"When Did I Stop Feeling Like Me?" The Disconnection Epidemic Fueling Your Lost Purpose

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If you’ve ever caught yourself staring in the mirror and thinking, "When did I stop feeling like me?"—this episode explains exactly why.

Burnout and compassion fatigue in women over 50 aren’t caused by doing too much. They are caused by disconnection—from your body, your relationships, and your purpose. This is the piece no one talks about, and it is the hidden engine keeping you exhausted, overwhelmed, and running on survival mode for years. You aren't just tired; you are experiencing losing myself in real-time. This profound severing creates a void that no amount of sleep can fill, fueling deep resentment and a sense of being invisible in your own life.

In this diagnostic episode, Dr. Juls reveals why rest hasn't been enough and why your spark feels harder to access the older you get. You will learn the science behind this epidemic and how to break the cycle through reconnection, not more effort. Discover:

• The Neuroscience of Disconnection: How Polyvagal Theory explains why ignoring internal cues pushes you into chronic anxiety and dysregulation (and why midlife women are most at risk).
• The Invisible Load: Why healers carry double the emotional weight, leading to a values-purpose mismatch you can't outwork or out-organize.
• The 60-Second Reconnect: A simple, chakra-centered grounding practice (Root, Heart, Solar Plexus) to regulate your mental health, restore reciprocity, and reconnect you to the version of yourself you miss.

You aren't broken; you are just unplugged. Press play to stop the drift and reconnect to your authenticity.

This podcast supports women healers over 50 navigating burnout, compassion fatigue, and midlife transitions with strategies for nervous system regulation, trauma-informed boundaries, and chakra alignment to heal resentment and self-neglect while cultivating soul joy, radiance, and a purposeful next chapter of freedom and inner peace.

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Episode Transcript

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Have you ever looked at yourlife and thought, wait, when did
I stop feeling like B?
Because here's the truth,burnout and compassion fatigue
don't start with exhaustion.
They start with disconnection.
Today you're going to walk awaywith two things that actually

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move the needle.
A research back.
Understanding of whydisconnection in the body,
relationships and purpose is thereal root of burnout and
compassion fatigue in women.
Healers over 50 and y'all, asimple chakra center of
reconnection practice you canuse today to reset your system

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and start feeling like youbeneath the stress again.
Empowering brilliant women inhealthcare over 50 to transform
burnout and compassion fatigueinto renewed passion.
Reigniting your spark to createa life that energizes you every

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single day.
I'm your host, Dr.
Jules.
Let's get to it.
I want to start with what I callthe floating head syndrome
Women.
Healers over 50 are some of themost brilliant minds on the
planet, but our culture trainedus to live from the neck up

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thinking, fixing, helping,planning, with zero awareness of
what our bodies have been tryingto tell us for decades.
Dr.
Steven Boor, POEs worked.
His work with the polyvagaltheory shows that when we
disconnect from our own signals,hunger, fatigue, pleasure,

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boundaries, intuition, thenervous system slips into
chronic survival mode without useven realizing it.
And here's the kicker.
When your system stays insympathetic activation too long,
the research shows cortisolstops being a helper and starts

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being a hazard.
Long to long term cortisoldysregulation predicts burnout
more than workload ever has.
Y'all, even your chakras agreeyour root chakra that governs
safety and groundedness, that'simportant.

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And though that starts from yoursits bones all the way down to
your tippy toes, when women tellme I can't feel my feet on the
floor, it's a big hint.
Or they might say, I can't slowdown.
Yeah.
That is root chakra depletion.
And yes, sometimes the onlygrounding we're doing is through

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coffee and sheer determination,which is clinically speaking,
not grounding strategy.
This one hits home for almostevery woman healer I know you
are surrounded by people,clients, patients, colleagues,
family, yet not one singleperson.

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Is pouring back into you at thelevel you pour into them.
Dr.
Arley Hus, child's emotionallabor research found that women,
especially women in caregivingprofessions, perform twice the
invisible labor of their malepeers twice and in midlife, that

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road increases.
But here's the silent grief Isee in my clients.
They don't have reci, reci,reciprocity.
They have responsibility.
You know, that leads tocompassion fatigue.

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Not because you don't care, butbecause you've been caring so
long, so long.
So we'll have a quick humorbreak, just an announcement in
case y'all don't recognize it.
For the humor it is.
But if I had a dollar for everywoman healer who told me I'm
surrounded by people, but I feellike the teen emotional support

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puppy, I would have to retire toa beach with a margarita.
Ago, meaning I've heard a lot,maybe that joke didn't land, but
I've heard a lot.
The connection isn't optionalfor your nervous system, y'all.

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It's medicine.
You've got to connect.
This is why your heart chakragets so depleted.
Not because you can't love, butbecause there's no one pouring
back into you with the samedepth tenderness and attunement
you give to others.

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Now, I wanna go a little deeper.
Burnout in women over 50 is notgarden variety.
It's identity burnout.
Dr.
C, Dr.
Christine Mash probablyslaughtered her name.
Research shows the heaviestpredictor of burnout is not
workload, but mismatched betweenvalues and the lived reality of

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your work.
And for women over 50, this mismismatch grows.
As your body changes, your lifepriorities shift and your
tolerance for nonsense plummetspurpose becomes tangled with per

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performance perfection, peoplepleasing, professional identity,
and your solar plexus chakra.
That's the center of yourpersonal power and identity.
Girl, it takes a hit.
I hear it over and over.
I don't know who I am if I'm nothelping someone.

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I live my whole life as thedependable one.
I've lost the spark that used tofeel like mine.
This is the soul leveldisconnection that leads to the
exhaustion you can't fix for theweekend off.
Here's a 62nd reset you can dotoday.

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Right here, right now, I call itthe three point reconnection
root heart solar plexus.
So with the root, you sit orstand and you feel your feet.
I mean, you really put yourmind's eye in your feet.
Feel it.
And you say out loud, I am here.

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I am supported.
Wake up that amygdala.
Make it true for your heartchakra.
I want you to place your hand onyour chest, slow your breath and
say, I deserve reciprocal care.
Now, may take a hot minute tobelieve that, but you do.

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We can go to a whole spielabout.
How helpers have a hard timereceiving.
But if this is a start, hands onchest, then your solar plexus,
place your hand on your upperabdomen and say, my worth is not
tied to my output.
My purpose is alive in me.

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See, your nervous system willrespond immediately because
connection is safety.
You're trying to reconnect withyou so you can then reconnect
with others.
Okay, so that was fast, buthere's what you learned today.
Disconnection is the real rootof burnout and compassion

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fatigue.
It's not workload, althoughworkload plays in, but you've
got to look at thatdisconnection piece.
You learned how the nervoussystem, emotional labor research
and chakra depletion all explainwhy women healers over 50
burnout differently.

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You learned a simple, powerfulchakra center of reconnection
practice.
Take 60 seconds to help yourecenter your body relationships
and purpose today without addinga thing to your plate.
Remember this, you're not burnedout because you're broken.

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You're experiencing burnout,compassion, fatigue because
you've been disconnected fromyourself for too long.
Reconnection is possible, and itstarts with small, embodied
moments like this.
So y'all, if this resonated withyou, don't skip the show notes.

(09:35):
Take the watch, your burnout andcompassion fatigue archetype
quiz.
It's brand new that I've droppedinto the show notes.
It's my most accurate assessmentyet, it will tell you exactly
which form of disconnectionyou've been living in and what
to do to move toward radiance.

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You deserve.
Deserve a life that energizesyou.
So let's rebuild this together.
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And girl, if you know anotherwoman healer who's running on
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