Have you always prided yourself on being the one who "handles it well" while everyone else falls apart? You are the rock in a crisis, the calm in the storm, and the one who can endure impossible workloads without complaining. But what if that incredible capacity to endure isn't resilience? What if it is actually a sign that your nervous system is stuck in a permanent state of survival?
For women healers over 50, high stress tolerance is often worn as a badge of honor. However, physiologically and energetically, it is often a symptom of a blocked Root Chakra and a dysregulated nervous system. You aren't "handling it" because you are calm; you are handling it because you have dissociated from your own need for safety. When you normalize chaos, peace feels boring or even dangerous. This isn't strength; it is a trauma response that is slowly eroding your health and your joy.
In this episode, Dr. Julie Merriman dismantles the myth of the "Strong Woman." You will learn the critical difference between true resilience and traumatic endurance. We explore the neuroscience of safety and how to use Root Chakra grounding techniques to convince your body that the war is over. You will discover how to lower your threshold for stress so you can finally stop surviving your life and start actually feeling it.
Stop wearing your exhaustion as a badge of honor. Press play to learn how to rebuild your foundation of safety and heal your Root Chakra.
This podcast supports women healers over 50 navigating burnout, compassion fatigue, and midlife transitions with strategies for nervous system regulation, trauma-informed boundaries, and chakra alignment to heal resentment and self-neglect while cultivating soul joy, radiance, and a purposeful next chapter of freedom and inner peace.
👇Am I Burned Out Or Just Tired™:
Take the 60-second Burnout Assessment for Healers
✓ Find out if it's Burnout, Compassion Fatigue, or Exhaustion
✓ Get your personalized recovery plan
✓ Takes 60 seconds. Completely private
Episodes drop every Tuesday at 5am and every Friday at noon.
Special guest episodes drop the 4th Thursday of every month at 7am.
Episode Transcript
Welcome to the 12 Days ofRadiance Reset.
Y'all know all about the 12 daysof Christmas here at Compassion
Fatigue Cure.
We are doing the 12 days ofRadiance Reset.
Over the next 12 days, we'reditching the holiday overwhelm
to take you from exhausted totrapped, to take you from
(00:24):
exhausted and trapped to radiantand free.
This is your end of yearreclamation.
So you show up to the clinic,you save lives, you smile at
your patients.
Everyone thinks you are asuperhero, but inside you're
(00:48):
screaming.
Today we rip off the mask ofhigh functioning burnout.
Empowering brilliant women inhealthcare over 50 to transform
burnout and compassion fatigueinto renewed passion.
(01:09):
Reigniting your spark to createa life that energizes you every
single day.
I'm your host, Dr.
Jules.
Let's get to it.
Here's the truth.
You are not just tired.
You are in a state of energeticdepletion that sleep.
(01:30):
It's not gonna fix.
I need you to listen to thispodcast until the very last
second for three criticalreasons.
One, I'm going to prove to youthat your high achievement is
actually a trauma response thatis keeping you stuck.
Two.
(01:51):
We are going to look at theneuroscience of why your brain
perceives rest as danger,causing that anxiety you feel
the moment you sit down.
Three.
I'm going to give you a 62ndnervous system hack that will
stop the cortisol dumpinstantly.
(02:14):
Okay, let's do it.
Let's start with the research.
I wanna discuss the concept ofhigh functioning depression,
burnout, the research.
Shows how women over 50 inhealthcare often have elevated
(02:37):
cortisol levels that mimic thefight or flight.
Even when you're safe, y'all,that's when the helpers high has
worn off and it leaves usfeeling exhausted and full of
resentment.
So the chakra that we can focuson for this would be the root
(03:00):
chakra, and for this to helpwith that exhaustion and that
resentment.
So when you are in highfunctioning burnout, your root
chakra is blocked, so you're notgonna feel safe unless you're
doing.
You feel ungrounded and you feellike you're just floating in
(03:22):
anxiety.
It's just awful.
So, to get you past this, Iwanna teach you the grounding
cord.
I want you to do this with meright now.
I know you might be driving orcleaning, so don't close your
eyes, but imagine a thick.
(03:43):
Red cord extending from yourtailbone, going deep into the
center of the earth.
Visualize all that overwhelm allthe patient client trauma that
you've absorbed today over theweek, draining down into that
(04:06):
cord.
And you send all of that to theearth to be composted.
Feel the gravity holding you.
You are safe, you are held.
So what did we learn?
We learned that lookingsuccessful doesn't mean you feel
(04:29):
joy.
We learned that your root chakraneeds safety, not more work.
And y'all, we learned that youcan ground yourself in just 60
seconds before you go.
You need to take my, what's yourburnout, compassion fatigue,
(04:53):
archetype quiz.
The link is in the show notes.
Go take it right now tounderstand your specific healing
path.
Remember y'all, we risetogether.
If this episode hit home, don'tjust nod and move on.
(05:15):
Give yourself what you actuallyneed.
Tap the show notes right now tograb your free Compassion
Fatigue Cure Starter Guide, or.
The burnout to Radiance Reset.
And girl, if you know anotherwoman healer who's running on
(05:35):
empty, please share thisepisode.
Popular Podcasts
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com
The Burden
The Burden is a documentary series that takes listeners into the hidden places where justice is done (and undone). It dives deep into the lives of heroes and villains. And it focuses a spotlight on those who triumph even when the odds are against them. Season 5 - The Burden: Death & Deceit in Alliance On April Fools Day 1999, 26-year-old Yvonne Layne was found murdered in her Alliance, Ohio home. David Thorne, her ex-boyfriend and father of one of her children, was instantly a suspect. Another young man admitted to the murder, and David breathed a sigh of relief, until the confessed murderer fingered David; “He paid me to do it.” David was sentenced to life without parole. Two decades later, Pulitzer winner and podcast host, Maggie Freleng (Bone Valley Season 3: Graves County, Wrongful Conviction, Suave) launched a “live” investigation into David's conviction alongside Jason Baldwin (himself wrongfully convicted as a member of the West Memphis Three). Maggie had come to believe that the entire investigation of David was botched by the tiny local police department, or worse, covered up the real killer. Was Maggie correct? Was David’s claim of innocence credible? In Death and Deceit in Alliance, Maggie recounts the case that launched her career, and ultimately, “broke” her.” The results will shock the listener and reduce Maggie to tears and self-doubt. This is not your typical wrongful conviction story. In fact, it turns the genre on its head. It asks the question: What if our champions are foolish? Season 4 - The Burden: Get the Money and Run “Trying to murder my father, this was the thing that put me on the path.” That’s Joe Loya and that path was bank robbery. Bank, bank, bank, bank, bank. In season 4 of The Burden: Get the Money and Run, we hear from Joe who was once the most prolific bank robber in Southern California, and beyond. He used disguises, body doubles, proxies. He leaped over counters, grabbed the money and ran. Even as the FBI was closing in. It was a showdown between a daring bank robber, and a patient FBI agent. Joe was no ordinary bank robber. He was bright, articulate, charismatic, and driven by a dark rage that he summoned up at will. In seven episodes, Joe tells all: the what, the how… and the why. Including why he tried to murder his father. Season 3 - The Burden: Avenger Miriam Lewin is one of Argentina’s leading journalists today. At 19 years old, she was kidnapped off the streets of Buenos Aires for her political activism and thrown into a concentration camp. Thousands of her fellow inmates were executed, tossed alive from a cargo plane into the ocean. Miriam, along with a handful of others, will survive the camp. Then as a journalist, she will wage a decades long campaign to bring her tormentors to justice. Avenger is about one woman’s triumphant battle against unbelievable odds to survive torture, claim justice for the crimes done against her and others like her, and change the future of her country. Season 2 - The Burden: Empire on Blood Empire on Blood is set in the Bronx, NY, in the early 90s, when two young drug dealers ruled an intersection known as “The Corner on Blood.” The boss, Calvin Buari, lived large. He and a protege swore they would build an empire on blood. Then the relationship frayed and the protege accused Calvin of a double homicide which he claimed he didn’t do. But did he? Award-winning journalist Steve Fishman spent seven years to answer that question. This is the story of one man’s last chance to overturn his life sentence. He may prevail, but someone’s gotta pay. The Burden: Empire on Blood is the director’s cut of the true crime classic which reached #1 on the charts when it was first released half a dozen years ago. Season 1 - The Burden In the 1990s, Detective Louis N. Scarcella was legendary. In a city overrun by violent crime, he cracked the toughest cases and put away the worst criminals. “The Hulk” was his nickname. Then the story changed. Scarcella ran into a group of convicted murderers who all say they are innocent. They turned themselves into jailhouse-lawyers and in prison founded a lway firm. When they realized Scarcella helped put many of them away, they set their sights on taking him down. And with the help of a NY Times reporter they have a chance. For years, Scarcella insisted he did nothing wrong. But that’s all he’d say. Until we tracked Scarcella to a sauna in a Russian bathhouse, where he started to talk..and talk and talk. “The guilty have gone free,” he whispered. And then agreed to take us into the belly of the beast. Welcome to The Burden.