Do you feel a sudden, white-hot rage when someone asks you to do something you used to say "yes" to with a smile?
Society tells you that menopause is the end—the drying up, the fading away. Biology tells a different story. Biology says you are waking up. As the "caregiving hormone" (Estrogen) leaves your system, the veil lifts. You aren't becoming "difficult" or "bitter." You are entering your Truth Serum Era. The hot flashes and the intolerance for drama aren't symptoms of a breakdown; they are the fire of your transformation into the Wise Woman.
In Day 8 of the Radiance Reset, Dr. Julie reframes "The Change" as a Coronation. Discover the neuroscience of why your brain is rewiring to prioritize Truth over Pleasing, how to use the "Cold Water Reset" to hack your Vagus Nerve when the heat gets too high, and why your Second Act is about to be your most powerful chapter yet.
You are not old; you are a Queen crowning herself. Press play to stop fighting your body and start wielding your new power.
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Episode Transcript
Welcome to the 12 days ofRadiance Reset.
We are ditching the holidayoverwhelmed to take you from
exhausted and trapped to radiantand free.
This is your end of yearreconnection.
Society tells you that menopauseis the end, drying up the fading
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away.
Biology tells a different story.
Biology says you are waking up.
This isn't a crisis.
It is your power awakening.
Empowering brilliant women inhealthcare over 50 to transform
burnout and compassion fatigueinto renewed passion.
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Reigniting your spark to createa life that energizes you every
single day.
I'm your host, Dr.
Jules.
Let's get to it.
Today we are reframing thechange.
You need to listen until the endof this episode because I'm
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going to share the neuroscienceof why your brain changes in
menopause to prioritize truth.
Over pleasing.
You aren't crazy.
You are just done lying.
We are working with the vagusnerve, the hot flashes, the
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sudden anxiety.
That is the nervous systemdysregulation, and I have a hack
to cool it down instantly, andI'm giving you the second spring
affirmation.
We are shifting your mindsetfrom.
Aging to reinvention.
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So let's get to the science.
Dr.
Christine Northrop talks aboutthe wisdom years.
Here is what is happeningbiologically.
Your reproductive years in yourreproductive years, your brain
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is marinated in estrogen.
Estrogen is the caretakinghormone.
It makes you want to nurture tosmooth things over, you know, to
connect.
But in menopause, the veillifts, the estrogen drops, and
suddenly you see things.
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Clearly.
You see the inequality at work.
You see the imbalance in yourmarriage.
This can feel like rage.
It can feel like conflict, but Iwant you to reframe it.
It is actually alignment.
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You are biologically wired nowto speak your truth.
Now, let's talk about thephysical toll.
Menopause stresses your nervoussystem.
Your window of tolerance shrinksthings that didn't bother you
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five years ago now make you wantto scream.
We need to widen that window.
We need to stimulate the vagusnerve to tell your body you are
safe in this new version.
So here is the tool.
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It's the cold water reset.
Next time you feel heat rising,whether it's a hot flash or a
flash of anger, I want you to goto the bathroom, turn the tap to
freezing cold, splash your face,or run that cold water over the
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insides of your wrists for 30seconds.
This shocks the vagus nerve intoresetting.
It engages the dive reflex, soit lowers your heart rate.
It cools the hot flash and itbrings you back to the present
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moment.
You are not old.
You are a queen.
Crowning herself.
You're a queen ager.
This is your second act, so Ineed you to go take my quiz.
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What?
Your burnout, compassionfatigue, archetype.
It's linked right there in theshow notes.
Take it right now.
This is gonna help you claimyour crown.
We rise together.
If this episode hit home, don'tjust nod and move on.
Give yourself what you actuallyneed.
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Tap the show notes right now tograb your free Compassion
Fatigue Cure Starter Guide, or.
The burnout to Radiance Reset.
And girl, if you know anotherwoman healer who's running on
empty, please share thisepisode.
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