay, what are we doing
(24:22):
for the year?
Then I break it down about aquarter, then I break it down
about a month, then I'm breakingit down about a week, and then
it's just like, what are wedoing today?
And then then I found sometimes,not all the time, but sometimes
you can't get everything done inone day.
So how do you adjust when you dothat?
When you figure that out.
I've learned to start going withthe flow and the rhythm of my
body in life.
(24:43):
There are days that I wake upand I'm just like not doing it
today.
If I want to go take a walk on ariverfront, I'm gonna go do
that.
Once I learn to go through arhythm, stop feeling guilty
about not doing things becauseI've had that for a very long
time.
SPEAKER_02 (25:03):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (25:04):
I used to feel guilty if I bed rotted for a
day.
Just to do nothing.
There are times I literally donot turn on TV and I'll just lay
there for a couple hours insilence.
It's needed.
Spend time with yourself.
SPEAKER_00 (25:20):
So you listen to your body.
SPEAKER_01 (25:21):
Yes.
And I've learned it, and I'veonly learned that this year,
like 2025 this year.
Oh wow.
Like I just started learningthat.
Yeah.
Um, listening to my body,listening to life, listening to
just what's going on right now.
You know?
Um, slow it down a little bit.
That helped my anxiety.
(25:43):
That helped me realize like I'mstill on track.
I'm right where I'm supposed tobe.
Just because you want to havethis obtained and that goal done
and want to be here and there,it doesn't mean that it's
supposed to happen when you wantit to happen.
You know that saying you want tomake God laugh?
Tell him your goals.
(26:04):
You know?
And I think that I was too busy,like, oh, I want to do this, I
want to do that, da da da da.
And it was just like, when itdidn't happen, I would feel
guilty.
I would be angry at myself, Iwould push myself, be hard on
myself.
Like, why didn't you do the X,Y, and Z?
And it was just like, you knowwhat?
Yeah.
Why are we doing that?
Why am I doing that to myself?
SPEAKER_00 (26:22):
Almost as if we're impatient with ourselves.
Literally.
SPEAKER_01 (26:25):
And then everybody else around me is like, oh,
you're doing so well.
I'm so proud of you.
And then I'm just like, really?
Yeah.
Because I'm over here having ameltdown.
Yeah.
You know, and then it was justlike, stop doing that.
Relax.
Right.
You're right where you'resupposed to be.
SPEAKER_00 (26:40):
That is so good because that happens to a lot of
people that are in ourcommunity.
They are just going, going,going, going, going, not really
grateful for the fruits of theirlabor or not taking time to
smell the roses, if you will.
Yes.
And everyone else is like, oh mygosh, you are doing so great.
You're doing dynamic, this,that, and the third.
You're like, really?
(27:00):
Like, really?
SPEAKER_01 (27:02):
Like who do they see that I don't see?
Right.
But when you when you take thattime, like I keep saying, yeah.
Take that time, be softer toyourself.
Yeah.
It's not always about the hustleand bustle.
SPEAKER_00 (27:12):
Yeah, I'm still in that.
You gotta be softer on yourself.
SPEAKER_01 (27:15):
Be softer on ourselves.
Be gentle.
Be kind to yourself.
Yes, that's great.
You're the only person that'sgonna do it.
That is good.
You know?
Yeah.
Because you and God.
Y'all the authors.
Right.
You're the writer of thesechapters.
Yeah.
So it's like, it's going to getdone, you know?
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SPEAKER_01 (27:51):
And another thing that I also feel like over,
especially over the last likefive years, I feel like I was in
this, this, this zone where Iwas trying to accomplish all
these things that I was missingbirthdays.
I was missing time with friends.
SPEAKER_00 (28:05):
Are y'all listening to her?
Like she is, she's talking toy'all, like really having a
conversation.
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (28:12):
This summer has been a summer where I feel like I
spent most time with my peersand since 2019.
Where I was always trying to,because every season has things,
right?
You feel like, oh, you knowwhat?
I'm just gonna take this muffand just relax.
And you're like, oh no.
We have festivals going on.
(28:35):
You know, I was chasing thatthat celebrity bag, trying to
get all of these, this, thatclientele, and it was just like
there's always something.
Oh, there's concert festivalseason.
Now we're in fall.
Oh, there's New Year's FashionWeek season.
Then a little bit's about to beart bossle season.
You know, it's it's always aseason.
It's always a season, but youknow what I wasn't listening to?
(28:55):
My season.
But then when I realized thatstarted going with the flow and
the rhythm of my life, my body,stopped chasing everything
around me.
Realized what I had in front ofme, started being kinder to
myself, started being gentle tomyself.
Anxiety went down.
I started sleeping more.
Um because I wasn't sleeping.
(29:16):
Really?
My mind was just everywhere.
Like you know?
It was to the point where I'mlike telling myself, you know
what, you're gonna go home,you're gonna you're gonna rest
tonight.
1201.
How tall was Jesus?
You know, it's but this is thereality of an entrepreneur's
mind.
Yeah, you know, like exactlyright.
(29:38):
It's just like, I didn't dothis, oh I didn't email that
person back, oh I didn't, youknow, and it was just speaking
the truth.
SPEAKER_00 (29:44):
You really are.
We gotta stop doing that.
Yeah.
So how do you shut your minddown?
I know you said that you now arejust like, okay, but how did you
begin to shut your mind down?
Because now you're like, okay, Iwake up and I don't have what to
do today.
I'm just like, okay, I'm notgonna do that anymore, and I'm
not gonna judge.
Myself, but you havingconversations about how tall is
Jesus, like when did that stop?
(30:06):
It still goes on.
Sometimes okay.
Like I said, visionary, mosttimes it's hard to shut down.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (30:12):
Um, I started painting.
Good for you.
Okay.
Be honest.
Yeah.
Um, I started getting mycreative bag.
Yeah.
But like, not just creative asfar as like work entailed, like
drawing, painting, whatever itis that I wanted to do.
Yeah.
Like stuff like that.
SPEAKER_00 (30:29):
Good for you.
For me, it was meditation.
I want to challenge you to do mmeditation.
Okay.
Yeah.
So if you need to do it likebefore you go to bed, do it.
And then also in the morning,like give yourself 10 minutes
just to calm your mind down,right?
And then just go to sleep.
That's how my brain shut down.
It has to shut down.
Did you can you like go to sleeplike easily though?
(30:49):
No.
SPEAKER_01 (30:50):
Like before entrepreneurship?
SPEAKER_00 (30:53):
Were you like before entrepreneurship?
I was always a visionary.
Like I'm always thinking,thinking, thinking, thinking,
thinking.
Because I've always like, metoo.
SPEAKER_01 (30:59):
Yeah.
But I also bat with like alittle bit of insomnia.
So sleep was always like a eversince high school.
Right.
My dad was like, what is wrongwith you?
Are you human?
Yeah.
You know?
Yeah.
Yeah.
So I always had like my mindalways was going.
Do you journal?
I do journal.
I journal a lot.
So I journaled then more thanprobably most people think.
(31:20):
That's how I was able to figureout who I was.
Spent a lot of time by myself.
Spent a lot of time journaling.
Spent a lot of time um doingshadow work.
And I'll post it on my socialmedia here and there, like, I'll
just get into this.
Something's telling me likethere's somebody out there
watching that needs this, andI'll just post all these journal
prompts for a month.
And I do feel like if you evendid it for 30 days, just some
(31:43):
prompts for self-growth andself-help.
Oh my gosh, the person that youbecome in 30 days is crazy.
Like really knowing yourself,you know?
And then you also learn yourlikes and your real dislikes.
You know, like, you know, Ireally don't like that about
myself.
Right.
I don't know if anybody evertold me that they don't like
this, but I don't like it.
So let's switch that habit.
SPEAKER_00 (32:05):
Yeah.
So let's go into your business.
You're an entrepreneur.
unknown (32:09):
I am.
SPEAKER_00 (32:09):
You're a woman in leadership.
SPEAKER_01 (32:10):
I am.
SPEAKER_00 (32:11):
And um you are growing your business.
I am.
So let's talk about the uglyside of business.
And the reason why I want to dothat is because we always see
people with the um the highlightrole like we said on social
media.
So, what's the one thing thatyou wish you could have changed
if you know what you know now inyour business?
SPEAKER_01 (32:33):
Listen to more for myself.
Listen more to myself.
Um, I would do that.
I would definitely would havestarted certain things earlier.
For example, for sure.
Like coming out of high school,I went to school for dental
hygiene.
Did you?
I did.
Wow.
Um, and I spent six, seven yearsworking in the dental industry.
(32:58):
And then if I would have knownback in high school what my real
passion was, yeah.
So that was the thing.
I was too busy trying to listento everybody else around me.
Okay.
What you should be doing.
Oh, that's a good career.
Get into that.
Instead of doing what Briannawanted to do, I would have went
to a vote or went to beautyschool right out of high school.
(33:21):
And I would have truly do what Iwhat I love.
Yeah.
Because to me, when I go towork, it's not work to me.
Right.
I really love what I do for aliving every day.
You can tell.
Like I love it.
You know?
And those years working in thedental industry, I can't say
that it was, it was like I hatedit.
But I wasn't, I just I knewevery day this is not what I was
(33:44):
supposed to be doing.
When I go to work every day,this is I know this is what I'm
supposed to be doing.
Right.
You know?
So I definitely would havelistened to me.
Um, that's definitely the numberone thing that I would have done
differently.
Um what else would I have donedifferently?
I again listening.
(34:05):
I wouldn't have paid attentionso much into the negative.
Okay, so what negative?
Like give us an example.
The beauty industry is verycatty, right?
Um I wouldn't have paidattention to in the beginning, I
felt like I was being targeted.
Um, I felt like because a lot ofpeople they'll they'll call to
stay bored on for no reason.
(34:26):
Um stuff like that.
That these are these are thingsthat I've encountered in my
career.
And once I got to that pointwhere it was just like, you know
what, we're not gonna feed intothis.
Now it's like I don't do it foryou all.
I don't do it for anybody.
Who I do it for is my clients.
SPEAKER_00 (34:43):
I think it's kind of sad because um, and I'm making a
huge assumption that the personthat may have reported you was
another female, right?
Sure.
So I think the mostheartbreaking thing is instead
of you know straightening yourcrown and just building
community around each other sothat everyone everyone can win
around, the feeling the need toactually try to tear someone
(35:07):
down.
So what do you think that'sfrom?
SPEAKER_01 (35:09):
Territory.
I think that people are veryterritorial in their industries,
um where it builds thisinsecurity.
And uh again, watching peoplefrom social media succeed doing
things that maybe they're notgonna out loud say, but nobody
(35:32):
wants to see somebody else doingsomething that they wanted to do
and doing it on a mega uhplatform.
You know, nobody wants to seethat.
So I think that that builds, itcould start like as a little,
little jealousy bug, right?
Mm-hmm.
And then it keeps getting biggerand bigger and bigger and bigger
because that person is notaddressing it within themselves.
(35:54):
They just keep looking.
It becomes like not necessarilyan obsession, but it is an
obsession because you want tostop what somebody else is doing
instead of saying, you knowwhat, I like this person.
I maybe I could learn from thisperson, maybe I could collab
with this person.
It's more so like she doesn'tdeserve that.
Why her, not me, or simply Idon't like her, but you don't
(36:16):
even know me.
Right.
You never have a conversationwith her.
SPEAKER_00 (36:19):
So how do you how do you deal with that?
Like, how should how what wouldwould be your advice to someone
that's been in your situation?
Like, how do you overcome it?
Because it has to mess with yourum self-confidence.
SPEAKER_01 (36:34):
I would think It did in the beginning.
That's why I said I if I woulddo something different, I would
stop listening to that.
I would stop feeding into thatnegativity and and and people
around.
Now, I listen to me.
I listen to God, you know,because what's for me is always
going to be for me.
And it that didn't happenovernight.
That happened by just me goingthrough the journey and me
(36:54):
realizing who I am, realizingwho my purpose is, and realizing
what I stand for, and knowing,you know what?
All this is happening becauseyou must be doing something
right.
You know?
And then now it's like, okay,what's for me is gonna be for
me.
I don't look at what everybodyelse is doing.
My lane is my lane.
How I do it is how I do it.
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SPEAKER_01 (37:47):
Um but the craziest thing is there's enough money
for everybody.
Right.
And it's almost like writing apencil, right?
Writing with a pencil.
I can use the same pencil thatyou just give me right now,
right?
Write the same word.
Our handwritings are gonna bedifferent.
Right.
When people realize that, it'slike we can do the same thing.
(38:08):
We can use the same tools.
We could have learned from thesame exact instructor what's
gonna be for me is gonna be forme.
What's gonna be for you is gonnabe for you.
Right.
Instead of trying to tear eachother down, let's collaborate.
Let's collaborate.
Somebody might like the way thatyou pull your J down and dotted
it at the top.
(38:29):
You know?
I might not have dotted it atthe type.
I might have did a littlesquiggly line.
There's gonna be somebody that'sgonna like that for me.
Yeah.
And that's what it is in theworld.
There's somebody for somebody.
SPEAKER_00 (38:41):
Yeah.
There is somebody for somebody.
Right.
SPEAKER_01 (38:44):
So when we come together, that's what I'm trying
to do is building a community.
Um, you may well, you do know.
Yes.
I'm an educator now, just got myteacher's license.
And I um I run the nighttimeprogram at a beauty school.
So with me having these studentsthat are coming into this
industry, these are things thatI have to think about.
(39:04):
Like you're not just aneducator, you're a leader in
this.
You are they're looking for youto teach them.
So this is part of the thingsthat I'm trying to teach them.
We don't build hate.
We're not jealous of each other.
What's for you is always gonnabe for you.
I'm teaching you all facialsright now.
Your facial manipulation may bedifferent than your neighbors.
Right.
That's okay.
You're not doing anything wrong.
(39:26):
I see some of my studentssometimes they're doing it with
their practice and they're likelooking over.
Why are you looking over?
Yeah.
You're doing it right.
Right.
Look at your coin.
Look at your hand movement.
You're doing it.
Don't look at your neighbor.
You know?
So these are things that I tryto instill in my students and in
my teaching when I'm in in thein the classroom setting.
(39:46):
Um, and this is what I'm tryingto do now, building my
community.
Like I'm in the verge ofliterally building a beauty
community.
Um, and I didn't think aboutthat until I became an educator.
And it's like, okay, how are wegonna bridge this gap now?
Because I know what I wentthrough, but I was strong enough
to do the work.
I did the work.
I did the the background workwhere nobody, where nobody's
(40:08):
looking, me and my journal, mehaving conversations with
myself, me having conversationswith God.
Like, how are we gonna changethis so it doesn't affect you
anymore?
But this is why I feel like Iwalk around every day.
I'm happy and I'm bubbly everyday.
You are.
I realize life is a joke.
Yeah.
A joke is crazy, bro.
Life is a joke.
(40:29):
I can literally, and I'm notsaying here saying that I don't
have bad days.
We we're human.
Yeah, we have feelings, we allhave bad days.
I could have, and this is I amso serious right now.
I could have a face full oftears right now, and I'm gonna
still crack a joke.
Yeah, yeah.
Life is literally a joke.
When you when you realize not totake everything so seriously, or
take yourself seriously, either.
SPEAKER_00 (40:50):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (40:51):
You know, you're kinder to yourself, you're more
gentle to yourself, you know,you're gentle to those around
you because we're gonna havegood days, we're gonna have bad
days.
But when you don't, when youdon't try to take it and you're
just like controlling, so somuch controlling of everything,
and just let let life flow.
Let it flow.
I promise you'll be ten timeshappier.
SPEAKER_00 (41:11):
Happier, and you probably have more peace.
For sure.
SPEAKER_01 (41:14):
Yeah.
I pray for peace every day.
Yeah.
Feasts.
That's literally all I want.
Yeah.
Peace, happiness, love.
You know?
And when I stop trying to chasecertain things or try to have so
much control in certain areas ofmy life, realized, again, this
is all in God's team.
What's gonna happen is gonnahappen.
(41:36):
Right.
You know?
Just go with the flow with it.
It's gonna happen.
It's gonna get there when it'ssupposed to get there.
Right.
So do you see yourself buildinga team?
For sure.
Good for you.
I do.
Um, I don't know as far as likeemployees.
I don't know if I want that somuch.
I think that's like acollaboration.
Yes, collaborations, um buildinglike a space where people can
(41:59):
still be their own boss, theycan still be entrepreneurs, they
don't have to be under likesomeone's supervision.
I just don't have a thing withlike feeling like I had to um
You don't want to manage people?
No, I don't.
Yeah.
I don't.
I understand.
Because I feel like we're alladults.
Yeah.
I understand.
Like how you want to do it ishow you want to do it.
(42:21):
Again, that goes back to justgoing with the flow of life, you
know.
Right.
Just because I like to run mystuff this way doesn't mean that
they want to run it that way.
Yeah.
And it's like I feel like that'swhere conflict goes, and I don't
want to have control overanother human being.
So if you want to do it thatway, have it.
But I can but I can create asafe space.
You know, we could be under myumbrella of like guidance and
(42:43):
love.
You can you can have that thattrust that you would come to me
and ask me questions, or I canhelp you, or you know, however
way I could, you know, whateveravenue you're going through.
SPEAKER_00 (42:54):
But yeah, kind of for someone that's wants to get
into your industry and you aredynamic.
If I was, you know, younger,wanted to get into your
industry, you know, um beautyindustry and do the permanent um
makeup and the tattoos and thelashes and all the things, I'd
(43:16):
be looking up for you, you know,oh Charlie.
It'd be Charlie, right?
It'd be Charlie.
Yes, Charlie Lux.
I want to get with Charlie Lux.
How can someone get in contactwith you?
And then what can they expect?
Because I'm thinking, you know,someone's dynamic like you, you
don't have a lot of time towait, so I don't.
Yeah.
So how should someone come andapproach you?
(43:37):
Hey, can you be my mentor or mytrainer?
SPEAKER_01 (43:40):
So definitely coming just as just as such.
They can call the shop, um, theycan uh contact me on my social
media platforms.
Um I am in the process rightnow, my page is under
construction.
I'm going to have a mentorshipbutton there where it's going to
be a form that they could fillout um just to be a part of that
program because um this issomething that I'm putting a lot
(44:00):
of time into.
SPEAKER_02 (44:01):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (44:01):
Um I'm really building a community.
Um and it's gonna come withthings.
It's gonna, I'm gonna make surethat's structured properly since
I'm taking my time with it.
Um so yes, they could be on thelookout for that.
Um, it's gonna be on the websiteprobably within the next couple
of months or sure by January 1of 2026.
Um, that will be there wherethey can like fill out a form.
(44:23):
What is what areas do we needhelp with?
Um, are we a beginner?
Are we seasoned?
Um, are we just looking for someguidance?
Are we looking for to like trainunder me?
All of those things.
So um it's definitely going tobe tailored to the person.
That's why I'm spending so muchtime with it.
Um, but for right now, in thenext couple of months, if that's
(44:44):
what they want, they candefinitely uh contact me on
social media or um my businessline.
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So then how do you reset andrecharge?
How do I reset and recharge?
SPEAKER_01 (45:11):
Um because you're always on the go, go, go, go.
Spending time by myself, cuttingthe phone off, cutting the TV
off.
Um generally painting, spendingtime with my loved ones, um,
doing things that are outside ofthe business, doing what makes
(45:32):
me happy.
Like I don't know why the otherday something popped in my head
and I was like, I want to goskating, I'm gonna go buy a pair
of skates and rollerblades, andthis is what I want to do.
Yeah.
And that was a reset andrecharge for me.
Um cooking.
I love cooking.
Um, just doing things that Ilove to do.
That to me, that's a reset andrecharge.
SPEAKER_00 (45:52):
Good for you.
Thank you.
Yeah, good for you.
Wonderful.
So, okay, so you know theaudience, the target market.
What's the last words that youwant to share with them?
Words to uplift.
SPEAKER_01 (46:04):
Be your authentic self always.
Um pray.
Be kind to yourself, be kind toothers.
Um, and just do you, baby.
One of one.
You know?
I love her.
That's why I tattooed one of oneon me.
I had to remind myself.
SPEAKER_00 (46:23):
I love it.
Nobody else is like you.
Right, you're right.
You know I'm gonna start askingcoffee or tea or not?
Neither.
Coffee.
Yes, black or with cream.
With cream, oak milk.
Yes, yeah, oak milk.
Oat milk.
Oh my gosh.
Starbucks or dump dunkin'donuts.
Starbie.
Girl, I knew it.
I knew you were my spiritanimal.
(46:43):
Thank you very much.
SPEAKER_01 (46:44):
Target or Target?
SPEAKER_00 (46:48):
Oh, that is so funny.
I like Target.
Okay, Target.
Yes, period.
Yes.
Thank you so much.
You've been such an inspiration.
Like, seriously, I believethat's um the young community
that we're actually buildinghere, powerful women, is really
wanting to take something awayfrom this.
So thank you so much.
We have something special wewant to give to you.
SPEAKER_01 (47:08):
I love gifts.
SPEAKER_00 (47:09):
Yes.
We usually do this behind thescenes, and I was like, you know
what, we're gonna switch it up.
We're gonna switch it up.
Sydney is cringing.
Okay, Pennsylvania bakery.
Oh, I got my own coffee with emug.
Coffee with e mug and everymonth we have like a coffee
sponsor.
Okay.
So and this month is umPennsylvania Banker Bakery.
And um did you not know?
(47:30):
I didn't know that they madetheir own coffee.
I had no idea.
Zero, zero number.
Wow, yeah.
So it's good.
Yes, oh my goodness.
Yes, a hundred percent.
Can we make some now?
You can we can try to.
We can try to.
And then the mug.
What I would love for you to do,you have to um make sure you
post a picture because I lovelike to share.
(47:50):
We're gonna try to build thisup.
Okay.
So I was talking to our umsocial media manager, okay, and
one of the things we're gonnastart doing is you know, getting
people with the mug.
Yes, with the mug and tagging.
Yes, 100%.
SPEAKER_01 (48:01):
We're gonna have this mugshot.
Um, honey, yeah, because I needmy coffee every day.
I love it, I love it.
Thank you so much.
SPEAKER_00 (48:09):
I appreciate you.
You have some a little bitbehind the scenes.
We would love to hear from you.
She really broke down a lot ofinformation about being my
favorite thing, seriously, isjust being soft.
Yes, yes, be soft, yeah.
Softer, be kinder to yourself.
Be soft on yourself.
Yeah, I love that.
(48:30):
That was really good.
Are we gonna practice thattoday?
We are gonna practice thattoday.
Okay, and whatever you issuelater on.
I'm gonna see Bree's gonna be inthe comments.
I'm gonna make sure of it.
So if you have a commentdirectly for her, let us know.
Okay, and we're building acommunity, so spread this
episode around.
I love nothing more than to seeyou in the comments.
See ya.
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