Regulation: The Real Foreplay

Before the heat, there has to be safety—and sometimes, pleasure is the pathway.

In this episode, somatic sex coach Meryl Victoria joins Aimee to explore the powerful link between the nervous system and intimacy. From polyvagal theory to embodied arousal, we’re flipping the script on what turns you on.

We dive into:

• How nervous system regulation sets the stage for deeper connection

• Why some bodies shut down—and how to invite them back online

• Using sex as a tool for nervous system regulation

• Somatic practices to shift from freeze to flow

  
  

Whether you’re craving more connection or curious about why you feel “off” in the bedroom, this episode is your roadmap. Because regulation is the real foreplay—and sometimes, pleasure is the medicine.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Polyvagal Theory

01:00 Understanding the Nervous System States

01:41 The Impact of Trauma on Sexuality

04:20 Exploring Co-Regulation and Connection

06:42 Rewiring the Nervous System for Pleasure

07:41 Navigating Consent and Safety

09:38 Practical Tools for Nervous System Regulation

21:30 Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS) in Therapy

22:51 Supporting Partners with Trauma Histories

25:12 The Importance of Relationship Check-Ins

29:16 The Role of Aftercare in Intimacy

30:52 Navigating Communication in Relationships

32:40 Exploring Erotic Styles and Nervous System Regulation

37:18 Coming to Completion

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