Before the heat, there has to be safety—and sometimes, pleasure is the pathway.
In this episode, somatic sex coach Meryl Victoria joins Aimee to explore the powerful link between the nervous system and intimacy. From polyvagal theory to embodied arousal, we’re flipping the script on what turns you on.
We dive into:
How nervous system regulation sets the stage for deeper connection
Why some bodies shut down—and how to invite them back online
Using sex as a tool for nervous system regulation
Somatic practices to shift from freeze to flow
Whether you’re craving more connection or curious about why you feel “off” in the bedroom, this episode is your roadmap. Because regulation is the real foreplay—and sometimes, pleasure is the medicine.
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Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Polyvagal Theory
01:00 Understanding the Nervous System States
01:41 The Impact of Trauma on Sexuality
04:20 Exploring Co-Regulation and Connection
06:42 Rewiring the Nervous System for Pleasure
07:41 Navigating Consent and Safety
09:38 Practical Tools for Nervous System Regulation
21:30 Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS) in Therapy
22:51 Supporting Partners with Trauma Histories
25:12 The Importance of Relationship Check-Ins
29:16 The Role of Aftercare in Intimacy
30:52 Navigating Communication in Relationships
32:40 Exploring Erotic Styles and Nervous System Regulation
37:18 Coming to Completion
Connect with Meryl Victoria
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https://substack.com/@verymeryl
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