Why does romance always get the spotlight—and everyone else becomes the understudy?
In this spicy episode, I sit down with the brilliant Adam Fitzgerald to take a sledgehammer to relationship hierarchy—that cultural obsession with putting your romantic partner above all else. We unpack how this model often leads to co-dependency, unrealistic expectations, and emotional burnout.
But here’s the truth: healthy relationships don’t happen in isolation. They need community—the friendships, chosen family, and support systems that queer folks have long known are essential to thriving love and intimacy.
Adam brings a powerful lens to how queer relationships challenge the default and lean into non-hierarchical structures that center freedom, autonomy, and deep connection across many forms.
This one’s for anyone ready to build love that’s grounded, expansive, and rooted in more than just one person.
Because love without the ladder?That’s where the good stuff lives.
Chapters
00:00Happy Pride Month and Intro
02:53Understanding Relationship Hierarchy
07:10Exploring Codependency
10:20The Impact of Codependency on Relationships
12:16Correlation Between Relationship Hierarchy and Codependency
12:46Navigating Loneliness in Relationships
14:12The Importance of Maintaining Individuality
15:29Compassion and Self-Discovery
17:27Understanding Codependency
18:08Queerness and Relationship Structures
21:00Breaking Down Relationship Hierarchies
23:17Exploring Non-Traditional Relationships
27:41The Role of Community in Healthy Relationships
30:52Understanding Healing and Triggers
32:34Navigating Codependency and Interdependence
35:05Building Community Beyond Relationships
39:29Self-Reflection in Relationship Dynamics
40:16Exploring Alternative Relationship Structures
46:45Embracing Queer Joy
47:41Navigating New Queerness
48:20Defining Queer Identity
50:02Coming to Completion AKA Just So We're Queer
52:00Come Again, Come Again, Come Again
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https://www.adamsexcoach.com
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