What does it mean to make an impact - on bodies systems, and culture?
In this episode, Aimee is joined by the brilliant and bold Steph Zapata, a sexual health educator, anti-colonial organizer, and the visionary behind SLAM, a groundbreaking conference centering sex, liberation, and movement work.
We dive into the layered world of impact play - from the physical sensations to the emotional and political power of consensual exchange. Steph shared how her work in sexuality and social justice intertwines, how pleasure can be radical, and why healing doesn't have to be soft to be sacred.
Whether you're in to the sting of the paddle or the spark of revolution - this conversation will leave a mark.
A must-listen for kink lovers, educators, and change makers. From sensation to systems change, this episode hits hard - in the best way.
Episode Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Transformative Sex Education03:06 Radically Intentional Sexuality Education05:13 The Journey into Sexuality Education07:27 Exploring Kink and Dom/Sub Dynamics09:46 Reframing Shame and Embracing Play12:19 Understanding Impact Play14:34 Communication and Consent in Impact Play16:58 Instruments of Impact Play19:24 Safety and Considerations in Impact Play21:41 Choosing Kink Partners24:44 Exploring Play Parties and Safety25:52 The Birth of SLAM: A New Movement28:04 Anti-colonial Sex Education31:38 Reimagining Pleasure and Sexual Liberation34:20 The Upcoming SLAM Conference38:23 Coming to Completion43:48 Closing Thoughts on Pleasure and Communication46:13 Come Again, and Again, and Again
Connect with Steph
https://www.instagram.com/risewsteph
https://www.stephaniespeakshere.com/
https://www.tiktok.com/discover/rise-w-steph
Explore the SLAM Conference
https://www.stephaniespeakshere.com/theslamcon
https://www.stephaniespeakshere.com/event-details/s-l-a-m-presents-sex-ed-vs-project-2025
Grab Tickets toThe Pleasure Lab: Where Women Explore and Elevate Desire (May 17th, NYC)
https://posh.vip/e/the-pleasure-lab
Connect with Come Talk with Aimee
https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com
https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimee/
https://www.youtube.com/@ComeTalkwithAimee
https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimee
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