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June 16, 2022 44 mins

Are you performing or are you being intentional about how you show up?

Throughout our lives, society has been rewarding us for being performative. As a student, you got an award for perfect attendance, and as an employee, you got a raise for working around the clock. It’s not surprising that we bring these habits into our businesses, but it’s time to unlearn these behaviors.

I’m joined by Paula Shepherd to talk about unlearning the need to be performative. We both learned the hard way that trying to be everywhere and do everything will only lead to burnout. We’re sitting down together to talk about how to identify what you need to change, show up more meaningfully, and avoid burnout.

Paula Shepherd is a certified and credentialed business communication coach, leadership mentor, and host of the highly-rated podcast, “The Confidence Sessions.” She helps high-achieving business owners across the globe develop value-driven businesses that scale their impact by simply using their voice. Paula believes that success is simple when you learn to boldly communicate and prioritize powerful, lasting connections.

If you’re ready to unlearn the need to be performative, just tune in.

Show notes are always available at elainelou.com/podcast/20.

Resources Mentioned:

Visit Paula’s Website: https://www.thecourageblueprint.com/ 

Connect with Paula on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/paula.kirbyshepherd/ 

Connect with Paula on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/befearlesswithpaula/ 

Follow @be_fearless_with_paula on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/be_fearless_with_paula/

Get the Authentic Business Design Training Series: 

https://www.thecourageblueprint.com/f/authentic-business-design

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